“Joy blooms where minds and hearts are open.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

When it comes right down to it, great sex isn’t all that hard with the right tools, foreplay, sexplay and aftercare – in other words, lots of attention and an open mind. You may struggle every step of the way with confidence and communication, but there is always help available if you’re willing to ask for it. Don’t make excuses for a bad sex life – do something about it.

We All Want It

You can psyche yourself out of revealing your secret desires all you want, but the truth of the matter is that we all like sex! There is just no getting around it. We may have different physical and emotional blockages that stop us from fully enjoying our bodies and the body of our partner, but when it comes right down to it we are all sexual beings. Ignoring that or convincing yourself that you are somehow strange or unique because of your fantasies will only lead to isolation and resentment. Sex is a normal, incredible, comforting, healing, stress-relieving, bonding good time!

Afterplay

If all your sex is after dark and you’re the roll-over-and-sleep type, you are neglecting an important part of the sexual experience – afterplay. Often called ‘aftercare’ by those who engage in powerplay and BDSM roleplaying, it is the opposite of foreplay. Whereas before sex you spend the time gearing up to a higher level of excitement, afterplay is about coming back down to earth.

Women take longer to relax and regroup after orgasm, and your lover may need reassuring or comforting regarding any issues or strange sensations that come up during play. Even a few sweet caresses and gentle cuddling can be enough to wrap up an energetic sex session to completion. Don’t leave her hanging.

Sex Schedules

Spontaneous sex is great, but to have time for all the foreplay and afterplay that goes along with sex, you’ll need to schedule time in your busy lives to relax and let go. Let your advance knowledge of your sex calender act as an aphrodisiac in and of itself! If you’re worried that a rigid schedule will take away from the spontaneity of sex, it’s time to get a bit more creative and come of with brand new ways to surprise and excite her in bed.

Sit down and talk it out. How much is enough? Too much? Are there times of the month that are better for sex than others? Don’t get too carried away – work on it together and come to a consensus for now. You can always change your mind later!

Marital Media – books, movies and more!

Aside from my own ebooks, the internet is a wealth of resources for curious lovers! There are thousands of books available from online resources, but the best way to find exactly what you want is to ask someone who knows. Couples-friendly sex toy retailers will have a wide variety of instructional books and videos, not to mention the offer of after-hours group classes and demonstrations, or personal instruction.

If you don’t need instruction, but instead are seeking just a bit of inspiration, try watching some good couple’s porn. If you haven’t watched porn in a while, or your wife is skeptical, pick a selection or two from the “Feature Film” for couple’s section. Porn has evolved into an interesting and complex art form with photos and videos available to satisfy just about any kink or plot preference! With any number of real-life or professional acted films from hilarious parody to art house indie, you can find something to please even the impossible prude. Check out great, edgy ‘legitimate’ cinema features like In the Cut, Secretary or Shortbus for a surprisingly sexy movie night without the stigma of porn.

Reach Out…

…and touch somebody. Sexologists, sex therapists and other sex professionals don’t just specialize in specific disorders like Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation. They are trained to function as guides and mediators to help improve all facets of your sex life. If you are struggling, and at home exercises from my ebooks are not quite enough to push through a specific stumbling block, take the time to find a professional who suits your needs and desires. There is no reason to suffer with an unsatisfying sex life when the secrets to great love and pleasure are right in front of you, waiting to be discovered.

 

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more interesting tips on how to turn your partner on like never before, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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”People don’t want to see me having sex… I’m the queen of the “kiss, foreplay, dissolve”. And then the “Whoo! Good morning, tiger.”– Julia Roberts

How many times have you charged in for the main course without whetting your appetite? Don’t assume foreplay is merely a polite starter before tucking into your meat and two veg. If you know how to tantalize each other’s taste buds, you’ll savor the sex even more.

Don’t think that you are doing this as a favor to her. Despite what you might have heard, foreplay is enjoyable for you too, just as much as it is for her. There’s something oh-so-sexy about anticipation, so instead of stampeding in for the grand finale, check out my guide for erotic foreplay. Tease your woman right and you’ll have her begging for more.

Here are five top moves to unleash on her. Remember, no penetration allowed… yet.

Foreplay move #1

Learn to give good phone sex

With a single call, you can get her so aroused at her desk she’ll be cutting short her afternoon faster than you can say “dentist’s appointment”. Before you call, pick your tone: flirty, seductive, romantic, macho, dominator. And do the same for the language: street, subtle, crass. When she answers, stay silent for a few seconds. Then, in your sexiest voice, describe how you’d like her to kiss you, touch and undress you. Then take her through the finer details of how you’re going to give her the most amazing oral sex ever. Non-verbal communication is a good element too. You can groan and moan, but you can also breath, stay silent and then tell her what you just did to yourself. By the time you hang up you’ll have her so hot, her main problem will be hiding the fast breathing from colleagues as she sneaks away from her desk with a head full of wicked thoughts.

Foreplay move #2

Kiss for, like, ages…

Remember when you were a teen and you kissed until your partner in crime got stubble rash? Don’t underestimate the power of the smooch now that you’re all grown up. Get cozy on the couch and kiss without it leading to anything else (and yes, that means no hand up her top). Try kissing around the edges of the lips, then run the tip of your tongue oven them. The longer you can delay before inserting your tongue, the more sensual it will be. Lift her face and teasingly kiss her around the chin and jaw, moving down to the sensitive areas of the neck and throat. If you really can’t resist taking your tongues further afield, extend your passion to a tongue bath: where you cover every inch of your lover’s body with kisses. Blindfold her it she fancies it, then make her lie still while you go to work caressing and nibbling.

Foreplay move #3

Flirt with food

Bearing in mind that women have healthy appetites as well, though they try to hide it for fear of losing their figure, what more deliciously inappropriate a place to unleash your inner passion that a restaurant? While you’re reading the menu, play footsie with her under the table. She’ll be pleasantly surprised and curious about what’s next. Take her hand in yours and kiss and lick it, slowly, sensually, feed her bits of your dessert and, when the meal is over, ask for a bottle of wine to go and another piece of that cake she liked so much. Being tactile and suggestive without being able to have full body contact fires up the sexual energy between you two. Just one tip: keep it subtle.

Foreplay move #4

Have a clothes encounter

Another nostalgic trip to teenage times, the “dry hump” was when you rubbed up against each other so hard you could have started a camp fire. In this case, when nakedness is the norm, doing it clothed can deliver a certain illicit thrill. Simulate all the moves you would perform if you were nude, but stop yourself from shedding a single sock. The dry hump also recreates that feeling when you thought you’d go crazy if you didn’t get inside her right now. The advantage is that, this time, her parents are unlikely to walk in on you.

Foreplay move #5

The great strip-off

All right, for this one you do get to take your clothes off. You, not her. Yes, you’ve read it correctly, I’m asking you to do a little striptease for a change. The crucial maxim when stripping for someone is to forget about being self conscious. Trust me, she isn’t going to think you’re an idiot when she’s getting her own private sexy show. Remember, you’re the prize, so peel off each layer s-l-o-w-l-y. Set the scene by playing sensual music, then strut your stuff. I know you’ve got it! She’ll sense you’re making quite the big effort and that you want things to be hot between the two of you, but, most importantly, you’re ready to put up with your end of the bargain. Next, hotter than hot sex!

Have a sexy and sweet week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Sometimes, the best foreplay in the eyes of a woman is a nice compliment, at the end of a hard day. Tell her how amazing you think she is and she’ll make sure you’re rewarded for it! To discover more advanced tips and techniques about foreplay CLICK HERE NOW!

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“Sex without foreplay is like a song’s reff without intro”- Toba Beta

Just because you might want to get into the, uh, full-on action straightaway, doesn’t mean she does too. I can teach you to love foreplay just as much as your girlfriend does. Especially since, according to new research, you guys are as interested in foreplay as women and you want more than you’re having.

Once you realize the lead-up is almost as good as the real thing, and will make sex even better, there’ll be no stopping you. All you need is a good teacher, and I’m right here, with a handful of sexy tricks.

Kiss her… hard

You like intense, raw kissing, right? To get yourself in the mood and your girlfriend at the same time, I suggest you do exactly that. The recipe for a passionate kiss: trace the outside of her lips with your tongue, gently tug her bottom lip with your teeth and lightly bite her tongue when it is in your mouth. Seeing you so involved in this will trigger a big response in her, making her treat you with the same roughness. A friend of mine gave his girlfriend’s version of this style of kissing an X-rated name. He calls it tongue fellatio, and adores it. You will too!

Also, you’ll really start drooling if you put your whole body into it. The more body parts involved, the more intense the experience. My formula: cradle her face with one hand and grab her butt with the other while simultaneously pressing your abs and pelvis against her.

Tantalize her

Too often, touch is the primary sense during foreplay. But to graduate from basic to mind-blowing, you have to incorporate all of her passion receptors. Every type of sensory stimulation actives parts of the brain responsible for sexual arousal.

I say you introduce edible aromatic-flavored massage oil in your foreplay sessions. Rub it on and then lick it off each other. It smells amazing, but your favorite part will be seeing her all slicked up and shiny.

Other ways to make foreplay a full body experience: leave the lights on and listen to music, or take a shower together by the light of scented candles.

Let her take charge

In bed, you guys are often so focused on pleasing your partners that you don’t get to bask in being sex objects. By letting her take the reins, you’re showing her a vulnerability side that will make her want to please you even more. It will also feel great for you to have somebody concentrating on your pleasure for once.

Tell her you want her to do whatever she wants with you. She can get physical and move you into whatever kind of position she feels like it, either by grabbing your shoulders or buttocks, or by summoning you to do as required. You’ll love following her lead. So hand her this cue and let her call the shots the next time you too get busy.

Play rough

Women seam more fragile than men, but trust me, they love to be manhandled. Women get turned on when men seem animalistic. So pinch her nipples (note very hard, though) and massage her chest. Apply deep pressure with your fingers and the heels of your palms. Then, using a kneading motion, slowly work your way down to her waist and back.

Most men gently stroke the girl’s face or breasts when she’s on top, which is ok, but a little roughness didn’t hurt anyone, if it’s applied correctly and only in the setting of making love. Knead the sides of her butt or grip the sides of her waist. She’ll love that you know she’s strong enough to take it.

Bring her to the brink

Once she’s at combustible point, ignore her. It’s a guaranteed way to amplify her orgasm later. The more someone anticipates sex, the more aroused they get, and therefore, the intensity of their sexual experience increases.

Before sex, have her climb on top of you and rock her hips as if you were doing it, but without penetration. No matter how much she’ll beg you to enter her, make her wait. When you finally do start having sex, it will feel like a triumph.

To send her into a similar frenzy, act out the suggestion of her favorite sex acts. For example, try what I like to call the “almost oral sex”. Head south, get close, but pass by with just a hot breath. By the time you finally do put your mouth on her, it will feel pretty damn good!

You could also try the same move with sex- teasing her for just a few moments with the old in-and-out. While you’re on top, enter her only halfway, alternating shallow and deep thrusts in a way she can’t predict. I promise she’ll beg for mercy.

Have a spectacular week-end,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Advanced foreplay kama sutra move: sit close together, naked but not touching. Breathe in harmony for 15 minutes, looking into each other’s eyes. It will put you in the mood instantly. For more interesting tips on how to turn your partner on like never before, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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I’ve written about the “resilient edge of resistance” before here, in the discussion of finger play, so I hope this in-depth look at a revolutionary touch technique will help you improve your touch across the board. Whether you are massaging, fingering, holding hands, or just brushing the hair from her eyes, learning to understand the boundaries of your touch will bring you closer to your lover in a whole new way.

The resilient edge of resistance, a term coined by Urban Tantra author Barbara Carrellas, defines the kind of touch that lies in that mysterious space between too much and not enough. Most men have only two settings when it comes to intimate skin-on-skin contact: touching, and not touching. By default, we are all usually set on “not touching” option. Why is it we find it so hard to initiate touch with the person we love the most? And when you are going to touch, don’t you want to make the most of the time you spend getting close? The quality of your touch is the defining moment of your foreplay. If you can’t make contact with her sexy side when you first try to touch her, you’ll never find your way to share ecstasy.

Your exercise today is going to help you evolve your sense of touch by exploring the layers of your lover’s body. Try identifying each of these six layers, getting feedback from your lover at each stage, being carefully not to press too deeply, or tickle too lightly. Don’t just use your fingers, but your entire hand including your palm. Like always, be sure your room is warm and you are both comfortable. You don’t have to be naked to practice this skill! Try this on her belly or her bum, her arm or tired feet. Anywhere works, as long as she’s comfortable!

Thin Air

The first layer of touch doesn’t even come in to contact with your lover’s physical body. As your hand grows closer to the surface of her skin, feel the sensation that alerts you to the proximity of her body. People can perceive this biomagnetic layer of the human body in different ways. Close your eyes and sense the heat, or the tingling, the shiver of anticipation before you touch her. Allow her to feel the warmth of your body getting ready to reach her. Touch on this level is intricate.

By a Hair

Move just a fraction closer and touch the tips of the hair on her body. This will be easier somewhere the body hair is obvious, like her arms or somewhere she typically shaves (after a few days without). You will find it more challenging on areas of her body where the hair is fine and difficult to discern. Progress from easier to more challenging areas of the body, and improve your fine sensation skills. Touch on this level is a tease!

Skin Deep

Where the hair meets the body, touch the skin with great care. Here you are most likely to tickle. Don’t press, but don’t stutter either. Skim over the surface of the skin like a skillful ice skater. Watch her reaction – some women will feel giggle at a light tickle and another might kick you! Be careful! Touch on this level is casual.

Subcutaneous

The layer of fat just beneath the skin (if your wife is sensitive, learn to say “subcutaneous” with ease), is what holds the skin on to the rest of the body. It is connective, and slides gently over the muscle. Touch on this level is friendly.

Made of Muscle

The muscles of the body are what make it work. Touch on this level can be soothing or stimulating, shallow or deep. We refer to muscle touch as massage and I always have lots to tell you about that! Hot stones can help loosen tight muscles before massage, so deep muscle kneading isn’t necessary. Touch on this level is intimate.

Hard as Bone

Below the muscular level lies bone, the foundation of the body. Holding her body by the bones – at her wrists, her elbows, her hips or her collarbone, for instance – provokes an air of dominance or extreme need. It can heighten the immediacy of an intimate moment, but it can also frighten if used inappropriately, or leave bruises if used for too long. Try it at the brink of orgasm, when you foreplay takes the leap to the next level. Give it a go and she how she feels! Touch at this level is urgent.

 

Talk dirty to me,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. To find out the secret techniques on how to get her dripping and soaking wet at will, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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When we think about romance, we tend to get a very standard picture in our mind – dinner, candles, flowers, chocolate. But is this what every woman wants? The short answer is no.

Romance is more than just repeating the same, tired cultural scripts about what men and retailers think women should want. Romance is thoughtful and meaningful. Romance is heartfelt and loving. Romance is the perfect combination of intelligence and effort that combines to give her just the right feeling at just the right time. Romance makes her feel loved in a language that she understands. Do you know what language your lover speaks?

The things that make her heart beat fast will likely change over a lifetime or under different circumstances, but most people have one or two “love inputs” that tend to work better than others… and most of us make the mistake of trying to communicate our love using our own language, rather than that of our lover. Before you make any attempts at romance, read the following descriptions and see if you can figure out which make your lover tick. If you can’t quite figure it out, determine your own and have her take a look. When you can pinpoint the kind of romance she desires, you can plan to your (and her) heart’s content.

Wise Words

Knowing what to say, and when to say it, is at the heart of the linguistic romantic. You should impress your lover by writing her a romantic love letter, or even just a cute sticky note that tells her how much she means to you. What does she want and need to hear – that she’s loved, that she’s beautiful, that you’ve been thinking about her all day? Whatever it is, she wants to know that you really mean it and that you can say it without being prompted. She doesn’t want to have to ask you how she looks when she tries on a new dress for the first time, or does something different with her hair. If you catch yourself only telling her you love her when she says it first, or worse, when you want something (like sex), she will see your words as shallow and inauthentic. Make it count and say it first, just because you can.

Take the Time

Spending quality time with your lover can be more difficult to figure out than saying the right words. What does “quality time” mean to her? The essential factor of quality time is your ability to listen. Your lover wants to feel heard, appreciated, and understood. Impress her by taking the initiative to plan dates and other time spent together, doing things that she enjoys. Her enjoyment is paramount. She needs to know that you want to spend time with her, and that you know enough about her to choose things that she finds truly fulfilling. What does she like to do?

Daily Devotion

This kind of romance is all about doing something difficult. If your wife is all about devotional romance, she wants to know that you’re willing to go out of your way to make her life easier. Do the dishes or clean the kitty litter without being asked, pick up after yourself, cook her dinner, take care of the kids while she does the grocery shopping, or even better… draw her a hot bubble bath and take the kids with you to the grocery store!

Physical Forms

Physical romance is all about touch. You should be well on your way now, after browsing my site and reading my books, to understanding the many ways there are to discover her touch needs and desires. Romantic touch is about love, not sex. While it occasionally might lead to sex, the physical romantic wants to be touched casually – a light hand on her arm, brushing her hair from her face, tilting her chin up for a kiss, hugging, holding hands, putting your arm around her or just sitting beside her on the couch instead of in your favorite easy chair.

Giving Gifts

It may seem materialistic, but the woman who appreciates romantic gifts isn’t necessarily all about money. It’s more likely that she’s a collector, keeping movie stubs and photo albums. Birthdays and anniversaries are of the utmost importance. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, and in fact spending too much money instead of simply paying attention to what she truly loves is likely to get you in more trouble than not! If your lover is prone to clutter, go for perishable gifts or things she will use up, like food, candles and flower. The most important thing, as in all the other categories, is to pay attention to what she loves – romance is ultimately about your ability to understand her needs, wants, and desires through your experiences together.

 

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more interesting tips on how to turn your partner on like never before, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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As partner and lovers, one of the most important things we can do with our lives together is spend time exploring our boundaries to nurture and expand the intimacy that we share with our partner. Relationships are risky, challenging, even scary. But “getting to know” someone doesn’t stop as soon as you are married. It goes on for your lifetime together as you each grow and change as individuals.

In Staci Newmahr’s amazing book about kinky American communities, “Playing on the Edge” she defines five aspects of boundary exploration that takes place in these relationships which create an excellent framework for exploring your relationship as well, kinky, “vanilla” or otherwise.

Ethical vs Unethical

In order to share a meaningful life with someone, it is important to have common goals, ethics and moral values. It may not seem sexy at first, but talking about what sex means and what your boundaries are in regards to fidelity and flirting, sexual experimentation, sexual morals and overall life goals gives you the information you need to ensure that as you and your wife grow as individuals, you do so together, entwined in passion.

What goals do you share, sexual or not? What skills do you have, shared and as individuals, that will help you to reach these goals? What bad habits do you practice which could hinder your progress?

Consciousness/Unconsciousness

Bad habits are manifestations of the unconscious and subconscious minds, personal and collective. The way to make positive, lasting change in your relationship is by making conscious choices, looking at your behavior objectively and communicate effectively.

Exploring the subconscious mind can be tricky business, but as experienced pick up artists will tell you, understanding a woman’s subconscious desires is the very best way to learn foreplay techniques and get your lovely lady in the mood for you. And what is the easiest way to understand her subconscious? The answer to that lies in guiding her exploration!

Talk about your fantasies and encourage her to explore hers in depth, not just those which are explicitly sexual, but all her dreams and desires. What does she want out of life? What fantasies does she sometimes explore that she wouldn’t really do – skydiving, learning French, writing a novel? Could you encourage her to pursue any of these other fantasies along with her sexual desires? What conscious changes can you make in your life to help nurture you and your lover towards your shared dreams and goals?

Temporary/Permanent

Changes don’t have to be forever! Sometimes change need only be temporary in order to be effective. A quick detox or genetic reset diet, a week of non-stop sex, a weekend away somewhere beautiful, or even just a night out on the town. These temporary changes allow you to experience something different and novel, to shock your system into feeling something new and interesting.

Temporary changes can also be part of role playing or other fantasy exploration. In order to feel safe and take certain “risks” in our sexual experience, it’s important to create a container for your play. These can be very specific rules, safe words, general guidelines, themes, costumes, anything that you might use to change the mood or create a suspension of disbelief and allow you to be someone else, if only for a few moments.

On the other hand, you may wish to make some permanent changes in your life. While permanent changes needn’t be tended to obsessively, maintaining some regular daily practices can help you to create changes in your life ranging from simple to complex and difficult.

Consent/Nonconsent

Sometimes in our exploration, the line between consent and nonconsent can become thin and difficult to see. This is what makes negotiation so important. Have you ever initiated sex or even just with your partner while she was still asleep? This may seem benign for a couple that has been together for many years, but it does skirt the edge of this line. Talk about your boundaries. Work through your issues. Stretch your understanding of each other and learn to negotiate.

Life/Death

After all is said and done, all sex is about life and death, creation and destruction. The French even call orgasm “the little death” in reference to the ecstatic moment of release. What do you wish to create with your lovemaking? What walls are you willing to bring down and what boundaries are you willing to cross in order to seek out new experiences with your lover?

Face each day knowing that it could be your last. Enjoy your time together and revel in the pleasures you can give each other, small and great.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Foreplay can be difficult for any couple, especially when you and your lover spend most of the day apart… but in this digital age there are so many options for staying connected, there is no excuse not to get her fires burning before you get home for the night.

Foreplay is all about setting the stage, building anticipation and preparing the body for an ecstatic experience. You have several options for staying in touch without even being in the same city, let alone the same room. Take some time on your lunch break to turn her on with these simple stay-connected techniques!

Old Fashioned Phone Call

Even if you can’t spend your hours at work tied to the computer sending naughty notes and explicit emails to your lover, there has to be a moment or two when you can step aside and give her a ring on the phone. You don’t even have to talk dirty! Come up with a few code words for telling her that you’re thinking about her and feeling excited about getting home to her. Sometimes knowing that you are thinking about getting sexy together later is all she needs to start thinking sexy thoughts herself. Tell her that she’s beautiful and you can’t wait to see her again. Tell her how much you love her… and mean it!

Email

If you have access to unmonitored email at work or from your phone, sending a little love letter on your lunch break might be just the way to get her in the mood for an evening affair. Do you want your message to be romantic, sexy, or somewhere in between? What exactly do you want to convey? How would you like her to feel – loved, desired, intrigued? You can tell her all the things you love about her or are grateful for in her. You can make a list of all the very sexy things you are looking forward to doing with her. You can give her instructions for how she can get ready for a special evening with you before you arrive home. You can even use email to start some conversations about sex and kink that you might not have the confidence to begin in person. In fact, email is a great way to fill out a Fetish Checklist together! Why not get started today?

Texting / Live Chat

Texting or online continuous chat programs can be great when the conversation is getting hot and steamy. Getting each other worked up with some sexy banter back and forth builds anticipation and can also give you the chance to try out some new dirty talk that might make you too nervous to try in person. It is a great place to play out fantasies that you wouldn’t be able to try in real life, either due to physical limitations (not everyone is actually capable of slamming a woman against a wall and taking her then and there!) or just the fact that intricate sex marathons take a lot more work to execute than it may seem from dirty movies!

Webcam

Speaking of dirty movies… webcam is an excellent tool for sharing some intimate time together when you are divided by space. Even if you aren’t able to get naked at the office for your lover, you might be able to watch her at home. Do you want to see her masturbate to your latest sexy email? Or watch her do housework in the nude? Might she enjoy seeing your handsome face midway through the day, just to remember your smile and the sparkle in your eye? Perhaps she wants to see that devious look you get when you talk to her about your deliciously dirty plans for the night.

If the webcam isn’t an option, try encouraging her to take a dirty photo or two and send them your way. Start with something simple – a photo of her sexy smile, an image of her shoulder, her belly, her thighs. Allow her to set the pace and tone, flirty or dirty, or somewhere in between. Just be careful where you are (and who’s looking) when you check your email or text messages next!

Teledildonics

The real long-distance flirting of the future, teledildonics allows a user to control a pleasure device remotely over the internet. Things like the Real Touch and the Mojowijo could give you the ability to really reach out and touch her from afar.

Happy lovemaking!

Gabrielle Moore

PS. What other love blunders have you or your friends committed over the years? Share it with me in the comments section.

On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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“Sex without foreplay is like a song’s reff without intro.”- Toba Beta

She’s oh-so-carefully shaved her legs and replaced her greying undies with black lacies. Dinner and two glasses of wine later, she’s ready to GO. But don’t assume that just because you’re in her company, her house or even her bed, she’ll make the first move and aknowledge in front of you that she wants you and she’s ready to get down and heavy.

A truly great foreplay for a woman starts with the man showing her he wants her. After years of exercising my right to demand info from women about sex, I’ve noticed one common denominator: whether you’ve been together for a week or a decade, girls consistenly say the key to a great sex start is enthusiasm.

Here, I give you the lowdown on the best ways to send her shag-me signals and create the basis for truly amazing foreplay.

1. Make a move… but do it creatively

Guys are more often the ones to suggest sex. You’re always eager to try your luck, which is great, cause more often than not women are actually waiting for you to take the lead. But if you truly want to arouse her, surprise her with your sexual assertiveness by taking control in a more creative way than the usual.
• Ambush her. When you see each other at the end of the day, grab her by the waistband and pull her through the front door like you’ve been waiting for her for hours. Your enthusiasm will please her even more and make her more likely to accept sex even though she just came from work.
• Before any action begins, take charge by helping her take her clothes off. Usually, when a mutual agreement for sex happens, both you and your partner strip in your own little corner of the bed, and hug later, when you’re already naked. By helping her undress, you’re showing her that you can’t wait for her to do it and you’re more than eager to lend a helping hand. Also, you can leave a piece of clothing on, like her skirt or her shoes, so she can see your couldn’t-wait-to-get-it-on urgency. Trust me, she’ll love it.
• Seduce her when she leasts expects it: when she’s doing the dishes, cooking or reading a book. Thus you’re subtly letting her know you want her badly. Every. Single. Minute.
• „You make me so hot my skin wants to melt, baby” sounds more cheesy than believable, but there are other ways to tell her how much you want her, minus the porno-talk. For example, be blunt and send her a signal she won’t misinterpret. If you can’t put it into words, show her: gently grab the muscles of her legs while giving her oral, to show her how into it you are and how hard she turns you on.

2. Be in the moment. Become the moment.

Being there in body isn’t enough during sex; you must keep your mind on the job, too. How do you do that? You won’t believe how incredibly simple it is. Just read on to find out.
• Maintain your erotic mindset. It’s true, women are more prone to distraction than men, so staying in the moment can be a challenge for them, but men can also get distracted and miss the chance of great sex. When you have a lot on your mind (like what to give her for her birthday, that email you forgot to send or an overdue electricity bill), you need to clear out a mental path so that you can experience ultimate sexual satisfaction. Focus on sensations pre-sex, by having a bubble bath with scented candles or rubbing moisturiser all over her naked body (with the promise that she’ll return the favor afterwards), so you can both de-stress and forget about your problems. This calms you and increases arousal. Also, eliminate any distractions by turning off your phone, TV and computer. Putting sultry music will also help you relax into it. My suggestion? Try Café del Mar.
• Not all sex needs to be spontaneous; you can take specific steps to work yourself and her into the mood. Prime yourselves by reading erotic fiction aloud, to each other, or by watching a soft-porn movie, to learn more moves or simply have fun at how fake it all seems from behind the TV screen.

3. Flick her primal sex switch

Men get turned on by visual stimuli, but new studies have found that women are becoming more and more visually interested as well. That way they can see their partner’s enthusiasm and feel better about the sexual encounter.
• The link between what people see and sexual arousal is an evolutionary holdover from prehistoric times. Even though romance has come a long way since cavemen mating, both mend and women still respond foremost to a visual thrill; position a mirror next to the bed. Watching yourselves in action will turn both of you on.
• Turn her around and kiss her while you’re doing it doggy-style. When she can’t see your face, she can’t be sure about how you feel; turning her head for a kiss will reassure her.
• Smile and maintain eye contact. It’s one of the best ways to convey that you’re having fun, but you’re also emotionally connected. Also, make noise. Most men keep quiet in the sack and expect their partners to ensure the soundtrack, which leaves most women wondering if they’re doing something wrong.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

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Much is written about the importance of foreplay for a pleasurable sex life and it is certainly true that enough and the right kind of foreplay is crucial to a satisfying sexual encounter. However, it seems men and women have different ideas about what constitutes “enough” and the “right kind.” If you are a man who is trying to figure out the best way to use foreplay for please your woman and enhance your sexual experience, then read on!

Let me Tell You About a Thing Called Foreplay

What exactly is foreplay? It can be hard to define, just as sex itself can be hard to define. Generally foreplay is emotionally and physically intimate acts between lovers to increase sexual desire and arousal. Foreplay is a form of communication from one partner to another that they are interested in pursuing sexual activity. Foreplay can be verbal, physical or emotional and not only helps a person get in the mood for sex emotionally but helps get their body ready for sex physically.

Gentlemen, please don’t let confusion about foreplay keep you from working on your foreplay skills! The great thing about sex is that you can always learn and improve. Here are four tips about foreplay that are sure to help you drive your woman wild with desire:

Start Early and Don’t Quit

One very easy thing you can do to start your sweetie on the road to arousal is to put the idea in her head long before you see each other. Technology can provide a lot of help with this. Call or text her from work in the morning and tell her how sexy you think she is and how you can wait to see her that night. Throughout the day turn up the heat on your calls and texts by increasing the sexy talk. Tell her exactly what you would like to do to her when you get home. Women actually like to hear these things and it really turns them on. This is part of verbal foreplay.

Foreplay is More Than Touching Genitals

The entire body can be an erogenous zone. Think of the skin as one large sex organ. Run your fingers all over her body lightly. Look right in her eyes while you do this to really make that intimate connection.

Never Underestimate the Power of the Kiss

Unfortunately kissing is usually the first thing to go when couples have been together for a while. The truth is, kissing is HOT. Women loved to be kissed. Slow deep kisses. Kissing is an important part of foreplay and not enough attention is paid to it. Take her in your arms and kiss her. Spend some time on the couch just making out. While you are kissing her slowly rub your hands up and down her body. Kiss her during intercourse as well. Kiss her for a while after sex is over. The lips have over 10,000 nerve endings which is a big part of what makes kissing such a pleasurable and intimate act. Never underestimate what a turn on kissing can be.

How Long is Long Enough?

Much is made over how much time a couple needs to take with foreplay before moving on to the main event. Recent research indicates that both men and women are physically ready for intercourse after about 10 minutes of foreplay. However, women may need more time to be mentally or emotionally ready. A lot of women want more time simply because being touched and kissed feels good. The more they are touched the more the anticipation and desire grows. Try taking some extra time before intercourse. Touch her longer. If she is used to a quick few minutes of foreplay which is usually just a tool to get to penetration, she will be pleasantly surprised to find you spending a lot of time on her pleasure.

One thing about foreplay is that it helps break the sexual experience into categories. Foreplay, intercourse and after play or resolution. This tends to make people be preoccupied with each part instead of seeing it all as one incredible sexual experience that flows naturally. If you can let it all flow then you are more likely to get more from your sexual encounter and so is your partner.

Try seeing the beauty and potential in foreplay instead of the mystery and you will have taken an important step down the path to giving your sweetie hours of sexual pleasure.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“The mistake the two of us made, I said, was that we skimped the foreplay. I’m not blaming you, it was as much my fault as yours, but it was a fault nonetheless.” – J. M. Coetzee

Orgasms. Unlike some of life’s greatest pleasures, you simply can’t have too much of a good thing. Orgasmic sex is one of those rare activities that’s both extremely pleasurable and healthy. Allow me to take you on an alphabetized tour of foreplay and getting off. An O-worthy odyssey starts here and it’s X-rated, obviously.

Asparagus

This spring veg has a hidden power: it can help both men and women reach orgasm. It contains folic acid, which boosts arousal and helps histamine production (essential for an orgasm).

Beauty

According to researchers from the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, regular orgasms give you a youthful glow. Their study found that couples who make love three times a week look seven years younger than their less satisfied counterparts.

Caffeine

If she’s not quite feeling it, you can help her get in the mood. Have a cup of warm tea with honey. The caffeine gives both of you extra energy so you won’t run out of steam, and the honey boosts testosterone level, which promotes orgasm in women.

Direct

If she can’t reach climax without clitoral stimulation, don’t be shy about asking your partner to show you how it’s done. Men find it incredibly arousing to see a woman pleasuring herself, and all the more so if you’re enjoying some action at the same time.

Experiment

The more you orgasm the easier it gets – but you need to keep mixing it up. So, think about it like this, whether it takes some “cliterature”, massage oil or a picture of Megan Fox, you owe it to yourself to do what you need to get in the zone and take your partner with you for the ride.

Faking

In research, almost all men say they’d be distressed to find out their partner didn’t orgasm regularly. So why have 60 per cent of women faked it at some point? Seeing the ecstasy they can give their partner is a huge part of sex for women. If you’re not sure her moaning was genuine, take her for a second run, she’ll silently (or not!) thank you for it.

Get to know her body

Use a mirror to see where her clitoris is. If it’s close to her vaginal opening, try it doggie style. If it’s tucked in between her pubic bone and vaginal opening, try missionary with a pillow under her bottom to puss it towards your pubic bone, or she can go on top, which stimulates a larger area.

Headaches

It’s a clichéd reason for avoiding sex, but an orgasm can be just what the doctor ordered. One study found that women’s pain tolerance increased by as much as 100 per cent after climax.

Involve her

There’s a wealth of toys available that aren’t designed to be enjoyed solo. The S-Wet Dual Control Egg offers G-spot and clitoral stimulation, but puts you in control of the device and the pleasure that comes with it, so get your head in the game!

Jump on top

The best orgasms are ones when all your senses are engaged. Studies have found that when she’s lying down all her buttons are pressed on, so climb on top for some guaranteed pleasure.

Know the facts

Only a quarter of women always climax during sex with a partner, compared with 90 per cent of men who claim to orgasm 100 per cent of the time. If climax through penetration doesn’t do it for her, make sure she still gets hers – whether she comes first or last is up to you.

Louboutins

Research has found wearing two-inch heels improves the strength of her pelvic-floor muscles, which in turn helps her orgasm. Why not ask her to keep them on for the main event?

Marilyn Monroe

If your orgasm quest is proving elusive, keep at it until she finally reaches what she wants. Marilyn Monroe reputedly didn’t have her first orgasm until she was in her thirties.

Numbers Game

Two docs set up an experiment monitoring how often people could orgasm. The most female orgasms recorded was 134 in an hour, which is just over two orgasms per minute! The most recorded in an hour for a man? Just 16. Poor things.

Oral

The ultimate prize in Orgasmville is a multiple- and oral is your best route. Flick your tongue around her clitoris while stimulating her inside with either your fingers or a vibrator. The dual sensation will make her fill up with pleasure. When she’s come the first time, let the waves subside for a couple of minutes. Then – just when you would usually be relaxing into a blissful sleep – start up over again. She’ll be sensitive from before, so go a little gently.

Practice

The body gets used to its route to orgasm – so masturbation without penetration can make an orgasm during sex tricky. Have her masturbate while you’re present and penetrate her while she’s doing it. Practice that way and you’ll find orgasming during sex easier.

Quickie

The CAT (coital alignment technique) position is a quick way to orgasm. Lie on top with your pubic region pressed against hers, so you can rock together. Instead of moving in and out, grind against her, which creates extra friction on her clitoris.

Relax

When she’s stressed about work, an orgasm is the last thing on her mind. Orgasms release stress, they up her heart rate, and blood rushes around her body. But when the tension is released, blood pressure falls and she’s left basking in the afterglow.

Self love

I’d gone several months without what I call a “big loud orgasm”. I was stressed and overworked, and just didn’t have the energy. So one afternoon I turned off my phone and settled in for some serious self love. The first orgasm was nice, but it took another round for me to get my full release. Taking time out for her orgasm is totally worth it.

Turn off the TV

Research has shown that couples who don’t have a TV in their bedroom have 50 per cent more sex than those who’ve got one overlooking the bed.

Understand her feelings

Women who are more in tune emotionally with their partners have more orgasms. To boost your emotional connection, spend quality time talking about your relationship. The more at ease you are with each other, the more relaxed you’ll be in the bedroom.

Vibrator

Gabi hadn’t achieved orgasm until I suggested a vibrating ring. It changed her life. “I had no idea that my clitoris wasn’t being stimulated during sex; I wasn’t even sure where my clitoris was.” Want to give it a go? Try one to target her clitoris directly.

Warmth

A study found that 30 per cent more women could orgasm if they kept their socks on. Er… sexy! This is a result of being comfortably warm, so blood circulates more easily.

Xxxx

Yep, that’s kissing (X is a tricky letter, OK?). Lips are 100 times more sensitive than the tips of your fingers.

Yogasm

Some yoga fanatics claim that, mid yoga session, they’ve experienced an orgasm triggered without any sort stimulation or touching involved.

Zeds

Orgasms are one of the very best sleep aids out there. It’s a full release of built-up tension. Plus, the brain releases chemicals that make you feel sleepy, too.

Have a splendid week,

Gabrielle Moore

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