You have probably heard a lot of hype about how you need to make your sex life more exciting, reignite the passion, change things up, break out of the sexual routine, get out of that rut, or a million of ways of telling you that you need to make big changes in your sexual relationship. The message is crystal clear, but the big question is HOW does one start to make positive changes in their sexual relationships? There are many things you can do. One way is to add a little bit of naughty, kinky sex to your routine. Check out these ideas to get the creative juices flowing:

1. Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and try a new sex position every night for one week.

2. Use your nails in bed. Scratch each other lightly and they play with the amount of pressure you use and the different areas you scratch.

3. Go skinny dipping. Do it in public to add extra excitement. Take it up an extra notch and invite some friends to come along.

4. Role play a sexy scenario pretending to be people in your everyday lives. A few examples could be: your boss and his/her assistant, your neighbors, your best friends, or any other couple that is sexy to imagine imitating.

5. Go to a club and start dirty dancing on the dance floor.

6. Have loud sex in the middle of the day with the windows wide open.

7. Watch each other masturbate.

8. Have video chat sex or phone sex.

9. Get a room at a one hour hotel. Get a room with a lot of mirrors so you can watch yourselves have sex.

10. Have sex in the middle of the day on the kitchen table.

11. Go camping and have sex outside on a blanket under the stars (totally naked!).

12. Make a tray of sexy food to bring into the bedroom with you. Feed each other and place the food in special areas for your partner to eat off of you.

13. Give or receive oral sex in your car.

14. Go to a bar where no one knows you (pick a place a few towns over) and make out and grope each other in the booth in the corner.

15. Bathe the other person, taking time to carefully and slowly lather up and wash each part of her body. Then change it up and have the other person do the washing.

16. Make out in the bathroom or bedroom of someone you know (it can’t be in your own home).

17. Act out a porn movie as you watch it together.

18. Connect your video camera to the TV and have sex while watching yourself on the big screen (pro-tip: with many cameras you don’t even have to record if you don’t want to. Your image will appear on the screen and you can just enjoy it in the moment. If you do decide to hit record, guard the video with your life and make an agreement about what you will do with it.).

19. Go on a hot date with another couple and make out with your partner in front of them while they do the same. If you’re feeling VERY kinky you can even do more than this. Keep in mind, both your partner and the other couple have to be up for this and make sure the rules are crystal clear before getting started.

20. Visit a sex club and have sex there for all to see.

21. Practice role reversal and pretend you are your partner and vice versa!

22. Do some light spanking.

23. Make a pact with your partner that you will sleep in the nude every night for an entire month. I guarantee you will be having more sex by the end of it.

24. You or your partner pretends to be a virgin who is having sex for the very first time.

25. Take turns tying each other up.

26. Have sex while one person pretends not to want to. A good way to be careful not to overstep anyone’s comfort zone here is to have a safe word that you use when one person wants to stop the fantasy role play. Since “no” can often not mean “no” in this fantasy, you use this word or phrase to let the person know that you want to stop.

27. Use sex toys. Have your partner pick out a toy she wants to use in the bedroom and surprise you with it.

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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When it comes to sex, we tend to do the same moves over and over again. They have worked well to get our partners turned on in the past, so why change what isn’t broken? Well, there is a very good reason why you should be changing things up. You need to keep things interesting and different in order to keep your sex life exciting and satisfying for both you and your partner. There are many amazing sex moves that for some reason we only use every once in awhile, when we should be incorporating them into our regular routine. If you have a lot of different moves in your sexual tool belt, it’s a lot less likely that either one of you will ever be bored.

Here are the top moves you need to incorporate in order to keep her interested:

1. Making out

This is something you probably did with your partner a lot when you first met. Most couple spend a lot of time kissing at first but then at some point they stop doing it so much. It’s a shame because kissing does a lot of wonderful things for a couple. It increases the release of the love hormone, oxytocin, which increases intimacy and loving feelings. It’s a huge turn on for most people, especially women. So, bottom line, don’t skip out on the kissing. Kiss her during foreplay. Kiss her passionately right before you both leave for work that day and leave her with something to fantasize about all day.

2. Oral Sex

The simple fact of the matter is that men don’t give enough oral sex. Oral sex can be a fantastic way to get things going during foreplay, but it feels so darn good that you should probably just finish what you started down there. Even if you’re just trying to get her warmed up for vaginal sex, remember that a big percentage of women don’t orgasms from penetrative sex. The best thing you can do is let her finish. Give her an amazing orgasm through oral sex and you’ll leave her tingling and wet for round 2.

3. Missionary sex

Missionary often gets a bad rep because there is so much emphasis on different sexual positions out there, but missionary is one of the best underrated sex moves out there. Intimacy between you and your partner is at an all time high with this position. Your bodies are pressed up against each other, you can look into each other’s eyes and kiss passionately. Not to mention the fact that this position naturally provides great clitoral stimulation. There is a reason why it is the standard position. Don’t overlook this one next time you’re having sex.

4. Use your hands

TOUCH her. Some guys get so caught up in the amazing stimulation of sex on their genitals that they forget to touch their partners a lot. Run your hands through her hair, run them over her body and let her know that you just can’t keep your hands to yourself. This feels amazing for her and it also sends a clear message that you really love touching her and that her body turns you on, which is a great ego boost for her as well.

5. Speaking of hands…

Another move that you need to do more often is make her orgasm using only your hand. This is a great way to learn about how she likes being touched down there without the distraction of other sex organs getting in the way. You will learn the speed, type of touch and pressure that your partner loves. Plus, just like oral sex, it will leave her feeling amazing and she will be all wet and warmed up for sex afterward. Or you can just satisfy her, give her a big kiss, say goodnight and roll over. She will be so floored and thrilled with your giving attitude that I’m sure she will thinking of ways to thank you the whole next day!

6. Just the tip

The entrance of the vagina is full of wonderful nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated. That’s why it feels especially great when a man penetrates a woman and then pulls out completely and then penetrates her again. This gives her that amazing sensation of having those nerve endings stimulated over and over again. Speed isn’t important here, so don’t feel the need to go at it like a jack rabbit. Slow and steady wins the race.

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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Who says sex has to be serious all the time? In fact, one of the best ways to make sex even better is to make it fun. Because sex can be such a sensitive topic, most people take it way too seriously. If anything ever goes “wrong,” a lot of people just get really embarrassed and never talk about things, instead of just laughing off an awkward situation. What if you just decided to make sex into a fun, relaxing, enjoyable activity? After all, that IS what sex is. Fun!

One way to make sex fun with you and your partner is to play a sex game. I’ve talked about these kinds of games before because I’m a big fan of them. Not only are they a great way to lighten things up in your relationship, laugh, and get really turned on in the process, but they can also be an awesome way to learn about the likes, dislikes and secret fantasies of your partner. A lot of things can be too embarrassing to talk directly about, but during a sex game all kinds of information about your partner is relieved that you might never have learned about if you hadn’t started to play.

One of my favorite sex games to play is “would you rather?” This is a fun game because it’s not necessarily a sex game, therefore, you can start playing pretty innocently with your partner and then really turn things up by starting to throw in some sexual questions. Before you know it, you’ve learned about some new hidden desire your partner has and the two of you are seriously turned on! Here are some sample questions to give you an idea of how the game works and what kinds of questions would be good to ask.

This game can be played anyway, although I recommend playing it when you know you will be alone together soon. For example, you can start the fun out at dinner on your next date night, continue the fun in the car, and then finish it off in bed together. The rules are simple: Ask your partner “would you rather” do one sexual thing or another. Here’s some ideas to get started:

1. Would you rather expose yourself while undressing to a sexy neighbor or passerby (exhibitionist) or catch a peep at that sexy neighbor undressing in his/her home (voyeur)?

2. Wowatch a pornagraphic video together or read an erotic story outloud while we touch ourselves?

3. Would you rather make a sex tape or pose for a sexy photo shoot?

4. Would you rather have sex first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day or at night before bed?

5. If I had to have sex with another person, would you rather it was someone that you know or a complete stranger?

6. If you had to have sex with another person, would you rather it was someone that you know or a complete stranger?

7. Would you rather have sex in a public (but secluded) place with a lot of people around, like a public restroom, or in the middle of the wilderness, but in the complete wide open outdoors?

8. If you HAD to have a threesome, would you rather do it with another man or a woman?

9. Would you rather have sex with me in your parent’s bed or in a one hour sex motel?

10. Would you rather go to a nude beach for the afternoon or have loud sex at home in the middle of the day with all the windows wide open?

11. Would you rather visit a swingers club or spend the weekend at a nudist colony?

12. Would you rather that we weren’t allowed to have sex for one full year or that I have to have sex with 3 other people, but we can have sex again after I have done so?

13. Would you rather be able to live as the opposite sex for a day or be invisible and be able to go wherever you wanted? What would you do for the day?

14. Would you rather an amazing oral sex orgasm or an amazing vaginal sex orgasm?

15. Would you rather get kinky or have slow, sensual and romantic sex?

16. Would you rather touch each other under the table at a restaurant or in a crowded movie theater?

17. If you were single, would you rather be with a monogamous, but casual, sex partner or several different people at once?

18. If you had an absolutely amazing first date with someone, would you rather end the night with a kiss or in bed together?

19. Would you rather get a massage from a sexy person who brush up a little too close to your private parts or get a hot lap dance in front of a club full of people?

20. Would you rather reveal a secret fantasy to me or act it out without me ever finding out about it?

Feel free to use these sexy questions to get you and your partner warmed up, and then ask some of your own questions to really make things interesting!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“I know a man who gave up smoking, drinking, sex, and rich food. He was healthy right up to the day he killed himself” – Johnny Carson

You’ve got the anatomy bit nailed, but biology can’t answer the really important sex questions – like where to start when looking for a sex toy or how to make sure your partner orgasms every time. I can: here’s practical advice on everything sex-related.

We go to classes to get fitter, watch TED Talks to get smarter, negotiate our salaries to get richer. Great sex is expected to jus… happen. By magic. Film and porn present sex as simple and effortlessly obtained, with everyone having vast quantities of orgasmic partnered sex. The rest of us wonder where we fit in if we are not experiencing it like that.

We need to become more committed to learning about our pleasure, and abolish the idea that speaking about sex – that asking too many questions about it – is shameful, dirty or taboo.

Hell yes to that! In response, I’ve rounded up a a group of the most burning questions you might have about sex and I’ve answered each and every one of them.

“How do I make my partner orgasm the normal way? That is, during intercourse.”

Let’s lose a word from that sentence: normal. I constantly get men feeling bad if their partners can’t orgasm “the normal way”, which they only see as vaginal penetration. I often hear, “My partner is having clitoral orgasms but I want you to teach me how to also have vaginal orgasms.” Or, “I gave her an orgasm but it was with my finger.” And my response is always this: since when was there a hierarchy of orgasms? When we start giving things a hierarchy that’s just too much pressure. Let’s just call them all orgasms. Plus, P in V isn’t the be-all and end-all. There are so many other ways to make your partner come. If she’s not having vaginal orgasms with your penis inside her, don’t worry. Most women – around 70 per cent – don’t. And because of where the clitoris is situated, it makes perfect sense that it’s harder to attain. Just use your hand or a vibrator during sexual intercourse and you’ll manage to give her a double route to pleasure. And stop thinking that things can only happen one way. When you do that, you’ll enjoy whatever is going on a lot more.

“How on earth to I buy a sex toy?”

It might be a little on the obvious side, but first things first – just walk in to the shop. People get consumed by the terror of being in a sex shop, but the Internet can never depict the size, shape, feel, controls or noise of a toy. I see many toys touted as waterproof, super-loud vibes labelled “whisper quiet”, straight dildos that claim to hit the G-Spot. Get your hands on things – your visceral reaction will tell you a lot. Think about what you want from it. Do you want to insert it in your partner’s vagina, stimulate her clitoris, or both? Do you want something that you can use on your body as well? Do you like pressure pinpointed on one spot or broader? After that, it’s pretty much a question of what features you require. If you’re planning on using it in the bath, you’re going to need something submersible. If you need to be quiet, don’t go for sheer power (there’s also an accompanying noise level). The key ingredients are a range of different vibration intensities, from very low to powerful, with many levels in between.

“How do I get from so-so sex to great sex?”

When it comes to sex, there is no magic number or “right” technique. Actually, when it comes to sex, we’re 50 Shades of Confused. Why? Because we romanticize sex to be multiple-orgasmic, energetic and coordinated. The reality is that sex is often pretty clumsy: inserting, and then withdrawing, sweating, slipping and sliding. People invest more effort into deciding whether to trim their pubic hair or not than in learning to talk about sex. Great sex doesn’t only mean wild chemistry or a wild sex position – it’s putting your piece of mind first, and simply just bringing it up. Yep, you heard it here first, a seriously mind-blowing orgasm is just one conversation away. Too easy. You’ve totally got this.

“It’s my first time trying anal sex with my partner! How do I do it?”

If you’re feeling quite intrigued and are keen to give it a go, the most important thing you have to know is that it doesn’t have to be painful for your partner. The important thing is to help her relax her mind and body before going at it. How to start? A finger brushing around the area will get her used to how it feels. If she enjoys that contact and is ok with trying something deeper, use plenty of lubricant as the anus doesn’t produce it’s own natural wetness (like a vagina).

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Do you have fantasies that you fear that you will never fulfill? Like having sex with a stranger in a public place? Many men in relationships realize that they might never be able to make some of their wilder fantasies a reality, but I have good news for you. There is more than one way to fulfill your fantasies. Role playing is an amazing way to act out a fantasy that you have without stepping out of the boundaries of your relationship. Want to have sex with a stranger? You can role play that. You’ll be surprised at just how hot and sexy it can be.

Many people who are new to role playing might feel embarrassed to act out a fantasy in this way, but you’d be surprised how hot and fun it can be if you just let your guard down and don’t take it too seriously. Here are some sexy role playing ideas for those who are just starting out:

1. Sexy Lingerie

If you’re really unsure about the idea of role playing and want to start out with something really mellow, this is the perfect scenario for you and your partner. First you should go and buy her some really sexy lingerie. If you want it to be a surprise, you can check out her panty drawer for her sizes. Next, invite her out on a date and tell her you’ve bought her something to wear that night. You’ll be really excited knowing that she has something so sexy under her clothes and it is also incorporating a little bit of domination when you chose what she wears. She will feel extra sexy because of what she has on and that will give her a new found confidence. You’ll feel like a new couple! And the fantasy will continue once you get home and get to see how amazing she looks in your gift.

2. The Sugar Daddy

Another fun role playing scenario to play out is the sugar daddy with the young hot woman on his arm. It doesn’t matter if this fantasy is nothing like your reality, that’s what role playing is all about, creating a different kind of fantasy so that you can become different people for a night.

3. The Shy Girl

Have your partner act like the shy, innocent and inexperienced woman and you’re the experienced, sexy man who is going to help her come out of her shell and do things she never thought she could. This is a big turn off for both people as it allows one person to really take control of the situation and the other to be passive. A fun way to alter this fantasy if for YOU to play the shy, inexperienced one and for her to play the sexy woman who is going to teach you how to be a great lover.

4. The Stranger You’ll Never See Again

Act as if you don’t know each other, but you have just met and can’t stop yourselves from jumping into bed together. Take this fantasy to the next level by “meeting” for the first time at a designated place. Pick a location like a bar or even the supermarket to “pick up” your partner and take her home with you. Play out every detail of the fantasy to make it really exciting and real

5. The Masseur and His Client

Anyone who has had a massage before has fantasized that the masseuse/masseur’s hands might travel to forbidden areas and give them a surprise happy ending. Make this fantasy a reality for your partner, but it’s really important to set the scene as if you are a real massage place and not just give her a back rub that leads to sex. Remember, it’s ROLE PLAYING!

6. The King and his Servant (or queen and her servant!)

This is a fun role play that you can do without taking it too seriously. Get silly with it, but you will find that you get seriously turned on in the process of all that giggling together!

7. The Naughty Nurse

Who doesn’t like the idea of having a sexy nurse taking care of your every need, giving you a sponge bath and whatever else you need since you’re too fragile to do it yourself? It’s also easy to find a slutty nurse costume for her to complete the fantasy.

8. The Sexy Chef

Have an extra special dinner prepared (you can either cook it yourself or cheat and order a special dinner in). Feed each other and then the dessert course you can enjoy on each other’s bodies!

The best part about role playing is that it allows you to step out of your normal roles and pretend to be someone else for a little bit. Have fun and don’t take it too seriously!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“Break her bed, not her heart”

In order to have a healthy, balanced sex life, there’s a recommended intake of conversations to have with your partner on sex-related subjects. I know, they’re awkward and you’d rather not discuss them openly, but they’re actually non-negotiable. If you want to enjoy everything about your sexual encounters with your partner, you’ve got to first get your facts straight about each other and know exactly where you stand. Think of these as the veggies of your sexy menu. You don’t particularly like them, and yet the doctor still advises you to eat them regularly for you own good.

Convo #1 Contraception/STIs

This conversation is as traditional as it is essential for the health of your sexual relationship. Sure, it’s boring and bland and not at all spontaneous and sexy, but like a giant head of broccoli, you’ve got to have it. For first-time hook-ups, dodge the awkward factor by working your way up to the discussion in question little by little. After steaming up the place for a little while (think flirting and teasing), don’t get to the undressing completely part without bringing it up. Dish it up with a side of humor, if that’s your cup of tea. Trust me, she’s feeling just as uneasy as you are about this. As for the STIs, I can’t emphasize enough how important honesty is at this point. A huge part of sex is respecting and protecting yourself and your partner’s body. If you have an STI or are getting treatment for one, it’s essential to let them know.

Convo #2 Personal boundaries

There are always items on the menu that we don’t like to eat and the same goes for sex. Whatever your sexual Brussels sprout is, confess your aversion to it or it will get served up time and time again. Let’s be real here: this kind of chat isn’t exactly the easiest one to have. Due to its sensitive nature, I recommend breaching the subject away from the bedroom. Sexual criticism mid main course won’t do anything for your appetites. If handcuffs and blindfolds aren’t your thing, let your partner know outside of sex, so neither of you gets a nasty shock that will kill the moment. Telling your partner what you aren’t into is super important so they can not only become a better lover, but also know their boundaries.

Convo #3 Secret urges

Sex with your partner is amazing, but you could take it to the next level with an honest conversation about what you’re not getting from each other (but would like to). Arrange a time and have a couple chat so you can both be prepared with your thoughts and ideas. Besides, mixing up the mid week missionary and giving something else a go could only be a healthy thing. Even if both of you don’t like that thing you thought would be awesome but wasn’t, at least you’ve been there, and feel that your partner is supportive of your needs.

Convo #4 Sexual initiation

While it’s seemingly uncomfortable to bring up, addressing the mechanics of your sex life – who’s initiating sex? Are you happy with how often you have it? – it’s healthier than a quinoa salad. Express your feelings. You may be able to work through any differences of opinion by talking in a non-judgmental environment. Your sexual requirements may be different, yet airing out any concerns is good for everyone.

Convo #5 Past lovers

While remembering the ghosts of your love life’s past is completely normal, hold off on voicing it too much in front of your latest squeeze because it might not be something they want to hear. Instead, save the funny/steamy/awkward ex stories for beer time with mates.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Everyone in a long-term relationship knows what I’m talking about when I say “sexual rut.” Even if you are one of the few and lucky people who have a pretty good sex life after years of being with your partner, I’m willing to bet that it’s still quite different from what it once was. Keeping up a good sex life takes work and time. A lot of people think that their sex life should be good naturally or else something is wrong with them or with the relationship, but that’s not true.

People in long-term relationships who have awesome sex lives have those because they do something and work at it to make it that way. There are a lot of different things you can do, but it’s important that you pay special attention to your intimate life because that’s the only way it’s going to stay exciting. Here are 7 things you can do to improve your relationship:

1. Have morning sex

It doesn’t have to be every single time, but having sex in the morning is a great way to start your day and feel connected to your partner. Many couples wait until the end of the day to have sex, but that usually means that one or both of your are overtired and not as in the mood. Another challenge to nighttime sex is that many couples don’t go to bed at the same time, so the likelihood of one person nudging the other awake for sex is pretty low.

2. Flirt with each other

After having been together for so long, you probably rarely flirt with each other. You might even think, “what’s the point?! We’re already together. Why play games?” Why? Because it’s fun and having fun together will remind you what you love about one another.

3. Surprise each other

It’s called a sexual rut for a reason. You do the same thing, at the same time, every time. It lacks excitement and surprise. Some couples might even feel annoyed when their partners go for the same exact position and sex move as they always do. Make a point to try new things and surprise your partner. This doesn’t have to be just when it comes to sex either. Try to keep your lives together exciting and different. Try out new activities. Go to different places for your nights out together. Keeping things interesting in the bedroom and outside is very important.

4. Sext

You know what it is, sending dirty / sexy messages to your partner, but have you ever tried it? You might not think it’s for you, but sexting can actually be really fun. Plus, you can only the kind of sexting that you’re comfortable with. You can send dirty pics and nasty messages or if your style is a little more subtle, you might just send a message saying something like, “I haven’t been able to get you off of my mind all day long, can’t wait to see you tonight.” With sexting it’s also important to know your audience. If your partner isn’t into dirty talk or naked pics, make sure to send her something more suggestive than porn.

5.  Have make-up sex

When you get into a fight a lot of times residual anger or hurt feelings can linger and that can put a wedge between you and your partner. I’m not suggesting that sex solves problems, but if you have made up then why not try make-up sex? That allows you to reconnect on a physical level in a much needed way and let go of any of those negative feelings that are still hanging around.

6. Ban sex for a week (or two)

You might think this sounds crazy, but I’m not talking about not being sexual with each other, but just banning sexual intercourse for a certain amount of time. What you do is make the decision to do everything BUT sexual intercourse. You still are intimate with each other, but with that one exception. It means exploring new ways to be with each other and touch each other. Believe me, you’ll learn a lot about what she likes!

7. Pay attention

Pay attention to what your partner likes and doesn’t like.. You might be thinking “DUH! That’s some of the most obvious advice I’ve ever heard,” but there is actually research that shows that people tend to do what they like, not what their partner likes. This way of doing things does come from a good place. You might think, “I like this, so she must like it to, I will do it,” but instead try, “This isn’t my favorite, but I know she really loves it, I’ll do it.”

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“She craved the type of passion that even brought the devil down to his knees.”

Bad boys are legendary – a woman who’s been with one practically passes out from bliss when she talks about her experience. You might be thinking, “Who, me? Be bad boy?” But any man who wants to can wake up his hibernating alpha male… and have a good time doing it. See, bed-devil status is about a fearless attitude, not how much sexual experience you have or whether you wear leather. Women dig when guys are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want. While you’re probably eager to meet the bad boy inside, you may not be exactly sure where to start. If you think you can handle the heat, try one of these no-holds-barred ways to get very dirty.

Be the boss in bed tonight

A wickedly sexy man knows how to deliciously exploit the power he has over a woman. Tell you partner to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether her hands together so she can’t touch you. If you’re not game to use real restraints, you can simply hold her hands over her head. Next, you want to torture her playfully with your teasing. Slowly kiss your way down her torso, and just as you get to her pelvis, move back to her ears and neck. As you tantalize her and she strains to touch you, ask her to tell you why she wants you so bad, explaining that you won’t let her free until she convinces you. Once she’s pleaded her case, release her hands and allow her to take over. After building up the erotic anticipation, it will be like setting a windup toy loose on your body… and hearing her describe how hot you are will turbocharge your experience too.

Learn to talk dirty

Moans and sighs are easy. It’s the dirty dialogue that really puts a triple X stamp on your sex sessions. Talking dirty heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, and turns you on even more. Plus, women actually like being told what to do in bed because it helps them get it right. First tell her how freakin’ good she feels. (Tongue-tied? Try no-fail lines like “You feel so/You make me [adjective]”; “I love it when you[verb] my [body part].”) Then you’re set to show her the way to send you soaring, with something like, “Oooh, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body part], just like this.”

Watch yourselves having sex

Body confidence and carnal curiosity are key traits of a sex god, and both are on full display when you make a sex tape. Seeing yourselves midact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, almost as though you’re peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo. You also get to see how your partner is responding and how you look when you’re getting off. If you’re partner is worried about becoming the next Kim Kardashian, skip the tape and just hook the video camera directly up to a television in your bedroom – without recording – and watch yourselves while you’re going at it. Since missionary doesn’t exactly make for good TV, get into racier positions where you’re facing the camera. Go for doggie-style so you can both see the action or girl on top so you can watch exactly how she moves. And definitely get shots exchanging oral sex so you can see the orgasmic effect you have on each other.

Give her a jolt

Breaking out of your touch-there-then-lick-there routine adds a lusty layer to the erotic experience. And fearless sexual playmates know that unexpectedly intense sexual maneuvers are even more exciting. A forceful touch snaps your partner into the moment and heightens every sensation that follows. The spontaneity also keeps her anticipating each touch, magnifying her excitement. Plus, the implied roughness invites her to tap into her primal, wild sexual self. Grip her butt hard while in missionary, scratch the sides of her torso while in girl-on-top, or yank her head toward you to give her a passionate, damn-straight kind of kiss. If those moves elicit an excited response, gently spank her butt, lightly bite her shoulder, or tug her hair in the act, you devilish thing.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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