Intro: Why the First Thrust Is So Important

The very first thrust—whether with your fingers or your penis—sets the tone for everything that follows. It’s the moment she is most vulnerable, and the instant her body and subconscious mind decide whether to open fully to you… or to close forever.

Biology has made this moment decisive. During penetration, her body is flooded with signals—nerves, hormones, and instinct. Research shows that when women experience pain or discomfort during initial penetration, their body produces cortisol (a stress hormone) instead of oxytocin (the bonding hormone). Oxytocin deepens trust, intimacy, and attraction, while cortisol builds tension and resistance. That means your very first thrust determines if she’ll crave more—or quietly retreat.

Evolutionary biology also explains why. Across time, women developed powerful subconscious filters to decide whether a man is safe, attentive, and skilled. The first thrust is her body’s “test.” Done right, it creates arousal, trust, and memory. Done wrong, it triggers her survival response and closes the door.

This article will show you how to master that first thrust—so her body and mind both say yes to you.

She Feels Everything

The vagina isn’t just lubricated during arousal—it becomes hypersensitive. The mucosal tissue lining her vagina is delicate, permeable, and filled with nerve endings. As blood flow increases, her tissue swells, her nerves awaken, and her body becomes exquisitely sensitive to touch.

That means she notices everything:

The smoothness (or sharpness) of your nails
The warmth (or coldness) of your hands
The gentleness (or harshness) of your entry

One mistake here—a scratch, dryness, or sudden pain—and her arousal drops. Once her body tenses, it is almost impossible to bring her fully back.

That’s why I teach exact hand prep and technique inside Double Fingering Delight, with Jade and Karla.

Why It’s Better to Start with Fingering

Fingering is the safest, most effective way to begin penetration. Here’s why:

Precision: Your fingers can explore more delicately than your penis, adjusting pressure and depth instantly.
Gentleness: One finger is smaller than your penis, allowing her to relax and expand without discomfort.
Arousal Building: Fingering lets her become fully wet before deeper penetration. Entering too soon with your penis can feel forced if she isn’t lubricated or her vagina isn’t fully expanded.

Simply put: the finger is the perfect first thrust. It prepares her body—and her trust—for everything that follows.

How to Do It Properly
Begin with foreplay. Kiss her deeply, touch her thighs, stimulate her clitoris until she’s wet.
Enter with just the tip of one finger. Tease her. Make her body ache for more.
Go deep suddenly—at the right moment. When she’s swollen and wet, surprise her by sliding one finger fully inside.
Stimulate her G-spot. Curl your finger slightly upward, massaging her front wall in rhythm.
Engage your whole body. Kiss her, whisper to her, and with your other hand, play with her breasts.

At this stage, stay with one finger. Build trust. Build tension. Build lust. Soon, you’ll feel her body begging—hips pushing, breath quickening—for the next step: your penis.

Inside Double Fingering Delight, I demonstrate how to use these steps to bring a woman to the edge with just your hands.

Don’t Be Like Joe

One of my students, Joe, learned this lesson the hard way. After four exciting dates with a woman he adored, he finally had her in his bed. She was ready. She was nervous. She was waiting for him to lead.

But instead of starting with his fingers, Joe went straight for his penis. She wasn’t fully wet. Her body wasn’t ready. That first thrust was painful for her—and awkward for both of them. She pulled away, the mood collapsed, and she never texted him again.

Joe’s mistake was simple but fatal: he didn’t understand the power of the first thrust. He thought penetration was the finale, when in truth, it’s the opening note. And if you play it wrong, the whole song is ruined.

Do the First Thrust Properly—With Your Fingers

Fingering isn’t just preparation. It is sex. Done right, it gives her orgasms she may never have experienced before—and it builds her craving for your penis until she can’t take it anymore.

Master the first thrust with your fingers, and you’ll be unforgettable.

Click here to watch Double Fingering Delight and learn how to make her crave more from the very first touch.

Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U

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