Pick up any steamy novel and you’ll find the same time-honored scenario: He drops his pants, and she drops her jaw. He’s long, hard, impressive… heck, he’s huge. And while many real-life women also admit to loving the sensation of a large, full penis, the chances of that happening on a regular basis aren’t nearly as great as chick lit – and porn flicks – would make one think.

So what’s a guy to do if he’s a little, or even a lot, smaller than he’d like? I’m happy to report that smaller-than-average men can serve up plenty of pleasure in bed with a few subtle tricks and techniques. So here are the goods on what’s true and what’s not about penis size… and even hotter goods on how to make the most of whatever you’re packing.

What’s “normal” down there…

The truth is, most penises are a little longer than 5 inches when erect. Not sure what that looks like? Take out a dollar bill from your wallet. It’s 6 inches long, meaning the majority of men are slightly shorter than a dollar. This is a crucial dose of reality since many men label themselves as small when they’re really not. Only 15% of men are longer than 7 inches, and just 3% surpass 8 inches.

… And what’s not

That said, it is physically possible for a guy to be pretty damn small. Two to three percent of men have a microphallus, a penis under 3 inches long and 1 inch wide when erect. Dimensions like these are less able to give a woman the friction she needs and can make sex a challenge. But this condition is rare, and the majority of guys who think they are small are perfectly normal and capable of pleasuring any woman out there. One important reason why: The most sexually sensitive part of a woman’s vagina is the first 3 inches, and it is penis width – not length – that creates satisfying friction and fullness there. And because there’s less variation among penis width than length, a 4 inch penis will likely create as much sensation as a longer one.

Sex moves that max your dimension

Any penis, of any size, can hit a woman’s sensitive spots if you employ a couple of simple tweaks and tricks. First, make sure she keeps her legs close together during sex. No matter what position you’re in, this will create a tighter fit and provide more stimulation at the entrance of the vagina, where the most nerves are. Bringing her legs close is particularly helpful if your penis is on the skinny side since it narrows the point of entry.

Another trick that works specifically for missionary: Place a pillow under her hips before you enter her, propping her pelvis upward. This tilts her vagina so you can penetrate her more deeply. If you don’t have a pillow in reach, put her legs on your shoulders. You’ll be able to go deeper and feel bigger, and there can be more clitoral contact.

Spoon-style sex – lying side by side with you entering her from behind, your arms wrapped around her – is also a great position. It brings your bodies superclose, restricting how much you can thrust in and out. You will seem larger since she will be able to feel more of your penis inside her. Plus, you will have easy access to her clitoris, so you can use your hands to intensify her sensations.

Ways to take the edge off

The stronger your erection, the bigger you will feel when you’re inside her. But if you worry about disappointing your partner in bed, you will stress out as things heat up. And that makes it difficult for you to get completely hard. So try and loosen up a bit. You can have a pre-sex cocktail or two – a modest dose of alcohol can relax the arteries that bring blood to the penis, helping you reach maximum hardness. Just don’t overdo it. Having three or more drinks can make you go limp.

If you’re still tense before hooking up, this can cause your muscles to tighten and your penis to curl up close to your body. It’s similar to the shrinkage that happens when you get in a cold swimming pool. Prevent this by asking your partner to give you a sensual inner thigh massage during foreplay. When she trails her fingers along each thigh and up to your cut-lines and back again, deeply massaging around your package in small circles, you will get so horny and turned on you’ll forget about any prior insecurities. Even if you don’t think you’re nervous, spending extra time on foreplay will increase blood flow to your penis, which will make your erection stronger and feel bigger when you enter her.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Learning how to handle your most treasured appendage will make you a great lover, but earning a PhD in penis study will pay off for your partner’s pleasure as well (if she accepts orgasms as currency, that it). Read on because I’m telling you exactly what you need to know about how to make the most of what genetics gave you and become the alpha lover you crave. I promise it’s not at all hard.

Size up the sexy situation

The good news is that you can experience maximum pleasure regardless of what you’re working with under the belt. Whether you’re giant or below average (or curve dramatically to one side), with my tips and tricks you can definitely find a way to reach unrivalled ecstasy.

You’re too big

It’s true, working with a kielbasa sausage requires some meatpacking adjustments. Spend time on foreplay – increased arousal literally lifts your partner’s cervix higher in her body, making more room for you to maneuver. Go for spooning or lying side by side facing each other. These are less about thrusting and more about the gentle rock. I like to call them the Ed Sheeran of sex positions.

You’re too small

Just because you’re a Shetland pony below the belt doesn’t mean you can’t be a stallion in the sack. In fact, cowgirl will be your new favorite sex position – when your partner jumps in the saddle it means she’ll take all of you. She should try grinding rather than bouncing for optimal clitoris action without losing any of your precious inches. If you’re more of a G-Spot enthusiast, go for doggie-style. This position creates a snug fit, making you feel larger, while also putting pressure on the hard-to-reach pleasure zones behind her vagina. The shoulder holder, the position in which she rests both legs on one of your shoulders, is also amazingly good for you, since it also narrows the vagina and gives you complete control.

You’re average

Most positions are fair game for you, so experiment! And don’t sell yourself short. Most of the men that come to me for counseling and therapy confess that they don’t think their size is anything to write home about, even though they are perfectly well hung in the normal range of carnal dimensions. Make the most of what you have by using powerful, deep thrusts at a slow-to-medium pace. It can be wonderfully intense. Pistonlike porno thrusting feels horrible to most women, leaving them dry, sore and bored. Add side to side movement and up and down pelvic pressure against her clitoris when you are all the way inside, to vary the stimulation.

You’re a bendy boy

Real fireworks display when a guy with a curved member uses doggie style. If your penis is curved upwards, this position allows the curvy part to make full contact with your partner’s G-Spot. Plus, you can maximize the pleasure by adopting a grinding rhythm to your thrusts, thus controlling the pace of the action prior to orgasm. You should also try missionary. It may be boring for the rest of the world, but it does wonder when it comes to a curved penis. Why? Because it allows your partner’s body to naturally adapt to the shape of your penis, thus giving you a full, snug fit. Also, the curvature ensures that every thrust comes with an added treat of the head rubbing the G-Spot and the curve pressing on the posterior walls of her vagina.

Give her the shaft

By using these positions, which please her no matter what size you are packing.

The pickle tickle. She should sit on your thighs with her legs out wide. By sliding her hips back and forth, she is stimulating the sensitive first few inches of her vagina with the head of your penis. This kind of shallow penetration is ideal for everybody, both big and small.

The rocket raiser. For a twist on missionary, have her lie on her back with her legs raised to one side as you enter her. The squeeze and raise of her legs makes her super tight, and the angle of her hips means you will hit spots inside her that rarely get that much love.

The Game Boy-Oh-Boy. While you’re playing Xbox, try a game where you both win. While you’re sitting on the couch or on a chair, she should lower herself down on you, with her back to you, pressing her legs between yours. Holding onto your thighs, she should stick her booty back. You will achieve a really good depth in this angle and since she has full control, you can bet she’ll orgasm without you even lifting a finger.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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When you think of doggy style, you probably think of your partner kneeling on all fours while you grab her hips and enter her from behind … but this isn’t the only option. This position is easy to modify, which is good news for those of you for whom it doesn’t work perfectly every time. Ahead, six common doggy-style struggles and what to do about them.

The penetration feels too deep for your partner. Doggy style often allows for deeper penetration than other positions, one of the reasons so many dudes love it (to say nothing of the view). Deep penetration can be painful, though, especially if your partner is not fully turned on: Not only does she get wet during arousal, her vagina also expands and elongates so don’t skimp on foreplay before doggy-style sex. Aim for a 20-minute warm-up, and don’t forget the lube. If your partner is still feeling some sort of pain, take shallower thrusts or experiment with having your partner move side to side, up and down, back and forth, or in circles while you stay motionless. Bringing her knees closer together will bring her butt cheeks closer together too, forming more of a cushion between her vagina and the penis. She can also arch her back more deeply so the penis is redirected to the sensitive front wall of her vagina.

Your partner is uncomfortable without belly support. Some women report that they don’t like their bellies hanging unsupported during doggy style. If your partner is one of them, use any old pillows she can lie across during rear-entry sex (and so much more), or have her lie over the edge of a bed, table, chair, or couch.

Her vagina isn’t lining up with the penis. While a height difference outside of the bedroom ain’t no thing, during doggy style, you want your parts to align with your partner’s. A doggy-style strap can help tilt her pelvis to a more convenient angle, either by raising it higher than it would otherwise be or angling it upward. You can also try having your partner kneel on the bed while you stand on the floor next to it, or have her lie stomach-down on the edge of the bed with her knees on the floor while you kneel behind her. Another technique to try: Have your partner lie down on her belly and enter her, then slowly raise yourselves up gradually. This may take some practice and possibly a collapse or two, but it’s a good way to find your doggy-style sweet spots.

Doggy style feels impersonal. While I think that much of the allure of doggy style lies in how primal it seems, maybe your partner’s beef with it is that it doesn’t feel sensual enough. But there’s no rule that doggy style has to be fast, hard, or rough. If she likes it that way, forego the dirty talk in favor of affectionate words and skip the ass-slapping and hair-pulling to stroke her breasts, back, hair, butt, thighs, neck, and clit. Slow the pace, and voilà, you’ve done it: You’ve made doggy style romantic. Eye contact still isn’t part of the equation (unless you’re doing it in front of a mirror, which I highly recommend), but the trust implied when you aren’t looking into someone’s eyes during sex can be hot in its own right.

Your partner is not getting enough stimulation. Doggy style can be light on the clitoral stimulation, so it’s up to your and your partner’s fingers, plus any toys you want to introduce, to take care of that gap. You can use a longer, curved vibrator to reach her clit and shouldn’t neglect other erogenous zones, such as the underside of her butt, the back of her neck, and her anus. In fact, anal play can be the key to mind-blowing doggy-style sex, whether that means your finger is inside or around her anus or you’re rocking a butt plug or dildo in there. For sensory overload of the very best kind, try doggy style sex with a butt plug inside and fingers or a vibrator on your partner’s clitoris.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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One evening at a particularly raunchy dance party, my partner and I realized that we just couldn’t wait to make it back to our bedroom. In a horny frenzy, we scanned our surroundings for a private area outdoors, and wandered into a parking lot. After we hastily scrambled between a concrete wall and the front of a car and pulled our pants down just enough, I flopped forwards onto the hood of the car, grabbing the side mirror to brace myself. What ensued was some of the hottest, naughtiest-feeling sex of my life — it was so sudden and out of the ordinary, it felt like a scene out of a movie.

I usually stick to a finite set of dependably-orgasmic (and horizontal) sex positions. But during vertical sex, I’m much more active, and usually have to engage my muscles (especially my pelvic floor) in ways that in-bed sex doesn’t usually require. And personally, getting all that blood pumping can make it easier for me to orgasm. Afterwards, I find myself adorably sweaty, flushed, blissed out, and often ready to pass out. But while upright sex can seem daunting, or more trouble than it’s worth, it can actually create more possibilities for intimacy.

Being able to have sex standing up not only adds variety to one’s sex life, but also provides options for spontaneity, especially in tight spaces.

Adding surprise to our sexual repertoire also re-stimulates dopamine receptors in the brain. These are one of the many neurotransmitters responsible for lust.

Obviously, I had to find out more ways I could work standing sex into my repertoire. As I researched sex positions, I looked for variations accommodating a wide range of physical abilities — standing sex can be quite the workout.

Ahead, my favorite standing sex positions. Trust me when I say these will bring your sex life to new heights.

Vicious Venus

Your partner is positioned on a countertop, which allows for G-spot stimulation. By placing her legs on your shoulders, you can allow for deep penetration, while also controlling the angle to find what gives the most pleasure. This is a great position for standing beginners who aren’t quite ready for both partners to get vertical yet.

Three legged

I know I’m not the only one with the fantasy of having sex while being pushed up against the wall. And the best part about this position is that you don’t need gymnast-like flexibility to do it. Your partner should stand facing you, while your feet are firmly planted on the ground. Lift one of her legs and wrap it around your hip. She can either hold it there, or (for a challenge) she can try wrapping it far enough around you that she can hold herself up without your help. Use her elevated leg to help guide the depth of penetration, as well as the speed.

Sensual shower

When talking about standing sex, it would be impossible to skip mentioning the classic: shower sex. While I think anything that gets you off goes, chances are you’re not having sex horizontally on your shower floor, unless it’s massive or has a bench. There are plenty of variations on how to have shower sex, but you’ll need to be standing for most of them.

Mermaid moan

The Mermaid is a particularly acrobatic pose, and it requires core strength and practice. Standing in a “spooning” position, you wrap your arms around your partner’s abdomen, and she locks her arms around yours and uses this support to lift her legs up and behind you, latching her feet around your thighs. While this position is quite difficult, it can be extremely thrilling for your lady to have her entire body weight supported while being penetrated. Since both your arms are interlocked, this position is slightly less difficult than other standing positions that require more upper body strength.

Victory dance

This pose was designed for tight spaces and doorways, and it involves both parties utilizing wall space. Both you and your partner lean your bodies back to rest against the walls or door frames and use your contact points with the wall as support to thrust forward and backwards. Your partner keeps one leg on the ground between your legs, and lifts her other leg and places it over your shoulder. You can use your hands to manipulate your partner’s hips and hold them steady. Sure, this one takes a lot of flexibility for the lady. But I personally find this pose psychologically stimulating, since I imagine going over to my partner’s house, dropping everything immediately, and getting right down to business in a doorway. Sometimes, you’re just too horny to make it all the way to the bedroom, and I love the idea of sex that is urgent and can’t wait.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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When did you last try a new sex position? Whether or not you’re in a relationship, it’s all too easy to fall back on a handful of tried-and-tested moves and forget the delicious variety available to you and your partner.

That’s where I come in. With insight into everything from BDSM to female ejaculation, my inclusive, deftly-illustrated sex programs are like an expert (yet relatable) roadmap to your best-ever sex life. I’m thrilled to share some of my insights with you here, especially since the holidays are fast-approaching and you’re probably in dire need of step-by-step suggestions for new and creative sex positions to enrich your sensual play. Some of the positions I’m describing here may be old favourites, others variations on classics, and still others completely new to you. Combined, they might just make for your best holiday sex yet. Read through for the good stuff.

Leg Reversal

Ask your partner to hold her legs straight, pressing her knees together (she can cross her legs at the ankles for an even tighter fit) while you open up your legs around hers. It takes a little more work to get the penis into the vagina, but then it’s a nice tight feeling – a rare hybrid situation that makes you feel incredibly cozy and snuggly with your partner, while also delivering lots of stimulation for both of you.

Anal Reverse Cowgirl

One of the most popular positions for anal sex is the Reverse Cowgirl. Not only is your partner on top and so can take you as deep as she likes, as fast or slow as she likes, but you’ll also be able to see everything that your partner does. Both of your hands are free to explore each other, so no sensation should go unmissed. To get into the anal reverse cowgirl position, lie down with your legs together and have your partner straddle you with her legs bent and turned away from you.

Life On The Edge

This position is a common favorite for both men and women, as it encourages deep penetration. Your partner should lie down on her back at the edge of the bed, with her thighs and legs dangling off. She should bend her knees and put her feet on the ground. You stand or kneel between her legs and enter her. You get a great view and control of a deep thrust. Your partner gets to kick back and enjoy. Win-win. But be careful: this position can be a bit problematic for more well-endowed men.

The Flying Buttress

This position is for show-offs. Your partner is on top but facing away from you, head at your feet, which means entry can be difficult from this angle, but definitely not impossible. You can tilt your pelvis up to help the cause and let here do all the thrusting at first, until you get into a steady rhythm, then you can switch things up and share the action. For some, this requires too much flexibility, for others this is just the spice they needed to feel like true porn stars. Plus, imagine seeing your partner’s butt moving and shaking up and down your penis. Now that’s your best Christmas present right there!

Taking The X Train

You lie on your side, resting your head in your palm, while your partner’s body forms a cross with yours (she’s on her back on the bed, her legs are up your thighs, bended at the knees, while either her butt or vagina is agains your penis). Enter her and start moving up and down. She can move her body to form an X by placing her legs on your shoulder – this variation allows for even deeper penetration, so don’t shy away from it. Try this while your lady is wearing pointy high heels, with which she can tease you in the hair and chest area – be careful not to hurt each other with this!

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more information about saucy sex positions, check out my program on the matter, Passionate Positions. You’ll find here all the inspiration you need to concoct a truly special sexual recipe for a night to remember!

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