The skill of bringing your lover to orgasm with your hand is likely to be very appreciated. Your fingers may be the most effective way to supply the direct clitoral stimulation many women require to achieve orgasm. Training your fingers exactly how to satisfy your lover, however, usually requires a willingness to both experiment and listen to feedback. Learning how she uses her fingers to masturbate is a good place to start. Unfortunately, not all women are comfortable with self-pleasuring in front of their partner, so you may need to try different things and ask her for feedback. Remember to be prepared for more peaks, plateaus, and dips. It can be more of an up and down ride than in your case. There may be multiple starts and stops. Don’t get discouraged. The end result will be worth all of the fuss.

Before I begin, let me share with you a little secret: the skin on her ladies has a LOT of nerve endings and is one of the most sensitive parts of her body. That’s why it’s a good idea to touch your partner there. For ideas and techniques, check out my program – Boobgasms.

Tips and Techniques

Your hand can stimulate her entire vulva, including her labia, clitoris, and the inside of her vagina, if she wants that. Don’t limit yourself to just fingering the head of her clitoris. If you remember from the chapter on anatomy, the whole clitoris extends to just underneath the surface of the inner labia, where most of the erectile tissue of the clitoris lies. Stimulating the entire vulva allows for a larger area to become engorged, increasing arousal immensely for the woman, which will ultimately culminate in a richer, fuller, more satisfying orgasm. Here are some more tips and techniques that can help you give your female lover profound erotic pleasure with your hands:

If your hands are too rough for the delicate tissue of her vulva, use a latex or vinyl glove with some lube.

Be careful with your nails. The tissues of the genitals are very sensitive and can easily be aggravated by long, sharp, or jagged nails.

The inside of your lover’s vagina may supply adequate lubrication for a hand job. Dip a finger gently and slowly into the vagina to pull some of that wetness to her vulva. If not, just add some oil or lubricant.

When fingering a woman, you can use the fingers of your free hand to spread open her outer labia, making the inner parts of her vulva more accessible.

When stimulating the vulva, let your fingers glide smoothly over the clitoral hood and down both sides of the inner labia.

Spread your touch around the vulva. Alternate between teasing the vaginal opening with light finger circling and stroking the clitoris.

When stimulating the head and shaft of the clitoris, try different strokes and mix them up. Use just the tip of your forefinger or both your forefinger and middle finger. Use a circular motion or a figure-eight, or rub back and forth over the top of the head and shaft.

You can also try lightly tapping the head and shaft with your fingertip. Or you can use a flickering motion with your finger.

For extra fun and exploration, try gently gripping the shaft of the clitoris between your thumb and forefinger and stroke it up and down as if it was a very small penis. Feel it get harder and more engorged. Alternatively, you can lightly grip the clitoral shaft between your forefinger and middle finger, and twiddle your fingers back and forth.

If and when she is ready to have the inside of her vagina stimulated, you can slide a finger or two inside of her. To start, just let them rest there while you continue to stimulate the rest of her vulva. Then begin to slide them in and out repeatedly. Make sure there is plenty of lubrication so that your fingers glide in smoothly and effortlessly. This is likely to heighten her arousal tremendously.

Once she is really turned on, thrust your fingers along the front wall of the vagina (toward the stomach) where the famous G-spot is located. Try stroking her G-spot with a come-hither motion. She may or may not like this. Be sure to check in with her about where she feels her G-spot and how she likes it touched.

All the way to orgasm

When your lover seems ready to orgasm, keep a steady, continual stroke on her clitoris. Be careful not to overdo the pressure, especially if you are feeling excited yourself. She may not want more pressure or a faster pace, just consistent stroking. If your lover does not want direct clitoral stimulation, let her tell you want she does want.

After she comes, her clitoris may become very sensitive, and she may want you to stop stimulating it. Your cooperation can help her enjoy the aftermath of her orgasm. Alternatively, she may want continued stimulation to help her have multiple orgasms. Again, let her feedback be your guide.

Once she has entirely completed her orgasm, rest one hand lightly over her entire vulva, and the other over her heart, allowing her to feel your presence still as her body comes back to resting. This is a good time to share any tender feelings you have for her, letting her know how beautiful she is to you, and how much you love her.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. It is possible to really connect energetically with your partner while you’re stimulating her with your hands. Especially if you choose her chest – aka boobs – as your main point of focus. Check out my Boobgasms program and learn how to give her incredible pleasure and make her orgasm.

Want to know how you can keep your sex life stronger for longer? Keep on reading…

One of the greatest things about being coupled up is having someone you trust to sexually explore with, right? In new hookups, people don’t know our boundaries or the secrets of what we’re really into. In relationships, who better to satisfy up than the one who knows which buttons to push?

I want to believe this idea. But as a sex expert who talks to hundreds of both women and men every year, I’ve come to realise something unsettling. For a large number of couples, the opposite is true. 

Most long-term partners know less and less about each other sexually over time. What’s more, if they left their relationship tomorrow and had a one-night stand, many would probably do more of what they wanted with that random individual in one night than they did with the person they love in the last year. A recent study confirms this: The longer our romantic relationships, the less willing we are to risk being sexually novel, the researchers found. 

Why does this happen? Well, it’s psychologically easier for us to expose our unshackled desires and introduce new sexual behaviours in hookups. In relationships, we fear offending our partner (“So you haven’t been happy this whole time?”) or receiving their judgment (“You want to bring sex toys into bed? Why?”) or getting embarrassed. The result? Couples who indulge kinks with porn or erotic literature but have the same routine sex with each other. 

Maybe this isn’t you. Perhaps you’re part of those lucky few couples who have sex without restraints (or with restraints, if your kinks lean that way). If so, keep swinging from those chandeliers and dripping candle wax on each other’s bodies. But even if you feel sexually in sync, it’s worth asking yourself: “Could there be ways my partner would like to explore that I don’t yet know about?” 

If you’re looking for naughty ideas to explore tonight and every night, check out my Boobgasm program – it has everything you could possibly wish for in terms of sexual breast play. If this isn’t hot, I don’t know what is!

Consider: A study found that when couples are more willing to engage in “sexual transformations” (trying new sexual things to boost their partner’s pleasure), it leads to greatly increased relationship satisfaction. If we want our relationships to last and stay fulfilling, we need a culture of candour where we ask our partner for what we desire in the bedroom and embolden them to do the same. I had a partner say, “Tell me what more could I do to turn you on. What’s something you want to try, even if it’s weird? I want us to have fun exploring each other’s fantasies.” Just like that, I was free to show my real self. 

Talking openly about sex isn’t the only way. Making a bold sex move can make our partner feel safe to do the same. Maybe the mere suggestion that you visit an upscale sex shop together (maybe both of you pick something you want to try?) can be enough to show that you are open to the new. 

Bridging the gap can also mean creating something from nothing. Let’s say she gives you a light tap on the bum when you’re on top, but you really want her to be more forceful and spank you. Tell her, “When you do that it turns me on thinking about other things I want you to do…like spanking me….” 

People yearn for stability and emotional comfort, but we also crave adventure and sexual excitement. Too often, relationships nurture the former and treat the latter as optional. I know this much: If someone is going to agree to have sex with only me from this point forward, the least I can do is commit to doing the best job I can of maintaining excitement. 

Hasn’t there been a time when you saw something sexy in a movie and thought, “That’s hot—I wish I could try that”? It’s important to voice those desires and realise your partner’s tastes are constantly changing too. When we start to see our partner as the best person to go to for fulfilling our sexual cravings, we’ll stop believing that the toll of a monogamous relationship is giving up on our dirty little fantasies.

Hot kisses, 

Fidan Paula

P.S. And if your dirty little fantasy involves you and her breasts, check out my Boobgasm program ASAP! I’m pretty sure you’ll love what I have in store for you and your partner will absolutely adore it as well. Breast play is much hotter than you would have thought, you just need a little guidance!

You might love her breasts—but her body might love it even more.

You’ll be surprised, but she might enjoy breast play even more than you do.

That’s right. Her breasts—especially around the nipples—light up the same part of the brain as her clitoris.

So when you give them the right kind of attention?

She can’t fake the reaction.
Her body will give you four unmistakable signs.
One of the most surprising? Her nipples will change color.

But let’s not jump ahead just yet…

Here are the 4 signs to look for when boob play is hitting just right:

1. Her Nipples Stand to Attention

This is usually the first sign—and the most obvious.

When aroused, the smooth muscles in her nipples contract, making them stand erect. You’ll feel them stiffen beneath your tongue or fingertips. It’s automatic. She can’t control it—and that’s what makes it so sexy.

Pro tip: Aroused nipples are more sensitive, so this is your cue to up the teasing—slow licks, soft sucking, or the warm glide of your palm.

VIDEO: You can see this, in explicit detail, on Cherie’s big, sensitive breasts in the Boobgasms video. Her nipples stand fully erect just moments after the session begins—proof of how quickly the right touch gets results.

2. Her Breasts Get Bigger (up to 20%!)

Just like how her clit engorges with blood, her breasts respond to stimulation too.

As arousal builds, blood rushes in, making her breasts feel fuller, firmer, and more tender. The areolas may expand slightly. You might even notice the skin looks tauter or flushed.

It’s like her chest is rising to meet you—literally.

This is one of the clearest signs that what you’re doing is working.

3. Her Nipples and Areolas Change Color

Here’s the one most men miss… until now.

During proper stimulation, her nipples and areolas will darken—turning a deeper shade of pink, red, or even plum, depending on her natural coloring.

It’s caused by vasocongestion, the same biological process that makes her lips and genitals flush during arousal. When you see this, don’t stop. You’re doing it just right.

VIDEO: We captured this in close-up during one of the demonstrations—watch how Cherie’s areolas darken visibly as she gets stimulated in the Boobgasms video course. It’s a subtle but powerful confirmation that the body is fully turned on.

4. She Gasps When You Blow on Her Nipples

You don’t even need to touch her.
If you’ve done things right, her nipples will be so engorged, so sensitive… that the gentlest breath will make her gasp.

Blowing softly over her wet, aroused nipples sends a wave of cool air over heated, nerve-rich skin—and the contrast can be electric.

Some women describe the sensation as a jolt of pleasure straight to their core. Others arch their back and moan from nothing more than that little puff of air.

That’s when you know: she’s not just turned on—she’s primed.

Want to See These Signs in Real Time?

In Boobgasms, my sensual video course featuring Karlie Montana and Cherie Deville, you’ll learn:

•  How to recognize these signs in real time
•  When to tease, when to suck, and when to use toys
•  How to stimulate the nipples for max pleasure—and even orgasm

This isn’t just theory. It’s explicit demonstration. And it’s .

Click here to watch the full video course now

With pleasure,

Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Founder of Naked U

P.S.

Next time her nipples change color, you’ll know it’s not a coincidence.
It’s your cue to take her even higher. Be ready when that moment comes—master the Boobgasms here.

You’ve touched them before—but you had no idea they could light up her brain like this.

Let’s get one thing straight—these aren’t just erogenous zones. These are orgasmic launchpads, wired into her brain just like the G-Spot, C-Spot, and A-Spot.

I call them the N-Spots.

And odds are, you’ve already touched them. Probably with curiosity, maybe with lust. But what if I told you they hold the key to giving her a kind of orgasm she’s probably never had before?

I call it the BOOBGASM

And yes—you might’ve guessed it—the N-Spots are her nipples.

But here’s the twist: Only 12% of women have ever experienced a boobgasm. So if you’re the one to unlock it? You become unforgettable. Her favorite lover. The man who made her body sing in a brand-new way.

I have over 20 techniques to take her there, but before I show you one of my favorites, let’s look at why the N-Spots matter.

The Science Behind the N-Spots

In a groundbreaking 2011 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers used fMRI scans to study how women’s brains respond to different types of stimulation.

What they discovered was mind-blowing:

When nipples were stimulated, the exact same area of the brain lit up as when the clitoris or vagina were touched.

Translation? Her nipples are connected to the orgasm center of her brain.

This isn’t just about pleasure—it’s neural-level arousal. A direct highway to climax.

And while only a handful of women have experienced nipple-only orgasms, that’s not because it’s rare—it’s because most lovers don’t know how to get her there.

Now you do.

Yes, Any Woman Can Feel It

You don’t need magic fingers. You don’t need hours of tantric training.

You just need presence. Patience. And the right guidance to do it well.

Learn exactly how in my explicit video demonstration.

And while I have over 20 techniques to take her there, here’s one of my absolute favorites:
The Pinch & Roll Move

Simple. Subtle. Devastatingly effective.

Take her nipple—or the soft edge of her areola—between your thumb and forefinger. Apply just enough pressure to pinch. Then slowly roll it. Like you’re tuning in the perfect frequency.

Now breathe. Hover. Let your lips graze, not land.

Roll. Pause. Blow.

She’ll gasp. She’ll arch. She’ll beg for more.

VIDEO DEMO: In the Boobgasms course, Cherie Deville shows exactly how to master the Pinch & Roll. You’ll see, in explicit detail, how it’s performed on her full, responsive breasts—her nipples stiff, her body trembling. It’s slow, sensual, and entirely nipple-induced bliss.

Want to See It In Action?

Inside Boobgasms, my sensual video course, you’ll learn:

• How to activate the N-Spots with precision
• When to tease, when to apply pressure, and when to make her beg
• How to bring her to orgasm using only breast and nipple stimulation

This isn’t just technique. It’s seduction science.

Click here to watch the full video course now

With pleasure,

Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Founder of Naked U

P.S.

The next time she moans from nothing but your breath and fingertips… you’ll know: You’ve found her N-Spots.
[ Watch Boobgasms here →]

Most men love boobs. But only 12% of women say they actually love when their boobs are played with.

Here’s the truth:

It’s not because women don’t enjoy breast play—it’s because most men don’t know how to do it right.

When a man finally learns how to touch her breasts with focus, patience, and skill… something changes. Her body wakes up. Her nipples respond. And in some cases? She orgasms from just that.

Below are real stories from women who wrote to me after their partners—my students—learned the techniques inside my Boobgasms video course.

These aren’t fantasies. They’re real boobgasms.

Carly, New York, 44

“Gabrielle girl listen I got big boobs, always had em, and yeah guys loved em, but honestly it was always the same old boring stuff. Like ok cool u grabbed em, now what?

But babyyyyy my man got your course and WOW. He was touchin me like he actually cared, slow and all focused. He started kissing and suckling then blew on em real soft and wow, it felt so good. And now I’m like obsessed. Can’t stop asking him to do it again. You a legend girl. Thank uuuu”

See the exact moves that made her melt. Watch the full course here

Ashley, Montana, 65

“Hey Gabrielle. Just had to tell ya, thank you. I’m 65 and honest to god I didn’t think my boobs could still do that. Like I knew they were fun for him, but that night he was different. I didn’t expect it, but I ended up coming. Just from that. Wild right? I kept thinking why didn’t we know this sooner. Anyway, thank you. You woke something up in me.”

Want to learn the exact move that gave her that release? Watch it here

Nadia, California, 38

“Hey hey Gabrielle. I don’t even know where to start girl. My guy def watched your course or somethin cuz the way he was touchin my chest?? I was like dang who is this man?? My nips got crazy sensitive, like every lil thing made me jump. Next thing I knew I was moaning and shaking. From my boobs. Like what?! Never felt that before. So thank u. For real.“

Her partner used the rhythm I teach in Boobgasms. Watch the technique in action

These are just a few of the testimonials I’ve received this week, since May 2, 2025. But over the years, I’ve received many messages like these—women writing in, amazed at what their partners were suddenly able to do.

Ready to Please Her as My Student’s please their woman?

These women wrote to me because their partners finally got it right. They didn’t guess. They didn’t fumble. They learned exactly how to play with her breasts in a way that made her body light up.

• Build nipple sensitivity slowly and confidently
• Apply rhythm, pressure, and technique for maximum reaction
• Use your mouth and fingers in a way she’s never felt before

These women? They’re not just satisfied. They’re hooked. They’re raving about their men—and your girl could be next.

If you want her writing me a thank-you letter of her own… you know what to do.

Click here to watch the Boobgasms course now

With pleasure,

Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Founder of Naked U

P.S.

What happened to Kisha surprised even me.
Watch what unlocked her boobgasm—inside Boobgasms →

Boobs, Cherry and Cream: This Will Become Your Favorite Dessert

Why This Is the Most Delicious Foreplay

You love her breasts. She knows it. And when you show that love with your mouth, your hands—and a little dessert—it becomes something unforgettable.

Boob play with eatables is more than fun. It’s intimate. Romantic. Erotic.

Done right, it’s the kind of foreplay that leaves her breathless and begging you to take her. Because it’s not just licking—it’s teasing, bonding, and savoring her body like a delicacy.

So let me show you how to do it right.

Watch me demonstrate the most seductive boob play techniques—explicitly—with Cherie Deville and Karlie Montana inside Boobgasms.

4 Boob Recipes That Will Drive You Both Wild

Here are four erotic “boob recipes” using safe-to-use edible ingredients. These aren’t messy disasters—they’re designed to enhance arousal while keeping her comfortable, clean, and craving more.

1. Whipped Cream & Cherry Delight
Ingredients: Whipped cream (unsweetened), maraschino cherry, warm towel, clean hand towel How to use: Place her on a towel-covered bed. Spray a ring of whipped cream around each nipple, then crown it with a cherry. Kiss around the cream first, slowly licking it clean without touching the cherry. Save that for last. Then remove it with your mouth—gently. Clean-up tip: Wipe her with a warm, damp towel. The sweetness lingers, so finish with kisses.

2. Honey & Sea Salt Caress
Ingredients: Raw honey, pinch of sea salt, flat dish, 2 towels How to use: Pour a small amount of honey in a dish and warm it slightly. Add a bare sprinkle of sea salt (for contrast, not grit). Drizzle over the tops of her breasts, avoiding the nipples directly. Use your tongue to trace lazy patterns up her curves. Clean-up tip: Honey is sticky—go slow, keep a moist towel nearby. Let your kisses help clean her up.

3. Chocolate & Strawberry Seduction
Ingredients: Melted dark chocolate (cooled to skin-safe temp), sliced strawberries How to use: Place strawberry slices along the top of each breast. Dip your finger in the chocolate and draw lines between the strawberries, down toward the cleavage. Eat one berry at a time, licking chocolate as you go. Clean-up tip: Use a soft towel for any residue. Chocolate can stain sheets—protect the bed with a base towel.

4. Vanilla Yogurt & Crushed Almond Tease
Note: If you’re worried about scratching, make sure the almonds are crushed into a soft, fine meal—not chunks or shards. You want texture, not grit. Alternatively, skip the almonds entirely and keep it silky with just the yogurt. Ingredients: Plain Greek yogurt, crushed almonds (finely ground), small spoon How to use: Spoon a dollop of yogurt on her breast just under the nipple. Sprinkle a bit of almond over it. Take small licks—alternating between soft and firm strokes. Let her feel your breath, your pace, your desire. Clean-up tip: This one is low-mess, high arousal. Use a dry towel and finish with warm kisses.

See these recipes come to life in Boobgasms, where I take Cherie Deville’s big, sensitive breasts and Karlie Montana’s perfect curves to the edge.

A Word of Caution: Her Nipples Are Sensitive

Her nipples aren’t just sexy—they’re neurologically intense.

They’re packed with nerve endings (around 800 per breast) and directly connected to the same part of the brain as her clitoris.

Which means… they feel everything.

Some ingredients should be avoided entirely:

• Spicy or acidic foods (chili, citrus): These can burn or irritate
• Alcohol-based toppings (liqueurs, extracts): These dry the skin and sting
• Crunchy or gritty textures (sugar crystals, candy): These can scratch or cause micro-abrasions
• Dyes or artificial colors: Risk allergic reactions or staining

Stick with clean, smooth, room-temperature ingredients.

Always test on your wrist first—and avoid the nipples directly unless she’s ready and relaxed.

Inside Boobgasms, I show you how to stimulate nipples safely and seductively—with real reactions from Cherie and Karlie.

Eat Like a King… With Boobs On the Menu

They say a man’s favorite meals involve meat, spice, and sweets. But we both know there’s one dish no man can resist: her breasts.

And now you know how to prepare them—sensually, cleanly, and erotically.

So update your grocery list. Clear your evening. And get ready for a night of indulgence, intimacy, and pleasure… served warm, soft, and right on her chest.

Watch how I turn her breasts into dessert inside Boobgasms with Cherie Deville and Karlie Montana.

Special Guest: Cherie Deville

You may already know her—Cherie Deville, world-famous adult film star with a global fan base, breathtaking curves, and a magnetic personality.

She’s more than just a gorgeous blonde MILF with big, sensitive breasts—she’s a confident, experienced partner who knows exactly how to react, tease, and surrender. Watching her in this course is not just arousing—it’s educational.

You’ll see, in explicit detail, how she responds to every lick, trace, and touch.

Click here to watch Cherie demonstrate how boobgasms are done right.

Hot kisses,
Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U

Her nipples respond like her clit. Can you read the signals?

You may think you love her breasts more than anyone.

But her body might love it more than she realizes.

Because the truth is, the female brain lights up during breast play in almost the exact same way it does during clitoral stimulation. Especially around the nipples.

Which means…

When you do it right? Her body can’t hide the truth. It will show you—with four unmistakable signs.

Most men miss these. But once you learn to spot them, you’ll never second-guess your touch again.

Let’s decode what her body says when you’ve got her on the edge.

1. Her Nipples Stand to Attention

It’s not just visual—it’s biological.

As arousal builds, the smooth muscle in her nipples contracts. This causes them to stiffen, elongate, and become more pronounced. It’s the same involuntary reaction you see in goosebumps—except this one is pure pleasure.

You’ll feel it under your tongue. Against your palm. In the way her body subtly arches to meet your touch.

Use this as your green light.

Start teasing more deliberately: soft sucking, slow spirals with your tongue, or firm glides with the base of your palm.

 Watch how Cherie Deville’s nipples stand tall and sensitive within seconds of being touched—inside Boobgasms. It’s a clear, explicit signal that the body is fully turned on.

2. Her Breasts Get Bigger (Yes, Up to 20%!)

As arousal rises, so does blood flow.

Just like the clitoris or labia, her breasts swell with increased circulation. You might notice they feel firmer. Heavier. Flushed. Even the areolas may darken or widen slightly.

This is her chest “rising to meet you.”

Don’t rush it. Let your hands glide slowly across the curve. Hold them gently. Savor the fullness.

The more turned on she is, the more her body will show you.

3. Her Nipples and Areolas Change Color

This one’s subtle—but powerful.

As stimulation increases, her nipples and areolas may deepen in color. From pink to plum. From tan to rust. It’s called vasocongestion: blood vessels expand, bringing more oxygen-rich blood to the skin.

Most men never notice. But when you do?

You’ll know you’re the kind of lover who sees what other men miss.

We captured this exact color change during a close-up of Cherie Deville’s breasts in Boobgasms. It’s a moment only a trained eye catches—but her body doesn’t lie.

4. She Gasps When You Blow on Her Nipples

Here’s where it gets electric.

If you’ve warmed her nipples with licks, kisses, and suction—then stop and gently blow cool air over them…

She may gasp. Shiver. Even moan.

Why? Because her nipples are neurologically wired to respond to contrast. Wet to dry. Warm to cool. Pressure to stillness.

It’s the tease that makes her toes curl.

Some women say it feels like a spark straight to their core. Others say it’s a preview of orgasm.

Either way—it means you’ve got her.

Want to see this in real time? Inside Boobgasms, I show how to use this very move on Cherie Deville and Karlie Montana—taking them to the edge with nothing more than breath, touch, and rhythm.

Ready to Speak Her Breasts’ Secret Language?

Every curve, every gasp, every color shift—her body talks.

When you learn to read it, she won’t just feel touched. She’ll feel understood.

That’s what makes boob play unforgettable.

Inside Boobgasms, I guide you step-by-step:

• How to recognize arousal signs in real time
• What rhythm, pressure, and angle to use for orgasm
• Why nipple stimulation can trigger full-body surrender

You’ll see it all on camera. Explicitly. Elegantly. With Cherie and Karlie responding in real time.

These tips help. But only the video shows how.

Click here to watch Boobgasms now—and learn how to give her breasts the pleasure they were made for.

One Last Secret Before You Go…

Her nipples changing color? Her gasp at a puff of breath? Her breasts swelling in your palms?

These aren’t just reactions.

They’re rewards.

Proof that you’ve tapped into a deeper, more intimate level of her body. One most men never reach.

You’re not just touching her chest.

You’re learning to command her desire.

Click here to master the art of boobgasms with Cherie and Karlie.

Hot kisses,
Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U