Sunshine, fresh air, drooling over the nearly naked smoke-show lying next to you at the beach… It’s finally (almost) summer, and whether you’re aware of it or not, your sex drive is in full send mode.

Why? Because soaking up vitamin D gets you thinking about doing the deed. Exposure to sunlight can increase levels of the chemical serotonin, which can trigger greater arousal. It can also influence reproductive hormones and ovulation, which may boost women’s libido. Add to this the fact that the scent of sweat may play a role in sexual attraction, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling lusty.

To satisfy all your urges, use my expert-backed tips and tricks to have even more fun in the sun – or in a nicely air-conditioned bedroom, if that’s more your style. Either way, get ready to make your hook-ups so much hotter and your orgasms that much stronger!

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1. During masturbation envision a session by the pool or on a boat in the middle of a dam, using your imagination and all five senses to make it feel real. Don’t ejaculate, just make your erection as strong as possible than share it with your partner.

2. Put a stainless-steel, glass or other fridge-safe toy into the fridge for 10 minutes before inserting it inside your partner for a chilly and erotic new sensation.

3. After bathing, don’t let your partner dry of. Instead, have her slip on a white top and walk into the bedroom to show you she’d win any wet T-shirt contest, hands down. This will give you an amazing boner!

4. Help boo cool off after a long, sweaty commute. As soon as she walks through the door, start stripping her down, saying, ‘You should be naked. Now.’ Then lead her to the couch and take her in your arms. She’ll be naked in one… two… three.

5. Ask your partner to wear a barely-there bikini in front of you while doing something mundane at home, such as watering the plants. I guarantee your hands will be on her and pulling strings off of her in a matter of seconds.

6. Ask your lover to give you a sexy, sensual massage with aloe-vera gel or a smooth body lotion. Once you’re totally relaxed and ready, return the favour.

7. Take a blanket outside right before sunset. Cover up, then use your hands to pleasure each other downtown as you watch the sky’s colour show.

8. Go skinny-dipping together, the exhilarating experience will be a major turn-on. The next best thing? Sex in an outdoor shower.

9. While camping in a tent (or pretending you’re in one), use only your flashlight and mouth to find new erogenous zones on your partner’s body – such as the nape of their neck or the rise of their hip.

10. Place a small dab of pineapple lube, onto your partner’s clitoris, then lick it off.

11. When it’s too hot to move, lie on your sides and enter your partner from behind. If she needs more clitoral stimulation, this angle makes it easier for her to touch herself.

12. Have sex in the kitchen with the air-con on full blast. Have your partner sit on the counter (her butt will be cool!) while you stand in front of her. She should lean back, support her weight on her arms, and rock her hips to feel your entire shaft inside of her.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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If the term morning sex sounds like an oxymoron, then no offense, but you’re in need of a wake-up call. Don’t worry, though…it’s a fun one.

Most couples habitually have sex at night, because that tends to be when it’s most convenient. But our bodies are actually primed for stronger orgasms right after we wake up. The a.m. brings surges of testosterone to both men and women, increasing libido and heightening genital sensitivity—particularly the strength of his erection. (It’s called morning wood, not morning cork, for a reason.) Not to mention, it should be easier to reach climax in the first place, since Murphy’s Law (anything that can go wrong will go wrong) hasn’t had a chance to set in.

But there are major mental perks to early romps too: Sex is, hands down, a fabulous stress reliever, mood lifter, and relationship enhancer (courtesy of a release of feel-good hormones). So by getting frisky first thing, you set yourself up for a calmer, happier day. Plus, for most, doing the deed increases energy, a recent survey shows, surprisingly. Not to say that nighttime sex is a waste, but you definitely get more, uh, bang for your buck by mixing up your mating schedule.

Of course, we know mornings can be a bit frantic—and, well, seriously unsexy. Here’s how to flip the script for action as hot and stimulating as your trusty cup of coffee.

And for more information on how you can enjoy a boner for the ages, check out this Hard On Method by my friend and leading sex expert Jack Grave. Here, he talks in depth about one thrusting technique in particular, called the Deep Flick, which gives women wild orgasms AND help you last longer.

If you’re always rushing and cranky

The obvious answer is to wake up earlier, but without real motivation, that’s a futile ask. Consider this: If your boss requested an early meeting, you’d make time for it. We often blow off sex because it doesn’t seem like an immediate need for our partner, but making a conscious effort to be intimate is almost more important than the intimacy itself. If that doesn’t get you to rise early, pinpoint major time-sucks (say, choosing an outfit, drying your hair) and do those the night before. Or fold your partner into your routine: “I’m taking a quick shower—care to join?” Whenever time anxiety or crabbiness kills your mojo, remember that it’s almost impossible to feel grouchier after sex.

If you have way different schedules

In an ideal world, you’d compromise so that you both get up and go at each other around the median of your wake-up times (as in, your bedmate rises at five and you at seven, so six would be your magic hour). But if that’s not possible, find opportunities to catch her off guard. Playfulness and surprise are two elements that couples forget to incorporate over time, but they’re also two we secretly long for. They have a reciprocal effect as well—meaning the more you beguile your S.O., the more they’ll want to do the same for you. When she’s getting dressed, pull out her laciest thong and say, “Hey, what about wearing these today. Let me see how they look on you.” Or when they’re checking their email, send them a sexy picture from the other room, with a text like, “Waiting for you.…” Spontaneity makes excitement practically a given.

If you feel less than desirable

Particularly with newer partners, you might feel uneasy before you’ve brushed your teeth, or showered. No shame! Just know that as your biggest critic, your mindset is much more likely to kill the mood than how you look (or smell). You could also experiment with positions that aren’t face-to-face, like spooning or reverse cowgirl. (“Let’s try this new position!” is a great cover.) And maybe keep breath strips by the bed. That’s the only morning symptom worth caring about.

If you have kids

Have you tried locking the door? Probably, and you’re still interrupted—or distracted. We get it. But if your children can be left alone in their bed (not crib) at night, they can likely be left at the table for a few minutes too. So go for a quickie, and amp the excitement by turning it into a challenge. Whisper in your partner’s ear, “The kids are eating breakfast; we have 10 minutes. Meet you in the bathroom.” For younger toddlers, you sorta have to commit to waking up before them. (The good news: It’s temporary.) If parent guilt hits, ignore it. Together time will improve your connection, so you can be better co-parents for the day…and for life.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Morning wood is amazing because there’s nothing quite like the feeling of being fully hard and able to make your partner moan with pleasure. Check out this program by my friend Jack Grave – it’s called Hard On Method and it teaches you everything you need to know about deep thrusting and lasting longer so that you can give your woman an unforgettable experience… both morning and night!

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The rules of casual sex changed almost overnight, but you can still have a great time – you just have to commit to it.

The ways men and women think about hook-ups are fundamentally at odds. With all the stories that have poured out in the #MeToo era, in the news and over drinks between friends, it’s become impossible to ignore the reality that more often than not – whether or not alcohol is involved – men usually emerge from hookups feeling satisfied while women often emerge feeling scammed. It’s a generalization to say that men enjoy casual sex more than women do. Just as there are women out there who have orgasms without foreplay – witches, all! – there are women who genuinely enjoy one-night stands.

Still, I think the generalization is a fair one. While for men hooking up is a positive outcome (“We boned!”), women often talk about it as a means to an end (“I thought that if we hooked up long enough, he’d want to date me”) or as a regret (“I got drunk and hooked up”). Even the language reflects the skewed dynamic: young men have always been told to go out and hook up with as many women as possible – to “sow their wild oats.” In that analogy, women are the dirt. It’s still possible to have no-strings-attached sex without disappointing anyone. You just have to follow the rules.

And if you’re interested in learning more about how you can make it easier for you to hook up with beautiful women without the fear of being rejected, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, Rise of the Phoenix. It contains all the information you need on seducing every woman you want without any limitations. Careful! It’s a pretty powerful seduction weapon so use it wisely! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me!

DON’T LEAD HER ON

One problem with hook-ups is that they often look a lot like dates. Two people match on a dating app, then meet at a bar. If they both resemble their pictures and nobody says anything racist, they might go home together. Sometimes they go on a few more dates, or date-type adventures. He tells her that his strong working mother taught him to respect women and that he loves summers in Noosa. “Maybe we’ll go sometime,” he says coyly. The woman knows she should assume that they’re just hooking up, at least until they verbally establish that they’re trending towards a relationship. But she’s already imagining herself in a linen muumuu and a straw hat, strolling around Noosa. (He’s wearing a sharp jacket and doing Leonardo DiCaprio’s moneyed accent from The Great Gatsby.) When he tells her, one date later, that he’s “not really looking to date anyone right now”, she has no choice but to curse him and all his descendants. Here’s the thing: if you know that you don’t want to date a woman – and let’s be honest, you typically know by the end of your first conversation – don’t wait until she’s emotionally invested in you to tell her that you’re just in it for a hook-up. (I usually start to feel emotionally invested four dates in. Or two dates in, if a guy has really sexy arms or a nose that is still a little busted-looking from a fight he got in while he was defending a woman’s honor.) As a clinical people-pleaser, I understand how tempting it can be to tell someone what she wants to hear, but don’t kind of invite someone to Noosa on the third date if you only want to hook up with her. Women get angry when a man says he isn’t looking for something serious – not because we feel rejected, but because we feel like we’ve been tricked.

OKAY, YOU CAN LEAD HER ON A LITTLE BIT

There’s a happy medium between lying about what you want and flaying yourself on the altar of decency. If I interrupt a man who is flirting with me at a bar to tell him what I’m thinking, which is how cute it would be if the song that’s playing were the song we danced to at our wedding, the conversation will stop. And if I meet a man at a party and he tells me, right off the bat, “I’m not really looking to date anyone; I just want to hook up,” I will definitely appreciate his honesty, but I will definitely not go home with him. Instead, steal a line a guy said to me once: “I’m not really looking to date anyone right now, but I’m open to the possibility down the line”. I think I actually whispered “Nice” when he said it: I didn’t feel rejected, but I had no expectations.

EMBRACE SOBER SEX

Another big problem with hook-ups is that frequently both parties are drunk. Besides larger issues involving consent, drunk sex is so often… bad. Whiskey dick isn’t fun for anyone. If you’re hooking up with someone regularly, don’t fall into a pattern of texting that person to hook up at 2am when you’re drunk. Even if you’ve both said you’re cool with casual sex, it’s still insulting when you hear from someone only when they’re their sloppiest self.

MAKE IT GOOD

A while back, a guy I was dating told me he was too busy with work and just wanted to hook up. I was young and impressionable so I said, “Cool, me too”. The sex had been great until then, but as soon as we were hooking up instead of dating, the foreplay stopped and the sex itself got precipitously worse – it was like when two people are walking toward each other in a hallway and nobody can figure out who should go left and who should go right. The problem was, in part, that I wasn’t as emotionally invested in the situation. For most women, sex is as much emotional as it is physical, and if a woman doesn’t feel totally comfortable with the person sowing his oats in her dirt, there is zero chance of an orgasm. My partner was also a problem. Once he wasn’t trying to date me, he became way less considerate in bed. Our friends-with-benefits situation didn’t last very long. Hooking up isn’t an excuse to try out all the porny stuff that you’re too shy to attempt with someone you’re dating, and it isn’t an excuse to be self-serving. Women want to sow their wild oats, too. We want to sow them again and again, all night long. Ideally with multiple oatgasms.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Do you lean towards quiet and socially awkward? Do you often felt like the designated bore that women at a party are keen to ditch; their eyes flickering before announcing they’re ‘just nipping to the loo’? Fret not, I’m here to help!

After all, we could all use a few tips on how to enjoy the fine art of socializing with the opposite sex. Trying to convince a woman to hook up with you is not meant to be a chore, after all. And yet, it seems to have become one. When you’re having to make so much effort to attract a woman, if you don’t connect properly when you finally meet one up, it allows a sense of dissatisfaction, even rejection, to build. It’s what you might call the New Year’s Eve paradox: the more we plan for an event, the greater the pressure to have a good time and the bigger the inevitable let-down.

Hookup anxiety boils down to the fear of The Reveal. What makes you anxious in hookup situations is that some perceived flaw – something you dislike about your appearance, lack of social skills or some bigger part of your personality – will be obvious to any woman unless you work hard to hide it. Ironically, the less you hook up and the lonelier you feel, the more pronounced this fear may become.

So how can you fall back in love with hooking up?

The first step is not to retreat. While it’s fine to step back and take time for yourself if you’re feeling frazzled, you need to remember to step back into the game. I often see men using the fact that they’re an introvert as permission to avoid trying to meet women, but you can end up in a very lonely place. You should try not to think of hooking up as an extra pressure, but as a refuge from whatever else you’ve got going on. Think of it as a time where you can relax and be yourself, rather than thinking about what you get out of it.

For more information on how to succeed at hooking up, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris – Rise of the Phoenix. His method will make WOMEN approach YOU, will make the ladies be the one begging you to give you their phone numbers, not the other way around. Sounds amazing, right? It actually is! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Play vulnerability tennis

The point of this exercise is to prove that you won’t be rejected, even when you volunteer the things you fear most and would normally go to great lengths to hide. It’s a kind of aversion therapy, if you like. While baring your soul to someone you met 30 seconds ago is exactly as toe-curling as it sounds, it also… works. You’ll see that rather than feeling repulsed by anything you say, any woman will want to keep talking to you to find out more. It’s certainly far more interesting than if you’d chatted about the weather or the state of the traffic. We often focus on impressing people of the opposite sex, but in always trying to come across as confident and competent, we can actually shoot ourselves in the foot. It’s fine to get tongue-tied or for a joke to fall flat sometimes; people appreciate imperfection far more than perfection. It’s much more human and likeable.

Ask open questions rather than closed ones

An open question prompts a detailed answer rather than a yes, no or one-word response. This helps ensure you don’t run out of things to say. For example, when a woman tells you where she lives, rather than asking, ‘How long have you lived there?’ (closed question), ask her, ‘What made you move there?’ (open question).

Set a challenge

Research has shown that anxious people who are given specific instructions – such as ‘get to know the person next to you as well as you can in the next five minutes’ – perform as well as people who are naturally outgoing, whereas under normal circumstances they’d flounder. Give yourself an assignment. Tell yourself you’re going to talk to three new women at a party, or that you’re going to get to know more about your new colleague at a work event. Doing this provides structure and certainty, and anxiety is often driven by uncertainty.

Think universal

Think about your ‘universal’ identity rather than your ‘local’ one. When we meet new people, we tend to do the opposite: we focus on whether we know the same places, the same people or do a similar job, which all form our local identity. But if you don’t have any of these things in common, it quickly leaves you with nowhere to go in a conversation. Instead, finding ways to bring in your universal identity – that we’ve all loved, all lost, all been embarrassed, all have anxieties or problematic families – makes it easier to connect with anyone.

Focus outward

When you’re anxious, you often turn your attention inward and start to monitor yourself. So you’ll think, “Why did I say that?” or wonder if you should put your hands in your pockets to seem more casual. But this leaves very little bandwidth for you to listen and respond naturally in the moment. When you’re truly focused on the other person and listening very closely, your curiosity naturally kicks in and you pick up on things that you may have missed if you were busy rehearsing what you were about to say.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Being confident between the sheets can be exciting, terrifying, and intimidating all at once. Let me help you break out of your shell.

Having sex with someone—long term or otherwise— exposes you in an intimate and vulnerable way. It’s not only the closest you can physically be with a person, it also opens you up to what most people today refer to as ‘catching the feels’. However, there’s one underlying factor—whether juggling the ‘what-ifs’ or ‘maybes’, most men grapple with confidence and self-esteem issues. But does taking charge of your sexual desires boil down to just your physical appearance? Let’s break it down.

Body image

Getting naked in front of your partner, whether it’s the first time or not, is about state of mind. A large number of men struggle with penis size issues. There’s also a section that is under the impression that communicating their sexual wants might have them viewed in a negative light. This, in turn, leads to ineffective communication (or a lack, thereof), resulting in an unsatisfactory experience in bed. Moreover, social media, films, the internet, and pornography, have set unrealistic standards of fitness, and sexual prowess. Thus, it is hardly a surprise that men constantly find themselves wondering if they are good enough in bed. The key here is to relax, and shut out the noise.

In fact, I believe that being able to relax during sex is a skill that many men are unable to master. Not only do most men not even know that it’s a skill, it also takes practice in order to know how to ‘quiet the noise’ so they can stay present, and enjoy the pleasure of the moment. Doing so is the first step to gaining that confidence you need. And if you have the confidence, no woman can ever resist you. And since we’re on this topic, for more information on how to become irresistible to women, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, called Rise of the Phoenix. His method is top notch and will definitely help you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Accept yourself

Fortunately, for some men, perfect erections propagated by pornography have impacted their self-worth. Sure, pornography is a necessary evil. What is not, however, is letting those perfect erections and unrealistic sex scenes determine what you should and should not do. I’ve realized that not every sex act has to be perfect, and your penis doesn’t have to look or move a certain way because that’s what you say in a porn flick. Accept yourself the way you are.

The ‘I’ in confidence

Accepting yourself is a great first step on the road to confidence. But that begs the next question: where does the road lead? The answer is pretty straightforward—it leads to you! First, having a positive and confident state of mind leads you to being open to constructive criticism—giving and receiving. When it comes to sex, you can’t go wrong with open communication. When you understand your sexual needs, and have the confidence to voice them, you automatically control the narrative and the outcome—in this case, your pleasure and that of your partner. While there is still less pressure on men when it comes to pleasure and the big O, it’s also important for you to understand your partner’s body, find out what works, and be bold enough to communicate it.

Make the first move

Being able to ask for what you want in bed also means being able to initiate sex with your partner at all times, without the fear of being rejected. Besides, some dirty talk and healthy flirting throughout the day, makes for an intense romp in the sack when you get home. Any woman loves it when her man comes on to her. This shows her you are confident, expressive, and know what you want. Taking control is one of the sexiest things about a man. Coming out of your shell is an exercise in trust and bonding that can be good for your relationship. Having more transparency in your sexual relationship and taking risks will keep your relationship healthy, strong, and exciting. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or indulging in a casual fling, by being confident and open about your desires, you’re taking control of your sex life. But no matter what you choose to do, be sure of yourself because there’s plenty of fun to be had.

Hot embraces,

Fidan Paula

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There are more signs than one which convey that a casual fling has taken a serious turn.

A while back, a friend found her soul mate on a dating site. The couple, now happily married, has moved to London. However, she admits, she wasn’t looking for a serious relationship. How did that happen? If you are casually dating, look for these signs that indicate if your fling is taking a turn into the serious zone.

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SHE’S INTO YOU

It may have started out as a fling, but gradually, if she has begun to take a keen interest in your life, it’s an indication that she is perhaps looking for something more. When casual partners start divulging important and personal details to each other, they establish trust, and a high level of openness and clarity. This is a sign that they are leaning towards the relationship zone.

SEXTS TO TEXTS

Usually, when two people are looking at a casual relationship, their messages are limited, and of a certain kind. If the frequency of texts goes up, and their nature changes, it is evident that she is trying to get to know you as a person. When a couple grows close, the communication is fluid, and there’s an openness about what they are seeking from each other and the sex is naturally great. However, there are times in relationships, especially casual ones, when sex is good, but there isn’t compatibility. While seeking a serious relationship, people tend to consider other things as well as the sex, which is usually not the case with a fling that begins on just casual sex and graduates towards something more serious. Such relationships tend to face a lot more turmoil than others.

MEETUPS AREN’T ALWAYS HOOK-UPS

Eager to meet her for a thoughtful conversation? Or, catch a movie together? You could be heading towards the relationship zone. Couples who meet only for casual sex or relationships have made up their minds about what they do and do not want from their arrangement. However, when they begin to realize that purely having sex isn’t enough for them, and want more, it is then that the internal switch happens. When people progress from casual hook-ups towards a long-term relationship, it is more of a personal expectation. It’s not possible to hook-up with deep involvement. When people are a constant fixture in each other’s lives, we call it strings attached. A one-sided relationship is toxic and dangerous.

SEX GETS COSY

Agree or not, having sex without emotional comfort isn’t a welcoming thought for many. Casual dating challenges this notion. When you break free from the mould, and turn yourself in for a real relationship, you’d notice a sudden comfort envelop your sexual space. When you’re just hooking-up, the sex will inevitably start to become monotonous. But when it gets serious, everything in the relationship changes. Sex becomes organic and better, and you feel more connected. There’s more that you can talk and share, and you connect on an emotional level as well. You are interested in each other more than before. When you start spending time with somebody, who you’ve been meeting only for sex, you naturally get closer to them and even become vulnerable. When casual partners divulge personal details, there is a level of trust, and a high level of openness and clarity that can’t be experienced in a casual dating scenario.

What if one of the partners wants to take the fling to the next level, while the other one isn’t ready?

Couples try to sail through this Bermuda triangle of relationships, but not many emerge victorious. I advise people to discuss the issue at length before getting involved, even if it is a fling. Discuss with her about your decision to be casually involved. Tell your partner if you’re not ready for emotional strings. Ask her and tell her about any short term or long term relationship goals you have in mind. Actions truly speak louder than words; make your gestures clear, and don’t lead your partner on.

There are a number of reasons that can make one partner get emotionally attached to the other like similarities in personality traits and attitudes; physical and emotional arousal; social influences; to name a few. Make it a point to steer away from these if you know exactly what you are looking for in the equation.

It is natural for one partner to be more inclined to a serious commitment than the other. However, it is imperative that both are on the same page if heartbreaks are to be avoided. In several relationships, one partner falls for the other, and it can be tough. Hence, it is important to ensure that your emotional journey, in any relationship, graduates simultaneously. Being on the same page is important.

Hot embraces,

Fidan Paula

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Men shouldn’t be nervous about approaching women, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take steps to make the ladies feel more comfortable approaching you. It’s called peacocking. Women have been peacocking since the dawn of civilization: We put on heels and little dresses and generally try to make ourselves as shiny as possible to draw attention. For men, the goal of peacocking is to stand out by looking as interesting as possible.

I called a summit of women to help me assemble a guide to approach-ability. These are our findings. And for more information on the secret to making women chase you, check out my friend Mike Wright’s program on the matter, Elixir of Eros. After following his technique, you’ll be thrice as likely to be hit on and sleep with the lady that same night. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

STEP 1: Dress Down—But Not Casual

I’d argue that dressing for comfort and dressing for women are the same thing. So would my friends. “I’d also probably feel more confident walking up to a guy who’s dressed more casually. Fancy business men can be intimidating, and I feel like we wouldn’t have anything in common,” said Kaila. “I’ve also used an interesting piece of clothing as a means of hitting on guys. It’s an easy conversation starter.” Break out those novelty tees, gentlemen. Shannon suggested that men’s clothes should be “comfortable but also fresh”. What does that mean? You need to dress down, but upscale down: Wear white sneakers, but make sure the sneaks are very clean; and if you generally wear jeans, with a T-shirt or sweater, but everything should fit well and be in good condition—no wrinkles, stains, or holes. Your clothes should be unintimidating, but not frumpy.

STEP 2: Bring a Buddy…

Having a friend or two around also helps. (Although, Shannon pointed out, a man who is “comfortably alone,” reading or somehow occupying himself, is very approachable.) “If a guy is around a bunch of guys, it’s a good sign that he has friends and isn’t just prowling around a bar like a weirdo,” said Sophia, adding that she’ll usually wait for a guy to separate from the herd—by taking a solo trip to the bar, for example—before she approaches. “I’m not going to talk to four guys when I just want to talk to one.” The smaller your group, the more approachable you’ll be. “If it’s just him and a buddy, I’d probably be more likely to chat him up than if he’s in a large group of guys,” Eliza agreed, “especially if there are women in the group.”

STEP 3: …But Not a Lady Buddy

Rolling with female friends definitely makes other men jealous, but it also makes women less likely to approach you: We have no way of knowing whether that beautiful woman to your left is your friend or your girlfriend, and we’re not going to risk her wrath by shooting our shot.

STEP 4: Don’t Brood

Women like the brooding bad boy on screen (call me, MarlonBrando circa 1951), but nobody wants to talk to the brooding bad boy in a bar. Almost every woman polled in my grand summit of babes said she would not approach a man unless he was smiling a lot and having a good time—unless, in other words, he looked friendly and easily charmed. “I’m not approaching a guy who isn’t smiling. It just feels too dangerous to talk to a man who is serious, quiet, and trying to be cool,” Sophia said.

STEP 5: Remain Alert …

Use your friends to look less broody, but don’t get totally caught up in their chat. “One thing that has kept me from approaching a man is the feeling that I will be interrupting a conversation, or his enjoyment of whatever game he’s watching on the bar TV,” said Ashley. “When I’ve approached men, it’s usually when but not engrossed in it, or when they’re watching something but also frequently checking in with what’s happening elsewhere in the room.” Women are very skilled at half participating: we’re capable of having many long, wonderful conversations in which we all half-assedly throw in contributions every couple seconds while scoping the room.

STEP 6: …But Chill

While you’re having your half-assed but very enjoyable (smile!) conversation with your small group of wing friends, be sure not to get too loud. In middle school, being loud and boisterous was a great way to signal confidence and get girls’ attention. In adulthood, being loud and boisterous suggests immaturity. It also suggests that you’re drunk. One of the cruel contradictions of flirting is that alcohol, which makes you feel comfortable approaching someone, also makes women less likely to approach you. So order a soda with bitters and sit tight. If you create the right impression, the women will come.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Here’s a question: would it really be so bad if men took a sabbatical from making the first move? What’s the worst that could happen? Yes, it’s a radical notion, but it’s one that you will love, because who doesn’t like being chased, right? Check out my friend Mike Wright’s program, Elixir of Eros, and let him guide your way to a world in which you’re the coveted prize women fight for. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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A romp between the sheets with someone you’ve just met is fun, but what if you encounter awkward situations during the act? I tell you how to deal with them.

You would assume that sex is always “perfect”, with no glitches. However, that’s far from the truth. A few situations are not in one’s control, and bedroom faux pas are more common than you think, especially when you’re with someone new. I tell you what could go wrong and how you could turn it into a lighter moment.

And since we’re on the topic of having sex with a new lady, let me help you get there as well. My friend Mike Wright’s Elixir of Eros program is packed full with information and tips and tricks on how to make any woman be drawn to you and beg you to be taken home for a night of passion. Mike will help you with this part, and below you’ll find my tips on how to make that first night memorable and accident-free. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Gassy glitches

Strange noises (not the ones that turn your significant other on) can catch you unaware; imagine letting out a belch while kissing or hearing her stomach growl almost comically in response to the sweet nothings you’re whispering in her ears. Sounds like quite a scenario, doesn’t it?

What to do: It might seem like a buzz kill in that moment, but it shouldn’t be taken seriously. Yes, it’s embarrassing, but it’s not the end of the world. These are all bodily activities, and no one does it on purpose. Laugh about it, cuddle a bit, and you’ll find it’s perfectly okay.

Animal instinct

The million-dollar question that probably plagues pet owners across the world–is it all right to have your dog watch while you have sex? Experts have concluded dogs and cats consider things like sex normal unlike human beings who think of it as a private act. However, the jury’s still out on this. Your partner and you may feel extremely uncomfortable if you are being watched by your pet when you are in the throes of passion.

What to do: First things first, if you feel so strongly about it, make sure your pet is safe and secure, and doesn’t have access to your room— so bolts in place, please! If your pet does happen to wander in, and it bothers you, swiftly carry it out, and keep it a confined space until you are done. On the downside, the endorphins released during sex may send out signals to your dog that you’re upset or angry, so you may want to be a bit watchful about how your pet reacts to it. If it seems disturbed, aggressive, withdrawn or its behavior changes for the worse immediately after watching you and your partner in the act, ensure you don’t repeat it and antagonise them. In this case, prevention is definitely better than cure.

Safety first

Sometimes, in the middle of heated sex, the condom can slip off–and if you’re lucky, it’s accessible and you can pull it out. However, if the penetration has been deep, and you’ve just pulled out with the condom missing, you are stuck in a tricky situation.

What to do: Firstly, you should both stay calm. If your partner works herself up, her vaginal passage may contract, making it more difficult for you to yank out the condom. She should first try to remove it herself by squatting on the floor, inserting a finger and taking it out gently and gradually. She shouldn’t use any pointed tools like tweezers as there is a possibility of her injuring herself. If she’s still unable to get the condom out, you should seek professional help from a gynaecologist.

While the condom itself is not a problem because you can seek professional help to remove it, the real issue is the fact that you’ve both put yourselves at risk of STDs and unplanned pregnancies. So, to stay safe, get your partner and yourself tested to rule out any of these.

Sex-perimenting

It’s common for couples to try new positions to spruce things up in bed. Ever thought what if your attempt backfires?

What to do: No one is a gold-medal gymnast; perhaps it’s time to cut yourself some slack on the flexibility front. Give a new position time and effort to ease into; don’t expect to get it right initially, even straightforward sex takes time. Don’t push your partner or be pushed into doing something that’s beyond your physical capacity. Baby steps are fine. If you’re unwilling to take time and effort because the spontaneity matters more, stick to positions that you know are reliable, and work for you.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. No two first-time sex stories are the same. But if there’s one thing that’s universally true, it’s that first-time sex is awkward, sweet, embarrassing, messy, nerve-wracking, and hilarious all at once. But how do you make sure you get in bed with that saucy stranger? Well, you follow my friend’s Mike Wright’s program – Elixir of Eros. He’ll show you exactly what you have to do to make women approach you and want to take you home. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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Better sex is an equation we all want to know the secret to. You’d think the x and y are almost impossible to decipher sometimes, but let me reassure you of one simple truth: they’re not. Read on to discover my secrets to really steamy grown-up sex.

Rethink scheduled sex

Let go of the myth that sex should be spur-of-the-moment – spontaneous sex isn’t necessarily better. Planning it is often associated with boredom, but change the way you think of it from ‘scheduled sex’ to a ‘tryst’. This essentially means ‘planned sexual encounter’, but sounds more exciting. Organize a tryst with your partner for later that day, or even that week, and spend the time before fantasizing about it. It also gets rid of that whole ‘are we? Aren’t we?’ feeling, and ensures sex actually happens.

Use a “secret weapon”

Lube is one of the best secret weapons for female orgasm. It helps your partner feel more sensation from touch, and a dab of lube on her clitoris makes it easier for her to have an orgasm during intercourse, by helping your body glide against hers. You can use organic coconut oil, but keep in mind oil can break down condoms, so this only works for couples using a different form of protection. For more information on using lube on all the right places on her body – check out my program, Her Secret Hot Spots, and you’ll discover her erotic map and how to make sure you check all of her hot boxes.

Address your partner’s non-sexual needs

It’s quite common for women in long-term relationships to have lower sex drives than their male partners. Think carefully about why she’s not as open to sex. Is it because she’s always too tired? Is it because it takes too long? Once you’re able to pinpoint exactly what’s blocking her, it will become easier to reach a happy medium. Open up a discussion about how you feel by reassuring your partner – make clear that your differing level of desire is not a problem that cannot be fixed. Simply say your bodies doesn’t work in the same way, and that you’d like to come up with a plan together to meet both your needs. Often women feel like they need more intimacy that doesn’t lead to sex, more attention, or more help with daily chores – non-sexual needs are equally as important to address, as the more satisfied you are with the relationship as a whole, the more satisfaction you will have in the bedroom.

Practice pillow talk

If you’re nervous talking about sex with your partner, start by recapping after you’ve had sex. Tell them what you enjoyed about what you just did. It’s low-stress, it’s already on both of your minds, and it’s a great way to get more comfortable talking about sex so you can work your way up to talking about more serious topics. I always recommend starting with positive communication; that way it won’t feel like the only time the two of you ever talk about sex is when there’s a problem.

Try the seven-day sex challenge

It might seem overwhelming, but I recommend trying this ‘sexperiment’: have sex for seven nights in a row. It’s true the more sex you have, the more you want it. You don’t have to continue this forever – according to a study by Society for Personality and Social Psychology, carried out on 30,000 adults, the ‘sweet spot’ is once a week. Another study found the perfect amount of time for sexual intercourse is seven to 13 minutes – everyone can set aside that once a week; you just have to make the time.

Stimulate with sound

Sound can be a powerful element of sex. Try blindfolding your partner, then place headphones on them and use classical music to further enhance their state of sensory deprivation: not only are they unable to see where you’re going to touch them next, but they can’t hear either, which can be exciting. Another night, play the same concerto at dinner – perhaps in company – and see how your partner responds; it’s a secret signal of what’s coming later. Then there’s silence to explore: challenging one another not to make a sound during sex can give things a new dimension. A partner recently asked if we could both keep quiet during sex. I expected to feel restricted, but it was a revelation: we made love with our faces close together, maintaining eye contact. It was so tender and connected.”

Get connected

During sex a man’s arousal is often faster and stronger, which makes it harder for him to remain connected with what the woman is feeling. Try sitting opposite each other and breathing for a few minutes. In this tantric exercise the woman leads; the man follows the speed of the woman’s breathing, allowing him to ‘tune in’. Another way to explore this problem of disconnect is for the man to take the 30-day challenge where he does not ejaculate. During penetrative sex, he slows down, focusing on how the woman responds. Your partner will gain a better understanding of what creates greater levels of arousal.

Recreate the holiday mood back home

Think back to the most recent time you had great sex – what led to this? Did you have a lovely meal? Had you been laughing and joking together? We often have our best and most frequent sex when we’re on holiday; we’re free of responsibilities, more relaxed. Replicate these conditions – maybe by taking your children to a sleepover every few weeks so you can go out and relax together. You can’t sustain passion for years and years, but you can create it in new ways.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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