Much is written about the importance of foreplay for a pleasurable sex life and it is certainly true that enough and the right kind of foreplay is crucial to a satisfying sexual encounter. However, it seems men and women have different ideas about what constitutes “enough” and the “right kind.” If you are a man who is trying to figure out the best way to use foreplay for please your woman and enhance your sexual experience, then read on!

Let me Tell You About a Thing Called Foreplay

What exactly is foreplay? It can be hard to define, just as sex itself can be hard to define. Generally foreplay is emotionally and physically intimate acts between lovers to increase sexual desire and arousal. Foreplay is a form of communication from one partner to another that they are interested in pursuing sexual activity. Foreplay can be verbal, physical or emotional and not only helps a person get in the mood for sex emotionally but helps get their body ready for sex physically.

Gentlemen, please don’t let confusion about foreplay keep you from working on your foreplay skills! The great thing about sex is that you can always learn and improve. Here are four tips about foreplay that are sure to help you drive your woman wild with desire:

Start Early and Don’t Quit

One very easy thing you can do to start your sweetie on the road to arousal is to put the idea in her head long before you see each other. Technology can provide a lot of help with this. Call or text her from work in the morning and tell her how sexy you think she is and how you can wait to see her that night. Throughout the day turn up the heat on your calls and texts by increasing the sexy talk. Tell her exactly what you would like to do to her when you get home. Women actually like to hear these things and it really turns them on. This is part of verbal foreplay.

Foreplay is More Than Touching Genitals

The entire body can be an erogenous zone. Think of the skin as one large sex organ. Run your fingers all over her body lightly. Look right in her eyes while you do this to really make that intimate connection.

Never Underestimate the Power of the Kiss

Unfortunately kissing is usually the first thing to go when couples have been together for a while. The truth is, kissing is HOT. Women loved to be kissed. Slow deep kisses. Kissing is an important part of foreplay and not enough attention is paid to it. Take her in your arms and kiss her. Spend some time on the couch just making out. While you are kissing her slowly rub your hands up and down her body. Kiss her during intercourse as well. Kiss her for a while after sex is over. The lips have over 10,000 nerve endings which is a big part of what makes kissing such a pleasurable and intimate act. Never underestimate what a turn on kissing can be.

How Long is Long Enough?

Much is made over how much time a couple needs to take with foreplay before moving on to the main event. Recent research indicates that both men and women are physically ready for intercourse after about 10 minutes of foreplay. However, women may need more time to be mentally or emotionally ready. A lot of women want more time simply because being touched and kissed feels good. The more they are touched the more the anticipation and desire grows. Try taking some extra time before intercourse. Touch her longer. If she is used to a quick few minutes of foreplay which is usually just a tool to get to penetration, she will be pleasantly surprised to find you spending a lot of time on her pleasure.

One thing about foreplay is that it helps break the sexual experience into categories. Foreplay, intercourse and after play or resolution. This tends to make people be preoccupied with each part instead of seeing it all as one incredible sexual experience that flows naturally. If you can let it all flow then you are more likely to get more from your sexual encounter and so is your partner.

Try seeing the beauty and potential in foreplay instead of the mystery and you will have taken an important step down the path to giving your sweetie hours of sexual pleasure.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“The mistake the two of us made, I said, was that we skimped the foreplay. I’m not blaming you, it was as much my fault as yours, but it was a fault nonetheless.” – J. M. Coetzee

Orgasms. Unlike some of life’s greatest pleasures, you simply can’t have too much of a good thing. Orgasmic sex is one of those rare activities that’s both extremely pleasurable and healthy. Allow me to take you on an alphabetized tour of foreplay and getting off. An O-worthy odyssey starts here and it’s X-rated, obviously.

Asparagus

This spring veg has a hidden power: it can help both men and women reach orgasm. It contains folic acid, which boosts arousal and helps histamine production (essential for an orgasm).

Beauty

According to researchers from the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, regular orgasms give you a youthful glow. Their study found that couples who make love three times a week look seven years younger than their less satisfied counterparts.

Caffeine

If she’s not quite feeling it, you can help her get in the mood. Have a cup of warm tea with honey. The caffeine gives both of you extra energy so you won’t run out of steam, and the honey boosts testosterone level, which promotes orgasm in women.

Direct

If she can’t reach climax without clitoral stimulation, don’t be shy about asking your partner to show you how it’s done. Men find it incredibly arousing to see a woman pleasuring herself, and all the more so if you’re enjoying some action at the same time.

Experiment

The more you orgasm the easier it gets – but you need to keep mixing it up. So, think about it like this, whether it takes some “cliterature”, massage oil or a picture of Megan Fox, you owe it to yourself to do what you need to get in the zone and take your partner with you for the ride.

Faking

In research, almost all men say they’d be distressed to find out their partner didn’t orgasm regularly. So why have 60 per cent of women faked it at some point? Seeing the ecstasy they can give their partner is a huge part of sex for women. If you’re not sure her moaning was genuine, take her for a second run, she’ll silently (or not!) thank you for it.

Get to know her body

Use a mirror to see where her clitoris is. If it’s close to her vaginal opening, try it doggie style. If it’s tucked in between her pubic bone and vaginal opening, try missionary with a pillow under her bottom to puss it towards your pubic bone, or she can go on top, which stimulates a larger area.

Headaches

It’s a clichéd reason for avoiding sex, but an orgasm can be just what the doctor ordered. One study found that women’s pain tolerance increased by as much as 100 per cent after climax.

Involve her

There’s a wealth of toys available that aren’t designed to be enjoyed solo. The S-Wet Dual Control Egg offers G-spot and clitoral stimulation, but puts you in control of the device and the pleasure that comes with it, so get your head in the game!

Jump on top

The best orgasms are ones when all your senses are engaged. Studies have found that when she’s lying down all her buttons are pressed on, so climb on top for some guaranteed pleasure.

Know the facts

Only a quarter of women always climax during sex with a partner, compared with 90 per cent of men who claim to orgasm 100 per cent of the time. If climax through penetration doesn’t do it for her, make sure she still gets hers – whether she comes first or last is up to you.

Louboutins

Research has found wearing two-inch heels improves the strength of her pelvic-floor muscles, which in turn helps her orgasm. Why not ask her to keep them on for the main event?

Marilyn Monroe

If your orgasm quest is proving elusive, keep at it until she finally reaches what she wants. Marilyn Monroe reputedly didn’t have her first orgasm until she was in her thirties.

Numbers Game

Two docs set up an experiment monitoring how often people could orgasm. The most female orgasms recorded was 134 in an hour, which is just over two orgasms per minute! The most recorded in an hour for a man? Just 16. Poor things.

Oral

The ultimate prize in Orgasmville is a multiple- and oral is your best route. Flick your tongue around her clitoris while stimulating her inside with either your fingers or a vibrator. The dual sensation will make her fill up with pleasure. When she’s come the first time, let the waves subside for a couple of minutes. Then – just when you would usually be relaxing into a blissful sleep – start up over again. She’ll be sensitive from before, so go a little gently.

Practice

The body gets used to its route to orgasm – so masturbation without penetration can make an orgasm during sex tricky. Have her masturbate while you’re present and penetrate her while she’s doing it. Practice that way and you’ll find orgasming during sex easier.

Quickie

The CAT (coital alignment technique) position is a quick way to orgasm. Lie on top with your pubic region pressed against hers, so you can rock together. Instead of moving in and out, grind against her, which creates extra friction on her clitoris.

Relax

When she’s stressed about work, an orgasm is the last thing on her mind. Orgasms release stress, they up her heart rate, and blood rushes around her body. But when the tension is released, blood pressure falls and she’s left basking in the afterglow.

Self love

I’d gone several months without what I call a “big loud orgasm”. I was stressed and overworked, and just didn’t have the energy. So one afternoon I turned off my phone and settled in for some serious self love. The first orgasm was nice, but it took another round for me to get my full release. Taking time out for her orgasm is totally worth it.

Turn off the TV

Research has shown that couples who don’t have a TV in their bedroom have 50 per cent more sex than those who’ve got one overlooking the bed.

Understand her feelings

Women who are more in tune emotionally with their partners have more orgasms. To boost your emotional connection, spend quality time talking about your relationship. The more at ease you are with each other, the more relaxed you’ll be in the bedroom.

Vibrator

Gabi hadn’t achieved orgasm until I suggested a vibrating ring. It changed her life. “I had no idea that my clitoris wasn’t being stimulated during sex; I wasn’t even sure where my clitoris was.” Want to give it a go? Try one to target her clitoris directly.

Warmth

A study found that 30 per cent more women could orgasm if they kept their socks on. Er… sexy! This is a result of being comfortably warm, so blood circulates more easily.

Xxxx

Yep, that’s kissing (X is a tricky letter, OK?). Lips are 100 times more sensitive than the tips of your fingers.

Yogasm

Some yoga fanatics claim that, mid yoga session, they’ve experienced an orgasm triggered without any sort stimulation or touching involved.

Zeds

Orgasms are one of the very best sleep aids out there. It’s a full release of built-up tension. Plus, the brain releases chemicals that make you feel sleepy, too.

Have a splendid week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.” – Audrey Hepburn

Become a sex god with these risqué recipes. Remember, always garnish with a condom, chef’s orders.

‘Roll’ Play

Feeling hot? Better call out a nurse to help you fix that…

Method

Step 1: Invite your partner over to your place, or if you live together wait for her to arrive home. When she gets there, answer the door wearing only boxers and an unbuttoned shirt.

Step 2: Greet her by another name, like “Nurse Rose”. Tell her that you’re grateful that she’s come, and throw in something like, “My girlfriend is good with her hands, but she’s out of town…” She’ll soon catch on!

Step 3: Lead her to the bathroom which has already been prepared and is full of steam. When she looks inside, explain, “Oh, so that’s why I’ve been feeling so hot tonight.”

Step 4: When she turns around to feel the warm water in the tub, get your shirt off and lean against her, placing one hand under her skirt. Say something like, “I’ve heard you can only cure hotness with even greater one. What do you think?”

Step 5: Undress her and enjoy the steam!

Sensory smoothie

Playful moves to heighten her senses and tickle her goodies? Yes, please!

Method

Step 1: Get your partner to undress and lie down, then blindfold her with a silk scarf. Since she can’t see a thing, you’ll be able to capitalize on her heightened sense of touch.

Step 2: Begin by tantalizing her hot spots, alternating between using textured fabrics and a hairbrush. Slowly graze her nipples with lace, tickle her butt with satin and run the brush over her back, calves and thighs. Her body is your playground to explore, but her vaginal area is off-limits. You want to make her wait until she can no longer control herself.

Step 3: After lots of stroking, give one of her nipples a surprise with a block of ice (you can warm it up again by using your mouth). Now go back to teasing her with just the hairbrush, stroking her inner thighs.

Step 4: Finally, when you think she can’t stand it any longer, hop on top and have your way with her. It’s up to you whether or not she gets to keep her blindfold on.

Slap’n’tickle

Get naughty together with a tantalizing experience of S&M.

Method

Step 1: First, decide who’s going to be the spanker and who’ll be the spankee. Once you’ve picked, the spankee puts on a blindfold. If you’re the “leader”, remember that the goal here is to titillate and tease, not to get back at her for that time she told you she thought your best friend is hot. It’s important you treat her how you would like to be treated – before you know it, you’ll both be enjoying the seductive “pain”.

Step 2: Choose a safe word – something you can say to end the game if one of you starts to feel uncomfortable. Good examples are neutral words that don’t come up in everyday conversation – think “popcorn”. Don’t pick a phrase like “stop” or “that’s enough”, because it’s quite possible in kinky games like these that someone will say something like “No, no, babe, you’re killing me,” when what they mean is “Yes, oh baby, yes!”

Step 3: If you’re spanking, bend her over your knee and tell her she’s been a “very bad girl”. Slap her butt – the cheek, where it will make a satisfying sound, but won’t hurt too much – with the flat of your hand. Once she gets used to that, mix things up with a few gentle slaps with the hairbrush. Then, just when she’s expecting a wallop, tickle or stroke her with a feather duster.

Choc-mint tryst

Give her this oh-so sexy dessert to lick and she’ll be begging you for seconds

Method

Step 1: Heat up the chocolate in the bowl. Chocolate is a great sexy food because it boosts the release of endorphins (chemicals responsible for happiness). Coincidentally, when you orgasm the brain releases a nice rush of endorphins too, so you might as well get a head start.

Step 2: Take turns playing Picasso, painting each other where you’d most like to be licked. Splash that topping wherever you like (but don’t let it get inside her vagina – it could lead to a very uneasy case of thrush).

Step 3: Proceed to lick each other’s artwork, but prolong your pleasure and leave the genital areas for last.

Step 4: When you finally do give her that choc-job, slip a bit of mint into your mouth. It will help add a little zing to the oral experience.

Step 5: Whip out a wet wipe and slide it up and down her vaginal area, giving it a gentle twist as you go in order to stimulate a fingering session. Be sure she’s choc-free before you enter her, as you don’t want any topping around your penis either.

Have a delicious week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Nothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul.” – Oscar Wilde

Trust me on this: a girl says a silent thank-you whenever you’re lavishing attention on her in bed. But have you ever wondered which of your moves she loves most? That’s a cinch if you know whether her dominant sense is sight, sound, or touch. (Only a handful of girls’ dominant senses are smell or taste.)

Although we get a rush from all of our senses, experts tell us that we usually favor one over the others – and the key way to pinpoint your girl’s biggest turn-ons is to zero in on her dominant sense. This study of the senses is called Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and if you customize your bedroom moves to your partner’s dominant sense, you’ll maximize her pleasure. How to tell whether your girl is a sight lover, a sound hound or a touchy-feely type? Take the quiz bellow, then read on to find out how you can send her into total sensory bliss.

1)    The main thing she said she noticed about you when you met was:

a)    Your eyes

b)    Your seductive voice

c)    Your smooth skin and hair

2)    Which of these three activities does she enjoy most?

a)    Watching TV

b)    Listening to music

c)    Fixing something, for example a bracelet or a dress that’s missing a button

3)    She’s told you her number one pre-sex turn-on would be for you to:

a)    Watch as she treats you with a striptease

b)    Talk dirty

c)    Give her a head-to-toe massage

4)    When things are getting hot and heavy, a big mood killer for her is:

a)    You’re wearing pj’s

b)    The TV or radio is on

c)    It’s too cold or hot

5)    When she needs to figure out something, she prefers to:

a)    Peruse a manual

b)    Call someone and talk through it

c)    Start tinkering

6)    Which of these would she most like to do with you on a date?

a)    Grab a table at an outdoor café and people-watch

b)    Sit on a porch and listen to the crickets… and you

c)    Walk barefoot on the beach, feeling the sun on her face and the sand between her toes

7)    The main reason she stays fit is:

a)    She likes what she sees when she looks in the mirror

b)    She craves compliments

c)    She says it makes her feel more energized and alert

8)    For her to fall asleep, it’s of the utmost importance that:

a)    The room is dark

b)    It’s completely quiet

c)    She’s cozy under the covers

9)    She’d say the one thing that makes her stand out from other girls is:

a)    She’s a great dresser

b)    She really likes to hear what you have to say

c)    She loves to cuddle post-sex

If you answered mostly A’s… she’s visual, meaning she loves sexy sights

Although surprisingly, there are many women that get aroused primarily by what they’re looking at. Girls with a dominant sight sense also speak visually, as in “Can you picture that?” You may feel self-conscious when your belly wobbles during a romp, but trust me, she’s loving it. Girls crave seeing some jiggle. Because it’s so masculine, it makes her feel more feminine. Plus the greater the jiggle, the more active and uninhibited the sex will seem. Also, mirrors give her new angles on the action, so she’ll love this passionate pose: Face a mirror with you behind her. But sometimes the sexiest images are the simplest. The next time she’s about to have an orgasm, stare into her eyes and hold her gaze. Visual girls will feel super-close to you with this technique.

If you answered mostly B’s… she’s auditory, meaning she loves to listen

Lovers of music and long conversations, these lusty listeners also give themselves away with phrases like “That rings true to me” or “Keep your ear to the ground”. The key to her heart is turning your lovemaking into a wall of hot sounds. Sound hounds go gaga for dirty talk, so describe what you’re doing (“I’m going to touch you here and here!”) and what she’s doing (“I love it when you kiss my neck”). Then, throw in some short and sexy adjectives, like hard, hot, wet. Two bodies working in concert makes for loads of interesting noises – and auditory-type girls really dig the sound of sex. The sex position that will deliver some serious erotic audio is one that traps the most moisture between your bodies: try sitting facing each other, legs entwined, and rock rather than thrust into her.

If you answered mostly C’s… she’s kinesthetic, meaning her big turn-on is touch

These girls most crave anything they can feel on every inch of their bodies. When they talk (which isn’t often), they will nonetheless wax on about “how they feel”. What you have to do is tease her with texture. Play with her hair, caress her with a silk scarf, etc. These girls prefer hands-on learning – which is why they’ll love the Mirror Game. Copy each other’s movements in bed: if you caress her breasts, she caresses your chest. If you kiss her neck, she kisses yours. This game provides the ultimate feedback loop, helping you understand exactly how she likes to be touched.

Have a sensational week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity.” – Max de Pree

You fall in love, move in together and suddenly you’re spending every waking minute with each other. Here’s what to do when couple claustrophobia hits. Let’s face it, there’s probably nobody that you’d want to spend 24 hours, seven days a week with. Even Megan Fox would get boring after that much time (of course, I haven’t technically proven it, but I’m willing to test this theory out in the name of research). When you’re in a relationship, space is crucial to your happiness. Yes, it’s important to spend quality time with your partner, but you both need to have quality time with yourselves too. Living, eating and sleeping together day after day can cause couple claustrophobia. If you are spending most of your time fighting, or if you notice growing feelings of resentment, it might be time to negotiate some ‘space breaks’ into your weekly routine.

These ‘space breaks’ sometimes even come naturally, like they did for Dan and his girlfriend of four years, Daisy. “At the beginning, we spent every day together”, says Dan. “I’d meet Daisy the minute she finished work and we would hang out all night, it was all so new.” Ah, the honeymoon phase. That wonderful phase when your friends don’t see you for weeks, your hobbies become your partner’s hobbies (and vice versa), and you go on adorable dates, playing mini golf or going to the aquarium. “Daisy with watch Batman marathons and I would watch Sex and the City every day. But these days, I’m much more likely to say, ‘If you’re watching that, I might just go watch this on my laptop”, Dan admits.

As the honeymoon period starts to wear off and regular life resumes, you should embrace it. When your relationship began you both had your own lives – families, friends, hobbies and interests. It’s important for both of you to keep all of those relationships and activities alive. You still need to be yourself.

When Daisy and Dan moved in together after two years, they found that living with each other actually led to time apart. “We did our own stuff more, like seeing separate friends and going to different parties, because we knew that every night we’d go to sleep together”, Dan says. “Late-night gaming sessions and Gossip Girl marathons aren’t things we both love, and now we are totally cool to leave the other person to their own thing. We still spend time together, it’s just about finding a balance.”

When these natural relationship drifts don’t occur and you’re still spending every waking hour together, something’s gotta give. For Karin that something was the patience of her boyfriend, Dave. “For the first few months that we were dating, we saw each other every day”, Karin remembers. “I loved it, but then Dave started to plan boys’ nights and footy nights by himself. It freaked me out, because I thought it meant he was no longer interested in me.” Karin’s reaction was totally normal. In many relationships, there’s a partner who enjoys space and one who enjoys closeness. When we perceive that our partner is holding back, it can trigger uncomfortable feelings of rejection, mistrust and resentment that make it difficult to feel secure.

Lucky for Karin, Dave was in touch enough with his feelings to help her relax. “He explained that him needing ‘Dave time’ didn’t mean he didn’t want to see me. We worked out a schedule of date nights and ‘me nights’ each week, which kept us both happy. I didn’t even realize how much I enjoyed ‘Karin time’ until I had it. Now I love chilling out by myself.”

How to get space

If your girlfriend looks at you like you’re speaking fluent Russian whenever you utter the words ‘me time’ and insists that she really doesn’t mind watching The Expendables for the third time instead of sipping cappuccinos with her girlfriends, gently prod her in the right direction – and that’s away from you! You can say to your partner something like: “I need a bit of boy time to recharge my batteries, but I’m really looking forward to spending some quality time with you at dinner tonight.” Be sure to remind, reassure and show your woman that you value her and that the time apart does make your heart grow fonder.

How to give space

Don’t worry – it’s normal to want to see your girlfriend all the time. It’s also normal to feel a bit hurt when she says she needs a night by herself or out with the girls. “I need space” doesn’t translate itself with “I hate you and want to break up”. Initially it can be challenging to give your partner more space because of the fear she might not come back. But the funny thing is that the more space we give, the more appreciation and affection we end up getting. As scary as it can be, there is nothing more attractive than a partner who is secure enough to loosen the reins.

Have a great week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Giving space doesn’t mean letting her pass the night with the girls but still terrorize her with phone calls and texts. Let her breathe for once. On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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“It’s so long since I’ve had sex I’ve forgotten who ties up who.” – Joan Rivers

It is a truth universally acknowledged that men are sex-crazed animals. So when you’re libido is more lukewarm than red-hot, she wonders what’s wrong with you. And what’s wrong with her. ‘What normal guy doesn’t want to have sex?’, Teresa used to ask her boyfriend angrily when weeks would go by without his making a move or responding to her advances. According to a totally enlightening book, Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex, by Abraham Morgentaler, the answer is, a lot more normal guys than you’d think.

I frequently hear from men who complain about low sex drives. Many people still operate under the assumption that guys are obsessed with sex and that all a ‘real’ man needs to get an erection is for the wind to blow. It’s simply not the case for all men, even young men, and it doesn’t necessarily make a guy abnormal. If you’re experiencing low desire, you should know that this situation can be disheartening for your partner. ‘My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years, and my only complain about our relationship is that I want more sex than he does. When he turns me down, it makes me feel insecure. I absolutely hate it’, says Michelle. If you’re in the same boat with your partner, read on, because there’s a way to find a happy compromise.

An issue all along

Low desire in men is nothing new, but women who feel empowered enough to speak up about their sexual appetite are an emerging breed. Women are much more emboldened about their sexuality than they were even 15 years ago. They feel comfortable asking for what they want… and they’re discovering that what they want may not be what their partner wants. On the flip side, men are also being encouraged to be more in touch with their feelings, and maybe some of those include ‘Hey, I just don’t feel like having sex!’

Big libido killers

Stress brought on by this tough economy could be one culprit that’s inhibiting male desires. So can the ubiquity of porn, experts say. Excessive masturbation will tax a man’s libido and make it so he doesn’t have a lot of mojo left for his partner. Unless you’re blowing off work to get your fix, it’s not something that requires therapy, but it does warrant a discussion. Women feel the power of your erection when you haven’t ejaculated a day or two, so you can’t really hide it from your partner.

But even more likely is that when you have a lower libido than your partner, there’s not necessarily anything wrong with you… or a cause – it might just be how you’re programmed. Sex is always going to be more frequent in the beginning of a relationship. It may not be until you’ve been with someone for a year or two that you realize you aren’t on the same page about sexual upkeep. Testosterone, one of the hormones that regulates sexual desire, is always higher in the beginning of a relationship for both men and women. But as the novelty wears off, less testosterone is produced, and sex with that person seems a little less interesting. Sounds depressing, but it’s normal. For some couples, sex drops off a little. For others, it drops off a lot. If you’ve talked and established that there aren’t other issues going on in the relationship, you’re probably just dealing with an everyday gap in sexual desire.

Free therapy here!

Mismatched sex drives don’t have to be a deal breaker. You just need to find some middle ground.

ID your turn-ons

Buying new lingerie in an effort to spice things up can actually put more pressure on you, not to mention raise the stakes for her. It’s one thing to get show down under normal circumstances. It’s another to get shot down while wearing a see-through nightie. Instead, search for your other turn-ons – the things that bring you bliss but have very little to do with sex. If you savor time with your buddies but haven’t had a lot of it lately, do a fun weekend away with your friends. It could make you see your partner in a whole new light. Some space, autonomy, or appreciation can be more potent that a pair of furry handcuffs.

Het PG together

Little things like holding hands or cuddling on the couch signal your brain to produce the bonding chemical oxytocin, which can make you both feel closer and more connected (important if you’ve been arguing). Seems innocent, but desire often takes over when you give it the physical chance to grow. Think about it: you’re snuggled up together, warm under a blanket, your hand grazes her butt, and bam! – it’s on.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“To have her here in bed with me, breathing on me, her hair in my mouth – I count that something of a miracle.” – Henry Miller

When it comes to sex, some women like surprises (look, we’re on video!), while others lean closer to the shy side. Even if your partner does not fall into the let’s-make-a-sex-tape category, it doesn’t mean you should give on trying to surprise her in bed with spur-of-the-moment tricks. As a matter in fact, no chick will be able to resist the carnal curveballs I’m giving you here.

Make it all about her pleasure

In many cases, when you give, she thinks it’s just so you can receive. A lot of women are afraid that guys only pretend to like giving oral sex to get reciprocation. So if you do it spontaneously and out of the blue, it sends the message that you find her irresistible. Of course, if you kiss your girl’s neck and start winding your way down, she’s going to be able to deduce what comes next. Instead, shock her panties off by stimulating her south of the border area when she least expects it. One idea: start her day off right by waking her up with oral action.

Give her Kudohhs

When the sack session is so silent that your girl can hear crickets chirping in the background, she may think “Gee, is it that bad?” That’s why if you surprise her with unexpected moans or even a “God, that’s amazing,” she’ll be psyched. When you make noise or give a compliment, especially if it’s out of character, she feels like she’s really pleasing you. It boosts her confidence in her sex skills and encourages her to initiate that feel-good move in the future.

Keep up the kissing

In the throes of passion, it’s tough to remember the simple things like, you know, your name. Another essential that often falls by the wayside: lip-locking. Sometimes men get so consumed with what’s going on below the belt that they stop kissing during sex. To make her feel like you’re present and into her, you have to keep up that connection. While in the act, take a minute to resume making out. Not only will it help you to pace yourself (wink, wink), but she’ll also be pleasantly surprised that you’ve added that sweet something extra.

Have a post-game plan

Sure, sex can be exhausting, so she sorts of understands when you roll over and go right to… zzz. In fact, she probably expects it. So you can only imagine how shocked she’ll be if you snuggle up against her after the fact and suggest taking a hot shower or sharing a bowl of ice cream. She knows it’s an effort for you, so it makes her feel appreciated. Plus, it’s a treat that switches up your usual sex routine.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Another way to completely blow her mind between the sheets is arranging for a sweet and sensual massaging routine with all the naughty extras. On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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“I need sex for a clear complexion, but I’d rather do it for love.” – Joan Crawford

From deep-throating to anal sex, I investigate how porn is affecting what we do in the bedroom.

She reluctantly gets down on her hands and knees – as she’s been instructed – and crawls through her boyfriend’s dingy apartment and into his bedroom. He grabs her and throws her on to the bed. He tells her that he wants to “f*ck [her] from behind” and starts recreating the kind of rough sex he’s most likely seen in plenty of pornos before. It ends with him masturbating over her and ejaculating on her breasts. “I don’t think I like that”, she says. “I, like, really didn’t like that.”

Messy relationships

That scene from Girls, between Adam and his new girlfriend Natalia, was one of the most controversial of the show’s second season. For a series that is most often praised by critics for its honest depiction of Gen Y’s messy relationships, how realistic was writer Lena Dunham’s portrayal of the events between Adam and Natalia? Are more of us having youporn.com-inspired sex? Are woman taking it on the chin (or breasts or face) because they think that’s what’s normal?

Emma says yes. In fact, she has been through something similar. “Guys have come on me before and it’s gross. If they have to do it, do it on my stomach, not my face. It’s belittling”, she shares. “I’ve told guys that I don’t like it and they’re usually respectful of that, but sometimes… they think it’s funny. When it does happen, I remind them I said no for a reason – but what can I do? It’s already on my face.”

Online sex ed

It’s no revelation that porn is easy to access. While men previously had to pass around dog-eared girlie mags, all we need now is an internet connection. Studies have revealed that 47 per cent of porn users watch more than 30 minutes and up to three hours a day. What isn’t so obvious, though, is how it is shaping our bedroom performance. The current generation of young people is the first to be growing up with porn. Porn is, for many, their first introduction to sex, rather than their first exposure being something like kissing their partner.

The problems arise when those who use porn don’t see it as the exaggerated version of sex that it is, and instead watch is as a form of education. Porn does teach men some pretty dodgy ideas, and that does shape some of their sexual practices. Anal intercourse is certainly the one thing that women mention the most when you ask them about impacts of their partner’s porn use. The second is deep fellatio – you know, penis-down-the-throat sex. Another practice is ejaculating on women’s faces and bodies. Lastly, men also become more interested in making their own porn by filming their partners.

There can be benefits to watching porn, like learning about different sexual practices, and giving and receiving pleasure. But when men are presented with a limited representation of what sexual expression is, as is often portrayed in mainstream straight porn, they may develop ideas about sex, sexuality and body image based on that limited representation.

Life imitating porn

When it comes to doing it like they do in the X-rated movies, it seems anal sex is the top prize. Joey used to watch porn every day before getting together with his partner. He now only watches it once a week, he explains, but he still loves the fantasy of it. “I have wanted to re-enact things that I’ve seen. I have had a threesome with a woman and another man. That was alright. I have been masking my girlfriend is she’ll do anal. She won’t do it now, but she’ll work her way to it”, he explains.

Peter was 16 when he first started watching porn, to “show [him] what you’re supposed to do”. Now 37 years and single, Peter still watches porn for inspiration. “I love the fantasy of it, the massive tits. I haven’t tried anal yet, but I want to with the right person.” While women in porn achieve multiple orgasms every time they’re entered from behind – giving men a blasé view of anal – many women have a different perspective. Rosie tried anal sex with her partner when they were drunk one night, after months of him pleading with her to do it. “It was uncomfortable and it hurt”, she says. “I would never do it again – it didn’t feel good at all, and why do something that doesn’t feel good?”

Anal sex itself isn’t a problem – there are plenty of women who enjoy it. The issue is the constant pressure to live up to pornographic sexpectations. Emma has been propositioned by two boyfriends. “One said, ‘Oh, so you have your period, so you want to do it in the other hole?’ The other one told me, ‘I don’t have a condom, let’s just do it the other way.’ I’ve had friends who’ve done it. They told me you need to use a lot of lube and that it will hurt the first few times. But the man has to be patient. These guys didn’t want to wait at all.”

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. The influence of pornographic movies goes as far as making some women want to do plastic surgeries… down there, to look more like the porno actresses their partners see in porns. Scary, right? On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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“A woman never forgets her sex. She would rather talk with a man than an angel, any day.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

Master the art of the slow burn and she’ll be running red lights to get to see you in the evening. You don’t know how you can achieve this kind of excitement on your partner? It’s simple: make her think about sex just as much as you do! Imagine this scenario: On a random Tuesday morning, your partner may be thinking about any number of things: “Should I go to spinning class during lunch? Is it time to have my teeth cleaned? Can I pull off a fedora?” It’s a pretty safe bet, however, that you are thinking this: Will I get laid tonight?

Studies show that sex crosses men’s minds upward of 19 times a day. A big part of that is wondering whether or not it’s in the cards for them later on. In order to have your partner think about sex as often as you do, hence increasing your chances of getting lucky, you should to your best to plant the thought in her head during the entire day. If you assure your sweet, loving girlfriend that yes, she is in for some naked fun, you’ll be setting yourself up for some truly epic sex that night, since she’ll be daydreaming about it all day.

Anticipatory excitement amps up desire for an experience, so when she finally gets to indulge, it’s extremely rewarding for both of you. Follow my step-by-step guide to create a slow burn that will make her fantasize hard about the countless way she’s going to be receiving pleasure when she can finally get her hands on you.

First thing in the A.M.

Wake her up by slowly gyrating as you press your body against her. Do it very slowly, because you don’t want to wake her up so quickly that she gets startled. Once she’s semi-alert, give her a slow, lingering kiss, hugging her strongly but keeping yourself off from her hot zone (I’m talking about the vagina, of course). When she, um, stirs, pull away and tell her you’re going to be late for work if you don’t get going… but you can’t wait to pick up where you left off. She’ll be counting the hours till the sun finally sets and she gets to see you again.

On your way out the door

Give her ass a little squeeze and reassure her that it’s on like Donkey Kong when you get home. While you’re back there, slip a naughty note in her back pocket (if she’s wearing jeans) or in her bag, for her to find when she’s at work. Write something about how you can’t wait to tear off her clothes later or “I’m going to have my way with you tonight.” Then relish imagining her flushed cheeks when she finds it and reads it. She’ll be almost ready to take a longer lunch break to see you for a quickie, but don’t indulge, even if she asks you. The slow burn will only work if you’re willing to wait for time to work its arousal magic.

Late morning

Just before lunchtime, text her this: “Eat a good lunch, because you won’t be getting any dinner until after we get naked and crazy.” Pictures of your crazy romp will pass behind her eyes as fast as a lightning, so she’ll barely be able to focus on her chores. Points scores: hell yes!

Around 3 P.M.

Text her the most graphic line from an erotic book you can find, or send her an image of same sexy lingerie with the following message, “I bed you’d look awesome in these!” If you go for the second option, make sure you also buy her something sexy, because expectations will grow in her hot mind, so you don’t want to disappoint her once you started this.

Before you walk through the door

Make sure she gets home first. Then before you go inside, unbutton your shirt and your pants. When you enter, hand her your shirt and head to the bedroom without saying a word. Once she picks her jaw off the floor, she’ll follow you in a frenzy.

Have a splendid week,

Gabrielle Moore 

P.S. You can also text her something along the following lines: “I hope you don’t like the blouse you’re wearing, because I’m going to rip it off you tonight.” To find out the secret techniques on how to get her dripping and soaking wet at will, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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“This girl wanted me to experience something I’d never experienced. She tried three times to get me high. Finally, it worked, and I had the most incredible sex I’d ever had.” – Jack Herer

These daring couples got busy in some bizarre locales. So it’s no surprise they were caught. Read on, have a laugh and learn where not to do it!

Kama here often?

“My girl and I were at the bookstore looking for books on the kama sutra. As we were checking out the pictures, we got riled up, so I suggested we take the books to the bathroom and put them to use. During the deed, I heard the bathroom door open and told my boyfriend to stand on the toilet. After we finished, we heard a woman ask us if everything was okay because she’d been waiting for our handicapped stall for 10 minutes. There was no choice but to come out. We didn’t make eye contact with her, but I know we looked so guilty. We bolted out of the store, leaving a trail of our books behind us.” – Christian

Tonsil hockey

“My girlfriend came to watch my late-night practice with my hockey team, and we ended up hanging out afterward, just skating together. Everyone else had left, so it was only us on the rink. I was friends with the owner, who had given us the keys and told us to stay as long as we wanted. I was shocked when my girlfriend confessed her secret fantasy: to have sex with me on the ice. Since we had the place to ourselves, I figured, what the hell? When we finished, we decided to skate around in the buff. It was hilarious… until the owner came back to pick up something and made a joke about the naked Olympics.” – Dan

Lights, camera, action!

“I was sitting with my partner in the last row of a movie theater. It was during the day, so it wasn’t that crowded, but there were still people there. When the lights went down, my girlfriend got really crazy and took off her pants and straddled me. I was surprised… but psyched. Since we were way in the back of the theater and were being quiet, I was sure no one knew what we were doing. Then my girlfriend looked up and noticed that the guy in the projector room was getting a great view. We pulled ourselves together and sprinted out of there.” – James

Her royal horniness

My girlfriend, Rhonda, scored a job in England a year ago. I went to visit her, and one day, we toured castles in Wales. We hadn’t seen each other in quite some time, so we ditched the tour and got busy in one of the dark rooms of a castle. It was cold and damp, but that made the whole thing more forbidden. Just as she climbed on top of me, a tour group entered the room. They were freaked out and talking very fast in what sounded like Russian, and there was a lot of arm gesturing. We just crouched in a naked ball and waited for them to leave.” – Mark 

Hooked on a feeling

“My girl and I went camping in a quiet, non-touristy area by a small lake. We had rented a boat and decided to go fishing at dusk. After an hour, we started making out and pulled in our poles. One thing led to another, and our swimsuits came off. Later on, we heard a noise but just figured it was an animal in the trees, so we continued hooking up. Then we heard a man screaming at us. Our tiny boat had drifted to the side of the lake right into his campsite, where his family was eating dinner. We were mortified and oared back to our site at warp speed while he was still yelling at us.” – Lloyd

Have a safe week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you’re in the mood to go wild and risk it, always make sure you’re not overlooking anything, because if you get caught, you might be accused of indecent exposure. For more interesting tips on how to turn your partner on like never before, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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