One area that women don’t tend to get enough attention and pleasure is from their breasts. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that men don’t give breasts enough of their love, we all know a lot of guys are obsessed with them, but they don’t get the kind of sexual attention they really deserve. When it comes to sex, men tend to focus on the clitoris and the vagina and that’s it, but if you’ve been paying attention to my rants you already know that there are a ton of other important erogenous zones that deserve your attention. The breasts and nipples are two of these important zones. Why are they so important? Well, for starters some women can orgasm from breasts and nipple stimulation alone! Check here my Boobgasms Video course for more proof!  If you’re not sure what to do to stimulate the breasts, that article is a great place to start. Today I’m going even further and teaching you more techniques about how to give her incredible breast pleasure. Today we’re going to talk about breast toys and alternative methods to stimulate her beautiful, sensual breasts!

1. Play with temperature – Hot and cold temperatures on the very sensitive skin of the breasts and nipples can provide very interesting sensations.
Cold – Try using an ice cube to trace little circles on her breasts and over her nipples. Also try putting the ice cube in your mouth to tone down the coldness if it’s too much for her. This allows you to control how much cold you expose her skin to. You can also just use the cube to make your tongue and lips cold and then lick and suck her breasts and nipples with your cold mouth.
Hot – Always use heat with caution on sensitive areas like the breasts and nipples. A great way to apply heat to these super sensitive parts is by drinking something hot and then immediately using your mouth to lick and suck. The heat from the drink will still be on your mouth but it won’t be nearly as intense. You can also try heating up some chocolate syrup or other yummy liquid to pour over her breasts and lick off.
*Try alternating between hot and cold sensations for an especially intense stimulation.

2. Use what nature gave you  – Some women find it especially erotic if you use your penis to stimulate the breasts and nipples. Use the tip of your penis to stroke and touch her erect nipples. Add some lubrication to make it especially delicious. Also try using your foreskin to stimulate the nipples by sliding it over them. Use the opening of your penis to touch and “kiss” the tip of her nipple. Finally, you can try using her breasts to masturbate your penis if she is especially well endowed. This can be exciting for both of you.

3. Nipple clips – Those who like more intense nipple stimulation might enjoy nipple clips. These can be purchased from any sex shop or some prefer to use home items, like clothespins or a pair of chopsticks. Some nipple clamps bought from a sex shop offer adjustable tension so that you and your partner can decide how intense you want the stimulation to be. Use this sex toy with caution, however. Very prolonged use can lead to nerve damage. If your partner starts to feel numbness, it’s time to take them off.

4. Suction toys  – There is another sex toy that provides suction to the breasts and/or nipples. This can be wonderfully sexy for some women.

5. Different sensations – Try massaging and tickling her breasts and nipples with different fabrics and materials. Some great things to try are pieces of soft leather and suede, silk or satin scarves, velvet, pieces of fur, wool, a feather, or any other fabric or material that you think might provide an exciting sensation. Combine textures and rhythms for really great results.

6. Devour her – The last way to amp up her breast pleasure is to use food and drink to provide the ultimate sensations. Try things like chocolate syrup, honey, peanut butter, champagne, whiskey, or whipped cream and then sensually cleaning her off with your mouth. Also try slices of fruit. Slide them around over her breasts and nipples and then lap up the juices. This is yummy and sexy!

Do you have other ways and objects that you like to use to stimulate her breasts and nipples? Share them with us in the comment section below!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

P.S.: Boob play is extremely fun and pleasurable for your lady if you know how to take your time and build anticipation.

If you want to learn more in-depth techniques on breast orgasm, I recommend you check out my program called “Breast Play Secrets”. It contains precious information on how to prepare your lady for sexy HOT boob action and how to pleasure her twins the way she wants you to.

If there is one part of the body that men especially rave about, it would be the breasts. You see men’s love for them everywhere you look: movies, advertisements, music…it’s impossible to escape. Knowing how much men love breasts, you would think they would all be experts at playing with them, but shockingly, this isn’t the case. Overwhelming, women complain that men don’t know what they’re doing when it comes to their breasts or that they don’t pay enough attention to them at all.

Listen up, guys, the breasts are an important erogenous zone. If you aren’t stimulating a woman’s breasts enough, or in the right way, you’re missing out on an important part of pleasing her sexually!

In order to help you the best ways to touch a woman’s breasts, I’ve gone to the source itself, the women! Here are 4 women who are going to confess the best ways to touch their breasts:

Carly, 37 years old
“When we first got together, my husband never paid much attention to my breasts. It was weird because I knew he loved them, but when it came to getting it on, he’d just rub them for a minute and move on. I was disappointed—my boobs are super sensitive and I love when a guy really touches them.
One day when he was doing his usual quick rub, I finally said, “oh god, that feels good.” That was the first time he actually slowed down and asked, “you like that?”
That opened the door. We started experimenting—he tried new touches, asked me questions, and I gave feedback. A few weeks later, during one of those slower sessions, I had an orgasm just from the way he was touching and sucking my breasts. I couldn’t believe it. It felt like something new had awakened in me.”

If you want to know the kind of moves that helped unlock that moment, I recommend you explore the Boobgasms course for some truly eye-opening techniques.

Janelle, 28 years old
” My man always spent a lot of time sucking on my nipples, which I like, but he almost exclusively paid attention to my nipples, ignoring the rest of my breasts. I always wished he would touch, lick and suck all over my breasts, not just on the nipples. That area is awesome, but it’s not the only thing the breasts have going on for them. Try paying attention to other parts of the breasts and I’m sure the women out there will go crazy for it.”

Nadia, 40 years old
“I never even knew the pleasure I could get from my breasts until I met my 2nd husband. He was a boob man and he definitely knew what he was doing when it came to touching them. I never thought I could orgasm from anything other than clitoral stimulation, but he showed me otherwise. He would start slowly and softly tracing little circles on my breasts and then move into the nipples with his fingers. The light sensations slowly built up over time. Then he would start using his mouth to lightly lick, and then suck on them. He didn’t just do it for a minute, he spent a lot of time down there licking, sucking and touching until I had a breast orgasm! I was so surprised. I didn’t even know that was a possibility. But once I had one, I wanted more. Luckily,  he is always happy to indulge me!”

Kisha, 65 years old
“Sugar, I’m gonna be honest. At my age, I don’t get wet like I used to, and I truly thought my orgasm days were over. I figured I’d just enjoy what I could and leave it at that. But let me tell you, when he started playin’ with my nipples just right? Lord have mercy. Something lit up in me I didn’t even know was still there. I came so hard I had to grab onto the sheets. No fingers, no penetration, just that slow, steady touch that built up like a Texas storm. If that ain’t proof these girls still got fire in ‘em, I don’t know what is.”

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

P.S.: Boob play is extremely fun and pleasurable for your lady if you know how to take your time and build anticipation.

If you want to learn more in-depth techniques on breast orgasm, I recommend you check out my program called “Boobgasms Video Course”. It contains precious information on how to prepare your lady for sexy HOT boob action and how to pleasure her twins the way she wants you to.

Hey stud,

I’m glad you came back for more tips on how to stimulate and pleasure her breasts. If you don’t remember, her breasts are an extremely important erogenous zone that deserves your attention. Think about something for me: how much time do you spend touching your partner’s breasts during foreplay? Think about your answer for a minute. Now answer this, how much time do you spend touching your partner’s breasts during sex? If you’re like most men, you don’t spend very much time at all. You might spend a minute or two and then move on. Or maybe you give them a squeeze or two during sex, but other than that you just appreciate them from afar as you make love. You’re not alone in this practice, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay. This is a fantastic pleasure zone that needs your attention! So here’s what you need to do:

5. Let her lead the way – In the last article I talked about communicating with your partner to find out what she likes when it comes to breast play. Another trick to finding out what she likes is to have her show you. Instead of being overly direct about it, make it into a sexy and naughty game. Tell her to touch her breasts for you and show you what turns her on. It will seem like you’re just trying to get a show out of her, but really you will be taking notes about how she likes to be touched. Another way to get her to show you what she likes is by putting her own hands on her breasts during foreplay, oral sex or regular sex. Again, she will think you’re just wanting to be kinky and watch her touch herself (which is also a thrill for you!) but really you will be able to tell what really turns her on.

6. Her body will tell you what she likes – There is yet another way to find out what she’s really enjoying. This is especially helpful for those guys who are with shy women who might not be comfortable saying what she likes or touching herself in front of you. Listen to her breathing. Is it getting faster and showing that she is getting more and more turned on? Is she making any noises that indicate that she’s feeling good (remember not all women moan and make noise, so a lack of noise doesn’t mean she’s not into it)? Is she getting flushed? Watch her facial expressions. All of these things are important indicators of whether or not what you’re doing is working.

7. Don’t be afraid to get kinky – But ONLY if she likes things a little rough. Once you’ve determined that she likes her breast play to be on the rougher side, try squeezing her nipples between your fingertips. Lightly run your teeth over them and put pressure on them between your teeth. Test the amount of pressure that she likes and ask her if you can do it harder or not. Some women even like to use a pair of nipple clamps to add some kinky pressure to your breast play.

8. Use different objects to touch her breasts – Different sensations and objects can feel really amazing on the super sensitive breast and nipple area. Try using fur mitts, a piece of silk, an ice cube, warming lube and even a vibrator to offer some different kinds of stimulation. Remember, a lot of men focus wholly on the nipples when stimulating the breasts, but don’t make that mistake yourself. The entire breast is ripe with nerve endings, so stimulating her entire breast will feel amazing, especially because that area of her body is often forgotten. Take your tongue and run it all over her breast. Make it flat and soft and lap at her like a dog. Then make your tongue hard and pointy and trace designs around on her skin. It will feel amazing.

9. Boost her confidence – One of the biggest turn ons for a woman is knowing just how much you want her and find her sexy. Complimenting her will give a serious boost to her confidence level and make her feel sexier. This is a huge turn on for women. It’s funny, one of the best ways to turn her on is about stimulating her mind, not her body. So, while you’re down there giving her beautiful breasts all kind of love and attention, make sure you shower her and them with TONS of compliments. It will pay off!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

P.S. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about breast orgasms and pleasure CLICK HERE NOW!

It may be hard to keep up with all the various “gasms” that women can have these days.  From clitoral orgasms and vaginal (G-spot) orgasms, to cervical (A-spot) orgasms and anal-gasms, there doesn’t seem to be a limit to women’s erogenous zones or the ways in which she can experience the BIG “O”.  Add to that list: breast orgasms (Hurray for breast lovers!), and the array of female orgasms is astounding.

The good news is, the more ways she can achieve orgasms means the more orgasms she can have!

The bad news is, how do you keep track of them all?

Well, I encourage you to explore, explore, explore your lover’s body and her erogenous zones to learn new ways to help her become orgasmic.  Try new types of sensual touch and see what turns her on.  And, keep learning about all the new ways you both can explore the amazing world of female orgasms together.

You can always further your education by reading my articles here on GabrielleMoore.com, and by checking out my NakedU.com site for our in-depth sex-ed video programs where you can learn to become a sexpert lover as well!

What are Breast (aka Nipple) Orgasms?

Breast orgasms occur when a woman achieves orgasm from breast and/or nipple stimulation.  Orgasms can take place via breast/nipple stimulation alone, or sometimes in conjunction with other forms of stimulation like clitoral.

Some women can’t achieve orgasm without breast stimulation, so this is a good thing to know ahead of time when you are trying to get your partner to come. Does she need her breasts or nipples stimulated to get turned on?

How it Works

Scientists have found out that breast arousal is directly connected to the same area of the brain that is activated when the clitoris, vagina and cervix are stimulated.

When the breasts and nipples are stimulated (or even just when a woman is aroused) her breasts can swell up to 25% and her nipples become engorged with blood and become erect, much like the erectile tissue in the clitoris.  This rush of blood to those areas also makes the breasts and nipples a lot more sensitive.

While some women may feel nothing from breast/nipple stimulation, others find they are multi-orgasmic in that area.

Giving her an erotic breast massage on a regular basis can help the breast tissue and nerves to become more responsive if she doesn’t already feel arousal through breast stimulation.  Making the erotic neurological connection in the brain can help use rewire and retrain our bodies to become more orgasmic to various stimulation.

How Can I Help Her Achieve a BreastGasm?

Learn how to play with her breasts and see what she likes.  If she doesn’t know yet, try many different types of stimulation until she says, “Yes, do that!”, or “That feels good.” If she does know what turns her on already, listen to her and learn.

Remember that breast sensitivity changes with a woman’s cycle, so sometimes her breasts may be more sensitive to softer touches and sometimes she may need more arousing stimulation.  Also, some women enjoy very soft stimulation, where as other women like rougher play.  So, you need to know what play style your lover likes and how she may want things changed up at different times of the month.

Just like every other type of sex play, foreplay is important to getting her turned on first. So, tease and seduce her whole body first before you go straight to the boobs.  Allow her to get warmed up first.

Types of Touch

Fingertips.  The fingertips are great for gently rubbing around and over the nipples to get them nice and perky.  Often, teasing them is best to start, baring touching so she is aching to have you play with them.  Once she starts to get turned on, grabbing around the areolas and pulling firmly, or tugging her nipples can be very erotic.

Clamps.  Some women even enjoy the feeling of nipple clamps on their nipples, which at first restricts the blood flow to the nipples, making them a bit numb.  But once removed, the blood rushes back in and the nipples become alive with sensation.

Palms of your hands.  You can use the palms of your hands to hold her breasts, to weight them and squeeze them.  She may even like it if you bounce her breasts in your hands, or push the flesh back against her chest, as if giving a massage.

Squeeze.  You can use your hands to squeeze her mounds and massage them, or even groping or man-handling her breasts if she likes rougher play.

Smacking.  Some women enjoy having her breasts smacked, either softly, or sometimes harder. Ask her what she likes.

Tongue. Use your tongue to lap at her breasts and nipples and taste her all over.

Suck.  Sucking her nipples will probably get the biggest arousal, because, guess what? Nipples were created to be sucked.  So, the suckling action can feel very erotic and make that clit/nipple connection in her brain so she explodes.  Some women prefer gentle sucking, whereas other women want vacuum-powered suction.  Try varying suction with rhythmic breast squeezing (just like an infant does) to give her maximum stimulation.

There you are.  Breasts are beautiful.  Breasts are fun to play with.  And, breasts are orgasmic!  Go find yourself a pair and start having fun!

And, while you are at it, go on over to Naked U and check out my program all about breast play- “Breast Play Secrets“!

For most women vaginal climax is hard enough, so they don’t really believe they can reach orgasm through nipple stimulation alone. I mean… it does sound a bit unrealistic. Nevertheless, many women around the globe are experiencing a nipple orgasm right now. And they don’t have special powers, there’s nothing unusual about their breasts… They simply get the right kind of stimulation from their partner.

Stimulating her breasts is not as easy as you would think. If it would be, all women would enjoy the mysterious breast orgasm instead of just dreaming about it. But did you know nipple stimulation activates the same nerve cortex as clitoral and genital stimulation? Researchers at Rutgers University have recently confirmed this through MRI brain scans. This means that breast stimulation has the same powerful potential – you just have to find the right way to do it.

Speaking of the right way to do it, I am now working on a super sexy and exclusive Naked U Edition that will be ALL about breast stimulation techniques, so stay tuned…

Until then, I recommend you also check out this complimentary course called “Boobgasms” to discover some helpful techniques.

Now pay attention because I’m going to let you in on some of my favorite breast stimulation secrets, so you can surprise your lady with new hotter sensations…

Size doesn’t matter

If your woman is worried she’ll never enjoy a breast orgasm just because her twins are on the smaller side, reassure her that size truly doesn’t matter. Scientific research has shown that of all the extra-genital erogenous zones on the female body, the breasts are among the most sensitive and responsive to stimulation. This holds true for all women—what matters most is having a patient, attentive partner who’s eager to explore this often-overlooked terrain. In fact, some believe larger breasts may be slightly less sensitive. But my Naked Instructor, Cherrie Deville, would strongly disagree. Despite her voluptuous chest, she regularly experiences intense boobgasms—watch her in action and see for yourself.

but there’s no evidence to support this and my Naked Instructor, Cherrie Dville

As for specific areas of the breasts, you just need to experiment with your woman to find out what excites her the most. For some women, the skin of the breast is more sensitive than the nipple, while others prefer you to concentrate on the nipple.

However, for most women, the most sensitive area remains the nipple, followed by the areola and the sides of the boobs. But don’t forget that the whole breast is a pleasure mechanism that contains an enormous concentration of nerve endings. There are some variations depending on her body shape, but trust me – she will not remain indifferent to nipple play.

Don’t underestimate foreplay

Yes, I am referring to breast stimulation foreplay. If you want to be able to give her a nipple orgasm, then you have to follow the same principle as with vaginal climax. You don’t want to aggressively squeeze her twins – she will only get annoyed more than anything. This is what most men do and I’m telling you it just doesn’t work. It’s actually the reason why most women are skeptical about breast orgasms.

Set the scene, make your woman feel sexy and comfortable by your side. It’s very important that she feels relaxed, open to anything. Turn down the lights, light up some candles and even wear that shirt she likes so much – anything you know will put her in a sexy mood.

If she wears a bra, don’t take it off just yet. Gently move your hands over it, teasing her. Then let your fingers slip inside and look for her areola. Circle her nipple slowly while looking into her eyes.

Make it more intense

When she starts getting wet, it’s time for some tongue-and-mouth action. Take off her bra and cup her breasts from behind, while kissing her neck. Massage them slowly with the palm of your hands and gently pinch her nipples. It’s important that you go slowly – most women experienced nipple orgasm through “boring” delicate moves. You just need to be patient and build tension gradually. (watch video demonstration)

Next, have her sit on the bed while you kneel in front of her, on the floor. Let your hands rest for a while and use your mouth exclusively. Grab her nipple into your lips, suck it, lick it, blow over it and then gently rub it with your index finger. Pay attention to her reactions and repeat the moves that she finds most pleasurable until she reaches orgasm. Nipple orgasm is different than the vaginal or clitoral one, but it will activate these powerful zones as well. So when you feel her clitoris contracting, that’s when you know she’s approaching breast climax.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S.: Baby, every woman’s level of sensitivity is different, so only move as far as she wants you to, asking questions about her preferences. It’s the only way you’ll get to REALLY know her twins and increase their pleasure potential. Don’t forget about my exclusive Naked U Edition that will be ALL about breast stimulation techniques that are coming your way next month! But until then, for more breast stimulation secrets, I recommend you check out this new course called “Boobgasms”.

Breast orgasms are real and 29% of the women who participated in a study made just a few years ago confirm this exciting theory. The explanation is pretty simple: touching her nipple triggers the same area of the brain as touching her clitoris does. So, when you play with her boobs not only you make her seriously WET, but you can also build sexual tension until she reaches climax – no penetration needed.

Still, your partner might be skeptical about this one. Women who have never had a breast orgasm don’t believe it’s possible. And as the study shows, less than half experience it. Well, I want every woman to be able to enjoy this fascinating experience, and I want you to help me make it possible.

Nipple orgasm hasn’t happened to your lady yet because neither of you has tried enough. Sure, every couple engages in some boob-play activity, but you probably treat it as foreplay to penetration. Which is great – but it has the potential to become much more than that. The word that comes to my mind is “orgasmic”.

If you truly want to get serious about nipple play, I recommend this HOT program called “Boobgasms” – it offers step-by-step breast pleasuring techniques women crave. You’ll become a master in no time!

Now let’s talk about the essential steps of building breast arousal and making that breast-gasm as real as it can be.

Create a sensual atmosphere

Boobs are hot. And amazing. And beautiful. So set the scene for an experience that makes your woman feel sexy and desired instead of awkward and vulnerable. While many women love their breasts, others have a zillion of concerns related to size, shape, nipple aesthetics, and so on. Help her get her mind off that.

Light up some candles, wear a sexy masculine perfume, put on some sensual music she likes (I enjoy Sade). Believe it or not, these little details can make or break your orgasmic boob session. Also, make sure to incorporate some massage oil as well. You will need it later on.

Breathe together

While the music plays in the background, unbutton her shirt and kiss her gently. Now she’s topless. Put your hands on her chest and do some breathing exercises together. Breathe in, breathe out and breathe deeply. It might sound weird, but it will be very pleasing as she’ll become incredibly relaxed – which makes it possible for her to reach breast climax.

Tease her. A LOT.

The secret to breast orgasm is building sexual tension as much as you can. Most women who have experienced it say they need at least 20 minutes of boob play in order to reach climax. So, you NEED to take your time.

Grab that oil I mentioned earlier (could be raw coconut oil as it smells delicious) and put some between her boobs and on her stomach. Her belly area is extremely sensitive and somehow connected to her genitals (especially the belly button). Now start massaging her stomach using gentle moves, sensually reaching her rib cage and making your way between her breasts. She’ll want you to touch her breasts at this point (you’ll want that too), but don’t do it. You want to tease her as much as you can until you make her wet – and until her nipples get HARD. By not touching the area she wants you to touch the most, you create some serious sexual tension. Featherlike touches and even sensual kisses on the neck (while she can smell your sexy perfume) will make her moan and beg you to reach the hot spot.

You can touch her breasts now

After more than 10 minutes of teasing, you can finally touch her “girls”. First, use your index finger to slowly circle her breasts. Then start massaging them without being rough and without touching her nipples. This is a good strategy of building anticipation and making her breasts CRAVE that intense stimulation. Even if she begs for more, don’t give it to her yet.

After a few minutes, it’s time to get to nipple arousal. You now have access to the entire boob, but don’t be too generous just yet. Touch her nipples gently, maintaining a sexy level of tease. Explore the entire boob area with patience, like an experimented fanatic. She’ll love it!

Pinch & Roll

At this point, her entire boob is aroused, which means you can get to heavy business without creating discomfort – and by heavy business, I mean pinching. Pinch her nipples firmly at the root to release oxytocin, that feel-good hormone which increases arousal and makes her feel closer to you. Alternate soft pinching with hard pinching and then get to the orgasmic move: start rolling the nipple between your thumb and your index finger. Alternate pressure from lighter to very strong until she reaches orgasm.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S.: Boob play is extremely fun and pleasurable for your lady if you know how to take your time and build anticipation. If you want to learn more in-depth techniques on breast orgasm, I recommend you check out this program called “Boobgasms”. It contains precious information on how to prepare your lady for sexy HOT boob action and how to pleasure her twins the way she wants you to.

Inorder to understand what orgasms are and how you can best enjoy them, it isuseful to understand what they are not. Chances are you have been exposed to all kinds of myths about sex and orgasm since you were a child. These myths have caused a lot of pain and confusion for some people.

Ridding yourself of any limiting or false beliefs or attitudes about orgasms is truly the first step on your path to enriched orgasmic experiences. If a belief is engrained or embedded into your psyche, it may take some time and experience to undo it, but it is a worthwhile journey. Here are some more common myths that may be limiting your enjoyment of orgasm in some way.

But before I go into the thorny topic of orgasm myths, let me guide to a new and very much enjoyable type of orgasm you can shower your partner with – the Breast Orgasm! Check out my program on the matter – Boobgasms – and you’ll discover that her girls really are the ticket to one really intense climax!

Vaginal intercourse or penetration is the only real route to orgasm.

One of my patients once noted, “I used to be really upset when I couldn’t make my partner reach orgasm with just vaginal intercourse. I thought that if my penis was in and doing the right thing that I should make her orgasm and if I didn’t I failed. I thought that if I had to use my hands to stimulate the clitoris while I was having sex that I was cheating or something. I have long lost this notion and currently use my hands all the time, no matter where my penis is.” The truth is that there are very clearly many routes to orgasm – vaginal penetration is not the sole ticket to orgasm. Men and women both can enjoy orgasms by engaging
in numerous kinds of sexual behavior, and some women do prefer hands and mouths better and that’s ok. There is “no proven better or more appropriate way to achieve orgasm.

Orgasms can only last a few seconds.

There are many different kinds of orgasms and orgasmic experiences that vary in intensity and duration. Some orgasmic states and experiences can last much longer than a few seconds.

Orgasms should all be “earth shaking.”

Every orgasm has the potential to be meaningful and pleasurable, regardless of its intensity. Some are mellow, some are quiet, some are short, some are profound, some are loud, and some are long. Great or small, each one should be considered a gift.

Women can’t orgasm as much as men.

It is true that women often have a more difficult time finding their way to
orgasm, at least initially; however, once they do, their access to multiple
orgasms is much greater than men’s. In fact, women on the whole are capable of being much more orgasmic than men.

Clitoral orgasms are immature and inferior to vaginal orgasms.

There is no such thing as an immature or inferior orgasm! The quality of your orgasm is not solely a factor of what is being stimulated. In fact, the intensity of orgasm is much more a factor of how open you are to receiving pleasure in whatever form it is administered.

Orgasms are the goal of sex.

As amazing as orgasms are, there is no reason why sex has to include orgasmic release. Sex can be very pleasurable, ecstatic, and meaningful without culminating in an orgasm.

Orgasm in men is always accompanied by ejaculation.

Men are capable of having an orgasm without ejaculation. Some men learn by chance to separate orgasm and ejaculation. Others can learn with practice.

Orgasms that include ejaculation will deplete your energy.

There are some belief systems that purport that a man’s life energy is depleted when he ejaculates. Some men may find this to be true, but there are many men who ejaculate frequently who do not find that it depletes their energy in any way. In fact, some men find that it keeps them vital.

If you self-pleasure you will lose desire or interest in being with.

Just because you are capable of providing yourself with orgasms does not mean you will lose interest in being with a lover. The need for intimacy and connection with another cannot be met by being alone. Also the experience of orgasm with a lover can be a very different experience than what you experience when you are by yourself.

A man is responsible for helping a woman achieve orgasm.

Some men feel like they are failures if they do not provide their female lover with an orgasm. Because women’s orgasmic responses are so unique and complex, it is important that they ultimately take responsibility for their own orgasm. Your desire and willingness to learn how to help provide an orgasm should be appreciated but not expected.

You shouldn’t have to use your hands to achieve or provide an orgasm.

The idea that using your hands to assist in or achieve an orgasm is somehow cheating or wrong should definitely be thrown out the window. All that matters is whatever feels good and whatever works.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. It’s true, you should believe everything you hear or read, especially when it comes to sex and orgasms. But do believe this: there is one type of orgasm that you should put on your erotic menu as soon as possible: the breast climax. Check out my program – Boobgasms – and start playing with her boobs in new and unexpected ways.