You have the power to supersize, pleasure-ize, and totally intensify your girl’s orgasm. The secret: six red-hot foreplay strategies that bring on the bliss. When you spend time building her arousal, it increases blood flow to her genitals, triggers more muscular tension, and heightens her nerve sensitivity. The longer and better the buildup, the longer and better the release when she finally orgasms.

To help you give your partner an explosive, unprecedented, unforgettable O, I prepared different foreplay strategies that are straight out of an alpha lover’s secret handbook. And since variety is essential for bed-shaking sex, each has its own unique way of bringing your lady to the brink, so you can try a different one every time. Be prepared though: this is one very racy, risqué batch you have before you. Once you’ve mastered these sex moves, get creative and invent your own based on the crucial concepts.

Strategy 1

Seduce her with a massage

A sensual rubdown is a slow-boil approach to arousal. It will wind her up in a mellow, ready-for-pleasure state. Another reason rubdowns rock her world: Skin is the largest erogenous zone, with about 600,000 receptor cells. Not only does massage send blood coursing into key hot spots, but it also engages the muscles and nerve endings everywhere you touch.

Have her lie facedown and straddle her thighs. Start by deeply massaging her head and neck with your thumbs, forefingers and middle fingers. Then slide down her back, pressing the outside edges of your hands into either side of her spine. When you get to her sacrum – the bony spot where her spine ends – massage it with the heels of your palms for a couple of minutes. There are 16 acupressure points in this area, and stimulating those will moist her up. Then kiss the small of her back as you start kneading her butt, separating her cheeks as you rub. Moving her booty causes blood to rush to her groin, which is ammo for a powerful orgasm.

Strategy 2

Tease her like crazy

The key is to titillate her by offering only hints of what’s to come so that after a while, she’s aching for release. The longer you can draw her out, the more extreme her eventual explosion will be. But look closely for clues she’s about to climax: getting her too amped up will cut the sack session short. Have her sit down with her legs slightly spread, and kneel or sit behind her. Slowly begin rubbing her outer thighs, and then tip into her inner thighs, moving up to her genital area. Graze her labia once, and caress your way back down her inner thighs and out again to her outer thighs. Kiss the base of her neck, then repeat the whole process a few times. This move is a tantalizing twofer: Her inner thighs are packed with nerve endings, making them especially sensitive. Plus, each time you near her vagina, she’ll think you’re about to touch it, building uncontainable cravings.

Strategy 3

Don’t neglect the nipples

Nipples consist of erectile tissue, meaning that they’re full of pleasure receptors and become engorged with blood when stroked or licked. Midhookup, start by rubbing one of her nipples at the same time you’re running your hand up and down her clitoris. Once she’s thrilled by both touches, take one hand off her clitoris, but continue touching one of her nipples. Shift your mouth down, and lick around the outer edge of her nipple in a slow, circular motion. Then lick up the center of her nipple with the flat of your tongue. After you do that three times, bite her nipple very, very lightly for a few seconds before you resume licking. Then go back and repeat your licking and nibbling on her other nipple. The varying sensations on her nipples will send her into erotic overdrive, priming her for a mind-blowing release.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. If you also want to learn how to master her vagina, click here.

A lot of women actually believe that they simply are unable to orgasm. Female anatomy makes it harder to reach orgasm because the clitoris, which has more powerful nerve endings, is not close to the vagina, so it doesn’t always get the attention it deserves during sex.

But during their erotic solo escapades, women tend to involve the clitoris so much more than you do during sex, sometimes even exclusively. Actually, most women only massage their clitoris in order to have an orgasm while masturbating. Why? Because it feels great instantly and it just takes less time to get to the big O. Sure, penetration is still very intimate and pleasurable, but not all women are able to reach the maximum pleasure point in any sex position and without involving the clitoris directly.

This is the reason why a lot of men come to me with burning dilemmas, like “Am I unable to satisfy my woman?” or “Why is it so hard for her to orgasm?”. But few of them think of ways to help increase their partner’s sensations during sex and make her have more of those wild orgasms.

First, I want to tell you that sexual frustration will affect your connection, so you need to act fast. Second, there are certain sex positions which make it much easier for her to orgasm, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you liked them as well. But you need to remember that while it’s okay to stimulate your own sensitivity during sex, you have to think about hers, too. The most sensitive zone of her vagina, called “the ceiling” (the upper wall), is not stimulated when you thrust in and out of her — not if you don’t have an upward curve or a very thick penis. And even then, it’s not a safe bet.

Finding the ideal positioning during sex can help to iron out the kinks, so to speak, when exploring pleasure and play with your partner. The best sex position to give a woman an orgasm will also vary from person to person, so don’t be afraid to try a few different options and see which one she responds to most. One of the great things about these sex positions is that they’re easy to try, can be adjusted based on both of your needs, and well, they’re just plain-old fun!

Try these remastered positions to hit those extra sensitive zones inside her vagina and help her orgasm every time!

The Complete Missionary 

You might be over The Missionary, but women love this sex position for a reason: it offers great intimacy, which helps to get her wet, it makes her feel dominated by your manliness but also protected, and it makes it easier for you to stimulate the upper wall during penetration, while also putting pressure on the clitoris — this combination is fruitful for explosive orgasms. But you can make it even better!

To give her a powerful G-spot orgasm in this classic position, you need to make some creative adjustments. Start by putting a pillow under her butt in order to tilt her pelvis. Next, put her legs over your shoulders, then thrust back and forth to massage her G-spot and make her feel ready to orgasm! Plus, if you can last while putting both her legs on the same shoulder, she’ll feel tighter to you while you’ll cover more of those orgasmic zones of her vagina.

Using a pillow allows for a totally different angle of penetration than when she’s lying flat on her back, and it may create more friction and stimulation along the anterior wall of the vagina, where the G-spot resides. It also provides more space for both partners to access the clitoris, allowing for finger play or the introduction of sex toys that focus on clitoral vibration or suction, taking you both to new heights.

The Creative Doggy (Click here to see it on Video)

Everyone loves the classic doggy-style position because it has a bit of everything: it’s fun, kinky and offers the advantage of deep penetration. Women often say they can orgasm easier during this position, probably because the lower wall of the vagina gets a lot of attention — and that zone also has a huge potential for wild orgasms.

To take this position to another level, have her lie on her stomach with a pillow under her pelvis to create that slight angle which will make it easier for you to stimulate the elusive, deep G-spot. Then, get on top of her and thrust straight down at a 90-degree angle. This is how you dive straight into her G-spot and make her lose control! In addition, hold her arms down to make her feel dominated and tell her how much you want her to orgasm.

Wild Woman on Top

She likes it on top because she can finally control penetration and angles, but in the heat of the moment most men become completely oblivious and start moving in a way that stimulates their own pleasure.

Just let her take control and notice what is happening. You’ll see that she doesn’t move straight up and down — it’s more like she grinds you. This move isn’t familiar to men, but it’s the type of motion that makes her surrender to pleasure. Pay close attention to the way she moves and how she stimulates her G-spot and clitoris — because she’s probably trying to stimulate her clit against your shaft. If you see her lean back, that’s because she wants your tip to massage her G-spot.

She probably doesn’t even know that she can hit her G-spot by simply leaning back, so tell her how sexy she would look while doing that for you. Don’t expect her to find the perfect motion from the start, but once she finds it…she’ll become addicted!

Closed Missionary

I know, I mentioned missionary already. But don’t scroll past this section just yet — this is missionary with a sexy twist! This particular version is one of the best positions to make a woman cum by hitting that elusive G spot, leading to an explosive orgasm. And this is an important thing to note boys, as only a small percentage of women claim to cum from vaginal intercourse alone. So if you’re trying to up your game and bring her to climax without relying on clitoral stimulation, try this closed missionary position for a higher rate of success. 

Modifications are the key to unlocking greater female enjoyment, keeping things interesting in the bedroom while prioritizing her pleasure as well. In traditional missionary, the woman spreads her legs to accommodate deeper penetration. With closed missionary, once the penis is in place, the woman closes her legs around it while the man spreads his legs to straddle her.

This position creates greater pressure and better conditions for G-spot stimulation, and chances are it’ll feel good for you too. It also slows the pace and limits movement to keep the penis inside the vaginal canal. The benefit of closed missionary is that the woman has a better chance to feel her partner hitting the G-spot, allowing her to guide him and keep pressure and sensation right where she needs it to reach orgasm.

Butterfly Position

The butterfly, another face-to-face position, gives the man a lot of control over the speed, depth, and angle of penetration while allowing the woman greater freedom of movement than when a man is on top of her. In other words, both partners have a better chance to adjust mid-flow for the greatest enjoyment, making it one of the best positions to make a woman cum.

The butterfly position involves the woman lying flat on her back and scooting her pelvis to the end of the bed. The man lifts her legs and braces them against his shoulders while he enters her, with her feet on either side of his head. He’s perfectly positioned to cup her thighs or butt and lift her pelvis, while she’s free to spread her legs, squeeze them together, bend her knees, and even lift and lower her pelvis. This position allows both parties to make adjustments based on what feels good to them, making this a truly collaborative effort! 

The man can reach forward to caress her torso and fondle her breasts and nipples. Both partners can easily reach the clitoris for additional stimulation. While there isn’t a lot of body-to-body contact in this position, it makes for endless variations that can increase pleasure. If the height of your bed isn’t right for the butterfly, you can always get wild by sweeping items off the kitchen counter or dinner table to increase the thrill.

CAT

The coital alignment technique (CAT) is another variation on missionary, one that takes its cue from the closed missionary style. Don’t be fooled by the very scientific and rigid name of this position, it’s a doozy! It starts with insertion, after which the woman closes her legs and the man straddles her. However, there’s an additional step that might just make this the best position to make a woman orgasm.

Once in position, the man will adjust his body so that his torso moves up the woman’s torso while he rests his weight on her rather than holding himself up above her. This upward motion will pull the shaft out of the vagina slightly and press it against the clitoris, so she feels a thrilling pressure as he rests on top of her and begins to thrust.

As with closed missionary, this position limits movement but increases pressure and friction, which is all to the benefit of the woman — and often, the man as well. What makes this position better for most women is the added physical sensation on the clitoris. It also makes it easy to whisper dirty talk in her ear, nibble on an earlobe, or engage in a little passionate hair-pulling. 

CAT has the potential to trigger both clitoral and G-spot orgasms, especially with slow, incremental movements that allow her to pinpoint exactly when her partner has hit the right spot. For women who have had limited success reaching orgasm without clitoral stimulation, this is a much more enjoyable and effective position than standard missionary.

Rocking Horse

The rocking horse might be the best position for a woman, orgasm is never far off with this one! For starters, it allows for somewhat shallower penetration, which may offer a better chance of reaching and maintaining G-spot contact. But how exactly do you rock her world with the rocking horse?  

The woman straddles the man, much like in cowgirl. Then, the man sits up and threads his arms under her bent knees and around her back. From there, he can keep her in position and increase his ability to thrust or help her move up and down on his shaft.

The result is an incredibly close, intimate connection, both in body and spirit. Even as your bodies twist and writhe together with a lot of skin-on-skin contact, this position puts partners face-to-face, allowing you to gaze nakedly into each other’s eyes and build a strong emotional connection.

This connection can be just as important for female orgasms as the physical aspects of intercourse. When a woman allows herself to be open and vulnerable and feels that her partner is doing the same, it can unlock a new level of pleasure that increases arousal and heightens the intensity of orgasms.

Reverse Cowgirl

Couples who already enjoy a bit of woman-on-top action are sure to love the reverse cowgirl position, which pairs elements of both cowgirl and doggy style. Whereas cowgirl features a woman straddling a man on his back so she can ride his erection with full control of the speed, angle, and depth of penetration, the reverse cowgirl involves her facing away from him rather than toward him.

Both positions put the woman in control, allowing her to grind her way to her happy place at her own speed while her partner relaxes and enjoys the ride (and the view!). Reverse cowgirl, however, has the added appeal of doggy-style angling, which could make it easier for some women to get the pressure and friction they want on the G-spot.

The potential for deeper penetration will certainly appeal to men, but it could also be favorable for women with a G-spot deeper in the vaginal canal. This position also makes it easier for the woman to lean back while riding, providing unfettered access to the clitoris for added stimulation by either partner. Women who may feel self-conscious about self-stimulating the clitoris during sex may feel less inhibited in this position, where he won’t be watching.

Seated Scissor

I know what you’re thinking, but “scissoring” isn’t limited to girl-on-girl action. Male and female partners can also work this sexy move into their bedroom play — it just requires a bit of careful coordination. It starts very much like reverse cowgirl, with the man lying on his back and the woman straddling him as she faces toward his feet. However, the man will bend his knees and brace his feet.

Following insertion, she’ll swing one leg between his legs, keeping it bent so that his knees embrace hers. Her other leg will remain on the outside of his hip — this is the “scissor” portion of the position. Which leg she chooses to leave on the outside will determine the angle of penetration, slightly to one side or the other, so experimentation is the key to figuring out how to make this the absolute best position for a woman to orgasm.

This position can feel awkward at first, so it’s best to proceed slowly. However, it allows for some exciting new sensations when she grinds against the pubic bone, and like reverse cowgirl, this position is nicely situated for stimulating the clitoris and other erogenous zones.

Spooning

Some people consider spooning a “lazy” position, but there’s nothing wrong with a bit of languorous lovemaking. Sometimes, a relaxed and comfortable position may be the best position to make a woman cum. Spooning is among the most comforting and secure positions, with partners situated front-to-back and the man acting as the big spoon. Unlike more risky positions, it’s easy to control movements and penetration with the full support of the bed beneath you. 

Both partners lie on their sides while the man wraps his arms around the woman from behind, penetrating her in much the same manner as doggy style or creative doggy (where the woman lies on her stomach and the man lies on her back). 

For the woman, it feels like a full-body hug, complete with sensual penetration, and her partner can use his free hand to fondle her nipples or play with her clit, even as he whispers sexy talk in her ear or kisses the back of her neck.

This position features the deep penetration and superb angling of doggy style, which is often great for both partners, along with the added pressure of a closed-leg posture, like closed missionary, which can greatly enhance G-spot stimulation. When it’s all over and you’ve both had a mindblowing orgasm, it’s easy to snuggle close and bask in postcoital bliss. 

69

For women, the best sex often involves a lot of lubrication and stimulation of multiple erogenous zones, which is why oral sex is always a safe bet. While 69 doesn’t involve penetration, it still allows both partners to give and receive pleasure simultaneously.

This can be a tricky position to maintain, so you might have to spend some time experimenting with a top/bottom scenario or lying on your sides to discover what works best for you (and what’s least likely to cause those pesky leg cramps).

That said, this position can be absolutely explosive for both partners as they lick and suck their way to a mutual climax. It’s hard to imagine a better way to make a woman cum than with oral clitoral stimulation, which could make the classic 69 the very best position to make your woman orgasm.

Tips for Making a Woman Cum in Any Position

Instead of asking what sex position will make a woman orgasm instantly, consider that the right stimulation could make a woman orgasm in any position. Whether you tend to favor missionary, cowgirl, or doggy style, or you like to explore a fantastic range of sexual gymnastics like you’re using the Kama Sutra as your playbook, you always want to work toward helping your partner reach fulfillment.

Slowing down, taking time to explore what makes her back arch and her feet curl, and introducing a variety of techniques are fundamental aspects of mind-blowing sex. However, there are other things you can do to ensure that every touch sends tingles throughout her body and brings her one step closer to climax.

Invite Other Erogenous Zones to the Party

Penetrative sex is rarely enough to make a woman cum, even with so many different positions to try. Your best bet to making her cum is to spend some time stimulating multiple erogenous zones.

Pay attention to her mouth and lips, the nape of the neck, her breasts (especially her nipples), and her inner thighs and buttocks. And of course, don’t forget clitoral stimulation. However, many women have other areas of sensitivity that contribute to arousal. You might nibble her earlobe, kiss your way across her lower abdomen, lightly brush her lower back with your fingers, and so on. In time, you’ll discover which areas really make her purr.

Add Toys to the Mix

Every woman is sure to enjoy some positions more than others. But what if the positions you love don’t match up? You may both still be able to get off in any position with the assistance of some well-placed sex toys.

Dildos, vibrators, nipple clamps, clit stimulators, and other toys can offer an assist that makes every position more pleasure-inducing. A low-profile clit stimulator can even work with missionary-style positions and slip seamlessly between your bodies.

You might find that titillating extras like bondage gear amplify her level of arousal to the new levels. Tickles and slaps can be fun, but bringing feathers, riding crops, and other naughty toys into the mix can up the ante on excitement.

Don’t Rush

If you’re having trouble holding back, you might want to consider techniques that help prolong intercourse until she reaches climax. This could mean switching up tempos during intercourse to avoid reaching the finish line before she does. However, I highly recommend that you spend more time on foreplay and other forms of arousal before you engage in penetration.

You don’t have to cum together every time, but if you tap out when she’s just getting started, chances are at least one of you — but probably both — will end up disappointed. Finding the best position to make a woman cum is just one part of ensuring she crosses the finish line. Remember, sex is more about the journey than the destination so make sure both of you have fun along the way! 

Talk to Her

A lot of women like to have their minds stimulated as much as their bodies. That’s why the right kind of talk during sex can help to get her primed for an orgasm.

You might try a little no-touch foreplay, like reading the steamy parts of an erotic story to let the wheels in her head drive her physical arousal. You can talk dirty or simply fuel her imagination by telling her what you’re going to do to her. Getting close to her to whisper in her ear can be a major turn-on that greatly enhances the pleasure of any number of positions. You can even try a little dirty sexting before she gets home to really get her engines revving. 

The truth is that the best position to make a woman cum will depend on a variety of different factors. Make sure to talk to her about what she wants, what feels good, and what new and sexy things she’s willing to try. You may be surprised by what you learn about your partner’s fantasies! 

Ultimately, finding the best position will come down to a lot of trial and error. But the good news for you is that it means you get to spend time exploring her body and what makes her tick. And who doesn’t love a little sexy exploration with their partner? I’ll leave you with that and this fun list of exciting positions. Happy experimenting! 

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S.: And remember, the more orgasms she has, the easier it will become for her to experience the same kind of intense pleasure. Because once you figure out together the most powerful angles and moves to stimulate those sensitive areas, you will master this mysterious territory without much effort.

For more details on the Reverse Cowgirl Position, check out my full course by clicking here.

These questions will reveal the truth: Is she sexually attracted to you… or just tolerating you?

When a woman sees you as an Alpha, her biology reacts. She gets wet. She relaxes. She trusts. Sex flows. Submission becomes natural.

But when she sees you as a Beta? Her body shuts down. Her voice sharpens. She questions you. Challenges you. Resists you. And sex? It dies quietly.

That’s why this test matters.

Because this isn’t her fault—it’s yours. She’s not doing it on purpose—and it’s not something she consciously controls. It’s biological. Instinctual. And you can learn to shift it.

Below are two versions of The Alpha Test:

• One for men in a relationship
• One for men who are dating

How to Score:

• If you answer YES to 4 or more—she sees you as a Beta.
• If you answer NO to 4 or more—she sees you as an Alpha.

Let’s begin.

If You’re In a Relationship

Most men don’t realize they’ve stopped being the Alpha—until it’s too late. This is one of the biggest intimacy killers in long-term relationships. The worst part? It’s silent, and it happens gradually.

1. Does she make jokes about you in front of your friends?

This could be a joke about how messy you are, or about your outfit, your hair—anything that makes you the punchline in front of others.

Yes: She doesn’t value how your friends see you. Your status isn’t important to her. No: She protects your image because she respects you. She understands that status matters.

2. Does she speak to you with a harsh or irritated tone?

This might sound like passive-aggressive remarks, frequent sighs, eye-rolls, or using a sharp tone over small issues.

Yes: Her irritation means she doesn’t see you as the man in charge. She’s trying to take the lead.
No: Her soft, respectful tone means she sees your leadership and relaxes into it.

3. Does she challenge your decisions or ask for proof constantly?

This looks like double-checking everything you say, needing to ‘verify’ your choices, or refusing to let your word be final on any plan.

Yes: She doesn’t trust your judgment or instincts. She wants to control outcomes.
No: She believes in your word and respects your authority as a man.

4. Does she get angry at you for working too much?

This might look like guilt trips when you’re focused on building something meaningful, or making your ambition the problem.

Yes: She resents your purpose and doesn’t see your time as valuable.
No: She supports you, takes care of you, and wants to see you win—because she respects your mission.

5. Does she wear lazy pajamas or unflattering underwear around you?

We’re talking old cotton, saggy waistbands, or cartoon prints that scream, “don’t look at me.”

Yes: She’s no longer trying to arouse you—because she’s stopped seeing you as a sexual man.
No: She still wants to turn you on—because your presence still excites her.

6. Does she tell you she doesn’t need your help with physical tasks?

This might sound like, “I can carry it myself” or “I don’t need help with the tire.”

Yes: She doesn’t see you as physically superior, and thus struggles to respect your masculinity.
No: She recognizes your strength and welcomes your masculine role.

 Most men lose their Alpha edge without even noticing—until she’s no longer turned on. That’s why I created an explicit video course to show you how to lead her in bed like a man she can’t help but trust and surrender to. Click here to watch The Alpha Lover.

If You’re Dating—Look for These First-Date Signals

The Alpha test doesn’t wait until you’re in a relationship. She’s scanning you from the first text, the first date, the first move.

Here are 6 common early signs of how she sees you:

1. Does she insist on changing the plan?

This could be her pushing for a different restaurant, changing the time last-minute, or rejecting your original suggestion.

Yes: She doesn’t trust your ability to lead or follow through. She wants control.
No: She’s excited to follow your plan and wants to see where your lead takes her.

2. Does she override your suggestions?

This might be her correcting your order at dinner, questioning your choice in movie, or redirecting every conversation.

Yes: She doesn’t value your judgment. She’s testing to see if you’ll fold.
No: She accepts your lead and wants to be in her feminine energy.

3. Does she take your masculine gestures—like opening the door—for granted?

This includes not acknowledging when you open the door, pull out her chair, or pick up the bill.

Yes: She feels entitled to them and doesn’t see them as special.
No: She’s grateful because she values your role as a man and knows not all men are like you.

4. Does she challenge your lead during the date?

This might look like constant interruptions, suggesting alternative directions when walking, or taking control of the vibe.

Yes: She’s still trying to run the show. You haven’t convinced her to trust you.
No: She’s relaxed, letting you take control.

5. Did she make you wait or show up late without an apology?

This could be that she made you wait over 10 minutes downstairs when you went to pick her up in your car, without acknowledging it.

Yes: She doesn’t respect your time—she doesn’t see your presence as something to value.
No: She honors your time and shows up because she respects your role as a man.

6. Does she confront you or correct you in public?

This could be interrupting you mid-sentence to correct details, calling you out in front of others, or arguing during social moments.

Yes: She doesn’t respect your authority. She undermines you when others are watching.
No: She brings things to you privately, because she respects your leadership.

Because when you lead her in bed, everything changes. That’s why I created a step-by-step demonstration inside my course. Click here to watch The Alpha Lover and see how it’s done.

Her Behavior Is the Mirror of Your Power

She doesn’t need you to be perfect. She doesn’t even need you to be right all the time.

She needs to feel that you’re solid. Clear. Decisive. Unshakeable.

That’s what gives her permission to surrender— Not just emotionally… but sexually.

Summary

An Alpha: She trusts you to lead. She softens. She submits. She wants to impress you. Craves your attention. Gets wet at your presence.

A Beta: She confronts you. Corrects you. Pulls away from sex. Challenges your decisions. Gets dry. And starts looking elsewhere for masculine energy.

If you want to lead her not just in life—but under the sheets—then this is where you start. Click here to watch The Alpha Lover now.

With certainty,

Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Founder of Naked U

P.S.

These tests are happening all the time—whether you see them or not.
Learn the moves and mindset to pass her tests and turn her on like never before.

Make Her Love BDSM!

Darling, let me confess something…

The first time I really let Steve tie me down, I thought of Fifty Shades of Grey. That movie made every woman secretly wonder, what would it feel like if a man truly took control of me? But here’s the truth, it’s so much more powerful than what Hollywood shows. The ropes, the blindfolds… they’re just props. The real thrill is in the trust, the surrender, the moment I felt completely his.

That’s what BDSM is. Not cruelty. Not abuse. But a delicious mix of power, devotion, and erotic intensity that most couples never dare to taste.

What Does BDSM Play Look Like?

Sometimes it’s Steve pinning my wrists while kissing me so hard I forget to breathe. Other times, it’s being blindfolded, hearing his voice command me, not knowing where his hand or tongue will strike next.

BDSM can be as simple as playful spanking… or as elaborate as rope patterns you’d see in an art exhibit. Think of it as jazz: improvisation, rhythm, tension, and release.

Want to see how this looks when I teach it? Inside The Alpha Lover, I guide AJ Applegate (my luscious blonde with curves built to worship) and Sandy Fantasy (my fiery Russian beauty) through intoxicating domination play. Watch it here.

Why Are People Into BDSM?

Because it heightens everything. My skin feels hotter, my orgasms sharper, my heart racing faster. Science backs it too—dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins flood your system during power play. It’s like sex mixed with a natural high.

And no, it’s not pain that excites me. It’s the contrast: being restrained but protected, ordered but adored. That paradox is addictive.

What Does It Mean to Be a Dominant?

Think of James Bond—not Christian Grey. True dominance isn’t about leather whips; it’s about confidence. A Dominant man:

• Leads with certainty.
• Anticipates her needs.
• Protects as much as he provokes.

Steve doesn’t need to shout. He owns the moment with calm, grounded certainty. And when he does, my body answers without question.

In The Alpha Lover, I show you how to embody that presence—so she sees you as irresistible, commanding, unforgettable. See it now.

What Does It Mean to Be a Submissive?

When I submit, I’m not weak. I’m free. Free from decisions, from control, from the noise in my head. I give Steve my body and in return, I get orgasms so raw they leave me trembling. That’s the beauty of submission: surrender becomes liberation.

Breaking Down the Misconceptions About BDSM

• Myth: BDSM is abuse.
  Truth: It’s love wrapped in intensity, built on consent and care.
• Myth: Only “kinky” people do it.
  Truth: Every couple who’s pulled hair, spanked, or whispered dirty talk has already played in this world.
• Myth: It’s dangerous.
  Truth: With safe words and trust, BDSM is one of the safest, most bonding forms of play.

How to Talk to Your Partner About BDSM

Pop culture makes this easy. Mention Fifty Shades or even a Netflix series with a power-play scene. Then smile and say: “I wonder what it would feel like if we tried something like that…” Keep it playful. Invite her curiosity. Make it sound like a shared adventure.

Consent and Safe Words

Steve and I always use them. “Yellow” means slow down. “Red” means stop. Funny enough, I rarely use them, but knowing they’re there gives me the freedom to let go without fear.

How to Start Practicing BDSM as a Beginner

• Start small: blindfolds, silk scarves, handcuffs.
• Add spice slowly: spanking, whispered commands, teasing denial.
• Always watch her: her breath, her moans, the way her thighs clench—those are your guide.

Aftercare: The Tender Secret

After he dominates me, Steve doesn’t just roll over. He pulls me close, strokes my hair, whispers how beautiful I was for him. That aftercare is what turns BDSM from rough play into devotion. It’s the reason I crave it again and again.

These words are just a taste. Inside The Alpha Lover, AJ Applegate and Sandy Fantasy show you, explicitly, how domination becomes both fierce and tender, raw and romantic. Click here to watch and master it.

Final Thoughts

Darling, BDSM isn’t about pain. It’s about passion, power, and surrender. When you step into your role as a Dominant, you awaken something inside her she may have only fantasized about while watching movies. And once she tastes that surrender, she’ll never want to go back.

Ready to awaken her kink and become the man she worships in and out of bed? Watch The Alpha Lover now.

Hot kisses,
Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U