Looking to try something different? You don’t have to be ultra kinky in order to bring a little bit of BDSM into the bedroom. In fact, a little bit of light kink can be just what the doctor ordered when things are getting a little too routine or boring in your relationship. You don’t need to invest in any crazy sex toys or leather outfits, you can add some kink just using a few items you already have lying around. What you’ll need:

A blindfold: Use something soft and silky like a soft handkerchief, a necktie, or even a sleep mask.
A few scarves: These should be long enough to use to tie up your partner. They should also be soft and if you can’t find a scarf that works a necktie will also do just fine.
Feather: Either a small feather duster or a single feather will work.
Chocolate syrup: Either kept cold or heated up slightly (be careful with this part and test the temperature on the sensitive skin on inside of your arm to make sure it’s not too hot).
A cold metal spoon: Keep the spoon in the freezer before using it.
A couple of ice cubes
A soft suede glove
A piece of silk

The point of this exercise is to get your partner extremely turned on and excited using techniques that you don’t use every day. Trust is important when it comes to kinky sex, so as tempting as it might be to take advantage of your partner’s vulnerable position, you need her to trust in you 100% and be completely at ease.

Start by blindfolding her with the material of your choice. Make sure that you’ve blocked out her sight completely and verbally confirm with her that you’ve done so. Take your time doing each of these things and be gentle. All of this will add to the build up and sexual tension. Tying up her hands is optional, but she should agree that if you don’t tie her hands up that she promises to keep them at her side and not interfere with what you’re going to do. This is all part of the submissive role. The exciting part of having two of your senses cut off (sight and touch) is that she will be ultra tuned in to every sensation. She will never know what’s coming next, which will be a huge turn on. Here are some sensations to try with some of the tools mentioned above.

Begin by whispering into her ear. Even this action will send shivers down her spine. Tell her to relax and that she is completely safe in your hands. Tell her a little bit about what you’re going to do to her, leaving room for mystery.
Grab the feather and lightly trail it down her neck and chest to her nipples. Use the feather to stimulate her breasts, inner thighs, the palm of her hands and soles of her feet, and her inner arm. Be careful when it comes to tickling. Some women will love that sensation, but other hate it. Some might need to relax a little before they can enjoy such a soft, light touch.
Take the piece of silk and trail it all over her body. Flip her over if possible and trail it down her back. Use a very light touch and then use the material between your hand and her skin and you massage parts of her body. Trail the silk along her inner thighs and between her legs, gently tickling her vulva and clitoris.
A soft suede glove can be used in the same way as above. Massage the nape of her neck with your gloved hand as you kiss and lick the side of her neck.
Use the cold metal spoon to drag across her skin along her inner thighs and along her perineum (the area skin that separates the anus and the vaginal opening).
Now you can take things up a notch or two by using your mouth to lick, kiss, suck, and blow on different areas of her body. Reach for that chocolate syrup, squeeze out a little on a sensitive area and then clean her up with your mouth.

Where you take it from here is up to you. You can continue make it all about her and finish things off with some intense oral sex while leaving her blindfolded and tied up or you can move onto sex and untie her hands. But just for fun, no matter where you take things next, leave the blindfold on!

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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Hey lover!

Are you ready to spice up your sex life? Perfect! Let’s do it!

You’ve heard of bucket lists (50 things you want to do before you die). Well, here is my take on it: the Sexy Bucket List for Couples, that is sure to add more thrill and sexual excitement to your relationship.

Getting Started

The start of any great sexy bucket list for couples begins with communication. First, you both need to put aside some time to discuss the idea together. Once you’ve agreed that you’d like to add some sexy excitement and fun in your relationship, (and who doesn’t want that!?) you then both sit down alone in private and each write out your own sexy bucket list.

Each partner will write out 25 sexy things you want to do together as a couple. Then you will combine your lists to make 50 sexy activities.

If you are a bit afraid of what your partner will come up with, or fearful about sharing your own, you may want to set up some boundaries or limits first, such as, no anal sex or no sexual activities with other people. That way, you both know each other’s limits and can write lists you feel comfortable sharing, knowing your partner will most likely be open to your ideas.

Sexy Activities

Your activities can be any type of sexy, sensual, hot, kinky, romantic, or adventurous activity you want to add to your list. It could be as simple as a sensual bubble bath together, or as kinky as a full blown dungeon scene.

Write down the activities you are most excited about, like hot fantasies or something you have always dreamt of doing. For some really kinky ideas, check out a BDSM activity checklist online and share it with your partner. There will be lots of interesting things on it you may want to try as well as things you’ll want to avoid as well.

I have provided 50 sexy ideas at the end of this article to get you started.

Share Your Lists

The most intimidating part of this process is sharing your lists with each other. But, remember, you’ve already made your ground rules up so this should be fairly easy!

Cut up your lists into individual pieces so each activity is on a separate paper, and then place all your activities into separate envelopes. Next, set aside one day/night a week or a month for your sexy bucket list. Each week you’ll alternate picking from each other’s envelope and plan the activity for your sexy adventure.

Or, you could simply read each other’s lists together and then decide which activities from each list you’d like to try first.

Don’t Judge

The most important thing to remember during this process is to not judge each other. No matter how weird someone’s activity may seem to you, it could be a real turn on for your partner. So try to keep an open mind and don’t judge them for sharing their fantasies with you. Praise them for being brave enough to share them.

That doesn’t mean you need to like everything they like. There will be things on both your lists that A) don’t float your boat or B) turn you off. For the activities that don’t get you hot, but you are not opposed to, try keeping an open mind. You don’t know what you may like until you try it. Plus, your partner’s enthusiasm for that activity may just rub off on you. For things that turn you off, you can just kindly decline and pick another type of activity. You both have the right to refuse any activity, at any time. Mutual consent of any activity is crucial to having a good time.

Your Sexy Adventure

So, you’ve picked one activity and are getting ready to try it. Be sure to set the scene and get any props, costumes, sex toys, and whatever you will need to pull off the fantasy. If you are going to be away, make sure to pack your sexy props and don’t forget the lube!

You both may be filled with fear, excitement and anticipation the night you try out your sexy activity. Again, keep an open mind. Try not to have too many expectations. This is not about achieving orgasms or accomplishing goals, but about exploring, having fun and adding excitement to your relationship. Be playful, be positive, be supportive, laugh if you feel uncomfortable and have fun together. Let that giggly, bubbly, sexy excitement erupt out of you! Even in serious play scenes, laughter is great at breaking the ice.

Ideas for Your Sexy Bucket List

1. G-spot sex.
2. 69ers.
3. Sex on the beach.
4. Skinny dipping.
5. Romantic dinner out.
6. Erotic massage
7. Tantra sex.
8. Tickle fight.
9. Blindfolds.
10. Aphrodisiacs.
11. Make your own sex tape.
12. Sex toy shopping.
13. Erotic spanking.
14. Dominance and submission.
15. Trying different positions.
16. Role play that you just met in a bar.
17. A sexy resort or hedonist cruise.
18. Mile High Club.
19. A romantic train trip.
20. Rent a cabin in the woods.
21. Dance all night and make out.
22. Go to a drive-in.
23. Watch a sexy movie.
24. Watch porn together.
25. Mutual masturbation.
26. Lick chocolate and whipped cream off of each other.
27. Try a stimulating balm.
28. Anal sex.
29. Nipple clamps.
30. Sensation play with fur, ice cubes, and hot wax.
31. Take a bubble bath.
32. Sex in the shower.
33. Take ball room dancing.
34. Dirty dancing.
35. Talk dirty.
36. Pillow fight.
37. Make out on a Ferris wheel.
38. Bondage or hand cuffs.
39. Rough sex.
40. Sex in public. Just don’t get caught!
41. Office sex.
42. Striptease.
43. Roleplay and costumes.
44. Be a sex slave.
45. Play doctor and nurse.
46. Sex in the rain.
47. Sex in the woods.
48. A sexy picnic.
49. Shave each other’s genitals.
50. Do every hot scene in the Fifty Shades of Grey books!

So, that’s it. Now go get your partner and start having some hot fun as you create your own Sexy Bucket List together!

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Hey Lover!

Many women love hot, dirty, kinky, wanton, rip your clothes off, kind of sex.

There, now I’ve said it!

I’m sure you have heard of Fifty Shades of Grey. It is a series of books that have gone mainstream, and that have fired up women’s fantasies and libidos. Or, more accurately, the books have given women permission to explore their fantasies.

You see, women have always been sexual in nature. She likes hot, naughty sex as much as a guy does. But, until the last 5 years or so, women have felt unable to show it.

Why?

First, there was that whole history of women being sexually suppressed thing. Then, there was the virtually non-existent sex research in the area of female sexuality and pleasure until recently. And, finally, now that women have become, so-called liberated, they are still unfortunately slut-shamed when they own their sexuality and pleasure. Combine that with sexual abuse, and sometimes sex is not always a safe place for a woman to be.

This article is not about slut-shaming or sexual abuse. I just want you to realize a few reasons why women may not act as wanton in bed as you may want them to. They don’t feel safe to show how they really feel, because being a sexy, wanton little, sex kitten, makes them feel vulnerable.

So, how can you open her up and bring out her inner sex kitten?

Make Her Feel Safe

This is obvious, yet so many lovers carelessly throw away the gift of their sweetheart’s openness by being judgmental. Never judge, criticize, make fun of, sneer at, or put down someone’s openness about sex. This is truly a gift! If you have a lover who feels so safe with you that they will tell you their deepest desires. Cherish it. Don’t ever break their trust.

Communicate and Share Your Fantasies

Talk about your turn-ons, turn-offs and what makes you hot. Both men and women share many of the same fantasies. No doubt the two of you will have something in common that makes you hot. Create your own sexy bucket list together and explore some fun fantasies. Fantasies and role-playing allow her to not be herself, so it is easier to get into the role of a naughty school girl, sex slave or wanton secretary.

Talk Dirty

Dirty talk during sex is a sure fire way to get everything hotter. The way to do this is to start slow. Maybe at first you can tell her what you want her to do. “Take off your clothes and turn around so I can look at you.” “Ya, that’s good. You look so hot you are making me hard. Come on over here and feel it.” Use a deep voice and talk slow, making sure to be seductive. Tell her she is a naughty girl or a good girl, whichever she prefers. She may like to be called a slut, or a bad girl, but make sure you know this beforehand, as it could also offend her. Use dirty talk to praise her body, “Your ass is so sexy,” or, “You taste so good.” Or, simply describe what you are doing in a dirty way. “I love the feeling of being inside you. Oh, you are so tight and wet!”

Dominate Her in the Bedroom

Despite women becoming more assertive in the workplace, many women still love to be dominated in bed. Most women like to feel feminine, safe and taken care of by a strong, masculine man who is in control.

Be sure to talk about any type of BDSM play like bondage, humiliation, or spanking beforehand and if needed, give her a safe word like “RED”.

Here are some hot dominate ideas to try:

Push her up against the wall and hold her wrists. Press your body against her and kiss her passionately. Tell her what you are going to do to her in the bedroom as you push your knee in between her thighs and spread her legs.
Grind your pelvis against her and grope her breasts and ass. Rip open her blouse and bare her breasts. Pull up her skirt and pull her panties aside. Put your finger in her vulva and make sure she is good and wet, before fingering and rubbing her clitoris.
Hold her down in bed and enter her. Playfully bite her neck and earlobes. Pull her hair if she likes this.
You can also tie her wrists together, so you can have your hands free for other naughty things, or even gag her with a scarf, if this is something she would like to do.
Make love to her slow and seductive or have hot rough sex.

Spank Her

Spanking and light bondage are two of the top dominant and submissive types of play that couples enjoy exploring together. Of course, make sure she is into this first.

Bend her over your knee, or get her to bend over a table and stick her butt out for erotic punishment. Tie her hands or tell her not to move. Slowly and seductively, bare her ass, and softly rub it with the palm of your hand. Grope your fingers into the fleshy part of her butt and squeeze her cheeks to get the blood flowing and make her erotically charged.
Start smacking her lightly on the cheeks of her ass. Stay away from the spine and lower back. Smack her on the apple of her cheeks or sweet spot (just above the thighs where her butt flesh begins). Alternate smacks with rubbing and kneading. Open her thighs and spank her pussy lightly and the inside of her thighs.

Make sure to pay attention to her body language. If she is trying to pull away from your hand, you are smacking too hard. If she is pushing up towards you, you are doing it just right. Alternate soft smacks with harder smacks. If she is moaning that is a good sign.

So, there are a few ways to make sex naughty and turn her into a sex kitten. Be careful, however, she may become addicted!

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What is Sensation Play?

Sensation play is group of erotic activities that arouse the senses, or heightens one particular sense, while dulling others. Sensation play usually involves the sense of touch, one of the most obvious senses that enhances sensual pleasure. It can be a sexy way of touching your lover that is a form of erotic foreplay.

However, it can also involve heightening any of the senses including sight, smell, taste, hearing and touch. Heightening our senses during sexual intimacy or foreplay enhances all sexual experiences and puts our bodies in tune to pleasure. In this heightened state, it allows you to experience the pleasures and ecstasies of sex to the extreme.

Most often sensation play is sensual in nature, arousing, erotic and gentle. In BDSM, it could also involve pain play which release pleasurable endorphins and create a “high”. Often in sensation play one sense is limited (like sight by being blindfolded) while another sense is heightened and aroused, like the sense of touch.

Types of Sensation Play

Sensation play can consist of various activities. This could include the use of blindfolds or bondage to remove sight or mobility, while heightening another sense.

Heightening Taste

The use of blindfolds to remove sight and heighten the sense of taste was used in the movie “9 ½ Weeks”. In the hottest scene in the film, Mickey Rourke’s character blindfolds Kim Basinger’s character and feeds her different types of food like cherries, whipped cream, jalapino peppers, and honey to create different taste and texture sensations in her mouth. In this instance, it is taste rather than touch which is the heightened sense. Check out my article on aphrodisiacs for some sexy foods that you could recreate this scene with!

Bonus Tip! You can also use the sense of taste while playing with sensual flavored products, like chocolate massage syrup drizzled over your lover’s body to turn them into a delicious oral treat!

Enhancing Touch

This involves the use of blindfolds and bondage to enhance touch. Touch is erotically heightened and charged when our other senses are removed. A simple erotic massage can become so much more by just applying a blindfold. Erotic tickling can make someone orgasmic when they are bound and can’t move.

Various types of touch can be explored during sensation play including the use of feathers, silk, fur, or leather. Or, you can just use different types of touch with the hands and fingers from soft and light, to firm or rough. Even just the act of kissing can be heightened. Biting, nibbling and licking the body are all other ways to arouse pleasure. Or using hot and cold temperatures like ice, or hot candles wax, or melted massage candles.

More extreme types of sensation play could involve full body bondage, the use of nipple clamps, or pinwheels to stimulate the pain/pleasure response. Erotic spanking could also be a form of sensation play.

Sex toys can add a lot of sensation to various erogenous zones and are effective tools for erotic sensation play.

Sensation play adds a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure as you are swept away by the power of touch.

Bonus Tip! Try alternating different types of touch to change it up and create suspense. Variety is the spice of life.

The Sense of Smell

The sense of smell is a powerful sense and can bring us back to moments in the past that can become almost tangible. You can arouse the sense of smell by lighting sensual candles, or adding scented herbal oils to your play. Erotic scents include vanilla, lavender, Ylang Ylang, musk oil, cinnamon, cloves, and sandalwood. There are also sexuality products on the market that use pheromones to heighten the sense of erotic smell as well.

Bonus Tip! Rub lavender essential oils on the temples to relax your partner.  Or try a spicy mixture of scents just below the nose to arouse their passions.

Sounds and Silence

The sense of hearing can be either aroused or dampened during sensation play. You can play erotic music in the background to heighten the sense of hearing. Talking dirty, or whispering in their ear is another form of heightened this sense, especially if they are blindfolded. Or you can use earplugs to remove the sense of hearing, with a blindfold, which creates erotic suspense and anticipation. If your lover can’t see you or hear you, you can really play with the element of surprise!

Bonus Tip!  Try a meditative CD for doing erotic massage techniques.  Or a fast bumping and grinding tempo for a sexy rhythm.

Erogenous Zones

During sensation play you want to focus on arousing all the other erogenous zones in the body, while avoiding the genitals at first. Check out my articles on the other erogenous zones to begin with here such as the ears, nape of neck, nipples and breasts, and even the feet.

Use light touches with your fingertips, or soft scratches. Knead, rub, massage, pinch or tickle. Use your mouth to nibble, bite, lick, suck, or blow on different areas of the body. Try a fork to lightly trail goose bumps down their skin. Use an ice cube or cold spoon left in the freezer to play with temperature sensations. Erotic toys, especially those made of metal, glass or silicone can also be heated or cooled for erotic play.

Don’t forget the various types of sensation lotions, lubes and candles that can be used to heighten the senses. There are various types of lubes now that cool, heat, tingle and are flavored. Then there are massage oils and candles that warm and heighten the sense of smell and touch. There are also sexual enhancers made specifically for the genitals that bring the blood flow to that area of the body and heighten arousal.

Take it Slow

Sensation play is a sensual experience and shouldn’t be rushed. Go slow and explore your lover’s body. See what reactions you get by trying various things. While you can’t use everything above in one play session, pick one to three things you’d like to try like a blindfold, types of touch and a vibrator, and explore.

Tease your partner erotically so they build up sexual energy and arousal to a place where they are ready to burst. Then give them the orgasm they crave as fireworks go off in the senses!

Tools for Sensation Play

• Blindfolds, silk scarves, and sensory goggles.
• Hand cuffs, bondage rope, a silk tie and bed restraints.
• Warm massage candles, hot wax candles made for sensation play, and warming lotions.
• Cooling and tingling lotions, ice, and popsicles.
• Furs, feathers, silk or satin.
• Forks, pinwheels, or wooden skewers.
• Nipple clamps, clothes pins, or nipple suckers.
• Ear phones, ear plugs or sensual music.
• Aphrodisiacs, sexy foods, flavored lubes.
• Scents and pheromones.
• Your hands, fingers, mouth, tongue and teeth.
• Sex toys including anal toys, dildos, vibrators and kinky toys.
• Sensual massage products and arousal lotions.
• For spanking use your hands, a small soft flogger, a crop, a spatula, or a wooden spoon. Just be careful not to get carried away and hit too hard. The idea is to create erotic sensation, not pain.

So, there is your introduction to sensation play. As you can see, the types of activities you can try are only limited by your imagination. Make sure to talk to your lover about these activities first and get their consent before trying them out. And, make this a playful adventure of exploration, rather than worrying too much about it. Let your sense of play and your lover’s response guide you for the best erotic encounters.

Play safe and have fun!

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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