“An intellectual is a person who’s found one thing that’s more interesting than sex.” – Aldous Huxley

On paper, so right. Between the sheets – not so much. Where did it all go wrong? Bad sex is one of life’s unfortunate realities. But when it’s your first time getting naked with a new girl, how do you give your hook-up some va-va-voom? I home in on the four most common sexual disasters and recommend simple ways to de-cringe them, so you can both have the sex that you deserve.

Uncomfortable – Drunken Disaster

While you were down at the pub, all those shots of tequila seemed like the best idea in the world, right? But once you’re home, somewhere between the sloppy kisses and eager hands, you realize this boozy hook-up is never going to be good for either part involved. Plus, that one tequila too many make you struggle harder than ever to get a rise of… you know, and your partner is giving signs of admitting defeat.

How to fix it: We all experience drunken fumbles at least once in our lives. In order to not store it under the “most embarrassing sex memory of my life”, all you have to do is relax into it. Make pleasure the goal, not the orgasm. Stop looking with blurry eyes for signs of ready-to-climax. Sometimes it’s nice to just fall into a snooze together. Or, if you’re feeling up to it, stop and watch a bit of comedy together (while drinking plenty of water to diffuse the booze) and then give it another shot.

Awkward – Let-down lover

You’re about to have sex with your new woman and after weeks of flirty banter, the anticipation is killing you. But she’s frustratingly timid in bed. She knows it wasn’t great and you both feel really disappointed. The silence is growing bigger and bigger and you don’t really know what you should be doing. Her eyes might well up in any second and all you can think of is getting dressed and going home to chill with a beer and forget all about it.

How to fix it: Don’t write her off after one try. It might just be the nerves getting the best of her. Nobody knows what to do right from the first go, especially since we’re all so different when it comes to the pleasures we take from sex and how our bodies are built. At first we all just try what we know worked with the person before and wish for the best. Explore her body in the way you would like to be touched and she’ll soon swiftly move on to your satisfaction.

Embarrassing – Try-too-hard tryst

Sex with someone new can be nerve racking, but in a bid to make it amazing you pull out all your moves – and she looks scared! Now you’re feeling about as sexy as the on socks on the bedroom floor. And, what’s even more baffling, you don’t know what you did wrong. After all, you tried your best routine and pulled out all the aces from both of your sleeves.

How to fix it: That’s precisely the problem. It’s like when you’re eating. You don’t need to have a taste at all the delicacies in the world in one go. You have to try them one at a time to fully enjoy the experience. Watch how she reacts when you initiate new positions. Does she look like you’ve just strangled a cute fluffy bunny or is she closing her eyes and moaning in delight? Thus you’ll see if she’s not comfortable and you can either step it down a notch or back off altogether and try something new. Sometimes it’s best to save your signature move for a later date.

Seriously!? – Prankster encounter

The lights are down low; the sexy tunes are on. But just as she starts to remove your underwear, the girl you’re with gives your penis a playful squeeze and lets out a “honk”. Mood (and your mojo) gone, and to top things off, given her attitude, you start to doubt she’s even eighteen. What is this girl doing!?

How to fix it: She could be covering up her anxiety and thinking that a bit of humor will liven things up, or maybe she’s inexperienced or her previous boyfriend was into it and she thinks all guys are. Get her in a serious mode by locking her gaze until it feels intense, and you both feel a connection. And take the lead as far as what you’re doing between the sheets is concerned. She’ll silently get the message and succumb to your method.

Have a splendid week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Whatever the situation you’re in, talking it off with an honest approach will always make things better for both parties involved. Sometimes it’s all just one big misunderstanding. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“Women are always complaining about men’s fascination with breasts. But what if men were absolutely indifferent to breasts? What would women do then with these things that serve one function once or twice in a lifetime, and the rest of the time are just in the way?” – Jonathan Carroll

Her twins called, and they told me they’re feeling a little neglected. So I rounded up a bunch of super-sexy tricks just for them. If these don’t skyrocket her pleasure (and have you drowning in drool), I don’t know what will.

Tease her ta-tas

At the end of a night out, walk up to her and brush your chest against her boobs very purposely.
While she’s wearing a lace bra, graze your fingertips over the material. The texture of the lace is slightly rough, so when you touch her through it, they’ll perk up.
Strip her naked from the waist up, but leave on that necklace of hers with a chain long enough to reach her breasts. Use the pendant to stroke her twins – the cool metal against her warm skin will feel so amazing.
Give her a butterfly kiss… on her breasts. Bat your eyelashes against the supersensitive underside of her breasts. It will tickle, but in a really wonderful way.
Trace her nipples with minty lip balm, and then blow on them. This creates a sexy, cooling sensation that’s sure to give her erotic shivers.
For slow, delicious torture, twirl your tongue in circles around one of her breasts, gradually making the circles smaller and smaller. Stop right before you reach the center of her nipple.
Blindfold her before you drizzle her chest with a warm liquid, like chocolate sauce. Not knowing when the substance will hit her skin builds anticipation, so when it finally does, it will feel more amazing than the usual.
Squeeze her boobs together and slide your hand sideways between them. You’ll be thinking of what else you can wiggle into that snug little crevice, which is a total appetite-whetter.

Ultra-tantalizing touches

The palm is the softest part of your hand. While she’s on top, lay your open hand over her nipples and rub in quick circles. The smoothness of your skin feels eyes-rolling-in-the-back-of-her-head incredible.
Slip on a pair of her super-luxe cashmere gloves before running your hands over her bare breasts.
In missionary, hold each nipple between your fingers and gently tug on them. It’s a sexy sensation and total eye candy for her.
Trace figure eights along the sides of her breasts, right beneath the armpits. An extremely sensitive nerve is located there that you definitely want to activate.
A tapping motion is a good way to switch up the type of touch you use. Tap the area around her nipples with your pointer finger. Use your knuckles gently to knead the tops, sides and undersides of her breasts.
Place your hands on her boobs, press down on them firmly, and move them in really slow, tight circles.
In the shower, squirt a creamy body wash over her girls and slather them up. I predict you’ll get her chest cleaner than it’s ever been in her whole life.
It’s time to introduce her breasts to her favorite vibrator (how rude of her vagina to have hogged it all these years!).
Keep her bra on before having sex, but pull down the straps to loosen up the fit. As you thrust in missionary, her breasts will be pushed out of the cups. The half-dressed look creates a sense of urgency, which is so friggin’ hot.
If you two are going at it vigorously in doggie-style, reach up and place a palm so that her nipple is barely making contact with it – every time her breasts jiggles, she’ll get a sexy little nip massage.

Have a smoking hot week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. She’ll be so surprised and pleased you are dedicating so much attention to her breasts, rather than her down there region, that she’ll be more than eager to do the same to your body. What goes around, comes around! If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“Love is just a system for getting someone to call you darling after sex.” – Julian Barnes

The show’s over, but what about the encore, the things that you, willingly or not, do after you roll off of each other and call it a day. I reveal the worst post-sex faux pas and what you should actually be doing after giving each other the well-deserved orgasms. You don’t want to screw up right at the end, now do you?

There’s a moment after sex that I’ve named The Black Widow Spider. It is when the deed is done, everybody is exhausted and, out of the multiple options available to you, you pick the most off-putting things to do. You fall asleep before you even get the chance to look her in the eye lovingly and thankfully. You say things that aren’t meant to be said in such delicate moments. You turn around and grab the remote for some late night news, leaving her linger in the wet spot, all alone, counting the cracks on your walls. Sure, there aren’t any rules for hanging out post-coitus, but there are a few odd ones that can take a bite out of the mood and leave you both feeling awkward and disappointed. Here’s what you’re doing wrong (as harmless as these acts may seem, they hurt your partner’s feelings in ways that you can’t even begin to imagine) and what you should be doing instead.

Showering immediately. The person you’ve slept with has summoned the courage to be intimate with another human, she’s exposed her body and soul to you. By jumping out of bed and taking a shower, you’ve made her ask the worst question a person can ask themself: “Am… am I… stinky?” And you know how self-conscious women can get about these kinds of things. They want everything to be perfect. They shave, they put on perfume, the slather lotions all over their bodies and they can’t accept that all their efforts were actually in vain and that you weren’t left with the impression that they smell better than a field of roses. So stay in bed for a little while, at least half an hour, and then go to wash yourself.
Saying “thank you”. Pillow talk based on gratitude is tricky. Make your thanks too heartfelt and the girl may feel like she’s become some kind of sex charity (which might appear awesome for you, but doesn’t help her self-esteem much). Make it too specific and she might feel you were doing her a favor. Also, women are bound to question everything, so if you’re too eager to thank her for her “services”, she might start thinking there something else lurking behind your kind words. Insincerity, maybe? Just say that you felt great and that you hope she did too. There’s no need to extend praises too much, a woman’s sixth sense will pick on that in a heartbeat.
Leaving stuff at her place. It’s three days later and the phone rings. “Hey, did I leave my tie there? It should be on the bedside table. Can I come over and get it?” Inventing a reason to come over is straight out of high school. It’s obvious, it’s sneaky, and it’s way too tempting to reply with “No, let’s meet at a coffee shop and I’ll bring it to you”. If you’ve had sex once, let her decide if she wants a rerun, otherwise, you’ll put her in the awkward position of finding ways to say no to you.
Making comparisons. Few women really want to know about the other people you’ve been with. When it comes to sex, most of us don’t want to go to the Olympics, we just want a personal best. Comparing us is like holding up a scoreboard and making us wonder if we’ll get a medal – it’s strange to say the least, it’s alarming and can you imagine the sheer heartbreak of going home with the bronze?

Have a fun week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you want to say something nice post sex, stick to complimenting her looks, but don’t stare too much, she’ll start feeling uncomfortable once the arousal fades out. If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“I haven’t trusted polls since I read that 62% of women had affairs during their lunch hour. I’ve never met a woman in my life who would give up lunch for sex.” – Erma Bombeck

There’s so much advice out there about how to please your partner. But guess what? You don’t have to try nearly as hard as you think to turn a woman on. Everywhere you look, there’s a new list of tips on how to ‘Drive her wild’. The message they send? ‘Hey, boys, if you’d only try harder, she’ll like you more.’ But actually, most women I know are pretty simple and straightforward in their bedroom expectations. Are you a guy? Okay, good. You’re 99% of the way there. All that crazy advice is, well, crazy to a lot of women. Like these doozies.

Join her in her pre-work morning shower

A woman’s gut reaction: Oh, you mean the only 10 minutes of alone time I get all day?

Why it’s not that sexy: Sex in the shower can be a divisive issue. Taking it to her pre-work morning shower ups the ante. This might be the only time all day a woman isn’t dying for sex. As my friend D (yes, she goes by D) says, ‘There’s nothing like getting ready for work with a round of awkward shower sex. Unless you have a sit in there, shower sex is never as fun as it sounds. Who gets to stand under the water? And she can’t like it when you go down on her and there’s hot water blasting her in the face.’ Sure makes the climax kind of anticlimactic.

Strongly hint that you’re in the mood, then play hard to get and make her work at seducing you.

A woman’s gut reaction: Just what a girl wants when she gets home from work: more work.

Why it’s not that sexy: The chase is a game for those who’ve just met. When you’re in a new relationship, you’re so excited, you’ll try anything. I once spent three weeks eating at vegan restaurants just because a guy was cute (and vegan). Of course, I’d grab a cheeseburger afterward. But still, that’s working for it. One of the great perks of a long-term relationship is sure-thing sex. As my buddy Jenna puts it, ‘If you’ve been in the relationship for a while, this tip amounts to cruel and unusual punishment.’ We worked hard to catch you in the first place, so let’s just enjoy the fruits of our labor.

Make love in front of a mirror so you can see every erotic angle of each other’s bodies.

A woman’s gut reaction: It’s the non-erotic angles we’re afraid of.

Why it’s not that sexy: Maybe a woman in amazing shape wouldn’t dread this tip quite as much as most do. But even my athletic friend Brad, says, ‘I’m not crazy about it. It seems distracting.’ When you’re scrutinizing every bit of action unfolding in the mirror, you’ll likely see some seriously unsexy angles. Unless you’ve both discussed and agreed to it or it’s 1977 and a mirror is hanging on the ceiling above your waterbed, forget the whole reflection thing. It’s too hard to get lost in the moment when you’re watching what you’re butt looks like in every position.

Wear a shirt with a million little buttons and sloooly undo them while she watches. 

A woman’s gut reaction: Is it cool if I watch Grey’s Anatomy till you finish?

Why it’s not that sexy: This sounds more goofy than sexy. Sure, most girls enjoy the surprise of a striptease of some sort from their man, but there’s a reason strippers don’t wear shirts like that. Namely, there are a few things less hot than unbuttoning a million buttons. Girls like it when you take off your clothes, but it’s better if it doesn’t take half an inning to get to the main event.

Stick a silk scarf in her bag with a note that reads, “You’re going to need this later tonight.”

A woman’s gut reaction: Why, is it going to be cold out?

Why it’s not that sexy: Unless she’s (1) Stevie Nicks or (2) dating Steven Tyler, silk scarves have no place at sexy-time. The same goes for most supposedly sex props: red light bulbs, geisha costumes. It’s not the prop that counts; it’s you, up for fun, that’s the real exciting part. Most of women don’t know what make of silk scarves and all that stuff, and the last thing you want in bed is for her to be confused.

So here’s the thing. Women, like men, don’t require fancy moves or costumes to get turned on. We’re simple creatures with simple needs, just like you. We like gestures that show us you care, and we like it when you shows our presence is enough to make sure sex is great.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Also, buying her a super-pricey, super-vampy lingerie number is not on her hot and heavy to do list. It makes her think you want her to be another person altogether or that her body is not hot enough. I invite you to check out my intensive course on the matter — Flirting Fingers — and become a true expert!

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“Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.” – Marilyn Monroe

To keep your sack sessions scorching, I came up with get-it-on venues you’ve probably never tried. Chances are, you’ve had your fair share of out-of-the-bedroom experiences – booty in the bathtub, getting it on in your card. But in the name of erotic exploration, I have come up with lusty locales you may have yet to discover. Incorporating a new venue into your routine can stimulate your sex life and keep it exciting, so add these original hot spots to your places “to do it” list… Just make sure no one’s looking.

A golf course. When on the green, take time-out for a… hole in one. Explore the outskirts of the course for a thunderstorm shelter. These shed-like structures are usually placed in remote areas and, unless it starts to pour, no one’s going near them. You may also want to have your girlfriend sport a cute little golf skirt to allow for easy access.

In front of the fridge. Kitchen carnal action may be nothing new to you, but the icebox might be uncharted territory. Open the door to the refrigerator and sit on the floor with your back against the cool shelves. Then have your partner straddle you. Not only will the cool air give you both a thrill (you’ll surely perk up!), but you can also incorporate food into your frisky play.

A rowboat. Turn an ordinary day by the lake into an erotic excursion. Rent a boat and row it out to a remote area free of people. Once there, get into missionary position – which allows you both to stay low and out of view – and try to make some waves.

The hood of your car. You can put a new spin on this classic hookup spot by getting out of the backseat. Spread a blanket on the hood and have an old-school romp under the stars.

A farmer’s field. Take a little inspiration from the movie Match Point and have sex in the tall grass you see by the side of the road when you’re taking a spin in the country. You’ll be hidden while you enjoy a roll in the hay.

A sleeping compartment on a train. If you’ve ever wanted to make out in a moving vehicle, a train is the way to go. You’ll have to pay a little extra to get your own berth, but you can use the private area as your exclusive passion playground. All aboard!

On a hike. To get it on in the great outdoors without having to lie down in the dirt, search for a big boulder you can hide behind so you’re not visible from the trail. With her back against the rock and her legs wrapped around your waist, you can enjoy stand-up nooky as well as the scenery.

An exercise bench. If your partner has a home gym, use it to work up a sweat. The bench is the right balance of firm and soft, plus it puts you in perfect alignment for girl-on-top sex. Lie down, then have her lower herself on top of you, using her legs to move up and down.

Have an interesting week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was ‘the man goes on top and the woman underneath.’ For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds.” – Joan Rivers

The fact that your partner is finding ways to satisfy herself is great – even if it sometimes requires a household appliance (what can I say, I’ve learned that women’s pleasure is quite tricky). But always using the same technique when she masturbates can prevent her for climaxing with you, if she gets accustomed to that specific type of pleasuring. I have the fix, so read on.

Julie has amazing orgasms. The catch? They’re with her vacuum cleaner. “One time, I was straddling it and noticed it felt good. The intense vibrations against my clitoris sent me over the edge and it has become the only way I can get off”, she says. Julie’s technique is unique, but experts say the fact that she can have an orgasm only one way isn’t that rare. Many women train their bodies to climax with a specific move and then have a hard time reaching orgasm when they can’t get those sensations from a guy. Since finishing with you is the ideal resolve to any sexy romp, I got tips on getting the same feelings when you’re having sex together.

What she needs… Grinding. Whether it’s rubbing against a piece of furniture or the palm of her hand, the reason women rely on this move is because of the allover friction it creates. The larger the area she stimulates (for example her whole down there region), the more nerves she arouses and the better chance she has at climaxing more powerful. In order for her to get the same type of sensation with you, make a tweak to the missionary position. Rather than lying between her knees, have her keep her legs closed and together as you enter her. The top of your shaft will rub against her clitoris, creating that same oh-my-gawd friction. You can also achieve this with a good and hard cunnilingus session. The catch: lick, suck and lightly bite her everywhere down there, don’t just focus on the clitoris or the labia. Start by creating large figures of eight with your tongue and move to licking every inch of her vaginal area: no exception. She’ll be moaning and climaxing in no time.
What she needs… Strong vibrations. Powerful tremors – like the kind created by a vibrator or, er, vacuum cleaner – are the number one sensation women get hooked on. The reason: her clitoris has feel-good nerve endings that fan out around the vagina. So even if she puts just the tip of the vibrator on one spot, the buzzing sends tingles throughout all the neural pathways. To mimic this during your sexual act together, you’ll have to bring a vibrator into bed with you. Pick a position that gives you easy access to her clitoris, like doggie-style. As you thrust, use a pocket rocket – the smaller it is, the less threatened you’ll be – on her hot spot. Not only will she get the same sensations she’s used to, but you will also be moving inside her –which makes for an even more passionate finish.
What she needs… Running water. Remember that scene in American Reunion where Alyson Hannigan’s character passes up sex for a solo session with her showerhead? That’s because it provides the perfect amount of pressure against a woman’s C-spot, while warm water boosts blood flow to her genitals. To re-create these elements together, you’ll need a bottle of warming lube. Add a dime-size amount to your penis, and have her climb on top, leaning forward as she moves up and down. She can control the pressure on her clitoris, just like she does in the tub. Plus, the lube increases blood flow in the same way and the fact that it gets warmer and warmer will resemble the feeling she gets from the hot water. The end result: a hot as hell finale.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you don’t know what kind of self-pleasuring she uses, ask her. In order for her to dare to fess up, tell her about your masturbation techniques. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about fingering CLICK HERE NOW!

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“To me sex is sex and I don’t think it is or should be a problem. Maybe my presenting it that way will unscrew up a few heads out there, including my own.” – Jaime Hernandez

You’ve likely never discussed self-pleasuring with your partner. But you’re lucky enough to have me! I went there and got women to spill the beans on how they make themselves happy. You don’t need me to tell you that masturbating can be an awesome release. But there is a benefit you may not have considered: learning what kind of touches her body likes and responds to can help you hit the big O more easily while having sex. To put you on that path, I’ve asked readers to share their hot hands-on techniques (I know you’ve always been curious about how your practices compare). Turns out women are a creative bunch! Read on for erotic inspiration.

“First, I take a long, hot shower and use a vanilla-scented body wash. Then I go to my bedroom, light candles, put on sexy music, and rub lotion over my entire body. Finally, I begin touching myself. Starting slowly gets me really excited and ready for an orgasm.” – Roslyn

“Instead of lying flat on my back, I prefer to lie on my stomach. Then I slip my fingers underneath my body and down below, and go to work. Being on my tummy creates a tighter sensation and allows me to feel every ripple of pleasure much more strongly.” – Jessica

“Occasionally, I have a hard time working myself up. So I like to put a little dollop of lube on two fingers. Then I make light circles around my clitoris. As I get more excited, I add more pressure… and the extra lubrication makes it really smooth. Right before I climax, I flex my Kegel muscles – it usually sends me right over the edge.” – Dana

“When I’m almost at the point of reaching an orgasm, I grab the phone and dial my boyfriend. I love telling him what I am in the middle of doing. It instantly gets him excited, and he loves listening to me have fun with myself. Knowing he’s privy to my personal plans is an extra turn-on for me too.” – Elaine

“I am all about using a vibrator when my guy isn’t around. I set it on medium to high speed and put it directly on my clitoris. When I’m on the brink of climaxing, I move it so just the very tip enters my vagina. That always gives me a really powerful ending.” – Tammy

“I have a detachable showerhead that works wonders. The warm water and steady pressure are all it takes. I prop up one leg on the edge of the tub and point the spray between my legs. Every once in a while, I will bring the spray up to my nipples and then lower it back down to arouse other parts of my body.” – Brenda

“I have a really hard time getting myself in the mood. It helps if I watch an extra-hot movie scene with a sexy leading man. I particularly like the library scene between Keira Knightley and James McAvoy in Atonement.” – Elise

“Getting in the right position is the most important thing. I have to be comfortable and able to do my thing at the same time. I like to lean back in a big, cushy armchair instead of lying down completely horizontal on my bed. Being more upright keeps me focused on what I’m doing and makes it easier for me to reach down and touch all my hot spots.” – Susan

“My apartment has a luxurious whirlpool tub in the bathroom. I like to put the jets on high, sit so I am about a foot away from them, and then open my legs so the water streams shoot straight at my clitoris.” – Karla

“I prefer to use a tapping motion. I put my middle and pointer fingers together as I were checking my pulse, and then I gently start to tap them over my clitoris. I go fast or slow and change the pressure depending on how quickly I want to reach my peak.” – Kim

“I straddle the arm of my couch and ride it. I like moving my pelvis back and forth, and sometimes I even move my hips up and down. It feels almost exactly like rubbing up against my guy.” – Pam

“A few light tugs on my labia feel incredible and help get me excited enough to continue with some more intense stroking.” – Samantha

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. In order to see which technique works better on your partner, dare her to show you. In order for her to comply, you have to show your own moves in return. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“Some things are better than sex, and some are worse, but there’s nothing exactly like it.” – W. C. Fields

Let’s talk about sex. It’s one of the between-the-sheet experiences you sometimes chat with your buddies about. In detail. And while it’s not always great (read: can be pretty average), there’s still something firework-y about it that absolutely requires a recap over cans of beer. Sometimes though, weird stuff happens that leaves you feeling anxious, embarrassed and certainly not in a sharing mood (some things are simply not Sunday brunch appropriate). That’s where I come in. Whether you’re flipping out over last night’s mishap or you just want some hard science to explain what’s going on down there, I’ve got you covered so next time you can just laugh it off – and continue getting down to business.

1. Your partner feels like she really, seriously needs to pee.

This one’s tricky because it can be for one of two reasons: either you’re hitting the jackpot and stimulating her G-spot, causing what the experts like to call “female ejaculation” (in which case, good ‘ol props to you!), or thanks to a combo of sexual positions (you athlete, you!), your penis is putting pressure on her bladder, causing that need-to-pee sensation.

Her best bet to avoid this feeling is to go to the bathroom before hitting the sack. If the urge is still there once things are heating up, press pause and let her make a beeline for the loo. Sure, it might slow the momentum – but it’s better than letting that wet-the-bed complex completely kill your vibe.

If you find this happening to her more often than not, be aware that some positions can enhance the feeling, like when you’re having sex doggie-style, when she’s on top and when you’re on top and her pelvis is slightly lifted.

2. An actual, legit headache comes on.

Yes, there really is such a thing as a sex headache. Really. There we were thinking that sex relieves tension (which in most cases it does), but sometimes it can actually bring on pain. Generally, it’s a dull ache in your head or neck that builds as sexual excitement mounts. And sometimes the headache can come quite suddenly, accompanying an orgasm, especially in the case of women.

Sex headaches are a well-recognized type of exercise headache, and there’s medication you both can take to help. They’re usually nothing to worry about, but see your doctor if they begin abruptly of it it’s the first headache like this you’ve experienced, as it could be a sign of an underlying problem with the blood vessels in the brain.

3. Your partner farts (or “varts”)

There she was being all sultry and elusive, and BAM – she farts. And it’s not just her average gas-passing either. The scientific term for it is “vaginal flatulence”, a fancy name for air being released through the vagina. To be clear, it’s not the same thing as passing gas (that’s why it doesn’t smell) and it’s caused by air getting trapped in the vagina. Frequent switching of positions may increase it, but unfortunately there’s no real way to stop it from happening altogether. If your partner experiences vaginal flatulence, try laughing and making her feel less embarrassed about it. Great sex depends on how much fun you have. You’re certainly not the first to have had this happen, and you won’t be the last.

4. Your mind starts to wander

Not at all because you’re not into it, but because you have roughly 14 million other things running through your head. Often when we put our minds to something, we’re already subconsciously thinking about all the other things on our to-do list: buying toilet paper, remembering birthdays, etc. During sex, all of our senses are heightened: touch, smell, sight – everything. If you’re getting distracted, you might want to check in and see if your partner is feeling the same way. Women are prone to multitask even in the sack, and most men can pick up on this and start thinking about other things as well. So while she’s thinking of anything and everything, your mind wanders as well. Refocus on the task at hand – and indulge in a sex fantasy if you’re still distracted.

5. It’s bone-dry down there

Rushing through foreplay and jumping straight to the main event means you will not pass go and you certainly won’t collect $200 (you’ll also leave your partner sore and at risk of a yeast infection). Lubrication is her body’s way of telling you that she is turned on. While there’s no real rule when it comes to wetness (each woman lubricates differently), normally you’ll know when she’s good to go. There’s no harm in having some lubricant on hand too, for those times when she needs a little extra help getting started. Of course, even if she’s fully covered in the excitement department, a few drops of lube can make her climax next-level. And we’re all for that.

Have a sweet week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Talk to your partner about all of these. She wants you to enjoy it as much as her, and if that means a good ‘ol talk, she’ll definitely be on board. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“If God had intended us to have copious amounts of dirty, immoral sex, he would have given us genitals that fit together and made sex feel amazing. Oh, wait…”

Women reveal their desert-island sex position – the one they just couldn’t live without. (Warning: Contains persuasive opinions. You may need to cancel your plans for tonight.)

Spooning

“This was introduced to me by a boyfriend – it’s a natural way to start getting sexual when you’re in bed together, as men love letting you know they’re in the mood by pressing their groin into you. I like it because it’s a loving position – there’s full body contact and it makes the sex slower and more sensual.”

Sex in this position lasts longer and makes a woman’s orgasm more intense. It’s also great for stimulating her G-spot, and while you’re penetrating her, you can play with her breasts and clitoris. It’s also great for when you’re worn out from previous sessions, but still feel up for another round!

Max it: Roll over so you’re on your back with your partner on top, then place your hand on her clitoris and work her against at and your groin simultaneously.

Doggie-style

“As a feminist, I struggled with doggie-style in my early twenties, believing it was gender oppressive. But once I developed a healthy sexual attitude and felt more comfortable in my own skin, I realized it could be incredibly pleasurable. For me, doggie-style is great to exercise non-verbal sex talk with your partner. It eliminates eye contact and encourages sexual negotiation through the thrusting of your hips and pelvis.”

Benefits include maneuverability for clitoral stimulation, and women can control the penetration with the positioning of their arms and hips – great for achieving mutual climax.”

Max it: This position is perfect for manual clitoral and breast stimulation.

Girl on top

“This is the best position for easy orgasms and it’s the only way I can come without the help of a vibrator. The first time I tried it was with a friend I was visiting at university. I’d had other sexual partners but had never climaxed. I straddled him, clamped down onto him, and came within five minutes.”

This is the go-to position for no-fuss, mind-blowing orgasm. Your partner’s clitoris makes contact with your pubic bone, so it’s great for stimulation. She controls the pace and the penetration – and while she’s pleasuring you, you can make sure her needs are met.”

Max it: Mix it up with some ‘froggie-style’: lift her knees up, while she has her feet flat on the bed, and leans on her hands for support.

Missionary

“Missionary is the one I continually come back to. It’s the perfect starter position with a new partner as it allows intense eye contact and long kisses.”

Also, it’s the starting point for coital alignment techniques (CAT): you enter her as normal, then shift yourself further up her body so her clitoris makes repeated contact with the base of your penis – giving extra stimulation. Focusing on deeper penetration maintains this contact – all the way to orgasm!”

Max it: For deeper penetration, lift her legs up onto your shoulders. This also gives you an amazing view.

Sixty-nine

“My first serious boyfriend introduced me to this position – he was older than me, and way more experienced. The first time we tried it, I felt really self-conscious sitting on top of him and was worried about smothering him. But then he grabbed my bum and pulled me onto his mouth with passion, so I stopped worrying and got busy with his bits to. And I haven’t looked back since!”

Sixty-nines are a great way to change up the oral routine and it’s a very sexy, intimate thing for people to do together. There’s something very primal about satisfying each other in that way at the same time. And, of course, you don’t just have to stick to the standard format. If you position yourselves side by side rather than on top of each other, you can keep going for longer and really get into what you’re doing, and try out new moves and methods.

Max it: As well as side by side, try this position with you on top. Prop a couple of pillows under her neck and you’re set.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Do you have a favorite go-to position? Let me know why it works for you and why you wouldn’t trade it for anything. If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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“Let’s have sex. Breathe for yes, lick your eyebrow for no.”

It’s a case of mind over matter when it comes to an enriching sex life. Because yes, there is such a thing as intellectual ejaculation. Doctors (those helpy-helpertons in white coats) are regularly used to help validate the research the internet flings at you. Which makes sense: 89 per cent of all people know that if a doctor tells you a statistic, then it must be true.

But sometimes I think they get it wrong. Really. For starters, they say dubious things. “Please stop playing with my stethoscope, it’s not a toy”, or “You should cut back on the double cheeseburgers”. I mean really, really dubious. Another thing I disagree with is their general stance there are two kinds of orgasms in the case of women: clitoral and vaginal, and one kind in the case of men – the ejaculatory kind. I hate to buck the trend that is science, but I happen to think there are three – for women, and two – for men. It’s not empirical, it’s just opinion. Stick with me.

I believe there’s another, much subtler kind. An experience that’s so encompassing and so satisfying your brain all but shuts down for business; you wouldn’t hear a knock on the door even if the voice on the other side said, “Hello? It’s Beyonce. Just wondering if you’d like to make love with me?” That level of distracting. And this magical happening is the mental orgasm.

The only problem here is, it’s not something that can be easily measured by any current mainstream medical means. Because the mind is a beautiful beast, capable of conjuring up wonders greater than what really exists on this earth.

Intellectual ejaculation

This enigmatic orgasm can come into play at any time, anywhere. One of the most common scenarios happens super early in a relationship. You sit around (at your desk, on the bus) daydreaming about the date you had last night, and reliving every time her skin brushed yours till your head practically explodes with lustful imaginings.

It’s when just thinking about the act is enough to leave you wriggling in your seat, with a flush on your cheeks and a grin on your gums. Sometimes it’s deliberate, like when you spend an imaginary solo time with Megan Fox. And sometimes it’s accidental – like when the coffee girl bends over to get you an extra spoon. But it’s totally a thing. Holy guacamole, is it a thing. In fact, it’s practically the reason porn exists.

And here’s why: if your mind isn’t into it, your muscles won’t be either. For a truly satisfying orgasm, your brain needs to climax before your body can. Moreover, some women (Lady Gaga included) claim they can bring themselves to orgasm through thought power alone. Brain imaging scanners have probed it’s possible – the pleasure center of the brain lights up in the exact same way whether the stimulation is mental or physical. You see? Those doctors and their white coats, I told you they were useful!

But wait, there’s more. In the same camp sits the dream orgasm – the wet dream, essentially. Doctors refer to it as nocturnal emission, and while that sounds decidedly as though it’s the name of a heavy metal band, it will happen to almost half of all men and women at some point in their lives.

As with the mental orgasm, with the dream orgasm your body is cashing cheques your mind is writing. Which is awesome. No, it’s awesome times awesome. It’s awesome squared. But even if you’re not one of the lucky few who can think themselves into a hands-free mental frenzy, you can still harness your grey matter to work for you. It’s a matter of practice. And unlike those algebra equations in seventh grade, this is homework you’ll actually want to do. It simply involves relaxing, indulging your fantasies and some slow, deliberate breathing.

Come to think of it!

So next time you’re ensconced in sexy time, let your synapses do the walking and see if you notice a difference. Heck, even when you’re not ensconced in sexy time, give it a burl. Because the mental orgasm is here. I’ve put it out there, and it’s not going anywhere. So go forth and add that all-important orgasm to your brain files. Preferably somewhere between “doggie style makes your penis feel bigger” and “the clitoris is the way to go” in the Things I’ve learnt from Gabrielle mental manila folder. Because while I probably won’t scoop the Nobel Prize for medicine any time soon, this is one nugget of information definitely worth retaining.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Grab your partner and try a session of mental orgasming as a couple. If you succeed, feed each other the other kinds of orgasms as well. If you want to learn more, I recommend you check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.

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