“I have the libido of a 15-year-old boy. My sex drive is so high. I’d rather have sex with Brian all the time than leave the house. He doesn’t mind”- Megan Fox

You dream your wife was as open to sex as Megan Fox, and you can’t really understand why her libido has gone AWOL? After all, when you and she first met, getting naked was most likely the only thing on your minds. And now she tells you she’d rather sleep than indulge in rampant lovemaking! Don’t panic. She can get it back in gear. It’s just a question of libido.

Her libido- and yours as well- is like an appetite, in that it fluctuates up and down. If she’s not desiring sex and it’s distressing both of you or harming the relationship, there are five steps that should be addressed in order to fix things.

One: Need a check-up?

First stop on the road to recovering her sex drive should be her GP. Before you deal with lifestyle considerations- often the main cause of a lack of libido- you need to rule out physical reasons. These can range from an undiagnosed illness- such as glandular fever, diabetes or a hormone problem- to pills. Medications can affect libido, including antidepressants and some contraceptive pills.

Two: Feeling down?

Have you noticed here feeling blue more frequently than usual? Depressed people lose interest in things that give them pleasure, and sex is definitely one of them. And what about her other emotions? Anger and resentment have a direct physical effect on her libido. After all, it’s hard for her to get excited about going to bed with you when she resents you for not helping with the housework, for example. Your best bet is to talk to your partner about any underlying issues. Exercise is also great for letting go of bad energy.

Three: Working too much?

Stress, anxiety, fatigue are the fast route to a low sex drive. Is her job taking over her life? If she’s got something on her mind, there’s not really much brain space for anything else. We come to accept a high level of stress as normal, but it’s one of the biggest libido killers around. The time and energy involved in raising children can also be a factor. There are times in a woman’s life, such as when she’s breastfeeding, when libido is supposed to be low. Or it might just be that she’s really tired and busy and simply can’t be bothered to have sex. Some women put such pressure on themselves to do it, because it is expected of them to behave accordingly, that they end up resenting the act altogether. The key: communication!

Four: Partying too hard?

Is she over-indulging in every area of her life- except the bedroom? Long-term overuse of alcohol or recreational drugs, or both, can have a very real effect on her sex drive, as well as for guys, for that matter. For men especially, a damaged liver can mean problems metabolizing hormones, which causes a build-up of estrogen, which in turn drops the sex drive. Libido is moderated by the male hormone testosterone, and too much estrogen has a dampening effect.

Five: What’s happening at home?

Perhaps she’s gone of sex because she’s not connecting with you or you’re boring each other in the bedroom. If you let sex slip into the background, it tends to stay there. You have to work at it- set realistic goals, have great sex once a week or once a fortnight, rather than having ho-hum sex every two days. Look at your technique, ask her what she thinks you’re not doing. Perhaps you need more foreplay, or to re-establish connection by ding things for each other without penetrative sex. Also, try acting out fantasies or mutual masturbation. And if all else fails? I prescribe the quickie. One thing we know for sure about sex: the more often you have it, the more often you desire it.

Have a seductively pleasurable week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Indians don’t necessarily think that you need Viagra or anything of its kind to increase libido. They consider even milk or turmeric as sexual performance enhancers”- Sudhakar Krishnamurthi

So your sex life has hit an all time slump. You can’t pinpoint the exact time she lost her libido- it was a gradual fade from red hot to grey. It set in post children, or promotion, or maybe a seven-year itch. One day, with a shock, you looked at her and realized she was probably writing a mental shopping list while you were trying to get her aroused.

When you’ve been together for some time, it’s inevitable that lovemaking will at times lose its snap, crackle and pop. Yet it doesn’t have to be so. There are couples who manage to maintain their sexual sizzle over decades. Their secret? Shaking things up as often as they can. They plan, titillate, experiment and play. Most importantly, they communicate about what feels good and think of ways to make it even better.

It’s naïve to think that it won’t matter if you rarely have sex or feel bored in the bedroom. When desire wanes, one partner often starts to panic and takes it as a sign the romance is over. They may leave, or have an affair, when all they really need to do is learn to reconnect in a sexual way. There are no short cuts to this- it takes time and a conscious change in attitude.

Hot pursuit

You’re in full seduction mode, but she’s put the brakes on because she’s in the middle of cooking dinner/painting her nails/watching television. These kind of sexual preconditions create insane roadblocks to sex, which are difficult to circumvent later on. So why not go with the flow and use the setting for inspiration. If she’s cooking, make love on the kitchen table. If she’s doing paperwork in the office when you make your advance, straddle each other on her office chair.

If you are usually the chaser, have her agree to swap. Sometimes, simply by becoming the seducer, she might find that she feels overwhelming desire because she’s in control. It also gives you, the partner who normally pursues sex, an ego boost to feel attractive and wanted.

Time to titillate

Foreplay is often regarded as little more that a sexual appetizer, so you wolf it down to get to the main course. Yet the build-up to sex should be a long, slow blush that goes on and on until you can’t stand it. Having a shower is a good way to get there. So is sensual massage- but avoid the temptation to head straight to her hot spots. Begin with shoulders and neck, arms, back and calves. Linger on the finer details, such as toes, ear lobes and forehead. Vigorously knead the muscles, brush the skin with light strokes or slide your hands along the body’s curves. By the time you get around to the tummy, thighs and genitals, she will barely be able to contain the need to be touched there.

Foreplay need not be as limited as kissing and touching. It can begin at breakfast- if you talk to each other about what you intend to happen at the end of the day. That kind of anticipation can really up the ante, because you allow yourself time to fully indulge in sensual suspense.

Arousal triggers

Write down the elements of two really good sexual experiences. You might mention the setting or time of day, the intensity of orgasm or the thrill of getting caught. Once you know what feeds her desire, you can work on incorporating that into your sex life.

Meanwhile, don’t forget about the power of seductive speech. Start recounting a past sexual encounter, read each other erotic literature, explain what that lingering kiss did for you and engage in phone sex. You’ll both get your libidos roaring!

Fool around

Been there, done that- does that just about sum up your sex life? That’s no excuse for giving in to the bedroom blahs. The burning desire you felt when first dating hasn’t been extinguished, you just need to find new ways to stroke the fire and rekindle the flame. You can make sex feel new and naughty, and revisit the “I’ve got to have you right here right now” impulse from your dating days.

I suggest you get dressed up then meet out somewhere, and pretend you are strangers chatting each other up.  This can create a sense of titillation by completely freeing you from your usual sexual routine and persona.

Have a sensual week-end,

Gabrielle Moore

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One of the most tenuous and stressful times in a couple’s sex life is the period following the birth of a new child. Not only is everyone exhausted from the demands of an infant, but other biological forces may be acting on her sex drive and providing a minefield of stumbling blocks to sexual intimacy. You may be concerned about birth control, or breast milk may be tripping you up. She may be worried about pain, or having difficulty with natural lubrication. Whatever worries plague your post-partum love life, you are already on the path to reviving your sex life after this incredible life change. Follow these simple steps and find your way back to your lover for life!

The Wait

How long will it take? When is she ready? What if she just isn’t into it? These questions plague just about every new father, and the answers can be complicated. Most doctors and midwives recommend at least two weeks after birth before engaging in any kind of intercourse. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should just ignore your wife for two weeks while you wait! She will probably want the loving comfort of your arms at the end of a long day, even if only to curl up and fall asleep for a few short hours.

How long it takes for your lover’s body to heal and return to a state of desire and comfort depends quite a bit on the trauma involved in her labor. If there was any tearing or cutting of the perineum involved in the birth, you will be looking at anywhere from three to six weeks before any kind of penetration is comfortable and safe. Even when she is fully healed, the exhaustion and emotional upheaval of birth may leave her feeling less than in the mood.

The most important thing for you to remember during this brief period of recovery is to continue giving her loving physical and emotional support without the pressure of sex. Be sure you let her know when you touch her lovingly and give her the hugs and kisses which comfort her at the end of the day, that you understand her feelings, want to listen to her experiences, and do not expect sex. Sometimes hearing this is all a woman needs to begin opening back up to her sexual self – a completely pressure-free environment.

What’s Breast Milk Got to Do With It?

You may discover that one of the weirdest things you have to deal with getting back to a regular sex life is breast milk. Not only does the act of breastfeeding change your lover’s entire hormone profile, inhibiting lubrication, preventing ovulation, and often also creating strange sensations that may cause some emotional upheaval.

While the breasts provide an obvious function of nourishment, they are also a hotbed of erotic tissue. Many women experience pleasurable feelings and may even experience orgasm during breastfeed, something that a lot of women find shameful and don’t have an outlet to discuss. Your lover may be sore and not have any desire for breast play with you, or she may have feelings of guilt or shame involved with “breast multitasking”. Breast milk is nothing to be afraid of, and neither is the pleasure it brings. These feelings encourage the release of hormones into the body which strengthen the emotional bond between mother and child, and between parents. You may even find that if your partner has trouble getting her milk to flow, that some stimulation on your part may actually help to increase her production and reduces any pain that might be involved.

Most importantly, if you don’t want to rely on breastfeeding for birth control, be sure to choose a non-hormonal alternative birth control, like condoms, a diaphragm, or an IUD. Hormones can be transmitted to the infant through breast milk, along with just about anything else that your lover ingests, so be aware.

Get Ready for It…

The most important things to remember when you’re ready to get back into sex are lubrication and loosening up! Use liberal amounts of a safe, appropriate lube to help keep that friction pleasurable… and warm up to intercourse. If it has been weeks, or months, since your last sexual encounter together, don’t go overboard to make up for lost time.

Let’s Go!

If this was your lover’s first birth, the physical changes and hormones involved in the process can dramatically alter a woman’s sexual desire, sensation, and overall sexual experience. Encourage her to be open and honest with you about how she feels. Tried and true methods of turning her on or getting her off might not work at all anymore, so you may need to go right back to the drawing. Instead of lamenting being back at the starting line, relish in the experience of learning what your lover wants all over again.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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It’s inevitable that the discussion of aphrodisiacs so often leads us to the delectable foods that have been prized for so many hundreds or thousands of years for their powers of potency. Eating and drinking is as much a sensual experience as sex itself and we often use the words of sexuality to describe our gustatory exploration, calling our favourite meals “orgasmic” and associating foods with phallic shapes or luscious lips.

What Are Aphrodisiacs?

The basic quality of an aphrodisiac is its ability to create desire. By definition, chemicals like Viagra, which are designed to improve performance, are not aphrodisiacs. If you have ever taken an “erectile dysfunction” medicine, medically prescribed or otherwise, you will know that it is possible to imbibe and not actually get an erection. Just because your body is capable of sustained arousal doesn’t automatically make you aroused!

The chemical reaction that makes aphrodisiacs effective ultimately involves our hormonal systems, in particular testosterone – for both men and women. When the limbic love of the brain receives signals from the pelvic region that indicate arousal, the signals respond and tell the blood vessels to dilate, which creates erect tissue, no matter your gender. The vessels quickly close, locking that blood inside the enflamed tissue, which first causes feelings of arousal, but left as such can eventually lead to discomfort (also known as “blue balls” in men).

As the physical signs of arousal begin to display, the heart rate rises and the brain begins to release a cocktail of neurotransmitters to prepare our body for pleasure, primarily the love-inducing norepinephrine and dopamine. Lack of testosterone in the body can lead to lack of interest, which means the entire process of arousal stagnates before it can even begin.

How Aphrodisiacs Work

There are a number of factors when it comes to the ability of the body to assimilate aphrodisiacs into arousal. While some aphrodisiacs do have the ability to change body chemistry for the facilitation of arousal, others merely stimulate the senses into a natural sense of lust, and still others work simply because of what medical science calls “the placebo effect” having no scientifically proven value. Of course, if something is safe to use, and works to get your engines running, does it matter whether or not science can prove why it works?

Choosing an Aphrodisiac

Foods chosen for their appearance, like the phallic bananas, which are also high in potassium and B vitamins necessary for hormone production, and avocados, called the “testicle tree” by the Aztecs because of the way they grow in pairs, are associated with sex primarily because of how much they look like sex organs! Even oysters, thought to have aphrodisiac properties because of their high levels of zinc, D-aspartic acid and NMDA compounds which aid in the release of sex hormones, are known as sexy food primarily because of the resemblance they share with the inner labia lips. Cucumbers, obviously phallic, are believed so stimulate a woman’s vaginal blood flow through their scent.

Sensual foods like chocolate and honey are known to include sex-enhancing compounds, and spicy foods like ginger and chili peppers can really get the blood flowing. Eating foods that are healthy, natural and as unprocessed as possible is a key factor in improving hormonal health as well. Basil has been known for centuries to stimulate the sexual senses, along with herbs like cardamom, anise seed, vanilla, cinnamon, garlic, fennel, ginseng, and nutmeg.

In addition to foods that have been proven to work as aphrodisiacs, or thought to by ancients, because of their shape or their contents, there are many foods that stimulate sexual desire because they make us feel at home. The scent of pumpkin pie, cheese pizza, buttered popcorn, licorice, and lavender have been shown to have positive effects on arousal – some for men and some for women, though both loved the fresh-baked pie scent and the relaxing aroma of lavender.

What About Pheremones?

The word pheromone comes from the combination of two Greek concepts: pherein which means “excitement” and hormone which literally means “carrier” – pheromones are the “excitement carriers” of the body.

These compounds found in sweat and other bodily fluids exist for the sole purpose of attraction, identifying ones genetic makeup to potential mates on the lookout for someone who’s DNA is different enough, yet compatible with their own.

Not all people have been known to posses the “vomeronasal organ” (VNO) responsible for detecting what are thought to be “odorless” chemicals, but how often has your lover told you how good you smell, or buried her head in your pillow on a lonely day, even though you wear no cologne?

It is possible to buy human pheromones from sex toy retailers, but the arousal from such an application is not only short-lived, but it may be false… and you may end up intriguing more than just your partner! Your best bet is to alter your lifestyle and increase your intake of natural aphrodisiacs, which will lead to a cleaner, sexier pheromone profile without breaking the bank.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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The libido is often discussed as the body’s internal fire, it’s heat. In different ancient health and sexual traditions, four different “fires” are identified, each associated with a different need, a specific human desire and requirement for human connection. Love requires communication and connection on several levels, which can be broken down into these four categories as well! Think of this as your guide to connecting with your lover in order to light all of her fires. Getting turned on isn’t just about igniting the passions in the loins…

Attention

This is the first step to any interaction – in order to be able to communicate effectively with anyone, you need to be assured that your lover is paying attention to you, and vice versa. Look your lover in the eyes when she walks into the room. Listen to what she has to say and respond accordingly.

This is your “lizard brain” fire, the flames of your instinct and the coals that keep the home-fires burning. Without paying attention to each other, none of the other flames can be sustained. Talking to each other and sharing your love for one another requires focus and intent. Find it and use it.

Affection

After you have caught your lover’s attention, or she has caught yours, you have the opportunity to share affection. The simple, casual touch, the hugs and kisses, the easy phrases like “I love you, honey” allows you to express your love through physical means. The fires of affection are your digestive fires and cooking or serving your lover an incredible meal is a great way to begin expressing your affections.

These fires are also your hottest sexual flames, what we normally recognize as the burning heat of the libido. They require tending to reach maximum potential, which means paying attention to your health, your sexual desires, and nurturing the sexual affection between you and your lover! Touch each other regularly throughout each day, both sexually and casually, to foster increased intimacy and love.

Appreciation

The fire of appreciation is the heart need associated with the voice, with the lightening of the body and our ability to make connections with each other on a mental and emotional level that reaches beyond the mere physical experience. This need burns in the heart and bubbles up from the throat every time you make sounds of pleasure during lovemaking, sighs of contentment in your lover’s arms, or words of comfort and connection when you feel lonely or need to feel close to your partner.

Appreciation is about letting your lover know not only that you are listening and that you are physically connected as with the first two fires, but that you feel her input is worthy, her experience is important, her words and actions are vital to your existence. She needs to know that she is not only wanted, but needed. Your words can be incredibly important at this step, but even if you struggle to express yourself as eloquently as you may like, a few acts of gratitude can go a long way. What kind of reciprocation allows her to feel appreciated – buying her flowers, drawing her a bubble bath, taking her out on the town, writing her a love letter, slow dancing in the living room, a home-cooked meal, a night off from family duty? Whatever it is that allows her to feel like her life and her work at home is valued, give it to her and spark that lightening between you.

Acceptance

The final of the four fires and the four needs of the heart is acceptance. Your lover wants to know that she is accepted as she is, loved for who she is and how she looks and what she does, unconditionally. Showing unconditional love can be difficult because, to be perfectly honest, our love is often conditional. It isn’t that we stop loving someone when the conditions are unfavorable, but it can become increasingly more difficult to express love as we face the challenges in our relationship.

The first thing to go is often acceptance – we begin to feel isolated and alone. She may feel that you don’t understand her at all, and through lack of understanding have rejected her in some way. Perceived rejection leads to feelings of being under appreciated. When we have these feelings of fear or doubt in our relationships, affection is the first thing to drop off and often attention lets up without us evening noticing. The next time things get rough in your relationship, ask yourself…

When was the last time you told your wife how much you love her, no matter what?
How long has it been since you did something special for her, just for being her?
How often do you touch each other each day?
When was the last time you looked at your partner in the eyes?

If you have a hard time answering any of these questions, it’s time to take a good hard look at your relationship and rededicate yourself to connecting with your wife on every level in order to recommit to love and intimacy.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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One of the most important aspects of maintaining a regular, healthy sex life is timing – something that is based not just on your ability to gauge your environment and your wife’s responsiveness to your flirtatious advances, but on her monthly cycle and other cycles of time that govern your every day. What do the days of the week have to do with love and sex? Our day to day experiences have lasting effects on our circadian rhythms, which inform how we feel and interact on a regular basis.

Weekly

Sunday: Take your time waking up on Sunday mornings and enjoy some extra time snuggling in bed together. You will likely spend most of the day planning and prepping for another busy week, getting important things done around the house, so savor the time you have together in bed. Make plans for “date nights” and other intimate time to spend together during the rest of the week, after consulting your calender so you know what your schedule will be for the coming days.

Monday: Expect today to be exhausting, and if you have a few extra minutes to spend with your lover, it will be a wonderful surprise. Take the opportunity to send her a sexy email or leave a short phone message, just letting her know that you’re thinking of her, perhaps reminding her of something sex that happened over the weekend and how enjoyable it was for you, and building some anticipation for something romantic or sexy planned for later in the week.

Tuesday: The next few days are going to be focused on the all important business of keeping life running smoothly. If you really want to do something to turn your wife on today, help her out around the house somehow. Do something to make her life easier today and it will pay off tomorrow, I promise.

Wednesday: It’s humpday! Even if all you have time for today is a quickie, go for it. Hop in the shower together first thing in the morning, come home for a nooner on your lunch hour, to slip is a few sexy moments before the kids get home from soccer practice. It doesn’t have to be mind-blowing sex… you don’t even have to have sex, if you spend some time getting each other worked up. Make out like teenagers, enjoy some oral or manual stimulation, or get quick and dirty up against a wall!

Thursday: Today we start to make plans for the coming weekend, sum up our projects at home and at work, and try to get all the difficult stuff out of the way so you don’t have to worry too much about them on Friday. This is another great day to spend some time simply helping out around the house. Clean up the bedroom so you can enjoy some sexy, relaxing alone time in a clean and sensual space. Wash the sheets, freshen up the place with flowers and candles, you know the drill.

Friday: You may both be running an autopilot today, just waiting for the work week to end. If you are going to be spending your time daydreaming anyway, why not spend it daydreaming of each other? Start the day off right with a sweet little note, and heat things up throughout the day with increasingly more intimate and suggestive text messages or emails. If you have the chance, get online with each other mid-day so you can talk about your plans for the evening, even if those plans are simply to sit down after a good meal and watch a movie together. You may just want to relax with a massage and a bubble bath by the time the day is over, but at least you’ll be able to relax together talking about all your sexy plans for tomorrow! Get ready to really enjoy yourself!

Saturday: Today is your chance to release all of the pent up energy throughout the week. Depending on your wife’s cycle throughout the month, the way your Big Sexy Plans play out will vary, not to mention your own personal preferences and predilections.

Monthly

Early on in her cycle, romantic time together is important to help initiate/support your emotional bond. Whether she is currently menstruating or a few days past, she is likely to appreciate kissing and cuddling more than anything too kinky… but of course take her word for it, not mine! Talk to your lover about how she’s feeling!

As she nears ovulation, she is likely to be more frisky, more sexually assertive, and more interested in certain kinky kinds of play. Play it by ear and let her call the shots. Everyone knows people get a little crazy around the full moon! After ovulation, as she nears menstruation again, she may feel some anxieties or a decrease in assertive attitudes. If she wants you in control, show her you can be strong, supportive and sexy to finish off a great month of love and romance!

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Our sexual energy and spiritual energy are one and the same. That’s what people don’t want to recognize. If you study anything about your mystics, it’s what they’ve experienced. If you know anything about these things, you know you move with that sexual energy because it is a creative, divine energy.”- Deepak Chopra

Ever feel like your libidos are stuck in separate lanes? Hers in hibernation while yours in full blaze? You’re doing that delicious thing to her neck with your mouth that always turns her lower body into molten lava… but her body temperature has barely gone up a single degree? And come to think of it, she hasn’t experienced that fevered, must-have-sex feeling in a while.

Before you freak out and think her lack of readiness signifies your relationship is circling the drain or her sexual plumbing is seriously messed up, keep reading.

The fact that your sex drives don’t seem to be on the same page may simply be a matter of… different sexual personalities. In order to connect with your partner on a deeper level, you have to get in harmony on this aspect as well. If you know your partner’s sex style and in which ways it is similar to yours (or opposite), you can meet her halfway and have that amazing sex you so often dream about.

Find her libido type and match it with yours

1) If she’s a sensualist…

She uses sex to express her love. She’s a hopeless romantic that craves lots of eye contact, deep kissing, foreplay and post-coital cuddling. To put it bluntly: she doesn’t have sex; she makes love. In order to truly arouse her, you have to go for quality, not quantity. If she wants to meld and you want to “slap that ass”, there’s a problem and she won’t be satisfied.

If you’re not really in the mood to be creative, romantically speaking, go for the basic moves, but couch them in a dare, so that she gets the feeling that they’re boundary pushing; for example, tell her you want to climax simultaneously during missionary.

From time to time, go for a quickie. You might wonder why I’m advising you to this, since it’s not exactly the definition of romantic, sensual sex, but bear with me. In her eyes, having a quickie means you’re so attracted to her that you can’t wait; you want her right then and there. A quickie will offer the physical connection she craves (with more urgent kisses and touching), minus the drawn-out pomp and circumstance.

Also, don’t forget to zero in on her hot spots. While you’re doing this, go for some aural sex. A few affirming words will turn the passion button on and set the pace. Nonverbal mimicry also works. Match her movements so she can better understand how turned on you are.

2) If she’s an adventurer…

She believes that if the sex isn’t the point, neither is the relationship. She measures her pleasure by sexual enthusiasm and variety (in positions and changes of scenery). While most women get nostalgic over their first kiss, she gets wishful over her first rug burns. The conclusion? She needs a partner in crime who is not afraid to try everything.

Therefore, given the fact that she uses sex to express her love, she might tire if you always feed her spooning vanilla. Try some role-play; it will please both your palates. It indulges her inner risk taker, and you’re also connecting emotionally- especially if you say you only want to do this with her. Other sex moves to try with her: PDA, learning to say erotic words in a foreign language, mutual masturbation, even seeing how long you can drive each other mad doing everything but the main event.

3) If she’s a pleaser…

She gets off most by controlling the action and gratifying her partner, even if it means putting her own needs on the back burner. Plumb your sexual potential by keeping the lights on during sex. Seeing and being seen means you get the full-on eye contact you crave, while she’s able to lower her inhibitions because she feels a rush from seeing your pleasure and the way you react to her moves.

Be careful though: being generous in bed is one thing; doing so because she has a tough time letting go and fully surrender herself to her own pleasure as well is another. What you have to do is treat her with arousing touches: during foreplay, move slowly. Indulge her need to be touched by rubbing her scalp (it’s loaded with nerve endings), her feet, and massaging her back. As for during the act: 69, anyone? She’ll enjoy the fact that she’s pleasing you with oral and you can return the favor in the same time.

4) If she’s a thinker…

She loves to fantasize, but stress (either about her performance or her body) sometimes torpedoes her libido, so she needs reassurance. You want sex to be all-consuming, but while you’re doing it, she’s actually all-consumed with… the size of her bottom. If you notice that she’s consistently shooing you away because she’s feeling blah, try arousing her by subtly tapping in to things that have turned her on in the past- a particular song, a spice simmering in the kitchen, and then let nature take it course. Her innate anxiety will soon be a matter of the past as well.

You can also quiet the naysayer in her head by milking the atmosphere to get her into the right frame of mind. How can you do that? Unwind with a ritual. Give her a massage with steamy towels; this helps her relax and rediscover how amazing her body can feel.

Have a crazy sexual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Women’s sexual styles ebb and flow with experience, so make sure you’re always pleasuring her to the fullest. Thus, you’ll soon be in complete sync. Discover how to rub and caress your woman’s body in every way to get her swooning, soaking, and orgasming with delight! Check out my video program on the matter – Flesh on Flesh

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You may or may not know this but low sexual desire is the most commonly reported sexual dysfunction among women. When women are experiencing a decrease in their libido it can be frustrating for her and for her partner and can wreak havoc on a relationship. It is normal for a person’s sex drive to ebb and flow over the course of their life, however if a once rocking sex life suddenly disappears or even significantly slacks off it can leave a couple confused and trying to find a way to get back in the groove.

Trying to Put the Pieces Together

Low sexual desire among women is a puzzler. So many factors can contribute to it yet there is still so much we don’t know about it. Trying to sort it all out and overcome it so you can return to a life of sexual pleasure and satisfaction can seem like an overwhelming task, but in the end it is worth it.  Being sexual is a big part of life and it is natural to feel discouraged when things are off kilter.

If your sweetie is having issues with decreased libido there are some things you can do to help her recover that lost loving feeling.

Is There a Doctor in the House?

Start with a visit to the doctor. Many sexual dysfunctions including low sexual desire are caused by medical issues. Sexual side effects of medication are also common. Many times if the medical condition is treated, the sexual dysfunction resolves itself. It is also important to remember that sexual dysfunctions themselves can be a symptom of an underlying medical condition. In any case, a visit to the doctor for a complete medical check-up is the first step to finding and fixing the problem.

Do a Relationship Check

For many women, sexual desire goes right out the window when they are unhappy in their relationship. Ask yourself if you have been as attentive as you should be. Relationships are like a plant. They are living things that need to be nurtured continuously if they are to grow and thrive. Is your relationship blooming or dying on the vine? So often couples get caught up in the day to day grind of living and responsibilities and they unintentionally let their relationship grow stale.

Talk About It

Communication is the key to every part of a relationship and sex is no different. Do not let low sexual desire or any sexual issue go unaddressed. It will not just go away if you don’t acknowledge it. Tell your partner that you are concerned about what is happening or not happening in the bedroom and reassure her that you want to work on the problem together. There is no shame in having a decreased libido but many women let it affect their self-esteem. When you do bring up the subject, make sure you do it on neutral ground. Please do not do it in the bedroom right after a failed sexual encounter. That is the worst possible time and place. Instead try making her a nice breakfast on a weekend when neither of you has to work and calmly and lovingly bring up the subject. Don’t try to be a mind reader and guess at what she is thinking or feeling. Ask her how she feels.

The Race is Won by Those who Keep Running

Getting back to where you were or where you would like to be when it comes to sex is a marathon not a sprint. Someone’s libido does not vanish overnight and it doesn’t come back overnight.

An important thing you can do when one partner is having libido issues it to actually not try to have sex. That may sound like it defeats to the purpose but it can be very helpful. It takes the pressure off. Focus instead on other forms of intimacy such as holding each other, spooning in bed, take a bath together and kissing. Show her that you are satisfied with that for now and that will do wonders in helping her relax. When the pressure is decreased and she is not so concerned that she is failing you with every attempted sexual encounter, it gives you both time to work through any issues that may be contributing to the problem. At the same time it still makes her feel loved and desired.

Patience and persistence are important tools for overcoming low sexual desire. Keep this in mind as you work toward reclaiming the sexual part of your relationship.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“All her life she’d be warned that men were slaves to their desires, that they held their impulses in barely controlled check. A woman – a lady – must be very, very careful of her actions so she did not put spark to the gunpowder that was a man’s libido.” – Elizabeth Hoyt

Some women’s libidos are like bank accounts, sometimes they aren’t as big as you’d like them to be. And at some point in every relationship, yours will likely be out of kilter with your partner’s. If your girlfriend is showing signs of a weakened libido, try these quick fixes to have her wanting to do the deed just as bad and just as often as you.

A table for two

 Firstly, if you’re raring to go and your partner is torn between you and repeats of Friends, do this little trick: pass your arm around her shoulders so that she can get a quick sniff of your armpit. I’m as serious as a tsunami, let her breathe that pheromone filled smell of yours. The University of California has discovered there’s a compound in male sweat that can radically alter sexual excitement in women.

If that doesn’t blow her hair back, perhaps she’d feel more favorably towards cucumber? It’s one of the most effective scents for boosting a lady’s arousal, according to the Chicago Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation. They also discovered that whiffs of doughnuts, pizza, strawberries and popcorn increase penile blood flow in men. Margaritas and Krispy Kremes for dinner? Winning!

If you really want to kick it up a gear, serve chocolate for desert. This tricky little treat contains phenethylamine, the chemical our brains produce when we fall in love. And if she’s not a sweet tooth, try a handful of pumpkin seeds, brazil nuts or almonds instead. They’re all high in arginine, an amino acid that increases the level of blood flow in the genitals. That’s right – just like Viagra, only crunchy!

There are plenty of other morsels on the menu, too – Thai green curry has been shown to improve sex drive, as has porridge, which helps rebalance estrogen and testosterone. Red meat might even help her hit the high notes – it contains a protein that boosts the level of dopamine and some other fun stuff in the brain, which help heighten sensitivity during sexy times.

Trick her body and mind into wanting to do it

 Bud sadly, there are times not even a Sizzler buffet will do it. Whether she’s feeling stressed or just a little bit down, relaxation is paramount if you want your partner to get into the rude groove. Even something simple like having a bath can help- studies show steam helps naturally increase a lady’s sex drive. You can go out for a walk while she’s relaxing with bath oils, sexy foam and lit candles. Reports show that the vitamin D in sunshine can boost a man’s testosterone by 69 per cent. Yes, 69 per cent! There couldn’t be a sexier statistic.

And if none of that works? You’ll have to bring out the big guns… By which, of course, I mean push the breaks on intercourse altogether. It sounds counter-intuitive, but it’s like telling a toddler not to touch a pie straight out of the oven. As soon as it’s off-limits, it’s the one thing she’ll want to do.

Have a sensational week,

Gabrielle Moore

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“One whiff of him and her libido went first-grader on her: hand raised, butt dancing in the chair as her hormones screamed, “Pick me! Pick me!” – Coreene Callahan

She usually wants to climb you like a tree, but all of a sudden, meh. Before you turn her over to the Berman sisters, consider these common desire-killing culprits.

Morning chaos. Her boss’s 9 a.m. status meetings… a full load of papers to file before noon… a pre-work doctor’s appointment… knowing she has a jam-packed morning to contend with all make her worried and wired the night before – and that shrinks her desire. When a woman is stressed, her body pumps out the hormone cortisol in response to the flood of anxiety. And managing stress is a more pressing demand on her system that getting turned on. The night before a crazy a.m., invite her to write a to-do list for the next day to give her a sense of control and order. And if at all possible, bump up booty a few hours to an earlier time in the evening, before she’s too racked with tension to enjoy it.
Spinning class. A cycling session can leave her with more than just jelly legs. A recent study from The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that female cyclists who rode with their handlebars lower than the seat developed diminished sensation where it counts. When the handlebars are positioned below the level of the seat, you’re forced to lean forward, so that can put pressure on the pelvic floor. Early signs of excess pressure are tingling and numbness, and over time, the vagina can become less responsive sexually. Whether she pedals in the gym or on the pavement, make sure her handlebars are level with her seat, which should be wide without any cutouts. Her bike has the narrow, pointy kind? Hit up a bike shop for one that’s female anatomy-friendly.
Taking a drag. Smoking is a vasoconstrictor, meaning it reduces blood flow throughout the body, including the blood that heads to our private parts when we are in the mood. Without that rush of blood, a woman won’t lubricate as much and her odds of having an orgasm may go down dramatically. She might think she has a good reason for needing that cigarette, but I doubt it’s worth losing an O over.
That fourth drink. You know that time she felt insanely hot and bothered after a few too many beers… then passed out cold during the cab ride home? A bellini or two can be a libido booster, sure, but there’s a tricky tipping point that sets the opposite effect in motion. A small amount of alcohol enhances blood flow and decreases inhibition, both of which make a woman feel more aroused. But alcohol is a depressant, so too much eventually slows down her responses and puts her brain and body in a fog. To keep herself lightly buzzed without losing her lady-bones, help her experiment to find her drink threshold – or just make sure she sticks to no more than one per hour and a limit of three per night. After that point, alcohol’s downer effect will drain her erotic energy.
Dehydrating meds. You already know that some meds, such as the Pill and antidepressants, can decrease her sex drive. There’s another drugstore offender: antihistamines. They clear congestion by drying up your nose’s mucous lining, which is why they’re found in cold and allergy formulas. But they can also decrease secretions in the vaginal lining. When your partner is unusually dry, it doesn’t necessarily mean that her body is saying she’s not aroused. Next time she needs to buy allergy pills, get a container of lube too. Problem solved.

 Have a loving week,

Gabrielle Moore

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