Even though women can discuss sex more freely than even a decade ago, there’s still some stigma associated with it. She doesn’t want to be perceived as “slutty” or “easy” and she definitely wants to keep you guessing. Which means she won’t reveal everything she’s willing to try in bed UNTIL she feels she can really trust you.

And yes, this means that a lot of women you’ve met over the years would have liked much more action than you imagined, they just didn’t want to make the wrong impression or they didn’t know how to communicate it.

And you didn’t know how to READ it…

Trust me, there are a lot of fun things she still wants to try, but she’s too afraid of being judged for it. When I first met my husband, our sex life was VERY boring. Because I didn’t know how to tell him about my most craved fantasies and he couldn’t even tell I was really… really horny.

Much later, when I started to trust him, he was shocked when he heard about what was really going on in my head and he regretted not being able to experience it with me sooner. But don’t worry, we made up for it.

Read on to discover what she really wants to try in bed so you can become a pleasure machine:

She wants you to try the other entry

If you’ve never tried anal before with your lady, this a pretty controversial subject. You can’t just put your penis there without warning, pretending it just “slipped”, but maybe you don’t know how to approach the subject either.

While some women prefer to keep that back door shut, my experience has taught me that most of them want some sort of action in the area. I’m going to tell you a secret: the reason they’re so intrigued about it is mainly that when they masturbate by themselves, they apply pressure on the perineum, which makes the orgasm MUCH more intense. So, of course, they wonder what would happen if you would stimulate that area at least a little bit.

She’s cautious of saying it for various reasons: she’s afraid of being judged, she’s scared it might hurt and… she’s a bit embarrassed.

The best approach to this is to ask for permission when you’re both relaxed and warmed up for sex – her response might surprise you! However, it’s not a good idea to force your entry.

She fantasizes about being gently chocked

The movie Fifty Shades of Grey was a global success for a reason: women secretly like to be dominated. It’s actually a subconscious need related to the way the mating ritual took place thousands of years ago. That doesn’t mean you should get offensive or aggressive – be very careful not to hurt her! – but most women CRAVE light chocking, especially as they’re approaching climax.

To test the waters, gently grab her neck with one hand during sex, but don’t apply any pressure. If her moans intensify, it means she wants more, so start applying a little more pressure and see how she reacts. ALWAYS ask her if it feels okay – it’s important that you know her limits.

She wants to watch porn while having sex with you

Baby, it’s 2019 and everyone knows women watch porn too. Most of them don’t admit it, but trust me: they do it pretty regularly.

Visual stimulation makes her horny as hell too, and she knows it would be much easier to reach climax if she was able to watch X-rated videos during your hot sessions. She’s just too shy to mention it.

Truth is, watching porn while having sex with your partner brings the excitement of an orgy, which is a concept many women reject while in a committed relationship… But that doesn’t mean they’re not intrigued by it. Sex videos while having sex will bring that extra spice to your steamy sessions and it will even encourage her to be more open with you. Just tell her you read about it in a magazine and ask her if she’d be open to trying it.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S.: Baby, sex is something you can always work on and improve, as long as you and your partner understand each other’s needs and desires. If you want to learn how to become a Vagina Master, click here.

The tried and tested missionary formula often brings in boredom. While some may find this predictable pattern comfortable, others find it hard to peak with the same moves. So, what can you possibly do to turbocharge vanilla sex life into something more adrenalin-pumping?

I’ll tell you below, but first let me direct your attention to my friend Ronnie Chew’s program, Speak Her Sex Language, which explains in full and hot detail all the naughty little things that turn a woman on. Any woman. Every time.

But now let’s go back to our topic at hand, beating boredom in the sack. Let’s get started, shall we?

KNOW HER EROGENOUS ZONES

Does your partner orgasms more from clitoral stimulation or from vaginal penetration? If it’s the former, she is not alone. A study, published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in 2015, shows that about 37 per cent of the women (aged between 18 and 94 years), need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm while about 18 per cent said that vaginal penetration was enough for them to climax. So, the first step to escaping vanilla sex is knowing your partner’s body and what kind of stimulation works for her. If vaginal penetration doesn’t make her come, find ways to incorporate clitoral stimulation in your lovemaking.

MAKE THE RIGHT ANGLE

You can try certain variations of the classic missionary position in order to achieve clitoral stimulation. You can go for the ‘male superior positions’ such as the coital alignment technique (CAT) and the butterfly position. This position’s primary focus is on clitoral stimulation, and one can even use it strategically for a combination of clitoral and penetrative stimulation. Taking the weightage away from penetrative thrusts, CAT entails vertical movements and rubbing of the clit. Alignment is the operative word here—your partner can lift her hips higher when you are penetrating her, in such a way that the penis can rub against the clit, thereby ensuring orgasm. You can use a pillow to position the hips at a comfortable angle of around 45 degrees to facilitate smoother pelvic movement against the clit.

ACE THE BUTTERFLY

This position can help you get over the boredom of missionary position. However, it requires some effort and stamina on part of both the partners. Face your partner and lift her till her bottom half is at the same level as yours. She should wrap her arms around you while you prop her up by tightly placing your hands beneath her hips. In other words, both of you should look like a butterfly in this formation. There can be a variation as well. If you don’t want so much physical exertion, sit while your partner faces you.

HAVE THAT CONVERSATION

Studies say that communication is of utmost importance if you want to get out of the boring sex rut. A 2016 study notes, “A relationship where sex was approached openly and appreciatively, promoted orgasms.” It adds that a lack of communication between partners about their sexual desires contributes to conditions such as anorgasmia (when women fail to orgasm despite ample stimulation). So, what are the key elements of effective sexual communication? Be specific about your preferences. It is perfectly natural to feel shy while requesting your partner for deviations from your regular sex routine. You might think that your companion will consider those requests weird or kinky. So start with something simple, and just remember there are no ‘fetishes’, only preferences.

SEX TOYS TO THE RESCUE

Believe it or not, sex toys can indeed be helpful if you want to radicalise your sex schedule. If you are looking for clitoral stimulation, use a vibrator during sex, provided you find the right device so as to not hamper intercourse. It’s a bit of trial and error. If you and your partner practise using a vibrator, stimulation through a vibrator during intercourse can prove to be a double bonanza. What’s more, if you want to make the missionary less staid, use cuffs, blindfolds, or both. The pleasure will be all yours.

AYE TO PERIOD SEX

Don’t be too dismissive about period sex. During your partner’s menstrual cycle, she would be assured of some extra lubrication, which in turn can raise her chances of orgasm. When the vagina is stimulated, the glands down there secrete fluid into the vaginal walls and this fluid, combined with menstrual blood, can make intercourse all the more enjoyable. In fact, trying out the missionary position when you are menstruating can be outrageously exciting and less messy. Just keep a towel underneath and some wipes handy. If you still feel a bit iffy, hop into the shower and just do it!

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Making sex explosive and brand new even though you’re getting naked with the same woman for many years now is not impossible.

Check out my program – The Alpha Lover. It contains crucial information on how to awaken your masculinity and become a strong sexual presence in the bedroom.

You’ve been told to be polite. Agreeable. Supportive. But when it comes to who she chooses to trust with her body… that’s not what she’s looking for.

Underneath the dating apps, the modern feminism, and all her independence—her primal brain is still making one silent calculation:

“Can this man protect me… and my child?”

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She’s Not Just Choosing a Partner—She’s Choosing a Protector

Throughout human evolution, a woman’s chances of survival and the survival of her offspring increased dramatically when she selected a partner who could lead and protect. According to evolutionary biologists, women are instinctively attuned to traits that signal long-term safety, especially in environments where pregnancy and child-rearing pose major risks.

Getting pregnant meant nine months of physical vulnerability. Giving birth and raising a child meant years of dependence—especially in the early stages. Her body and brain evolved for exactly this reality. Even today, despite our modern world, those instincts still drive attraction.

Studies have shown that women are more attracted to dominant, confident, and assertive men, particularly during the fertile phase of their menstrual cycle. One study published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B found that women prefer masculine facial features—associated with higher testosterone and perceived dominance—when they are most fertile.

But it goes deeper than physical features. Leadership, presence, and emotional security are key.

She needs to know:

• You can make decisions under pressure.
• You don’t flinch when she tests your strength.
• You have direction and won’t be swayed.

These aren’t conscious checklists—they’re felt. And nowhere are they felt more than in bed.

I created an explicit video demonstration to show you how to take that primal leadership from theory to action—so she feels it in her body, not just her mind.

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Muscles Don’t Matter—Character Does

It’s not your biceps. It’s not your bank account. It’s your backbone.

In modern times, money and muscles don’t guarantee safety. There are plenty of wealthy men who are emotionally unstable. Plenty of big guys who use their strength to intimidate, not protect. And she knows it.

What she’s really reading is your character.

Is he calm under pressure? Is he dependable, or reactive? Can I trust him when I’m vulnerable—or will he lose control?

These questions run silently in the background of every interaction. And when the answers are yes—she lets her guard down.

That’s why men with character win. Because strength without control is chaos. But strength with direction? That’s magnetic.

Think of James Bond—not the action scenes, but the way he enters a room. Calm. Collected. Assertive. Stoic.

He doesn’t need to shout. He doesn’t beg for attention. His presence says: I’ve got this.

Women don’t fall for the flash. They fall for the foundation. And that foundation? It’s built through character, not bravado.

And that’s what you build when you lead with character—not bravado.

She reads strength in the small things—your eye contact, your tone, how you make decisions, and how you stay calm under pressure.

These subtle cues speak louder than flexed abs ever could.

Why? Because they tell her she can relax.

When a man knows who he is, where he’s going, and what he wants—she doesn’t have to do everything. She can rest. She can open. She can surrender.

Want to learn how to lead her in the bedroom? I created an explicit video demonstration—featuring one of my most sensual Russian instructors—to teach you exactly how to be the alpha next time you take her under the sheets. 

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Sex Is Where Her Instincts Speak Loudest

You can’t talk your way into being an alpha. But you can show her.

Sex is the ultimate test—not of performance, but of presence.

This is where her instincts override her intellect. Where her deepest wiring kicks in.

Why? Because during sex, she is physically and emotionally vulnerable. She is allowing you inside her body—something no biology textbook or feminist theory can neutralize.

And in that moment, she needs to know one thing above all:

“Am I in the hands of a man I trust?”

Trust doesn’t mean soft. It doesn’t mean timid. It means control.

She wants to feel your strength—but only if it’s anchored in emotional control. Your dominance—only when it’s wrapped in protection. And she’ll only let go… if you can hold the space for her to surrender.

That’s why the man who combines aggression with awareness… Who can be rough, but responsible… Who can pin her down, and still hold her gently afterward…

That man? He becomes her addiction.

There’s even a biological reason for this. Research shows that many women are more aroused by dominant sexual behavior—when it’s consensual and paired with trust.

In fact, rough sex preferences often correlate with higher sexual satisfaction—because they tap into primal, unconscious desires to be overpowered by a man who is strong enough not to abuse that power.

So when you show up in the bedroom as calm, confident, and clear?

She submits. Not because she’s weak. But because, finally, she feels safe to be.

Want to earn her deepest trust and surrender? In this explicit video, I’ll show you how to take control in bed with precision, care, and masculine confidence.

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With power,

Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Founder of Naked U

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P.S.

You don’t need to yell, flex, or dominate. You just need to lead. I created this video to show you exactly what happens when a man leads the right way—watch it and see the difference. 

How to give her the triple penetration orgasm she craves—without another man in the room

Her darkest fantasy? To be simultaneously penetrated.

But she doesn’t need multiple men. Because you alone can fulfill that fantasy for her.

Every woman has imagined it at least once. The raw, overwhelming feeling of being stretched, filled, and taken in multiple places at once. It’s not about betrayal. It’s not about another man. It’s about the sensation of total surrender—her body flooded with stimulation she never thought possible.

Inside my course Triple Stimulation Penetration, I show you exactly how to make this fantasy real—with Abella Danger’s legendary curves and Tori Black’s breathtaking beauty moaning beneath me.

Why Women Secretly Crave Multiple Penetration

Science tells us that women are wired for overload arousal: the more simultaneous stimulation, the stronger the orgasm.

Her body is designed with three orgasm engines:

• Clitoris: sharp, electric pleasure
• G-spot: deep, throbbing waves
• A-spot: hidden further inside, a trigger for gushing release

When you stimulate all three at once, her body interprets it as being taken, filled, and completely overwhelmed.

That’s why studies show more than 60% of women admit to fantasizing about threesomes. It’s not betrayal—it’s biology. She craves the sensation of total surrender.

Want to see how it looks on a real woman? Watch me guide Abella and Tori into triple stimulation—their thighs trembling, their voices breaking—as they lose control in my arms.

Why Women Desire the Raw Primal Feeling of Being Simultaneously Penetrated

At her core, a woman’s sexuality is not just about romance—it’s also about surrendering to raw, primal pleasure.

Anthropological studies suggest that women evolved to experience multi-point stimulation because it maximized reproductive success: more stimulation = more arousal = greater chance of orgasm and fertilization. Research from The Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that women report the most intense orgasms when multiple erogenous zones are engaged at once.

Psychologically, the fantasy of being taken by multiple men represents total loss of control—something women rarely allow themselves in daily life. It symbolizes being overwhelmed, dominated, and desired beyond reason.

When you give her that experience through triple stimulation, you’re not just satisfying her body—you’re fulfilling one of her deepest subconscious cravings. The craving for rawness. For surrender. For sex that feels primal, feral, and unforgettable.

How One Man Can Do It All

You don’t need another man in the room to fulfill her fantasy. With the right combination of body, hands, and rhythm—you become all three.

• Your penis gives her deep, anchoring thrusts.
• Your fingers press her G-spot or A-spot with precision.
• A toy or clever angle delivers the clitoral overload she can’t resist.

Suddenly, she’s not being touched in one place… she’s being taken everywhere at once. That’s the experience that pushes her past ordinary orgasms—and into the full-body trigasm.

These written tips help, but only the video shows how to do it properly. Watch me demonstrate every move inside Triple Stimulation Penetration—with Abella Danger and Tori Black giving in completely.

Why This Fantasy Bonds Her to You

When you give her the orgasm she thought required multiple men… everything changes. She realizes you alone can unlock her deepest, darkest desire. Her loyalty deepens. Her craving for you intensifies. Her body bonds to yours through the flood of oxytocin, dopamine, and release.

And she’ll never forget that you were the man who gave her the orgasm she didn’t even believe was possible.

So when she hints at her threesome fantasy… Don’t fear it. Don’t dismiss it.

Take it. Own it. Fulfill it.

Click here to watch me unlock her darkest desire in Triple Stimulation Penetration, with Abella Danger and Tori Black.

Hot kisses,
Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U

Her Senses Surrender When Sight Disappears

When she can’t see you, her body starts to feel you. Every sound sharpens, every breath quickens, every touch turns electric.

Most men think dominance is about force. It isn’t. It’s about control — the kind that comes from anticipation, not aggression. And nothing builds anticipation like taking away her sight.

When the blindfold slides over her eyes, her world goes dark. But her imagination lights up. Every rustle of clothing, every inhale near her ear, every whisper of your voice becomes a command her body can’t ignore.

The Science of Sensory Deprivation

Neuroscientists call it cross-modal enhancement: when one sense is blocked, the brain amplifies the others. Without sight, her touch and hearing sensitivity can increase by up to 90%.

That’s why blindfolds have been used in kink psychology for decades — they magnify touch, deepen trust, and awaken submissive pleasure in the safest, most intimate way. The woman who once hesitated to let go now trembles with need under your control.

Her brain doesn’t interpret the darkness as fear—it interprets it as surrender.

See how this power exchange unfolds inside The Alpha Lover, where AJ Applegate and Sandy Fantasy surrender completely to my voice and command. 

The Power of Anticipation

When she can’t predict your next move, her arousal skyrockets. Every second of silence becomes a question her body begs to answer.

Her breath catches when she hears your footsteps circle the bed. Her thighs press together when your hand pauses an inch above her skin. Anticipation is the sweetest torture—and you control the rhythm.

The trick is timing. Delay touch. Let silence build tension. Use your breath as a tease—close enough for her to feel heat, but not enough for contact. Every heartbeat becomes your metronome of dominance.

In a study published in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, researchers found that anticipation activates the same pleasure centers as orgasm itself. The waiting is the pleasure.

So when she gasps beneath the blindfold, you haven’t even touched her yet—and she’s already halfway to climax.

Inside The Alpha Lover, I demonstrate how to use silence, breath, and timing to make AJ Applegate moan before I ever touch her.

The Voice That Dominates

When sight disappears, your voice becomes the anchor between fear and ecstasy.

Lower it. Slow it. Let every word drip with intent. Tell her what you want, not what you’re going to do—make her imagine it first. The human body reacts to suggestion as powerfully as touch; her mind paints the scene before you even begin.

A whisper close to her ear can send a surge of oxytocin—the bonding hormone—through her system. That’s why a woman under your command doesn’t just obey; she trusts. Your tone becomes her world.

And when you finally touch her? Her body melts, because it’s been waiting for you.

In The Alpha Lover, watch Sandy Fantasy submit completely as I use nothing but my voice and a blindfold to make her tremble. See the full scene here

The First Touch Rule

Your first touch after blindfolding her determines everything. Too fast, and you break the spell. Too hesitant, and you lose her trust.

Start with a single fingertip along her jawline, tracing down the curve of her throat as her breath catches. Brush your lips near her ear but don’t kiss yet—let the heat of your breath do the work. When your fingers reach her lips, pause. Let her sense how close you are, how easily you could take her—but choose not to. That restraint becomes power.

Then drift down, letting your hand hover before landing on her pulse point. The side of her neck. The inside of her thigh. The place where she’s already trembling. Let her feel that you are not exploring—you are claiming.

Touch becomes a language. A firm press says mine. A soft drag says wait. A sudden pause says beg. A slow return to her skin says I’m not done with you yet.

That’s how you guide her from awareness to surrender—each touch deepening her trust—until she forgets she’s blindfolded and remembers only you.

Building to Release

Domination through sensory deprivation isn’t about cruelty—it’s the prelude to revelation. When you finally remove the blindfold, let the light hit her eyes as your breath meets hers; in that moment she’s reborn in your control, craving more of the darkness that made her feel alive. Because true domination—it’s about connection. Every stroke, pause, and whisper leads her deeper into her own body. She doesn’t feel used. She feels seen.

When you control her senses, you become the architect of her pleasure.

And when you finally remove the blindfold? Her eyes meet yours with something deeper than lust: devotion.

These written tips will heighten her anticipation—but only the video shows how to master it. Watch me teach full-body surrender with AJ Applegate and Sandy Fantasy inside The Alpha Lover. Click here to watch it now.

Hot kisses,
Fidan Paula
Sex Expert & Author of Naked U