“I admit, I have a tremendous sex drive. My boyfriend lives forty miles away.” – Phyllis Diller

It seems commonsense that pornography doesn’t mirror reality, but it can actually affect what you want in bed, what you expect from your partner, and what you demand of yourself when it comes to getting down and dirty. As adult film actress Nina Hartley puts it, “Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It’s a fantasy – it isn’t meant to be a rule book and guide book or a how-to as a general rule.” Porn can be great for spicing up sex, but it can also make you think you’re doing it all wrong. Or that you’re partner is doing it all wrong. So, here’s a naughty reality check…

Size ‘em up

Penises can be large or small (and this depends on whether they’re erect or flaccid – some grow more than others with an erection), thick of thin, straight or curved, circumcised or not. These variations are all normal and perfectly functional and you should by no means compare your package with the shiny and fake polished one you see on the screen.

Circumcised?

Almost all porn stars have been circumcised – but, in real life, only about a third of men are. Regardless of whether you’re cut or uncut, it’s quality over quantity – get creative with positions, toys and techniques and you really can make the most of whatever you are working with.

It’s not like in the movies! A porn star’s average penis when erect – 20cm. A real guy’s average penis when erect – 15cm. Stop comparing (unless you’re winning!).

Furry friends

Most porn star divas don’t look like “real” women, and that’s no surprise: they’re not only chosen for their tiny bodies and massive, er, assets, but they also have a number of unrealistic physical attributes in the nether regions. Pube pros from the seventies and eighties have given way to the pube nos of today. There’s a massive lack of bush in current porn, so more and more women are getting their lady-forest waxed, shaved, plucked and lasered. If there ever was a time that women resembled newborn babies to an almost frightening extent, now’s that time.

HOWEVER – 40% of women don’t remove their pubic hair. I think every women has the right to choose how she wants to present herself and how she desires to look like down there.

Vagina panorama

There’s a big difference in the standardized porn vagina versus the natural diversity in the length and shape of most regular lady bits. Porn magazines have actually been called out for Photoshopping out “unsightly” inner labia on their models! But it really doesn’t matter if your partner is tucked up or hanging low: as long as she accepts her vajizzle, you can have a roaring sex life.

The big O

On to the grand finale of porn: the orgasm. Usually there is a focus on male orgasm as the goal, with the woman’s pleasure being a side effect of his amazing skills. Another visible difference: Real sex usually lasts just 15 to 30 minutes, including foreplay, while porn sex can go for hours, and of course everyone comes multiple times!

The breech with reality is even more obvious when you think about the fact that real women not only have difficulty reaching those much-desired multiple orgasms, but also find it hard orgasming at all (especially during vaginal sex), and half of all women sometimes fake it. While porn stars seem to have some sort of Viagra-like endurance (they just lay there, being pounded allover and from all imaginable – and sometimes unimaginable – positions), 16 to 17 percent of women (but also men – who fear they might be coming to soon, as opposed to their pornographic counterparts) report they felt anxious about their ability to perform.

If you see that your partner is not “bubbling over” like those porno divas, communicate with her about what feels good and what not, slow it down, relax and take matters into your own hands (or use your mouth for that matter!)

Fake O moments – The orgasms women have in porn are not only powerful and frequent, they are also particularly juicy, with plenty of squirting or female ejaculation.

The real O – However, only 40% (less than half!) of all women have ever experienced any kind of squirting during sex. It’s usually infrequent, unplanned and can be a bit of a shock (especially for some ladies, but for men as well!).

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. So next time you are chilling on the couch, watching your favorite porn star, refrain from comparing your partner (or your overall sex life and experience) with what you see on the screen. It’s not beneficial for anybody, especially your self esteem. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about foreplay CLICK HERE NOW!

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“All I want is rough sex and cuddling after. Is that too much to ask?”

If you’ve never actually considered going as far as visiting a professional sex therapists, not to worry, I’m bringing their precious advice to you. They help clients with everything from where-did-it-go libido to serious sexual dysfunctions. Their friends – now including you – get that advice for free. From me.

If you feel bad about your body, try sleeping naked

After having a child, a friend of mine was worried that her husband would no longer love the way she looked and that it would hurt their sex life. I suggested she try this one simple behavior: sleeping in the nude. It turned out that her husband already did that habitually. There’s something very different that happens under the covers when skin touches skin and you can truly feel each other, instead of just your pajamas. Even exhaustion takes over, the simplicity of entwined legs or a brush of a limb can keep you connected and more intimate. And it can even lead to feeling better about your bodies. Touch is profound – feeling your partner’s skin against you in small, nonsexual ways is a nonverbal reminder that she loves and accepts your body, and she’s not backing off, because it feels good. That can lead to better acceptance on your part too.

Breathe your way through a sex problem

I’ve had several women come to me with issues of pain during sex. Sometimes it’s due to a disorder called vaginismus, but some women just have pain without any discernible cause. One particular friend was already being treated by her gynecologist for the medical component, but I knew there were emotional issues as well. She has a history of partners that have not taken her desires into consideration and a lot of fear when it comes to sex. I recommended that she and her current partner try sensual massage, followed by G-spot stimulation with the help of a finger or a small vibrator. When she felt pain, I suggested they stop and become still, and that she breathe deeply and calmly until the pain passed, and then start again. In the beginning, they had to stop and start a lot, but they stuck with it together. They can actually have intercourse now because she knows how to relax and breathe through it if discomfort does arise.

Men are sensitive in the bedroom too!

A friend and I were having lunch recently and she started complaining that her guy didn’t know how to get foreplay right. I hear this type of thing a lot: People often seek sex counseling for something their partner is or isn’t doing. What they don’t acknowledge is that both people usually share responsibility. In my friend’s case, she was also saying mean things to him, like, “Who taught you how to kiss?” This made the man who loved her not want to make out with her at all; Even when two people have been together for years, they can still get embarrassed. I suggested that she instead tell him what she does like, rather than what she thinks he’s doing wrong. “I am really turned on by XYZ.” There’s no blaming in that statement, and anybody hearing it would be encouraged to please her more rather than feel ashamed or mad. She took my advice, and tells me that nobody has ever kissed her as well as he does now, and positive “I” statements from both of them have made all aspects of their relationship more pleasurable.

Try this special down there massage

When friends tell me they’re having trouble climaxing or that things just aren’t zinging in bed, I tell them about this vulvar massage technique. As a sexual surrogate, I’ve taught this to couples, and also to men who want to learn how to make their partners happier. Basically, put your hand over her vulva, with your palm on the mound and fingers down toward the vagina. Then just move the heel of your palm back and forth a tiny bit, then getting quicker. It will slowly build up arousal. Everyone who tries it loves it.

Sex is the best medicine

I learned that some relatives of mine who had been together for a long time weren’t having much sex anymore. So I told the woman that, given her partner’s heart history – he’s had a quadruple bypass – the best thing she could do for him, health-wise, was have more sex. I told her about a research team that found that men who had sex three or more times every week cut their risk of heart disease in half. And it’s not just guys who get the health benefits: Sex can work as a sleep aid, an antidepressant, even a painkiller. So say goodbye to those headaches!

Stop fighting about sex and have sex already

A friend confided in me that it had been a while since she and her boyfriend had had sex. He only initiated it in the morning after she has gotten ready for work – or at midnight when she was almost asleep and worried that she had only six hours until she needed to wake up again. She’s typically ready for sex right after work, but he’s not in the mood then. Basically, they’re on different sex schedules. I told her to suck it up and do it late at night. It’s worth it to compromise in this area, because by giving in to your partner’s needs, you’re actually getting so much out of it too. Don’t get caught up in the battle about controlling the timing and simply think about the big picture. Sexual satisfaction is important for a lasting and fulfilling relationship. If it means you go to bed 15 minutes later, what’s the big deal, especially if you are feeling satisfied and closer to your partner?

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“I’m in my bed. You’re in your bed. One of us is in the wrong place.”

The first time I watched a porn flick with my partner, it was super awkward. I laughed through the entire thing, it was like watching Funniest Home Videos and not a turn-on at all. My experience is common, with women finding sexy movies intimidating, boring or plain lol-worthy. But there are pros to porn – especially when watching it with your partner.

All together now

About 80 per cent of men and 66 per cent of women watch porn; it’s a great way of getting in the mood. A person’s porn preferences offer an insight into their sexual fantasies, but because it’s so revealing (and at times embarrassing) you might worry about introducing it into a relationship. In fact, porn can actually be good for your relationship. It doesn’t have to ruin your self-confidence or your sex life. Do it right, and it will improve both.

Despite this, some women feel uncomfortable about watching porn with a partner, thinking, “does he want me to do that?!” or “does he wish I looked like her?” Yes, women know you guys are visual creatures and you get turned on by what you see, so reassure her that you’re massively into her before proposing a porn flick marathon. By watching porn with your partner, you can get to know her turn-ons, find ideas for new positions and techniques, and mix up your sexual routine. Porn provides a platform to talk about sex and each person’s likes and dislikes. It invites excitement and exploration, and supports you to disclose if you’d like to take what’s on the screen into the bedroom.

However, it’s not a cure-all. If you think porn will fix your sexual relationship, I’d encourage you to think again. But if it’s to add experimentation to an already healthy and trusting relationship, you’ll likely get a more positive response.

Go on, just ask

So, how do you take that first step and suggest a couple’s viewing session? Pick your timing, keep it light, and make sure your reasons behind the idea are clear. Don’t interrogate your partner about her previous porn-watching; take a relaxed approach and go with something like, “Do you want to watch porn together sometime? We’ve never done that before and I’m kind of curious.” Be prepared for any response: she might be ecstatic, grossed out or totally unfazed. Whatever her reaction, it’s the perfect opportunity to talk about your sex life in general, ask what she wants to try and explore possibilities.

She’s in: now what?

Scroll through categories on popular sites together. There is a gigantic range to suit any taste. If you’re nervous, start with something that’s not too full-on. For entry level porn watchers, refine your search with keywords such as amateur, couples, female friendly and softcore. When you’ve found a clip you like, get comfy in case things, er, kick off. If you’re using a laptop, put it at the end of the bed or on the couch and watch the videos on the big screen. Once you’ll get over the initial giggles, you’ll find you really enjoy yourselves.

It’s not for her?

Of course it’s fine to laugh when you’re watching porn – if only at the terrible acting. It’s meant to be fun, so try not to take it too seriously. But if you notice your partner is laughing because she’s uncomfortable, spare her the misery of continuing to watch it. You can let her know you are not enjoying it either, or just direct her attention elsewhere with something like, “Why don’t we switch this off so we can focus on each other?” Realize that porn is not for everyone, and especially so when you’re trying to match two sexual desires. Luckily, porn isn’t a requirement for great sex. If you’re not completely loving it, simple: switch off the TV and hit the sheets.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Watching porn together as a couple isn’t awkward, it’s fun! Plus, it’s great to be turned on in a different way, so don’t shy away of including porn in your bedroom activities.

On another note, if you want to learn advanced foreplay techniques, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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Here’s A Mind-Blowingly Powerful Sexual Technique That You Can Use To Blow Your Woman’s Mind In The Bedroom – Yet 95% Of Men NEVER Use It…

NOTE: If you missed part 1 of this series – click here to read it now

IMPORTANT: For women, sex is a very mental experience…

And that, my friend, is something most guys just never realize.

The fact that sex is a very mental experience for women means that you need to stimulate your woman’s MIND and not just her BODY during sex.

And this is where 95% of men go wrong…

They think that satisfying their women is only about what they do to her body and they miss out on her most important sexual organ…

The one between her ears!

So when you start to stimulate your woman’s MIND during sex, guess what happens?

That’s right…

You INSTANTLY start giving her more pleasure and you find it a million times easier to make her cum…

And of course…

You also stand out from all the other guys!

The question is:

“How do you stimulate your woman’s mind during sex?”

Dirty Talk – An Extremely Powerful Sexual Technique That Most Men Never Use…

The way to stimulate your woman’s MIND in the bedroom is with DIRTY TALK. There is no other way.

Yet the crazy thing is…

Most guys don’t do it because:

–    They’re afraid to try it

–    They tried it once and made their women laugh

–    They simply don’t realize that women want their men to talk dirty in bed

But here’s the deal…

It’s pretty much impossible to totally SATISFY your woman in bed if you don’t talk dirty because without dirty talk – you won’t give her that all-important ‘mental stimulation.’

When you start talking dirty, here’s what you’ll find:

–    It’s easier to get her hot, wet, horny and ready for sex

–    Making her orgasm takes much less time and happens a lot more frequently

–    Getting her to do what you want in the bedroom becomes easy

3 Tips For Outstanding Dirty Talk…

To get you started, here are 3 tips for outstanding dirty talk that drives your woman crazy:

–    Deliver your dirty talk in a deep, clear, commanding voice because this way your woman will take what you say seriously

–    Keep your dirty talk very SIMPLE because complex dirty talk breaks your woman’s state and does more harm than good

–    The more sexually excited she is – the more HARDCORE you can make your dirty talk. For instance, during foreplay you may say: “Your kisses taste so good baby.” But when you’re doing her hard from behind and she’s about to orgasm, you may say: “You love it when I fuck your tight little pussy don’t you baby?”

A true SEX GOD stimulates his woman’s MIND – and not just her PUSSY – in the bedroom. And the way a true Sex God stimulates her woman’s mind is with expert dirty talk.

In Adams FREE pdf report “How To Be A Sex God In 5 Simple Steps” you’ll discover exactly how to talk dirty to your woman in a very simple, easy and completely natural way.

You’ll also get a collection of the greatest dirty talk phrases of all time… all you have to do is say them to your woman the next time you’re having sex and you’ll give her a much higher level of pleasure. Click here to download “How To Be A Sex God In 5 Simple Steps”

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Generally I like to focus on the positive when writing articles for my site: sex tips for guys who want to improve their skills and drive their sexual partners wild!

However, I know for a fact that there are a few well meaning guys out there that are committing grave mistakes in the bedroom and turning their partners off as a result. I definitely don’t want that to be you, so I’m here to help and share with you the top 6 things that turn women off like a light switch.

Now keep in mind that not all women are the same and it’s possible that your partner loves one of the things on this list. This list is just to serve as a general reference, your best bet is always to communicate with your partner about her likes and dislikes. If she loves something on this list, by all means carry on. But I would suggest double checking with your partner first to make sure she’s not politely enduring something she would rather you didn’t do.

Big wet sloppy kisses – Men love sloppy, wet kisses because saliva has testosterone in it and experts say that they are inadvertently trying to transfer it to their partner during sex in order to stimulate the sex drive of their partner. Women, on the other hand, aren’t usually a fan of the sloppy, wet kiss. We all love some tongue, but be careful not to bathe her in your saliva. Follow her kissing cues, she’ll kiss you how she likes to be kissed.
 
Doing the same thing over and over and over again – Often a well intentioned guy will notice that his partner likes something and keep at it, repeating the same move over and over. Don’t get me wrong, it’s amazing to pay attention to her signals and what she likes, but don’t overdo it. If you keep stimulating that same spot in the same way it starts to get annoying, or even numb, and it loses what was good about it in the first place. When it comes to foreplay if you do the same moves over and over, she’s going to get bored and she’ll be able to call your routine before you’ve even started. Variety is the spice of life, fellas! Change things up.
 
“Manhandling” her or playing too rough – Men tend to like things a little on the rougher side. They prefer a firm touch to a soft one. They might like sex fast and hard and deep as opposed to soft, slow and sensual. Women generally prefer a lighter touch. We all have our moments where we want to be ravaged and might like things a little rougher, but in general women respond more to slow, soft and sensual. If you think you might be a little on the rough side, soften things up and see how she reacts.  
*It’s important to mention that there are women who love rougher sex. Again this is a generalization, you need to know you partner and what she likes. Always ask, when in doubt.
 
Not being gentle enough during oral sex – You guys have no idea just how sensitive the clitoris is. It’s very sensitive. You don’t need to be rough down there, ever. When first starting you should have the absolute lightest touch possible, maybe even only licking and sucking the areas around the clitoris lightly. When she is ready for you to be a little bit firmer, she’ll let you know by beginning to push up against you with her pelvis. Don’t take this as a sign to go at it with everything you have, just increase the pressure slightly. The lighter you go, the more drawn out and intense her orgasm will be.
 
Skipping foreplay – Don’t do it, guys. Never, ever. Women take longer to warm up than you do and even if she seems turned on and up for sex, it doesn’t mean that you can pop it in without any work beforehand. What you’ll likely find is that she’s not quite there yet and it will only take her longer to get into sex after you’ve skipped the prep time. Chances are if she really wants you to take her right then and there, she’s going to let you know.
 

Bad breast play – Nipple twisting or being too rough in general is a no-no when it comes to women. Time to get rid of the “tune in Tokyo” routine you fantasized about in grade school. Lick, suck, maybe even nibble lightly on a woman’s breasts. Caress them, don’t knead them like bread.
 

I have faith that my readers haven’t been making too many mistakes in the bedroom, but it’s always better to play it safe. Guys, if you ever have any doubt about what she likes, just ask her. We’re all a little different and this is the only way you’re going to know if what you’re doing is working.

Happy lovemaking!

Gabrielle Moore

PS. What other love blunders have you or your friends committed over the years? Share it with me in the comments section.

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Every sex advice column talks about foreplay, foreplay, foreplay and how important it is to the woman’s sexual experience, but few get into the nitty gritty details of how to do it just right, how long to spend doing one thing, and what to do next. That’s why I thought, what my readers need is the set up for the perfect night, taking them through each stage of foreplay and explaining what, when, and how long. So here goes guys!

Step 1 – Setting the mood

This is one of the things a lot of men overlook when it comes to sex. It’s likely because setting the mood is probably the most boring part of what you’re going to do, but here’s a little inside information for you: women who are distracted by their messy home, a laundry list of chores, work problems, or a whole slew of other things are much less likely to feel like having sex. Do what you can to ease the load of her work and stress. Take over her portion of the chores that night. Let her vent over dinner about her stressful day or jerk of a boss. Then make sure the environment in the bedroom (or wherever you choose to do it) is tranquil and stress-free.

Step 2 – Attention on her

Begin by underdressing her slowly. If she starts to help, gently push her hands away. Even just taking her clothes off can be a part of foreplay, don’t rush it. Get her down to her bra and underwear and have some fun. Slide her bra strap down and kiss her along the clavicle, shoulder, and neck. Slide it back on and continue kissing and licking down her stomach, all the way down. Kiss, suck and lick on her thighs and all around her vulva, but through her panties. Tell her how sexy she looks.

Step 3 – Kissing

Women are not in a rush and they will get much more turned on if you take things nice and slow. Taking things slow also has a teasing element to it, which is great for building desire and sexual tension. A lot of women complain that men don’t spend enough time on kissing, instead they rush right away for the genitals. Spend time kissing her all over, and not just on her mouth, kiss her neck, shoulders, ears, breasts, stomach, thighs… be creative and take your time.

Step 4 – Turn up the heat

Without rushing things, slowly begin paying attention to her genital area. Pull her panties to the side and give her a few soft licks, but then put them back in place and move on. Continue to go back with more frequency. Then take her panties off but ignore her genital area for a bit, going back to kissing her on her breasts, neck and ears. Finally make your way down there and stay for a while.

Step 5 – Oral

I’m not going to get into too many details here, but instead refer you to my previous Complete Guide to Oral Sex article. Just remember to keep teasing and taking things slow. From here you can either decide whether you want oral to be the main event (with reciprocation afterwards of course!) or if you should move on to vaginal sex. Take a cue from your partner and do what you think she might enjoy more.

 

The key to great foreplay is to do what your partner likes, but remember to keep things interesting. Just because you know she likes to be kissed on her ears doesn’t mean you should go for that every single time. Change things up and be creative about how you use foreplay. You don’t have to have the perfect night of foreplay every time you have sex, but foreplay should be on the menu each time. You’ll know you’ve done enough when SHE is the one who’s ready to take things to the next level. Foreplay will be what gets her really excited for sex and if you do it right and all the time then sex will be more enjoyable for her every time, and therefore she will be more interested.

 

Talk dirty to me,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. To find out the secret techniques on how to get her dripping and soaking wet at will, check out my video program on the matter – Dripping Wet Secrets.

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Named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, pleasure, and procreation, aphrodisiacs are foods that are believed to boost your libido and fertility. Although the FDA says that aphrodisiacs are a myth, there are some researchers that have found that some foods and herbs do stimulate hormones (mainly testosterone) and other chemicals that affect our libido. Then there are “super foods” that rev up our metabolism or give us energy, which can also have benefits to the libido.

How to Aphrodisiacs Work?

Aphrodisiacs work in two ways, according to experts: by stimulating the mind or by creating desire by exciting the body.

Whether you believe in aphrodisiacs or not, it certainly can’t hurt to try them and is also a great excuse to have a sexy feast for two, to start off a hot night of lovemaking!

Sexy Foods

Here are some of the most popular aphrodisiacs and how they may affect your libido.

Almonds, Nuts and Salmon
Almonds, Brazil nuts, cashews, pine nuts, flax seed and pumpkin seeds are all high in magnesium, vitamin E and fiber and contain essential fatty acids which produce testosterone and estrogen in men and women to increase libido. Magnesium is a natural vasodilator, which improves circulation to the genitals to aid in erectile dysfunction and helps increase estrogen production in women. Pine Nuts have lots of zinc as well, which helps to energize the sex drive. Many nuts as well as salmon also contain high levels of omega-3 fatty acids, which raise serotonin levels in the brain to improve sexual desire and function.

Asparagus
Asparagus is a great source of Vitamin E and B, which is involved in stimulating the production of sex hormones in both men and women which is important for a healthy libido.

Avocados
Avocados grow on trees and hang in pairs, resembling testicles, so the Aztecs named the Avocaodo tree the “testicle tree”! Rich in vitamin E, these creamy rich fruit are thought to produce “hormones like testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone, which circulate in the bloodstream and stimulate sexual responses like clitoral swelling and vaginal lubrication” . Avocados also contain vitamin B6 which increases testosterone production and potassium which helps increase libido in both men and women.

Bananas
Bananas are not only phallic in shape, but are also full of potassium, which boosts energy and muscle strength, making orgasm contractions more intense. They also contain the bromelain enzyme which is a male-libido booster.

Berries and Pomegranates
Strawberries have the visual appeal of female nipples and have always been symbols of sensuality. They contain a high amount of zinc which acts like a natural Viagra and vitamin C which helps keep blood flowing to all regions of the body. Blueberries help relax blood vessels, improving blood flow, for stronger erections and better lubrication in women. Goji Berries are one of the newest “super foods” which increase testosterone levels, improve overall stamina, mood and wellbeing. Pomegranates increase blood flow due to their powerful antioxidants, and the juice has been found in one study to aid in erectile dysfunction.

Celery
Celery contains androstenone, a powerful male hormone which acts as a brain-stimulating pheromone. When you bite into celery, this pheromone is released which triggers the most primitive part of a woman’s brain, to get her in the mood even if she is unaware of it.

Chocolate
Dark chocolate contains phenylethylamine, an amino acid that stimulates feelings of love and wellbeing, while raising the body’s endorphins and creating a sense of euphoria. It also causes increases in dopamine, said to create feelings of pleasure and tryptophan, which the brain transforms into serotonin, the “happy” hormone. Anandamide, another component, mimics a cannabis high by heightening sensitivity. Chocolate also functions as a vasodilator, improving circulation, and as a stress reliever, reducing cortisol levels. It is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Honey
Like bee pollen, honey has powerful aphrodisiac qualities. It contains boron, which regulates estrogen and testosterone levels and provides a natural energy boost as well as the B vitamins which aid in testosterone production. During medieval times, mead, a fermented drink made from honey, was a popular drink thought to promote sexual desire. Newly wedded couples in ancient Persia also drank mead every day for a month which became known as the “honeymoon” to promote a successful union.

Hot Chilies
Hot peppers and chilies contain a chemical called capsaicin, which gets the blood pumping and stimulate nerve endings. But they also stimulate endorphins which make you sweat and get your heart all revved up, all of which imitate how you feel when sexually aroused. In addition, hot chilies contain serotonin which gets you in the mood.

Oysters
Oysters are one of the best known aphrodisiacs and contain zinc, which increases testosterone as well as the sex drive. They also contain amino acid which researchers think trigger sex hormone production including D-aspartic acid (D-Asp) and N-methyl-D-aspartate (NMDA).

Watermelon
Watermelon contains the phytonutrient citrulline which is converted to arginine, thus increasing nitric oxide in the body. Nitric oxide, like Viagra speeds up circulation to the genitals and relaxes the blood vessels, which improves blood flow to the penis aiding in getting and keeping a hard-on. In women, it enhances sexual desire by supplying more blood to the genitals which improves sensation as well as lubrication. The lycopene in watermelon also enhances male fertility by increasing sperm production.

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Now that you have the ingredients, try combining them into a meal or dessert to add fuel to your foreplay for a hot night of sex.

Main Course:

Chile-Honey-Glazed Salmon

Try pan fried or grilled Salmon in honey-glazed, chili, and pomegranate sauce, sprinkled with pine nuts, with asparagus and avocado on the side.

Dessert:

Chocolate Fondue with Fresh Fruit

Or, how about a simple dark chocolate fondue with fresh aphrodisiac fruit? Melt chunks of dark baking chocolate in a fondue pot. Mix with honey and vanilla to sweeten and flavor. Serve with chunks of bananas, strawberries, and watermelon for a decadent dessert.

Bon Appetite,

Gabrielle Moore

Sources:
(http://science.howstuffworks.com/aphrodisiac2.htm)
(http://www.anneofcarversville.com/body-politics/2011/5/6/sensual-superyoung-sexy-healthy-diet-foods.html)

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“I want to do things so wild with you that I don’t know how to say them.” – Anaïs Nin

I have the dirtiest thoughts running through my head today. You just wouldn’t believe what I’m thinking. The idea of knowing the inner, secret, sexy thoughts of a woman is a pretty big turn on, isn’t it? Wouldn’t you love it if you partner would share those dirty, sexy thoughts with you? I know I would!

Women like dirty talk too, it’s true. You might be surprised to find out that your partner has been dying to talk dirty to you too, but she might be worried about how you will react. Besides, even though men tend to enjoy talking dirty doesn’t mean that they know how to do it. There are various possible issues when it comes to talking dirty. There is the shy guy. There is the possibility of offending your partner by saying the wrong thing. The art of talking dirty. It really is an art form and today I’m going to help you master it, tackling a few problems and sharing a few solutions.

Problem #1 The Shy Guy

You want to be able to make her wet with just your words but you blank when it comes time to do the deed. That’s okay, believe me, you’re not the only one who turns a bit red at the idea of talking dirty. The solution? Start simple. Don’t feel the need to tell her your dirtiest thought. Dirty talk will only be sexy if you feel comfortable and confident in what you’re doing.

Master Rule #1 How to Talk Dirty

Dirty talk can be a real turn on if it’s delivered in the right way. That means with confidence. First try, leaning down and whispering right into her ear in a deep and sexy voice when you’re having sex or during foreplay. For shyer guys this can feel more comfortable than looking her right in the eye and talking dirty, plus you have the added bonus of tantalizing the erogenous zone of the ear with your hot breathe. If you still can’t think of anything to say, try expressing yourself through sound. Moaning, breathing heavy, grunting, sighing, and screaming can all express a lot without speaking a single word.

If you’re an old pro and totally comfortable with dirty talk, look her right in the eyes and say what’s on your mind. Your directness might make her blush, but it will also turn her on. Move your eyes all over her body as if you’re drinking her up with your eyes and then say something else.

Problem #2 Gauging Her Reaction

You want to talk dirty, but you’re worried about offending her with your words? My first piece of advice is to start with something more mild. If you think there is a possibility that you could offend her with something you say then you don’t want to start off calling her your “dirty, little slut!” Try some light dirty talk, like telling her how hot she makes you and how sexy she is. Gauge her reaction. You should be able to tell if she’s enjoying that or not. Then you can begin to spice things up, whilst continuing to gauge her reactions.

Communication is important when it comes to the sexual relationship. While talking about how she feels about something you said might break the mood at the time, you can always check in afterward. And if you think you have offended her then you can apologize right away. Sincerity goes a long way.

Master Rule #2 Setting the Rules

Get your partner in on it and talk to her about what kind of dirty talk she likes. You might be surprised to find out that your sweet girlfriend has quite the mouth on her in the bedroom. Set some ground rules for dirty talk. There might be words that she finds offensive or situations that are a big turn off. Identify these so you can be sure to steer clear of them during your dirty talk. This will also give you the opportunity to share some of your favorite dirty talk scenarios, phrases, and fantasies with your partner.

Dirty talk can really bring a new, exciting element into the sexual relationship. Through talking alone couples can explore sexual fantasies and role playing, deepening and strengthening their sexual connection.

Hot, wet kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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“Talking dirty to someone is an art, but to be able to back it up is a gift.” — Unknown

Talking dirty is a special form of seduction that not everyone uses, but they should. It doesn’t come easy to every man or woman out there and even those of us that are old pros can use a few tips and pointers now and then. Today we’re going to get down to specifics. Ok, I’ve got my confidence and my technique down, but what the heck do I say? Here’s where to start…

Soft Core Dirty Talk

Soft core naughty talk is for your beginner, a person who isn’t comfortable yet with dirtier chatter, or those who just prefer a less filthy discourse in the bedroom. It can include compliments to your partner, loving words, and mild dirty talk that doesn’t pass over into the vulgar side. Here are some great examples to get you started:

Compliments
“You’re so sexy.”
“I love when you touch me like that.”
“That feels so good.”
“You’re so good at (x).”
“I love what you can do with your mouth.”
“It turns me on so much when you look at me like that.”
“I love that, don’t stop.”
“God, you’re amazing”
Questions/Feedback
“Do you like that?”
“Show me what you like.”
Instructions
“Touch yourself (there).”
“Touch me”
“Kiss me”
“Suck me”
“Do whatever you want to me, I’m yours.”
“Don’t stop, I’m almost there, keep going”
“Take off your clothes, I want to see your beautiful body.”
Describing what’s happening or what you’re going to do
“I’m going to make love to you all night long.”
“I want to make you cum.”

Hard Core Dirty Talk

The types of discourse in hard core dirty talk isn’t so different than soft core. You will still give compliments, questions and feedback, give instructions, and describe what’s happening or what’s going on, but you will just use different words to do so. You might use swear words or slang to really get your point across and even if the idea is the same it will be expressed much more explicitly. Here are some examples of hard core dirty talk to get you started:

Compliments
“You’re so fucking hot.”
“You taste amazing.”
“You are delicious.”
“You get me harder than I have ever been before.”
Questions/Feedback
“I bet you like that, don’t you?”
“Tell me about your dirtiest fantasy.”
“Tell me what you want me to do to you.”
“Tell me what you think about when you masturbate, you dirty girl.”
“Do you like watching me touch myself?”
“Do you like being fucked like that?”
“I’m your slave. Tell me what you want me to do.”
“Do you like my dick? Tell me what you like about it.”
Instructions
“Don’t say a word. I’m going to fuck you until you cum so hard you can’t stand it.”
“Flip over so I can see your sexy ass while I fuck you.”
“Get over here and ride me hard.
“I want you to touch yourself while I watch.”
“Tell me where you want me to cum. Inside your pussy? On your tits? In your mouth? On your face? You decide.”
“Suck me off, NOW.”
“Spread your legs.”
“Beg me for it.”
Describing what’s happening or what you’re going to do
“You’re going to take my rock hard cock.”
“I’m going to fuck you so good the neighbors are going to call the cops.”
“You’re so fucking wet.”
“You’ve been a bad girl and you need to be punished.”
“I could spend hours between your legs tasting you.”

Some men and women might like dirty talk to get even more hard core than the examples above. They might like using stronger words like slut, bitch, or whore and get really explicit. Some men might like to be talked down to or ordered around in the bedroom. While some people who aren’t into this might think it is disrespectful, it’s actually just sex play. It’s like a game and it doesn’t necessarily reflect the relationship that those people have outside of the bedroom. That being said, if your partner prefers soft core chat and you like it hard core, you won’t be able to convince her that it’s just play. You can’t change what turns her on and off, you just have to accept it.

Talk dirty to me,
Gabrielle Moore

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“I don’t have a library card, but do you mind if I check you out?”

Hey Big boy,

You must be practically an expert at talking dirty by now, after having read my previous posts on how to do dirty talk the right way. But there is one more thing you definitely need to know about. This is the technology age and sexy talk has definitely entered the world of technology full force. If you’re new to dirty talk it might feel more comfortable to send a cheeky little text or email than it is to say something face to face. But there are still many people who aren’t completely sure what to say via text or how this whole “sexting” thing is supposed to work anyway. This article is going to give you the complete low down on how to do it in a way that will add excitement, anticipation, and passion back into your relationship.

What can a sexy text or email do for you? Well, it gets the wheels turning in her head. The right words can get under her skin and get her hot and bothered thinking about you. A hot exchange in the middle of the day can be an incredibly effective foreplay technique. She’ll be thinking about you all day and by the time she sees you she won’t be able to resist jumping your bones!

What To Say

The best sexting and/or dirty emails to send are those that talk about what you are/want to do to your partner. It builds anticipation and gets her fantasizing about you. Try these to get you started:

Soft Core
“I can’t get you off of my mind.”
“I can’t stop thinking about what we’re going to do when I see you tonight.”
“You drive me crazy, it’s impossible to concentrate when all I can think about is you in my bed.”
Hard Core
“I’m so hard thinking about being inside you later tonight.”
“The minute you walk in the door I’m going to rip your clothes off and (X) you right there.”
“Are you getting wet thinking about me fucking you?”

Keep in mind that you should work up to hard core dirty talk. It’s not like dirty talk in the bedroom where the situation already warrants it. You don’t want to send her a hard core dirty text out of the blue and find out that her co worker was looking over her shoulder at the time. Start with something like “Are you alone? I need to talk to you about something.” Then you can either keep it soft core or start with soft core and work your way to hard core talk. You should also be gauging her reaction. Is she egging you on or are her responses general? You will be able to tell how to proceed from what signals she gives you.

Sexy Photos – Yes or No?

You have probably seen in the media that sending nude or sexy photos of yourself can be risky business. You need to trust your partner 110% in order to be sure that she won’t ever share your photos, even if one day you were to breakup/divorce. If you insist on sending photos back and forth, never send one that shows your face, just in case. And always show her the utmost respect by keeping any text or photo she sends you completely private. For your eyes only.

Leave Something to the Imagination

Even if you like more of a raunchy discourse you still need to leave something to the imagination. This is about building up sexual tension so you might not want to come right out and say what you are going to do. You can hint at things like “I have a surprise for you tonight” or “I’m going to spoil you tonight.”

Know Your Audience

If you have never talked dirty with your partner or if you haven’t been intimate yet, it’s probably best to hold off on the dirty texting/emailing for now. Or you can start with something really soft core like “I can’t stop thinking about you.” That can be interpreted as a really sweet text or it can elude to racier thoughts. Even if she likes dirty talk in the bedroom, she might not be the type that likes bringing it outside the bedroom. It’s important to know her well and evaluate what kinds of messages will get her hot and not offend her or turn her off.

Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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