It’s no wonder that erection is the number one subject men want to discuss whenever they reach out to me – this is a sensitive topic which is deeply connected to your masculinity and self-esteem.

A weak erection does not only disappoint your partner, but also the fierce man inside of you who thinks he should perform without fail every time. And it can be quite terrifying to admit that, oh well, sometimes it happens: you lose your erection during sex and even when everything seems to be going perfectly.

But no matter how bad it makes you feel, it’s not uncommon at all – in fact, most men experience weak erections at some point in their lives and it doesn’t even have to do with age. And the reason I’m saying this is because I know for a fact that men in their 20’s also have to deal with it sometimes.

While studies have shown that the average intercourse session lasts 7.3 minutes, let’s be honest here – that’s not enough action for your woman to reach her climax. Modern days put more and more focus on female pleasure, which I appreciate, but that means more pressure for you to be able to deliver it.

Pressure aside, though… prolonged sexy play is fun for both you, so instead of rushing things out because you fear your erection might die halfway, wouldn’t it be better to make sure you’re doing everything you can to prevent that and have even more fun with your lover?

Here are the main 5 reasons why you can’t maintain a full erection during sex:

You put too much pressure on yourself

If your penis works when you masturbate but then fails to perform during steamy encounters with you lady, it means erectile dysfunction (ED) is out of the question. Which is good news!

On the other hand… all psychological aspects of life are complicated because often times it’s impossible to control our thoughts. If you start your hot session with anxiety, things just won’t go well.

Try to minimize the pressure of the act itself by turning it into a sexy play. Surprise your woman with an erotic game that keeps you both engaged – your erection will love novelty. Plus, you’ll feel less pressure and more excitement.

Additionally, if you want to learn more interesting techniques on how to get and maintain a full, rock hard erection, you might want to check out this program created by Aaron Wilcoxxx – you’ll get all the answers you need. Note: This program was NOT created by me.

You have too much alcohol in your system

It’s common to get flirty over a glass of wine thinking that it will make you more relaxed and give you more confidence, but it has been scientifically proven that alcohol is a depressant which can kill your erection when you least expect it. If you really need it to get things started, don’t consume more than one glass. But then again… if you rely too much on it, maybe there’s an underlying problem you need to address.

Your sleep schedule is all over the place

You might not think this has anything to do with your erection, but actually, your sleep schedule is very important. Your brain needs enough sleep to function properly, and do I need to remind you that your brain is the one making the erection possible in the first place? Lack of sleep raises the stress hormone called cortisol, and this can really mess up with your erection by lowering your testosterone levels. One of the main indicators is the loss of morning erection.

So if everything else fails, try a more strict sleep schedule – you might see some positive changes.

You’re used to a different kind of stimulation

And I’m talking about masturbation here. If you’re used to a different speed or grip when you masturbate, you won’t get the same level of stimulation during sex. Also, if you do it too often, you can desensitize your penis. Try to slow down or use your non-dominant hand.

You suffer from hormone imbalance

Hormones are very tricky business as they can get messed up by a lot of things, whether we’re talking about an unhealthy diet, unhealthy sleep schedule, sleep pills or even a chronic health condition like diabetes. Also, anabolic steroids can suppress natural testosterone production.

So I recommend you get a blood test so you can check your hormone levels. If this is the culprit, your doctor can help.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S.: Shutting down won’t help. Remember that it’s not uncommon for men to experience erection problems and this is not necessarily related to erectile dysfunction, which is a serious condition. However, if you feel like you can’t get fully hard or you can’t maintain an erection, I recommend you check out this unique program Bigger and Deeper

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There’s not a single woman out there who doesn’t dream of a sexual escapade that lasts all night long, leaving her exhausted but also happy and satisfied.

And that’s not only because she needs something like this to feel completely satisfied, but because she is proud of having a man who is capable of such hardcore performance.

In addition to that, all night sex is so nostalgic – it reminds her of the beginning of your relationship when you just couldn’t keep your hands off each other. When you were always ready for round two because no matter how many times you climaxed, you still wanted more… and more…

All night long sex is a wonderful experience and while it shouldn’t happen all the time (because it might lose its charm), it’s a great way to surprise your woman and show her that she will never need another man.

But as great as it sounds, lasting that long in bed might be a real challenge, especially if you’re experiencing premature ejaculation. It might affect your overall confidence, making it hard to imagine that you could satisfy your woman again and again.

While I don’t believe in miracle erection remedies, there are a few practical techniques that can help you prolong your performance and enjoy great sex until the morning.

Try the “squeeze technique”

There are a lot of physical techniques that can postpone your ejaculation and one of them is to squeeze your penis with 2 fingers just below the bell end – this will ensure the sexy play continues for a lot longer. You can even ask your woman to do the squeeze, as this is not something you should hide or feel ashamed of. It will actually bring you closer and in time you will train yourself to mentally stop the ejaculation without the squeeze.

Approach more of the “girl on top” positions

Even though it’s very visually stimulating, Girl on Top position might be a great choice for when you want to last longer and also enjoy round two. Think about it: your penis is most sensitive to the strokes you master during masturbation, so when you’re having sex and you’re in charge, you’ll tend to replicate the stimulating moves which lead to orgasm.

When you want to delay your orgasm, you want to do the opposite you usually do in terms of stimulation, and letting her be in charge is a great option, especially if you tell her to move slowly.

If you want to learn more useful techniques on how to naturally last longer in bed, I recommend you check out my friend’s Jack Grave’s video – he has a really interesting story that might change your life. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

3. Eat a snack in between sessions

Even if you’re planning more than one round, it doesn’t mean you have to be ready to start again immediately: actually, she probably isn’t either. So my trick is to indulge in some delicious snacks which can do wonders for your energy and stamina.

Always have on hand fruits that are rich in antioxidants, like strawberries, blueberries, apples, and pears, as men who consume these on a regular basis are less likely to experience premature ejaculation, according to a study conducted by Harvard University scientists.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S.: If the prospect of going soft is a real concern to you, then you might want to give these techniques a chance. Additionally, if you want to learn more useful techniques on how to naturally last longer in bed, I recommend you check out my program Last Longer Tonight.

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Trying to get sex started again after your first round seems almost impossible for men due to something called refractory period. Is there anything that can be done to shorten it?

Is there anything more frustrating than having great sex and wanting to go for another round, but not being physically able to? There’s actually a scientific term for this: the refractory period. A refractory period is the time after a man ejaculates when he is no longer able to have an erection. While there’s not much you can do to eliminate your refractory period altogether (hey, you can’t fight science), there are things you can do to make your recovery time shorter. Here’s everything you need to know about refractory periods, from why they occur in the first place, to how you can try to shorten yours.

WHY DO GUYS HAVE REFRACTORY PERIODS?

It all has to do with the changes in your body that occur after you have an orgasm. Post-ejaculation, your penis becomes flaccid from neural signals telling your body to relax. Dopamine and testosterone levels drop, and prolactin [a hormone produced by your pituitary gland] rises. Elevated prolactin levels post-ejaculation could play a role in your inability to get it up again. Increased prolactin and subsequent lower testosterone is like a double whammy affecting your sex. By contrast, women generally have a much shorter refractory period — or even none at all. Women are designed to be multi-orgasmic, which means they can have one after another after another. But just because they can doesn’t necessarily mean they want to: your partner may be ultra-sensitive post-orgasm, which might make her wary of further stimulation. You should always check in and make sure your partner is up for round two before trying anything further.

However, if you don’t want to bother thinking about how to get back into shape for round two, you can always make sure she’s more than satisfied with just one round. And here’s the kicker: you don’t have to be genetically gifted to to get hard, stay hard and last for hours. If you want to know more about this, check out this program called 3 Step Stamina by my friend David Messent. His specific method to achieving hard-ons and delaying your orgasm when necessary is a goldmine for every man. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

HOW LONG DOES A REFRACTORY PERIOD GENERALLY LAST?

Refractory periods are different for every guy. Some men can be ready in a half hour or less, and others may take hours or even a full day. You may have noticed that the length of your refractory period changes at different points in your life. Recovery depends on age, how much arousal you get in between sessions, hormones, and your overall health. Studies have found teenagers can take minutes to recover, while men in their 30s and 40s can take 30-60 minutes or longer. There is no hard and fast rule on how quickly you will recover.

CAN YOU DO ANYTHING TO SHORTEN YOUR REFRACTORY PERIOD?

While it’s often a good idea to let your body rest, if you really want to be able to go again ASAP, there are a few things you can do to try and shorten your refractory period. Increasing arousal is the fastest way for guys to get back into the game. This could be doing something different, like trying out a toy or talking dirty (or dirtier than usual). Even small changes can be just the novelty and excitement needed to rev up the engines for round two. Getting into shape can also help to reduce your refractory period – The fitter you are, the better your hormones will be able to regulate themselves. If you’re looking for external help, there are supplements that claim to be able to get you harder, faster — but you should be extremely wary of them.

There is no hard science backing up the proposed claims. Instead, you can try manual pumps or even rings to help speed up the process. And remember that if your partner wants to go again ASAP, you can always pass the time by getting her off again, which should help to get you in the mood for a second session. Remember that guys don’t need an erection to give pleasure to their partners. Just because you’re not ready to go again, doesn’t mean your partner isn’t ready for more. As long as you have your hands and fingers, you are more than equipped to keep the party going.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Many men wish they could last a little bit longer during sex. Why? Because women want a man that can rock their boat long enough to get to orgasm. If you find yourself unable to control the timing of your ejaculation or last long enough to give your woman a climax, and cannot delay it a few moments even if you want to and try, then you may meet the criteria of what we consider “premature ejaculation” (PE).

And premature ejaculation is nothing short of a really serious ailment. In fact, weak erection and premature ejaculation has destroyed good relationships and also torn families apart. Statistics show that most women never get their desired kind of sex and their bodies properly rocked in bed because their men can’t last long enough for them to experience the utmost pleasure. Most men are dying within themselves because of this hard truth and seriously looking for solutions to a problem that keeps persisting and keeps ruining their sexual lives.

Here are a few tips to outsmart PE and its subsequent bedroom quarrels and disgrace – some require great effort, others are quick fixes and some require a visit to a healthcare provider. But all are commonly recommended by sexual health professionals (sex educators, therapists, sexual medicine doctors), including myself.

If you think the size of your manhood is the most important and the paramount element to your bedroom success, think again. Stamina and a powerful erection are the most important aspects. And to learn more about how to make this a reality, check out this program called 3 Step Stamina by my friend David Messent. It tackles everything from how to boost your stamina, tackle erectile dysfunction and last much longer in bed. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Wear a condom.

For some men, a small barrier between them and their partner is enough to help decrease sensation to the penis (especially if it’s a slightly thicker condom) and help them last longer during sex. Some men sometimes try “doubling up” and wearing two condoms at once in a bid to reduce over-sensitivity in the penis. I have to tell you that this is never a good idea. Why? Because two condoms, worn at once, don’t sit together comfortably – they’ll rub against each other during intercourse, which can cause both condoms to tear.

Use a desensitizing condom

Consider a performance-enhancing condom that contains a numbing agent, such as lidocaine or benzocaine, inside the condom. If you’re also prone to erectile problems, or if you have very sensitive skin, these condoms may not be the best choice for you.

Try the stop-start or squeeze techniques

These take dedication but they have long been recommended by sex therapists to men who wish to last longer during sex. They involve stimulating yourself until just before the point of no return (when a man will ejaculate no matter what) then either stopping all stimulation (for stop-start) or gently squeezing the glans (head) of the penis (for the squeeze technique). Wait for arousal to decrease slightly then start again. Repeat one more time and on the third time, give yourself a break and let yourself ejaculate. Over time, you may become better tuned to the sensations that cue you into your imminent ejaculation. This awareness will eventually give you the chance to last longer by reminding you to hold still, pull out from your partner and gently squeeze the head of the penis, or pull out and briefly switch to a less sensational position for a few moments.

Give your body some love

Reduce smoking, drinking and excess sugar intake (soft drinks, sugar-processed foods like beverages, fruit juice and snacks). Exercise your body to eradicate obesity and overweight issues – keeping your body fit at all times is paramount because being fit is one of the natural ways to fight weak erections and premature ejaculation as blood will be flowing properly within the body system.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“This never happens to me.” How many times how you uttered that in shameful embarrassment? Every man has had to fight with a boner that was just not cooperating at least once in his life (if not more!). And that’s completely fine! Whether it’s a random off night or simply too much alcohol at stake, failing to get hard or maintain a strong erection doesn’t have to turn into a night of weird awkwardness. So please stop freaking out, don’t blame yourself or worse, your partner (it’s sooo not her), and just figure out what are the right positions that will help you get hard and stay that way.

(A word of caution: these sex positions are not a substitute for medical advice, that’s for certain. If erection issues are a recurring thing for you, you should go to the doctor to rule out any physical causes.)

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The silky slide

Be ready for whatever your junk decides to do by having your lady sit on your lap and lean back, so her head is hanging down toward the ground. You should rub her clitoris with your fingers and tease her with your penis — this will make you hard. After your little friend starts to get into it, you can pull her up on your lap for seated cowgirl-style sex.

The wake up commando

Take advantage of that blessed morning wood and your higher levels of testosterone with some much needed and oh so pleasurable morning sex. Stick to the basics—the more you switch positions and try different and complicated acrobatics, the higher your chances of failure getting it back in. A side position is great— it shields morning breath, plus you can hold onto your member for a tighter feel, giving yourself extra strokes as needed. Your partner should curl forward so she can reach down and gently cup your balls for extra oomph.

The couch fun

If nerves or anxiety are factors in your boner troubles, just take vaginal intercourse off the menu all night. Have your woman tease the hell out of you as she pleases — a long shower with sexy soapy hands, back rub, whatever. The end game is her leading you  to the couch so you’re facing each other naked for a mutual wank. It’s hot to watch each other and super low pressure —100% of dudes consider themselves expert masturbators. (Practice makes perfect and all that.)

The dandy dog

If a hard on is coming and going, try doggie style with your partner’s legs spread extra wide. If you lose your erection, there are options. You can pull out to stroke yourself or you can continue thrusting with you finger on the underside of your penis acting as kind of a splint. If it’s still just not happening, hold your well-lubed penis against your partner and keep thrusting — a soft peen trailing across her clitoris can feel amaaaaazing.

Squat and squeeze it

There’s always the option of breaking out some accessories. First, you slip a cock ring around the base of your penis (even better: a vibrating one for your partner.) The ring should keep you engorged long enough for a decent toss, but you shouldn’t keep it on for over 30 minutes. Have your partner get on top, leaning down on her elbows so she can press heself against the vibrations.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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No matter how good things are with your partner, you should always aim to make sex even better – because there are infinite ways to enrich your sexual experiences. Usually, when we want to spice things up in the bedroom, we try to find new and exciting positions to try – maybe doing it on the kitchen floor or trying standing sex for the first time. Also, if 10 years ago men were generally skeptical of using sex toys with their partners, nowadays I’m happy to report that things have changed for the better: I bet you tried at least once to use a vibrating sex toy to increase your lady’s pleasure.

But all of these are external factors we can control and manipulate to make things hotter. There is one thing though that is a lot harder to control and it only depends on you – the ejaculate volume. The “load” you’re shooting while ejaculating might be a thing that concerns you, especially if the quantity is very low. 

Now let’s talk about why your load is so important to you and to your lover and why it has such a big impact on your performance.

It’s deeply rooted in our sexual consciousness

In most religions, semen is something precious which is related to the gift of life and it can’t be spilled or wasted (masturbation is forbidden, for example). For thousands of years, this precious liquid has been associated with fertility and “masculine essence”, so I’m not surprised men place such great importance on it.

Plus, nowadays men AND women consume adult videos and while this is something that can intensify our sexual experiences, it also establishes great expectations – I mean, in adult films the guys always shoot a boatload of “juice” with every ejaculation. This can make you and your woman believe you should be able to do the same.

As for women, the amount of your load is important because they associate it with the level of attraction and pleasure you experience while having sex with them: they think the more you shoot, the more satisfied and into them you are.

While all of these are just relative assumptions, you might get seriously frustrated if your load is insignificant… So if you’ve ever wondered what you can do to increase it, I can offer you a few helpful, easy and natural tips.

But first, what is the normal amount of ejaculate?

Every man is different, so you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Scientific research proves that the typical ejaculation volume varies between 1.5 ml to 5 ml – that is a teaspoon of semen. If you wonder which men produce the most, it has a lot to do with age. The volume reaches a maximum in your mid-thirties and starts to decrease after the age of 50.

Here’s what you can do in your day to day life in order to shoot a bigger load:

Ejaculate less often

Try to masturbate less than usual – if you do it every day, your load will decrease considerably. The easiest way to increase volume is to give yourself a break from ejaculating so your body can build it back up again. Of course, this also means you could finish faster when you do have sex with your woman, so think about it and set your priorities.

Make sure you consume enough vitamins

The semen is known for transporting sperm, but it also contains other proteins, minerals, and vitamins. Semen is comprised of vitamin C, zinc and also amino acids like arginine and lysine. If you consume foods that contain these same precious ingredients, you could considerably increase your load. Maca powder is also known for increasing semen volume.

That being said, I recommend you take good care of your diet. Arginine, carnitine, and lysine are known for balancing your testosterone levels. These ingredients are found in red meat, oatmeal, poultry, and tuna. Also, because zinc is a component of semen, you should consume foods that contain it in high amounts, like red meat, turkey, and oysters. You should also consume a high amount of lycopene, found in foods like tomatoes, watermelon, and peppers. I always recommend all kinds of nuts because they are a good source of selenium.

Hydrate your body

As you may know, our bodies are primarily made up of water which means that your whole body mechanism could be affected if you don’t drink enough water – yes, even the production of semen. When you’re dehydrated, your body sends the little water that remains to where it’s most needed for survival. So I recommend drinking at least 2 liters of water per day to eliminate toxins and stimulate your body to produce more semen.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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DOCTORS CANNOT AGREE ON THE RIGHT WAY TO MEASURE A PENIS.

You probably think it’s pretty easy to measure a penis. Whip it out. Grab a ruler. Get it hard. Have a look. Men do it all the time, with a ruler or tape measure or other device, whether out of boredom, curiosity, insecurity, or any number of other motivations. Scientists do it all the time as well. Their efforts have generated data on average penis sizes, which many media outlets, educators, and average men take as gospel.

But think for a moment about all the ways you could measure your penis and you’ll pretty quickly find it’s not as straightforward as it seems. Do you measure from the top or the side? Flaccid or erect? Morning or evening? Scientists have been pondering these issues for decades, developing varied measurement tactics. But as researchers report, “little data exists on the best technique to measure penile length.”

That could be cause for concern, as getting a solid sense of average penis sizes is important for more than just personal interest. Accurate measures may aid in developing better-fitting condoms with lower tear rates or help men with confidence issues who believe their penis is smaller than average. So it’s worth taking a look at when, where, and how some of the most common figures on average penis sizes were determined and understanding exactly how much uncertainty remains.

Before we get into the numbers, if you want to make the most out of your penis – no matter its size –

Doctors have been trying to gather solid data on average penis lengths since the early 1940s. One of the earliest papers on the subject dates from1942, when two researchers in New York measured nearly 200 boys’ and men’s members by stretching them while flaccid and placing a wooden ruler atop them, butted up against their pelvis. But the first study of average penis lengths to garner attention came from the father of sexual research, Alfred Kinsey. His investigation, published in1948, concluded that the average stretched penis was about 6.59 inches long. And because he asserted his expertise of science in sexual matters, others assumed he really did know the best way to do this research.

In retrospect, though, Kinsey used shoddy science.

He interviewed 4,000 mostly white and college-aged men and asked them to estimate their penis size. They were each given a take-home card with instructions to measure themselves, then send the card back with data. Some 2,500 replied. Kinsey’s figures have been an inch to an inch and a half longer than many subsequent clinical studies found, as often happens when you ask people to measure their dick and just tell you about it. Thanks to Kinsey’s influence and the fact that no one questioned his methodology, length data was a little spotty throughout the mid-20th century.

In fact, experts contend that all the data gathered before 1980 on this subject is completely unreliable. More often than not, modern researchers have turned back to the 1942 methodology of having a clinician stretch a flaccid penis and measure it with a ruler laid atop it and pushed through the fat toward the pelvis. (Jamming the ruler against the pelvis emerged gradually as the best way to control for body-fat levels, which can make penises of exactly the same size seem to differ.) This was the gold standard most experts used in their clinical studies, which concluded that the average erect penis is 5.16 inches long and has an average circumference of 4.59 inches.

But this data came largely from Caucasian and Middle Eastern men, making it unlikely they’d captured a truly global penile average. Seeking to get a better sense of natural erections, and possibly pull data from a wider field of subjects than expensive and geographically restricted clinical studies permit, at least some researchers have opted for self-reporting that tries to control for the kind of overstatements that proliferated in Kinsey’s data. Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a professor and sexuality researcher, and her colleagues at Indiana University published a notable paper in 2014 based on 1,661 self-measurements pulled from a larger study on condom fit. Investigating how condom fit influenced function, they found an average erect length of 5.57 inches.

Herbenick’s study revealed yet another wrinkle for researchers, however.

She believes her team was the first to explore how the mode of arousal may influence the size of an erection. “Men who reported receiving oral sex in order to get their erection for measurement,” she says, “had a longer measurement” on average than men who used other methods of stimulation. This raises all new questions about how researchers can find a real average when it’s possible that different types of arousal might yield perceptibly different measurements of the same penis, even on the same day.

Ultimately, there are no studies that have measured the naturally erect male penis. So we really don’t know what the average size of a truly wild, representative erect penis is. Experts are still dreaming up new ways of taking penile measurements and muse about using 3-D imaging or thermography technology for more accurate readings, to be conducted perhaps while a subject watches an erotic film in isolation to get naturally aroused. That plan might provide a more reliable measurement—of girth as well, a metric that has been far less studied and debated. But it would likely do little to tackle the sample-size and composition issues that plague measurement studies, or the issue of unclear turgidity differences across time and stimuli. The truth is, creating a practical study that could tackle all of the complications of penis measurement is way harder than you’d expect.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Yes, mindful masturbation is a thing and it’s not as boring or out there as it might sound. Here’s how to expand and further develop what you once thought were your sexual limits.

But before I get started, let me point you to another thing that can deeply influence your sex life and make it ten times better. I’m talking about my program – Unbreakable Erections – and this mindful masturbation thing will help in this respect as well, by the way. But back to my most recent program. If you are only somewhat hard… or worse… not hard at all… then that can not only hurt your sex life… but even destroy your entire relationship. But fret not, I’m here to help you techniques that will for sure make you hard as a rock every time you have sex.

Mindfulness + Masturbation = A match made in Pleasure Heaven?

Stay with me for a second, will you? For many men out there, you included perhaps, masturbation is about focusing on the penis and getting the job done as quickly and efficiently as possible. But in order to masturbate in a mindful manner, you need to use your whole body, and all your senses. That means you’re not supposed to be racing for the finish line and your orgasm isn’t the primary goal of the process.

Then what’s the point to masturbating?

It can make sex hugely better by simply broadening your pleasure horizons. When masturbation involves a simple formula that you depend on every time you give yourself a hand job and you always rely on the same particular habits and techniques, it neurologically wires your body and arousal in a limited and rigid way.

Here’s how to master this mindful thing

For starters, try other approaches: see if your body might like something different just as much as (or more than) your standard session. Do you always sit? Try standing. Are you always quiet? Make some noise. Try it all. Pay attention to everything. How does your skin feel when you touch yourself? What temperature feels best, what textures and sensations do you experience? This way, you’re finally becoming more focused on your senses rather than just on the end goal: your ejaculation. When you start to slow down your pace, you experience sex with yourself in ways you might have been too impatient or hurried to notice before. Other important aspect? If you only masturbate with a little help from your porn friends, maybe it’s time to take a break from the naughty flicks and try it your way.

Don’t worry, it will still be easy to get in the zone

Each man has a personal inventory of sexual experiences, both fictional and real, that he can draw on while masturbating to get himself to that next level of arousal. A recent poll  from dating website IllicitEncounters.com found that these fantasies can run the gamut from coworkers (27 per cent) to friends (25 per cent) to complete strangers (29 per cent). But the most popular get-hot material, picked by 55 per cent of respondents, is hot sex with an ex partner.

Thinking of an old flame is normal, don’t freak out

This is perfectly normal. Reliving or replaying past experiences in your mind doesn’t mean you have unresolved feelings for a former partner. People are very much capable of having fantasies that they don’t want to make a reality. Do you still feel weird about doing it? You shouldn’t. Why? Well, first of all, those sex throwbacks nestled comfortably in your memory bank aren’t that accurate actually. And second, they’re less about your actual memories of your ex partner and probably more about your memories of your own self.

Let me further explain this to you. The hottest most erotic memories in a man’s vault are actually of him being a sex god in a past relationship – even if that’s far from true. A 2014 Duke University study found that men are more unreliable narrators than women when it comes to certain aspects of their sex backstories. “And when men were in a great mood, they recalled having better erections and better orgasms than they actually did,” says Dr Kevin P. Weinfurt, the Duke professor of psychiatry who led the study. This is a good thing, actually. Why? Because that distorted memory of yourself may help you feel more confident and valid the next time you have real sex.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Early ejaculation, premature ejaculation, and rapid ejaculation all describe the problem of not having the amount of control you desire over your ejaculation. You may want to be able to delay ejaculation so that you can prolong intercourse or other sex play that requires an erection. It can be frustrating not to have control of the timing of your ejaculation. Luckily, you can rely on others’ experience and find a way to sort this out once and for all. Thanks to my friend David Messent’s 3 Steps Stamina program, I have found this incredible shortcut to every man’s dream.

Early ejaculation affects a lot of men at some point or other in their lives. It is very common in young men who are just beginning to explore their sexuality. It can also happen with men of any age, particularly if you have not had much sex recently, if you have performance anxiety, or if you are in some way challenged by your relationship dynamics. Fortunately, lack of ejaculatory control is rarely the result of a physiological problem.

Ways to Improve Ejaculatory Control

Ejaculation control is a skill that can be learned. Mastery over your ejaculation is best gained by experimenting while self-pleasuring. Start by masturbating until you are close to orgasm. Carefully notice the sensations that tell you your orgasm is approaching. When you can identify these sensations, you know when you need to distract yourself or stop the stimulation if you want to delay orgasm. After you have mastered deciding when and when not to orgasm during masturbation, you can begin experimenting with a partner. The challenge then is to assert yourself in whatever way you need to control the stimulation you are receiving.

There are two simple ways to decrease your arousal when you feel orgasm may be approaching, self-distraction and the stop-and-start technique. In self-distraction, you mentally distract yourself from the pleasurable sensations. You can think of things that have a neutralizing effect on your arousal, keeping it in a holding pattern, or that actually have a counter-effect and decrease your arousal. This works to delay ejaculation for some. The stop-and-start technique involves stopping any genital stimulation before you reach the point of ejaculatory inevitability, taking a break and resuming stimulation until you approach that point again.

Other methods include the squeeze technique, wherein you squeeze the penis hard just below the glans for twenty to thirty seconds just before you feel you are about to come. Do this several times before you finally let yourself ejaculate. Doing pelvic floor exercises can also help significantly with ejaculatory control. If your PC muscle gets strong enough, you should be able to control ejaculation by simply squeezing it just before the point of no return. Yet another method is to desensitize your penis with the use of thicker condoms, two condoms, or desensitizing cream. The creams will also affect your lover, so make sure she is okay with that.

If you also have problems with getting and maintaining an erection…

Erectile difficulty is sometimes the result of a medical condition or aging, but the problem can also be psychological or interpersonal. Knowing the cause will help in assessing what kind of treatment may help. To figure this out, ask yourself whether the erectile difficulty happens primarily with a lover or if it also occurs during self-pleasuring. If everything works fine when you are self-pleasuring, then chances are the cause is emotional or interpersonal.

Interpersonal difficulties are common. Men often don’t realize when their preconditions for having sex are not met. Most people need to feel comfortable with their partner for their bodies to perform naturally. Your mind might say yes to sex, but your body may not be ready if you do not feel emotionally safe. Lack of erection can be a sign that your mind and your emotions are in conflict. If you are having difficulties in your relationship, particularly with intimacy, you may want to see a couples’ counselor who specializes in sexuality.

If the erectile difficulty occurs while self-pleasuring, there still could be an emotional cause. You may be unconsciously carrying around some shame about sex or you may have fears of being an inadequate lover. Unfortunately, erectile inconsistency can itself lead to performance anxiety. This anxiety can make getting an erection even more difficult. If you are experiencing this kind of negative spiral, it is important to get support. Stop and talk with your partner about how you feel and what you need. When you become more skilled at meeting your preconditions for sex, your sexual functioning is bound to go more smoothly.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Increasing the duration of the sexual act is one way of making sure both partners enjoy themselves. There are ways of achieving this and avoiding possible frustration. Put this into practice, and ensure that all your sexual encounters are completely pleasurable.

But before you worry yourself with lasting long enough and prolonging the sexual act, let’s see about getting the girl in the first place. With this my friend Ronnie Chew can help you in more ways than one. His program, Speak Her Sex Language, will help you become fluent in the secret erotic language patterns of your woman so much so that with just a few simple words you will be able to unleash a flood of lust in her body and mind. 

Now back to our topic, because if you got the girl, you also have to know what to do with her and how to make sure that particular “doing” doesn’t last just a couple of menial minutes. 

During sex…

You must first and foremost do you best to breathe abdominally. Through the use of deep breathing, you may control the heart rate and then the level of sexual arousal. When your heart rate increases and ejaculation is near, you must then interrupt penetration for a couple of moments.

To regain the initial rhythm, you must withdraw your penis from your partner’s vagina, breathe deeply, and hold your breath while clenching your anus muscles hard. You must close your eyes, press your tongue against your palate, and focus your mind. You may also avoid emitting semen by holding the gland of your penis and firmly pressing the frenulum with your thumb. You should not resume sex until the desire to ejaculate has completely vanished.

When ejaculation is very near… 

You should put your thumb on the lower part of the penis and squeeze. Another way of controlling ejaculation is by holding the penis with the entire hand and pressing down on the tip with the thumb. Applying pressure in this way reduces the penis’s sexual energy and stops the desire to ejaculate.

There is also an exercise that develops the love muscle, which affects the retention of semen, and I think it’s worth mentioning and trying out. 

Breathe in while clenching your anus hard, until you feel the base of your pelvis lifting and your penis moves. Hold in the air and keep clenching for a few seconds. Exhale and relax. Repeat this exercise several times a day.

You may also work this muscle when you use the restroom: clench your anus hard before you are done urinating, thereby cutting off the stream. Hold for a few seconds and relax again. Clench and relax about five times until you have no more urine left, and hold each clench for about ten seconds.

The sex position of your choosing also affects the duration of coitus.

Starting from a face to face position, there are two roads you can take and they’re very different in terms of speeding up or delaying your ejaculation. If most of the friction happens between the base of the penis and the clitoris using vertical movement, the your partner’s orgasm will happen sooner while your orgasm and therefore your ejaculation is delayed. If, on the other hand, most of the friction happens between the gland of the penis and the walls of the vagina using horizontal movement, it is your pleasure that will be heightened.

One position that aids in the retention of semen is called the fish with overlapping scales, in which you lie face up and your partner sits on top of you, causing gravity to exert pressure in the direction opposite than that at which semen will be expelled.

Hot kisses, 

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. When you find that special woman, you want all your lovemaking to last forever and be filled with extraordinary pleasure and deep orgasms. 

To find out more about simple secrets that instantly make you last longer in bed, you can check out my program Last Longer Tonight. Whether you last 30 seconds, 2 minutes, or 20, this program will show you practical techniques on how to have more control over when you come.

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