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  • Sexy ways to use a vibrator with your partner

    Sexy ways to use a vibrator with your partner

    Recent studies have found that more and more couples are willing to try out these buzzy toys in new and exciting ways that bring pleasure for both partners. Old-school thinking was that guys ran for the nearest exit whenever a woman pulled out a vibrator during sex – the theory being that it freaked you out to have another “package” in the room. Thankfully, that’s not really accurate anymore. And if you’re one of those dudes that are open to the awesome sensations a vibe can bring, I’m spilling here the best tips for using one with your partner.

    Buzz it on yourselves before you strip down

    Lay in bed, turn the vibrator on, and rub it all over your bodies BEFORE you take all your clothes off. Start at your knees, run up your inner thighs and circle it around her lady parts and the bulge in your pants. This way you’ll both get comfortable with the feeling. If you’re still hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start off even slower, by using a vibrating ring – a silicone toy you can slip around your penis and which has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of your penis, and if you are on top, it will hit your partner’s clitoris as you thrust.

    Start on a slow setting

    Use only the tip to circle her nipples and then give it to her so that she can do the same with yours. As you circle, turn up the speed gradually. Alternate between the vibrator and sucking her nipple (she should do the same to you). The back and forth and the heat of your mouths and lips will definitely feel amazing.

    Turn it up full throttle

    You can use it also on the shaft of your penis – it isn’t so sensitive, so you can handle it without problems. This is actually a great move, especially if you move it up one side of your package and down the other. This way, you are stimulating your entire penis, which makes you extra-hard and able to last for longer. You can also wrap it in your partner panties to lessen the sensation and hold it against your boys while she fondles your shaft. Your testicles can’t take very much stimulation, so the muffled shaking is right.

    During oral

    This is perhaps my favorite move of all. Your partner should hold the side of the vibrator against her cheek as she takes you in and out. Her wet, quivering mouth will feel unexpected and arousing for you. But don’t forget to return the favor in the same hot way. When you’re busy licking and sucking on her clitoris, use the vibe on her nipples and then on her labia. Another expert trick: while you’re using your tongue to pleasure her, put the vibrator inside her angled slightly toward her belly button – that way, you will hit her G-spot (that spongy, dime-sized area about 2 inches inside a woman that is pleasure-packed with nerves). The combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm!

    Take total control of the toy

    And use it on her during penetration. Here’s a position that opens her up for you: Lie on your back and have her get on top (reverse cowgirl). She should also lie so that her back is against your chest. The entire front of her body is thus revealed, and you can reach around and trail the vibrator from her breasts to her clitoris.

    Your perineum

    This small patch of skin between your balls and anus is super sensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped vibrator (putting anything bigger near your booty might freak you out), and whip it up while she is on top. As she rides you, give it to her and ask her to reach behind and hold it against that particular area.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more tips and tricks on how to incorporate naughty sex toys into your sensual repertoire, check out my program: Lusty Vibrations.

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  • Make Condoms fun! Add Some Sex Toys.

    Make Condoms fun! Add Some Sex Toys.

    One thing that can really add some new energy into a couple’s sexual relationship is experimenting with sex toys. Sex toys can be fun and exciting, not only because it’s something new and different, but also because it’s a little bit taboo. The taboo aspect of using sex toys can turn a couple on even more because they feel like they are being just a little bit naughty. However, the taboo nature of sex toys for a couple who isn’t used to using them, can also be the reason why they stay away from them all together. A couple might be too shy or embarrassed to go into a shop to buy toys. What if someone sees me? What will the shopkeeper think? How will I know what to buy?

    There can be a lot of concerns that could keep someone away from exploring this exciting and sexy world. But I’m here to tell you… to BEG you, not to let that happen. Listen, you don’t need to take any big risks in order to start experimenting with sex toys. In fact, you’d be surprised to know that there are plenty of household items that can be used as sex toys! So without further ado, here are some of the best homemade sex toys out there:

    1. Back Massager

    This is a classic homemade sex toy. It’s marketed as a handheld back massager, but I would put money on the fact that a lot of people use it in other ways. What you want to look for is something that comes with a few different vibration settings. Remember that the clitoris is VERY sensitive, so having a massager that offers a low vibration setting would be very useful. Most women don’t like a really powerful vibration down there. Also, think about getting something that isn’t too big and will be comfortable to use. No one will think twice when they see you buying a back massager, but you’ll know what you’re really going to do with it!

    2. Washing Machine and Dryer

    You may have seen this one in the movies. The washing machine and/or dryer can be an AWESOME sex toy. The vibrations feel amazing when a woman sits on top of it. You can have her sit up there while you’re having sex or while you go down on her. Not only will she get amazing vibrations in her ass and genitals, but you will both be extra turned on by having naughty sex in the laundry room! Win – win!

    3. Check Your Fridge

    It’s true that certain vegetable and fruit can serve as awesome dildos for your partner. The first tip is to pick something with the right shape. A banana is often referred to for it’s shape, but if it’s too soft or bent, it might not serve the right purpose (but keep in mind that if it’s bent at just the right angle, it could be a great G spot massager). Think carrots (not pointy at the end), cucumber, zucchini, etc. Then you should ALWAYS use a condom to cover it up before using it. This will make sure your partner doesn’t get any kind of infection from your play. Also, remember to use lube as well! Use the dildo to penetrate her while you go down on her.

    4. Vibrating Razor

    Not long ago, Gillette came out with a vibrating razor and my first thought was, THAT’S A SEX TOY IN DISGUISE! I mean really, who need a RAZOR that vibrates? Personally, I think this was genius marketing. A woman could buy a razor that doubles as a sex toy and no one would ever think twice about it! The razor has a nice, gentle vibration and it’s small enough that it can be easily incorporated when you’re having sex with your partner. One important tip: be sure to take the razor part off before using it, JUST in case!

    5. Electric toothbrush

    This has the same idea as the vibrating razor. It’s small, it’s gentle, it’s amazing. Use the side that doesn’t have bristles and I would also suggest putting some plastic wrap over the head of the toothbrush for protection.

    If you like using these homemade sex toys, you might be ready to start exploring some of the toys you can buy on the internet. Remember, most companies will send them to you in an unmarked box and you can shop from the privacy of your own home!

    Happy vibrations,
    Fidan Paula

    P.S. If you want to know about even more amazing sex toys, please check out the complete guide by clicking here!

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  • How to speed up her orgasm

    Lots of women have trouble orgasming — and a lot of women can orgasm just fine but take a damn long time to do it. Now, taking a while is nothing for a woman to be embarrassed about — she should take all the time she needs and know that there’s nothing wrong with her if it takes a while to get off — and it’s partly down to the way that women are built. It can take women around 20 minutes to reach peak arousal. For men, on average, it’s rather fast — touch, a thought, something visual can do the trick. Of course it is.

    But if you want her to finish faster, whether it’s to sync up with you or because you’ve got things to do and people to see, there are plenty of ways to do it — techniques, products, and general ways to explore. It’s important that you play around with different tips and find what works for you and your partner. Then, the next time you want to give her an orgasm really quickly, but you’re worried it’s going to make you late for work, you’ll be in a great position to fire one out in a hurry.

    Here are the different techniques you can use, because there are so many ways to approach it.

    Try plenty of foreplay

    If her problem is that she’s taking a long time to orgasm during penetration — which isn’t a problem, by the way, she should take all the damn time she needs — you can speed things along by spending more time on foreplay. It not only gets her aroused — it can improve your connection too. Sex play can be just as gratifying as the rest of sex, in fact it can increase anticipation and spontaneity so that arousal and orgasm are improved, while the bonding hormone oxytocin gets released through extended touch. Oxytocin increases your sense of connection and overall wellness.

    Go for blended stimulation

    One is good, two is better. Seriously though, most women need that clit stimulation, but the intensity of combining it with G-spot stimulation can really get things moving. The G-spot is located two inches inside the vagina, on the topside of the vaginal wall, and has a spongy texture. To find the G-spot, insert two fingers, palm-up, with a ‘come-here’ motion, and press up against the front wall of the vagina. The G-spot responds to direct pressure. Want to try it during sex? Try shallow thrusting or woman on top positions to get the G-spot, then you or your partner can give her clit a hand.

    Use lube

    Lube just makes everything better. Lube revolutionizes sex lives and opens up a world of erotic possibilities. And you can go for one with a warming or tingly sensation for extra stimulation. It’s not just if she needs it — lube is totally fun as an addition to any sex experience.

    Learn about her body

    Want to really get a handle on how to give her an orgasm in hurry? Learn about her body. Every woman is different, and factors like the size and position of her clitoris can have a large impact on how she orgasms. Research has found that women who have a clitoris that sits closer to their vaginal opening have a greater chance of achieving orgasm than women who have a larger distance between these two body parts. The ‘rule of thumb’ states that women with an ideal distance of about one inch (or a thumb’s distance) between their vaginal opening and their clitoris will have a better chance of achieving this form of orgasm.

    But everyone is different and there’s no wrong way to be built. Just utilize techniques that work for her specific anatomy.

    Try a toy

    Vibrators work. For a lot of my patients, they were the first way that they experienced an orgasm — or the only way they still can. Vibrators kind of level the playing field for women in the bedroom. A lot of women really need the consistent stimulation on their clitoris to have the same experience as men have. Adding one in always speeds up the process.

    Try a new technique

    You may be trying the sex position that works best for you— and there are a lot of sex positions out there. Practice them with your partner — you might find your own secret to a super-fast orgasm.

    If you have trouble giving your partner a quick and easy orgasm, know that you’re not alone. Invest some time in finding the right toy, technique, or more about her body and you’ll be speeding things up in no time.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S.- If “Sex Toys” is a subject that has caught your attention, please check out my program Lusty Vibrations for further info.

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  • Have you tried the blended orgasm?

    While sex is all about getting intimate with your partner, you both have one goal in mind: to reach orgasm. At least that’s what I hope you both want. It would be terrible to hear you’re only concerned about your own pleasure and your partner’s orgasm comes second. Especially given the fact that women aren’t so lucky when it comes to the easiness of their climaxes. In fact, only 20% of women can have an orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, the poor souls.

    To make things easier for you, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. You can up the odds of her orgasm – this is where the blended orgasm comes in. A blended orgasm is achieved via a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. However, it can also mean to blend multiple erogenous zones at the same time, thing the G-Spot, the A-Spot, nipples and even anal stimulation.

    Given the fact that most women (70% of them, to be more exact) need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, the blended orgasm is your best bet on the path to mutual sexual bliss. Why? Because blended orgasms last longer and are more intense, thus giving you enough time to make sure your partner reaches the finish line as well.

    To reach a blended orgasm it’s best to experiment with different options to see what works for her. Here are four different ways you can give her a blended orgasm:

    1. Get handsy

    Penetrative sex teamed with clitoral stimulation is one of the best ways to achieve a blended orgasm. One of the best positions to achieve this is doggy style, where you can go deep and also reach around to stimulate the clitoris. While you might think that doggy is the perfect way to spice up vanilla, missionary sessions, it’s actually much more orgasmic than you would have previously thought. But if you’re not reaching around and stimulating her clitoris, you can kiss the orgasm bye, bye. If you’re only focusing on G-Spot stimulation and going as deep as possible, you partner might feel disconnected and she might even feel pain around the cervix.

    2. Go through the backdoor

    Women can have anal orgasms through indirect stimulation of the erogenous zones inside of the vagina – both the G-Spot and the A-Spot. These erogenous zones share a wall with the rectum – and combining this with clitoral stimulation will have her toes curling. The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone, and for many women the clitoris extends all the way down the anus, thus when you’re stimulating her anus, you’re also stimulating the clitoral legs. With all this stimulation going on, your chances of giving your partner an intense orgasm are good. But don’t hurry into it, though. Start by giving her a butt massage and using relaxing moves to enhance pleasure, such as going from light to firm, teasing, and pinching.

    3. Go old fashioned

    You should consider your hands and fingers your most important tools in the bedroom. It’s a common faulty belief among men that the penis is the ultimate tool in bed. I couldn’t disagree more. Your hands and fingers are much more reliable and versatile when it comes to giving women orgasms – especially blended orgasms. Fingers are the perfect way to combine sensations to make a blended orgasm. Warm her up using your fingers, tracing circles around her clitoris. Then insert your fingers into her while still stimulating the clitoris with your thumb or mouth. Curl the inserted fingers towards the belly button to hit her G-Spot. You’ve got yourself a winner.

    4. Use toys

    From couples’ toys, to anal beads and clitoral stimulators, the options are endless when it comes to spicing it up in the bedroom. Penis rings will add vibration – and they also help men to last longer, and you really do want this. If you last longer, you’re giving her time to fully enjoy herself and have an orgasm. See, you’re both winners in this case!

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more tips and tricks about how to achieve intense female orgasms, check out my program on the matter – Squirting Orgasms Shortcuts

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  • Are you ready for a sex feast?

    Eating food and having sex are undoubtedly two of the best things about being alive. As dining is already an integral part of dating, integrating food into your sex life is an easy peasy way to try new things in bed.

    Some more extreme kinks involving food may seem pretty far out, but the connection between sex and food makes perfect sense. They’re both comforting activities often shared with those you love. Not to mention, sex is supposed to be messy.

    For those of you who are intimidated, fear not: There are plenty of ways to incorporate food into your sex life that keep you within your comfort zone. Not convinced? I’ve rounded up some great foods to bring into the bedroom, along with beginner tips.

    Sushi

    Try out Nyotaimori, the art of eating sushi off a naked body, at home. Order your favorite rolls, and then take turns arranging them on each other’s bodies and then eating them. Traditionally, a barrier such as bamboo leaves is between the sushi and the body, but if you’re going to place it directly on your partner’s skin, you might want to make sure they’re clean first.

    Cherries

    Go old-school and preface your foreplay by challenging your partner to the classic kissing test: See who can tie a cherry stem in a knot with their tongue. Beyond that, cherries are a great addition to the bedroom. Run them over your partner’s body, or drizzle the juice over their erogenous zones and then lick it off.

    Popsicles

    I know: Popsicles look like penises. But since they’re made out of mostly frozen water and sugar, they’re not good to use for penetration, so don’t use them like this. Not only can the sugar in a popsicle throw off your partner’s pH balance and potentially cause yeast infections, but the popsicle itself might melt inside her orifices. That’s not so fun for a woman’s vagina, but it’s super fun (and delicious) for a mouth. Ask your lady to how off her blowjob skills by sucking and licking a popsicle as you watch, or sit across from each other and swap the icy treat back and forth between your mouths during a make out session. The frozen dessert is also an exciting way to introduce temperature play into your sex life; try running a popsicle over your partner’s nipples and then lick off the sweet residue.

    Brie & crackers

    If your taste buds prefer savory over sweet, brie can be used in the same manner as gooey chocolate syrup. Get messy by spreading the soft cheese over your lover’s nipples and licking it off while enjoying an entirely new flavor profile than the sugary treats traditionally used for food play. Not turned on by eating fancy French cheese off your partner’s body? Brie and crackers can also be served as the ultimate post-sex snack. A cheese plate in bed is pretty much the classiest and most delicious palate cleanser you can have after an oral sex marathon.

    Grapes

    As part of breakfast in bed, after Sunday morning sex, add grapes to your partner’s plate of well-deserved delicacies, and feed them to her Cleopatra-style. She’ll feel worship worthy for sure. Before you get to the post-sex snacks, grapes can be used for temperature play while getting it on. Frozen grapes are delicious even without the love making, so imagine how delightful the fruit can be when orgasms are involved. Place a bundle of grapes in the freezer over night. When you’re ready for some icy hot foreplay, pluck a frozen grape from its stem and run it over your woman’s nipples and other erogenous zones.

    Whipped cream

    If the infamous Varsity Blues whipped cream bikini scene didn’t convince you, whipped cream is a classic for a reason. It’s delicious and it has the perfect fluffy-yet-sticky consistency that helps it stay put on erogenous zones. Integrate the tasty treat into your foreplay by spraying it on your partner’s nipples and licking it off. You can also use it as the perfect segue way to oral sex by creating a line from your partner’s neck down to just barely above their genitals. Lick your way down, then proceed to eat her out. Be careful about getting the dessert inside the labia, as sugar can cause yeast infections.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more saucy ideas on how you can make your foreplay more creative, check out my program on sex toys  –  Lusty Vibrations.

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  • After getting naughty, clean those toys!

    After getting naughty, clean those toys!

    As a kid, you probably always made sure your toys had fresh batteries. Now that you’re grown, your sex toys deserve the same TLC, particularly when it comes to keeping them clean.

    Regularly cleaning your sex toys will keep the material and motors in shape, so that they last longer. Not to mention, your sex toys navigate sensitive terrain. While there’s nothing “dirty” about genitals, bacteria can build up on your toys and spread, so it’s important to clean them regularly.

    You really should be washing your sex toys after every single use, and possibly before, too. When you buy a sex toy, there should be cleaning instructions somewhere on it. But if you’ve tossed the packaging, or just don’t remember, ahead are some tips. Whether you’re using a vibrator, dildo, strap-on, leather handcuffs, or anything else, here’s how you should clean your sex toys.

    Wash before storing

    After you use a sex toy, you should always clean it before you store it. You don’t want body fluids drying on it, and then sitting in a drawer. And depending where you store your toys, you might want to also rinse them off before you use them. If your vibrator or dildo is left out or in contact with other objects, it can collect lint, pet hair, or dust, and will benefit from a quick wash before use.

    Avoid perfumes

    While you might be tempted to use your scented hand soap to make your sex toys smell nice, just don’t. It’s best to avoid using perfumed soaps, because they can leave a residue on the toy that can irritate your genitals when you use it again. You should also avoid using anti-bacterial soaps for the same reason, and just stick to something mild. The way that you clean your sex toy often depends on the material that it’s made out of. Non-porous materials, like silicone, hard plastic, elastomer, metal, or glass, are generally easier to clean. For those, you can wash with a mild, non-irritating soap and water, and don’t have to do any special disinfecting.

    Don’t dunk

    When you’re washing, be careful about submerging your toys completely in water — unless of course they’re waterproof. Waterproof toys can be dropped in a sink of soapy water, but that will damage the motor of others. If your toy isn’t waterproof, you should hold it under the faucet or just use a cloth to wipe it down.

    Avoid the dishwasher

    It’s best not to throw a toy in the dishwasher, unless you know it’s dishwasher-safe. Technically, pyrex toys could probably go on the top rack of a dishwasher and be fine, but other glass toys shouldn’t be exposed to high temperatures. And anything with a motor, like a vibrator, should only be hand-washed.

    Try a special spray

    Buying a special spray for your toys might seem like overkill, but it can be really handy to have. There are products that can be sprayed on and rinsed off and that can be safely used on latex, rubber, and silicone. Sprays are convenient to have if you need discretion, are traveling, or don’t like to get out of bed for a while after sex.

    Consider a condom

    Toys made from porous materials (like jelly rubber) can trap bacteria. That means that the toys can’t be completely disinfected, so I recommend using a condom over your toy for an added layer of protection. Also, jelly rubber is a somewhat outdated material that you should avoid, because it can contain potentially harmful materials, like phthalates.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more information on erotic sex toys play and how you can better incorporate them into your sexual routine, check out my program on the matter – Lusty Vibrations.

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  • Phone sex the right way

    You’re all revved up and ready to have phone sex with your partner, and then the phone rings and all you can think of saying is, “I wanna li-li-li-lick you from your head to your toes, and I wanna move from the bed, down to the, down to the to the floor.” Phone conversations are hard, particularly when you’re supposed to sound sexy.

    It’s completely normal to get tongue-tied during phone sex, and you don’t have to face-palm yourself if you feel this way. We are conditioned from an early age to experience pleasure quickly and silently, due to most of us growing up in households where masturbation required stealth and speed. Identifying and articulating our sexual needs is a learned skill, and one that takes practice.

    And having a list of phrases to say before you start isn’t dumb, it’s brilliant. One of the ways phone sex is easier than in-person dirty talk is that it gives you the flexibility to have a cheat sheet in front of you in case you get stuck. You can think of it as a Mad Libs exercise, but for sex. Phone sex is an exercise in improv, self awareness, and communication. It can definitely feel awkward until you start to get the hang of it.

    So, the next time you don’t know what to say, try one of these tantalizing, roll-off-the-tongue phrases.

    Moan

    If you lose your train of thought, the best thing to do is talk about how hot your partner is making you feel, and then just let moaning fill the space. The easiest solution is to act like you’re thoroughly enjoying yourself while you catch your thoughts.

    “What are you wearing?”

    One common way to initiate phone sex is to just ask the person on the other line what they’re wearing, because it’s a simple but easily recognizable sign of sexual interest. Initiating phone sex doesn’t have to be super witty; you just need something that gets the point across.

    “Tell me what you want to do to me”

    The good thing about phone sex is that you always have a partner to help you along if you get lost. But, instead of just saying, “Okay, your turn,” ask them to describe what they would want to do to you. It buys you a few seconds before you have to say something again, and will likely inspire your next topic.

    “When I imagine myself inside of you I want to come”

    If you’re at a loss for words, simply name a body part, an action, and how it makes you feel. If that’s too complicated, you can swap different parts or reactions in the phrase, “Feeling your _____ all over me makes me want to _____”.

    “As soon as I walk into your room I feel your hands pull down my pants”

    Role play doesn’t have to involve some crazy fantastical plot line, and you can totally explore things as yourself. Phrase scenarios in present-tense so it feels like it’s actually happening in real time.

    “I feel my skin burning. My dick is hard. I feel heat radiating from it. My body is craving your touch.”

    If you do lose your train of thought, audibly take a deep breath or two. While you’re taking those two deep breaths, check in with your body and narrate something that’s happening.

    “I feel you breathing faster as the pleasure is building”

    Although much of phone sex involves noises, you should try to describe all of your senses — including sounds — in great detail. Explain the sensations you’re feeling, and your partner might be able to “feel” them, too.

    “I run my hands over my abs, down my belly, and slip my right hand into my underwear”

    Talking about how you’re masturbating is the easiest starting point for phone sex. And if you’re at a loss for words, you could always just say nothing and let your partner listen to the natural sounds of you masturbating.

    “I can see your muscles shake as I tease your button, which is begging to be fingered”

    Take your time, because the longer you have on the phone with your partner, the better phone sex will be. Teasing your partner by telling them that you’re “hovering” above or around their genitals will enhance the mental stimulation even further, and make them even more turned on.

    “I’m going to bring you to the edge of orgasm until you’re so overcome with need that you beg me to let you come”

    If there’s a kinky sex act that you’re dying to try, but are too nervous, phone sex is the perfect time to play out those fantasies. You can bring power play into edging, for example, and bring someone to the brink of an orgasm, then slow down or stop. You might also ask your partner to ask you for “permission” before they’re “allowed” to orgasm.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. For more saucy ideas on how you can make your sex games more creative, check out my program on sex toys  –  Lusty Vibrations.

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  • Your ideal pleasure machine

    Your ideal pleasure machine

    When it comes to buying a sex toy to use with your partner, it all depends on who you are in bed – the both of you. Fortunately, I’m here to do a personality match so that you can pick the one that best suits your needs and those of your partner.

    Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, sex toys are one of the best ways to rev up your sex life. Sex is meant to be playful. You don’t want to end up as that couple who finds it a chore. Sex toys are the best accessories to get hold of when you want to spice things up and find more reasons to look forward to sex with your partner. The online market is flooded with pleasure-enhancers; so should you start with something small and basic or buy the biggest, splashiest device known to man? I have an idea: match the toy to the player.

    Just like everyone has a TV show, artist or ice cream flavor that’s totally suited to them, there’s no one-size-fits-all sex toy. Everyone has different needs and preferences. And while there’s any number of ways to choose the perfect sex toy for your partner – her personality (at least her bedroom personality) can help you narrow down the best one for her and you.

    For more saucy ideas on how to best incorporate toys in the bedroom, check out my program, Toys for Tits. Yes, you read that correctly! What, you didn’t know that women can orgasm from having their nipples stimulated with the right toys? Yes, it’s true! Nipple-gasms are a real thing, which is awesome for you, nipple lover!

    She’s curious but shy

    The bathtub is a great place for sex, and while shower jets have long been known for certain unofficial uses, many find them too harsh. Try a submersible, hand-held, personal pleasure jet that combines the relaxing powers of water and air to let thousands of tiny bubbles stimulate and pleasure your partner, and yourself, gently.

    She’s attracted to both simple and kinky pleasures

    This one’s for those who believe that pain and pleasure make the best bedfellows. In this particular case, a Nipple Suction Set won’t disappoint. Put them on and twist the screws to create suction that is sensational, to say the least. Soon to be your partner’s BFFs during foreplay, these can be used on your partner’s nipples and other sensitive spots such as her neck too.

    She’s skilled but underserved

    For those who like things wild, a powerful massager is perfect! These can take many forms, but I recommend you pick a devilishly intense mini vibrator with special and flexible ‘horns’ that are able to send intense vibrations to all your partner’s pleasure spots for a highly precise orgasmic experience. Go get one, now!

    She’s satisfied but seeking more

    The new mantra to follow in bed is: rotate and vibrate! I’m a particularly big fan of remote-controlled pleasure beads that rotate and vibrate at the same time to deliver sensations to your partner’s clitoris. The more adjustable stimulation patterns, the better. Variety is very, very welcome when it comes to sex toys.

    She’s quiet but powerful

    Do all things dark and mysterious turn your partner on? A vibrating panty that comes with a bullet hidden inside will get her hot and bothered in an instant. Doesn’t this remind you of one Mr Grey? It’s discrete and sexy, just like your lady.

    Hot kisses,

    Fidan Paula

    P.S. – If there is anything more you want to know about Sex Toys, I recommend taking a look at my program – Lusty Vibrations. In this program, you’ll learn exactly how to choose the perfect sex toys, and how to use the most discreet and powerful vibrators to blow her mind!

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  • The Top Eight Women’s Secret Erotic Fantasies

    The Top Eight Women’s Secret Erotic Fantasies

    Hey Lover!

    Ah, secret sexual fantasies! Wouldn’t you just love to know what goes on inside her head? Well, read on and you may get a few ideas.

    It is obvious with bestsellers like “Fifty Shades of Grey” that women do have fantasies and want to at least read about them, if not fulfill them. Years before “Fifty Shades”, Nancy Friday wrote a few books called “My Secret Garden” and “Forbidden Fruit” where she interviewed hundreds of women, and compiled the top sexual fantasies that women thought about in secret.

    Here are eight of women’s top fantasies to give you an idea of what she may fantasize about and also some role-playing fantasies you may want to try together.

    1. The Faceless Stranger

    Ah, the faceless stranger. No need to define him, he is the epitome of every hot, sexy man she has ever crushed on. He is the stranger in the night who sweeps her off her feet, romances her like a Prince and then devours her like a beast. The anonymity of this fantasy reduces the relationship to a “purely physical one” says Friday, “[While] it heightens romance and adds drama; it increases pleasure and eliminates guilt, fantasy’s enemy.” No strings attached, no worries about ever meeting in person, your imagination is the only limit and almost anything could happen.

    Try this: For a romantic fantasy, be her masked and mysterious lover some night and sweep her off her feet, like Cyrano de Bergerac, wooing the beautiful Roxane.

    2. Surrender of Control

    This is a “being taken” control of fantasy. In it, the “victim” can surrender control to her captor and become an object of desire. She doesn’t have to tell him her unspoken desires. She doesn’t need to break taboos and become the “bad” girl, for she is not responsible for her actions and therefore can be relieved of any sexual guilt. If she is held down or tied up, she is not in control of what happens to her. So she still remains a “good girl” even during the naughtiest of sex. Socially women are taught not to be promiscuous, so “rape” fantasies allow them to not be responsible for their sexual desires, and therefore they can fantasize about hot sex guilt free.

    Try this: Pretend to capture her like a pirate and she is your hostage. Tie her up and do all the naughty things to her she secretly desires.

    3 & 4. Dominance and Submission

    Being submissive in one form or another was the biggest fantasy in Friday’s books for women. Whether it was a “surrender of control”, a rape fantasy, or being a sex slave like Anastasia in “Fifty Shades”, women still want to be in the role where the man is in control, at least in the bedroom.

    “My Secret Garden” was written twenty five years ago. Since then women have supposedly won their liberation, so you would think women would desire to play more dominant roles. However, Friday says that is exactly the reason why women want to be dominated in bed: “[T]he new reality of being man’s equal makes them unconsciously nervous about their identity as women, and so throws them back into longing for the traditional, safe, and “known” role…”

    Try this: This is your time to take control in the bedroom. Tell her what to do and if she fails, punish her erotically. A great scenario for this is the naughty secretary who comes to an interview with the stern, dominant boss.

    5 & 6. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

    Women’s fantasies of watching or being watched take many forms. Sometimes they are on display, undressing in front of a window while a Peeping Tom ravishes them with his eyes. Or, maybe they are performing sexually on a stage while an appreciative audience applauds, designating them to pure objects of desire.

    Try this: Sit in a chair in a dark corner of the room, so just your silhouette is visible and get her to masturbate under a bright lamp. She will know you are there, but because she can barely see you, this will help loosen her inhibitions. Knowing you are watching her will make her HOT!

    7. Spanking

    Both men and women have spanking fantasies. While some enjoy it for the sake of the pain itself, many enjoy the fantasy because of the humiliation aspect it brings. Like being a naughty impertinent girl and getting her just rewards from her lover as he throws her over his knee and bares her bottom. Or, the school girl who is caned by the Head Master at school for some undeserved infraction. Spanking fantasies have become so popular that many couples enjoy this type of role playing together as a sexual pastime.

    Try this: This fantasy could go together with any of the submissive fantasies above. Spanking should be fun, playful and arousing. Find out her limits (pain tolerance) and don’t go beyond that. Make sure to interrupt the spanking often with softer caresses and kneading.

    8. Lesbian Sex and Threesomes

    To have fantasies of being with another woman doesn’t necessarily make a woman a lesbian or bisexual. Many “straight” women enjoy these fantasies. The allure of being with the opposite sex is undeniable: the desire of touching soft flesh so similar to their own, or the taboo aspect of it. Or, having sex with you and another woman could be a big turn on for her.

    Try this: You may not have the opportunity to have a lesbian drop over to have sex with your partner. And, you and she may not even want this in reality. There are lots of hot sexy lesbian adult films (or 3-somes), however, that you could watch together, to get the imagination flowing. Then, talk dirty while you have sex, telling her what the “other” girl is doing to her.

    Do All Women Fantasize Sexually?

    From Nancy Friday’s research, we can assume that all women do have fantasies in some form or another. Sometimes a woman’s fantasy is something she will want to keep secret and never want to try in real life. However, with Fifty Shades’ popularity, women are now giving themselves permission to explore their fantasies more and more.

    So, while I don’t encourage you to jump her in a dark alley, I do invite you to talk to her about her sexual fantasies.

    Maybe you will both find something interesting to explore together!

    Kisses,

    Fidan Paula

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  • Four Simple Ways to Become a Rock Star in the Bedroom

    Four Simple Ways to Become a Rock Star in the Bedroom

    Hey Lover!

    Do you want to rock her world and inspire her erotic abandon?

    If you feel you lack the ability or confidence to please your gal in the bedroom, then I am here to help.

    Here are four simple ways you can learn how to become a rock star in the bedroom.

    1. Become a Sexpert Lover

    A sexpert lover is someone who is continually seeking knowledge about all the amazing and diverse ways to have sex and pleasure their partners.

    To become a sexpert lover you need to:

    • Take courses or workshops either online or in person on various sexuality subjects.
    • Read how-to sex-ed books, e-books and watch videos on how to be great in bed.
    • Practice what you learn on your partner so you can hone your skills.
    • Get constant feedback from your partner and learn how to improve
    • Be open and creative and willing to try new things.

    My challenge to you is to pick one new area of sex play that you don’t know much about each month, learn the techniques and try them out on your partner. Choose from G-spot and female ejaculation, Tantra or erotic massage, anal sex, oral sex, foreplay techniques and so much more!

    2. Be Creative

    Being a creative lover has a lot to do with learning. By learning new skills and different ways to make love, you will build a repertoire of techniques and ways to pleasure her. Instead of the same old boring routine sex moves, you will have numerous ways to give her stimulation.

    Becoming a creative lover will:

    • Remove the boredom and routine from the bedroom.
    • Keep her in suspense so she is always erotically charged.
    • Keep your sex life spicy, adventurous and fun!
    • Give you many tools to fall back on if you ever draw a blank as to what to do next during your lovemaking.

    Here are some ideas on how to be more creative.

    Do one new thing each time you have sex. This doesn’t have to be a whole guidebook of tricks, but just one simple move like a new fingering technique, or new oral sex move. Or, try stimulating another part of her body that you usually neglect.

    Be spontaneous. Try sex in different places, at different times of the day. Grab her in the shower for a quickie in the morning. Seduce her in the kitchen while she is making supper. Have sex on the washing machine while the wash is in spin cycle. There are so many opportunities to get it on.

    Being creative means having an open mind. So, try new types of sex. What about a sex toy to spice it up? How about some kinky ideas from Fifty Shades of Grey? Tantra sex? Fast and furious? Slow and romantic? Naughty sex? Try new things, change it up and be creative!

    3. Get Feedback

    Communication is the key to great sex. So, while you do want to surprise her with new things and be spontaneous, make sure she is on the same page as you are. In other words, don’t just stick a finger up her butt unless you have already discussed and agreed upon having anal sex.

    But, how do you keep it spontaneous while communicating about wants, needs, desires and consent?

    You go over a possible checklist (or create a sexy bucket list) of the kinds of sex you want to explore together. Next, talk about each activity in depth and then save them for when you want to try out something new. This will give you plenty of sexy activities to choose from.

    During your sexual explorations, you need to both communicate on what is working and what is not. Tune into her body language. Encourage her to give you verbal cues.

    Talk about sex afterwards. Find out what really turned her on and flew her to the moon. And, also, what things you can improve on. Tell her what made you hot. Be open! Communication is sexy!

    4. Take Control in the Bedroom

    Oh God Yes!

    Every woman wants a guy to take control in the bedroom. She may never ask for it, or even seem like she wants to be submissive in day to day life. But in the bedroom, women crave a confident, sexy, take-charge kind of guy.

    So, if you are not very confident, how do you get there? By following the 3 steps above you are half way there! Becoming a sexpert, being creative and learning what she wants will make you more confident. Use that confidence to allow your masculinity to come out and conquer her.

    Claim her physically. Do this by putting your arm around her, or holding her hand in public. Letting her (and everyone else know) she is yours.

    Initiate sex in a bold way. I’m not saying to be overly aggressive, here. But, you can push her forcefully up against a wall. Press your full body to hers as you hold her wrists and then whisper in her ear what you want to do with her. Hot!

    Tell her what to do. Tell her how hot she makes you and how sexy she is. Then tell her you want her to take her clothes off nice and slow and give you a show. Tell her to come here and straddle your hips as you pull her down on top of you.

    Hold her wrists down during sex. Many women love it when a man holds her arms above her head and ruts her like a stallion. While you are doing this talk dirty to her and tell her how you are going to make her come again and again. Whoa! It’s getting hot in here isn’t it?

    So there are some tips on how to become a rock star in the bedroom. Stay tuned, keep learning new sexy techniques, and make sex the ultimate adventure.

    Kisses,

    Fidan Paula

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