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Author: Fidan

  • 7 Days of Pure Pleasure

    7 Days of Pure Pleasure

    When I talk to the readers of my website and other materials, they all have one resounding message in common: they want to having more sex. Some of them are in great relationships, but just wouldn’t mind having sex more often, and others are in relationships where they’re totally dissatisfied with how much sex they’re having. Then there is everything in between. If you find that you fall somewhere on that scale of dissatisfaction, I’ve got good news for you. I have a week long plan of how to have and give pleasure for 7 whole days. If you’re successful in pulling of this 7 day challenge, you’re sure to be having more sex with your partner, once she sees how amazing it can be with her.

    Day 1

    In order to be totally successful in this challenge, you need to be focusing on the emotional, as well as the physical connection you have with your partner. So, everyday you should focus one action on improving your emotional connection with your partner and one action on connecting on a sexual level.

    Sexual – Give your partner a full-body massage, complete with massage oil, dimmed lighting, and soft music. Let it end where it ends. She might want to give you a massage in return, she might want to have sex. Or she might just say “thank you.” Don’t have any expectations and don’t ask for anything in return. If something happens, great! If it doesn’t, just enjoy giving pleasure to your partner and leave it at that.

    Emotional – Sit and talk for at least 30 minutes, sharing stories and information about your day and how you’re doing. Don’t look at your cell phones, computers, TV or any other distraction during this time.

    Day 2

    Sexual – Today is a day to try mutual masturbation. This can be defined in a few different ways. First, you can each use your hands to masturbate the other person (you can finger her and gently massage her clit with your hands and she will jerk you off). You can do this simultaneous or you can take turns (I suggest taking turns so that each person can focus completely on either giving or receiving without any distractions). The other way to mutually masturbate is to touch yourselves while you watch each other. This can be really sexy and a huge turn on for some couples.

    Emotional – Ask your partner to invite you to share one of her favorite activities with you. It should be something that you don’t usually do together, but that it important to her.

    Day 3

    Sexual – Ask your partner to be the boss in the bedroom tonight. She gets to decide what you do and how you do it. Pay attention! This is a great opportunity to learn more about what she likes and how she likes to be touched.

    Emotional – Take your partner to do one of your favorite activities so that you can experience something you love with her.

    Day 4

    Sexual – Have sex somewhere in the house that is NOT your bed. It can be on the dresser in your bedroom or on the floor… or you can get wild and do it in another room all together!

    Emotional – Commit to eating every meal together today. Have breakfast together in the morning (no screens, no newspapers), try to have lunch together if it’s possible and then again at night for dinner.

    Day 5

    Sexual – Try out some dirty talk. You can either try talking dirty to each other while you’re doing foreplay or having sex, or you can try sharing some personal fantasies that really get you turned on. This will help increase communication and comfort around sex, which is really important to a healthy relationship!

    Emotional – Go out on a date. This time she picks the place and makes the plan.

    Day 6

    Sexual – Take a shower together. The act of washing each other and being wet and naked is VERY erotic for most people. Have fun, but do it without any expectations of where it will lead. No pressure.

    Emotional – This time it’s your turn to pick the date night and plan it out.

    Day 7

    Sexual – This is the final day, you’ve made it! Today it’s all about oral sex. Get your partner to be specific about what she likes (and doesn’t like!). Oral sex is the ultimate gift you can gift in the bedroom.

    Emotional – Spend an hour cuddling together. You can do this on the couch or in bed, but it should be strictly cuddling, no sex. Intimacy is about a lot more than sex!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Make the ultimate sex connection

    If you’re looking to add a little heat and a lot of intimacy to your sex life – and who isn’t – the ancient practice of Tantric sex might be the answer. Some people think that Tantric sex is cultish or that it’s about making love for hours on end. But it’s actually a simple and accessible way for people to raise their lovemaking energy, make a spiritual connection with their partner, and break down boundaries. Plus, it can give the both of you truly incredible orgasms. What’s not to like? Here’s my step-by-step guide to sex that doesn’t involve pretzel poses or bedroom marathons, but it does ensure a stronger, closer erotic bond.

    Step 1: Ask her to join you

    Instead of trying to squeeze in a quickie, take the time to ask your partner to embark on this sexual experience with you. Asking each other’s permission before you begin ensures that you’re not taking each other for granted and establishes respect for both your partner and the act. Try saying something like, “I’m really looking forward to making love with you, and feeling closer and more connected.” Feel a little silly? Go ahead and giggle – even Tantric sex can be playful.

    Step 2: Set the scene

    Take the time to create a sensual setting and mood. You want everything in the room to be pleasing to the eye. Try draping richly colored cloths around your bedroom, lighting incense or candles, and placing items to which you two have an emotional attachment – photos, gifts, an erotic book – around the room. Another mood enhancer? Draw a bath and sink into the tub together (and lather each other up). The point is to make your woman feel like a goddess and to set aside time that you normally wouldn’t so that it’s special.

    Step 3: Reach out and touch each other

    A full-body massage helps stimulate the seven energy centers, or chakras, throughout your body, so you’re aroused from head to toe. Start massaging your partner’s hands and wrists, then move up the arms and shoulders until you reach the chest. Next, starting from the feet and ankles, work your way up the legs and thighs until you reach the belly. This sequence helps awaken her sexual energy. When you’re done massaging her, have her do the same for you – this puts your energies in tune and helps create a sense of union, not to mention that it feels pretty darn good.

    Step 4: Take a breath

    Now that you’re relaxed, aroused, and connected, heighten these feelings with some synchronized breathing. Sit facing each other with your knees touching or with her straddling your lap. You can be clothed or naked, whatever feels best for you. Take a minute to gaze silently into each other’s eyes, and then breathe in and out in unison for at least five minutes. Doing this puts you in the same spiritual space and synchronizes your energy. It’s all a part of conscious lovemaking. From there, start alternating inhalations and exhalations. As you breathe in, she breathes out. You’ll create a circle of breath that is very sexually arousing, even though nothing has happened in your genitals.

    Step 5: Reach your peak

    While superintense orgasms aren’t the main goal of Tantric sex, a big playoff never hurts. Increase the buildup by thinking of sex as a buffet, rather than a three-course meal. In regular sex, you’ll have foreplay, then intercourse, then cuddle. In Tantric sex, you’ll have a little foreplay, then maybe a bit of intercourse, then you might stop to go back to massage, then foreplay again, then feed each other some fruit, then back to intercourse. You reach an energy high multiple times over the course of the journey, each one more intense than the last. By the time you’ve reached the point where you’re ready to release these energies and orgasm, the result can be an intensely magical – and pleasurable – experience.

    If you are not single, and you are looking to add fiery soul to your lovemaking and you’ve always wanted to know more about Tantric sex, check out my program. You’ll find everything you need there.

    Kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

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  • Get close during the holidays with tantric sex tips – Part 1

    Get close during the holidays with tantric sex tips – Part 1

    You may have heard about tantra or tantric sex, maybe at your local sex shop or on the internet — it’s a pretty trendy concept nowadays. But what is tantra exactly? And more importantly, how can you add its principles to your sex life?

    The origins of tantra are hard to pin down, since it’s been around for thousands of years, but we know the ancient practice appears in Hinduism and Buddhism (just maybe not exactly as pop culture would have you believe). At its core, tantra is all about awareness, mindfulness, and connection. The general definition of tantra is to weave, to unify, and to mesh.

    So yes, that means tantric sex tips are heavily based in relationship 101 tools, such as communicating, to achieve unification with your partner. And the great part about tantra is that it isn’t stiff — it’s all about unifying with your partner so you can both enjoy yourselves. But that doesn’t mean it’s not intimidating if you’ve never tried incorporating its principles into your sex life before.

    If you’re looking for where to start, here are some tantric sex tips that you can try whether you’re a tantra first-timer or not, and they will definitely come in handy this holiday season, when all you want is connect with your loved one on all possible levels.

    Mix it up

    Add new elements to your tantric practice by trying something different, whether that’s pausing during sex to just kiss and explore each others’ bodies, or trying out a new position. I believe any position can be a tantric position. Get creative and mindfully add a new twist for a different tantric experience.

    Prep your mind.

    Getting ready for tantric sex requires not only physical, but mental preparation. Since tantra is a spiritual practice, I recommend you start first with yoga and meditation. By getting in touch with your energy and learning how to control your breathing, you’ll build the foundations for engaging in tantric sex later on.

    Slow things down.

    Tantra is all about the journey, not the destination. Have patience with yourself and with your partner, and really take the time to explore each other and what feels good. Try touching each other, and understanding that everything is more about pleasure first, and then the orgasm comes after. Don’t rush through foreplay or even through acts such as removing each other’s clothes. Instead, zone in and focus on every moment, how it makes you feel and how it connects you with your partner.

    Discover the energy orgasm.

    Several tantra experts tout the importance of investigating breath and energy orgasms, which are derived from the practice of not restricting sexual energy to the act of sex alone. Learn more about what an orgasm is, and how to have orgasms that are non-genitally focused. You can start doing just that by diving into the history of orgasm research and little-known ways to climax at new heights from a tantric perspective.

    Enjoy cunnilingus.

    Women are capable of achieving over 11 different types of orgasms. What’s one of those orgasms? You guessed it: clitoral. To give your partner a clitoral orgasm when having tantric sex, I suggest trying cunnilingus for direct stimulation. So, what’s the secret to making your cunnilingus intentionally tantric? Both parties should be present. The whole goal of tantra is to get present in your body so that you connect with yourself and your partner. During cunnilingus, ask your partner to focus on her breath, while you look up and make eye contact.

    Write a list of what turns you on.

    Tantra is friendly to first-timers, but it still requires you to do a little bit of homework (don’t worry, it’s fun). Since communication is the key to forming the connection tantric sex is all about, it’s important that you understand what turns you on before you communicate your sexual wants and needs. So write a list of what turns you on and urge your partner to do the same. After each of you has finished their list, exchange them and talk them out. Not only will this activity turn into a steamy brainstorm session — it’s pretty much dirty talk — but it’s a wonderful opportunity to learn more about yourself and your lover. Plus, any kink mentioned on the list, from role-playing to BDSM, can be tantric when done intentionally.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more tips on how to enrich your lovemaking this holiday, check out my program on the matter, Energy Orgasms.

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  • Get close during the holidays with tantric sex tips – Part 2

    Get close during the holidays with tantric sex tips – Part 2

    I couldn’t cover the broad subject of tantric sex in just one article, so here’s the second part of my tantric sensual journey so that you truly get close to your partner this holiday season. Check all these tips out and try them when mood hits.

    Utilize all senses during kissing.

    Kissing in tantric sex isn’t just about the act itself — it’s important to engage all of your senses.

    Sight: As you are able, look at your partner’s lips, their face, their eyes. What do they look like to you? What about them makes you smile and feel loving? Keep your eyes open while kissing, at least in the beginning.

    Smell: I recommend focusing on your partner’s pheromones, rather than artificial smells like perfume. The way your partner’s breath smells is just as important as the way their body and hair smells. If you really let the pheromones do their job and the chemistry between you two work, the smell of their breath will titillate you!

    Taste: Since your senses of taste and smell are connected, try playing with different flavours to enhance your erotic experience. You can both share delicious palette cleansers, like strawberries, blueberries, chocolate, mint, or even chew fennel seeds to spice it up a bit.

    Touch: The lips aren’t the only erogenous zone on the face. I encourages exploring your partner’s lips, cheek bones, eyelids, and eyebrows with your hands, lips, tongue, and even your eyelashes. Touching the jaw, lips, or chin while you’re tongue-kissing can also be a huge turn on. This can be done softly, firmly, or some also like this done roughly while kissing.

    Sound: We know it’s important to be vocal during sex, but that extends to kissing, too. Listen to the feedback your partner gives you when you kiss them (and make sure to give feedback of your own). Focusing on the sensual sounds you make while kissing can propel you to another level of arousal entirely.

    Explore kink.

    By exploring kink and BDSM, you can channel an open-mindedness that allows for the connections tantra is all about. When you’re putting yourself in a vulnerable position, you’re putting yourself in a position to be cracked open, which is such a huge part of tantra. Whether that means you’re blindfolded and waiting for a whip to make contact with your bum, or you’re simply sharing your secret fetishes, you can really tap into tantric sex principles, including making eye contact and being aware of your breath. Once you learn how to make yourself vulnerable to your partner, that’s where transformation happens.

    Talk during sex.

    When it comes to kissing, touching, and sex, it’s all about the connection — and one of the best ways to foster this connection is to talk to your partner while you’re doing all of these things.

    Rather than simply guessing that a moan during oral sex means your partner enjoys that technique, or being worried that silence means they’re bored, step up your tantric sex game and actually talk about what you enjoy while you’re enjoying it. Moaning is great, but try to use your words to verbalise exactly what you like about your partner’s technique and what’s happening in the moment. When you discuss your pleasure with your partner and give her praise and appreciation, number one it makes them want to do it more, number two it builds intimacy and trust.

    Synchronize your breathing.

    Stop what you’re doing and take 10 deep, long breaths. Feel better? I thought so. I recommend taking 10 deep breaths before initiating touch with your partner to ground yourself. Once things start to get sexy, you can take your tantric breathing exercises a step further by synchronizing your breaths with your partner. These breathing practices are best done when facing your partner, so try a face-to-face sex position like Lotus, and then look into each other’s eyes and follow each other’s breaths until they match. When you harmonize your breath, this allows for this juicy energetic connection to occur, specifically if you’re sitting genital to genital.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more tips on how to enrich your lovemaking this holiday, check out my program on the matter, Energy Orgasms.

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  • New Squirting Information Discovered!

    When new information comes out about sexuality I like to share it with my readers here on my website. After all, the more we know about sex, the better we will be at it. Unfortunately, there is very little research done on sexuality and even less on female sexuality and pleasure. So when I have good and juicy information to share, I can’t wait to do so! One of the least researched topics in female sexuality is female ejaculation and that’s why I’m especially excited to share a new study with you today.

    Female ejaculation is a highly debated subject in the human sexuality world. Some claim all women can do it and if they haven’t it’s only because they haven’t had the right kind of stimulation. Others, especially women who have tried it and not succeeded, swear that they have tried it all and they just can’t do it. Unless more research is done on the topic we won’t ever know more about this mysterious bodily function.

    Today, however, we know a little more than we did before about female ejaculation. Here’s what I found out…

    The Basics

    For those of you who aren’t yet familiar with the subject, female ejaculation is when a woman expels fluid out of her urethra (this is the same tube that urine comes out of and the same tube that men ejaculate and pee out of). The amount of fluid can range from a teaspoon to a cup. The consistency varies as well. Some ejaculate is thin, clear and watery, while others have ejaculate that is milky and sticky. They are still not sure how many women experience ejaculation. The estimates range from 10% to 40% of the female population.

    So, what is this ejaculate made up of anyway?

    A lot of debate has occurred regarding female ejaculate and what it’s made of. Some people think that a woman has actually lost control of her bladder and has peed, but others insist this isn’t the case. Even women who have experienced it worry that they have urinated. This is probably because female ejaculation occurs from stimulating the G spot, which is located just on the other side of the urethra, inside the woman’s body. Stimulating the G spot often makes a woman feel like she needs to pee, even if she has just gone to the bathroom. If she continues to receive stimulation to this area to the point of orgasm and ejaculation, she might worry that in the excitement and intensity of her orgasm she lost control over her bladder. However, a new study shows that this is not the case. a new study took a small sample of women who reported “ejaculating” when sexually stimulated.

    First, the researchers took a urine sample from the women. They then did an ultrasound of the bladder to make sure that it was completely empty before the women were told to either masturbate or have sex until the point of climax. Right before climaxing the researchers took another ultrasound scan and a sample of the fluid expelled. Then they took one final scan of the bladder after climax. What they found was that the women’s bladders completely filled up again during sexual stimulation and then that fluid was expelled during a climax. Upon examining the makeup of the fluid they discovered that in 2 of the 7 women in the study the fluid was identical to the urine sample taken before. In other words, in that case, the ejaculate was pee. In the other 5 women, they found another element in the expelled ejaculate/urine. They found a prostate-specific antigen that is found in male ejaculate. They believe that this fluid was expelled from the Skene’s gland (sometimes referred to as the female prostate).

    The scientists performing this study feel that every woman should be able to ejaculate in this way if stimulated correctly. Still, the study leaves us with many unanswered questions. First, it needs to be repeated with many more participants. Why do the women’s bladders fill up completely during sexual stimulation? Where is that fluid coming from and what is triggering its production?

    As always, there is a lot more research that needs to be done about “squirting” in order to better understand the female sexual system and pleasure. Some people might now feel uncomfortable with squirting knowing that the fluid released is, in part or completely, urine. But that doesn’t change the fact that it is ejaculation related to sexual pleasure. The woman isn’t peeing on you, she is ejaculating! I suppose it depends on your perspective. Until we know more, fellas, keep exploring with your partners and have a blast!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Make sex hella romantic

    Make sex hella romantic

    No doubt about it: Fast, hot, rip-your-clothes-off sex can add plenty of excitement to a relationship. But when it comes to overall coupled-up bliss, slow, sweet, sensual nights in bed have the biggest impact. These sexperiences capitalize on the power of bonding hormones to make you both feel more physically and emotionally intertwined. So try the following 15 (scientifically proven!) moves to max out on lovey-dovey feelings.

    Try a Tender Touch

    GENTLE STROKES…

    Often when we’re having sex, it’s passionate grasping, which is delightful, but switching up the intensity of our touch can create new sensations that enhance the romantic bond. During intercourse, try caressing your mate softly, running your hands and fingertips over their skin to stimulate nerve cells that respond to light touch.

    …IN SURPRISING SPOTS

    Roaming over unexpected areas of each other’s bodies – your faces, jawlines, collarbones, inner thighs or legs – signals that you’re enjoying every inch of one another, not just the sex. Use your hand as a magic wand of exploration. If it wants to go somewhere it typically wouldn’t, go there anyway.

    The power of touch is immense, and Silent Seduction, a new program by my friend Brett, taps into it and offers you a stealthy way of seducing women. Don’t think pickup lines or anything, but a real technique with real results, that will change the sexual dynamic between you and the woman you’re with, even if she’s your partner for years and years or a beauty you’ve just met and are trying to get into bed. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

    Have a Tantric Kiss

    During positions in which you’re face-to-face, bring your lips in super-close so that you’re almost (but not quite) kissing, then inhale when your partner exhales. The sensation that you’re almost breathing for each other is extremely potent and quite erotic.

    Use Your Words

    Speaking up as the action intensifies can boost the happy chemicals serotonin and dopamine in your brain. Here are three intimate AF ways to express yourself.

    WHISPER SWEET THINGS

    Murmuring to bae prompts an automatic bodily response that can feel like arousing tingling down their neck. Use the word you (as in, ‘You turn me on so much’) to let your SO know you’re zoned in on them. Bonus: research suggests they’re likely to follow your steamy instructions if you whisper in their right ear.

    DRAW OUT THE DETAILS

    As you’re making love, go out of your way to express your reaction audibly to every good touch and sight. It doesn’t even have to be a sexual reference; try flattering phrases like ‘I love the way your skin feels’ or ‘I like how you curve right here’. When you let your partner know what you see as special about them, it builds your bond.

    MAKE MOANS MEANINGFUL

    People love hearing their own names. It lets us know that we matter, which may seem silly, but the subconscious thrives on recognition. Moan your lover’s name whenever the sex feels amaze. Or as you’re about to orgasm, call out their name (‘Oh, yes, X…’) to experience a powerful emotional connection as you climax.

    Keep Your Eyes Up

    As you’re going down on your partner, look into their eyes with a sexy, steady gaze. Eye contact with a lusty grin can communicate volumes in one look.

    Be Open to Receiving

    All too often, people – and especially men – enter sex with the expectation that they need to be the giver throughout the session. But allowing yourself to receive pleasure can help you feel more love and attention from your partner. By being vulnerable and letting go of what you think you should be doing, you can accept the full breadth of what your partner is offering you.

    3 positions for making sweet love

    The Sugar Spoon

    As the big spoon, hook your partner’s upper leg back over you. Rub her clitoris with one hand.

    WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. Maximum body contact signals ‘You. More, please.’

    The Couch Rocker

    Sit on the edge of a couch, then have your partner sit on your lap and rock gently while holding you tight.

    WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. It’s basically a hug with orgasm potential. And it’s easy to make out face-to-face.

    The Figure 8

    While your partner lies on her back with her knees raised and bent, and a pillow under her butt, you can grind against her in slow circles.

    WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. The friction gives you both time to build up to an intense climax.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. To discover more advanced tips and techniques on female orgasms CLICK HERE NOW!

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  • What’s the deal with tantric sex

    Yes, it’s a thing! We’ve got tips that will elevate your average bedroom sesh into a soul-stirring one.

    Gone are the days when sex was an act of reproduction or pleasure. It’s broken free of its restrictive definition of ‘the penetration of a vagina by a penis’ and has evolved into something a lot more intense and complex. We’ve grown into mastering the art of connecting on a deeper level, where love and lust collide, making the bond between two souls much stronger. Confused? Fear not, we’ve got you covered.

    So, how do you even begin to achieve this type of passion? Through a little something called tantric sex. Sexual intercourse is no longer an act of body-on-body pleasure or a prerequisite to building a family. It’s much more than that. It’s the most intimate way two bodies and souls can become one, and tantric sex is no different. All it does is make you slow down and relax enough to feel a sense of intense awareness and control. It teaches you to be present in yourself, as well as with your partner in every possible way.

    Whether you have been together for six months or six years, never lose sight of the connection. Keep igniting that spark to ensure the intimate energy, that connects you as you are, grows with time. You need to bring down the walls and expand your horizons. Share your vulnerabilities. Let your biggest fears and your biggest insecurities ground you to Earth as one.

    Tantric sex can help you achieve this. You might not see the results overnight, but in the long run, your efforts will pay off. If you’re new to tantric sex, what will help you is first to try my Tongue Twister program, which basically teaches you how to slowly “torture” your partner with tongue exercises that truly… burn.

    STEP 1 Block out about three to four hours, and make sure any, and all kinds of distractions—work, kids, or family— are completely taken care of. You will need this time for the two of you.

    STEP 2 Create a romantic, calm, and relaxing atmosphere. Dim the lights, or switch them off and use candles (bonus points if they’re scented!). Prep a playlist with slow instrumental music and play in the background. You will need: massage oils, towels, pillows, a few snacks and something to drink.

    STEP 3 Step into the bath together. Let the warm water caress your skin and calm your body. Look into your partner’s eyes, watch the way her body moves and the way water flows through her hair. Encourage her to do the same to you. Outline her body with your fingertips, but keep in mind not to engage in sexual activities yet. Let a serene feeling settle in you, calming your nerves.

    STEP 4 Once out of the bathroom, sit apart from each other (without facing each other). Both of you need to close your eyes and relax. Take slow but steady breaths. Focus on inhaling and exhaling until you feel your mind is at ease and completely free of other thoughts and disturbances. HINT: You won’t be able to master this overnight, but remember, practice makes perfect.

    STEP 5 Sit cross-legged, facing each other (or in any other intimate position you prefer). Let your knees and hands touch. Share each other’s energy and emotions. Synchronise your breathing to match your boo’s and let your minds, souls, and bodies connect. HINT: This, too, takes time. So keep at it, until it comes easily to you both.

    STEP 6 Have your partner lie down and give her a slow and sensual full-body massage. Keep your mind from wandering and focus on what’s happening now, both within yourself, as well as with your partner. End the massage with a long and intense genital massage. If you feel she’s about to climax, focus her attention elsewhere, prolonging her orgasm as much as possible. Focus on other parts of her body and allow that feeling to spread to the rest of her body. Be sure to communicate and ask her what she likes and what feels good. This is key. HINT: She may (or may not) orgasm, but remember the big O is not your goal here. Rather, it is to be aware of every touch.

    STEP 7 After she recovers, ask her to give you the same massage. She should pay attention to your body language and sounds, understanding that your wants and desires may not be similar to what she enjoys. She should maintain intimate contact with you through her hands, kisses, or soft words of love. HINT: Again, your orgasm is not the goal; making you feel good and helping you maintain concentration is.

    STEP 8 Once both of you recover from the massages, stay immobile in an intimate position. The recommended position in tantric sex is Yab Yum, believed to be more intimate. Your partner sits on your lap with her legs wrapped around you, and with your genitals connected. Stay still in this position taking in every part of your partner, breathing together and gazing into each other’s eyes until you feel a deep and undeniable connection filled with desire.

    STEP 9 Slowly reposition yourself as you prefer without breaking the connection you’ve built throughout the previous steps. Then, make slow, long and passionate love the way you usually would.

    STEP 10 Include tantric sex into your love life as much as possible to master the art of truly connecting through your mind, body, and soul as one.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. If you need more inspiration for what to do when it comes to massaging your partner’s genitals, check out my Tongue Twister program. It contains some tongue massages that you’ll most definitely want to have in your erotic repertoire. She’ll scream in delight!

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  • Forbidden Massage That Drives Women Crazy

    Her Gateway to Explosive Release

    Last night, Steve’s hands turned my body into fire. He didn’t thrust. He didn’t lick. He simply massaged… slowly, deliberately, like he was sculpting me out of warm clay. My hips arched. My thighs trembled. And then it hit me—the most unexpected wave of orgasm I’d ever felt.

    When I finally gasped, “What was that?” Steve whispered, “Yoni massage.”

    I’d heard the word before, but never lived it. So I did what I always do: I researched. And Darling, what I found explains exactly why that massage sent me into uncharted pleasure. “Yoni” is the Sanskrit word for the vagina—sacred, sensual, powerful. A Yoni massage is not just foreplay. It’s an erotic ceremony of touch that awakens every nerve ending, opens her body fully, and often… makes her squirt.

    And once you learn to do it? You’ll never be forgotten.

    Inside Explosive Ejaculation Stimulation, I show you exactly how to perform this—with explicit demonstrations from Lena Paul (my voluptuous superstar guest) and Alexa Grace (my angel-faced blonde who melts in your hands). Watch it here: Click to unlock her squirting release.

    Preparing for the Yoni Ritual

    This isn’t something you rush through. The more sacred it feels, the deeper her surrender. Here’s how to set the stage:

    The Room: Dim lights, candles, or soft amber bulbs. Make her feel like a goddess.
    The Tools: A soft towel under her hips. Warm coconut or almond oil (never cold). Optional: calming music that slows her breath.
    The Energy: Eye contact. Deep breathing together. Show her this isn’t “just sex”—it’s devotion.

    See how this energy of worship transforms her reactions inside the course with Lena and Alexa. Watch it here.

    Step-by-Step: How to Give a Yoni Massage

    Warm-Up Touches
    Begin outside her sex. Stroke her thighs, hips, and lower belly with warm oil. Linger on her breasts and inner thighs until she’s dripping with anticipation.
    Outer Yoni Worship
    Cup her vulva with your warm hand. Hold still. Let her feel seen and safe. Then trace her lips, labia, and hood with slow, teasing circles.
    Clitoral Teasing
    Don’t rush her clit. Brush lightly around it, then add pressure gradually. Think of it as coaxing, not attacking.
    Inside Exploration
    Slide one, then two oiled fingers inside. Find her G-spot and massage in slow circles, pressing upward. Combine this with clitoral touch—this is where the magic begins.
    Build and Hold
    When she starts to squirm, don’t stop. Keep the same rhythm. Her body will hover at the edge—and that’s when the gush often comes.
    Let It Flow
    If she ejaculates, don’t panic. Encourage her. Tell her how beautiful she is when she lets go. The more accepted she feels, the more explosive the release.

    Want to see this step-by-step in action? Watch me guide Lena Paul and Alexa Grace through the full massage inside Explosive Ejaculation Stimulation. Click here to watch.

    The Psychological Power of Yoni Massage

    What makes this ritual unforgettable isn’t just physical—it’s psychological. A Yoni massage tells her: “I worship you. I honor your pleasure.” This melts away her resistance, replacing it with trust and raw surrender. When she feels adored in this way, her body responds by opening fully, allowing orgasms she didn’t think were possible.

    Inside the course, you’ll see Lena Paul surrender completely while Alexa Grace gasps as her body opens to every touch. Watch it here.

    Blending the Sacred and the Wild

    What begins as slow worship can transform into raw hunger. After awakening her Yoni, you can let the ritual spill into rougher passion—pressing her against the bed, taking her deeply while she’s still trembling from the massage. This shift from tender to primal drives women crazy, because it makes them feel both cherished and ravished.

    These contrasts—worship and wildness—are what I show in Explosive Ejaculation Stimulation with Lena Paul and Alexa Grace. Click here to watch.

    Ending the Ritual: From Worship to Wild

    A Yoni massage doesn’t have to lead to sex. Sometimes, ending with her lying there in bliss, trembling and soaked, is the perfect finish. Other times, her body will beg you to take her deeper—and when you finally enter, she’ll already be drenched, raw, and desperate.

    Either way, she’ll never forget the man who gave her this gift.

    These tips help… but only the videos show how it truly looks when she squirts uncontrollably. See Lena Paul surrender while Alexa Grace moans in pure release, inside Explosive Ejaculation Stimulation. Click here to watch now.

    Hot kisses,
    Fidan Paula
    Sex Expert
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  • Know Your Lube: Oil and Silicone and Water, Oh My!

    Know Your Lube: Oil and Silicone and Water, Oh My!

    It may seem like the vast selection of lubrication available at your local sex toy store is complicated solely for the sake of making your life more difficult. You might be surprised to discover that the many different kinds of lubes available serve a wide range of purposes!

    “Different purposes?” you ask. “Isn’t lube just for… well, lubrication?”

    Well of course all those fine lubes are designed to smooth out your midnight ride, but did you know that certain lubes can put holes in your condoms, or that others can cause your favorite sex toys to melt or warp? Were you aware that some lubes are great for anal while others are best for male masturbation?

    Who knew? Well I did, of course, and that’s why you love me isn’t it?

    Lubrication comes in three standard varieties, with a few extra twists at the end: silicone, water, and oil… plus those warming, tingling, and numbing kinds.

    Slick, Sexy Silicone

    Silicone lube is great for use with condoms, and excellent for both vaginal and anal sex. It is usually very long-lasting without the tendency to gum up and get sticky like oil-based lubes. It can run from a thin liquid to a thick gel, but most often falls somewhere in between.

    Be very careful using this with any sex toys! Silicone toys, which are among the safest and most hypoallergenic variety, are not compatible with silicone lube. The combination can cause degradation of the toy, so be sure to carefully cover it up with a condom if you don’t have any other lubrication options!

    Wet, Wild Water

    Water based lubricant is the most versatile of the three groups. It can be used with condoms, with toys of any variety, and is appropriate for vaginal, anal and manual sexual stimulation of just about any kind. Some varieties of water-based lube can be quite long-lasting, but generally speaking these liquids will absorb into the skin during use. For this reason, you will likely need to reapply during extended use, and you should be extra careful about buying a brand made with quality, natural and/or organic ingredients.

    While water-based lubes tend to be the thinnest of the three varieties, certain other ingredients can be added to create gels and other thicker substances. Read your ingredient lists carefully!

    Oil & (Oil-based) Lube

    Oil-based lubes can be longer lasting than water-based, but they also have a tendency to absorb through the skin, especially if they are made from natural, edible oils. They are more likely to come in thicker creams and can be great for anal sex because of this natural staying power.

    Oil-based lubricants are not condom safe and should never be used with latex toys or sex gear. If you are enjoying some skin on skin contact though, natural oils make wonderful lubricants for tantric sexual encounters, because they can also be used as body massage oils, bath oils, even to scent the room! Coconut oil, cacao butter, avocado, and even regular kitchen olive oil make great lubes in a pinch. Be sure to choose the most natural, organic source possible and be very careful about fragrance. Just because something smells nice enough to scent your bedroom doesn’t mean it’s appropriate for your lover’s skin, especially in her most sensitive spots! If you aren’t sure, refer back to the “spot test” and do a bit of research about essential oils before creating your signature blend.

    Special Features

    Warming, cooling, or numbing lubricants are typically water-based but can come in any variety. If you want an “edible” lube, try to pick one made with the most natural ingredients, and avoid silicone at all costs, as it is known to cause stomach upset and GI distress.

    Sensational lubricants can be over-stimulating for some, so like any other bath or body product, be sure to test it on the inside of the wrist first to gauge any possible allergic reaction. Putting hot or cold substances directly onto the genitals can cause some serious discomfort, especially when the product is difficult to wash away, so be careful! Most importantly, don’t use numbing lube for anal sex, especially if you are new to it and not sure how to enjoy yourself without hurting your partner. Numbing only prevents her from feeling pain that you might be inflicting. Pain happens for a reason, so don’t cop out and mask the problem just so you can have a good time. If you can’t do something without harming your partner, you shouldn’t be doing it at all.

    Kisses,

    Fidan Paula

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  • Sex Toys at Home: Improvise and Enjoy!

    Sex Toys at Home: Improvise and Enjoy!

    I’ll be the first to admit that there are some amazing sex toys on the market today with incredible functionality and intricate designs that simply cannot be replicated with household objects.

    Things that Vibrate

    The back massager, the electric toothbrush or razor (be careful where you put that thing!), the washing machine, the cell phone… your household is likely filled with devices that are meant to vibrate!

    Just keep in mind that not all things that vibrate are meant for the hot, sticky mess that is sex, so be sure to strap one on first. Wrap your favorite device in a non-lubricated condom, or a latex/nitrile glove before you get started, and be careful. Your warranty does not cover drowning in lady juice.

    Things that Penetrate

    Go with something natural here, and make sure it’s clean – bananas (trim the rough end first, and leave the stem on for easier handling), small cucumbers or zucchinis. Don’t use anything so small that you might not be able to get it out, especially if your lover has weak pelvic muscles. Do not put anything but your fingers in her bum. The back door is especially prone to “sucking things up” so stick with your hands or an anal-specific toy.

    Try making a dildo Popsicle! Fill a lubricated condom until it is the size of a small-to-medium dildo, with water (add a bit of yogurt if you’ve been playing with bananas) and freeze it. Allow it to melt just enough that you can remove the condom, and then coat it with a natural oil-based lubricant and she what she thinks. If she is particularly sensitive, she may not enjoy the cold feeling. Try adding more lube, or a layer or two of latex, and go from there.

    Things to Get Kinky

    When you really want to spice things up a bit and need a little help from home, the variety becomes nearly endless! Any kind of kinky roleplaying, especially any kind of BDSM (bondage, discipline / dominance, submission / sadism, masochism) activity will benefit from a good rummage around the house for new and exciting toys.

    Roleplaying toys: Playing roles is kind of like theater because it is so much about set and setting. Put together a great costume; do up the room with whatever accessories you have on hand. Hang scarves or other nice fabrics from the ceiling or on a line around the bed for an exotic boudoir feel. Light some candles or put on the right music. Pull out all of your old clothes and see what kind of characters you come up with from the pile.

    Binding toys: A recurring fantasy for both men and women, the feeling of being helplessly held, free to struggle, let loose and get as wild as possible while someone else holds you tight, can be incredibly erotic. Often this begins simply by using your hands to hold her wrists at bay, her legs apart, and her shoulders down, or in her hair. If your discussions with her about roleplay and fantasy have led to talk of bondage, you can improvise with things from your clothing pile, like ties and scarves.

    If things get “damsel-on-a-railway” kinky, don’t use regular household ropes unless you know they are made from natural fibers like cotton, silk or hemp… and learn how to tie knots first so you understand how to bind safely.

    Clamping toys: Your hands work best for this one too! Many women find it intensely erotic to have their nipples stimulated with a mix of pleasure and pain, or are able to experience orgasms simply from nipple stimulation alone. If your lover seems to particularly enjoy nipple stimulation, try spending some time focused entirely on them, instead of moving past when the foreplay is done. How heavy does she like to be stimulated? You can use your fingers or your teeth, but when things move on to the extra kinky, you can play with wooden clothespins (the older ones are better, because the spring loosens and allows you to go slow to start) and see how she responds.

    Thudding and Stinging toys: When it comes to the rest of the “kinky” toys, there are two kinds – thudding or stinging. Does she like to be spanked? Does she prefer the heavy thud of a cupped hand or the light sting of an open hand? Would she enjoy moving up to a ping pong paddle or a wooden spoon? The implements available to you at this stage are wide and varied, but play with extreme caution. Try it on yourself, go slow with your partner, make sure you understand your safe words… and enjoy!

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more tips and tricks on how to incorporate naughty sex toys into your sensual repertoire, check out my program: Lusty Vibrations.

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