“The hand is the cutting edge of the mind.”
– Jacob BronowskiHave you ever had the chance to stare in wonder at the mechanics of your hand, the intricacies of your motor movements? Do it now – lay your arm and hand palm down on the table and slowly drum your fingers. Look closely at the fleshy part of your forearm, just before your elbow. Can you see it undulating as the muscles control the movement of your fingers?The manipulation of the 18 muscles in the arms along with the 17 in the palm that move your fingers, takes an entire quarter of the motor cortex and an equal percentage of the sensory nervous system. Your brain is all wrapped up in your ability to touch, with 48 named nerves corresponding just to your most handy tools, so darling you can see just what makes your fabulous fingers a woman’s favorite sex toy!

It’s Not You

More than half of all women prefer their own fingers or a vibrator to having sex with you for an orgasm. Luckily, you are good for a lot of other things, and I don’t just mean taking out the trash. The love and intimacy a woman shares with her lover is the important aspect that she seeks out when she goes through all the trials and tribulations of maintaining a long-term sexual relationship.

When it comes to making her come, you may not have to be a virtuoso to keep her coming back to bed, but if you want to keep her there, it’s time you learned a few things about how to hold her tight. Most men think that being “better” in bed means staying hard longer, or having more stamina, but studies have clearly shown that most women prefer their sexy to be short, sweet and to the point. Foreplay is important, but once you’re past that point of no return, 3 to 7 minutes are enough, and 7 to 13 minutes are just right. You don’t need to be a superstud to have super sex.

The Artist’s Touch

When you think about the complexities of the human hand and pair that with the intricacies of the female body, it might be easy to get a bit overwhelmed. Simply remember when you reach for your lover that her body is an instrument, one that needs to be played, not tuned. Aim to be a musician playing the song of sex, instead of a technician turning her dials and pressing her buttons, hoping for the best.

From the origin of language, to masterpieces of painting, sculpture, music and literature, our hands are responsible for some of the most potent and awe-inspiring inventions of creativity and technology. Don’t let this incredible feat of evolution go to waste! The future, my dear, is in your hands.

Strength in Numbers

Aside from the obvious erogenous zones of the body, like the genitals, lips and tongue, the hands demand the most attention. To seek out touch is our most natural inclination and is possibly even more important than food or water. Infants who are deprived of human touch will, eventually, whither a die, failing to thrive without the loving touch that is associated with the care of a mother.

Each hand is truly individual, with the deep lines of the palm and the intricate whorls and waves of the fingerprints. In fact, the number of bones, muscles, tendons and nerves that control each hand is really just an estimate. Yours are entirely unique and although you may have been ignoring them for some time now, they hold in their true orgasmic potential!

Just think… there are folks out there who have made a living training their fingers to support the weight of their entire body with the strength in those ten digits. Since it takes four times the pressure exerted by the arms than actually is manifested through the fingers, you can see just how strong those muscles can become, with a little practice!

Just What She Needs

If it’s been a long while since you’ve tried anything new in bed, if your wife is struggling to orgasm during intercourse, or if you just want to maximize your stamina while giving her the most pleasure, stick around! I’ve written a book all about fingering that will help you keep your hand in the game, so keep your eyes open for all the hot tips coming your way.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Your woman will crave fingering if you do it well – especially since not a lot of men have this skill. If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”
– PlatoThere is nothing more worrisome in a marriage than the realization after the new-relationship-energy begins to fade that you and your partner do not share the the same libido love style. If you are relying too heavily on plain vanilla intercourse in your sex life, it’s hard to keep up with someone who might have a more active libido than yours, and difficult to take your time if you sometimes feel like you have to fight for the chance to get busy in bed.Taking the time to get to know these ten types profiled by  Dr. Sandra Pertot in her book, “When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match” will set you on the road to recovery from a misaligned motives and untimely urges. Which one are you? How about your wife?

The Entitled Egotist

This lover has convinced themselves of some serious sexual skills, when they are in reality quite lacking. Feeling as if they are entitled to do whatever they need to enjoy an orgasm, their partner is likely to feel left out, especially any shy types who don’t have the heart to ask for what they really want. If you are this kind of lover, you should have your wife use her hands, to show you what she really wants when you touch her.

The Absorbed Addict

The addictive lover doesn’t just love sex, they need it on a daily basis. If regular sex is lacking in their lives, other areas tend to suffer, and intimacy is no exception. If an absorbed partner isn’t getting what they want, they are much less likely to hesitate before cheating, rationalizing that having this need fulfilled elsewhere will make them a better partner. Use your hands to keep up to this firecracker, who is going to need your fancy fingering on a very busy schedule.

The Scared-and-Stressed

Sex isn’t always an enjoyable event, especially for anyone who grew up in an extremely sex-negative environment, or who has experienced trauma in a sexual event. Characterized not only with a low libido, but with a very high level of fear and stress associated with any kind of sexual contact, this lover needs you to go slow and uncover the secret sore spots that need healing. Learning to accept their own body and pleasure through masturbation is the first step.

The Demure Disinterested

This libido is really defined by a lack of libido and has many different causes and outcomes. Foremost, sex is not going to be a big motivator, but intimate touch can definitely still be enjoyed. Don’t assume that a lover disinterested in the standard idea of sex will also pass up your hands-on advances.

The Distracted Detached

It isn’t as if the distracted lover doesn’t enjoy sex, but if it’s isn’t the first thing on the to-do list, of will fall by the wayside or get stashed on the back burner…. maybe even until it burns and sets of the smoke alarm. Setting a schedule to enjoy some time together is a great way to remind yourself or your partner that sex is on the agenda, and ensuring that distractions have been shut off or put away will help keep the focus on what matters.

The Chronic Compulsive

Sometimes a person finds themselves filling a specific sexual need with fetish and fantasy, like BDSM and pornography. There is certainly nothing wrong with a little experimentation, but chronic compulsive lovers learn to only orgasm through specific, ritualized sex acts without being able to truly feel the freedom that pleasureable sex allows. Exploring the wide range of touch sensation can help bring this partner back from the brink of addiction.

The Distraught Dependent

Sex can be one of the best stress relievers, and the dependent libido knows this, relying almost solely on sexual release to relax. If sex isn’t regular, this libido type is likely to get frustrated easily, which can lead to a cycle of fighting and make-up sex, so use your fingers wisely to massage and manipulate your lover to orgasm when they need to loosen up.

The Resigned Reactive

A reactive libido relies entirely on the instigation of a partner, so be prepared to let your magic hands do the talking and turn her on. A reactive partner will take some time to get going, so use your fingers wisely so you can reserve your energy until she’s had the chance to heat up.

The Seductive Sensual

This exotic creature can be described as passionate, emotional and expressive, especially in the realm of sexuality which is the true expression of love. Sensual surprises are the best way to tease and tantalize, so if your wife falls into this category, use your handy helpers to massage her, feed her, bathe her, caress her, even spank her lightly!

The Eager Erotic

Intense and demanding describes the erotic lover perfectly, always seeking adventure. Any kind of sex is acceptable when it comes right down to it, but definitely not enough. A partner can’t rest until they agree to try something new and different to alleviate the boredom of ho-hum sex. Fingers are so versatile, you can learn a new move every week and with practice, expand your repertoire so she never knows what’s coming.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Your woman will crave fingering if you do it well – especially since not a lot of men have this skill. If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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Emotional release and muscular release are interdependent – one does not occur without the other.
–   Elaine MaylandFemale orgasm has always been a very mysterious experience. While there are some women who suffer their entire lives without an orgasm, more and more are talking their pleasure into their own hands like I did, and teaching their husbands how to help. While each orgasm is in a way completely unique, there are stages of pleasure that are part of the experience in a number of different configurations.Build Me Up, Let Me DownThe natural path toward orgasm can be described in three basic stages with a few significant events. The initial inklings of lust define the first stage, called desire. The activities that bring about desire in women are incredibly diverse, but can usually be discovered by understanding what you can do to relieve stress in her life. Do the dishes, get a babysitter and a hotel room, draw a hot bubble bath, learn erotic massage – there are dozens of foreplay techniques that can help release her tight muscles and open her up to you.

After desire, a woman begins to experience arousal which is usually evident in her body. Increased heart and respiratory rate, flushed face and chest, erect nipples, warm skin and vaginal lubrication are all great signs of arousal, but don’t wait for all of them if she tells you that she’s ready for more. Use lube if necessary to take the next steps.

When orgasm occurs, watch out! The strong PC muscles take over, fluttering with great speed as the entire muscular system in the body contracts and releases, letting go of stress and pain, tension and frustration.

Come On Down!

Multiple orgasms certainly aren’t something that every couple needs to make a goal, but when a woman is able to reach her first orgasm by manual stimulation, second (and third, and fourth) orgasms during penetrative sex are much easier to achieve.

Unlike the standard terminal orgasm, it is possible to experience an orgasm, then instead of refracting and losing arousal (and possible desire), a plateau is reached. From this static position, it is much easier to return to orgasmic bliss, whether you can count her orgasms during your play, or they all bleed into one long flood of pleasure.

The Ten Commandments

While your fingers are definitely key to your success expanding your wife’s pleasure, there are ten simple rules that really define the process.

1. Stay Positive: The trick to going all the way is to really believe that you can!

2. Think Sexy: She may need a lot of foreplay to get her receptive to lengthy lovemaking and multiple orgasms, so go slow and let her desire build before skipping right to arousal.

3. Map It Out: Don’t spend all your time focusing on her genitals. Your hands are good for all sorts of touch, so work your way around her body, exploring and discovering new erogenous zones.

4. Lip Service: Your hands are great, integral in fact, but don’t forget about your mouth. With fingers penetrating and a tongue on her clit, you are well on the way to taking her to new heights of pleasure.

5. Back and Forth: Believe it or not, the best way to get her to multiple orgasms is to stop before she gets there…. just for a while. Tease her a bit, bringing her close to orgasm, then backing off for just a few seconds before going back for more.

6. On the Spot: Between her clitoris, her vaginal canal and her G-Spot, there are a few different kinds of orgasms she can experience all in one night. Why not try for them all? Be sure to hit the spot on the front wall of her vagina, just a couple inches inside, but don’t be forceful. Use a “come hither” motion and you’ll rock her world.

7. Exercise: Don’t assume that using a computer gives you the finger-strength to match her orgasmic stamina. My book discusses a number of great exercises not only for your fingers, but for her PC muscles to improve her orgasms, and we’ll talk about a few of them another day soon. Stay tuned!

8. Double Time: What’s better for a woman than having all a man’s attention focused on one of her most sensitive spots? Having him focus on two! Try reaching for her breasts while finger her, or squeezing her ass while going down. What other unique erogenous zones does she have? Hit more than one and she’ll be ready to come.

9. Three’s Company: If two’s good, three is a whole new world, whether she is stimulating her own nipples, using a vibrator, or you are just extra dexterous, fingering her vaginally and anally while licking her clit. This might be a bit overwhelming for some women, but if you wait until after she’s had her first or second orgasm, she can ride this triple stimulation out all the way to exhaustion.

10. Take it Easy: Keep the pressure off. You’ll want to put aside some time for multiple orgasms, and if she finishes with one and is done, don’t worry. There’s always next time!

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. I hope you had a laugh over what goes to the girls’ minds when performing oral. We’d love to know your thoughts when you go down on us. Leave them in the comments section! For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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The power of love to change bodies is legendary, built into folklore, common sense, and everyday experience.  Love moves the flesh, it pushes matter around…  Throughout history, “tender loving care” has uniformly been recognized as a valuable element in healing.
– Larry DosseyA woman’s body isn’t just mysterious if you haven’t had the chance to get right up close and personal with her precious parts, but because it is so changeable. The month-long cycle that governs your wife’s attitudes and arousal makes her a whole new woman at each step along the way. While she may be incredibly receptive to your touch when she is ovulating, a short two weeks later she might be too sensitive for even the lightest play.Try-CycleIt can be hard to plan your sex life around a menstrual cycle that you don’t understand, so get ready for everything you need to know to mix and match your plans with her period.

For all intents and purposes, the first day of your wife’s period is “Day One”. The guidelines that follow her hormonal changes are just that, guidelines. They are not set in stone, but general averages. Some women have long cycles, some short, but most average in the 28-29 day range.

Somewhere usually around day 10-14, the hormones that control fertility spike, causing increased lubrication and desire for sex. You can use your fingers to avoid intercourse, staying safe from pregnancy, or you can get hands-on as a way to bring her to orgasm to prime her for intercourse, if you are attempting to conceive.

This sexual tension will continue to grow until her ovaries are signalled to release an egg, and from her her fertility and natural desire will begin to wane. As she grows once again closer to menstruation, her body becomes more sensitive,

If you don’t think you have the know-how to make the first move to touch her hottest spots, start taking notes! Here are some tips to explore her entire body.

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Out of the Way

The obvious erogenous zones are so, well, obvious. Why not start somewhere new? Instead of heading right for her breast, why not caress her face, nibble her ear lobes, stroke her hair, kiss her neck, rub her belly, squeeze her butt, or even just hold her hand.

Up in the Mountains

The breasts, topped so pointedly by the clusters of nerve endings in the sensitive nipples, are many men’s first stop on the road to arousal. Squeeze gently and don’t overdo it unless she expresses a desire – her nipples might appreciate being lightly rolled between the fingers, or sucked gently between your lips. Don’t bite!

Over the Hill

The “mons pubis” is the fatty mound of flesh under her pubic hair, cushioning a woman’s pubic bone. The area isn’t particularly sensitive, especially if it is covered in hair, but pressure here can stimulate all the other areas of the vulva below.

Loose Lips

On the other side of the mons, holding in all the more sensitive parts between her legs, the outer labia is the first to get red and puffy as her arousal levels rise. The thin inner lips are are much finer and also make up the clitoral hood, which protects her “little hill” from your more aggressive advances.

Little Bits

The clitoris is the key to orgasm for a vast majority of women, so if you haven’t learned to manipulate it like a master, it’s time to begin. It may look small and perhaps even insignificant, but the actual size of the clitoris, buried deep in the pelvic wall, rivals that of the average penis.

This complex of nerves and tissues is incredibly sensitive to touch both on the outside of the vulva and from inside the vagina, where fingers in particular are amazing tools for finding the extra special spots that hide inside.

Skene Tight

Most men don’t think of the urethra as a sexual component to the genitals, but the little exit valve not only contains a small amount of erectile tissue which responds to stimulation, but houses the infamous Skene’s Gland, the mysterious spot that produces the fluid ejaculated during a G-Spot orgasm. A little lick or flick of the urethral opening is a great way to ease her into squirting stimulation!

The Jade Chamber

Once your fingers find their way inside your wife’s vagina, you have a virtual 360 degrees of pleasure to give her! You can try to imagine the cylindrical opening as a clock face, slowly exploring around in circles, using smaller circular motions to determine her more sensitive spots, both shallow and deep.

Back to Back

Don’t head for her back door until you’ve really mastered some other skills. If she is relaxed and ready to go from her first (few?) orgasms, she’s much more likely to enjoy a finger in her rear. If she isn’t quite ready to be anally penetrated, you can stimulate her clitoral complex by massaging her perineum, the smooth flesh between her vagina and her anus.

Find her hot spots, hold on tight and don’t let go!

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. I hope you had a laugh over what goes to the girls’ minds when performing oral. We’d love to know your thoughts when you go down on us. Leave them in the comments section! For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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He that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.
– ConfuciusIf your fingers are your key to playing your lover like an instrument, then you want them to be in the best shape possible, right? Well love, you’re in luck. I’ve got some great exercises here to give you the chance to improve on the four fronts of fingering skill: flexibility, strength, dexterity and sensitivity. Let’s get started, shall we?Flexibility: Pull, Bend and Stretch

Range of motion is the important aspect of flexibility, which is defined by your ability to bend at the joints. For our purposes, the joints of the fingers, wrists and arms should move easily and with grace so you can get into poses and positions that will really rock her world. Don’t get carried away in your initial exploration with your wife, and be sure to stretch before you get started or you might pull a muscle!

Beginning with the fingers of one hand, try using the opposite palm to pull each of your digits gently backward, toward the arm. Do the same with a bend at the wrist, stretching gently back toward the forearm. Be sure to spend lots of time focusing on the stretch; yoga and standard upper body stretching routines are great for opening up the muscles and joints in the forearms, biceps, shoulders and chest.

Strength: Squeeze, Walking, Wring, Support

Strength, in a sense, isn’t just about the power behind each movement in the hand, but the stamina that allows the repetitive movement that is absolutely necessary to take your wife all the way to orgasm. There aren’t any actual muscles in the fingers themselves, but the fibers that do control these body parts need a lot of strength to pull this off.

There are four great movements that work together to improve overall hand and upper body strength. Starting again with the fingers, the action of squeezing and releasing the tension in the hand helps to build overall hand strength in both the fingers and the palm. You can use a walking motion, a la “Thing” from the Adams Family, to stretch and strengthen the individual fingers. The wringing motion of the wrists is a great move to build muscle, using a dry towel held in each hand and twisting. The final stretch exercise focuses on the arms, using push=ups or moves like the Downward Facing Dog in yoga to improve the overall fitness of the arms, chest and shoulder.

Dexterity: Lift & Flip

Dexterity is a skill that is really about precision, being able to isolate your movements. Can you place your palm flat on the table and lift your fingers one at a time? How about if you hold your hand out, palm facing you, and attempt to bend each finger in toward your wrist, one at a time, without moving the others?

You may recognize the best exercise for this purpose as a Vegas party trick, but it’s not just good for impressing women while sharing a cocktail! Practice flipping a coin (or something lighter, like a poker chip) first on the pads of your finger, “passing” it from one finger to the next by flipping it over. When you have mastered the pass palm up, switch to flipping the coin over your bent knuckles!

Sensitivity: Touch, Pressure, Layers

The sensitivity of the hand is primarily in the palm side of the skin, where the nerves are responsible for locating minute changes in texture, pressure and density. Try one exercise to focus on each! For texture, challenge yourself to find a hair or thread with your fingertip, while it hides between pieces of paper (tissue or telephone book quality), slowly increasing the number of pages until you can no longer feel the change.

The Resilient Edge of Resistance
Tackle pressure using a balloon or inflated ball to find “the resilient edge of resistance”. Described by Barbara Carellas in “Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century”, this boundary is the space that lies between touch that is too light and touch that is too heavy. When your fingers just glide over the surface of the balloon, without affecting the shape at all, your touch is too light. Hold the balloon in the palm of your hand and begin to squeeze. There will come a point when the balloon stops being simply displaced by your hand, and begins to stretch. This stretching is the beginning of a touch that is too rough.

When you feel you have identified the resilient edge of resistance in the balloon, it’s time to move to a human being. Because most of our bodies aren’t inflated with gas, there is a density to them that we can sense when our touch is just right. Start by feeling the air above the skin, the tiny hairs that set off the nerves. Move to the skin, then the subcutaneous fat layer, then muscle and tendons, then bone. In the five touches, you can improve your sense of your wife’s body just holding her hand as you walk down the street.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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He who feels it, knows it more.
–   Bob MarleyWhen first approaching a woman’s most sensitive spots, there is really one universal factor that determines your range of motion to please her – lubrication. From bone dry to soaking wet, a woman’s wetness is your cue for the kind of move you make. If your wife is the type to lubricate easily and copiously, you may want to keep a towel handy to be able to try some of the tricks that work best on drier skin. If your lady doesn’t lubricate well on her own, invest in a bottle or three of quality, water-based natural lubricant so you can explore the realms of the super slick!Sunny SkiesWhether your wife is in the stage of her monthly cycle when desire and arousal are less forthcoming, or if she just has the type of libido that takes more warming up, there are a few great beginner moves that will not only get you used to touching her, but help build a foundation of desire and stimulation to arouse.

The first step in warming up her outside is a gentle pull on the outer lips. Grasp them between your thumb and forefinger, careful not to catch her fine inner lips, and stretch them first down and out toward her feet, then up and out slightly toward her breast. Follow up with a few soft tugs – start with the hair on her mons, if she isn’t too closely trimmed, running your fingers through and straightening the curly fibers between your knuckles. Finish up the warm up by pulling her outer labia back to expose her inner labia and clitoris, a great move to segue into oral sex and lubrication.

Chance of Showers

When you’re not sure what the weather is going to be like and you want to be prepared for just about anything, there is a whole range of moves you can use to stimulate her nether regions just right.

Start out with gentle moves that cup or gently massage the entire vulva. From this position you can hold her sex tight, rub it gently, or even vibrate her like a real-live sex toy by shaking your hand with a bit of a tremor as you hold her vulva in your palm. Rubbing her outer labia and gently seperating her inner labia will provide her with some new sensations before you take the dive and begin by stimulating her clit and U-Spot. Don’t get carried away or apply pressure or touch that is too direct, especially if she is not yet very wet. Tap lightly, or lick with the tip of your tongue to provide some sensation with over-stimulation.

Rainy Days

The reason that lube is so important to sex is because of these great moves – there are certain kinds of stimulation that just don’t feel good without wetness, so if your partner isn’t lubricating on her own, you should add a few drops of something slick and slippery before trying these out.

Use your fingers to slide around a bit on the slick surface of her vulva. Try rolling her outer lips between thumb and forefinger in a gentle massage before using the tips of your fingers to circle and stroke her clitoris and her U-Spot. Don’t penetrate her yet! I still have a whole collection of tips for extra-lubricated ladies who enjoy a lot of stimulation.

Flash Flood

When she is overflowing with her own juices, or you have a good supply of long-lasting lubrication, it’s time to try out a few of these extraordinary examples of techniques for taking the next step, bridging the gap between exterior and interior genital contact.

The first step now to discover her most sensitive spots is to ensure her clit is erect and engorged, so start with a sliding move that uses the pressure of your fingers to stimulate her in long, smooth strokes from your fingertip to the knuckle at your palm. When she is ready for a bit more stimulation, use your fingertip to make tiny circles in-place as your explore the are around the edge of her clitoris, finding the spots on her hot-button that are especially inflamed!

When you know just how much clitoral stimulation she enjoys, you can attempt the next big thing in manual stimulation for women – jilling off! Just like jacking off, “jilling” involves stroking the sensitive parts using the “foreskin” protection that covers it. Grasping the clit gently between your thumb and forefinger tips, or knuckles, you can make tiny stroking or turning motions that stimulate not just the visible head of the clit, but the deep root in her pelvis.

Try to bring her to orgasm without penetrating her at all, then get ready to move on and explore her deeper places.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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When you touch a body, you touch the whole person, the intellect, the spirit, and the emotions.
–  Jane HarringtonA woman’s pleasure centers have long held a mystery that seems so much more of a hidden secret than those of a man’s sexual enjoyment. While it is fairly easy to see what parts you touch when you’re turning on and understand how your body is configured, many of a woman’s special spots are hidden away deep inside, where only finesse and perseverance will help to find the key.Do you find yourself wondering what mysteries lie beneath the calm surface of your wife’s skin? Do you want to know where that magical moisture begins, and discover spots inside her that will help take her over the edge with just about any kind of penetration?The Straight and NarrowWhether you begin with one finger or two (which, of course, is really up to your wife and her comfort levels), most men tend to think of fingering as thrusting straight digits in-and-out of the vagina as if the hand is just another penis. No offense darling, but you don’t need another one. I’m sure your wife is happy enough with the penis you were born with, so put your hands to better use; you didn’t go through all the trouble of improving your hand fitness for them to play second string to an intercourse main event. Pull out of that rut and try something different!

Don’t penetrate her without lubrication unless she has explicitly asked you to do so. If she is having difficult getting wet enough, bring in the reinforcements. Don’t make a big deal of it – many women are self-conscious about relying on products to perform functions they think their body should be able to do on its own, and there is no such need to fret. Lube is great even for those of us who do lubricate well, because it allows us to experience a whole new set of sensations!

Start slow to begin with, not entering her with any force at all, but allowing her to use her PC muscles to “pull”  your fingers in. Once you have entered her, try putting a bit of pressure on the walls of the vagina by swirling your fingers around in a circular motion and stopping to make smaller circles on-the-spot all the way around. You are likely to find that some areas of her entrance are more sensitive than others, which will help you to focus your energy there during intercourse as well!

Around the Bend

The most effective hand movement for interior stimulation is the “come hither” motion, characterized by curling the fingers in toward the palm. This little crook in your (typically, index and middle) fingers can be used to find the G-Spot about 1-2 inches inside the vaginal canal, as well as the A-Spot a couple inches beyond that. Both are incredible stimulation points for encouraging ejaculatory orgasms and lubrication. Don’t press too hard, and don’t thrust at all unless she begins to thrust herself onto your hand.

A twisting motion of the wrist while stimulating the front wall will hit her G-Spot and/or A-Spot with the same crooked fingers gives her a chance to experience the side-to-side motion, something altogether different from the thrusting or beckoning movement that most women are used to with this kind of play. You can also use this same finger pose to stimulate the back wall of her vagina, with your palm facing down toward her spine. She may not be accustomed to this kind of direct touch here, so take it easy and follow her lead.

A Fork In the Road

If you want to be truly masterful at genital touching, you will learn to stimulate your wife’s inner chamber and outer erogenous zones at the same time. You can use two hands both directed at her sex, or one hand focusing both externally and internally, while the other hand reaches for her breast or stimulates yourself!

One-handed moves are not nearly as difficult as they might sound. With your index and middle fingers you can stimulate her G-Spot while using your lubricated thumb to stroke her clit or rub her urethral opening, getting her even closer to the infamous squirting orgasm. If you want to get extra fancy, you can even employ a little round-about action and use your pinkie finger in this configuration to penetrate her anally! If she isn’t into rear entry, simply stroke her perineum gently with the backs of your ring and pinkie fingers. If you can pull off these great combo moves, you’re sure to bring her all the way over the edge.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.
– Charles DickensYou may have the impression that your wife isn’t the least bit interested in anal sex, convinced it will be uncomfortable, even painful. It doesn’t have to be so, if you smooth the way with your fingers. Or maybe she has expressed an interest in a little back door action but you’ve been shying away out of fear. Don’t back down now!The CrapshootYou’ll have to take some time to break down any mental blocks you may have already constructed around the idea of anal. Yes, you might just encounter something less than pleasant. What can I say? Good sex is messy! Be sure to come prepared with condoms or gloves to help keep your fingers clean and ready for more fun.

Pay attention to the kind of lube you bring along, since some aren’t condom compatible. You don’t want to be switching from anal to vaginal penetration without cleaning yourself up in between, but if you cover up your digits when you enter her rear, you can take off the glove and go for the gold. You can also bring handy accessories like baby wipes or alcohol gel to help make clean up quick, easy and painless.

Warming Up

The most important thing about anal play is to start slowly. Don’t look at your fingering as a way to get her ready for larger penetration. It may take several attempts before she gets comfortable with something the size of your penis, or she may never decide to be stretched to that size. Most important of all, no matter what – don’t push her.

Warm up moves are strictly exterior. Don’t try to enter her until she is good and ready! You’ll want to start by massaging her outer sphincter by simply rubbing and stroking between her cheeks to get her all warmed up. Use some lube to start out, and gently rub her sphincter with just a finger tip once she is nice and slick. This rhythmic motion will start the process of relaxing her muscles and opening her sphincter.

The First Gate
To make your first entrance, use a well lubricated index or middle finger to apply steady but gentle pressure to the outer sphincter of her anus. You can’t force your way in without hurting her, so don’t push. Find the resilient edge of resistance, the point where her flesh responds your your pressure by displacing, not stretching or tearing. Once you are inside this space, take a moment and rest for a while.

Door Number Two
When your wife has grown accustomed to the sensation of your finger inside of her, you can begin to explore further. You will find about an inch inside the entrance to the inner sphincter, which is controlled entirely by the unconscious body process. It, like the outer sphincter, will open with just the right amount of steady pressure. If you can’t open it up the first time, don’t fret. Move on to some other kind of play and come back another day!

On the Other Side

Once you are past the second anal sphincter, the space opens up a bit into the colon and you have some room to explore! From inside this cavity, it is actually possible to reach the G-Spot, so if you crook your finger toward the front of her body while penetrating her anally, you might get some interesting reactions! Paired with vaginal and/or clitoral stimulation, this move is a winner if you’re aiming for female ejaculation.

Taking It Home

Try the master’s magic move, the five-finger delight, to bring your anal play to a roaring climax.  Using two hands and a lot of co-ordination, place the index finger of your right hand in your anus and the thumb of the same hand in her vagina, pressing gently against the back wall as you try to bring the two fingers together in a “C” shape.

With the left hand, insert the index and middle fingers into your wife’s vagina and crook slightly to stimulate her G-Spot. Use a “come hither” motion not only to stimulate this spot, but to put pressure on her clit with your left thumb, also forming a “C” shape. You do not need to thrust in this position! Some easy beckoning should be more than enough to rock her socks right off.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Often the hands will solve a mystery that the intellect has struggled with in vain.
–  Carl G. JungIt’s true what Jung says about the hands. The power in our palms to sense just what our partner wants and needs can be overwhelming if it is new to you, and no one is expecting you to turn into Casanova over night. If you have put a lot of energy into learning these new fingering techniques, it may be difficult for you to even imagine any interesting positions where you might want to try them out. Well worry not love! Here are five of the most popular basic sex positions and some tips to modify them for manual stimulation.The PositionsThe Missionary
Coming at your woman from the top while she lies on her back with her legs spread is perhaps the very best position for fingering fun. Not only does it give you easy access to all her most sensitive spots when you are focused on your fingers. This is generally the most comfortable position for a woman who is just getting used to the idea of getting up close and personal with her own orgasm, especially for G-Spot play, so let her lay back and enjoy the ride!Animal Style
There are plenty of advantages to doggie-style sex, whether you are kneeling or standing behind her. Because she is totally propping herself up, and you are supported completely by your legs, your hands are left totally free for play. You can reach forward to play with her breasts or her clit, or place one hand on the base of her spine and use a well-lubricated thumb to stimulate her anally!

You also have a great angle in this position for a sexy surprise! During intercourse, place one hand under your penis, palm facing down toward the bed so that your fingers can curl toward her G-Spot. Gently angle your hips to one side and slide one or two fingers into her vagina alongside your penis. If you keep your hand putting pressure on the front wall of the vagina while you penetrate her, this is a great position for making her ejaculate.

The Cowgirl
When she is on top, not only are your hands completely free, but she has more control over the depth and speed of your stimulation. She can face toward or away from you – either way you can reach her clit, her nipples and her ass, especially if you prop yourself up on pillows or sit on the couch where you can reach around. If her clit is too sensitive to touch directly, simply pull her outer lips apart as you thrust, exposing her clit to the rhythmic pressure of your movements.

Loving Spoonfuls
Spooning is perhaps the most intimate way to finger a woman. Holding her close from behind and penetrating her (vaginally or anally) during intercourse, you can reach around quite easily and masturbate her. This is a great position to have her “show you the ropes” of her private parts. Have her masturbate while you make love, placing your hand over top of hers so you can feel how she touches herself, then switch so that you are touching her clit and her hand is on top, guiding your movements. With her legs closed so tight around you, this is a great position to learn to climax together.

The Stand
Standing sex is perhaps the most difficult but can definitely be very rewarding. If you have a very noticeable height difference, it may help if you are on stairs or an incline. If you aren’t able to support her weight on a counter top or in your arms, have her bend over a table or chair so your hands can be free to roam!

Mutual Finds

The real trick to learning what moves and positions your wife enjoys is to explore the art of mutual masturbation. Start slow and easy, with soft light and sexy music. Set the mood by feeding each other grapes or some other delicious bot not-too-heavy food, and sipping on wine or hot cocoa. Take your time so you both have the chance to really pay attention. Not only will the experience of showing off her masturbation skills to you help you learn how to touch your wife, but she will have the chance to watch you pleasure yourself and learn a few new things too!

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Fine art is that in which the hand, the head, and the heart of man go together.
–   John RuskinLearning a new sex skill is a lot like learning a new language. You can practice all you want alone in your room, but if you don’t have the chance to use all the new information, it will be lost in translation. You’ve gone to all the hard work of improving your finger fitness and learning a whole pile of new tips, tricks and techniques. Don’t let it all get away from you because you can keep it up!Be PreparedThe best way to ensure that you get to try that new move again another day is preparedness. Be ready for everything you can imagine and take a few simple precautions to ensure that everything goes smoothly.

Cleaning Up
Clean up before fingering is incredibly important. The vagina is a sensitive, self-cleaning area that needs to be kept free of debris and irritants that might cause yeast infections or other reactions. Wash your hands thoroughly, keep your fingernails clean and trimmed, shower, shave, brush your teeth, put on some clean clothes. Dress to impress!

Slowing Down
New sexy situations might be fun and exciting, but you shouldn’t rush into anything you don’t entirely understand. Take it easy and don’t get too worked up about anything. Stop trying to memorize a dozen different moves all in one night. Pick one new thing and try it out, see what happens! Even if it doesn’t work very well, you may just need practice. Don’t be discouraged but a slow start – it means you have the patience and determination to do things right.

Coming Around
Consent is vital to a communicative relationship, so when you are playing with fingering, it’s important to ensure that your wife understands what you want to do before you do it. Don’t try to put a finger in her anus without explicit permission! Consent allows everyone to feel safe and secure making sexual decisions, and if you take this right away from your wife she may not feel safe revealing any of her secret spots to the likes of you.

Wet & Wild

I firmly believe that lubricant is vital to every sexual relationship, not just one where a woman “doesn’t get wet enough”. If she is concerned about shopping in a sex store or being embarrassed at the drug mart, try organic all-natural coconut oil! It isn’t condom safe, but it is smooth, solid at room temperature to avoid bid messes, and great for the skin.

If you do decide to buy from the store, oil-based lubricants are the longest lasting, but aren’t safe for use with condoms either. Silicone based lubes are very slick, last a long time and are condom safe, but can’t be used with any kind of silicone sex toys. The best all-purpose lubes by far are water based and also come in natural, organic versions for the health-conscious.

Don’t overdo it with the lube – most only need a drop or two at a time. Remember, you can always add a little more, but it’s a lot harder to take some away! Oil and silicone lubes in particular can be difficult to wash off, of skin as well as sheets and clothes.

Know Your Audience

Understanding what your wife wants out of your sex life is integral to making the changes that you both want, need and can sustain.

Communication
Part of consent is communication, so don’t leave it out of the process. Consent isn’t valid unless it is “informed consent”, a decision based on all the available information pertinent to the subject. Your wife may want to stipulate some rules, like no anal play unless she instigates. You may want discuss your ideal sex situation, so you can make a goal if she, for example, wants to orgasm before intercourse.

Feedback
As important as the informed consent before any new act is the feedback that comes after. Post-processing new experiences is something that helps build and strengthen relationships. Making love and experiencing intimate touch can be a very emotional experience and these emotions can’t just be hidden away or stuffed back down, they need to be felt and shared with a partner. Don’t judge, and allow each other to be open and honest about your experience. Each act of caring and sharing brings you that much closer. Don’t take it for granted. Love and learn, every day.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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