Men often complain that women are impossible to understand. They say that men and women just “function” differently. Do you think that is true? One thing is for sure, when it comes to sexuality, men and women tend to be very different. Most men orgasm pretty easily without a lot of problems, but women, on the other hand, don’t always cum and a lot of people don’t even really understand why not.

Guys who don’t understand what makes a woman tick sexually have trouble giving their women maximum pleasure because they just don’t know exactly what they’re doing. That’s why I’ve decided it’s time that my readers learn a few things about the female orgasm. After all, you can go through the movements of a sexual technique, but if you really want to please her, you need to know exactly what’s going on.

1. One of the major concerns for men is that they don’t last long enough in bed, but guess what? Women are just the opposite! They’re often really worried that they take too long to orgasm. The major problem here is that if their mind is focused on how long they’re taking, they’re going to worry so much that they will never cum. So, first and foremost, your job is to make sure she knows that you’re not in a rush and that you will pleasure her for however long it takes with NO complaints! Keep in mind that the average woman can take between 15 and 40 minutes to reach orgasm. That means foreplay is important… and maybe even a little “post-play.”

2. Turning her on doesn’t just have to do with your sexual skills. She will be turned on by your personality, your character, your intelligence, your humor and all the other things that make you YOU. This might not seem like an important thing to make her orgasm, but believe me, it is for a woman.

3. Many women are self conscious about how they look during sex. Negative thoughts and worrying about their bodies can easily make it impossible for a woman to cum. What can you do? Your job is to make her feel like the sexiest, most beautiful woman you have ever had the good fortune to be with. Tell her how gorgeous she is, how much she turns you on and how lucky you feel.

4. Be gentle with her breasts. Don’t just focus on the nipples because the whole breast is extremely sensitive for a woman. Start with the whole breast and gently working your way in toward the nipple.

5. Master the slow build up. If a woman takes longer than a man, one of the great things that she will really enjoy is when her orgasm slowly builds up. Don’t try to rush it and don’t be too heavy handed when stimulating her. Slow, gentle and sensual really does the trick.

6. Try different things in order to find out what she likes. Different positions, different ways to stimulate her clitoris, different erogenous zones and more. Don’t be afraid to try something new, if she doesn’t like it, just change it up and try the next thing.

7. Learn to multitask. Women often like a combination of different stimulation in order to get her to orgasm. For example, penetration with either your finger or penis while you stimulate her clitoris, oral sex while fingering her, breast play during sex, etc. etc.

8. Pay really close attention to what her body does when she is getting close to orgasming. You will notice a change in her breathing, in the way she moves her body, her heart will be beating faster, the color of her vulva will change and become more engorged. Noticing these things will help you to be able to recognize what is turning her on and what isn’t. When she orgasms you will notice contractions in her vagina, butt and even in her stomach.

9. Another way that men and women are different is that once a man reaches the point of no return, he will orgasm no matter what. Unfortunately, that’s not the case for women. Anything along the way can cut it off pretty quickly. Even though your partner will love variety, if you are doing something she really loves and you can tell that she’s close, stick with it. Changing it up at the wrong moment could ruin it for her.

10. Try to let her cum first. Realistically, you’re not going to be up for oral or anything else once you’ve cum. If you know your partner takes a long time to get there and you can’t last as long as she needs, make her cum before you even start having sex to ensure that gets her orgasm.

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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“I think people spend too much time staring into screens and not enough time drinking wine, tongue kissing and dancing under the moon” – Rachel Wolchin

Kissing is often considered a means to an end. It’s how many couples kick off their sack sessions, but as soon as things start heating up, making out usually falls by the wayside. Some people think that sex is so full of pleasure on its own that kissing isn’t important. And that’s a damn shame because locking lips throughout the sexual experience (and not just at the very beginning of getting busy) can make the pleasure skyrocket considerably. There are tons of nerve endings in your lips that stimulate desire. Smooching before, during and after intercourse can be extremely arousing and satisfying. However, not all puckers are created equal. The trick is knowing what mouth-to-mouth moves intensify each stage of sex. Luckily, I’ve gone ahead and mapped it out for you. Try these tips to kiss your way to total bliss.

Foreplay: Tease her with soft pecks 

Just as a runner needs to stretch before a race, your body requires an equally strategic warm-up before launching into full-throttle passion. You don’t want to come on too strong with your lips or you might accelerate her excitement too quickly. Instead, ease her into the pleasure zone, gradually increasing her arousal. The slower the buildup, the bigger the bang.

Give her little pecks all over her face – everywhere except the lips. As her excitement grows, trace the outline of her mouth with the tip of your tongue. She’ll be aching to envelop you with her mouth, but don’t let her do it… yet.

Move on to open-mouth puckers, but no tongue allowed. If she tries to French you, pull away from her for a minute, then return to kissing. The point is to be playful and work her into a desire-filled frenzy by not giving her exactly what she wants.

Add some playfulness into the mix by gently sucking and lightly nibbling on her lower lip every now and then. It will feel so good, she’ll instinctively return the favor.

During the act: Bring it to the boiling point

Once you are both fired up, coy smooches just aren’t going to cut it. This is the perfect time to engage each other’s mouths, no tongues barred. Passionate kisses elevate your blood pressure and cause your heart to beat faster, getting you more excited and making it easier for your partner to reach orgasm. Here’s how to stoke the flame.

Strip down and have her straddle you while you’re sitting on a chair. As you focus on thrusting, take her tongue into your mouth and very lightly suck on it so your lip action mimics the rhythm of your hips.

Vary the intensity and depth of the lip-locks you lay on your bedmate. Give her long, soulful French kisses for a couple of minutes, then surprise her by keeping your lips open and pressing them against hers – hard – like you want to devour her whole. Maintain the back and forth so she can’t guess what’s coming when. Not knowing what you’re going to do next will amp up her excitement even more.

You should let her know the passionate pressure is quickly building up inside you by switching up your moves and trying something even more erotic. Unlock your lips periodically, and swirl your tongue around hers in a circular motion as if you were licking an ice-cream cone. She will love that you’re in control and essentially taking possession of her entire mouth.

The big O: Let your inner animal loose

By the time you’re about to climax, give in to your passionate fervor, and let yourself go absolutely wild. Just follow your body’s cravings. Being mouth to mouth as you peak can make for a much stronger, more intense orgasm because it’s such a carnal act – your senses of taste and smell and touch are all converging at once. It’s like you’re on sensual overload.

Softly suck on each other’s necks just as you’re about to reach your peak. The pressure of your lips against her skin will amplify the buildup you’ve been feeling inside and create an even more powerful need for that heavenly release.

Run your tongue back and forth along the roof of her mouth. This is a place that rarely gets any attention; the more unique the sensation, the more exciting it is for her.

Let her know how hungry you are for her by gently biting her back and shoulders, spots on her body that can take a little roughhousing. Place the skin lightly between your teeth and pull; then run your tongue around the area and kiss it.

Hot embraces,

Gabrielle Moore

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“When people say “It’s better than sex” they clearly aren’t having the right kind of sex.”

Preparing a romantic candlelit dinner can help get a woman in the mood. But you might be overlooking a much easier route, Romeo: her ears. Sure, figuring out what dirty dialogue she craves is tricky. Plus, you don’t want to sound canned or like a bad porn star. These erotically charged lines will tap in to her inner sex kitten – before she’s in bed, during the act, and even after the deed.

“I can’t stop thinking about later tonight”

When you make it known that she’s monopolizing your mind, she will get excited and wonder about what exactly will happen when the two of you are alone. Plus, since there’s no immediate physical payoff, it builds intense anticipation.

“I’m dying to kiss you”

Sorry, but odds are you’re not making out as much as she wants to. That’s why she’ll lick her chops over this line. To make her feel adored, gently tuck her hair behind her ear and whisper it when you know you can’t make good on your desires for an hour or so (say, when you’ve just ordered appetizers). She won’t be able to focus on anything but what that kiss will feel like. And when you are finally home and ready to heat things up, it’s key to use phrases that indicate your pleasure and arousal. It’s encouraging for her to know that her touches are enough to get you worked up. So try lines like, “I want you”, “I could kiss you forever”, and “I can’t keep my hands off you”. They all send the message that you find her irresistible. If you want to take it up a notch, phrases like “Take you clothes off right now”, “I’m getting so hard”, and “I can practically feel like I’m inside you” express your fast-building passion. She’ll be ecstatic over the fact that you started out excited and have now reached the point where you’re going wild.

“Wow, I want to touch you everywhere”

This works wonders in the heat of the moment. She’ll relish the insinuation that you’re going to take your sweet time pleasuring every inch of her. Also, the “wow” factor reassures her that you can’t get enough of how she looks, tastes and feels. It can be scary being naked, so acknowledging how turned on you are will help her relax. Also, during oral sex and intercourse, women want to know if they are doing a good job… and they want specifics. When you say, “That feels so great”, she’ll wonder, What does? Try more detail, like “I love when you tilt your pelvis like that” or during oral, “Circling your tongue that way feels amazing”. Also, let her know you are ready to climax, because it builds her anticipation. “Oh my God, I’m about to explode!” heightens her excitement. Then, if you feel like it, express yourself during the actual orgasm. You don’t want to sound scripted (after all, orgasm is all about losing control), but yelling out “Oh my God, that’s it!” while you come confirms that she did a very good job.

“I love that thing you do with your mouth”

Or hell, insert any body part or move of hers that makes you glad to be alive. This is crucial when you’re basking in post-coital bliss. Every woman craves positive feedback, and such a reinforcing line accomplishes two things: it tells her that you were paying attention to what she was doing and appreciate her efforts, and it gives her erotic info to file away for the next sack session. A less cheesy version of “that was the best I’ve ever had” is “We always have amazing sex, but that was off the charts.” If she’s a new partner, try “That was a whole new level of pleasure.” Not saying anything will make her wonder if it was just so-so for you. She’s also curious about what exactly you liked because her pleasure is associated with yours. Examples: “I’ve never been that deep inside of you” or “My legs feel more tingly than ever.” As a clincher, say “It’s going to be hard to top that… but I can’t wait to try.” It’s reassuring for her to know that she was so great, you can’t resist dreaming about doing it again.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Women want to be with men that make them laugh, holds their hands and considers it their job to give them orgasms.”

Just like yours, women’s finales can vary from a fleeting thrill to a body rocking explosion. I got women to pinpoint the little moves that trigger the big one.

“I dated a guy who sensed when I was about to come and would slide a hand over to my clitoris and caress it painfully slowly. It was the best way to finish.” – Becca

“It’s always hot to be told how good he feels inside me, but hearing these words as I’m hitting my peak makes me explode.” – Michaela

“During an oral session, I go crazy when he’s not afraid to play with my anus as I’m going off. Swirling his tongue around and sliding a finger inside it make the sensations even more powerful.” – Jane

“Don’t stop moving even though I probably have. Feeling you buck your hips against me as I climax creates extra waves of pleasure along the vaginal canal.” – Joelle

“Maintain eye contact with me. That kind of confidence is irresistible and allows us to acknowledge the intensity of the moment without words.” – Karen

“When I orgasm, I can’t get enough of him digging his hands into my breasts and moaning. It’s like he’s so into me, he can’t hold himself back.” – Paula

“Passionately kiss me as I climax. It makes me feel so close to you even though we’re already, uh, connected right then.” – Rhonda

“I had an ex who would suck and nibble on my earlobe as I came. Those dual sensations… damn.” – Gina

“I like when my buttocks are shown a little love as I climax. Massage them firmly with your palms and thumbs. It takes the experience to another level.” – Karla

“I love it when he looks me in the eyes and tells me where he will come on my body. It shows me he’s down for anything, and it’s thrilling to let him take control like that.” – Rachel

“Let me tug your hair or pin your hands above your head in the moment. It unleashes this primal side of me that makes my climax crazy good.” – Marcia

“Let me wrap my legs around the small of your back to pull you into me. That angle helps me get the deepest penetration possible.” – Angie

“If I’m on top, I like to arch my back, whip my hair and run my fingers through it. All my partner go nuts when I do this and their lusty looks increase my arousal. Seeming me enjoy myself makes them feel like men, which turns me on as well and I come so much harder.” – Diana

“Lightly tap up and down my down there area, over my panties, like you’re playing the piano with one hand. This helps me get and stay wet by keeping blood flowing into the spongy tissue of my vagina.” – Christine

“Press your penis against surprising parts of my body. Ideas: hold it against my inner thigh to tease me (and yourself!) like crazy; touch the tip of your penis against my breast, and rub your frenulum against my nipple; or bring the side of your shaft against the outside of one of my cheeks, then put it to my lips so that I can cover it with wet kisses. This playing primes for a powerful climax.” – Virginia

“Try licking me and then blowing on the area. This will cause moisture to evaporate and give me chills. Or breathe on it with your mouth wide open, like you would blow on your hands to warm them on a cold day. The sexy heat will be intense.” – Donna

“Give me oral while I’m on all fours. It’s a totally new sensation from when I’m lying down on the bed. I love the animalistic feel to it.” – Tania

“My guy put one of those little chairs in the shower and invited me to join him. He washed me really well, and then invited me to bend over and lean on the back of the chair for some hot doggie style sex. Talk about steamy.” – Trish

“Slather your penis with oil and put it between my breasts. Then rub me until I beg for all of you.” – Jessica

“During doggie-style, I told my guy to stay still because I wanted to do the thrusting. I rocked back and forth, and it drove him crazy – he wanted to take over so badly. I loved it!” – Eliza

Hot embraces,

Gabrielle Moore

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There are so many wonderfully sensitive parts on a woman’s body that can be touched and stimulated to make her experience of sex even better. These areas of her body are called the erogenous zones. You might be surprised to find out that a woman’s secret hot spot isn’t just her breasts or clitoris, there are a lot of other sexy spots that need your attention. So, I asked 6 real women to tell me about their secret spot and how they like it to be touched.

Rihanna, 29 years old

My secret hot spot is my hands. I know that probably sounds so weird, but it’s true! My boyfriend and I discovered by accident actually. He was massaging my hands after a long day while we sat on the couch watching TV. He got some lotion out and it was feeling really good and relaxing. Once he applied the lotion it started feeling even better and before long I had my eyes closed and he had my full attention. He started pulling and rubbing each finger individually, then he would knead the palms of my hands. Since I had my eyes closed I didn’t even realize that he suddenly started sucking on my fingers. It felt so good that it sent tingles all down my body right to my clit. Needless to say, it wasn’t long before the TV was turned off and we were both seriously turned on.

Jaquiline, 33 years old

I love it when my husband kisses, massages, licks, sucks, and nibbles on my shoulders and upper back. Something about having him touching me from behind is a crazy, sexy turn on for me. It’s like I don’t know what’s coming next and I’m in his control. I love that. But it’s also more than that. That area of my body is really sensitive and so when he touches me there in any way, I start to get wet right away. Soon I’ll be pressing up against him like crazy. He knows I love it, so whenever he wants to have sex, he just comes up behind me, sweeps my hair to the side and begins kissing me. I can’t say no!

Molly, 42 years old

There are a lot of places I love my husband to touch me, but there is one thing he does that really sends me over the edge. During foreplay he always teases me a lot before touching my clit or fingering me. He will spend a long time kissing, rubbing and licking my inner thighs or getting really, really close to my clit or vagina, but never actually touching it. I’m literally squirming after 10 minutes of this, bucking my hips toward him, BEGGING him to touch me. I feel like my private parts are pulsating with desire. When he finally touches me there, he does it SO gently and it feels fantastic. I love that he teases me. It makes my orgasm 100 times more powerful.

Sandra, 38 years old

Maybe this is cliche, but my hot spot is definitely my ears. I still remember the first boyfriend I had who would kiss them and it felt like it sent electric shock through me right down to my pussy. It was incredible. From then on I made sure every guy I was with knew to pay attention to my ears. I love it when a guy runs the tip of his tongue along my ear and then pokes and penetrates it. A nice, soft nibbling of the earlobe isn’t too bad either! And if I’m going to tell you everything, I also love when he goes to town on my neck while he’s in the area. It all just feels so good. I swear I’ve come close to cumming just from that alone!

Deborah, 25 years old

I’m a little embarrassed to admit this, but I love having my toes sucked. I know some people think that feet are gross, but they don’t gross me out and it feels SO GOOD! Thank god my current boyfriend doesn’t find it gross, in fact he’s totally into it.

Lorena, 50 years old

I love having my butt touched in every way you can imagine. I love when my partner squeezes is when we’re kissing. I love to feel his hands rubbing over the skin. But I especially love when he kisses me down there. He’ll start at the small of my back and work his way down. Who knew there were so many sensitive nerve endings down there? It’s like there are little fireworks going off for me. I just love it.

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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For centuries, men have been told how complicated a woman’s body is, especially sexually. And while it’s true that chicks don’t have a point-and-shoot anatomy, new research shows they have just as much pleasure potential as men.

I got my hands on some recent groundbreaking studies that debunk the long-standing conventional wisdom about female desire and response. Then I took the research one step further by explaining how to use it to tap into a new dimension of bedroom bliss.

Conventional wisdom – A woman has to feel desire to get aroused

Bold new thinking – A woman doesn’t need to be in the mood to get excited

Maybe this rings a bell: You want some action but your partner is stuck in “whatever” mode. Hey, it happens. But before you blow her off because she’s not into it, consider this: new research proves that a woman’s body can be turned on even during those moments when her mind is turned off.

That’s because desire and arousal are two separate animals. Desire occurs in the mind, while arousal unfolds in the body. True, desire usually leads to arousal, but a woman’s body doesn’t need desire to get to that warm, tingly place. In fact, researchers at the University of Amsterdam have discovered that a woman’s central motor system lights up instantly with physical stimulation, before her mind even begins to process it.

Problem is, many women think sex will be a drag if they’re not registering any interest in their brains. What to do when you’re horned up and she isn’t: zone in on her physical hot buttons. Focus on her body and help her give in to the feel of your lips against her neck or the way your hand is brushing up against her back.

Another testament that she doesn’t necessarily need desire to relish doing the deed? One recent study found that many women experience heightened arousal when anxious or stressed.

Conventional wisdom – Women take forever to get turned on

Bold new thinking – Women don’t necessarily need a long preamble to get going

Somewhere along the way, it became commonly accepted knowledge that women required hours of foreplay to get primed for sex. Now, I’m all for tons of kissing and oral, but it’s not always necessary. A new study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine claims that both men and women begin showing signs of arousal within 30 seconds. What’s more, there was little difference in how long it took women and men to reach peak sexual arousal. Researchers at McGill University in Canada had young men and women watch porn. Meanwhile, in hidden areas, scientists controlled thermal imaging sensors to measure heat changes in their genitals. They found out that men reached peaked arousal in 11 minutes, while women clocked in at 12 minutes.

Of course, this flies in the face of old arguments that claim women reach the brink in about 20 minutes. So what gives? Turns out, participants in this study watched images through special goggles to minimize their field of vision so they were less likely to be interrupted by what was happening in the room. The lesson here: when you want to get her revved up stat, you have to nix all the distractions. Women are more likely to multitask, and they tend to get rattled by a ringing phone or by overthinking what they have to do the next morning. The problem? It takes them out of the moment. So whatever you do, power down the TV and carve out time strictly for you and her to get it on.

Conventional wisdom – Dry down there? She’s not feelin’ it

Bold new thinking – Lubrication isn’t the only indicator of desire and arousal

Let’s play a little word association: I say male arousal and you say erection. Unfortunately, there’s no hard-and-fast equivalent for women. Vaginal lubrication often has been viewed as the biggest cue… until now. Research has found that there’s no direct correlation between arousal and the amount of blood flow and lubrication to the vagina. She may be aroused and not have lubrication at all. Often, this is hormonal: women are naturally wetter around ovulation and drier when their periods are about to arrive. Also, antihistamines found in cold medications, for example, can sap nasal passages and vaginal secretions.

So what are the physical cues worth clueing into? Scientists at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction asked women exactly how they knew they were turned on. Although lubrication was reported as one sign, many women also reported genital warmth and swelling and nipple hardness, as well as increased heart rate and muscle tightness in the stomach and legs.

Hot embraces,

Gabrielle Moore

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There are so many things you can do to get your lover in the mood for sex, turn her on, give her amazing orgasms and spice up your sex life.  In “My Top Sex Tips” articles, I have been going through many of them, leading up to 100 amazing, sexy, hot, lovemaking, intimacy tips.

Have you tried any of them yet?

If, not what are you waiting for?

Music seduction

They say that “music hath charms to sooth a savage beast”.  Music has been shown to help plants thrive and the idea that music could be used as a therapy is as old as the writings of Plato and Aristotle.  So music can have a profound affect on our psyche, moods, feelings and libido.

You can use slow, seductive music to tantalize your lover during foreplay, or grinding, pounding rock music during sex to rev it up.

Try various sexy playlists and see what effect they have on you, your lover and your love making.  Music can change a bad mood into a good one, and change good sex, into OMG great sex.

Compliment her

Last week I talked about using gratitude to create more intimacy in a relationship.  This week I want to go a bit further and tell you to compliment her… Every day.

We often take the people in our lives for granted, and usually it is the most important people that we forget to thank and compliment.  We assume they know we love them, think they are sexy, so we don’t have to tell them or show it.

WRONG!  We NEED to tell our lovers every day how much they light up our lives, and compliment them.  This means telling them they look good, you love that dress on them, you love their pretty toes, or that they are sexy, but also, compliment them on the fabulous dinner they made you, or something else they are fantastic at.  Make sure it is authentic and you really believe it when you say it, but try to find reasons to compliment your lover every day.

Compliments make us feel good, which makes us much more confident and interested in having sex!

Naughty notes

Leaving naughty notes for your lover a couple times a week can be hot.  And, the fun thing about this is that you can hide them away, like between the pages of her favorite book, and she may not find it for months.

Another cool way to do this, is plan a night when she is out getting groceries or chores (and you know no-one will be around when she gets home).  Then leave naughty notes (like a scavenger hunt) all around the house, each one telling her to go somewhere else (and you can leave little gifts or instructions for her like: here is some sexy lingerie… put it on).  At the end of the hunt, she will find you, all sexy (dressed up of naked) and a room made for love making awaiting her.

My husband did this for me once and it was super hot!… and fun!

Go with her flow and let her show you the way

You probably get tired of being the one to ALWAYS be in charge and may like to give her the reins once in a while.  If she is not an initiator, you can still get things going, and then switch over to her, where you follow her flow and let her show you the way.

Let her show you or tell you how to turn her n.  Maybe she takes your hand and smooths it up and down her body, or says, “I’d like you to touch me there”.  Or maybe, she takes control and goes down on you, giving you a sexy blow job.  Then again, she could climb on top and ride you like a stallion, hitting her g-spot just right so she comes all over you.  Yeehaw!  Ride him cowgirl!

Don’t stop during orgasm

Jeese guys!  I don’t know how many times I’ve seen or heard of this happening, but the guy stops stimulating, or changes stimulation just when she is ready to orgasm.

DON’T!

While you may us lots of variety leading up to the big event, when she gets close to orgasm (and you should be able to tell this from her moans, body language and facial expressions), don’t stop whatever it is you are doing.  Because it is that very thing that is leading her over the edge and if you stop now, she will totally loose it.

And, I don’t want to tell you how frustrating it is when you are just at the edge and then loose it.  Its not good.

So, please, if you forget every sex tip out there, don’t forget this one.

Okay sexy lover.  That’s my hot tips for you today.  Now go plan to put some of these tips into action and get it on with your lover tonight!

Until next time, stay sexy!

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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Welcome, sexy lovers to my latest article, where I will give you 5 sexy ways to help your woman come.

You Can’t MAKE Her Come

Orgasms are like emotions.  Just like you can’t expect someone else to make you happy, you can’t expect another person to give you an orgasm.  This is especially true for women.  You can’t MAKE her come, if she is not ready, willing and open to receiving pleasure and knows how to get there in the first place.

In other words, she needs to take responsibility for her own orgasm.

After all, men are not born with a woman’s genital anatomy, so how are you supposed to be an expert at this?  And, despite what some people may think, we are not born knowing how to have sex and give pleasure, naturally.  This is something we must learn.

Not only that, but every woman is different, and her erotic blueprint will vary depending on what she likes, what turns her on, the way her erotic body/mind is wired, her experiences and self-pleasure knowledge.  So, what may work on one woman to help her reach orgasm, may be a total turn off to the next.

So, women need to own their sexual pleasure, learn to orgasm first via solo sex in order to find out what turns her on.  Then she can communicate that knowledge to you.

Having said that, there are ways you can help facilitate her orgasms and pleasure by giving her a safe place to explore her sexuality and pleasure so she can open and completely surrender to you.  This is a place where she trusts you totally, and knows that her vulnerability and boundaries will be protected.  That means she doesn’t have to fear that if she opens up that she will be hurt, judged, or shamed, and she can totally trust you so she can unleash her feminine radiance.

Communication

Communication is the way we learn how to pleasure our partners.  We need to find out first what we like, what rocks our boat, and then communicate that to our lovers.

You can encourage this by again making her feel safe, that you won’t judge her or make her feel ashamed of her sexual desires.  Watch her body language during sex and encourage her to open up, to moan, to writhe, to tell you, yes, Yes, YES!, what you are doing is taking her over the edge.  Ask her, do you like it when I touch you here?  Do you like it harder, softer, faster, deeper, slower, more sensual…?

After sex, take the time to talk about the experience.  Ask her what she enjoyed most or what pushed her over the edge, and what she didn’t like as well.

You can even ask her to masturbate in front of you, if she is game, to show you how she pleasures herself and achieves orgasm.  This can be valuable knowledge that you can use later.

Remember, having sex together takes two, so sex is team work and honest, open and non-judgemental communication is a big part of that process.

Take Your Time and Explore

Women often take a much longer time to get aroused and reach orgasm.  With practice, knowledge and the right tools, some women can orgasm within a minute or two of arousal, but for most women arousal takes longer, anywhere from ten minutes to an hour.

So, take it slow and give her time to unwind from the day, to get rid of any stress in her body and get out of her head, so she can immerse herself in the sensations of her body.

Begin by creating a sensual environment to have sex in.  Piles of dirty clothes or other distractions can take her out of her body and into her head, where she will have a hard time achieving orgasm.

Warm her up with a hot bath, sensual massage, slow dancing, or an activity she enjoys that helps her relax and become more sensual.  Use lots and of lots of foreplay to get her fully aroused before you even start to have sex.

Women have just as much erectile tissue in her clitoris as a man does in his penis, but it is internal, so takes much longer to get aroused, for the blood to pump into her genitals and the tissue to become engorged, sensitive and aroused.

A woman is like a kettle of water, slow to boil, but stays hot for hours, whereas a man is like a match, quick to ignite, but soon fizzles out.

In many cases, sex between male and female lover lasts 2 to 7 minutes.  So, is it any wonder that she doesn’t get off?

Men can also learn ways to prolong arousal, stay harder longer as well as semen retention techniques that allow you to last as long as you want, and to also experience multiple, as well as stronger orgasms.

Erogenous Zones

If you don’t know it already, her clitoris is her biggest erogenous zone (except from her brain, of course).  That is because the clitoris actually goes deep inside her genitals, under the skin, where it wraps around her urethra tube, forms her G-spot, surrounds her vagina and lies beneath the flesh of her vulva.  So, all that area is a part of the internal clitoris and makes up the various erogenous zones within the female genitals.

So, when we talk about the G-spot, or the A-spot, or the U-spot, these are all extensions of the inner clitoris in some way.

The external clitoris, the little nub or head that sticks out beneath the clitoral hood is the most sensitive part of the clitoris.  Often, this part needs lots of stimulation to get her to orgasm.

As a matter of fact, you have probably heard that 70% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax, and only about 25% of women can achieve orgasm via penetrative sex.  So, if a woman can’t orgasm via penetrative sex, it is not her fault, she is not broken, this is completely natural and they way her body works.  Society, media and porn perpetuates the myth that women always orgasm during sex, or there is something wrong with them.

My point?  Get to know her body, explore her erogenous zones and don’t forget her clitoris, especially during intercourse.  Learning how to navigate her erogenous zones with help you help her achieve orgasm.

Relax, Breathe and Focus on Sensation

One of the number one reasons women cannot reach orgasm is that she can’t get out of her head.

She may be worried about work, be stressed out, thinking about chores (yes, this happens!), or about not performing well in the bedroom, how she tastes, looks or smells, and whole bunch of other things.  These can all interfere with her connecting to her body, and allowing herself to FEEL sensual, sexual, and open to sensations and pleasure.

The way to help her get out of her head and into her body, is first to relax which we talked about in “Take Your Time and Explore”.

Another way to learn to relax, is to practice deep breathing techniques.  Just slowing down the breath and focusing on it can help her get more in tune with her body.

Once she becomes more relaxed and out of her head, she can start to focus on the sensations in her body: cold, warmth, touch, pleasure… the feeling of her breasts becoming full and her nipples becoming erect, her hips pumping, her clitoris and vulva becoming engorged… her breathing becoming more rapid and her skin becoming flushed, pleasure building in her genitals and moving that energy up her body… These are all ways she can focus on what she is feeling, so that she can build the erotic energy in her body to achieve orgasm.

Orgasms can start out feeling very subtle, especially vaginal orgasms, so she needs time to nourish the sensations her body is feeling and to allow them to expand into orgasm.

So, lovers, there are my 5 secrets to make her come.  Remember, women need many things all working together to help her get over the edge and into orgasm.

Now, take what you have learned home, and into the bedroom, where you can practice with her and both become more orgasmic.

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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Female orgasms can be very elusive, especially the penetrative kind during partnered sex.  We automatically assume that when a couple gets together to have sex, that a woman should just “naturally” be able to come.  But, this is not the case.

Find out about this myth and many more about female orgasms below, so you are armed with real knowledge to help her achieve amazing orgasms.

Women Should Be Able to Orgasm via Intercourse

Like I said above, assuming that women can and should be able to achieve orgasm via intercourse is a myth.  In fact, only 25% of women say that they can orgasm via penetrative sex with a partner.

Why is that so?  Shouldn’t the male and female genitals fit together perfectly so both partners can get off?

Unfortunately, they don’t.

This is because, a woman’s biggest erogenous zone in her genitals is her clitoris.  Seventy percent of women NEED clitoral stimulation to climax.  But during penetrative sex, often, her clitoris doesn’t get enough (or any) stimulation, so she can’t get aroused enough to have an orgasm.

How can we remedy this?

Lots and lots of foreplay before actually having sex, so her clitoris gets very turned on.  And, continue clitoral and other types of stimulation during penetrative sex, to assure she can reach orgasm.  Also, if the man has lasting power, this can help a lot, as women can take up to an hour of stimulation before they actually come.

If a Woman Doesn’t Orgasm, Something is Wrong With Her or She is Broken

This is a very hurtful myth.  It was long assumed that if a woman couldn’t come during sex that there was something wrong with her, or that her parts were somehow broken.

Again, this is not the case.

Women just need a lot more time warming up than men do, and they need certain types of stimulation (clitoral) to get off.  Assuming that there is something wrong with her, some women believe they will never get off, or that they need a magic pill or some kind of medical intervention to “fix” them.

But, women don’t always get off during sex, or even during good stimulation of her clitoris.  If her mind is full or worries or concerns, she won’t be able to get aroused.  This can have a huge impact on her being able to achieve orgasm.

She needs to learn about her erotic body and how to stimulate herself to orgasm, be in the right mindset,  get plenty of foreplay and clitoral stimulation, breathe, relax, explore, and feel safe so she can open to the pleasures of orgasm.

Women Can’t Orgasm Without a Skillful Lover

Having a skillful lover can help a woman to achieve orgasm.  But, even the most skillful Don Juan will not get her there, if she doesn’t know how to get there herself.

The ability to orgasm is the responsibility of each individual, and you can’t make her or force her to have one.  She needs to surrender to pleasure and allow herself to open, to get rid of her inhibitions and to know what gives her pleasure and communicate that with her partner.

She needs to learn, explore, what takes her over the edge, and then show you how to help her get there.  Only then will she be able to find the secret to her own orgasmic blueprint.

Vibrators are a Replacement for Men

There is a myth that vibrators can replace a man in the bedroom.  This is simply untrue.

Women crave intimacy, love, romance, mental stimulation, suspense and companionship.  A vibrator can’t give them all that.

What a vibrator can do, however, is help them reach arousal quicker and more frequently than  other types of stimulation.  That doesn’t mean she doesn’t still want you.

Think of a vibrator as a tool that can help you both give her orgasmic pleasure.  You can use this on her during foreplay to help her warm up, or even during penetrative sex to stimulate her clitoris.  Vibrators can be used on other parts of the body too, like the nipples, and even around the penis when used as a vibrating cock ring to give you more stamina and her more stimulation.

Missionary is the Best Position for Having Sex

Um, no.

Missionary position doesn’t do much to stimulate her clitoris, so it is not the best position to get her off.  Not that you can’t start there.  But for gosh sakes man, change it up.

The best positions for her to achieve orgasm are Doggie Style, which helps to reach her g-spot better, and Girl on Top, which can help stimulate her clitoris.

So, don’t be afraid to experiment a little with different positions during sex and see what works to get her off.  You don’t have to be an acrobat or a porn star to get into an orgasmic position.  You just need to be a little creative and have the courage to try new things.

Go watch my video course on “Her Secret Hot Spots” to find new ways to have sex that will really get her off.

I hope this article has helped you bust some myths about female orgasm and learn real ways to help her get there.  Both partners need to have an open mind, and learn to explore, play and make sex fun.

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