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Author: Fidan

  • How to Give Her the Naughty Sex She Craves and Turn Her into a Sex Kitten

    Hey Lover!

    Many women love hot, dirty, kinky, wanton, rip your clothes off, kind of sex.

    There, now I’ve said it!

    I’m sure you have heard of Fifty Shades of Grey. It is a series of books that have gone mainstream, and that have fired up women’s fantasies and libidos. Or, more accurately, the books have given women permission to explore their fantasies.

    You see, women have always been sexual in nature. She likes hot, naughty sex as much as a guy does. But, until the last 5 years or so, women have felt unable to show it.

    Why?

    First, there was that whole history of women being sexually suppressed thing. Then, there was the virtually non-existent sex research in the area of female sexuality and pleasure until recently. And, finally, now that women have become, so-called liberated, they are still unfortunately slut-shamed when they own their sexuality and pleasure. Combine that with sexual abuse, and sometimes sex is not always a safe place for a woman to be.

    This article is not about slut-shaming or sexual abuse. I just want you to realize a few reasons why women may not act as wanton in bed as you may want them to. They don’t feel safe to show how they really feel, because being a sexy, wanton little, sex kitten, makes them feel vulnerable.

    So, how can you open her up and bring out her inner sex kitten?

    Make Her Feel Safe

    This is obvious, yet so many lovers carelessly throw away the gift of their sweetheart’s openness by being judgmental. Never judge, criticize, make fun of, sneer at, or put down someone’s openness about sex. This is truly a gift! If you have a lover who feels so safe with you that they will tell you their deepest desires. Cherish it. Don’t ever break their trust.

    Communicate and Share Your Fantasies

    Talk about your turn-ons, turn-offs and what makes you hot. Both men and women share many of the same fantasies. No doubt the two of you will have something in common that makes you hot. Create your own sexy bucket list together and explore some fun fantasies. Fantasies and role-playing allow her to not be herself, so it is easier to get into the role of a naughty school girl, sex slave or wanton secretary.

    Talk Dirty

    Dirty talk during sex is a sure fire way to get everything hotter. The way to do this is to start slow. Maybe at first you can tell her what you want her to do. “Take off your clothes and turn around so I can look at you.” “Ya, that’s good. You look so hot you are making me hard. Come on over here and feel it.” Use a deep voice and talk slow, making sure to be seductive. Tell her she is a naughty girl or a good girl, whichever she prefers. She may like to be called a slut, or a bad girl, but make sure you know this beforehand, as it could also offend her. Use dirty talk to praise her body, “Your ass is so sexy,” or, “You taste so good.” Or, simply describe what you are doing in a dirty way. “I love the feeling of being inside you. Oh, you are so tight and wet!”

    Dominate Her in the Bedroom

    Despite women becoming more assertive in the workplace, many women still love to be dominated in bed. Most women like to feel feminine, safe and taken care of by a strong, masculine man who is in control.

    Be sure to talk about any type of BDSM play like bondage, humiliation, or spanking beforehand and if needed, give her a safe word like “RED”.

    Here are some hot dominate ideas to try:

    Push her up against the wall and hold her wrists. Press your body against her and kiss her passionately. Tell her what you are going to do to her in the bedroom as you push your knee in between her thighs and spread her legs.

    Grind your pelvis against her and grope her breasts and ass. Rip open her blouse and bare her breasts. Pull up her skirt and pull her panties aside. Put your finger in her vulva and make sure she is good and wet, before fingering and rubbing her clitoris.
    Hold her down in bed and enter her. Playfully bite her neck and earlobes. Pull her hair if she likes this.

    You can also tie her wrists together, so you can have your hands free for other naughty things, or even gag her with a scarf, if this is something she would like to do.
    Make love to her slow and seductive or have hot rough sex.

    Spank Her

    Spanking and light bondage are two of the top dominant and submissive types of play that couples enjoy exploring together. Of course, make sure she is into this first.

    Bend her over your knee, or get her to bend over a table and stick her butt out for erotic punishment. Tie her hands or tell her not to move. Slowly and seductively, bare her ass, and softly rub it with the palm of your hand. Grope your fingers into the fleshy part of her butt and squeeze her cheeks to get the blood flowing and make her erotically charged.

    Start smacking her lightly on the cheeks of her ass. Stay away from the spine and lower back. Smack her on the apple of her cheeks or sweet spot (just above the thighs where her butt flesh begins). Alternate smacks with rubbing and kneading. Open her thighs and spank her pussy lightly and the inside of her thighs.

    Make sure to pay attention to her body language. If she is trying to pull away from your hand, you are smacking too hard. If she is pushing up towards you, you are doing it just right. Alternate soft smacks with harder smacks. If she is moaning that is a good sign.

    So, there are a few ways to make sex naughty and turn her into a sex kitten. Be careful, however, she may become addicted!

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  • Sensation Play for Beginners

    What is Sensation Play?

    Sensation play is group of erotic activities that arouse the senses, or heightens one particular sense, while dulling others. Sensation play usually involves the sense of touch, one of the most obvious senses that enhances sensual pleasure. It can be a sexy way of touching your lover that is a form of erotic foreplay.

    However, it can also involve heightening any of the senses including sight, smell, taste, hearing and touch. Heightening our senses during sexual intimacy or foreplay enhances all sexual experiences and puts our bodies in tune to pleasure. In this heightened state, it allows you to experience the pleasures and ecstasies of sex to the extreme.

    Most often sensation play is sensual in nature, arousing, erotic and gentle. In BDSM, it could also involve pain play which release pleasurable endorphins and create a “high”. Often in sensation play one sense is limited (like sight by being blindfolded) while another sense is heightened and aroused, like the sense of touch.

    Types of Sensation Play

    Sensation play can consist of various activities. This could include the use of blindfolds or bondage to remove sight or mobility, while heightening another sense.

    Heightening Taste

    The use of blindfolds to remove sight and heighten the sense of taste was used in the movie “9 ½ Weeks”. In the hottest scene in the film, Mickey Rourke’s character blindfolds Kim Basinger’s character and feeds her different types of food like cherries, whipped cream, jalapino peppers, and honey to create different taste and texture sensations in her mouth. In this instance, it is taste rather than touch which is the heightened sense. Check out my article on aphrodisiacs for some sexy foods that you could recreate this scene with!

    Bonus Tip! You can also use the sense of taste while playing with sensual flavored products, like chocolate massage syrup drizzled over your lover’s body to turn them into a delicious oral treat!

    Enhancing Touch

    This involves the use of blindfolds and bondage to enhance touch. Touch is erotically heightened and charged when our other senses are removed. A simple erotic massage can become so much more by just applying a blindfold. Erotic tickling can make someone orgasmic when they are bound and can’t move.

    Various types of touch can be explored during sensation play including the use of feathers, silk, fur, or leather. Or, you can just use different types of touch with the hands and fingers from soft and light, to firm or rough. Even just the act of kissing can be heightened. Biting, nibbling and licking the body are all other ways to arouse pleasure. Or using hot and cold temperatures like ice, or hot candles wax, or melted massage candles.

    More extreme types of sensation play could involve full body bondage, the use of nipple clamps, or pinwheels to stimulate the pain/pleasure response. Erotic spanking could also be a form of sensation play.

    Sex toys can add a lot of sensation to various erogenous zones and are effective tools for erotic sensation play.

    Sensation play adds a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure as you are swept away by the power of touch.

    Bonus Tip! Try alternating different types of touch to change it up and create suspense. Variety is the spice of life.

    The Sense of Smell

    The sense of smell is a powerful sense and can bring us back to moments in the past that can become almost tangible. You can arouse the sense of smell by lighting sensual candles, or adding scented herbal oils to your play. Erotic scents include vanilla, lavender, Ylang Ylang, musk oil, cinnamon, cloves, and sandalwood. There are also sexuality products on the market that use pheromones to heighten the sense of erotic smell as well.

    Bonus Tip! Rub lavender essential oils on the temples to relax your partner.  Or try a spicy mixture of scents just below the nose to arouse their passions.

    Sounds and Silence

    The sense of hearing can be either aroused or dampened during sensation play. You can play erotic music in the background to heighten the sense of hearing. Talking dirty, or whispering in their ear is another form of heightened this sense, especially if they are blindfolded. Or you can use earplugs to remove the sense of hearing, with a blindfold, which creates erotic suspense and anticipation. If your lover can’t see you or hear you, you can really play with the element of surprise!

    Bonus Tip!  Try a meditative CD for doing erotic massage techniques.  Or a fast bumping and grinding tempo for a sexy rhythm.

    Erogenous Zones

    During sensation play you want to focus on arousing all the other erogenous zones in the body, while avoiding the genitals at first. Check out my program on the other erogenous zones to begin with here such as the ears, nape of neck, nipples and breasts, and even the feet.

    Use light touches with your fingertips, or soft scratches. Knead, rub, massage, pinch or tickle. Use your mouth to nibble, bite, lick, suck, or blow on different areas of the body. Try a fork to lightly trail goose bumps down their skin. Use an ice cube or cold spoon left in the freezer to play with temperature sensations. Erotic toys, especially those made of metal, glass or silicone can also be heated or cooled for erotic play.

    Don’t forget the various types of sensation lotions, lubes and candles that can be used to heighten the senses. There are various types of lubes now that cool, heat, tingle and are flavored. Then there are massage oils and candles that warm and heighten the sense of smell and touch. There are also sexual enhancers made specifically for the genitals that bring the blood flow to that area of the body and heighten arousal.

    Take it Slow

    Sensation play is a sensual experience and shouldn’t be rushed. Go slow and explore your lover’s body. See what reactions you get by trying various things. While you can’t use everything above in one play session, pick one to three things you’d like to try like a blindfold, types of touch and a vibrator, and explore.

    Tease your partner erotically so they build up sexual energy and arousal to a place where they are ready to burst. Then give them the orgasm they crave as fireworks go off in the senses!

    Tools for Sensation Play

    • Blindfolds, silk scarves, and sensory goggles.
    • Hand cuffs, bondage rope, a silk tie and bed restraints.
    • Warm massage candles, hot wax candles made for sensation play, and warming lotions.
    • Cooling and tingling lotions, ice, and popsicles.
    • Furs, feathers, silk or satin.
    • Forks, pinwheels, or wooden skewers.
    • Nipple clamps, clothes pins, or nipple suckers.
    • Ear phones, ear plugs or sensual music.
    • Aphrodisiacs, sexy foods, flavored lubes.
    • Scents and pheromones.
    • Your hands, fingers, mouth, tongue and teeth.
    • Sex toys including anal toys, dildos, vibrators and kinky toys.
    • Sensual massage products and arousal lotions.
    • For spanking use your hands, a small soft flogger, a crop, a spatula, or a wooden spoon. Just be careful not to get carried away and hit too hard. The idea is to create erotic sensation, not pain.

    So, there is your introduction to sensation play. As you can see, the types of activities you can try are only limited by your imagination. Make sure to talk to your lover about these activities first and get their consent before trying them out. And, make this a playful adventure of exploration, rather than worrying too much about it. Let your sense of play and your lover’s response guide you for the best erotic encounters.

    Play safe and have fun!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Kinky Shades of Play for Beginners

    With the new popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey, women are starting to embrace their “kinky” side. So, guys, you better get on board the kinky train because your lady is going to want to try out some of the new sexy kinky stuff she is learning about.

    What is Kinky?

    Every society develops morality norms, rules and standards for behavior, including sexual behavior. What may be “acceptable” or normal, or popular sexual behavior now, may have been very taboo not so long ago. For instance, sodomy (anal sex) was still against the law in the some states until 2003. Nowadays, anal sex, along with many other types of taboo or kinky play are becoming more mainstream and accepted as just different flavors of sex that some adventurous couples want to try. In other words, human sexual behavior is a cultural construct, influenced by what a particular society deems acceptable.

    Are You Adventurous?

    As long as you are practicing “safe sex” and everyone playing is consenting adults, there is no reason not to add a bit of sexual adventure into your love life. I like to think of “kinky” sex as a more playful type of sexual expression that allows us to unleash our inner fantasies in a safe way.

    From rough sex, to blindfolding, to playful spanking, KINK or BDSM is more mainstream than ever.

    Fantasy

    When we were children we knew instinctively how to play and act out games and fantasies. But, as adults, we have lost that ability to play, learn, explore and try new things.

    Kink offers us ways to bring back that sense of wonder, exploration and fun we once had, but in a new, very adult way.

    In one of my recent articles, I wrote about the top female fantasies that many women have. These include scenarios of sexual dominance and submission, and the surrender of control. Many men have similar fantasies as well, which can complement their partner’s fantasy.

    When practiced safety, sanely and between consensual adults, these acts are considered by most to be just another form of sexual expression.

    Types of Kink

    Kinky play includes many types of erotic activities which fall under the umbrella of BDSM which refers to bondage and discipline, sadomasochism, and dominance and submission. While some of these terms may sound a bit scary, they are only names for various types of kinky play. Within KINK, there are many activities that couples can explore together such as role-playing, bondage, spanking, discipline or punishment, dominance and submission, power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream sexual interactions.

    Role-playing

    Role-playing is like playing dress up and then taking on a certain role that you play out during a sexual “scene” or erotic play. Usually, the characters will complement each other, but be unequal in power: one who is dominant and the other submissive. The dominant is usually the giver, while the submissive is the receiver, but the roles can also be interchangeable.

    You have likely heard of or fantasized about different types of these scenarios such as Master/slave girl, Teacher/schoolgirl, Doctor/nurse or patient, Pirate/captive, Boss/secretary and so on. These are just a few of the most popular types of role play available, but let your imagination be your guide!

    Dominance and Submission

    In Dominance and submission, one person plays a dominant role, while the other person takes a submissive role like those listed above. You don’t have to “play” a role in order to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. You can just be you, being more dominant than maybe you usually are, while your lover becomes more submissive.

    Of course, this is something you would both discuss together and agree upon.

    First, you would discuss your fantasies or what types of dominance and submissiveness you want to try. Decide on specific activities you’d like to try and also express each other’s limits as to what is off boundaries. In BDSM culture, those playing together usually rely on a “safe word” as well, such as RED, which lets everyone know that play needs to stop. This is a safety measure in case something becomes too intense or no longer feels safe, which can happen when you are exploring new things and pushing your usual boundaries.

    Dominance during sex play could be holding someone down during sex. It could be giving someone orders, or talking dirty to them or calling them dirty names. It could involve tying someone up and doing bondage, or erotic spanking. It could involve types of extreme sensations like pain and pleasure mixed together for an erotic experience. Hair pulling, spanking, and types of sensation play could all be a part of the body’s sensory experience.

    Bondage

    Bondage is being held down or tied up during sex or erotic play. Bondage refers to “restraining for pleasure”. The pleasure could be in the visual appeal in how someone looks when bound, which can be erotic to the giver, or physically pleasurable to the one receiving or being bound.

    Ways to use bondage include tying with rope, using hand cuffs, bondage tape, blindfolds, or mouth gags, and even a sex swing can become a bondage device.

    Some people find being bound very erotic, while others hate it or are claustrophobic. So, be careful when playing with bondage and always make sure you have a quick way to unleash your victim, like safety scissors if you are using rope. Also, make sure to learn how to perform bondage correctly, and learn all the do’s and don’ts.

    Sensation Play

    Sensation play is a way of touching your partner in a sensual way to bring about various sensations on the body. It can consist of using a feather, silk, or fur on their skin while they are blindfolded, or ice and hot wax. Other toys like pinwheels can be used to give a prickly sharp type of sensation. Read my article on Sensation Play here.

    Spanking

    Erotic spanking has long been a part of many couple’s fantasies. It entails a Dominant who takes the submissive over their knee (or restricts them in other ways like bondage) and spanks their bottom. The point is not to give pain for the most part—although pain once eroticised can become very pleasurable—but to give another type of sensation and pleasure.

    Spanking can also be about humiliation, or being treated as a naughty girl, or one deserving punishment. In that aspect, it can be more of a mind game and is about the act of submitting, rather than wanting to feel pain. A submissive is someone who likes to submit, and be dominated. While a masochist is someone who likes the feeling of pain and eroticises it into pleasure. These are two separate types of people, although some people enjoy both, so be sure you know why someone wants to be spanked, or dominated first.

    So, there are just a few Kinky Shades of Play for Beginners. Stayed tuned to stripoffers.blog for more information on kinky play (coming soon) and other types of sexual adventures for couples!

    Play safe and stay sexy!

    Kisses,

    Fidan Paula

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  • 5 Sex Secrets from Sexually Satisfied Couples

    5 Sex Secrets from Sexually Satisfied Couples

    “’Sex’ is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.”  -Marquis de Sade

    After spending a good deal of yesterday on my social media accounts I was left thinking about the way that we tend to compare our lives to others. Humans have always done it, but now in the age of social media and very little personal privacy every part of our lives end up on display. One can’t help but compare themselves to others. He has a better job, a bigger salary, a fancier car, a better vacation, is having better sex… wait, do we do it with sex and relationships too? ABSOLUTELY. This is probably the thing that we compare the most. That couple looks happier than we are, the touch each other more, “I bet their sex life is amazing,” they’re more in love, etc. etc. etc. It’s impossible to know if any of that is really true, but one thing is for sure, there is always someone who has it better, so stop comparing right now and focus on what you’re lucky enough to have. And I have something extra special for today’s article. I’m going to let you in on some of the sex secrets from the couples who DO have the best sex, the kind you would be jealous of. But you can have it too if you just follow their best tips.

    1. Make love to get love

    Especially for women, the more they have sex, the more interested in sex they are. The more you have sex, the more connected as a couple you will feel and the more turned on by each other you will feel. This applies to sex and all other forms of intimacy within the couple. Put the effort in. Sometimes one person might not feel like having sex or being intimate, but the other does. Desire doesn’t always have to be the first stage of a sexual encounter. Sometimes you (or she) might start foreplay with little desire, but once you get into it, it’s just as good as ever.

    2. Be spontaneous

    If there is one thing women hate it’s the same boring old routine. No matter how many times that sex move got her off, the 100th time you do it in a row, she’s bound to be sick of it by then. Surprise her. Surprise her with new tricks and moves in the bedroom. Surprise her with sex at a different time of day. Surprise her with sex in a different part of the house, in a different place altogether. Pull her down an alley, push her up against the wall and kiss her like you did when you first met. What you shouldn’t do is – off to bed, roll over, sex for 10 minutes, kiss, love you, goodnight! Get creative and change it up, men!

    3. Do what works

    Even though you need to be creative and keep things interesting, you don’t have to feel like you need to try anything that either of you aren’t comfortable with. If in an effort to spice things up you found yourself in a sex club and both of you wanted to bolt the minute you walked in the door, you may have gone too far. Keep things exciting, but remember to do what turns you on, you don’t need to be the kinkiest couple in town, if that’s not your bag.

    4. Communicate

    Tell her what you like. Ask her what she likes. Tell her how incredibly sexy you think she is. Tell her how good that feels. Tell her what a lucky guy you are. We tend to think that our partners already know how much we love and appreciate them, but you’d be surprised to know that most women in relationships feel underappreciated. You need to make sure your woman knows how much you value here, in the bedroom and out. She will reward you, believe me.

    5. Don’t pressure her

    You may have read about a hot new thing on Gabrielle Moore and are just dying to try it, but she’s not so keen. Pressuring her into doing it isn’t going to give you the experience you want. In fact, never put pressure on her or guilt her when it comes to your sexual relationship. This creates really negative feelings and that’s the last thing you want her associating with sex. Accept her for who she is.

    As you can see, having an amazing sex life isn’t just about having the best moves and techniques. It’s also about paying attention to and cultivating the relationship. You can’t have one without the other. Give your lady some extra attention and loving this week and see how she reacts!

    Wet kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Reignite Your Relationship in The Wilderness

    Reignite Your Relationship in The Wilderness

    Hey big guy!

    After a particularly hot weekend in a log cabin I got to thinking about how to incorporate my amazing experience in an article for you. That’s when it came to me. What’s the best way to reignite the fire in a relationship? Getting some one on one, relaxing time together and away from home. Everyone needs a little vacation now and then and when you can mix that with some alone time with your partner in a romantic setting, it’s a big win. This will give you the chance to reconnect with each other and dedicate the whole weekend to making love. We’ll call it a sex-cation. Here are the elements you need to make it happen:

    Get out of town

    The ideal place to go would be somewhere remote. Think log cabin in the woods with a cozy fireplace and no cell phone service. If the weather allows and your lady is game, you could consider camping. A secluded beach is another great option, especially if it’s off season. You’re looking for a location that doesn’t have a lot of people or tons of places to go besides the great outdoors. This weekend is about being together so outside distractions are not welcome.

    *Budget option – Stay home, but tell everyone you’ll be out of town in order to guarantee you won’t have any surprise visitors. Get a sitter for the kids (if you have them). Draw the curtains closed. Turn your cell phones off. Disconnect your computers. And then make an adult fort in your living room with pillows and blankets.

    Disconnect

    Even if you’re not able to completely turn off all technology make a pact that you will only answer emergency calls or texts. You won’t do emailing or anything having to do with the Internet. You can afford to disconnect for just one weekend. Your relationship will thank you. If you absolutely cannot disconnect completely, designate a small chunk of time in the morning when you are allowed technology and then turn it off for the rest of the day.

    Have sex outside

    That’s right. This sex-cation just got a lot more interesting. This is why it’s important to pick a secluded spot for your weekend getaway. Here are a few hot outside sex positions to try:

    * Up against a tree – Prop her up against a tree and have her wrap her legs around you. You will hold her up and thrust from a standing position. It’s best if she’s wearing a skirt or dress to give you easy access. Keep her shirt on to protect her back from the rough bark of the tree and take it nice and slow and sensual. This is also a great position to give her oral sex. Lift up her skirt and go to town.

    Stayed home? If you don’t have a private backyard then recreate this inside. Prop her up against the front door instead. Get her completely naked since there is no concern about scratching her back. Doing it right at the front door will bring in an element of naughtiness and the fear that anyone could burst in at any time and discover you.

    * On a rock – Find a comfortable looking rock or tree stump. Sit down on it and have your partner sit on your lap and wrap her legs around your waist as you enter her. Have her lean back to access her clitoris and get a great view. The more naked you’re willing to be outside the hotter and more dangerous this will feel.
    Stayed at home? Prop her up on the laundry machine and hit the spin cycle. the vibrations from the laundry machine will feel amazing and it will be exciting to bring sex outside of the bedroom.

    * On a blanket – Try out your favorite bedroom sex position but with the sky above you and nature all around. Put down a blanket to make sure you’ll be comfortable and relatively safe from bugs.
    Stayed at home? Crawl into your fort and go crazy on each other.

    Have sex indoors

    This weekend getaway should be all about reconnecting with each other, so try to have sex and be intimate as much as possible. Remember that cuddling, massage, touching, oral sex and simply talking to each other are all forms of intimacy that are extremely important in a relationship. Here are a couple fun ways to get sexy inside:

    * Make a no clothes rule – Insist that you both have to be naked, or at least in your underwear, at all times when indoors.

    * Flashlight play – Turn off all the lights and take turns using a flashlight to point to areas of your body that you want your partner to stimulate. Have her start. Each time she shines the light, devour that area with caresses, kisses, licks, and sucking. This is not only fun and sexy, it will also help you learn a lot about what your partner likes in the bedroom and in what order.

    I think you’re ready for your sex-cation. Have a blast!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • She Won’t be Able to Get You Off Her Mind!

    She Won’t be Able to Get You Off Her Mind!

    There are times when we just can’t be with our partners as much as we’d like. This might be the case if you’re in a long distance relationship, travel a lot for work, or just have a generally busy schedule. I’d be lying to you if I said your relationship won’t suffer from too much time away from each other, but most of the time there is nothing you can do about the distance. If that’s your case then you will need to work extra hard to make the most of the time your are away from each other. This doesn’t just have to be lost time. If you do things right then that time away from one another won’t hurt you, it can actually make the relationship stronger and spicier! Here’s what you have to do…

    1. Master the art of video/phone sex

    You’re going to have to get creative here. If you can’t physically touch her, you need a way to stay on her mind. A sexy video chat or phone conversation can be just the thing that gets her blushing and thinking about you all the next day until she’s back in your bed again. Don’t forget to set the mood, just like you would in your own home. You wouldn’t expect her to be turned on by you while you’re in a messy room, unshowered and wearing a dirty old t-shirt, would you? Put a little effort into your appearance and your surroundings so her first thought when she sees you is how much she wishes she was curled up next to you.

    *Remember to look right into the camera sometimes. Looking at the camera will be “looking into her eyes” or as close as you can get to it in your situation! This will increase the intensity of the moment.

    * As eager as you might be to get right into dirty talk, start with regular chat about what’s going on with each of you. Taking care of all parts of the relationship are important when one of you is away and connecting on a personal level is especially important to women.

    2. Send her a sexy gift

    Forget the flowers this time. Send her some sexy lingerie or a bra and panty set that you really love. Ask her to wear it for you the next day. If she’s up for it she can even send you a special pic modeling your gift, or you can just wait for your video chat that night. You’ll both get excited knowing that she’s wearing what you bought for her.

    3. Master the art of sexting

    A suggestive text can go a long way to get your partner thinking about you. Sexting could be anything from full on, hardcore dirty talk, to sending naked pictures, to more softcore, suggestive texts. It doesn’t have to include sending naked pictures of yourself if you don’t want it to. If you do, make sure you get the OK from your partner first. You don’t want to catch her off guard with a naughty pic. That might end up being more of a turn off than anything else. It’s always a good idea to warm up even if you want things to get really hot and heavy. Sending something as simple as, “I wish you were sharing this big, empty bed with me right now” is not only a sweet thing to say but it gets her imagining herself there with you and what you two would be doing.

    4. Control her pleasure virtually

    Technology is an amazing thing. Did you know there are all kinds of sex toys that can be controlled virtually? There are toys that you can control with your phone. This can bring your video sex chat to a whole new level. It will really feel more like you’re there with her. There is even a pair of vibrating panties that you can control with your phone. If she’s game she can put them on and you can give her a buzz anytime throughout the day that you’re thinking of her. How exciting is it that you could give her an orgasm from miles away?

    Taking care of your sexually intimate relationship while you’re away from each other not only builds intimacy, but it also can make things even hotter when you finally get to see each other. But don’t forget to also pay attention to the emotionally intimate part of your relationship when you’re away. It’s just as important, so be sure to send romantic and thoughtful texts, emails, calls and gifts just as often.

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • 8 Fun Sex Games to Reignite the Passion

    8 Fun Sex Games to Reignite the Passion

    Sometimes a couple just finds themselves in a rut. No matter how much they want to get out of it and reconnect with each other, they just can’t. They’re stuck. This might sound familiar to you. You may be in that exact place right now. Maybe you have been there before and don’t want to go back. It’s not fun when you feel distance between you and your partner. You want to get things back on track but it’s often hard to know where to begin. Since there is often a lot of pressure in these kinds of situations, the best thing you can do is have fun! But how? Today I’m sharing with you a list of fun, sex games that you can use to have fun together again, reconnect and rekindle that fire that has been burning too dimly recently. And even for those couples who aren’t experiencing any kind of distance, these games are a way to make sure that the attraction and excitement in your sexual relationship stays at an all time high. Some of these games are a bit silly, but that’s the idea! You should be having fun together and once you’re able to laugh together again, you’ll be connecting in other ways too.

    1. Naughty Cards

    Get a regular deck of cards and get ready to have some fun. Each suit should represent a different action. For example, hearts could represent kissing, spades could represent licking and sucking, diamonds could represent stroking and massaging, and clubs could represent tickling and teasing. Each number will represent a different spot on the body. For example an ace would be somewhere on the face, a two would be the neck, and so on as you move down the body up to the jack. The other face cards are wild cards. If you pick a queen she gets to choose where on the body will be stimulate. If someone picks a king, you decide!

    2. Sexy Trivia

    For this one you should both be naked or only partially clothed. Stand on opposite sides of the room from one another. Take turns asking the other person a question about you (for example, what is my favorite food?). When the other person answers correctly they can take a step closer. You can add another fun element that the person who answers wrong also has to remove a piece of clothing for each wrong answer.

    3. Dirty Scavenger Hunt

    Hide some sex toys, lingerie and other sexy items (lube, handcuffs, a blindfold, etc) around the house and make a scavenger hunt out of finding them. Each time an item is found you have to use it for 5 minutes.

    4. Strip Blackjack

    Strip poker is an old classic, but it’s fun and it builds up sexual tension as each piece of clothing falls to the floor. If you both know the game well, allow each other to double down or raise bets to make things more interesting and watch the clothing drop even faster!

    5. A Naughty To Do List

    On a day when you would normally be cleaning the house and taking care of errands add some sexual items to that boring old to-do list that you and your partner MUST complete by the end of the day.

    6. Guess That Sensation

    Use a variety of objects to tease and touch her while she is blindfolded. For example, use a feather to trace little circles all over her body, on her inner thighs and over her nipples. She has to try to guess what object you’re using without peaking. (Other objects to try could be a chain necklace, a silky scarf or tie, whipped cream, an ice cube, etc.).

    7. 20 Fantasy Questions

    This isn’t your typical game of 20 questions. In 20 questions or less your partner has to guess what fantasy you’re thinking about. After you have both guessed correctly you can even try role playing the fantasy (if both parties are up for it, of course!).

    8. Truth or Dare

    Truth or Dare has always had a naughty element to it. Let her choose whether she wants a truth or a dare, if she doesn’t want to answer or do the dare, she can opt for the other, but then she has to do it. Remember that you want to keep this fun, so don’t ask her about things that will upset one of you (for example, don’t ask about things she’s done with past partners, that will always end badly!). Also don’t dare her to do things that you know she doesn’t want to do (for example, don’t dare her to do anal if you know she’s not into it).

    Have fun playing, boys!
    Fidan Paula

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  • Sex Swings For Sexperts

    Sex Swings For Sexperts

    “Books are finite, sexual encounters are finite, but the desire to read and to fuck is infinite; it surpasses our own deaths, our fears, our hopes for peace.” -Roberto Bolaño

    The other day over lunch a good friend of mine came to me with a question, “what is the deal with sex swings?” She had been told by another friend that a swing had changed her life and improved her orgasms a ton. Obviously my friend was intrigued. Sex swings used to be something you only found at sex clubs and those who were a little more conservative might have never crossed paths with one or even heard of the contraption. But these days sex swings are more accessible to anyone who is interested. You can even buy them on Amazon. They aren’t that expensive and they can be set up and taken down in your home and no one would be the wiser that you had one. Swings allow couples to try new positions and experience new heights of pleasure. Could a sex swing be for you? Read on to find out…

    Sex swing users have been quoted to say:

    “When I finally got to try the swing out I was hooked, it was sensational for getting head with me able to spread my legs and give the guys easy access.”

    “This is the best investment you will make in the bedroom. Hands down. I have been with my partner for over a decade so we always like to experiment with everything when it comes to playing beneath the sheets. This is 10 times more comfortable, fun and exciting as a bed a wall or the floor could ever hope to be. The possibilities seem endless with furniture and different toys.”

    “For sex the swing was sensational, with be feeling almost weightless I was able to manoeuvre myself to take a deep and hard fucking.”

    Benefits

    In a sex swing your partner (or you) is completely suspended in the air with all of your weight supported. Some swings also come with stirrups attached so that the person can easily spread their legs while still be supported fully. A swing allows for access to the whole body at many different angles. You can access and hit different spots and erogenous zones with ease and without awkwardly flopping around the bed. Some couples with back problems and arthritis have even said that the swing helps them have an even better sex life because they are supported and therefore more comfortable. Some couples enjoy the submissive nature of being in the swing and being at the mercy of their partner. This toy also just feels naughty, knowing you have a whole device in your home devoted just to pleasure!

    Types of Swings

    1. Door Frame Swing – This sex swing hangs from your door frame. One of the big benefits here is that it can easily be put up and taken down. This is beneficial to couples with children or who are concerned about someone seeing their swing. It can also hold a good amount of weight.

    2. Ceiling Anchor Mounted Swing – This swing is mounted by an anchor into your ceiling or a beam in your home. It can hold even more weight and the swing can be taken down when not in use. The anchor point would still be visible so some users have suggested using some kind of other decoration to cover it, so it won’t be visible and obvious to guests.

    3. Stand Alone Frame – This type of swing is the most expensive and the one that takes up the most room, but it has its benefits as well. Many feel that it provides the most amount of options for playing and is the sturdiest. This would be an ideal option for someone who was able to leave it set up in their home.

    Recommendation* Get a swing that offers butt or back support. There are some that come without it, but you will tire more quickly or they might just be much less comfortable.

    Construction

    It’s also very important to consider the construction and materials of a swing. Even though a swing might seem like a big investment to some, you want to resist the urge to cut corners and get a cheaper model. The quality of the materials will affect the construction, safety and usability of the swing and will obviously affect your experience. Therefore a good swing should have strong materials to hold more weight than you think you need. Some good materials that the rest of the swing (seat and stirrups) could be made out of include: nylon webbing, canvas, leather, or evenly layered latex or rubber.

    Now that you have the low down on sex swings it’s time to try one for yourself, if you’re up to the challenge that is!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Wet and Wild Guide to Water Sex

    Wet and Wild Guide to Water Sex

    “I write about sex because often it feels like the most important thing in the world.” Jeanette Winterston

    One of the hottest fantasies out there is having sex in water. It feels absolutely amazing to be completely naked in water. The wetness and the feeling of it all combined with the taboo nature of doing it in an uncommon place is just really thrilling, but unfortunately water sex doesn’t always end up being all it’s cracked up to be. Even if it feels okay for you, it doesn’t mean that your partner is loving it. Good lubrication is an important part of good sex, but in the water all that slippery goodness just gets washed away and leaves the woman too squeaky clean. Plus most people don’t know that sex submerged underwater actually isn’t good for women at all. So here is how to get all that sexy wetness, while still having great sex.

    What You Need To Know

    1. If you are having sex in a pool you should know that the chemicals used to keep the pool clean can negatively affect the condom. Same goes for hot water, which you want to consider if you’re in a jacuzzi or bathtub. There hasn’t been enough research done on this to know exactly how much the condom is affected, but do you really want to take that chance? I’m guessing not. You also should be careful because condoms can slip off more easily in water, so make sure that yours stays in place and have a couple extra on hand in case you run into problems.

    2. As I mentioned before, lubrication is absolutely necessary for good sex. Water, sadly, just washes all her natural lubrication and any artificial lubrication you might have used, however if you use a silicone lubricant then it won’t wash away as easily with the stream of water (remember we’re not talking about submerged sex here).

    3. Water going in and out of her vagina (especially in pools or other public water areas) can cause damage and infection, so again, it’s not a good idea to have sex completely submerged in water.

    The Positions

    So if you can’t have sex submerged then how can you do it? Here are the wet and wild positions that I recommend:

    1. This first position can be used in a variety of different settings. The man lies down on his back in low standing water. Water should only come halfway up his body so that his penis won’t be submerged. This could be a good position for the ocean, the top step of a pool or jacuzzi and even your bathtub if you have enough room and can get the positioning right. You will prop yourself up on your elbows so your head isn’t submerged and to be able to position your body more securely. Your partner will lower down on your penis facing away from you and use your pelvis or thighs to steady herself. You can also try other variations of the woman on top depending on what works for the space you have.

    2. This next position is perfect for a pool or jacuzzi. You will stand in the shallow end so that your crotch will line up perfectly with hers as she lies on the edge of the pool with her legs hanging over the edge. She’s straddles you and you do your thing with a great view of her in front of you.

    3. Now let’s talk about a few shower positions. Some of us don’t have regular access to a pool, jacuzzi or ocean and even you did, you might not be comfortable having sex out in the elements. Shower sex can be just as hot and with the foreplay of soaping each other up and methodically washing each other you will be dying for it within 5 minutes! Try a standing position facing each other with your back to the stream of water. She will lift one leg and wrap it around your body. You can also try standing doggy style, having her bend over while you take her from behind. In any of these shower positions, try to keep the stream of water from rinsing away the lubrication.

    4. Let’s not forget about oral sex. This can be done anywhere, just find the best position that works for you.

    5. Finally if you find that water sex is just too difficult to navigate then it still doesn’t mean that you can enjoy water play. Use it as foreplay. Go skinny dipping, making out in the water while letting your slippery bodies slide all over each other. Go down on each other and use that slippery soap to run your hands all over each others’ bodies. Once you can’t handle it anymore, hop out of the water and onto each other!

    Have fun getting wet,
    Fidan Paula

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  • Hot and Sexy Home Videos!

    Hot and Sexy Home Videos!

    Almost everyone out there has a little bit of voyeur / exhibitionist in them. There is something about being watched that is a huge turn on. And at the same time there is something about watching that is also naughty and taboo. There is a fun and sexy way that you can do both with your partner. Yes, I’m talking about making your own “home video.” However, if the media has taught us anything in recent years, it’s that making a sex tape is risky business. That doesn’t mean you can’t do it, but you need to make sure you take the right precautions and make a fun, sexy video at the same time. Here are my suggestions:

    The Camera

    You might not think it’s important, but the camera that you use is going to play a big role in how successful this home video will be. You want to use a fairly good quality camera so that when you watch the video later on, you will be able to see yourselves clearly. Avoid using a webcam since it will be hard to get the right angle and they are usually not great quality.

    The Angle

    You don’t need to be a film director to make a home video, but it doesn’t hurt to think about the angle of your shot when making a sex tape. For example, anything shot from below isn’t going to be the most flattering angle for either one of you. You want something that is close enough that you can see it’s you and at just the right angle to show a sexy shot of what’s going on. Consider using a small table top tripod to help you set the camera up. It’s also fun to take turns filming each other. Pass her the camera and see what she wants to film you doing. Then you can take a turn.

    Her Permission

    This should go without saying and I’m sure none of my dear readers would ever consider filming their partner without her permission, but just in case, don’t forget to make sure she is 100% on board for the sex tape before hitting record.

    Make an Agreement

    It probably sounds fun and spontaneous to whip out the camera one night and suggest a sexy tape, but I actually suggest talking things through before you get started. One of the things you should decide is what will be done with the tape after you’ve created it. Some couples agree that one person can hang on to with the agreement that they won’t show it to anyone and they will destroy it if the couple ever breaks up. Another idea is that you keep the video around for a limited amount of time, let’s say a month. You can use it to watch and get each other turned on for that month, then delete it forever. If you like it you can always make another one!

    Set the Mood

    It’s not the sexiest part of the video, but you should take some time to make sure your scene is clean and orderly. You don’t want her getting distracted by the pile of laundry she asked you to put away 10 times. On that same note, aside from making sure your space is clean and in order, you also want to pay attention to your personal grooming. Remember, you’re going to be on the big screen!

    Lighting

    Lighting is important when it comes to your video. In order to be able to see everything you want to see, you’re going to have to have good lighting. The room will have to be well lit or else everything will come out grainy and out of focus. However, you don’t want florescent lighting or something so bright that it will show every little imperfection. I suggest doing a test run with your camera to see just where to put the lights and how bright they need to be.

    Plan the “Script”

    You don’t want to actually have a script or be too strict about what you’re going to do, but there are a few important things to keep in mind. You should at least have a general idea of what you want to do, and have discussed anything you don’t want to do. Don’t try out any fancy positions or moves you have never done before because it will likely come out looking awkward. Try to be as natural as possible (ignoring the fact that there is a camera filming you!). Don’t over plan what you want to do either, go with the flow and have fun.

    Follow these easy steps to make sure that your sex tape making experience is hot and sexy!

    Kisses,
    Fidan Paula

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