“… We were long distance, and now that we’re in the same city, I’d like it three times a day. She countered with once on weekdays and twice on weekends, but somehow it isn’t enough for me and I’m disappointed. Now she’s self-conscious that her sex drive is low and that we aren’t sexually compatible. What can I do?”

Never schedule sex

Sex should be fun and spontaneous, and your partner can’t promise that she is going to be in the mood when she’s just not. You could try sexting; you can have that foreplay all day, and then when you see each other, you’re excited and she’s excited and you can do all of the things you talked about. But don’t force your partner to compromise on what she wants or doesn’t want. Sometimes when women are trying to please a guy, they forget about themselves. You can try to meet her halfway, but don’t force her to do something she’s not into. It’s not worth it. You could ruin your entire relationship.

Find a compromise

You don’t sound sexually incompatible in the least! Sex twice a day on weekends is pretty close to three times a day. She’s made a generous compromise and you can meet her in the middle (masturbating more frequently is one idea). But having a ‘how many times a day’ rule isn’t the best approach to a healthy sex life. Rather try to allow it to happen with fewer expectations.

Know the cardinal relationship rule

A partnership should never depend on the other person changing for you, and she shouldn’t feel obliged to have sex three times a day in order to maintain your shared bond. (And if anybody needs to give, it’s you – you’ll have a harder time finding what you’re looking for.) If you are not able to reach an agreeable compromise, all the communication and love in the world won’t change that. So you may need to accept her point of view as well or else she’ll move on to another guy.

Distinguish between reality and fantasy

Sex three times a day sounds passionate, at least in theory, but it’s amusingly impractical. Ask yourself how often did you really have sex in your past relationships? It will help you figure out whether you have a high sex drive or if this is just your fantasy. Either way, have sex when you both want to. Women are socialised to see sex as a duty they perform for their partners, and who wants something that’s a job rather than fun? It’s important to remember that sex isn’t just about making you happy; it’s about making your partner happy, too.

Don’t take it personally

Differences in sexual desire within couples are very common. Although it is hard to have your advances rejected repeatedly without taking it personally, you need to remind yourself that a partner’s lack of interest in sex just may not be about you, your attractiveness, or your qualities as a human being. It may be a matter of a hormone deficiency or other physiological problems—or feelings the person has about herself. Although you undoubtedly want things to change, try to develop a little empathy. Chances are, given the choice, she would prefer to feel turned on easily. It’s no picnic to feel disinterested in something your partner thrives on. She may feel inadequate, for example. The situation hurts you, but don’t underestimate how painful it is for your partner. Even if she acts defensively, your partner probably spends lots of time wondering why things aren’t easier between you. Try to be understanding.

Do something different

It’s time to try a new approach. First, back off for a while. No matter how attracted you might be to your partner or how ready you might be to make love, for a certain period of time you should commit to not approaching her. Do not initiate sex for a while and see what happens. Don’t talk about the plan; just back off and wait. Sometimes the lower-sexed person simply needs more time to allow her batteries to recharge. When the tug of war has ended, she might feel more amorous. It’s worth a shot. Or do a 180: Wouldn’t it just blow your partner’s mind if you were to tell her that you have been doing some reading and that you now have a better understanding about her feelings and you’re sorry about all the fighting? Think about it: Your partner has been making you feel like a sex maniac and you’ve been making her feel like a celibate. You’re convinced that you’re right, and she is convinced of the opposite. And where has all of it gotten you? I can’t guarantee that telling your partner that you understand her feelings better will make that person want to jump into bed, but I can tell you that making your partner “wrong” won’t do it.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more hot tips on how to properly coordinate your libidoes, check out my video program on the subject – Flesh on Flesh.

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It’s one thing to feel frustrated sexually because, say, you don’t do it twice a day, like in your horniest dreams. It’s another when you just aren’t satisfied, to the point that you’re sneaking hand jobs during your lunch breaks and are so horny that looking at any person with a skirt turns you on. It’s even harder when you love your partner and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

Not sure what to do or how to tell her you’re just not satisfied in the sack? I have come to your rescue via a list of ways to tell your partner you’re not getting what you want.

1. Ask your partner what’s going on.

Get clued in to how your partner is feeling. Rather than approach her with the request, “I need sex,” ask her how she’s feeling and see if maybe you can get to the bottom of why she doesn’t want to have sex. Low sex-drives can be tough but sometimes there’s more too it than that (stress, work, etc.) that could be the factor here.

2. Try to masturbate together.

If sex in the clinical definition of the term is the issue, try something else that’s sexy together. And if she doesn’t want to have sex, ask her if wants to at least try mutual masturbation so you can at least feel that connection with her again.

3. Initiate.

There’s a chance your partner might just not be the type to initiate, and if that’s the case, you should give it a go rather than getting worked up about it. If you are the higher sex drive person, it will be up to you to initiate most times. Don’t feel bad when you get rejected, just because you want sex doesn’t mean they do.

4. Know what actually turns your partner on.

Talk about it. Ask what turns your partner on, ask if they are feeling desired and wanted. Maybe telling your partner that she is sexy will do the trick.

5. Send a sext. 

Prime your partner earlier in the day. Flirt. Text. Be suggestive. Say exactly what you want to do to them. Not sure what to say? Maybe try consulting this list.

6. Don’t quietly barter for sex.

One: You are not property. Two: Sex isn’t a transaction! Avoid covert contracts. That is where you do something and expect something else in return, but you have not communicated the expectation. Covert contracts ALWAYS lead to disappointment. So even though you might think doing chores might get him laid, this simply never ends happily for all parties involved. Maybe you’re routinely giving her oral sex hoping she’ll feel obligated to return the favour. Just don’t do it. It’s not the way to go.

7. Put it on the calendar.

Is she working late hours? Does her professional schedule make it hard to get busy? Then pencil your carnal encounters in like they’re a doctor’s appointment. If it’s your schedules/exhaustion from daily life that gets in the way, try having ‘sex days.’ The anticipation of knowing what Tuesdays and Saturdays brings will make you both ready to rip each other’s clothes off at a moment’s notice.

8. Be really, really honest.

You’re in a trusting relationship (hopefully), so don’t skirt around the edges (you can still be nice though!). And 100% talk to her in an open and frank manner. Nothing else is going to work as well as having an in-depth conversation about it. Tell her how you feel, and ask how she feels. That still might not produce the results you really want, but it’s the best way to go about it. You need to understand her side of the situation, and she needs to understand yours. Don’t leave anything out.

9. Recognise your partner just might not have as high of a sex drive as you do.

Some people have low sex drives and some people just lose interest in someone sexually, while still really liking them as a person. See if there are other ways to see if some sparks can get ignited. It honestly shouldn’t be that hard if she is truly attracted to you, but just sufferers from low sex drive.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more juicy tips on how to recharge your lady’s libido, check out my program on the matter, Flesh on Flesh.

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Regardless if you’re partnered up or flying solo, there are always times when there’s nothing else we’d rather do than have a little fun in the bedroom. Not only does sexual intercourse and foreplay help to release stress, it also produces feel-good hormones that can instantly boost your mood and confidence. But when it comes to women (and men, actually!), while she might be fantasizing sex on a Tuesday morning, by that evening she could be totally put off and would much rather cuddle with Netflix than you.

This is because women’s sex drives are often complex and confusing for couples to navigate. There’s also all sorts of misconceptions and surprising truths about what entices women’s bodies for sex, making the connection between two people pretty difficult to describe. Why? It’s always changing, and oftentimes, there’s no rhyme or reason for a woman’s varying shifts in desire and lust. A woman’s desire for sex can change throughout her life and there is no ‘normal’ level to experience.

Now that you know that she can be hot and cold whenever she feels like it, consider these facts about sex drive:

When it comes to getting in the mood, it’s not about her genitals

When it comes to what makes a woman excited to get naked, it’s less about what’s going on between her legs and more about mental attraction. Women feel desire for sex in different capacities and it can be affected by a variety of outside influencers: stress, anxiety, sense of emotional safety with a partner, hormone balance – these are just a few factors that can affect whether or not she wants to get busy with someone.

Soy can lower female sex drive

From giving her an energy boost before working out to helping her get through that 3 p.m. afternoon crash at the office, what she fuels her body with is the driving force that connects her body to action. Women who have high-soy diets might experience a decreased desire to get jiggy with it. It has been reported that women who eat a lot of soy products usually have a low sex drive. Although soy products are high in nutritional value, they have phytohormones, which are known to change the endocrine system. This in turn lowers the female libido by seventy to eighty percent.

Women don’t like sex less than men — they just experience it differently

The running joke in nearly every television show or sitcom is women complaining about their partners initiating sex on the regular. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Some people are surprised to learn that there is no scientific evidence that supports the assumption that women simply have a lower sexual desire level than men. Our culture bases our understanding of sexual desire using male desire as a default, so anything that appears different from men’s sexual desire must be abnormal in some way. Every couple, every person is different.

Female sex drives might be more complex than we think

Because of how women’s bodies are built and the various chemicals they process, the act of getting it on is a different experience than it is for men. A female’s sex drive is more responsive, meaning that women don’t get ‘spontaneously’ turned on, but rather, they react to what their partner is doing in a given moment. Women respond to situations, initiation, or closeness with arousal. They may require more emotional intimacy, relaxation, relationship happiness, as well as sexual stimulation to build arousal. Cuddling and physical closeness has been found to have the same positive chemical response in women as sex, and may be the thing they desire at one moment or another. Testosterone was linked to desire in women if their cortisol levels (amount of stress) were low.

Another thing that might make a woman’s inclination toward intercourse more complicated is that what turns a woman on one day isn’t always the same thing that turns her on the next day (or sometimes, even the next hour). Women also tend to have more flexible sexual arousal patterns and orientation over time, meaning the things that get them hot change and can include different genders or sexual expressions. So while men have more spontaneous sexual feelings, women’s desire may be more complex, and highly linked to other factors that may need to be awakened to start a sexual connection.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more tips and tricks about how to fire up your partner’s libido, check out my program on the matter – Flesh on Flesh

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It’s perfectly normal for a woman to experience dips in her libido. These are due to lack of sleep, fluctuating hormones, stressful situations, exhaustion and physical or emotional health. Many women feel too tired for sex or have times when their sex drive is low. Experiencing less interest in sex might also be due to boredom in the bedroom. Luckily, you can turn this around to your advantage with just a couple of really simple tricks. Check them out and restart her passion drive tonight!

1. Focus on pleasure, not penetration

Pleasure doesn’t always have to mean (or lead to) penetrative sex. There may be times when she doesn’t really feel like having sex – but it’s important to focus on the things that she finds pleasurable and her appetite might appear. These may be kissing, lying in bed naked together or even giving or receiving oral sex.

2. Keep it fresh

Couples in long-term relationships may find that they need to be a little more creative when it comes to how you have sex. Sex stagnates in long-term relationships. You end up doing the same routine month after month – around seven minutes, twice a week, in the same position. You have to work at sex with your partner to keep things fresh. I recommend doing something special once a week to take on the mindset you had when you were first dating. Try anything just as long as you’re both comfortable with it. Here’s one activity that can be a lot of fun: sucking your partners’ toes. Most people will cringe at it, but once you get past the initial idea it can be a highly sexual experience because your feet are an erogenous zone.

3. Don’t shy away from sex toys

Sex toys can add a whole new dimension to your relationship and are a great way to spice things up and add variety to the bedroom. My advice is to start small and work your way up. Slimmer vibrators are perfect for those new to sex toys and ones with rabbit ears provide dual stimulation of both the clitoris and the G-spot. For a slightly more experienced user, I recommend wand massagers – they are one of the fastest growing sex toy categories, rivalling traditional vibrators in popularity. They give powerful vibrations and many women report more intense orgasms using them.

4. Use sexual fantasies to your advantage

Sexual fantasies are really important. A lot of people feel that the only way they should experience desire is from their partner. If your partner thinks it’s somehow dishonest or disloyal if she’s relying on a fantasy or masturbating before she goes to bed to feel more aroused, make sure you tell her it’s completely ok. If this increases her desire and she enjoys it, she should do it. If she needs more prompting, I recommend reading some erotic literature to get you both in the mood. I’ve always been a huge fan of erotic books, and the stories are not only for entertainment, they can also give you some great ideas for what you and your other half can get up to.

5. Adjust her diet (and yours!)

Diet is incredibly important when it comes to maintaining your sex drive. Good fats (unsaturated fats), for example oily fish, nuts and seeds, are important for boosting libido because sex hormones (such as testosterone) are manufactured from these foods. Also, fats will also help to keep tissues like the vagina lubricated and soft. Also, oysters contain good amounts of zinc, which is important for the production of sex hormones, hence the old wives’ tale of using oysters as an aphrodisiac. Good quality protein is important as it contains L-arginine, an amino acid that’s needed by the body to make nitric oxide, a compound that helps blood circulation in those areas, which are important for a healthy sex life.

6. Don’t judge your partner

It’s important to let your partner know that there’s no right amount of sex that you should be having, whether you want it twice a day or once a month. Remind her that most of us are not having orgasmic sex all the time. It doesn’t matter how often you do it, but if you like it. After all very few individuals have consistently great sex. Most of us bumble through with a mix of outrageously grand sessions, ordinary shags and the odd highly embarrassing incident. Even couples who rate their sex life as fantastic admit only two to three sessions out of every 10 are sheet-grabbing material. Push yourselves when things are good, but be kind and forgiving when things aren’t.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more juicy tips on how to recharge your lady’s libido, check out my program on the matter, Flesh on Flesh.

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“You can’t force sexual chemistry to exist where it doesn’t in the same way you can’t deny it when it does.”

If someone asked you if less sex meant less spark, and you thought, “Less sex? What on earth are you talking about?” then you’re probably one of two people. You’re either a) a lucky bastard in a brand spanking new, shiny relationship, or b) a sex robot sent from the future to woo mankind with your mechanical wiles. If you’re person A, then read this anyway – because it will happen eventually. And if you are person B, welcome! You probably don’t even need to read this, as you’re no doubt programmed for constant sexy times. But everyone else… read on. You might just learn a little something.

How often is often enough?

How many hairs are in Beyonce’s head? How many times has Charlie Sheen been unfaithful? How does Pharrell manage to stay forever young? This is one of those knots that’s not easy to untie. So let’s see how normal people get it done. Cate, 29, and Sean, 30, have been together for four years and they have sex… drum roll, please… twice a week. Then there’s Rachel, 39, and Ben, 42, who’ve also been together for four years and enter the mattress Olympics an average of twice a month. And behind door number three we have Emily, 36, and Joel, 38, also four years in and currently having sex an average of once a month.

So what’s the deal? Who’s normal and who’s not? Actually, how often a couple has sex can depend on a range of things, like age, gender, libido, life-stressors and more. Everyone’s different. But if you really want it in black and white, one of the best sources of info I have says that on average, 30 to 49 year olds have sex 86 times a year.

Quick note: There is one technique that will help you with this…. The “Playmate Switch” developed by Alex Allman a fellow friend and Sex Coach from New York, you can check his technique on his course “Passion & Attraction that Lasts” by clicking here,)

Why the nooky’s gone MIA

So if you’re not bumping nasties at least once or twice a week, should you be worried? There are so many reasons a couple’s sex life has diminished, and many of them are as simple as someone being tired or feeling stressed and worn out after an exhausting day in the office. If a couple if going through a transitional stage in their life that impacts on both their emotional and physical welfare, such as a career change, illness or grieving a loss, then it’s actually pretty normal for that couple not to have a rockin’ sexual appetite.

But what if it’s none of the above? What if you’ve gone from doing it eight times a weekend to just eight times a year, without even really noticing? “We stopped having sex every other night when we moved in together. We went from seeing each other three or four times a week to every single night. So I guess it just didn’t seem as urgent anymore”, says Ben.

Sound familiar? It should. Anyone who has been in a relationship before might be familiar with the sexual honeymoon phase and how, after time, it can become much less frequent. This is actually quite common in couples, and tends to happen over time.

Happy is as happy does

But what if, like Emily and Joel, you’re both perfectly happy having sex every couple of weeks? Luckily, a lack of sexy sessions doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship, just as long as you’re both satisfied with the frequency. “I would probably never tell any of my mates this, but I don’t have a super high sex drive. I feel like maybe we should be having sex more, but at the moment we’re in a routine neither of us really seem to mind”, says Joel. Just make sure you’re not convincing yourself otherwise because you don’t want to face bigger problems in the relationship.

Our libidos can come and go, and some of us just go through a bit of a lull. It becomes a bad sign, though, if you find your disinterest in having sex with your partner sticks around. If your sex life is low because feelings about your relationship have changed, that’s a cause for concern.

So how do you know which it is? A good way of nutting this out is to gauge your libido with masturbation. Basically, if you can turn yourself on when she can’t, you might have a slight problem. But fear not, this article’s not over!

I’m bringing sexy back

Here’s my sage advice: think of it like going to the movies. When was the last time you turned around and realized, “Oh, I’m in a cinema! Since I’m here, I might as well check out a movie.” In a similar vein, sex ain’t just gonna happen, so make sure you’re buying tickets to your own show. Here are three juicy tips to make sure you do just that…

Dreamt of having sex in nothing but a tie? Do it: create a sex bucket list together and make room for experimentation.
Lock lips like you’re 14-year-olds behind the bike racks. If you’ve stopped kissing each other like you did when you first met, start doing it again. It’s amazing what a classic smooch can do.
Grab her ass at the shops: take on a more “spur of the moment” attitude – don’t schedule sex in!

Put some elbow in it

Don’t sweat it too much, but a whole shebang of studies show couples who have sex on average a couple of times a week tend to be happier in their relationships. So until sex robots are invented, put on Jason Derulo and get busy as much as you damn can.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. I applaud you for seeking out ways to spice thing up again, and if you are interested in an in-depth course in this particular topic, check out my video program – Flesh on Flesh. Here you’ll discover how to rub and caress your woman’s body in every way to get her swooning, soaking, and orgasming with delight!

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Regardless if you’re partnered up or flying solo, there are always times when there’s nothing else we’d rather do than have a little fun in the bedroom. Not only does sexual intercourse and foreplay help to release stress, it also produces feel-good hormones that can instantly boost your mood and confidence. But when it comes to women (and men, actually!), while she might be fantasizing sex on a Tuesday morning, by that evening she could be totally put off and would much rather cuddle with Netflix than you.

This is because women’s sex drives are often complex and confusing for couples to navigate. There’s also all sorts of misconceptions and surprising truths about what entices women’s bodies for sex, making the connection between two people pretty difficult to describe. Why? It’s always changing, and oftentimes, there’s no rhyme or reason for a woman’s varying shifts in desire and lust. A woman’s desire for sex can change throughout her life and there is no ‘normal’ level to experience.

Now that you know that she can be hot and cold whenever she feels like it, consider these facts about sex drive:

When it comes to getting in the mood, it’s not about her genitals

When it comes to what makes a woman excited to get naked, it’s less about what’s going on between her legs and more about mental attraction. Women feel desire for sex in different capacities and it can be affected by a variety of outside influencers: stress, anxiety, sense of emotional safety with a partner, hormone balance – these are just a few factors that can affect whether or not she wants to get busy with someone.

There is a NEW and controversial technique called the “Kinetic Attraction”(I don’t fully approve this technique, but I think every guy deserves a chance to find someone to be with… intimately). If you want to learn more,  Click here to Watch this Controversial Technique Video Now. (This technique was not done by me)

Soy can lower female sex drive

From giving her an energy boost before working out to helping her get through that 3 p.m. afternoon crash at the office, what she fuels her body with is the driving force that connects her body to action. Women who have high-soy diets might experience a decreased desire to get jiggy with it. It has been reported that women who eat a lot of soy products usually have a low sex drive. Although soy products are high in nutritional value, they have phytohormones, which are known to change the endocrine system. This in turn lowers the female libido by seventy to eighty percent.

Women don’t like sex less than men — they just experience it differently

The running joke in nearly every television show or sitcom is women complaining about their partners initiating sex on the regular. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Some people are surprised to learn that there is no scientific evidence that supports the assumption that women simply have a lower sexual desire level than men. Our culture bases our understanding of sexual desire using male desire as a default, so anything that appears different from men’s sexual desire must be abnormal in some way. Every couple, every person is different.

Female sex drives might be more complex than we think

Because of how women’s bodies are built and the various chemicals they process, the act of getting it on is a different experience than it is for men. A female’s sex drive is more responsive, meaning that women don’t get ‘spontaneously’ turned on, but rather, they react to what their partner is doing in a given moment. Women respond to situations, initiation, or closeness with arousal. They may require more emotional intimacy, relaxation, relationship happiness, as well as sexual stimulation to build arousal. Cuddling and physical closeness has been found to have the same positive chemical response in women as sex, and may be the thing they desire at one moment or another. Testosterone was linked to desire in women if their cortisol levels (amount of stress) were low.

Another thing that might make a woman’s inclination toward intercourse more complicated is that what turns a woman on one day isn’t always the same thing that turns her on the next day (or sometimes, even the next hour). Women also tend to have more flexible sexual arousal patterns and orientation over time, meaning the things that get them hot change and can include different genders or sexual expressions. So while men have more spontaneous sexual feelings, women’s desire may be more complex, and highly linked to other factors that may need to be awakened to start a sexual connection.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. For more tips and tricks about how to fire up your partner’s libido, check out this controversial video.

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And when I’m talking about erotic moves, I’m certainly not only talking about penetration. I know you’re anxious to get in her pants (or maybe my intense training over the years has taught you a little about how to enjoy a hot prelude just as much as she does), but the erotic teasing à la Mr. Christian Grey (the guy from Fifty Shades of Grey that all ladies fantasise about) will make her wet her panties all day. Brushing her teeth, putting her tight skirt on, listening to her colleague complaining about her boyfriend in the office… she’ll be obsessing over you this whole time.

See, the female brain is very interesting when it comes to erotic pleasure. Of course, everything starts in the brain for you as well, but women are wired to make a lot more of those emotional connections that sometimes make her so… intense. This ability will heighten her imagination and create amazing scenarios that would put to shame any porn video you’ve ever watched. And while she’s thinking about all these hot scenarios that involve you, she often gets even more turned on than when she’s actually having sex — because anticipation is just unbearable. Her heart starts beating faster, she breathes heavily, her cheeks flush and she’s touching her neck without even realizing it. Yeah, she wishes you were inside her right at this moment.

But how can you subtly make a woman craving you all day long — even when she needs to get some serious work done but still can’t help but having wild thoughts about you? Prepare yourself because your sex game is about to get a total makeover. Here are my favourite powerful moves you can make on a woman to make sure you invade her brain pretty much non-stop.

Introduce a new move in bed

A friend of mine, let’s call her Amanda, had a great relationship with her boyfriend, but after only 3 months of passion, she was already starting to say no to sex. “Don’t get me wrong, he was a great lover. But I just got bored”, she told me. I wasn’t surprised, because it’s something all couples go through. They do the same things over and over again, and no matter how great it felt in the beginning, too much of anything can take away the excitement factor.

But this is where Amanda’s story starts to get spicy! “One night, everything changed between us sexually. I was trying to just be present for him, expecting the same scenario, when he surprised me with a totally different approach. First of all, he changed the way he was performing oral by using more lips and less tongue, making firm but gentle moves with his mouth and applying more pressure… slowly, which felt so amazing! It was impossible for me to control my body anymore. But that’s that all. When he finally got inside me, he started to grab my waist and pull me into him, like this strong sexy beast that I didn’t even know anymore. The sex was so great that I fantasized about him non-stop the next day. Not just about the sex itself, but more about his attitude. He already knew my body and what I liked, and he took this information and used it to create even more intensity. Wow, that right there changed our sexual dynamic forever”, Amanda confesses.

I can tell you for sure that there’s no greater way to stimulate imagination than novelty. Start a sexual revolution in your bedroom by introducing new moves when your woman least expects it and watch her body tremble with desire (her mind will, too!).

Talk at a slower pace

The way you talk is actually a key factor when it comes to attraction. Biologically, men are attracted to a higher pitch, while women love a confident lower pitch, which signals an interesting man who knows what he’s doing. Something as simple as lowering your voice while still keeping it strong will turn on the arousal button in her brain and make her think you’re inside her even if your conversation has nothing to do with sex. So an efficient method to obtain this voice effect is simply trying to talk slower than normal.

When you talk slower, every word is articulated properly and your tone becomes deeper and more sensual — at least to a woman’s ear! Actually, go even further and combine this trick with a sensual, “innocent” touch on her thigh while talking about something completely random, like the news you read in the newspaper yesterday morning. If your circumstances don’t allow for sex right now (maybe you’re on your lunch break), just know that she will have her way with you in her head until you meet again.

By the way, if you want to learn much more about how to build excitement with your woman through simple conversational strategies, check out this program created by my friend Jessica Lastimosa — it’s called “Speak to Spark Arousal” and it contains some interesting and original tricks which will help you stimulate her mind the right way. Quick note: This program was NOT created by me.

Play a little game

This gets me every damn time. A little fun game in the bedroom will make you both feel like partners in crime and will just stimulate her mind to let go of inhibitions.

Games make us feel safe and free because they remind us of a time in our lives when we had zero responsibilities. When we were happy and careless. This really helps in the bedroom because it makes her let go and enjoy the fun. So say something like “I’m going to just sit here and do nothing. I’ll just look at you until you tell me what to do.” In other words, offer her total control. Challenge her to think of the most pleasurable moves that she wants you to do on her and to say it out loud so that you can execute accordingly. This will not only make her horny as hell and eager to have you again as soon as possible but will also give you the unique opportunity to learn more about what truly awakens her passion.

Take it to the next level and make this game into a secret ritual: tell her you want to play a different game once a month and let her pick the next one. This will keep her mind busy… sexually.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Believe it or not, the things you say matter more than you think. Language is very important when it comes to attraction, especially during those first few stages when we “dance” together, completing a mating ritual. Every little word or tone of voice can bring you closer… or further to the woman of your dreams. And no matter how handsome you are, you’ll never get to awaken that passion within her if your sexual communication skills are down to the minimum level — she’ll simply stop finding you attractive after you start talking. One of my best friends, Laura, is a great example of this dynamic. “You know, I was out with some friends and I spotted this incredibly handsome man at the bar. He was sitting there alone, looking at people, and I started imagining what he was thinking. I was ready to believe all the good stuff about him: that behind his pretty face there’s certainly an intellectual and emotional being that could take my emotions to the next level. Because you know how I like to idealize men that I’m attracted to. But when I finally approached him, he just made an indelicate remark about my butt which completely erased the attraction I was feeling towards him. I just walked away laughing at myself for thinking I wanted this man before even talking to him”, she confessed the other day.

This is why language is not just a simple tool for interacting with people. It is a way of expressing yourself, and the way you express yourself determines people to see you in a certain way. Women have a higher emotional intelligence — no offence! — so language is so much more important to them, especially when it comes to attraction and mating. Actually, women choose their mates based on their social and communication skills. This doesn’t mean you have to be the most popular guy in the building, you just have to be able to use language in a way that makes her feel sexy and desired. It is time to replace your boring phrases with these sensual remarks that make her want you more&always.

You say: “Let’s have sex.”

Say this instead: “Your skin looks incredible. I can’t wait to kiss every inch of it.”

Being direct isn’t a bad thing but especially in a long-term relationship, it becomes really boring and unattractive to simply say you want to have sex. In the first few months, it may be enough (not for every woman, though) because the novelty of the relationship keeps those butterflies alive — but nothing fades quicker than physical attraction, believe it or not. The most intense sexual encounters are actually sustained by both physical and emotional connection.

Complementing on her skin is every woman’s dream. Skin is the most “carnal” concept in the human subconscious, but it’s also related to confidence, self-esteem, and femininity. When you say that, you’re not only implying your desire for her (which is predictable) but also the reason for that desire: which is her beautiful skin. Plus, the simple word “skin” has proven to be an aphrodisiac to the female brain, instantly triggering her desire for sex and intimacy.

If you really want to expand your sexual language, check out this program called “Elixir of Eros” created by Mike Wright — it presents some irresistible strategies to make your woman addicted to your body. Quick note: This program was NOT created by me.

You say: “You’re so tight.”

Say this instead: “Wow, it feels awesome to be inside of you.”

It’s true that women are generally self-conscious when it comes to the “tightness” of their vagina, and they may like it when a man makes that kind of remark. On the other hand, this expression is getting old and can even come across as insensitive in the modern era we’re living in. It’s too specific and a little selfish because it sends the message that it’s all about your pleasure. Telling her how awesome it feels to be inside of her has a totally different connotation because it’s like saying “I like being with you in general” while also implying that she is tight down there. It will make her feel more connected to you, which will intensify her sexual desire. My favorite part is that the words which give her pleasure get stuck in her mind forever — this means she will think intimately about you even when you’re not present.

You say: “I’m so horny right now.”

Say this instead: “I could do this with you ALL night long.”

Telling her you’re horny will only make you look like a desperate teenager who’s having sex for the second time in his life. I mean the phrase is pretty acceptable for quickies, but if you really want to make her wetter than she already is, say something that will stimulate her imagination — my suggestion will instantly have her think of countless of unbearably pleasurable sensations. Tell her how you could ride her all night long, and she’ll know how much you desire her at that moment. Because this makes you both feel connected sexually, your woman will respond with that same intensity — trust me, things will go from zero to 100 real quick.

When you’re trying to say something to instantly activate her sexual hunger, always think of a way of involving her in the sensations you’re describing. Knowing that SHE’s the one who makes you feel that way will definitely intensify her appetite.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Attraction is the energy we send to others — sometimes we click, sometimes we don’t. When it comes to women, the beauty of this attraction game is their intuition. You don’t have to be too obvious, because they’ll just know if you’re really connected to them, emotionally and sexually. That being said, you still have to show your enthusiasm, because this is one of the ways of building that intense and lasting attraction.

The way you express yourself when you’re around her — either with words, gestures and overall attitude — can make her feel even more attracted to you…or, on the contrary, it will make you seem like every other guy out there.

Listen, this doesn’t mean you have to give up on being yourself, but there are little specific details you can add to your sexy escapades together, to make things even more intense and to make her that more crazy about you. Check them out to score big!

Be more vocal during sex

I’m not telling you to scream louder than her, because that’s actually not attractive at all. But most men are completely silent during sex, which is not as “manly” as you may think. Yes, we like it when you have control over yourself, but at times she might feel… alone in that hot moment of passion between you too. Make her feel even more connected and attracted to your body by becoming more vocal when you feel amazing inside of her. Moan slightly, say things like “Yes, baby” or “This feels so good” and whisper in her ear while penetrating her even harder. She will feel so much closer to you and crave you more.

You can also learn more about the benefits of expanding your sexual language by checking out this program created by my friend Mike Wright, called “Elixir of Eros” — you will learn some pretty amazing strategies on how to increase the level of attraction she has for you. Quick note: This program was NOT created by me.

Show more interest in discovering her body

You know what’s really attractive? A man who takes his sweet time during foreplay, teasing his woman until she becomes fixated on his body. I know you want to get to the good stuff quickly, but if you want to make her crazy about you on the long run, you have to show her what few other men could: that you love discovering every sensual part of her body.

Spend more time teasing her before sex — lick “strange” areas of her body, like the back of her knees, her wrist etc. Make her whole body feel wanted, and she will connect with you on a deeper level, which will make her want you more and more!

Put your hands to good use

I’ve said it before — women have a strange biological attraction to your hands, so make sure to take advantage of that. Make her more attracted to you during sex by using your strong, sexy hands A LOT. Massage her clitoris with two fingers during penetration, to make her orgasm 10 times more powerful, or reach around and get her off with your hand when you’re in doggie-style position. You can also show your dominant side (which all women like) by grabbing her neck while you whisper sexy words into her ear. Trust me, you need to use your hands more to become absolutely irresistible to her!

Introduce a hot new element

If you’re together for some time now, she’s probably becoming too used to your usual repertoire — missionary and doggie-style are both great sex positions for different reasons, but there is so much more out there if you want to spice things up and make her become crazy about your moves. Surprise her by putting her legs on your shoulders or carry her to the kitchen and have your way with her on the counter. She’ll love the diversity!

Don’t forget to make eye contact

It’s an obvious one, but sometimes you forget how powerful it is. No matter the social context, making eye contact always makes you more desirable, because it shows your confidence and your effort to connect with others in a genuine way.

This is especially effective during sex because it’s a way of becoming one with your partner — it’s sexy and powerful, increasing her arousal and erotic sensations. So try not to neglect this aspect and look into her eyes during key moments: when you first slip inside of her, when you change the rhythm or when she gets close to orgasm.

Sometimes, little touches like these make all the difference when it comes to making an impression on your woman. Because your signature gestures separate you from other guys she’s been with, making you her one and only.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S.: Don’t forget that often times attraction has very little to do with physical appearance. So instead of feeling the pressure to look like those guys from the magazines, take into account that your every gesture and attitude has the potential of making you more attractive to your woman. 

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A lot of men are questioning their masculinity nowadays. It’s easy to think of yourself as “less of a man” or believe that you lack masculinity in a society that values „Alpha-males”, „the men that can do it all”, „the ideal man”. Also, feminism has its own contribution, since women nowadays are taught to believe that they can be more powerful than a man, so much that they may not even need a man in their lives. But we need to keep a sexy balance in order to function together in harmony since — the truth is — life would be a lot less interesting for us, women, without that masculine charisma you possess. And please don’t think otherwise — I know you have it in you. You just need to pull it to the surface and make your woman see you as the real you: strong, confident and incredibly hot.

It’s not exactly easy to increase your masculine charismatic power, especially if you’re used to not seeing yourself as a confident man — in the bedroom or anywhere else. However, remember that this is about how SHE perceives you. You don’t have to be as influential as George Clooney to be desired by your woman. In other words, to achieve Clooney-esque masculinity, you first need to simply offer the impression that you’ve already got it. This means you have to enhance those masculine features that women are wired to get turned on by. Read on to make it possible!

Challenge your woman

You may at times forget that challenge is the whetstone that sharpens the blade of masculinity. Challenge, in general, is a useful tool of making things possible: it spikes your adrenaline, making you more excited and even more turned on which in exchange sends pheromones to your woman — those are chemical substances released by our bodies, which encourage attraction and mating.

And yes — it’s a good idea to challenge yourself from time to time, to make sure you boost your confidence. You can achieve that by introducing a new difficult exercise in your fitness routine or learning how to tango, for example (oh, I would find that especially sexy!). But it’s also important to challenge your woman because this will send a powerful message: „I am your man and I want you to do anything for/with me”. A challenge will make her want to impress you like the old times, satisfy and please you like no other woman could. It will also increase your masculinity and your power over her desires. So tell her something like, „I want you to [insert action] for me”. Just make sure that the challenge consists in something new and erotic, that will make things hotter for both of you.

Spice up your body language

Body language is one of the best ways to turn your woman on because it’s something natural and primal: in the wild, animals mate by using different gestures or poses to attract a partner. To make yourself look confident and masculine, your posture is very important. Here’s how to correct it if you need it:

Stand up as straight as you can, as if there’s a string pulling at the top of your head.

Relax your arms and shoulders — masculine does not mean tense.

Raise your chin just slightly.

Distance your legs as if you have a big “package” — but don’t exaggerate.

Now that you can dominate your posture to look confident, use another sexy weapon: your smile. This is a bit tricky because the way you smile can attract women, or… give you a free pass to friend zone. A recent study has discovered that women prefer men who smile softly and gradually — so don’t give her that wide creepy grin all of a sudden.

To REALLY turn her on with your body language, use the soft smile technique in conjunction with an intense eye contact, while keeping your chin slightly raised. This a very masculine pose and it sends an erotic message: “If you knew all the things I would do to you…”.

Also, if you want to perfect your attraction techniques through body language, check out this video which demonstrates a surprising and efficient technique. Quick note: This was NOT created by me.

Dominate her sexually

Most mating rituals are dominated by the male — which means to women it comes naturally to “offer” their body in order to receive pleasure. Of course, it’s exciting to change roles from time to time, you don’t have to be dominant all the time. But it’s a necessary technique if you want to surprise your woman with a powerful dose of your masculinity. As always, posture is very important, especially if you plan to dominate her sexually. Stand straight and flex your muscles while pulling her closer to you and kissing her harder. You can even pull her hair slightly, to make her understand you’re in control. But be careful — power games are dangerous. Don’t be too rough and always ask her permission if you wish to experiment a new erotic move.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S.: Darling, always trust your instincts and intuition if you want to reveal your sexiest masculine power and make your woman tremble (with pleasure!) while looking into your eyes.

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