With these fail-proof rules, we have you covered on all fronts… time to flirt like a boss, gentlemen.

The word flirting can sound quaint to the point of being lamely outdated. But the ability to banter playfully with someone you’re into is a time-honored and valuable dating skill. It heightens sexual tension and distinguishes your dynamic from a ‘just friends’ situation. It also helps you gauge compatibility and chemistry on so many levels. The only problem? In the era of digital dating, you may never have learned this analogue skill…or you’ve let it expire. Here’s how to signal you’re down to get much closer.

And if you want to learn more about how to get out of that pestering and annoying friend zone, check out this program called Passion & Attraction by my friend Alex Allman. If you’re single and trying to learn how to get taken seriously as a sexual partner from the very first time you meet an attractive woman, you can find the method laid out here. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Lock eyes in a non-creepy way

Some old-school methods are irreplaceable. There’s nothing sexier than two confident people making eye contact from across the room. A glance or two in which you make eye contact (for three seconds, max!) paired with a subtle smile sends a clear message: ‘I’m interested’.

Say something nice

So this hottie picked up what you’re putting down and is approaching. Now what? You can’t go wrong with giving an earnest compliment. Look for something you find flattering about her (her outfit, her choice of drink), or mention something sweet she did, like giving her seat to another person or helping to get the bartender’s attention so someone could order a drink.

Recognize her efforts

If a woman tosses out a line like, ‘You have beautiful eyes’, and your response is, ‘I bet you say that to everybody’, you come off as skeptical (even if it was a total line). If you’re interested in getting to know this woman, instead of deflecting or downplaying her comment (c’mon, she’s trying here!), simply respond with ‘Thank you’, then move the conversation along. If that feels too abrupt, throw some honest praise right back.

Send signals with body language

Consider all the nonverbal hints you give when you’re not interested in someone. You fold your arms, avoid eye contact, and lean back. When you want to show that you’re listening, engaged and intrigued, make sure to uncross your arms, look her in the eyes and casually touch her hand or tuck her hair behind her ear.

Don’t stop once you’re in a relationship

Although there are other motivations (like sex), most happy couples who are long-hauling it keep flirting because it’s fun. As a relationship develops, flirting may not seem as important, but it can show your partner that you’re still attracted to them.

Digital flirting

Use enticing words

Men who write mmm, gorgeous, handsome, cute, or aww, in their messages are six times more likely to swap numbers with a match than their less flirty counterparts. Try a line like, “A gorgeous gal who also likes ice cream? Mmm…”.

Pepper in an emoji

Toss in a wink, a smiley face, or a kiss—the top emojis used by both sexes when flirting on their phones. But do so sparingly—not in lieu of a complete sentence when one is called for.

Shoot over a GIF

When texting, it can be difficult to express yourself, and even more difficult to show emotion, but GIFs take off some of the pressure. You can send a flirty GIF, such as licking your lips, that conveys interest without having to be too forward. It shows your comical side too.

Get a little fresh

When flirting with your thumbs, banter is the only thing you have to go on. It has to create enough rapport that you want to meet up. While chatting, look for moments where you can tease her, or be naughty with an intriguing challenge like, ‘I’ll tell you when I see you’ or ‘Wonder if you’re this charming IRL…’ She’ll bite.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Flirting and getting noticed is all the more difficult in this day and age, but definitely not impossible. If you’re having trouble breaking out of the mischievous pattern that always drags you down in the friend zone, check out this program called Passion & Attraction by my friend Alex Allman. It contains the step-by-step blueprint for becoming the man that women want and desire sexually. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

It’s not about where you put your hands. Or even your lips.

Did it ever happen to you? You like someone and you’re looking forward to kissing them, but when you finally do, it’s so bad – that person is bobbing against your mouth with dry, mechanical rhythm – you’re actually bummed and disappointed? Being a terrible kisser is really a problem. And one that many men don’t think they need to fix.

Imagine you’re on a great date with someone, but as soon as you are in front of their apartment and you start kissing, you go rigid. You just stand there, moving your head with all the ease and finesse of and eighth-grader. No matter how great you actually are in the sack, if you don’t know what to tease and attract a woman with your kissing routine, your romantic career is basically over.

We talk a lot about bad sex as a deal breaker, but I think bad sex is way more workable than bad kissing. With bad sex, you can critique specific things your partner is doing without sounding like you’re critiquing them as a person. (“Less rotary dial, more push-button!”) We’re used to getting feedback about sex—when someone gives us feedback in bed, we just think it’s sexy that they know what they want.

Kissing is different. Kissing is governed by passion, not technique, and it’s much harder to comment on the former. When you acknowledge that you didn’t enjoy a kiss, you’re usually acknowledging that you don’t have chemistry with someone.

That’s why knowing how to kiss is important. If you want to build serious attraction and arouse a prospect partner, you’ve got to really know what to do with those lips of yours. This is actually your first real bonding moment on the path to sex, so you’ve got to make sure you’re doing everything right.

For more information on how you can increase your degree of desirability with the ladies, check out this program called Super Natural by my friend Julian Foxx, which covers everything from how to get the hottest women to how to get out of the friend-zone – if you happen to be in one. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

But what makes a kiss good or bad?

A good kiss is one in which no one feels self-conscious.

As one friend put it, “A good kiss happens when neither person is taking it too seriously, particularly in the early stages. Mid-kiss smiling is great.” Ideally, you’re so consumed by your lust for your partner that you’re not worrying about the mechanics. Sure, you should keep some basic kissing guidelines in mind: Your target should under no circumstances feel as though your tongue will cause them to choke, and everybody’s spit should stay in between the mouths—a terrible kiss requires you to wipe your mouth afterward.

But when neither of you is overthinking it, those logistics come more naturally. You don’t fret about where you’re putting your hands. (I like one in my hair, one at my waist.) Kissing is like breathing: If you start thinking too hard about it, you’re no longer able to do it properly and you start to feel faint. I find it helpful to mentally zero in on the kissee’s most attractive feature. If you cannot isolate an attractive feature, abort.

The real mastery comes in making your kissing counterpart feel comfortable.

Permission is important. For a long time I thought that when a man asked if he could kiss me, he destroyed the spontaneity and thus the romance. But in recent years I’ve started to really like being the arbiter of the kissing—I’ve started to like being the arbiter of everything. Seeking consent is never corny. It’s just hot.

Beyond giving and receiving enthusiastic permission, the best way to make someone feel confident is also the simplest: Tell them they’re a good kisser.

Unless you’re kissing someone with whom you have absolutely no chemistry, someone who is inextricably wound up in their anxieties, or one of those 0.0003 percent of people who really are inherently, clinically bad kissers, affirmation will fix it. Even if they suck (literally), before you write off someone you like as a bad kisser, try a Hail Mary lie. Pause for a breath and say, “Wow, you’re an amazing kisser.” Yes, they might continue doing whatever unsettling thing they’re doing. More likely: They’ll relax, and you’ll have a really good kiss.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. If you haven’t polished your kissing routine in quite some thing – thinking it’s unnecessary – then you shouldn’t wonder why your hookups lead anywhere. For more information on how to really tease the opposite sex and make any woman desire you with all her flesh and blood, check out this program called Super Natural by my friend Julian Foxx. Just doing what Julian teaches you here can literally triple how many women you bed this year. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

So how can you land your dream girl? The one you’ve been fantasizing about for quite some time, but didn’t have the guts to make your move? Whether the woman you desire is a complete stranger or close friend, the following tips will help initiate contact with her.

And if you want to enrich your attraction skillset or learn new routines that will help you get women – any women – check out this program called The Girlfriend Activation System, created by the dating company The Social Man. I loved it because it goes deep into the female psychology and gives simple and practical advice that really help you overcome any and all obstacles that are standing between you and the woman of your dreams. NOTE: This program is for single guys ONLY and was NOT created by me.

How to FINALLY Land: The friend you are secretly crushing on

Your biggest challenge is showing her that you’re more than a best bud. My advice: Ask her out—whether it’s to dinner or for a drink—and make it clear that it’s just going to be the two of you. From there, you need to create a sexy, non-friend dynamic.

Here’s how: As soon as you see her, compliment her on what she’s wearing. Throughout the night, initiate subtle physical contact that you normally wouldn’t make, like putting your arm around her or grabbing her hand as you guide her through a crowded bar. These simple gestures give you space to analyze how she responds. And the understated moves work better than just blurting out that you’re into her, because if she responds coldly to your advances, you can simply return to acting how you normally would.

How to FINALLY land: The babe you see every morning when you go out for coffee

Women like men who know what they want and take the initiative to go after it. So if you run into the same woman every morning when you’re grabbing your daily cup of Joe, make the effort to talk to her. Start small: Flash her a smile and make small talk. If she always orders the same drink, mention you’ve never had it and ask if she recommends it. If you’ve noticed her sweet car, ask her how it drives. Anything that shows you’ve been paying attention to her will be flattering.

Want to really leave a lasting impression? Turn up at the coffee shop a few minutes before your normal ETA, and leave money with the barista to cover your dream girl’s drink. Once she gets her java, approach her and tell her that you’d love to treat her again—but this time, after your 9-to-5.

How to FINALLY land: That gorgeous lady you almost always see at the bar when you go out with the lads

Trying to catch the girl you’ve already met a few times in passing may be the easiest mission of all, because you don’t have to worry about ruining an already-established friendship or breaking the ice. Next time you see her out, jumpstart the conversation by bringing up your common ground. Is she a friend of a friend? Does she work in your building? Does she break a sweat at your gym? Once you’ve initiated contact, buy her a drink and get her to talk about her passions.

Ask questions and listen to her answers. Then, once you find out her passion, run with it. Is she really into music? Invite her to the hot ticket in town next weekend. Does she love baseball? Tell her you’d love to take her to a game. Is she an art fiend? Ask her if she’d accompany you to a local gallery and teach you a thing or two about the paintings.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. If you weren’t lucky enough to meet and date the woman of your dreams yet, now’s your time to change things for the better. She’s out there, you just need to follow the right strategies to get her. And speaking of strategies, check out this program called The Girlfriend Activation System, created by the dating company The Social Man. You may be surprised to find out that getting that special woman is actually easier than you thought. Believe it or not, women are waiting to be swept off their feet and with the help of the advice you’ll find here, you’ll be able to do just that. NOTE: This program is for single guys ONLY and was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

Stud, when a beautiful woman crosses your path, don’t ruin it. Seize the moment! (Carefully!) Here, I demystify the delicate art of making a completely charming stranger want to sleep with you.

Nobody likes picking up complete strangers. I mean, if you’ve got an ego the size of China or you’re a creepy stalker, you might, but otherwise it’s a pretty scary prospect for any guy. Why? Because it forces you to make yourself vulnerable in front of someone – a lady nonetheless! You feel corny. Hesitant. Plus, what if she’ll bluntly cut you off and make you feel like a fool? The cost-benefit analysis is pretty hazy to say the least.

But you can’t swear off the pickup part entirely. Why? Because for the most part it’s inevitable. You’ll be strutting along, happy with the car you just bought, liking your job, hitting the gym, maybe even taking multivitamins, and then—pow—you’ll see a woman, leafing through her magazine maybe, with her shiny hair, and those gorgeous shoes, and she’ll laugh her pretty laugh and you’ll feel turned on and it’s awesome and you’ll want it all for yourself. What are you going to do in this case? Talk to her or risk never seeing her again? You should definitely talk to her.

If you want to know more about how to make a woman want you and crave you, check out this program called Stealth Attraction, created by my friend Richard La Ruina. This is a rejection-proof seduction system that’s allowing thousands of regular guys to live out a sex life beyond their wildest dreams. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Chris Rock was so right when he said: “A woman knows if she’s gonna sleep with you within the first four to five minutes of meeting you.”

So here’s the deal; here’s how you should make those first minutes count: Look at her face, check out her torso region, her shoes (women love it when a guy notices their shoes), and then back at her lovely face while smiling a medium-size smile. Keep it simple and natural. Looking a woman up and down should take no longer than counting to four, tops. Don’t eye-ball the crap out of her and then lick your lips like a horny animal. If she doesn’t flee, her curiosity is definitely piqued and you’re in the running. Trust me on this.

Let’s say the wonderful girl is at a bar and half-turned towards you—and she stays that way – that’s a good sign. Reassure her by looking a little sheepish and even timid when you’re in her sight line. Your should give off the vibe that says “I know, right? What even is this foolish thing?” Let her think that you don’t think she’s a sure thing. Yet. From there, just say hi. Tell her your name; offer to buy her a cocktail. Depending on how convincing you are when you imply that you’re baffled by this type of encounter (because never do this, ever), now would be the perfect time to make your first move. How do you do that? Well, you aren’t going to stay on those barstools for ever, so an extraction is necessary. Tell her: “Would you be mortified if I suggested we go someplace a little bit more quiet?”

Here’s another scenario: the pavement pickup.

This one rarely works, so you can’t take it personally if she refuses you. Women rarely just go home with someone that picked them out on the street and I’m sure you can understand why. Remember: You are complete strangers. For all that she knows, you could have eight bodies stashed in your closet at home. So this time is also a perfect time for simplicity. So bravely say hi and tell her your name, like I suggested earlier. Don’t say: I love your deep blue eyes, they remind me of the sea during a massive storm. The sidewalk is no place for getting all fancy and cheekily romantic! If she’s not dead-eyed yet, continue. Say: “I know this may sound nuts, but could I buy you a cup of coffee or a glass of wine nearby?”

In any setting, picking your momentum is key. If you can lock some time with her, do it without hesitation. If the situation is complicated and complex, like for example you’re on mass transit and can’t really talk for long, try to get her contact or give her yours and promise you won’t make it weird in case she does decide this doesn’t go anywhere.

Oh, a couple of quick but helpful notes about exchanging contact information: Don’t hand a woman your card, this isn’t a business transaction. If you do get lucky and she does give you her phone number, don’t reach via text, call her. You’ll show her you’re really serious about this.

If the call goes to voice mail, even better, because this is your time to shine. Be adorable and cute. Clear your throat and sound nervous – women love that. Do that funny thing where you say a running commentary of exactly what you’re doing at this exact moment: “This is me calling you on your phone, leaving you this voice mail, hoping you’ll call me back, because then I can finally take you out like we talked about.” That’s great – funny and human! If she calls you back – and she probably will – chances are she’s seriously considering getting intimate with you. There, you’ve done it.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Being rejected by a woman sucks, but regretting not taking a shot is even worse. If you don’t want to experience those nasty feelings again, check out this program called Stealth Attraction, created by my friend Richard La Ruina. He basically guarantees that you’ll get the girl. Any girl. The girl you fancy the most. And I believe him.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

If you go by international statistics, one-night stands are hugely popular among those looking to get some quick action. A study of 1,000 participants by medical portal zavamed.com, had 66 per cent of the participants saying they had had at least one one night stand in their life. And another 2018 Norwegian study found that women were quite happy with a one night stand, as long as they initiated it and enjoyed the encounter.

There is no doubt that with the advent of dating apps and people more open to different experiences, hookups and casual sex are on the rise. Today, there is a nonjudgmental approach to accepting people as sexual beings, and engaging constructively with them is currently more important than preaching about abstinence.

So whether it’s a gal you meet on Tinder, or a friend’s friend you met at a party, or even just a friend whose benefits you decide to exploit, the opportunities for a casual sex encounter are many, if you are eager and available. But while it may be a fun, liberating experience, it could also go awry if you don’t take a few basic precautions. Follow these few guidelines and you will be good to get some action without feeling sorry after!

But before I go into that, there’s this super effective new program, New Obsession Formula, that promises to help you make any woman hungry for you. Basically, it gives you otherworldly sexual power over any woman you meet, so if you’ve been having problems hooking up, this will completely change your odds at picking up women. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Ditch that additional drink

Getting a little high might elevate your sexual experience, but getting completely drunk and out of control is never a good idea. Not only does it put you at risk of doing something you’ll regret later, it may also ruin the night for both of you. Rest assured, she will never call you again if you vomited on her sheets!

Watch out for red flags

Even if you aren’t well acquainted with the woman that you intend to sleep with, there are certain signs that hint you she’s trouble. For example, if she’s the one asking for unprotected sex, be sure to run a mile before you look back. If a woman asks you for unprotected sex, chances are that she has expressed the same preference to most of her partners in the past. She may be at a high risk of having a sexually transmitted disease, and will expose you to it as well.

Keep emotions at bay

Face it, a one night stand does not guarantee any kind of emotional involvement, even if you do end up harboring feelings for her. A no-strings-attached sexual encounter is literally just that, and it’d be naive and a little unfair to expect otherwise. While there have been instances where one night stands have led to longer, more meaningful commitments, it’s best to keep your expectations low. No matter how nice and attractive the woman may be, avoid building emotional anticipations right after having a one night stand. And you should definitely not stalk or chase her after.

Be prepared for some guilt

One night stands don’t just happen to single, unattached people. People in committed relationships are just as likely to be tempted by the lure, so think twice before taking the step. In these situations, you are not only likely to suffer some amount of guilt, but also likely to face consequences if your transgression is discovered. Aside from that, it is likely to affect the primary relationship in a nasty way.

Know your reasons

Having a one night stand when you are depressed or on the rebound is never a good idea. You are not in a state of mind to judge the casual encounter for what it is, and may also be tempted to use the other person as an emotional crutch. There are many scientific studies that have suggested that casual sex and one night stands are strongly related to poor mental health. In most cases, it is rooted in depression, bipolar disorder, or sexual compulsive disorder. In such cases, one night stands further worsen mental health.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. I told you all there is to know about one night stands except how to convince the girl to go home with you. But I’m not going to leave you high and dry. This new program, New Obsession Formula, takes you through the right way to approach a woman so that she gets instantly attracted to you. No lame tips like buying her a drink or complimenting her beautiful eyes though. In fact, as you’ll see when you check it out, you won’t have to do much talking at all. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

We all constantly vow to work towards self-improvement or decide to resolve nagging issues in our relationships. But what we often miss out on is setting new physical intimacy goals that can be real relationship boosters. After all, as relationship counsellors frequently point out, sex is the glue that binds a couple together. So, while you aim to keep having sex, no matter how humongous your workload gets or how stressful your everyday responsibilities are, here’s a handy guide to making your sex life all the more satisfying. Of course, one size doesn’t fit all, so be creative when it comes to lovemaking. For, without creativity and consent, there may not be any pleasure!

Games people play

Creative, bold, and adventurous are the key words here. Experts strongly recommend role play and sexual games to spice things up. Here’s an example: write naughty instructions such as, ‘take your shirt off’ for your partner on small pieces of paper. Fill a bowl with these pieces of paper and take turns with your partner to pick one, and follow the instructions written on them! If you want to find more such ideas, help is at your fingertips. There are plenty of sex games apps on the internet. You can download the widely Dirty Games Truth or Dare app, available for free on the Android and iOS platforms. This cheeky app suggests several sex games to challenge your partner.

Have more quickies

Sometimes, quickies are far more enjoyable than marathon sex sessions. Let’s look at it this way—we do enjoy a seven-course meal occasionally, but fast food is what gives us the thrill of guilty pleasures. Quickies are all about such short bursts of intense pleasure.

Oral truths

Let’s face it—some of you guys love performing oral, while others take it as a task to be executed. According to experts, sex need not be completely penetration and orgasm driven. There are several ways to bond with your partner and shed inhibitions, and oral sex can be one of them.

And since we’re on the topic of oral sex, check out this hot new program, Sweet Oral Sex Positions, by my friend Susan Bratton. In addition to a special technique that takes oral to a whole new level, getting your woman super turned on, it contains four additional techniques for passionate, amazingly connected lovemaking. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Take turns initiating sex

Your partner is not a passive receptacle of pleasure, so she shouldn’t be shy to initiate sex and express desire. What’s more, initiating sex will not only make her feel empowered, but also help you feel desired. Challenge your partner to break the stereotype that only men can be initiators of sexual intimacy. The good new? If your partner initiates foreplay or switches over to the on-top position, it can make you feel less pressured to perform. Both you and your partner should understand that sex is not a performance; it’s meant for mutual pleasure. So both be proactive as often as you can.

Watch porn

If you haven’t tried it yet, start watching porn together. Of course, you should be mindful of the kind of porn you watch. Experts say that watching hardcore porn isn’t healthy for a relationship, since it tends to objectify women and set unrealistic standards. Instead, watching soft porn can enhance your relationship. For instance, porn made by women for women in heterosexual relationships focusses on conversations and bonding, and not just on hardcore sex. This kind of porn can help a couple shed inhibitions and also facilitate an exchange of ideas.

Sex toys

The sex toy industry around the world is getting more innovative with each passing day. You can order the toys online these days. But, before doing that, do your research. Instead of going for fancy, heavy-duty gadgets, such as vibrating butt plugs, start with basic ones such as handcuffs, blindfolds, and vibrators. These are guaranteed to add some extra thrill to your romps. A note of caution—avoid pointed, sharp, or glass objects for penetrative pleasure. Also, make sure you cover dildos with condoms before use—this will ensure hygiene.

Sex tapes

This can be kinkier than watching porn together! Of course, you need your partner’s consent to go ahead with this. Create an ambience, have your lady wear that sexy lingerie, play some sensual music, and set the camera rolling. But before you say, “action”, ensure that there is no breach of privacy, even unwittingly, by making sure you turn off the share mode on your device. Further, don’t make a video if you don’t have your partner’s consent or if you are not comfortable with it.

Shower sex

If you haven’t tried it yet, you must include it in your erotic to-do list. Shower sex is a widely admired option. Take a 2014 survey by Durex, covering about 1,000 respondents. Assessing an average American’s fantasy versus reality orgasm experience, the survey showed that about 54 per cent of the respondents said they were satisfied with sex in the shower. Needless to say, water can be a great stimulus. Of course, you need to be open to some trial-and-error episodes, in order to get the position right in the shower. For instance, you can sit down on the floor facing each other. While you lean against the wall, your partner can straddle you.

Sex detox

According to experts, sex detox is a relationship booster. It can deepen longing and desire, and reignite the old spark. In his seminal book Sex Detox, author Ian Kerner explains that the proposition is quite simple—with regard to love, sex, and dating, “we tend to get so ‘into’ or involved” with the person that the only thing that prevents things from getting boring is “to start afresh”. So, go ahead and give this a shot too!

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Both men and women need, love and crave sexual variety, especially when it comes to oral sex, which is such an intimate experience. Check out Susan Bratton’s new program, Sweet Oral Sex Positions, and you’ll surprise your partner with a tasting present she’ll never ever forget. Check this new and improved way to give a woman the tongue of her life and add it to your erotic to-do list asap. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced sex tips and techniques CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

You may perform like a god in the bedroom for the most part, but every now and then, even the best can slip up, if preoccupied while having sex. From mundane and common errors to the more serious and intense ones, these sex mistakes are best avoided when you’re in the midst of a passionate session!

And since we’re on the topic of turning women off, you HAVE to check out this program, Stealth Attraction, that will not only NOT turn the ladies off, but have them flock to have sex with you. With the advice you find here, you can bet you’ll never have a problem getting laid again. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Not communicating enough

Your partner isn’t clairvoyant, and it is unfair to expect her to know every little detail when it comes to pleasuring you in bed. While it is natural to expect your partner to know what it takes to push the right buttons, most men set themselves up for disappointment by not explicitly pointing out if something is bothering them, or expressing what is needed to turn them on. And the same is true for you partner. If she needs you to spend more time on foreplay, she should gently indicate it. If she’s uncomfortable, she should say it.

Being distracted by your phone

I can’t tell you how important this is! While the urge to keep checking smartphones and tablets all day long has driven all sense of what is polite out of most people’s minds, it is worse if you do it when you’re in bed with your partner. Making love is an intimate act, and when you extricate yourself from it to check what’s going on with other aspects of your life and the outside world, you’re taking away from the intimacy. If you have something pressing to tend to, make it a point to attend to it before or after sex. If there is an urgent need to communicate with anyone, don’t take or make any phone calls. Wait until you are done. It is hurtful to ignore someone who’s naked with you in bed, and giving you his 100 per cent, while you chatter away with someone else who’s invading the moment.

Saying the wrong things

Bringing up stuff that kills the romance during sex is an absolute no. You don’t need to talk about body parts that you feel are out of shape, or bring up your parents or dog or boss in the conversation, or generally keep jabbering about things that could be potential turn-offs. Leave these generic conversations for other neutral times, or postpone them at least until the post-sex cuddles. While in the act, keep the communication flirty, romantic, and even get bold enough to talk dirty. Most importantly, do not scream out another woman’s name while you are in the throes of passion!

Getting drunk before

There’s nothing wrong with having sex when you’re a little high. The alcohol in your blood stream can heighten feelings and emotions, and help you loosen up a bit in bed. But turning up completely drunk and out of your senses is unacceptable. Not only is it unattractive, it’s probably unsafe as well, since you’re not in control. Also, you don’t want to throw up, faint, start crying, or pass out when you’re in the middle of the act—all possibilities when you’re drunk.

Foregoing the foreplay

Seduction is what will keep a sexual relationship healthy and happy. Don’t forget the foreplay, and assume that ‘wham, bam, and thank you’ is enough for her. Foreplay is as important as sex, since it heightens the eventual orgasm. Prolonged sensory pleasure can intensify the entire experience for both of you. Try to involve all the senses in foreplay—use your best perfume, play with her racy lingerie, whisper sweet nothings, and so on. All this can stimulate arousal, as opposed to ‘quickie’ sex, which can get stale with the passage of time.

Getting emotional

This strictly depends on your relationship status! If you’re in a loving marriage with two kids, it’s probably okay to say, “I love you,” or bring up emotions that are buried inside. If you’re in a new relationship, which hasn’t yet intensified into a solid bond, it isn’t a good idea to offload on your partner—even otherwise—but especially not between the sheets! It takes away from the romance, and feelings that run deep so early can be perceived as intimidating. While there is no harm in being yourself, or being passionate and intense, it is never a good idea to let a new partner into your deepest insecurities, that too while having sex.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. When it comes to the interaction between a man and a woman, many things can go wrong, especially if you’re just now meeting that particular woman and you’re trying to get her into bed. Check out the Stealth Attraction program – it contains real techniques, based on the most cutting-edge female psychology – and no women you put your eyes on will be able to refuse you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

Breast orgasms can be deeply erotic, if you know how to make them fun and kinky. Let me show you how to bring out your sensual best.

What woman doesn’t enjoy an extended, languorous lovemaking session, with extended attention paid to the breasts? The reality is that not many women are fortunate enough to enjoy such prolonged, deeply erotic breast sex marathons in their hectic daily lives. I know that juggling excruciating office hours, managing the house, and shouldering everyday responsibilities may leave couples with little room for slow, passionate breast loveplay – most couples focus on vaginal penetration and hope that’s enough for the satisfaction of both parties involved.

So what does one do when this is not the case? Turn back the attention to the breasts, of course! To put it simply, breast play is a fun, sensual, and utterly joyful sexual activity that you should engage into more often than not. Generally, breasts are fondled for a bit during foreplay, but not nearly enough, considering their immense pleasure potential.

I can safely say that breast orgasms can be adrenaline-boosting and time-savoring erotic exercises that rival actual intercourse. Gorging on it on special occasions, every now and then is what ensures its guilty pleasure status. Likewise, giving your partner a boobgasm— a most delicious kind of passionate lovemaking—can be extremely satisfying, if you know how to navigate it properly.

In order to turn the heat up when it comes to massaging your woman’s breasts, check out this program – Orgasmic Breasts – by my friend Susan Bratton. Her erotic breast play strategy is the perfect warm up for exquisite and deeply fulfilling ecstasy. Follow her advice and you’ll definitely deepen your erotic connection. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Lube up!

You may be in the throes of breast passion, but since the girls aren’t naturally lubricated like the vagina, you have to thread carefully so that you don’t inflict pain, rather than pleasure. So, keep a lube handy. Broadly speaking, there are three types of lubes—water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based ones. Use whatever suits you well.

Getting handsy

Breast play is supposed to be carnal and spontaneous, true. But since it’s in itself a form foreplay, a bit of preparation can go a long way. Make sure your partner is turned on before you go for those sweet breast handling sessions. Use your hands on both her breasts and her vaginal area, particularly the clitoris. The combination of moves will arouse her deeply. If she fails to climax during breast play alone, you can always help her climax through clitoral stimulation.

Verbal foreplay

Experts say communication is the key to good sex, even for breast play. It helps get rid of many inhibitions as well. Engage your partner in conversations about sexual likes and dislikes. Sexting is a popular method of virtual foreplay these days. So send steamy texts to your bae before you indulge in giving her a boobgasm. For shy couples, there are apps. Take UnderCovers, for instance. The app offers couples 99 kinky ideas, including those for breast play, and all you need to do is click ‘yes’, ‘no’, or ‘maybe’. If you both click ‘yes’, then you’ll both be notified. If you click ‘maybe’ then there’s a little chat window that will let you both discuss it further.

Realistic goals

At the end of the day, any sexual activity is an opportunity to get close to each other. Breast play is as much about physical intimacy as it is about the emotional connect. So keep an open mind—your partner may or may not orgasm during the deed. Urgency can lead to disappointment, so enjoy the moment of togetherness as much as you can. Experts say that an orgasm may not always be the primary sexual reward, particularly for women. Who cares if she doesn’t come at the end of you play? It’s breast fondling, after all! So don’t sweat over it, just go with the flow.

LOCATION COUNTS

Breast play on your bed in the missionary position? Nah! Kick those mainstream habits and look for some cosy nooks in your house instead. Here are a few suggestions:

ON THE RUG

If you have a fireplace at home, your breast play could get bloody hot! Instead of a couch, hit the rug, and try new and exciting positions.

AGAINST A CUPBOARD

Stand facing each other against a cupboard and do what you gotta do!

A CHAIR

Make her sit on the chair while you straddle her and have your way with her breasts. Need I say more?

IN THE SHOWER

With warm water stimulating your bodies, who needs actual vaginal sex?

KITCHEN TABLETOP

If the height is right and she’s right on the edge, with her legs dangling and her back on the tabletop, breast play can be deeply satisfying. Plus, you have access to all sorts of yummy add-ons.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Big or small, perky or pendulous, with little pink nipples or large and dark ones, breasts are your favorite part of her body. Let Susan Bratton teach you how to skilfully play with them! Her program, Orgasmic Breast, tells you how to accelerate her turn-ons and approach her girls with finesse. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

And, while you are at it, go on over to Naked U and check out my program all about breast play- “Boobgasms“!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

Awkwardness on a first date can be the stuff nightmares are made of. I spell out the right things to say to fill the lulls.

First dates are hard enough without uncomfortable silences lingering in the air. After all, there’s only so much polite laughter and forced observations about the menu you can deal with. Find yourself drawing a blank? Just start simple. It’s best to try to start by asking questions that are easy to answer, like ‘how was your day?’ or ‘what did you do this weekend?’. After all, there’s a lot riding on the quality of conversation on a first date, especially if you want there to be a second.

The key to nailing it is to define what you are looking for, and what you want your date to see in you. I remember when I was dating, my checklist for a first date was to find out whether he truly was single and looking to date, he had a job in an industry he loved, he was financially independent, and he had a sense of humor. Having said that, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. While carrying cue cards isn’t recommended, definitely remember these conversational starters.

And if you want more information on picking up any woman you want, check out this program, The Rise of the Phoenix, by my friend Sebastian Harris. It will help you gain the unshakable confidence that’s needed to attract the hottest women easy and without any hassles. It really does work and you’ll be positively surprised by how uncomplicated the whole process is. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

IF YOU MET HER ONLINE

If you both have decided to meet in person, your first few conversations probably went well. You now have a chance to find out what her first impression was, so asking a question like, ‘what about my profile appealed to you?’ will give insight into her priorities and preferences.

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: You can always bring up something she said before the date. This is also a great way to show her you were listening.

ON A BLIND DATE

Since blind dates come with no expectations or prejudices, asking open-ended questions is your best bet. A conversation starter that always worked for me was ‘what is your day job?’ It helps open up the conversation about what she studied and how she reached her current position. Another wide-open question? ‘Tell me about your family.’

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: In case a mutual friend set you up, sharing a story about that friend would help build some common ground.

DATING A COLLEAGUE

Leave the shoptalk for coffee machine chatter. Take this chance to get to know who she is outside the workplace. What does she do on weekends? Who are her oldest friends? What is her favorite childhood memory? Just remember that unless things get more serious, anything you say might do the rounds in the office, so hold off on the embarrassing stories for a little while.

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: If it comes down to it, sharing work stories can build on the familiarity you already share, and ease the nerves.

Hush now!

Knowing what not to say can be as important, if not more. I say everything is game except politics, religion, marriage, and exes. Avoid these other pitfalls as well.

• Don’t spend the whole date talking only about yourself. This shows a lack of interest and is a big turn off for women.

• Avoid complaining about workplace or family drama. You’ve just met this woman, don’t be a Negative Nancy right from the beginning or else she’ll be put off by your vibe.

• Don’t bring up sexual preferences. Too soon – she’ll think you’re a pervert.

• Avoid discussing money. If you brag about having them – it shows a superficial personality. If you complain about not having them – you’re manifesting your insecurities.

• Don’t vent, even if you’ve had a rough day. She’s not there to solve your problems or soak up your bad energy. She probably has her own problems.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Getting a woman to like you is hard work, I’m not going to lie. But it’s by no means an impossible feat, even if the woman you fancy seems to be way out of your league. Check out this program, The Rise of the Phoenix, by my friend Sebastian Harris and you’ll be definitely enlightened. As you’re about to discover, seducing drop dead gorgeous women is not that hard, not matter your age or the way you look. But don’t take my word for it, see it for yourself! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…

By now, you’ve likely heard of stud energy – the viral catchphrase for the undeniable air of confidence that some guys seem to exude almost naturally, without any consistent effort whatsoever. The theory is rather simple: Alpha dudes have a little extra swagger and therefore more luck with the ladies.

You can project a similarly confident vibe – yes, even though you’re shy by nature and don’t consider yourself to be part of the Alpha clique. It’s just about the energy that comes with being happy and totally self-assured. And when you’re projecting this onto women, that can be insanely magnetic.

Like a taxi readily available for pick up, this silent signal announces to the world that you’re cool, just cruising around being happy on your own, but also available for hooking up if the right girl comes along. Having this powerful allure, this manly energy and confidence, and emitting it all the time can cause a noticeable shift in your dating life.

Suddenly, you may get more compliments and be asked out often by women who other times seemed way out of your league. Who doesn’t want that? To help you, I created a small list of ways to emanate this kind of ‘energy’.

And since where on the topic of impressing women with an Alpha male vibe and making sure they not only don’t reject you, but are eager to be taken home, check out this program – New Obsession Formula. This method is fail-proof when it comes to skipping rejection and easily spotting the women who are interested and open to positively reacting to your vibe. After going through the whole thing, you’ll never again be in the situation of never being able to find women that are into you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

‘Letting your pheromones be your fragrance’

CHANNEL IT

Go perfume-free. Your natural scent conveys key clues to your lifestyle, and according to an OKCupid survey, 81% of singles find a partner’s smell important.

‘Realizing you deserve your own happiness’

CHANNEL IT

When making everyday decisions, embrace your own know-how and go with your gut. This tells those around you that you don’t need external validation, which can be alluring.

‘Making women feel important’

CHANNEL IT

When you’re interested in someone, use physical cues to signal that you’d like to connect with them on a deeper level. Think: a light touch at the right moment or mirroring their gestures.

‘Putting yourself out there’

CHANNEL IT

Sprinkle your calendar with three social activities a week. This will keep you active and nix any downer vibes. And yes, these outings can include dates. Having an active dating life makes men less self-conscious, which can help you emit more come-hither vibes.

‘Cultivating social confidence’

CHANNEL IT

Do something that allows you to “peacock”. In other words, ID what you’re good at, then show off your talent. Studies have found that both men and women find this romantically and sexually attractive.

‘Acting as if you hold the secret to a special kind of magic’

CHANNEL IT

Use your your unique qualities and dare to take some risks as well: boldly buy a hottie a drink, sleep on silk sheets to boost sensuality, work your charm and do your best to be more mysterious when interacting with the ladies.

‘Developing a crush’

CHANNEL IT

Remember in primary school when you’d list all the *dreamy* things about your crush? I suggest resurrecting the habit, but listing all the things you love about yourself. Then note a few flaws too. Accepting these qualities will help you own them all.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. There are so many women in this whole wide world that are eager to experience something beautiful and intense with the right man. All you have to do is prove to them that you’re that man they’re looking for. The New Obsession program will help you see the hidden signals all women subconsciously give when they’re up for some fun and thus it will be easier to spot the ladies that are worth your time and attention. It’s a shockingly simple method and I advise you to give it a shot because it does work. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

Click Here For More Advanced Sex Secrets…