If backdoor things used to be a hard no for your partner, but now she’s ready to maybe start exploring that particular nether region (except that she’s not ready for a full-on penis going up there quite so soon), try easing into it with some almost-anal sex positions. Why? Because if your partner has never done it before, you’ll want to do everything in your power to make it a positive experience, so that the two of you can work back door into your usual carnal repertoire. And that means doing your homework to make sure you’ve done the necessary prep work, and knowing all of the best practices when it comes to putting something in another person’s butt. So gather your lubes, anal toys and techniques and follow my advice for a smooth sailing through her backdoor.

Tainted love

Your partner’s bum (and yours, for that matter) is rich in nerve endings, so for your first try at things, you don’t even need to go in — just hit the nearby real estate. But first, take whatever steps are necessary to put your partner at ease and get her in the mood. Muscle tension is not your friend in ass play, because it can add discomfort or pain if she doesn’t get past it and relax. So lie her on her back for a hot, steamy session of oral sex. When she is super turned on, gently press a vibrator to the area between her labia and her butt. Keep sucking and stroking, while experimenting with vibe patterns and pressure and watching how she reacts (99 percent chance that reaction will be: “Holy f*ck! I’m coming!”).

Bum’s rush

Phase two is fingers. If you’ve been skipping regular nail trimming lately, either skip phase two, or wear some lubed-up gloves (safety first, dudes). Lie on your sides facing each other like an X-rated yin and yang symbol, and toy with each other’s front-junk while you experiment with a (well-lubed!) finger or two up your partner’s bum when things start getting serious. But don’t rush things, you don’t want to “convince” your partner she was right in hesitating to do it when it suddenly hurts.

Butt bang

Make some initial exploratory journeys via toy. Not only do you not actually have to put fingers or mouth down there if you’re not feeling it, but a curved vibrating toy will work magic for relaxing very tight muscles. Find something super thin and, if it’s an issue for your partner, decidedly non-penis-looking. Lube the living hell out of it and do a reach-around to slide it on in. If you hit your woman’s G spot, she may get super, super wet. If you keep doing it while you’re inside her, she may also have a beyond-huge orgasm. Go for a trifecta with clitoris stimulation, the bum thing, plus internal stimulation — via toy or finger. Oh. My. God.

Park and ride

Get your partner into reverse cowgirl and when she feels ready, slowly insert a string of high quality beginner anal beads. The slow part is important — the idea is for your lady to get a feel of how much she can take and noticing whether she likes the feeling or not. You can insert and remove them as you go or leave them in, sliding them out right before orgasm to intensify her experience.

Get a pair of butt plugs and pop them in pre-vaginal intercourse. To make sure you don’t have butt plugs popping out mid-fuck and possibly putting someone’s eye out or something, have your partner lie facedown with her legs slightly spread. You lie flat on her back entering her from behind. Notch it up with vibrating plugs for insane reverb via magically vibrating penis/vagina.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. For more crucial information about anal play and the right way to experience pleasure through it, check out my program – Anal Ecstasy.

What is a Triple-Climax?

Well, lover, I’m glad you asked!

Have you ever heard of dual-orgasms, or combination orgasms?  These are orgasms that women can achieve by stimulating 2 erogenous zones at the same time, like the clitoris and G-spot.  These types of orgasms tend to be much more powerful, experienced full-bodied and can last longer, even turning into multiple or continuous orgasms.

A Triple-Climax is an orgasm that she can achieve while she is being stimulated in 3 erogenous zones: the clitoris, the G-spot, and the anus.

Yes, the anus has lots of nerve endings that when stimulated the right way can lead her to orgasm.  And, while anal sex is still somewhat taboo, many men and women are still very curious about it.

Using my Triple-Climax technique below is a great way to introduce her to anal pleasure if she has been unsure of it before, and to ease her into the sensation of being stimulated “down there”.

Obviously, get her permission first when you try this technique out on her, but let her know the anal stimulation doesn’t need to involve penetration unless she wants it to.

Okay, shall we begin?

Warm Her Up

Always begin by warming your lover up with lots of foreplay.  I stress this in all my articles and programs because most women take a while to get aroused and she will not feel pleasure until she is relaxed and aroused.  Read some of my foreplay articles for ideas, or just do what she likes best.

Clitoral Love

The clitoris is always a good place to go to after foreplay, as it is her biggest erogenous zone (after her brain that is), and the spot that will get her the hottest quickly.

You can start with teasing her with your tongue and lips, giving her hot oral sex.  Many women love the feeling of a warm, wet tongue circling her clitoris or flicking it from side to side, driving her wild.  Use lots of saliva or water-based lubricant, the slipperier the better.

G-spot Lust

Once she is clearly aroused, but not ready for orgasm yet, insert your well-lubed finger into her vagina and begin to stimulate her G-spot while continuing to give her oral love.  By now it should be puffing out a bit and making itself known.  You will feel it at the top side of her vagina, a wrinkled prune-like balloon of puffy flesh that is filling with ejaculation.

Rub her G-spot with firm strokes up and down the length of it, and/or circular motions.  She may even like it if you press firmly into the G-spot as if you were trying to milk the liquid from it.

By now she should be getting close to orgasm, so back off a bit so you don’t put her over the edge.  You want to keep her at about a level 8 on an arousal scale between 1-10.

Anal Desire

While she is losing herself to the amazing sensations you are giving her, use your other hand to position your thumb or finger over her anal opening (rosebud of desire).  Make sure the finger is super lubed up and just apply gentle pressure as you rub it in small circles.  You may also want to wear a glove to protect her from scratching or bacteria.

There is no need to penetrate her anus at this point.  The idea is just to warm that erogenous area up to receiving pleasure.

As she relaxes there and becomes more turned on and orgasmic, he anus may open to allow you to enter.  Do NOT force entry, just allow her anus to suck your finger in however much that is.  It may be just the tip of your finger to begin with, or a bit more.  Allow her body to open to you and show you how much she wants.

At this point you can try moving your fingertip inside of her, just rubbing the inner wall of her anus, or slowly, gently pushing in and out with small movements.  Don’t remove your fingertip from her anus fully (unless she wants you too), just move it slightly back and forth, and if she accepts more great.  If not, just the finger tip will do.

Triple-Climax Explosion

She should be on the brink of orgasm now and you can allow her to go over the edge into oblivion.  Believe me, she will feel like her mind is blow, as her triple-climax erupts through her clitoris, exploding into her G-spot and rippling and contracting into her anus like multiple fireworks of extreme pleasure.  He whole body will be aflame as she writhes with orgasmic ecstasy.  She may even experience female ejaculation and just let go altogether, as she opens into the most orgasmic bliss she has ever felt in her life!

So, that’s the how-to lover boy.  Are you ready to rock her world tonight?

To learn more about other amazing anal sex techniques that will turn her into a puddle of orgasmic jelly, check out my sex-ed video program called “Anal Ecstacy”.

Anal play is the one sexual subject that’s guaranteed to put the ‘oooh’ into ‘taboo’. Sometimes fear of rejection, judgement or a negative reaction means the subject of anal foreplay or anal sex is never broached. But good sex is all about communication, and talking as openly as you can about fantasies and boundaries can bring you closer together. After all, you may discover shared fantasies and turn-ons you never knew about. Also, though it is often stigmatised, anal sex is a perfectly natural way to engage in sexual activity. People have been having anal sex since the dawn of humanity. Seriously, it’s been documented back to the ancient Greeks and then some. So if you’re a little worried your lady might not want to try it or might have trouble understanding the appeal, just assure her that it isn’t weird or gross, on the contrary.

WHY YOU SHOULD GIVE ANAL A GO?

The entrance to the anus is packed with nerve endings, so it’s highly sensitive for anyone, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t explore if you’re intrigued. That being said, anal, like all sex acts for that matter, is not enjoyed by everyone, and that’s totally OK. You and your partner should do what you feel comfortable with and what feels pleasurable for the both of you. There is no wrong way to experience sexuality, and no way is better than any other.

WHAT SHOULD YOU SAY FIRST IF YOU WANT TO TRY ANAL?

It’s quite likely that you’ve talked around the subject slightly, and you have a vague idea about what your partner is into — whether he’s a whips-and-chains kinda gal, or a pretty vanilla lady. If she’s been sheepish when it comes to booty time, then you’re going to have to handle this one carefully. Perhaps a good way to start is by removing the closeness to the subject and say something like, “I saw this article last week about all the benefits of anal sex. To be honest, I was quite surprised about what I found out!” This is a way to open up the conversation and get a sense of whether she could be in to it (or not) in a kinder way — rather than straight up asking “Hey girl, I’m keen to give anal a go. You in?” Another conversation-opener is to start talking about what you want to do in bed together. This could be a factual chat or a bit dirty talk-esque in bed or over text. Start slowly and mention things you want to try — like, “I want us to massage each other”, or “I want to put a blindfold on you”. Then, if you think she’s ready for the booty bombshell, then drop it.

WHAT ANAL SEX TOYS SHOULD YOU BUY FOR YOUR FIRST TIME?

Be sure to talk about buying anal sex toys together, so there is no pressure on either partner. Remember to be honest, say why you’re interested and listen to what your partner has to say too. Keep the conversation light and jovial, so no one will feel offended if there is any rejection, or if your partner is spooked by something you’ve picked out. If you take your partner by surprise, they may run for the hills. So please don’t whip out a 10-inch long anal bead, as though anal sex is a common fantasy. It’s actually not shared by all, so diving in deep with a hectic array of possibly frightening toys may ruin your chances of ever getting any booty love. What you can do, once you’ve got the all-clear from your partner, is buy a nice starter pack, or some individual anal play toys to get you going. Obviously, it’s a good idea to start small, so go with ‘beginners’ category toys first.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. For more juicy and saucy tips and secrets on how to properly enjoy anal play, check out my program on the subject, Anal Ecstasy.

If backdoor things used to be a hard no for your partner, but now she’s ready to maybe start exploring that particular nether region (except that she’s not ready for a full-on penis going up there quite so soon), try easing into it with some almost-anal sex positions. Why? Because if your partner has never done it before, you’ll want to do everything in your power to make it a positive experience, so that the two of you can work back door into your usual carnal repertoire. And that means doing your homework to make sure you’ve done the necessary prep work, and knowing all of the best practices when it comes to putting something in another person’s butt. So gather your lubes, anal toys and techniques and follow my advice for a smooth sailing through her backdoor.

Tainted love

Your partner’s bum (and yours, for that matter) is rich in nerve endings, so for your first try at things, you don’t even need to go in — just hit the nearby real estate. But first, take whatever steps are necessary to put your partner at ease and get her in the mood. Muscle tension is not your friend in ass play, because it can add discomfort or pain if she doesn’t get past it and relax. So lie her on her back for a hot, steamy session of oral sex. When she is super turned on, gently press a vibrator to the area between her labia and her butt. Keep sucking and stroking, while experimenting with vibe patterns and pressure and watching how she reacts (99 percent chance that reaction will be: “Holy f*ck! I’m coming!”).

Bum’s rush

Phase two is fingers. If you’ve been skipping regular nail trimming lately, either skip phase two, or wear some lubed-up gloves (safety first, dudes). Lie on your sides facing each other like an X-rated yin and yang symbol, and toy with each other’s front-junk while you experiment with a (well-lubed!) finger or two up your partner’s bum when things start getting serious. But don’t rush things, you don’t want to “convince” your partner she was right in hesitating to do it when it suddenly hurts.

Butt bang

Make some initial exploratory journeys via toy. Not only do you not actually have to put fingers or mouth down there if you’re not feeling it, but a curved vibrating toy will work magic for relaxing very tight muscles. Find something super thin and, if it’s an issue for your partner, decidedly non-penis-looking. Lube the living hell out of it and do a reach-around to slide it on in. If you hit your woman’s G spot, she may get super, super wet. If you keep doing it while you’re inside her, she may also have a beyond-huge orgasm. Go for a trifecta with clitoris stimulation, the bum thing, plus internal stimulation — via toy or finger. Oh. My. God.

Park and ride

Get your partner into reverse cowgirl and when she feels ready, slowly insert a string of high quality beginner anal beads. The slow part is important — the idea is for your lady to get a feel of how much she can take and noticing whether she likes the feeling or not. You can insert and remove them as you go or leave them in, sliding them out right before orgasm to intensify her experience.

Get a pair of butt plugs and pop them in pre-vaginal intercourse. To make sure you don’t have butt plugs popping out mid-fuck and possibly putting someone’s eye out or something, have your partner lie facedown with her legs slightly spread. You lie flat on her back entering her from behind. Notch it up with vibrating plugs for insane reverb via magically vibrating penis/vagina.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. To learn how to also practice my favorite pose EVER, try out Reverse Cowgirl Domination.

The Flatiron Trigasm: Why Do I Crave it (And Why You Will Too)

My hips are sore. My thighs are shaking. And my butt? Still swollen.

One position did it. One deep move… That made me scream into the pillow.

It’s called the Flatiron. And when done right—it doesn’t just go deep. It stimulates three pleasure zones at once.

No wonder Abella Danger calls it her favorite. And in this article, I’ll show you why.

The Flatiron: Her Body Bent for Triple Impact

Picture this: She’s lying flat on her stomach, arms stretched overhead, hips slightly elevated by a soft pillow. Her legs are tight together. Her ass is high. Her back curves.

You enter from behind. But the angle? It’s like nothing else.

Your shaft presses into her from below—rubbing along her clitoral network, massaging the front vaginal wall (where the G-zone lies), and creating deep, pressurized contact against her A-spot.

It’s tight. Controlled. Powerful.

And when you thrust with force? Her entire body ripples. Her moans get stuck in the pillow. Her thighs start to shake.

This is trigasm penetration: clitoral + G-zone + A-spot stimulation. All from one position.

See how this exact move looks in action inside my course “Trigasm Techniques,” where I demonstrate it with Abella Danger and Tori Black. Click here to watch it now.

Why It Feels So Damn Good (For Her AND You)

Most men think deeper equals better. But that’s only true when the depth presses the right zones.

The Flatiron does exactly that.

Because of the way her hips are tilted and her legs are squeezed, your penis gets more friction—and more contact—with every thrust. And for her?

• Her clit is indirectly stimulated by the pull on her internal clitoral legs
• Her G-spot gets firm, angled pressure from below
• Her A-spot gets repeatedly stroked, opening the path for deep orgasms

And because she can’t move much? She fully surrenders.

You control the rhythm. The depth. The speed.

The pleasure.

Want to master your angle and rhythm for trigasm impact? Watch me show it on camera with Tori Black and Abella Danger—exclusively inside Trigasm Techniques.

How to Go Rough (Without Going Wrong)

This position begs for force. But don’t mistake roughness for recklessness.

Here’s how to dominate her body safely:

1. Warm her up first: Flatiron is tight. That means more friction. She needs lube, arousal, and foreplay to crave the stretch.
2. Use a pillow under her hips: This not only elevates her angle for deeper impact—it cushions her pelvic bones.
3. Start slow: Let her feel every inch filling her. Then build. Faster. Harder. Deeper.
4. Watch her hands: When she grips the sheets or clenches the pillow? That’s your green light.
5. Finish with full weight: At peak climax, lean into her. Pin her. Let her feel the strength of your body claiming hers.

These tips help, but only the video shows how it actually looks—watch Abella Danger’s gasping reaction inside the Trigasm course now.

Abella Danger Loves This Position. Here’s Why.

Abella has filmed hundreds of scenes. She’s tried every position. But ask her which one leaves her dripping and trembling? She says: Flatiron.

Why?

Because it makes her feel submissive. Stretched. Owned.

Because it hits her in places no other angle does.

Because when a man does it right—with control, intensity, and rhythm? Her body gives up. Her legs twitch. Her orgasm floods through every inch.

And when he finishes deep inside her like that? She remembers.

So will your woman.

Click here to see the full Trigasm sequence with Abella Danger and Tori Black. You’ll learn exactly how to do it, when to thrust, and how to make her scream into the pillow.

Final Thoughts: This Is What It Means to Master Her Body

You could keep doing the same basic strokes. Or you could evolve.

When you learn how to stimulate her clit, G-spot, and A-spot all at once? You become unforgettable.

She won’t just cum. She’ll collapse.

She won’t just love it. She’ll crave it.

And every time she sees a pillow… she’ll remember you.

Click here to become the lover who leaves her breathless. Watch Trigasm Techniques with Abella Danger and Tori Black now.

Hot kisses, Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U

The Hidden Deep Orgasm Zone She’s Never Told You About.

Hi Honey,

Most men know the G-spot. They’ve read about it, maybe touched it, maybe even made her gush from it.

But here’s the secret almost no one knows: There’s another hotspot. Deeper. Wetter. More mysterious.

It’s called the A-spot—and most women don’t even realize they have it.

Let’s uncover what it really is, why it exists, and how you can be the man who wakes it up.

What the A-Spot Really Is

The A-spot—short for the anterior fornix erogenous zone—is found 4–6 inches inside her vagina, tucked against the front wall near the cervix.

Biologically, it sits where the vaginal wall and cervix meet, surrounded by nerve-rich tissues. Unlike the clitoris or G-spot, which are evolutionarily designed for surface pleasure, the A-spot seems designed to respond to deep penetration. Some researchers even suggest it plays a role in encouraging natural lubrication and fertility by making sex feel irresistible when her body is ready for reproduction.

In other words: it’s not an accident. It’s there for a reason.

The Deep Thrust Hold Technique

The A-spot doesn’t respond to shallow rubbing or finger strokes. In fact, most men fail to reach it with their fingers at all—it’s simply too deep for most hands.

That’s why the Deep Thrust Hold is the most effective technique:

• Slide deep inside her until you’re pressed against her cervix.
• Stay there. Hold for 3–5 seconds without pulling out.
• This steady, constant pressure gives her A-spot time to swell, awaken, and flood her with natural lubrication.

Unlike the G-spot, which loves curved finger strokes and friction, the A-spot blooms under stillness and patience. Think of it as kissing her deepest zone—lingering instead of rushing.

Penis angles make all the difference here. Missionary with her hips elevated, doggy style with a deep arch, or spooning with long, slow thrusts all give you access to the perfect depth. Fingers can rarely deliver this sensation—only deep penetration can.

Inside G-Spot Orgasms Made Easy, I show you the exact penis angles and strokes that make the A-spot throb—with Karla Kush and Celeste Star.

When Does It Become Sensitive?

The A-spot isn’t always “on.”

Its sensitivity skyrockets when she’s already highly aroused. As blood flow swells her tissues, the A-spot becomes responsive to pressure. That’s why rushing deep thrusts too early can feel painful—her body hasn’t opened yet.

But when she’s turned on, wet, and ready? The A-spot transforms. It doesn’t just tolerate deep penetration—it craves it.

The Type of Orgasm It Produces

The orgasm from the A-spot feels very different from the G-spot.

• G-spot orgasms: Intense, primal, often explosive—sometimes leading to squirting.
• A-spot orgasms: Deep, trance-like, emotional. Women describe them as “melting,” “hypnotic,” and “bonding.”

Many also notice a surge of natural wetness—as if her body is opening completely to you. This is why A-spot orgasms are often linked to feelings of surrender, connection, and deep loyalty.

It isn’t directly responsible for squirting (that’s more G-spot and Skene’s glands), but A-spot stimulation can prime her body for stronger release by making her wetter and more relaxed.

Why You Must Master the A-Spot

Most men stop at the clitoris or G-spot. They never learn the deeper map.

That’s why the man who finds and awakens her A-spot stands out forever. He’s the man who:

• Makes her gush with natural lubrication
• Gives her orgasms she’s never felt before
• Turns penetration into a hypnotic, emotional experience

These words are just the beginning. Inside G-Spot Orgasms Made Easy, I show you how to stimulate both the G-spot and the A-spot—live, on camera—with Karla Kush and Celeste Star. So you’ll see exactly how her body reacts when you do it right.

The Deepest Orgasm She’s Been Waiting For

The A-spot is her forgotten zone. Her hidden ignition switch. The part of her body designed to surrender when touched the right way.

When you learn to master it, you don’t just make her cum. You make her melt.

Click here to master the A-spot—and become the man who unlocks her deepest, most emotional orgasms—inside G-Spot Orgasms Made Easy.

Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U