“It’s so beautifully arranged on the plate- you know someone’s fingers have been all over it”– Julia Child

The best way to finger a woman is, actually, with your whole hand. When used with the right tempo and speed, all five fingers as well as the palm can give immense pleasure to a woman. Don’t think that just by sticking your index and middle fingers inside her vagina or rubbing them around like a mad man you’re taking her to seventh heaven. The art of good, pleasurable fingering is much more complex than that. So, before you go taking it the wrong way, please read on.

First step. Ask for permission

If you’ve never fingered her before, ask if you can first, it’s only polite. And if, at any point, she slaps your hand away, you should take that as a sign that she doesn’t want you touching her down there anymore. If you keep doing it anyway, she’ll likely get mad and never let you anywhere near her again. Ever. Even with clothes on. So don’t push it.

Second step. Start early

For both of you to get optimum excitement value out of a good fingering, start while she is still dressed. Kiss and hug her a bit (or a lot, whatever suits your feelings) before you move on. She’ll like that. Continue until things get really frisky, and you end up rubbing your bits together. While you’re still standing up, firing that passion away through your kisses, slip your hand down her pants, with your palm facing her tummy. If her pants are really tight, you might not be able to reach down very far, so sneakily undo the zipper with your other hand, If she’s wearing a skirt, things are heaps easier- slide your hand up her skirt instead.

Third step. Undies off- SLOWLY

Contrary to popular belief, the undie barrier is a good one. Don’t get rid of it too soon. This is your chance to get her really wet. Rub the base of your palm against her pubic mound- that’s the curved bit that fits right in your hand. If you’ve placed your hand right, your fingers should slide between her legs while the base of your palm will do great things to her clitoris. Rub slowly back and forth with your hand like this for a while- at least until she starts to squirm. Only then you should slip a finger or two inside her underwear.

Fourth step. Go all ways

When her underwear is finally off, and she’s lying on the bed, the best way to finger a woman is with both hands, your mouth and your tongue. If you’re lying next to her, use the same rubbing method described above to start. Then combine this with slipping one finger inside and feeling around a bit, then maybe use two. Don’t ram your fingers in and out of her as if they were a penis, just keep it nice and slow and rhythmic. See what she responds to best. If you’re not to shy, ask her what she wants you to do. She won’t think any less of you, she’ll think you’re a better lover because you actually care what she wants. Maybe she has a secret fantasy about a fiery fingering session and she’d like to share the instructions with you.

Fifth step. Finish in style

Advanced fingering is just a mixture of everything foreplay should be- get between her legs, get right in there in full blazes. Maybe put one hand under her bum, lift her up a bit, put your mouth over her an play with her clitoris with your other hand. It’s possible. And good. There really is no right way to finger a woman- just experiment and pay attention to the way she reacts. But, most of all, don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!

Have a solidly scrumptious week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Before you introduce your fingers inside her vagina, make sure that she is well self lubricated. If her natural lubrication is insufficient, you can apply a water-based lubricant on your fingers for a good job. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about fingering CLICK HERE NOW!

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“Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once, just once, understand.”- Reef

When it comes to stimulating a woman, you might think that the necessary (and sufficient!) tools are the mouth and the penis. Here’s why you’re wrong. The finger, or more of them, or the whole hand, if you’re feeling particularly naughty, can be an effective weapon as well, if the correct method is applied.

Nowadays the use of the fingers is mainly reserved to those few seconds of foreplay when you’re trying to get her panties off, and this happens mainly because lots of women don’t respond well enough to this kind of treatment and so you feel obliged to pull out the big guns (pardon the pun!). However, if you learn how to do it so that she feels the maximum amount of pleasure, fingering can become a sex act by itself, that powerful this tool can become.

But don’t think that I’m going to shoot you with straightforward, do this/touch here/press there type of tricks. There is no rulebook defining the tips that have to be followed for a profitable experience. Nonetheless, there are a number of variations or strategies you can use to improve her sexual satisfaction.

First of all, just before you begin, make sure she is sufficiently aroused. Engage in other aspects of foreplay to heat the atmosphere. Kiss her passionately all over the place and in a hurried rhythm, so that she feels that the earth is moving under her feet. Start your handiwork by playing with her lips, her breasts, her hips, wherever you know she gets pleasure from. If she’s the type of girl that is more romantic oriented, use your fingers for gentle caressing or even a little massage, to loosen her up.

After her first moan, which is a clear sign she’s good and ready and begging for more action, start circling her vaginal area, with slow-to-fast movements. Also, before commencing anything of this sort, you should make sure your fingers are properly trimmed and cleaned. Taking care of your digits is essential at this point, since the vagina is quite a sensitive organ and it can be easily torn or injured. Also, again, according to her likes, use lubricant for a more smooth process. There are women who take pleasure in dry fingering, but there are also ones that feel pain in this process.

Once she’s all wet, you can start inserting one or two fingers. Start by using circular motions when you’re inside her, increasing the speed according to her response. If her body is screaming in approval, try the quick finger method, which is perfect for more aggressive ladies, who are fans of fast paced intercourse. Make her lie in her back and spread her legs for more room for maneuvering. At this point, you can insert more fingers, or even go all the way to try vaginal fisting.

Push her to the finish line, by making good use of your other hand also. Have you heard of double (clitoridian and vaginal) orgasm? You can achieve this by pressing on her clitoris while your fingers are hammering away inside her. This technique doesn’t need lots of pace; a steady rhythm is more than sufficient for taking her to the peak of much awaited double orgasm.

Have a spectacular week-end,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Once you’re inside her, you can curl your fingers. You’ll find her G spot in two seconds! To discover more advanced tips and techniques about fingering CLICK HERE NOW!

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Fisting… because sometimes your fingers just aren’t enough!

Let’s get this out of the way first. This kind of play isn’t for everyone. Before we get in to the specifics, you should know that your wife may not even be curious about fisting, let alone excited to give it a go. Fisting is an incredibly challenging and rewarding experience for any couple that endeavors to try it out, but don’t put pressure on your lover if she simply isn’t into it.

Of course, just because she has some hesitations doesn’t mean you should just give up on the idea! Fisting is something you are going to have to work up to, no matter how excited everyone is about the whole thing. There are two very important aspects to any fisting experience – lube and time. Even with plenty of both, you’ll be starting out with a finger or two and working your way up. Why not see how two, three, or four fingers feel before you make a final decision?

Lube Job

Do you pay much attention to your lover’s monthly cycles? If not, this is certainly a great reason to start. The vaginal canal tends to deepen and the cervix softens as a woman nears ovulation, so you can use the ten to twenty days after menstruation to prepare her body and maximize her enjoyment.

Start with a natural oil massage. Use an organic coconut oil and after a relaxing full body rub down, have your wife lay back on the bed with her legs spread wide, bent at the knees. Massage her perineum, the area between her vaginal opening and anus, with gentle pressure. Relaxing this area isn’t just important for fisting, but it is also a wonderful exercise for expecting mothers to prepare the birthing canal. Perform this sexy little exercise nightly until you are comfortable going further, ideally for a week or two.

When it comes time for the main event, prepare yourself with a high quality silicone lube that won’t get sticky or absorb into the skin. If you want a bit of extra slickness, try putting on a smooth latex glove. Cover your fingers in lube as you insert them, one at a time. Start with only one or two fingers, allowing the lube on your digits to coat her canal.

Ensure that whatever lubricant you choose is safe, clean, long-lasting, and most importantly designed to be used with any kinds of safe sex accessories or toys you might bring along to the party. Spot test any new lubricant to be sure that neither of you have any reaction to the ingredients.

Stretch!

Be sure to get lots of feedback as you progress from two up to three fingers. If she is enjoying three, move up to four. Be very careful not to penetrate too deep as you progress. When it comes time to move beyond four fingers, you should reshape your hand accordingly, tucking your thumb into your palm. You may also want to bend your fingertips in to your palm as well, depending on her depth and cervical softness.

This is not an afternoon quickie, so don’t try this on a busy day when you are pressed for time. Set aside several hours to relax together and enjoy your time. If you have large hands, it is unlikely you’ll make it “all the way” on the first, second, or even third try. It just may not be in the cards for you. If on the other hand you have a narrow hand and/or short fingers, you might just be in luck!

Keep Her Coming

The easiest way by far to loosen the vaginal canal is the magic of orgasm! Your multi-orgasmic lover will find fisting easier after her first, second, or third orgasm – why not try one for each finger! If vaginal orgasms are difficult for your partner to achieve, be sure to give her lots of clitoral stimulation, along with a nice long warm up. Foreplay is of the utmost importance, so be sure to hit all her erogenous zones. Now you see why time is so important!

You’ll Know

When she does come, you will know, especially if you have penetrated all the way to the wrist. If you haven’t found her g-spot, be prepared! Being so full is bound to hit all her spots, especially if you twist your wrist lightly (instead of pumping in and out). When she starts to come, she may not want any further stimulation, and you’ll have your hands full just keeping your hand inside her! If there was every a reason to be in awe of female power, you’ll know if when you feel her muscles clamp down on your hand, and you wonder if you’ll ever get it back!

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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If you are particularly well endowed, or your lover has an especially shallow vaginal canal, you may already have experience with the variety of sensations that the cervix is capable of producing.

The cervix is the small sphincter-like opening at the deep end of the vaginal canal, acting both as a barrier and passageway to the uterus. At different stages of your wife’s menstrual cycle, her cervix can be hard and painful to touch, or soft and quite receptive. Some women may never enjoy the sensation of cervical stimulation, but for others it can be an instant orgasm hot-button! Wouldn’t you like to find out which?

Keep in mind that penetrating the cervix would not only be incredibly painful, but also incredibly dangerous. The tiny opening found there is designed to let semen in and blood out, and that’s about it. Any kind of bacteria or other material forced through the opening can cause great damage – in fact, this is why health professionals discourage any kind of penetrative “thrusting” sex in the pool or the bath, because chlorinated water can be awfully painful and damaging to the interior of the uterus. Women who have previously given birth are likely to have a slightly larger cervical opening, so even greater care is needed.

In any kind of cervical play, take it slow and play safe!

The cervix has three main properties which change throughout the cycle – size, texture, and wetness. The condition of the cervix not only predicts ovulation and other important aspects of her monthly cycle, but can tell you whether or not she will enjoy deep penetration which might come into contact with the tiny opening.

Hard Knocks and Closed Doors

At the beginning and very end of her menstrual cycle, the cervix will be mostly closed (opening only slightly during menstruation to allow for her flow). The texture of the cervix will be hard and in the absence of menstrual fluid, dry. In the first 10-14 days after the onset of menstruation, and the last 7-10 of an average 28 day cycle, it is likely that contact with the cervix will result in painful sex.

If you find that you are hitting her cervix every time you engage in intercourse, be sure you are engaging in enough foreplay. As a woman gets aroused, even in the early stages of her cycle, the vaginal canal will deepen and give you more room for thrusting. If she is still shallower than you need, putting her in a position on top will allow her more depth control.

Women who are taking hormonal birth control are likely to find themselves in a semi-permanent state of cervical rigidity, meaning that it is unlikely she will be able to experience pleasure from cervix stimulation. If this is the case, and your size is causing her pain because of it, you may want to consider alternative forms of contraception that don’t have the same hormonal effects, like Fertility Awareness or an intra-uterine device. These options are particularly helpful if low libido is also an issue, since her natural ovulatory cycle encourages an increase in stimulating sex hormones.

Soften Up and Open Sesame!

When you make it to her sweet spot, a few days to a week between her 10th and 20th day, you will notice the cervix begin to soften. The small opening begins to widen slightly. Cervical mucus is produced by the body, making the vagina and uterus a habitable pH level receptive to sperm. This process not only prepares her body for conception, but can also make it not just less painful but incredibly erotic to enjoy light cervical stimulation.

Try going in with your fingers. Pushing her legs up and back toward her head will help to shorter her vaginal canal, so you can reach. Be very gentle. You may find that while direct stimulation of the cervical opening still feels strange or even painful, there is likely to be a spot to the side of the cervix which can produce almost immediate orgasm. This isn’t the case for all women, but it is worth the search!

Slowly circle the edge of the cervical opening, moving outwards towards the vaginal walls. The cervix is likely to move to one side, and in the area left exposed you will find an incredibly sensitive spot just waiting for your careful, gentle stimulation. Don’t thrust or push, but use very small strokes. Couple this stimulation with oral or other clitoral touch and you can have her shooting through the roof… and in the very best way possible!

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

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Let’s face it. For most of us, sex in public is a fantasy relic of our teenage years when the back seat of a car was the only place we had to be even a little bit alone together. That same fantasy often lingers however, long into adulthood, when sometimes the nervous thrill from the possibility of getting caught, the heat and passion of teenage rebellion can still be used to spice up what could be a decade-old romance. Yes, sometimes all it takes to heat things up is getting outside those four walls that make up the safety of your home. Sure, everyone needs a safe place to rest their heads, but not all of us have our best sexual experiences there… at least not all the time.

Why not try something new?

Exhibitionism is a huge turn on for a large chunk of the population, and most of the rest are voyeurs! Yes, being able to see or be seen by others during our most intimate moments can be a big turn on. In fact, much of the time we don’t even need to actually be seen by another pair of eyes. Just the thought, the hint of the possibility can be enough to get your blood pumping and your heart pounding.

Whether you want to be somewhere that only feels public, you want people to see you and be completely unaware, or you really want to show off with other kinky, sexy people, there is an outlet for you somewhere out there.

Why Fingering?

Fingering comes to mind for beginner exhibitionist play because it poses significantly less risk than getting full on buck naked and getting busy. You aren’t going to get caught with your pants around your ankles and your wife doesn’t have to worry about anyone seeing her with her legs up in the air. You can both be relatively incognito and still manage to get super sexy in a variety of locations and situations.

Shy Guys

If the actual possibility of getting caught makes you both so nervous that it would certainly prevent anything interesting from happening, you will have to get a bit creative. Do you have any big windows that only face your own yard? You need to find a place that isn’t just secluded, but controlled. The highest spot in the area, somewhere locked and empty, somewhere both private and exposed. What about a motel with extra-thin walls in a part of town you never go?

You can start this date with watered-down versions of the next two sexy situations by getting handsy in public without going all the way in. If she wears a skirt, you can easily tease with your hand on her thigh without looking out of place. Run your foot between her legs. Whisper in her ear to ask her how she’s doing without any panties on under her dress. Remind her about what you have in store for her later. Make her blush!

None the Wiser

If you like the idea of folks not knowing what’s happening, it’s time to scope out some good locations where you can be low-key and relatively alone, but still a bit adventurous and exposed. Traditional Japanese restaurants with private booths are great, but anything where she can sit between you and a wall and spread her legs without exposing herself works wonderfully. Any booths are great for this if they are big enough to put you side by side. Have her go to the bathroom with her purse while you wait for drinks and remove her underwear there.

Take your time and try not to draw too much attention, but don’t be shy about making her squirm if you can get away with doing it quietly and going relatively unnoticed. She’ll be convinced all eyes are on her anyways.

Clubs and Cams

If you can’t go out to a real swingers club, the internet is your next best thing! Pay close attention and remember this always: kinky people are everywhere!

You are not a freak. You are not weird, or alone. If exhibitionism is what you crave, there is a voyeur out there for you. Join a website or two dedicated to connecting local kinksters or swingers. You don’t have to swap partners to join these groups – lots of people just love to watch and be watched. Put yourself and your desires out there (with your lover on board, of course!) and see what you can find. You may just expand your boundaries a little further than you expected.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

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The best person to give any man advice about how to finger a woman… is the woman he wants to please! Most women are experts at using their own hands to bring themselves pleasure, and if they aren’t, they certainly should be! Sex toys are wonderful, but they can’t replace the touch of skin on skin. If you really want to learn how to touch your lover’s lady parts, you need to pay attention to how she does it.

She’s Shy

Even if your wife enjoys masturbation regularly, that doesn’t mean she will automatically feel comfortable doing it in front of you. Try to make her comfortable in whatever way she needs – keep the lights off or low at first, lie beside her in bed while she masturbates under the covers so she isn’t overly exposed. Even if you can’t see or hear anything at first, just being in the room is a step in the right direction to getting her more comfortable. One step at a time. Proceed as slowly as she needs you to and don’t get pushy. This needs to feel safe and supportive if you really want to learn.

Awkward

She may or may not be the shy type… but even if she is ready and raring to go without any need for encouragement, if you’re exhibiting outward signs of awkwardness, things could go downhill fast. Try not to make a big deal out of it. If it is important to you that you learn how to touch her in just the right way, she will find it hard to argue against those reasons for getting so up close and personal! Ask her to start a regular masturbation practice that allows you to sneak a peak, get closer and closer, find out what exactly makes her tick. If you both keep in mind that this is for her pleasure, you can’t go wrong. Just remember that – don’t get so carried away enjoying the view that you forget the purpose.

Women often use the most effective methods they know of to reach orgasm quickly. You may not want to use the exact same techniques as she does, in the exact same order, but it is a safe bet that she knows the techniques it takes to bring her over the edge, if you don’t. Watch her carefully, closely. Once she’s comfortable with your presence and into your participation, you can start to speak up. Tell her how hot she looks! Ask her questions about how certain movements make her feel, about her reasons for changing pressure or direction. Keep a close eye.

The Learning Curve

If she isn’t as knowledgeable about her own pleasure centers as she may like, there is even more reason to begin a regular practice. Give her the space to explore her own body and tell you what it needs. She can find her own particularly sensitive spots easier than you, without any doubt. Give her the chance to do it!

After you have taken some time watching and learning, you will need to practice if you want to get it just right. Place with some back and forth, trying to mimic her movements for a few seconds after she shows you something that she likes. Let her hands show you the way, then see if you can make her feel as good as she can do herself.

An Understatement

Notice that most women don’t penetrate when they masturbate? This should tell you just how important the clitoris is to female pleasure, and how unimportant penetration might be. Of course, just because a woman can orgasm easily from manual clitoral stimulation doesn’t mean she doesn’t want intercourse when she’s with you! As you well know, masturbation and sex are very different processes. Learning to gain pleasure from one requires practice with the other – and it goes both ways!

Encouraging your lover to masturbate regularly is a boon. Not only does she have the opportunity to increase her own orgasmic potential and learn more about her body (while teaching you!) but it also gives you a chance to masturbate more often as well. Just as her touch can teach you, the way you touch yourself when you masturbate can be a great lesson for your lover in how you like to be touched. Don’t ignore the valuable lessons that mutual masturbation can provide!

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“Afterward she lies nestled against me, her hair tickling my face. I stroke her lightly, memorizing her body. I want her to melt into me, like butter on toast. I want to absorb her and walk around for the rest of my days with her encased in my skin.”- Sara Gruen

Rest assured, robotically moving your hand up and down her body won’t get her ready for action. If you want to achieve sex god status, you have to truly master the way you touch her lady bits. According to the pros, the secret is knowing which areas of your sexual anatomy are similar to hers.

Biologically speaking, men and women start with the same parts in the womb- which means we’re built with many common tissues and numbers of nerve endings. So if you think of her erogenous zones like some of your own when you’re stimulating her, it’s easier to understand how she feels.

For each of her key down there hot spots, I pinpoint the male part you should link it to in your mind- because either they’re constructed similarly or they just happen to respond to touch in a similar way- and provide you with some awesome new moves to try.

1. Think of the outer curve of her breast… like your shaft

Consider how it feels when she gently caresses your shaft at the beginning of foreplay. She may not be making a beeline for the obvious pleasure gold mine that is rhythmic movements to your penis, but you’re still totally turned on, right? Same goes for her breasts: touch it lightly, avoiding the nipples, and you’ll build her anticipation, making her all revved up.
Next, step up the pressure. Like your shaft, there aren’t a ton of nerves in her breasts, so they can handle a firmer grip. A woman can also get frustrated when a man is too gentle with her. That said, you can definitely be firm- don’t be afraid to grab them in your palms and stroke them with passion.

2. Think of her nipples… like your testicles

You know when your testicles get bigger and darker when you’re turned on? So do a girl’s nipples. When a man is excited, his scrotal sac fills with blood and becomes more sensitive. Likewise, when a woman becomes aroused, her nipples enlarge because they are engorged with blood. Another way her nipples are like your boys? Most guys do not appreciate being manhandled down there. Just like you don’t want her to pinch your balls to the point of pain, she prefers softish touches on her nipples.
Try these:
• As you kiss her, cradle her nipples in your palm. No need to caress- your hand’s warmth is enough.
• Lightly massage her magic buttons using your thumb and forefinger.
• Rub the flat sides of your fingernails (not the edges!) against her nipples. They’re harder, smoother and cooler than your fingertips, so it feels different.
• When you are on top and feel like she’s on the verge of climaxing, reach out and gently pull her nipples. Stretching them like this exposes more nerve endings, making her orgasm more intense.

3. Think of her pubic mound… like the base of your penis

When you take a break from stroking her clitoris with your fingers and rub her pubic mound- the round, fleshy area just above her hot button- it’s a steamy treat. That’s mainly because blood rushes there when she’s turned on, but it’s also because it stimulates her clitoral hood- the fold of skin that surrounds and protects her clitoral glans. Since it’s less sensitive, it can handle both gentle squeezes that get her ready to go and the rougher sort once you’ve built the heat. Essentially, the pubic mound is a good place to add some variety to your repertoire. Try this trick: Make your fingertip into a firm point, and trail it around the mound. Since you usually focus on the top three quarters of her vaginal area, she’ll be surprised and aroused.

4. Think of her clitoris… like the head of your penis

Her clitoris is jam-packed with millions of nerve endings, as is the tip of your member. However, if the head of your penis can take a bit more pressure- the nerves are spread over a slightly larger area- her clitoris is more sensitive. This spot is filled with nerves, so it needs to be stimulated carefully. Tease the areas around it first, and then make your way to it, building up speed as you go. But finger with caution: if you spend too much time there or are too rough too soon, she may become overstimulated, and that can be really painful for her. To keep that from happening, switch up your tactics. Don’t stick with one for more than 10 seconds or so.

5. Think of her G-spot… like your perineum

All hail the sexy G-spot. It’s the small, spongy area located about 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina that gives her one of those super-deep, way intense orgasms. A guy’s perineum, the patch of skin between your anus and testicles, is a very similar producer of body rocking inner pleasure, since it has nerves that run straight to your prostate, which is known as the male G-spot. Treat her G-spot with these fingering moves:
• As you’re stroking her clitoris with one hand, reach down and insert one finger inside her vagina, massaging her G-spot with the pad of your thumb. Roll it from one side to the other, almost like you’re giving a fingerprint.
• Do the same trick as the one described above, but while giving her oral. It’s best to use this move if you’re ready for her to finish, since the combo of oral and G-spot contact is sure to speed things up.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. In order for your fingers to really work their magic, bring a friend: lube! It will feel just like oral sex, only better, cause you’re more spot-on with your fingers. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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For women, being fingered by a partner who knows what they are doing can be one of the most pleasurable parts of sex. While technically known as manual stimulation or digital penetration, fingering is about more than just sticking your finger in a vagina. Aside from oral sex, stimulating a woman with your fingers is one of the best ways to give her intense orgasms. It is a crucial part of foreplay as it helps get her physically and emotionally ready for intercourse.

However, for many men, it seems the female vulva is one big mystery. What are the different parts? What do they do and should I touch them? When it comes to fingering techniques, they are often all thumbs.

Men have no fear: the answers are here!

Here are some things to keep in mind to give your woman ultimate pleasure through fingering techniques that are never fail:

– First, get to know her lady parts. Men seem to know about the vagina, (although the G-Spot still has many mystified) and think they know a lot about the clitoris but there is more down there waiting for touch that makes them tremble.

– Fingering a woman is about more than sticking your finger or fingers in her vagina and just moving them around. You are not trying to dig your way to China and it is not a race.

– Women are more than their vagina’s and as such receive pleasure through more than having their vagina fingered. An awesome fact about a woman’s lady parts is that it feels good to have them ALL touched. Do you really want to impress your partner? Then go for more than her clitoris and vagina. Touch her whole vulva. Use your fingers to caress her labia gently and slowly to help her build her arousal.

– It’s not a taint on a woman. You know that area behind a guy’s testicles but before his anus? Often referred to as the “taint”? Most men love to have the taint touched. Women have an area between the vagina and anus too and men should get to know it because a lot of women get very hot when it is stroked.

– While you are back there, consider the back door. In all seriousness many women get off on anal stimulation. This is something that needs to be taken slowly. Use plenty of water based lubricant and never go from anus to vagina without washing your hands. The last thing you want to do is transfer bacteria that are in the anal area to the vagina. Instead of an orgasm you could leave your partner with a vaginal infection. In fact, for any type of fingering make sure your hands are clean and your nails are trimmed. Jagged edges are not a vulva’s friend. For anal play it might be a good idea to start with a small finger like your pinky and take your cues from her about how deep, how fast or how intense to get.

– Pay attention to the clitoris. Women have mind blowing orgasms from the right kind of clitoral stimulation. Remember the clitoris is usually snug in its clitoral hood and as a woman becomes more aroused the hood pulls back much like a man’s foreskin. Also similar to the penis, when aroused, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood and erect making it very sensitive to touch. Try making circular, up and down and side to side motions with your finger. Use a dab of lube on your fingertip at first to help ensure things are smooth. Start slow and gradually get faster. Many men seem to think the clitoris is like a pencil eraser and use the “rub out” technique like they are trying to erase something on their finger. That just doesn’t do it.

– Go for the Gold. Of course the gold is the G-Spot. The holy grail of fingering. The elusive spot that when found usually means you have to peel a woman off the ceiling. Insert your finger in the vagina about 1/3 of the way up. Slowly move your finger like you are making a “come here” (no pun intended) gesture. As you do this, move your finger up higher in the vagina. The G-Spot is usually located between the top of the first 1/3 and 2/3 of the vagina on the “roof” of the vagina. She will be able to tell you when you hit it. Then it is just a matter of finding out how she likes her G-Spot to be touched. This calls for simple experimentation. The good news is that means lots of sexual activity. Try altering the amount of pressure and speed with which you make the “come here” gesture.

The thing you don’t want to do is just move your finger in and out of the vagina like a penis. Remember, women usually do not orgasm from intercourse so trying to reproduce it with our finger doesn’t really make an impact.

As with anything that has to do with sex, the key is communication. Ask your partner what feels good and take direction with an open mind. Follow these simple tips and soon your fingers will be doing the walking.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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One of the most important things a man can do to guarantee his partner sexual pleasure is to know how to make the best use of his fingers. Good fingering techniques are an essential part of not only giving her sexual pleasure but getting her ready for even greater sexual pleasure. Also, it just plain feels good.

Fingering Has Its Purpose

The most obvious reason for fingering a woman is as a part of foreplay to give sexual pleasure. Believe me when I say being on the receiving end of a good fingering is an amazing sexual experience. Women can have intense orgasms from fingering.

However, another important purpose of fingering is to actually get a woman’s vagina ready to accommodate your penis. In order to have a penis it in, the vagina has to open up from its closed, un-aroused state and have sufficient lubrication or be wet. Fingering accomplishes both of these goals by enhancing arousal which makes the vagina open and elongate for a penis and become wetter as more lubrication is produced.

Why Use One When Two Are Available?

Most men start fingering a woman with just one finger. This may be necessary when working on the vagina since, as I said it needs to be opened up for sexual activity. However, once arousal starts you can make it take off like a rocket ship by using another finger. Insert two fingers into her vagina and push up to hit her G-Spot and watch her squirm with delight.

Remember you are not limited to one finger when it comes to the clitoris either. Here is where you can really surprise her with some serious pleasure. Most women are expecting just one finger to pay attention to their clitoris. When you start out using two you can double her pleasure. Take both of your fingers and rub her clitoris. Go in circles. Take her clitoris in between your fingers and move your fingers up and down in opposite directions.

In and Out and All Around

Do not underestimate the power of vaginal stimulation. Giving her the right kind of vaginal stimulation can make her beg to have you inside of her. When you insert your finger or fingers inside of her, try thinking of it like the hokey pokey. Put them in put them out and move them all about. You can simulate intercourse with your fingers. You can also insert your finger or fingers inside of her and them move them in a circular motion. These are just two examples of other ways to drive her wild with vaginal stimulation aside from going after the G-Spot.

Palms and Heels Can Make a Big Impression

One thing a lot of men don’t think about it how they can use their palms or the heels of their hands. Rubbing the palm against the clitoris and up and down the labia is intensely hot. Using the heel of your hand to rub the clitoris while your fingers are in her vagina can really put her over the orgasm edge. Fingering is actually about more than fingers. Use your whole hand to give her pleasure.

Two Hands Are Better Than One

You may think it takes someone of expert fingering level and experience to use both hands while fingering a woman but the truth is anyone can do it. In fact, there are so many pleasure spots in the female genital area using both hands is probably the hottest thing you can do. One amazingly hot thing to think about doing is to take one hand and use it to insert your finger or fingers into her vagina and then use your free hand to provide stimulation everywhere else at the same time. Use your free hand to stimulate her clitoris, rub her labia and anal area. If you want to really go for broke use your free hand and insert a finger into her anus while your other hand has its fingers in her vagina. Don’t forget about your thumb. It can be a very useful tool to stimulate her clitoris too.

Let Her Tell You How it is

Take your cues from your partner. Women use their bodies and their voices to express sexual pleasure even if they do not realize it. Pay attention. Does she moan in pleasure with certain stimulation? When you touch her in a certain way does she move and squirm and try to bring you in close or does she try to back away? These are all things to think about when assessing if you are giving her what she wants or not catching on.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Sweetheart, now you know you can accomplish so much by using a few relaxation methods while pleasuring her with your hands. For even more advanced techniques on the fine art of fingering, I invite you to check out my intensive course on the matter — Flirting Fingers — and become a true expert!

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“Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure. Ours is an entertainment seeking-nation, but not necessarily a pleasure-seeking one. This is the cause of that great sad American stereotype – the overstressed executive who goes on vacation, but who cannot relax.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

In movies or erotic books, men are able to send their partners directly to O-town with just a couple of quick thrusts. That’s all well and good for the fictional characters, but for those of us who are real, flesh and blood people, orgasms aren’t always as easy. Whether you’re having less-than-satisfying sex with your partner or are frequently on the edge of giving her the maximum pleasure only to have her orgasm disappear faster than you can say „Ryan Gosling, you’re full of it”, many couples can relate to pleasuring issues.

Training your body to respond well sexually is a bit like training your body to be an athlete. We often don’t think about sex like that – we think that it’s something everyone can do and that it should be easy. But if you want to have and give great orgasms, you need to work at it.

That’s why I’m sending you to pleasure school – I guarantee you’ll like the homework and the end result is way better than any diploma!

Lesson #1

Practice makes perfect

Experts agree that masturbation is the first step to great orgasms. Practicing on herself is crucial. Once she can become orgasmic with herself, it’s going to be a lot easier for your partner to have an orgasm with you. This is partly because she discovers what works for her and can share that with you, and also because masturbation trains the body to get used to having orgasms. If she hasn’t had many orgasms before, learning how to give herself a clitoral orgasm is a great place to start.

Lesson #2

Share the self-love around

Don’t save the self-love for when you’re alone! Stimulating her clitoris while she is with you is essential because most women can’t climax just from penetration. Women often wonder, “Why can’t I come when he’s inside me?”, but the majority of women also require clitoral stimulation during sex, either with her hand, your hand or a vibrator. So don’t shy away, treat her with a considerable amount of fingering and she’ll be moaning like they do in the movies.

Lesson #3

Tone it up

The other orgasm homework you should both be doing? Pelvic floor exercises. A toned pelvic floor leads to great orgasms. The stronger those muscles are, the better the sex is going to be. Pelvic floor exercises aren’t just for older women or new mothers – all women should do pelvic floor exercises every day. And men as well, since it leads to lasting way longer in bed. Just squeeze and release the muscles you use when you’re trying to stop the flow or urine.

Lesson #4

Observe mindfulness

According to the experts, staying in the moment during sex is what takes the experience from so-so to “Oh! Oh!”. It’s important to get out of your head and into your body, especially in the case of women. To have a great orgasm she needs to let the mental chatter go, stop worrying about whether you’re having a good time or what her body looks like and just lose herself in the pleasure. Orgasm is not an outcome of pleasure and, while it might sound paradoxical, focusing on the pleasure rather than stressing about whether you’re going to have an orgasm is the best way to have one.

Lesson #5

Forget about faking it

Not only is she short-changing herself by faking it (if you think you’re onto a winning formula, you’ll keep dishing up the same moves, which is totally logical) but she’s also short-changing you. Men want to make their girl happy in bed. A lot of girls are afraid of telling guys what feels good, but you can help her do so with positive reinforcement and questions in order to know which touches go the right way. The focus of sex should be turning yourselves on; that’s how you’ll learn to seduce an orgasm out of yourselves!

Tonight’s homework

Learn the importance of “beforeplay” to set the scene prior to getting started on foreplay. Light candles, play music, read some erotic fiction – do whatever it takes to get you in the mood so that you’re both simmering with anticipation. If you rush into clitoral stimulation or penetration before she’s ready, it’ll take your partner a lot longer to orgasm or she might not get there at all.
Try to keep your breathing steady and breathe out through your mouth as the intensity increases. Being aware of your breathing also helps to keep you in the present and focused on what you’re feeling. Both of you.
Want extra course credit? Once you’ve got to O-town, practice learning how to achieve multiple orgasms. After you have gotten your partner to climax, try leaving your hand over her clitoris and start stimulating her gently, helping her be aware of all the subtle sensations she’s experiencing.

Have a seductive week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Preparing her body for extra pleasure is way easier when you have a good hand, so don’t hesitate to make good use of it. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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