“I like to give my inhibitions a bath now and then.”– Oliver Reed

When it comes to massing your partner, don’t always go with the traditional option. By creating a whole bath repertoire for her, as the one I’m describing above, you’re making sure she’s one hundred percent satisfied and relaxed.

That floating, stress-free feeling a woman gets from a bath is already incredible. Add these pleasure boosters and she’ll never want to dry off.

1. If she’s had a hellish day, add a few drops of jasmine oil to the water of her bath- it’s an aroma proven to dissolve tension.

2. Have her sink underwater so only her face is above. According to doctors, warm water dilates the capillaries in her body, increasing the flow of oxygen to her cells and making her feel calm.

3. Bring an ice pop in the bathroom for her to suck on. The combination of the cool fruity flavor in her mouth and the hot water lapping at her body is really magnificent.

4. Ditch the overhead light and burn a few scattered candles. It’ll create dusk like lighting that is super flattering and makes her body look fantastic. Thus she won’t mind your presence there, pampering her all over.

5. Wash her hair, while massaging her scalp and the back of her ears. The stimulating power of your fingers is enhanced in this situation.

6. Take a bouquet of roses that are starting to droop, tear off the petals, and throw them in. The water causes them to release oils that will make her skin smell amazing.

7. Listen to the audio version of an erotic book together. That way you can both get some steamy action without worrying about wetting the pages.

8. Squeeze some body-wash onto your fingers, and rub the small indented area behind her ankle. You will hit a pressure point believed to release feelings of pleasure through her entire body.

9. Play with bubble bath, strategically placing foamy suds on her hot spots then blowing over them to have them on display again, so that you can lick and stroke them to your advantage.

10. Drench a washcloth in the water, then lay it over her face for a few minutes- it can help unclog her pores and make her skin smooth. Plus, the steamy sensation will leave her lips prepped and ready for a sensual session of smooches.

11. Pick up a bottle of sparkling or rose wine for her. It’s just so decadent to sip pink bubbly as she soaks. She’ll feel like the queen of the world and she’ll have you to thank for… later, in the bedroom.

12. Does your tub have jets? Point them at her lower back- it’s where women tend to hold most of their stress.

13. Put on some classical music. A study found these kinds of tunes can actually slow her heart rate.

14. Create a sauna in your bathroom. Before filling the tub for her, run just the hot water from your shower and shut the door. After about 5 minutes, the room will be filled with steam.

15. Grab a bath bomb, and add it to the water once she’s already in. The little bubbles it gives off will burst all over her body- stimulating to say the least! Also, toss a half of cup of baking soda in her bath. This kitchen staple is the perfect addition to a bath, because it rehydrates skin and leaves it smooth to the touch.

16. Male the water exactly 99 degrees- you can check it with a thermometer. Doctors say that’s the perfect temperature to get her totally relaxed.

17. Leave your phones on silent, in another part of the house. Having no distractions will let you fully enjoy the experience.

18. Get her a water-proof massager, and use it to smooth out knots in her neck. Go down to her spine, until you reach her down-there region. You can also use the water-proof massager as a sex toys, if she gets too worked up about it.

19. Spritz your cologne in the air before inviting her to climb in the water. Smelling your scent while she’s wet will make her hot and bothered.

20. After she’s finished with the bath, treat her to a soothing pre-sleep treat by heating up a lightweight body lotion and applying to her bare skin in massaging motions. Not only will it feel super seductive, but warm lotion is absorbed more easily and deeply into skin. Place the bottle of moisturizer into a bowl of hot water for 5 minutes (or, if it’s in a glass jar, nuke it for 15 to 30 seconds with the lid off).

Have a calming week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. These pampering moves don’t just ensure her skin and hair are silky smooth, they’ll make her so super touchable you won’t be able to keep your hands off her. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

Who says erotic massage has to be limited to one’s back? Or just touching and kneading? There are plenty of erogenous zones that are perfect for a sensuous, sexy massage. There are diverse arrays of body parts where both women and men get aroused and you don’t have to use solely your hands. Ever wonder what those spots are? Well today is your lucky day.

► Click here to watch a video where these techniques are demonstrated in explicit detail

First off make sure your nails are clean and not jagged. Nothing will ruin a massage quicker than an even nail. Heat up some edible massage oil so you can not only rub and touch, but lick as well. Once you have your partner stripped down so their completely naked, you’re ready to begin. Here are some of the top erogenous zones for an erotic massage.

1. Behind the Knees

Behind the knees? Yes really. It sounds unusual, but this almost never touched spot is a hot bed for sensitivity precisely because it’s always ignored. Softly graze your partners’ knees with your fingers letting them feel slightly tickled. Move onto to gently licking or nibbling on the back of the knees to really excite your partner and get them going. After all there are a ton of nerves to titillate in this spot! Just be careful; the skin is thinner here and not used to touch so don’t bite or nibble too hard.

2. The Rear End

This is almost a no-brainer, but it’s worth saying most people love a little ass action. Playing with your lover’s butt can involve spanking, squeezing, licking, and kneading. Since the skin is thicker you can get a little rougher here, slapping and applying more pressure than you would on other body parts.

3. The Neck and Ears

Just putting your hand on the back of your partner’s neck can be enough to get them titillated. If their hair is long, lift it up and put your mouth on their neck. While you’re in the general vicinity, lick and blow on their ears until you have them moaning for more.  Use your fingers to trace your fingers down the spine and back up. Then cup your hands and squeeze the back of the neck so that your fingertips touch the ears. And of course make sure to rub the knots out of their necks easing the tension and allowing them to relax for a night of lovin’.

4.  Feet

Even if you don’t have a foot fetish by any stretch of the imagination you can enjoy giving or receiving a sensuous foot massage. As long as the feet are clean of course! After a long day, there can be nothing more relaxing than having your feet rubbed. Both women and men enjoy a foot rub or having their toes sucked. The feet are also prone to tickling so keep that in mind when you’re fondling their tootsies. People either love or hate to be tickled, so if you’ve got a hater on your hands don’t keep tickling.

5. Breasts/Chest

We all know that women’s’ breasts are very sensitive, but did you know men enjoy a little nipple tweaking too? Start off by slowly and gently by circling the nipples along the outer edges. Lick them and blow on them creating a back and forth sensation of hot and cold. Nipples are major erogenous zones on both sexes. When it comes to women, there’s nothing like sucking on her breasts to get her headlights hard.

6. Inner Thighs

The thighs often get overlooked when it comes to erotic massages because it doesn’t seem like there’s much feeling down there. But the sweet creamy thighs are actually mucho sensitive when it comes to touching, licking, and stroking. Besides the fact that there are many nerve endings, the thighs proximity to the genital will make your partner quiver with excitement. Knead them gently as you work your way up to center stage; the genitals.

7. The Vulva

Everyone loves being caressed down below. With women you can start off slow by stroking her lips with your fingers. Then you can move on to rubbing her clitoris until she gets squirmy and aroused. For men, very carefully massage the oft-neglected family jewels and the perineum. The trick is to take it slow! If you go straight for the gold, you’ll lose the ability to slowly build arousal in such a sensitive spot.

As you can see when it comes to sexy erogenous zones the options are practically endless! Stay open-minded and creative and you may just find your own new erogenous zone.

Kisses!

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. To discover more advanced tips and techniques, click here…

It can be easy to let massage slip through the cracks as a part of good sex when you have been in a relationship for a while. However, giving your partner a massage can be an incredible erotic and sensual experience for both of you.  It can be an amazing expression of intimacy and can show your significant other that you are in tune with their body.

You don’t have to be a licensed massage therapist to give your sweetie a massage that will leave her feeling relaxed and in the mood for hot sex. With a little imagination and planning you can give her an experience he will never forget.

Take Inventory

There are several things you can use during a good massage. Some may already be in your house. Start with good massage oil. Baby oil will do in a pinch but look for something scented that is not so messy. For example, lavender is good for relaxation.  Be sure to put it in a cup of warm water to heat it up. Set the scene with lit candles, clean sheets and slow music. Have a towel close by so you can wipe your hands if you need to. Think outside the box and use a feather or some massage mitts that give different tactile sensations.

When She Least Expects It

Go for the element of surprise. Don’t wait until it is time for bed. Surprise her when she comes home from work. Most women are thinking of the chores they have to do around the house after work and couples who have been together for a while tend to get into a routine. Breaking the routine can really shake things up sexually and giving her an erotic massage will go a long way to show her you understand how hard she works and that you are willing to do what it takes to give her pleasure. Get everything you need together and have it in the bedroom on the nightstand so it is within easy reach. Open a bottle of wine and greet her at the door with a glass.

Start Slowly

When she comes in and the shock wears off, take her by the hand and lead her to the bedroom. Spend some time kissing her and whispering in her ear. Tell her that night is all about her. Slowly and deliberately undress her. A lot of men don’t know this but women like to be undressed by their lover and that is something that often falls by the wayside after a while.

Have her lie down on her stomach and start by rubbing your fingers through her hair and give her a scalp massage. This actually feels incredible. Put some warm oil on your hands and start on her neck and slowly work your way down. Remember the skin is the largest sex organ on the body so erogenous zones are all over, not just in between your legs.

Play with her and tease her with your touch. Rub your hands all over her body. Tickle her with your beard stubble or a feather.

Bottom’s Up

Don’t neglect her ass. Give her ass a good rub and deep massage and run your fingers lightly down in between her butt cheeks. Drizzle some more warm oil on her bottom and apply massage pressure in slow circles lightly and then harder releasing all the muscle tension as you work. Go all the way down to her feet and then have her turn over on her back.

Time for the Flip Side

Once on her back lightly caress her face and kiss her lips. Go all the way down each arm and massage and caress each hand.

It is Not All in What She Sees

To make it even more sensual, put a blindfold on her. By taking away what she sees, her body will have to use her other senses to an even higher degree. Take advantage of her sense of hearing by using erotic talk and her sense of touch with all the different tactile sensations you can think of that she might like.

Save the Best for Last

As you work your way down her body, don’t touch her vulva. Not just yet. The more you touch her everywhere else the more aroused she will become. Tease her. Flirt with her. Touch her clitoris just a little bit then stop.  Kiss and touch her inner thighs and work your way down massaging her legs.

When you have massaged her entire body, and she is breathing heavily with anticipation, it is time to pay some attention to her genitals. Gently stroke her clitoris with one hand and her vagina with the other, slowly at first and then faster. Let her reaction be your guide. Bring her closer and closer to orgasm until she can’t take it anymore.

Erotic massage should be erotic but is should also be fun. Use this as an opportunity to show your sensual side. Remember that you don’t have to be a professional to give a good massage. Confidence in what you are doing can be the biggest turn on. Take a leap of faith and know that you will both enjoy such an erotic experience.

Happy rubbing, fellas!

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

“I could massage your groin in a non-sexual way” – Shoshanna Shapiro (Girls)

Because I know you don’t have time to read the Kama Sutra before tonight, I’m lending you a helping hand while making sure you keep your woman more satisfied than ever. I know the scenario all too well: You promised her a sensual massage, she got excited and even bought the necessary oils and candles and all, and now you’re scared of disappointing her by not having a proper massaging technique.

Here’s what you have to do tonight to truly arouse and surprise her. It’s not rocket science, since I was able to describe it in such few words.

Start with a bang

A great erotic massage is all about the first 15-30 seconds. Lead with a “wow” and hold on for the ride. Embrace finger to finger, toe to toe and everywhere in between. Caress her main pleasure triggers first, so that you get her worked up right from the start. The back of her neck, her inner thighs and her breasts (especially the lateral parts) are all “ecstasy buttons” that, once stroked, release a flood of feel-good emotions throughout her entire body.

Amp up the anticipation

Use seduction. Start at the beginning of the day by texting and emailing your partner about what you’re going to do to her. Fill the whole day with innuendo and outrageous flirtation. When you see each other, brush against her and prolong the anticipation for as long as possible. The longer the “playing” time, the more aroused she will get so, when you finally get to the point of undressing her and starting the massage, she’ll be moaning wherever you choose to put your fingers.

Be in the moment

Focus on her skin and the sensation your touches bring her. Have her say what feels good. If you need oil or a sex toy to assist you in your “job”, don’t hesitate! By being creative and demanding more and more clues from her, you are letting her know you really enjoy the massage as well, which is a major turn on for a woman.

Breathe her in

While you massage her, choose long, slow, deep breaths to open your heart and surrender to her, or short, sharp and focused breaths to build up and expand her pleasure. How you choose to breathe in her ear determines the way she breathes and feels as well. More breathing, more feeling!

Ditch routine

We can get stuck in the routine of what we think an erotic massage should be – kissing, a little stroke there, a drop of oil here, moving on to sex, and then sleep. To give good erotic massage, you need to know what you really want, not what you’ve been taught is normal, and explore something new.

Slip and slide

Lube helps create a different sensation during erotic massaging, which usually leads to more pleasure. Exploring with games, videos, lingerie, creams, bondage or toys can also take your erotic massage routine to new heights. You won’t know until you try it.

Become a foodie

Eat aphrodisiac foods for a stronger appetite towards all things sensual. I like “Nooky Noodles”, a stir-fry with wine, ginger and chili. When your blood is already worked up and hot from certain types of food that arise your sexual needs, the erotic massage will become the icing on the cake, the simplest of ways when it comes to unleashing her inner pleasure (and yours!).

Work out

The key to amazing erotic massage is strength. You don’t want to abandon your routine mid-way because you suddenly grew tired. Strengthening the muscles of your core, pelvic floor, hips, thighs and also arms, improves not only blood flow and sensation in all the right areas, but also stamina for resisting during all the massaging and the high-pleasure sex positions you are bound to try afterwards.

Have a gorgeous week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Spice up your erotic massage routine with a yoga posture that invites sensuality and healthy sexual communication: trikonasana, the positioning of her legs in a triangle pose. Work from the legs and unravel to the hips, the torso and her heart, it will feel amazing. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

“Sex is the best thing. It’s better than any drug. I want to die making love because it feels so good” – Bai Ling

Ah, the holy grail of getting it on: it’s that richer, more connected sex that makes you smile every time you think about it – but stops short of being romance-novel cheesy. And yes, it exists. Here’s how to find the sweet spot.

Ten bucks says you saw the title of this article and thought, “Great – a story about lighting candles, making a sappy playlist, and having the schmoopiest, most cloyingly sweet sex ever, like in those Hollywood movies about Valentine’s Day romance. Pass!” But hold up. If you think romantic sex is unbearably cheesy, you probably have the wrong impression – and you could be denying yourself some super-hot nights. Romantic sex doesn’t have to involve rose petals or frilly lingerie – it’s simply about having an emotional connection with your partner, and it doesn’t have to be sappy. The sweeter news: connected sex actually makes the experience more intense for both of you… and therefore much, much hotter. Do I have your attention yet?

How you lost that loving feeling

There are a few reasons that you may not be having as much passionate sex as you deserve. The first? The rise of mainstream porn. It’s become the model of what people think sex is supposed to be. That would be fine, of course, if porn depicted loving couples having perfectly egalitarian sex in which both parties are equally concerned with pleasing the other. The majority of porn depicts women as being more concerned with pleasing the men than pleasing themselves. As a result, many women start to buy into the hype. Women become convinced that they should emulate porn stars, so they try to do all these wild, man-pleasing moves rather than paying attention to their own satisfaction and taking the time to find out what they like too. Not good. Of course, a little pretzel play now and then can be fun, but most women don’t really get off on the acrobatics. Having wild monkey sex essentially turns the act into theater, which hinders your chance to truly connect.

Porn isn’t the only reason couples these days aren’t super passion-heavy in bed – complacency can also be a factor. Couples get so comfortable that they take their sex life for granted and stop putting in the effort to romance each other. The result? You end up having boring, going-through-the-motions sex, rather than using sex as a way to connect. And finally, some women are simply afraid to ask their partners for more romantic sex, for fear they might pass out as needy, cheesy or high-maintenance.

Why you need to get it back

Whatever the reason you’re not having enough romantic romps, the overall conclusion is this: that’s got to change… and not just for your partner’s benefit. Experts insist that it’s a huge myth that guys only want porn sex. Even though guys may not come right out and say it, they crave slower, more passionate sex, because it makes them feel more connected to their partners and they want that closeness. The guys I talked to agreed. “Wild sex is great, but feeling connected on a deep, emotional level is better”, says Jonathan. “It feels more real, and when I care about a girl, I want to treat her affectionately to show her that I like her and feel that she likes me back.” So that guys-only-like-porn-sex falsehood? Officially busted.

Another reason you should add some more emotional sex to your bedroom rotation? It’s a biological urge – people crave passion, and when you pretend you don’t, you shut down a large piece of yourself. Devaluing romantic sex allows you to justify being in a relationship with someone who’s not being loving toward you, and that’s never right. Translation: you’re not being treated in the adoring way that you deserve to be.

How to do it without feeling lame

Don’t worry. Having romantic sex doesn’t entail scattering rose petals all over your sheets before you do it (although, hey, it that does it for you, go all out). In fact, experts say waiting to bring on the romance until you get to bed is actually what can make things seem cheesy. If you try to instigate passion with props, it’s going to feel contrived – you can’t just turn it on like that. Rather, truly sensual sexy-time happens organically, as a result of feeling connected to each other – so focus on your bond outside the bedroom first. Simple things can do the trick: have breakfast together, call each other on your lunch break just to say hi, and send her a “can’t wait to see you tonight” text in the afternoon. Building up your connection throughout the day means you’ll feel closer when you’re in bed later on. Talking to each other about sex is another great way to feel closer. But keep it light and fun – reminisce about hot moments you’ve shared and how turned on she made you feel. Reminding each other of how good you are together will make you both crave more of that closeness.

Then once you’re in the bedroom, focus on each other. Many couples succumb to the “let’s do the damn thing, so I can check my Instagram” mentality. Bad idea. You have to be present, and you can start by slowly taking off each other’s clothes, not just your own. It’s a hot way to get in the moment – feeling the fabric slide down your skin heightens your senses and makes you anticipate what’s to come. Also, don’t just kiss – kiss like you mean it, and do it often. Again, this may sound “duh”, but the truth is, smooching is often the first thing to go when couples get into a sexual rut – and it shouldn’t be. It makes the entire experience more sensual. Last, don’t forget to go heavy on the eye contact – it’s a non-negotiable for sex you’ll want to play back in your head.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophies.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

The secret to head-spinning nooky is priming yourselves before you do the deed. You wouldn’t expect a pot of water to go from zero to boiling point in seconds flat, right? Well, the same goes for sex – giving your body time to warm up before the act is the key to reaching peak pleasure. You’ll have the hottest intercourse when there’s been a ton of buildup before foreplay. Plus, you’ll love the extra passion prelude as well. Try out some of these hot preplay ideas to figure out the carnal cocktail that works best for the both of you.

Sensual Solo Moves

• During downtime (for example, while you are standing in line at the store or while you’re in the car, driving home), mentally play out a lusty fantasy.

• Work out for two hours before ‘the big night’ to boost endorphins in your body and to get your blood pumping in the right areas.

• Transform your room into a soothing pleasure palace – change your sheets with new, freshly perfumed ones and turn on soft lamps or light a candle.

• If you’re home first, change into the clothes you mostly feel comfortable in and get your mind in the zone by reading an erotic short story (you’ll find loads on the net, if you don’t have such a book in the house).

Tricks to try together

• Exchange text messages, starting with fairly tame notes (‘You have the sexiest lips’) and then get naughtier.

• Really enjoy little sensations you can get by barely touching her – such as feeling her hair between your fingers.

• Start an erotic ritual that you do only before sex. For instance, rub lotion all over your partner’s body and stretch out together in bed while it soaks in. Eventually, both your bodies and minds will associate the experience with arousal, so you’ll get turned on automatically.

• Ask her a risqué question like ‘What’s the one part of my body that you would love to put your mouth on right now?’.

• Undress each other slowly. Unbutton her blouse, and spend a few minutes giving her little kisses around the waistband of her skirt without tugging it off yet. Then let her remove your shirt and kiss you along your shoulders and chest.

• Sip champagne in the tub. (Skip the shower – it will put you in work mode.) Wash each other’s hair, giving each other tingly head massages.

• Have her sit on the bed so she’s facing you and wrap her legs around your waist. Then give each other a simultaneous shoulder rub, taking breaks to kiss surprisingly erotic areas – the inside of her wrists for example, or the back of her knees.

• Have her slide on top of you completely naked with both of her arms and legs spread out mirroring yours, and slowly breathe in sync for at least one minute.

Have a smoldering hot week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. More reasons to spend extra time getting into booty mood: it takes women at least 20 minutes to reach the physical arousal that you reach in 3. So go ahead, prolong the passion! To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

“Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.” – John Wooden

How much fighting is normal? I have convinced a couple to keep tabs on their squabbling to find out. Robbie and Nicole have been together for seven years, and in that time, at least for them, it feels like they have had hundreds of fights, ranging from tiny tiffs to full-on ‘let’s break up, then!’ blowouts. They certainly aren’t alone: according to a recent poll, on average, couples argue 312 times a year. But sometimes it’s easy to forget to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, so I’ve decided to documents both sides of the story. Read and learn.

Argument 1: The Karaoke Incident

Robbie: We had an epic fight after I skip Bette Midler’s ‘The Rose’ at karaoke while Nicole is singing it. In hindsight, I should have let it go, but at the time, I was drunkenly adhering to The Rules of Karaoke (if the tune is killing the party vibe, you get one verse, one chorus, then skip). Later that night, I apologize for skipping her song but then stupidly back-track into explaining The Rules of Karaoke. Nicole gets angry again.

Nicole: Those are not The Rules of Karaoke – stop spreading lies! The rules are that you cannot skip a song until the person singing it has agreed to stop. You’re welcome to bound them into a state of embarrassment by yelling ‘Skit it already!’, but until they are done, you must listen them sing whatever terrible song they like. Also, it was my birthday and my friend had said, ‘We should sing The Rose together’, so Robbie ruined that nice moment. And then he does a ‘Sorry but…” apology. So frustrating.

Argument 2: The birthday Hat

Robbie: It’s Nicole’s birthday. She’s been discussing a newfound love of baseball caps for three months, so I try to surprise her with a small gift. I spend three days buying and exchanging hats, unable to find one that would suit her style. Fed up with the indecisive process, I finally just pick one bearing the logo of my favorite basketball team. What can I say? I’m not really the ‘planning’ type and it isn’t her real present anyway. Her reaction, somewhat anticipated, is, “That is such an ugly hat.” And if I’m going to be totally honest, it was pretty ugly. We laugh about it a couple of days later.

Nicole: What Robbie doesn’t mention is that we have been discussing my blossoming like of baseball hats via email – with direct links to the online store of the exact hat I like. Wouldn’t that information make it incredibly easy to pick a cap for me? Also, it’s a Karen Walker floral-print baseball cap, which is nothing like what I ended up with. But yeah, it’s only a part of my present, so I while a little, but then tell Robbie he can keep the hat (which I secretly suspect was his plan all along, seeing as it is his favorite basketball team).

Argument 3: No money, more problems

Robbie: We had an argument over my dire finances and debonair spending habits (that’s what I call it, she uses a meaner word). Sometimes life just gets so tedious that I need to buy a $ 28 Silver Surfer comic just to inject a little bit of joy into my day. This is also true of coffee, beer, fried chicken, NBA paraphernalia, James Elroy novels, ‘80s power-pop records and jam doughnuts. She says my reckless spending is wrecking our future. I remind her that I’m a fun-lovin’ man of leisure and that’s why she likes me.

Nicole: Normally, I wouldn’t care at all about his expenditures because I like to squander my money on junk too (floral baseball caps, anybody?). But this is a recurring bone of contention as Robbie’s had a seemingly never-diminishing credit card debt for as long as we’ve been together. I don’t believe in spending money you don’t have, while his philosophy is “life is for pleasure”. I despise the idea of him throwing away money on interest payments when he could be saving it towards a home deposit, and I will continue to nag him into better fiscal habits (out of love, of course!).

Argument 4: Sandler, strife and videotape

Robbie: We decide to rent a DVD. She wants to watch Melancholia or Contagion or some other movie about death, illness and misery; I’m in the mood for Adam Sandler’s Jack and Jill. After 20 minutes of bickering at the video shop, we go home empty handed and read quietly in bed.

Nicole: I hate visiting the video store with Robbie. It takes 45 minutes and all he comes back with is a bunch of French New Wave and Adam Sandler movies. I stand by my vide picks: on Metacritic, Melancholia scores 80 (out of 100) while Jack and Jill notched up a poorly 23. However, I think this tiff illustrates why our relationship works – we’d rather compromise than have one person do something they hate.

Fight Club Analysis

Robbie: You can’t make a relationship work if you’re unaware of the other person’s concerns, so bickering can be healthy. The fact that Nicole and I have successfully navigated our way through so many arguments just makes me even more confident of the strength of our relationship. But I can’t be held accountable for my actions if she ever chooses a Bette Midler song at karaoke again.

Nicole: Reading back over our fights, I’m pleasantly surprised to find they’re mainly over petty things. I think it shows that when it comes to the big picture, Robbie and I are mostly on the same page. Admittedly, some of our fights are really dumb, but I just think that’s because we’re both honest about when we’re unhappy, which helps us build a better partnership.

Have a friendly week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Word of the day: COMPROMISE! Do it and your relationship will flourish against the thorns of fighting.  I recommend you check out my program Flesh on Flesh. Discover how to rub and caress your woman’s body in every way to get her swooning, soaking, and orgasming with delight!

“They say a sneeze is 1/10^th of an orgasm. Perhaps that’s why it takes me 18 seconds to sneeze.” – Jarod Kintz

You know the scene: boy meets girl, boy sleeps with girl, then boy makes girl climax. It all seems too easy. But does the reel deal compare to the real deal? Watching romantic comedies, you might think all orgasms are a sweaty-but-glamorous chorus of ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’. Hollywood certainly makes climaxing seem oh-so-easy. But in the real world, everyone’s O-moment is completely different.

Orgasms are curious, magical things, and women have so many questions in regards to them: is my O-face ugly? Can the neighbors hear us? Is it weird if I imagine Ryan Gosling to get there? Then there’s that most urgent pleasure query of all: how normal is a woman’s orgasm? Worry no longer. I’ve got the, um, lowdown on what to expect.

How do I know if she’s had an orgasm?

Orgasms, like anything, vary a lot. Her orgasm will come somewhere between mildly pleasant and earth-shatteringly good on the pleasure spectrum. Some women have orgasms and don’t even realize it. The experience might not match her expectations (and yours!) after you’re read inaccurate, exaggerated info or watched sex scenes in films. Having said that, they should feel really good, and you should be able to see this type of pleasure on her face. To be sure, you should really practice orgasming with her. Like a lot. You know, in the name of research.

How long should her orgasm last?

The average lady-gasm lasts seven to ten seconds (long enough to recite your full name twice – trust me, I timed it), which is a bit longer than the average man-gasm. Sex buddies of the male variety have four to six orgasmic contractions, but women have six to 10. Have I mentioned lately how much I love being a woman?

What is the shortest time an orgasm could last?

Between one and two seconds – just enough time for a quick, ‘Yes!’

How many different types of orgasm are there?

The most popular orgasm comes courtesy of the clitoris, when it’s directly stimulated. It can happen during actual intercourse too, especially when you hit her G-spot, a sensitive part on the front wall of her vagina. Some (lucky) women can even achieve orgasm while they’re dreaming.

Is everyone capable of orgasming?

Most are. Thirty per cent of women can orgasm during vaginal sex alone, with no hands or toys to help. Forty per cent can orgasm during intercourse, if they or their partner stimulates their clitoris. Another twenty per cent can have an orgasm if they masturbate. That leaves ten per cent who can’t orgasm and (alas) there’s no physical reason for it.

How often does the average woman orgasm?

Depends how often she gets jiggy with it – solo, or with company. Most women are sometimes orgasm folk, meaning few come every time they have sex. How a woman feels about herself and her chosen partner can affect how often she climaxes: anxiety inhibits her, and feelings of love make it more intense. Of course we should also factor in whether she’s exhausted, unwell or with someone who could use some guidance on their technique.

Are there physical signs an orgasm is coming – a burning sensation or feeling like peeing, that king of thing?

When she’s headed for the big O, she might start to breathe deeper and faster as her heart rate climbs. Some women feel stronger sensations like they might pee at the start of an orgasm, but generally it’s just a very good feeling that overlaps her entire body. And yes, there’s little chance you’ll miss it.

What O-noise does she make?

I asked a number of women what sounds they make in the bedroom – and the response was resounding! See where your partner fits.

• 42% Shrill but cute, like a guinea pig squealing.
• 21% High-pitched and guttural, like a rooster at dawn.
• 21% Totally silent, like a fox on the prowl.
• 11% Almost as if she’s in pain, like a possum’s call.
• 5% Grunting, snorting and bleating, like a piglet.

Have an orgasmic week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. As elusive as it might be, an orgasm is almost impossible to miss, so don’t worry, you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

“Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other.” – Marquis de Sade

I think three is a crowd, especially when the third wheel is a phone. Imagine this scenario: there were three in bed and the little one said… “What the hell, man? Put the mother-flippin’ phone away!” Sound familiar? It should. I just heard 90 per cent of 18 to 39 year olds sleep with their smartphones. Ninety per cent! That leaves 10 per cent with bletcherously designed bedrooms who don’t have a power point within arm’s reach, and that’s about it. It also means there’s more ‘gramming than ramming going on in our bedrooms.

And, as easy as it is to check out just one more meme before you turn in for the night, it’s raining all kinds of havoc on your sex life – and probably without you even realizing it.

We’re addicts, see…

The crux is a little thing called infomania, and it’s neatly summed up as unhealthy addiction to your smartphone. It also takes FOMO to a new, disturbing level as more of us let technology sneak its way into our sex lives (and not in a good soft-porn way either, but a less peachy just-one-more-email kind of way).

One in three people would rather give up sex than their phone – I don’t think I could get one in three people to take a free massage if I stood on the corner holding a sign and pointing at it with a giant foam hand! When you stop prioritizing sex with your partner to read tweets from people you’ve never met, it’s time to put down the phone and pick up a condom.

Sex is a stupidly important part of a committed relationship – only it’s not always going to be the piece of cake it was when you first met. It’s something you’ll probably find you have to work on from time to time. Eventually, it turns into more of a croquembouche that a piece of cake (so a lot of hard-yards but incredibly impressive once mastered) – but surely you want to enjoy delicious croquembouche lovin’?

Time to fix the sitch

As of right now, 95 per cent of people use at least one whizz-band gadget just before bed, and half of the entire population check their phones if they wake up in the middle of the night. If phones were aliens, we’d be talking a full-blown alien invasion. I have to get all Sigourney Weaver on you, but this cannot go on! You need to kick that mood muncher out of your personal space.

As unofficial spokesperson for sexy times, I’m declaring war. But fear not, I do come armed with a peaceful solution! It might be a bigger-than-Bieber ask, but it’s time to start banning tablets, phones and TVs from the bedroom. Need a baby step? Plug your phone in to charge across the other side of the room. It will stop you grabbing a sneaky peek while in bed, and if you use your phone to wake up, when the alarm goes off you’ll have to get up to hit snooze.

And since you’re already up… why not stay that way? If nothing else, you’ll get back that 15 minutes you normally lie there like a lump. Boom, you just got your AM nookie back. White flag raised, olive branch offered, crisis averted.

Have an awesome week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Phone sex suddenly has a new meaning, one less pleasurable unfortunately. Make sure we use the phone as you should and when you should. Not in the bedroom! Unless it’s deeply involved in the sex you’re having. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about erotic massage CLICK HERE NOW!

“My boyfriend and I live together, which means we don’t have sex – ever. Now that the milk is free, we’ve both become lactose intolerant.” – Margaret Cho

As a red-blooded couple, you should be having scorching sex on a regular basis, right? Well, the reality is, not everyone is quite so lucky. The most common reason: couples don’t communicate with each other about their dissatisfaction in the sack. Embarrassment and a fear that something’s wrong with them keep most people from bringing up complaints. But you can’t solve the problem if you won’t even acknowledge it. The thing is, a sexual snag is usually easy to fix… first it has to be addressed. It doesn’t mean that you need to have lengthy, uncomfortable conversations either – there are other ways to impart your needs. I identify the five most common carnal crises couples face and offer my best advice on how to deal.

1. You’re not pleasing her… but you think you do. No matter how hard you try, you’re still not hitting her high notes – because you’re too fast, too slow or too far off the mark. You’re probably not bad in bed, it’s that she hasn’t let you know what you’re doing right or wrong. Men tend to stick with techniques that worked with other women, so unless she tells you otherwise, you’ll assume she likes it too. Clearly, telling you “Hey, sweetie, those moans of pleasure? Fake!” is not an option. But if she broaches the issue delicately and you help her too, you’ll have a constructive talk that will lead you both in the better direction. Or have her show you what feels good by taking your hands and bringing them to her hot spots, silently instructing on rhythm, pace and technique.
2. Her libido is higher than yours. The occasional “I’m not up for it” night happens. But some couples suffer from completely disparate sex drives. And when it’s the man who’s lacking in the lust department, it’s an even bigger issue. A large number of men have lower libidos than their girlfriends do but can’t admit it. Not being able to keep up can make some guys feel emasculated. Meanwhile, a woman with a higher libido is embarrassed by her sexuality or wonders why he’s not attracted to her. First step: rule out physical conditions. Certain medications and health issues can dampen your libido. If you’re healthy, you might just be overloaded. Men react to stress in two ways – they either become hyper-sexual because it’s the only thing that relieves their anxiety or they don’t feel like having sex at all. However, if it’s been like this from the very beginning, you need to figure out why you’re at different speeds. There is a whole variety of reasons why you might not be as amped as she is, from conservative parents to a bad sexual experience to simply the way you’re wired. For some people, achieving orgasm once a day is the norm; for others, once a week is enough. If you and your partner are just mismatched, you should try to accept the libidos biology dealt you. Then take matters into your own hands, and sometimes pleasure her manually when she’s in the mood and you’re not.
3. Technical difficulties. When your machinery malfunctions, the last thing you want to so is, gulp, talk about it. Erectile issues – from premature ejaculation to losing erection to not being able to come – are common. For men, sexual-performance issues are psychological or physiological. You might have a fear of intimacy or a troubled sexual past, but more often than not, stress, poor diet, or lack of exercise is to blame. Those kinds of temporary factors fade over time. However, if the problems are ongoing, consider seeing a sex therapist. In the meantime, the next time something arises –or rather, doesn’t – don’t freak. Instead, keep the momentum going. A lot of couples think that once the erection disappears, everything has to stop, but you can still pleasure her manually or orally. Showing her you’re capable of turning her on in other ways will make you feel better about the situation – plus, the less attention (read: pressure) you place on your penis, the more likely it is to spring back into action.
4. You’ve gotten into a rut. No, sex is never going to be like it was in the beginning. That’s because when couples first start dating, they can’t wait to try out every position and tongue trick in the book. A few years later, most long term couples have figured out which buttons to push to make their partners feel good, so they stick with what works. They may be having orgasms, but relying on the same moves can make most couples lazy about exploring. Try to revive that once-adventurous attitude. Excitement breeds excitement, so anything new will get you inspired. That might mean having sex in different rooms or adding a position into the rotation. Even though something like rock climbing or going camping might not seem like an aphrodisiac, it shakes up your usual routine, raises your endorphin levels and gets the relationship adrenaline running on high again.
5. Initiating sex falls on her. When you first start dating a woman, it seems like all you want to do is get in her panties. But once you’re in a committed relationship, you simply stop being as assertive, either because you’ve gotten bored with your sexual routine or because you don’t feel like you have to try as hard to get sex. Unfortunately, though, that might not work for your partner. Most women prefer when a man takes control during sex. That’s why it can be really annoying – and less satisfying – if she’s always the one initiating.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If sex is not as exciting as it used to be, it doesn’t mean it’s time to change relationship, it just means you should be paying more attention to some things.  I recommend you check out my program Flesh on Flesh. Discover how to rub and caress your woman’s body in every way to get her swooning, soaking, and orgasming with delight!