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After some time together, most couples are guilty of letting themselves go. However, once this has a negative effect in the bedroom, I say it’s time to get in control again!

A lot of men – and women! – actually discover that as time goes on, fire in the bedroom dwindles a bit and sometimes it’s not even due to a lack of desire for sex. It’s about our bodies physically limiting us from performing great in bed. After all, don’t forget that sex IS a cardiovascular activity.

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Being stress-FULL, instead of stress-FREE.
You know, stress is a part of life; so don’t waste time trying to figure out a way to avoid it. Just deal with it and move on to the next stress! I kid honey.

When you are always stressed out, not only is your mind not into the pleasures of sex but you age faster! When you age faster, your body is no longer that flexible and ‘robust’, and in turn, less sex occurs in the bedroom.

So… RELAX. Try to establish a de-stressing habit that works for you. For my lover, he has a ‘space’ in the garage where he has a comfortable ‘man chair’ and small fridge filled with nothing but BEER. Whenever my lover is stressed, he sits there (don’t worry, our garage is insulated), grabs a brew and just ‘chills’.

So find out what de-stressing habit you can come up with and apply it. You’ll be a much cooler dude (but a HOT one in bed) with a habit like this.

Not sleeping enough.
Studies continuously show a direct relation between sleep deprivation and poor bedroom performance. Put simply, if you don’t get enough sleep, you’re not performing 100% during the day. And this translates to a dull performance in bed too. So don’t be Superman and try to accomplish everything in one day. Rest. Relax. Sleep. Tomorrow is another day.

Living ‘chemically’.
By this I mean that you – and you partner – should aim to eat and drink only natural food items. Today’s fast-paced lives are making it fast for us to reach our graves! Stop eating fast food items all the time and drinking sugar-loaded drinks and go back to er… actual cooking and drinking water or freshly squeezed juices.

Store-bought ‘juices’, vitamin supplements, energy drinks, and all these are not natural at all and yet we gladly make them the foundation of our day to day lives. I don’t mean for you to stop and just start eating root crops but take a good and hard look at what you put into your bodies. Often, all these ‘manufactured’ items are all conniving to run down your body and thus, make it hard for you to perform well in bed.

Being a couch potato.
You know what they say, if you’re a couch potato, you’ll end up looking like a spud in no time. Sex is a form of aerobic exercise. If you’re out of breath on a treadmill or cross-trainer in less than 5 minutes… well, it could mean this is your performance time in bed too.

Start exercising. You’ll feel good, look good and have better sex in no time!

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Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.” – Woody Allen

Mocking a man’s speediness is common amongst groups of girls – I’ll be the first to admit that when a guy blows his load before I’ve even said “Oooh,” I’m telling my girlfriends about it. And we all laugh.

The fact that a lot of men can’t always last that long in the bedroom is both funny and serious – it may be reassuring to know that it’s so commonplace we ladies expect – it’s not surprising when we encounter “early bloomers.” However, for a lot of married couples, a quick finale can be extremely disappointing and can really put a damper on a couple’s sex life.

If you want some tips on lasting longer and some advice on how to delay your orgasm, you’ve come to the right place. Now just take a deep breath, relax, and remember what is written below…

Slow down
Everyone wants to skip the meal and go straight to the dessert – besides, it’s the best part! I understand why you want to rush to the sex part and get your gears grinding, but there’s something to be said about a slower pace. Moving a bit slower can help you to hold off your release in different ways – this is especially true when it comes to foreplay and trying different sensation-stimulating movements. During intercourse, stop ramming yourself in and out of her like a jack-hammer and try a calmer, slower rhythm. If you feel yourself reaching your breaking point, pause for a moment or change positions. If you keep doing the same thing your body isn’t going to react in any way other than ejaculating. Switch things up. Don’t stick to one configuration or speed level.

Listen to your body
Most guys are so wrapped up in the pure ecstasy of sex that they go blank and suddenly, it’s over and they “come to.” This is a big no-no. How are you going to know your body if you’re not paying attention to your physical impulses? By heeding the above tip and slowing things down, you can concentrate on your biological reactions to various stimuli and, therefore, have more control over your body, thus delaying the big E.

One of the most memorable guys I was ever with was completely in-tune with his inner mechanics – we would reach a pinnacle and he would suddenly flip me over and, before re-entering me, he would kiss or lick my neck, shoulders and down my spine, and then we would resume. He could go as long as I wanted. It was an amazing experience.

Masturbate
Maybe your weekly sex romps are simply not often enough, meaning you’re like an anxious puppy – when you finally get some action you’re so overly excited you have no self-control. And what this tells me is: you need something to allow you to have a release between sex sessions, and that’s called masturbation. Men who masturbate on a regular basis are able to make love for a longer period of time. They’re also more familiar with their bodies and reactions, and can therefore “fend off” urges more easily.

Like I always say, lasting longer means better sex, and if you can learn how to delay your orgasm, both of you will enjoy it even more.

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Wet kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“Is it not strange that desire should so many years outlive performance?”- William Shakespeare

Ask any man on this planet about the one improvement he’ll like to achieve sexually speaking and he’ll say the same thing: he wants to last longer in bed. He wants to last all night, to do it three or more times without problems, to be… available all the time.

Ask any man on this planet if he thinks the previous scenario is possible and he’ll answer with a doubting, puzzled look on his face. He’d love it to be possible, but he thinks that in the majority of cases it’s just a really beautiful ideal.

I’m here to contradict this belief. You can, in fact, improve your sexual performance and last a lot longer in the sack, with the proper technique. Moreover, it’s actually not that difficult. All you need is your penis, a woman and the will to learn. Here’s what to do.

Size doesn’t matter. The area around the penis, all down to the thighs, is filled with spongy tissue and nerve endings that are just waiting to be aroused as well. This means you can get your genitals stimulated without even touching them, which, in return, will lead to a stronger, more intimate feel of arousal. Have your girlfriend play with the bits of skin surrounding your penis (the bum, the inside of your thighs, the abs). Your arousal will happen gradually and you’ll be able to last longer.
Kino hot spots. Sexual arousal is heightened by a pattern of tension and release. “Kino” (which comes from the word “kinesthetic”) is the sexual/non-sexual touch which creates just that. If you alternate between being touched right where all the action happens and to the more non-erotic spots, like the scalp, hair and between the toes, you’ll fool your body and mind about the proximity of sexual release and you’ll be able to contain ejaculation much longer.
Multiple sex positions = delayed orgasm. If you’re engaged in a quickie and you want to finish soon, then constant rhythmical stimulation is key. If, on the other hand, you want it to last much longer, swap positions every time you feel like the big O is approaching. Use acrobatics and stay focused on getting as much pleasure you can from each position, but without compromising your goal to finish as late as you can.
Stop moving before you come. You might not be able to contain yourself if the rhythm goes. To avoid this, stop when you are on the brink. At the critical point, when you are over enthusiastic, stopping and holding you partner for a few seconds is the best way to avoid ejaculating. You’ll stay clear of… danger, but engaging in a hug or kiss will still keep you focused on getting busy.
Yoga, baby! According to yogic teachings, by focusing on the crucial point of your ajna chakra, a spot two and a half centimeters above the middle of your eyes and five centimeters behind (so it’s actually inside your head!), you can effectively prevent orgasm. It’s not necessary to use distracting words like yoga and chakra, you could just call it your pleasure centre. Therefore, the next time you’re in bed with your girlfriend or wife and you feel like you can’t contain yourself any longer, have her massage the spot with the pads of her index fingers. This will heighten sexual pleasure for both of you and you’ll also be able to delay your ejaculation.

Have a powerful week-end,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Touching your earlobes can increase the chance of a sudden orgasm, so try to steer her clear from that zone if you want to impress her with the duration of your lovemaking. Learn more about how to become the master of your manhood by learning the techniques from my program Last Longer Tonight.

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We spend a lot of time here talking about your wife’s libido and what it takes to turn her on, but has it occurred to you that the problems you may be experiencing with arousal and orgasm might stem from the same tangled, rotten roots?

When it comes right down to it, the modern conveniences and luxuries we lust after in our day to day lives are often not very conducive to a healthy, active sex life. If you struggle to gain or maintain an erection, it might not have anything at all to do with sex! Can you believe it?

Feeling Hormonal

Not surprisingly, sex hormones (testosterone, estrogen, progesterone) play a pivotal role in both arousal and fertility. Low testosterone in men is shown to be detrimental to a healthy libido – if you struggle to get it up or get it on, it’s worth a look into your health habits and hormones. What you could possibly be doing that would be harmful to your hormones?

Diet: diabetes, obesity, metabolic syndrome, malnutrition – any combination of these factors can completely destroy the well-meaning man. Before you head out to buy the next latest diet craze book, take an assessment of your day-to-day eating. Do you eat lots of fruits and vegetables? Are you getting health protein and fat in your diet, or is the meat and dairy you eat full of synthetic estrogenic hormones? Don’t be afraid of fat – full fat dairy has been shown to increase fertility. Clean saturated fats and essential fatty acids are, well, essential!
Exercise: we all know that an active lifestyle is an integral part of overall health, especially as it relates to avoiding obesity and other conditions known to be harmful to sexual health. You don’t have to turn into a marathon runner, but getting out on a long hike, or playing a round of ultimate frisby with your lover, not only encourages physical fitness but gets the two of you out into the world doing something together. Playing and enjoying nature together builds the kind of intimacy that leads to great sex.
Stress: Not only does chronic stress exacerbate negative health conditions by depleting physical energy and aggravating your adrenal glands, but the mental exhaustion that comes from constantly worrying about your ability to perform only proves to make the situation worse. Right now, stop. Stop thinking about your erection, stop worrying about your ejaculation. Put it completely out of your mind. For the next week, worry only about enjoying the time you and your lover spend together. Touch and cuddle, go for long walks, eat candlelight dinners together. In fact, eat a candlelit dinner every night! Studies have shown that staying up late, especially with artificial lighting and electronic screens, can be incredibly harmful to regular sleep. If you aren’t giving your body the rest it needs, your body won’t co-operate when it comes time to do all the active things you enjoy.
Medication: Many pharmaceuticals have serious side effects when it comes to libido and sexual function. I’m certainly not recommending you chuck all your medicine in the garbage, but if there are ways for you to manage your health naturally, you should be looking in to them right now. Changing your diet is the biggest step you will take to changing your health for the better, not just to get you off meds for blood-pressure, cholesterol, or diabetes, but to help manage anxiety, depression, and many other mood disorders. Stop looking for the quick fix and start approaching your life from a holistic and well-rounded point of view. Engage the support of your lover – if she knows you are changing yourself to make your sex life better, she’ll be eager to help any way she can!
Chemicals: You may be unaware that there are hundreds, perhaps thousands of chemicals in your home right now that could be hurting your sexual health, and your wife’s. Plastics, pesticides, fragrances, and every day body products are typically full of petrochemical byproducts which leech xenoestrogens (fake, plastic estrogen chemicals) into your food and water. Replace your plastics with wood, ceramic, metal, and silicone. Stop drinking bottled water. Use natural, organic, homemade body products. Ensure that your sex toys and lubricants are safe and phthalate free. If it has that “new plastic smell” when you open the package, it is full of estrogens just waiting to mess you up.

All this may seem overwhelming, but the sooner you address your bad health habits, the sooner you can end the distress caused by lack of sex drive, erectile dysfunction, and premature ejaculation. They used to say that “it’s all in your head” but you can take it from me – your head is attached to a body, and that body needs your attention. Take care of it, so it can take care of you!

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Has your partner ever caught you off guard with a bit of extra stimulation during oral sex? There is a sensitive spot you may have discovered with an odd strong stroke, right between the base of your shaft and your testicles; a spot that calls out for attention!

Your anatomy is complex and intricate. Try sometime just placing a finger there and pressing as you near the “point of no return” and feel the flutter inside. This is your prostate gland. Usually associated with the “back door,” this inevitable power house has everything to do with your ejaculation… and injaculation.

A new word, but not a new concept, injaculation is in many ways the compliment to its better known half. For many women, injaculation comes naturally and it is ejaculation that is sought out as the mysterious other. For men, the terminal one-and-done ejaculation is the norm but so too have men for centuries sought out the mystery of multiple orgasm without ejaculation, in cultures across time and across the globe.

This is the doorway to longer-lasting lovemaking – the male multiple orgasm.  And the key to that doorway lies in the prostate. The sensitive patch of skin in the triangle between your penis and testes, is known as the perineum and inside is the inner workings of your “delivery system” – the front gate. If you want to keep what’s inside the house from getting out the front gate, you need to shut the door first!

Close the Door

A well-placed finger over the perineum will reveal the state of your prostate. Not just pleasurable, you can actual learn to measure your level of arousal by noting the relative size and movement of this important gland. As you become more and more stimulate, the prostate gland will slowly swell with fluid. When it reaches maximum capacity, it begins to contract, pulling up sperm with each contraction and putting off lots of pleasurable… well, everything!

The number of contractions you experience during orgasm is telling about the size and capacity of your prostate. While for some men as few as one to four contractions are their “normal,” a healthy and sexually active man can experience twenty or more. Ten would be considered a healthy goal for a beginning injaculator.

In order to increase the capacity and elasticity of the prostate, you can apply pressure to it via the perineum, this preventing it from emptying and delaying orgasm. You may only be able to delay it a few seconds when you first begin, and 30 seconds is an amazing improvement after one or two weeks of daily practice. These may seem like small gains, but over time you will not only improve your lasting qualities, but the capacity of your body for pleasure.

You Injaculate, She Ejaculates

Those experienced with delayed ejaculation have found that by cycling between giving and receiving pleasure, a man can bring himself to the physical experience of orgasm while still preventing ejaculation, and then easily reabsorb and recreate his bodily fluids while giving pleasure to his partner, this beginning the cycle of pleasure over again. A man with this capacity could make love for hours and not feel spent… until he chooses to, anyway!

It is the perfect time to explore female ejaculation with your lover, allowing her to build up and release her pressure build up as you are storing your own. If you work on this together starting now, she also has enough time to experience g-spot orgasms and find the key to squirting. It can be a learning experience for both of you.

The final ejaculatory orgasm at the end of this experience is likely to be one of the most powerful and satisfying you have ever felt. It is a goal worth working towards! Be good to your body and take care of it, for your sake and for hers. You both deserve the absolute pleasure of healthy, sexy bodies.

Don’t hesitate to begin practicing alone, or at least with your own hands. Your lover should be encouraged to practice finding her G-spot as well, so you can practice both alone and together, watching each other explore to better lead you there yourself when it’s your turn. If you can learn to make her squirt, she can also learn to stop you from squirting… at least for a while!

Wet kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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Sexual energies tend to move in cycles, for both men and women. Sometimes you may find that an excess of sexual energy send you barreling forward headfirst into intercourse so quickly that you lose yourself in the moment and it’s over before it’s even begun. Other times, you may struggle to maintain arousal because of a lack of sexual energy.

Not only do the fluctuations in your sexual energy affect your ability to be a reliable sexual partner, but they can have a number of effects on the rest of your life that leave you feeling ill and out of sorts. When you can recognize the symptoms of excess or diminished energy, you can remedy the situation with exercises for harnessing and channeling your libido.

Too Much

Having an excess of sexual energy can be just as destructive to a marriage as not having enough. It is often during these times of excess that we give in to temptations that might cross boundaries like using pornography or seeking out new stimulus in other ways. Do you find yourself constantly thinking about sex, seeking out erotic stories and images, and masturbating to the point of distraction.

What are the symptoms of an overactive libido?

Pent up energy, an inability to keep still, lack of mental focus
High blood pressure, hot flashes, cold extremities due to poor circulation
Stiffness in the joints, lack of flexibility
Swelling in the ankles, poor digestive and metabolic functioning
Heavy hair, dull fingernails,
Infertility and lack of sexual potency (or on the flip-side, constant arousal)
Poor personal relationships and lack of connection, social anxiety, inhibitions and lack of personal and creative self-expression.

Not Enough

A lack of sexual energy not only means you are unlikely to perform, but also are unlikely to even initiate sex, leaving your lover feeling not only unfulfilled, but completely rejected!

What are the symptoms of an under-active libido?

Aversion to physical pleasure, over-sensitive skin
Depression and low self-esteem, emotional instability, irritability, over-sensitivity
Low blood pressure, sudden fevers and hot flushes
Weak or brittle bones, hair and nails due to vitamin deficiencies or anemia
Sleep cycle problems, insomnia, chronic fatigue
Swollen extremities, water retention
Premature ejaculation, premature aging, muscle weakness

The steps to regulating your sexual energy can be super simple! Here are a few suggestions to get you started out on the path to a sea of smooth sexual sailing:

Plug the Leaks:Don’t let out vital energy on things you don’t love, don’t care about, don’t want to be doing. Engage in the kind of sex that gets you passionate. Be creative. Spend your life and your time doing the work that calls to you and the play that makes your heart sing. Explore your kinks and sexual interests. Forcing yourself to do things that your body and spirit don’t wish to do only causes you to deplete your vital energy even faster than hard work normally would, leaving little left for fun and games with your lover.If you have an excess of sexual energy, you can expend that energy in ways that aren’t overtly sexual – go to the beach and enjoy some kind of extreme, heart-racing physical activity; go for a run or a hike up a mountain; tackle a new vocational challenge; begin a new artistic or otherwise creative project. Spend your energy where it deserves to be spent.
Fill Up:Do things that enhance your vital energy. What kinds of things make you feel energized? Many people find music and dancing to be incredibly revitalizing. Other people enjoy a hearty laugh, deep breathing, singing, poetry or other great literature, the scent of fresh flowers, a hearty meal with loved ones, a glass of wine and good chocolate, a walk in the sand, a prayer of gratitude… whatever it is that makes your heart beat a little bit faster and the sun seem to shine just a little bit brighter.
Break Down the Blocks:Massage is a great way to break down walls built up against intimacy and allows relaxation to soothe the body into a state of balance and desire.
Get Grounded:Put your bare feet on the earth. New scientific discoveries suggest that this simple act can be the most balancing thing a human can do on a daily basis, leveling your sexual energies, healing emotional and physical imbalances and creating a sense of connection with the earth.
Balance:Energy, in general, is polar – balanced between negative and positive, plus all that is neutral in the center. When we engage in intercourse, we create friction between the two poles, which causes a build up of energy that is released through orgasm. When we have too much friction, whether through physical actions or fantasies, the energy builds up too quickly! Balance can be learned through breathing and meditative exercises, and enhanced by caring for your physical and emotional health.

Hot kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Don’t believe for a second that sexual performance is an innate attribute. Learn more about how to become the master of your manhood by learning the techniques from my program Last Longer Tonight.

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If there is one thing that can sabotage all your well-intended efforts to last longer, perform better, and reach orgasm with your partner, it is unchecked masturbation and pornography use.

Don’t get me wrong! I’m not morally opposed to either. I think that both masturbation and adult entertainment can be empowering and used to improve sex and intimacy. That said, all things in moderation, right? If you can only orgasm by masturbating, that is an area of your sexuality that might warrant some attention. If you find it difficult to maintain an erection with the visual or auditory stimulation of pornography, there are ways you can learn to become more sexually tuned in to your lover, using self-pleasure as a tool rather than an escape.

Death Grip

The “death grip” – a term often used by sex columnist Dan Savage – refers to the incredibly tight fist that men sometimes use while masturbating. When this grip is used, especially if it is used more often than vaginal penetration as a means to reach orgasm, it can lead to desensitization of the glans and make it difficult to reach orgasm with a partner or even to maintain an erection, especially with the use of a condom barrier.

The cure for death-grip related sexual syndromes is simple: stop it.

Loosen your grip.
Use a lot of lubrication.
Wear a condom.
If you can’t climax without using a strong grip… don’t.

Eventually, even if only out of utter desperation, your body will begin to sensitize to other touch input. That might mean oral sex, vaginal penetration, or anal sex. It might just be mutual masturbation where you have some new visual input. Whatever the case may be, if you feel the need to re-sensitize, the only way to effectively do so is with determination and self-discipline.

If your lover is accustomed to using manual stimulation to get you off as well, be sure to let her know what you are doing and that you are trying to relearn how to feel. She may feel strange or stressed at first about leaving you “unfinished” so assure her that you are okay, and spend some time focusing on her instead, if you aren’t able to reach climax with her. Remind her that this is merely your body’s adaptive response to a particular habit. All you need to do to change the response is change the habit, easy as that! Take your time with it and allow yourself to enjoy the relief of pressure to always head barreling straight towards orgasm.

Pornography

For many men, death grip and pornography go hand in hand. In this way, the brain not only learns to respond only to an extreme amount of physical stimulation, it also learns to respond specifically to an extreme type of visual/auditory stimulation. Pornography does not represent the reality of 99.99% of day-to-day sexual contact, any more than reality TV actually reflects reality. These “entertainment products” have been scripted, set, organized and edited just to turn you on! If you teach your body that this is the be all and end all of sex, it is sure to be confused when it encounters the real thing again.

But porn isn’t evil, anymore than television, movies and good books are bad for you. Quality entertainment should inspire us to dream, to consider new ideas and seek out new opportunities. Can you use pornography to spark your sex life instead of stifle it?

Porn and Erotic Embodiment

Porn can help your relationship, if you use it to connect you to your lover, rather than to escape from her. Instead of hiding from real life in fantasy, enrich your reality with the intensity of your dreams!

Think of your “search” for pornography as a leisurely drive: don’t always go the same route. Be conscious of the process you use, but don’t judge yourself. Observe the way your fantasy develops, from the very first inkling of an urge all the way to orgasm (if you get there) and keep some record of it in a notebook or video journal.
Think about your self-pleasure as time to improve your relationship: when you feel your sexiest, most full of pleasure, ready to pop… close your eyes and think if your lover when she is at the very same moment, in the throes of ecstasy, bursting with love for you. Send that love back to her in your fantasy. It will show in your relationship!
Meditate on your pornographic preferences and process when you aren’t aroused (and don’t head for the porn when you are done meditating either) – give yourself at least a few hours, if not a few days, to take a break and reflect after each session. Think about what kinds of urges and lusts draw you to each aspect of the fantasy’s flow from start to finish. Try to get to the root of your kinks and the heart of your deepest desires. Share these insights with your lover!

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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“You can motivate by fear. And you can motivate by reward. But both of these methods are only temporary. The only lasting thing is self-motivation”- Homer Rice

It’s not news that guys can go from hello to “Oh!” in minutes, while women take way longer to get aroused and become properly prepared (physically and emotionally) to come. It’s also old news that this thing can turn itself into a serious matter of frustration for a man who is worried about the way he performs between the sheets.

But coming at the same time, or at least after the woman comes is totally possible. There are only two things you should take into consideration: the right moments when to speed her up and slow yourself down. Follow my advice and everyone will have a happy ending.

1. While kissing

a) Speed her up. Because her neck is both nerve-packed and often ignored, few things can turn up the heat for a woman like the feel of a guy’s lips there. Pull her hair aside while kissing and nibble her ear a little bit. You can also amp up the titillation by taking turns to kiss her in different body parts. This trick will kick her out of her comfort zone and get her ready to some serious action. When you implement the no-hands rule, the kisses become even more intense than the usual, which will only work to your advantage. This way you can experiment with more creative ways of bringing her to the boil. A few examples: rub your lips against her nipples, sweep them along her belly button, and even gently brush your unshaved face against her cheeks, for more intensified arousal. Another favorite of mine is what I like to call “the tongue twister”: drag her tongue into your mouth slowly, and then suck gently on the tip. This playful twist on a typical kiss will send currents of electricity between her legs. Most women like a medium amount of pressure when they kiss, and this sucking motions is exactly that- not feather-light, but not hard either. Plus, it will make her fantasize about where else you might use your mouth on her.

b) Slow yourself down. Avoid tonsil hockey in favor of lips-only smooches and delicate, teasing tongue flicks. Research suggests that swapping spit can ratchet up your arousal because a woman’s saliva contains hormones that set you off.

2. During foreplay

a) Speed her up. To ensure she’ll climax before or at the same time you do, start stimulating her clitoris as soon as possible. Put a few favorite drops of your favorite lube (lubricants are proven to help women get aroused more easily) on your fingers, and take them between her legs. Experts report that circular stimulation, starting slow and building up the speed, is most effective.

b) Slow yourself down. When handling your manhood, she should maintain a soft touch, and keep her strokes closer to the base, where you are less sensitive. Also, convince her to vary her moves: you’ll love the shifting sensations so much that you won’t notice you’re skipping the steady friction that makes you orgasm.

3. During oral sex

a) Speed her up. Insert your pointer and middle fingers into her vagina with your palm facing the ceiling, and then rest your chin in the palm of your hand. In this position, you can move your fingers in a come-hither motion to massage the front wall of her vagina (G-spot territory!) while teasing her clitoris with your tongue.

b) Slow yourself down. To light your fuse without triggering an unexpected explosion, your partner should only kiss and lick your penis, but don’t suck (otherwise, it feels too similar to being inside her). Showing your testicles a little love will also give you mega pleasure without pushing your go button.

4. During intercourse

a) Speed her up. Girl-on-top grants her total control of the speed, angle, and depth, so it’s best for speeding up her orgasm. Instead of moving her hips up and down- which will bring you closer to the brink-, she should slide them back and forth so that her clitoris is rubbing against your abdomen. Don’t be shy about getting involved and pushing up hard or increasing the speed. She’ll love the intensity.

b) Slow yourself down. Long thrusts are the male orgasm’s best friends, so keep them to a minimum. If you want to try missionary, have her wrap her legs around your waist so you can’t pull out very far, or have her grab your butt with both hands and pull you in close for the same effect.

5. Right before you orgasm

a) Speed her up. Focus on one trigger move that you know for sure it will make her go crazy: a red-hot, super-explicit, kinkylicious thing you call up when she’s on the brink of orgasm but needs an extra push. It can be a kiss in a place that you know it turns her on like crazy, or a combination of customized pushes that makes her come in a matter of seconds.

b) Slow yourself down. If you sense you’re getting close (your body is tensing up, you’re breathing harder, and your thrusting is more rhythmic), and she hasn’t yet come, switch positions or stop altogether, and kiss for a moment. You’re really close? Have her quickly reach down and create a ring around the base of your penis with her forefinger and thumb, squeezing firmly. This can act as an emergency break, buying you more time to have her get to the edge.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Instead of the predictable back and forth movements, “stir” your penis inside your partner; these circular motions feel softer and more sensual and as your penis rotates inside her, you’ll be able to stimulate every inch of her vagina. Learn more about how to become the master of your manhood by learning the techniques from my program Last Longer Tonight.

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Premature ejaculation can be an embarrassing, frustrating part of sex for any man. Women usually are not too thrilled about it either for that matter. But premature ejaculation does not need to ruin your sex life. If this is a concern for you then read on and learn what you should do to start regaining control over your sexual function.

Is This Premature Ejaculation? Is This?

Premature ejaculation can be hard to define and each man may define it differently. Some define it using the number of thrusts during sex before climax. Obviously men who use this definition usually ejaculate with just a few thrusts.  Some simply define it as coming before you want to.

Many men ask how they can last longer. It is important to point out that there is a difference between premature ejaculation and simply wanting to keep an erection for a longer period of time. There have been men who have told me they only last an hour and think there is something wrong with them-that they should be lasting longer. That is not premature ejaculation.

One of the most important factors in premature ejaculation is the inability to control ejaculation.  You feel it coming and nothing you do will stop it. Sometimes this happens with only a little stimulation.

Does it Happen to Everyone?

Yes. The truth is, it happens to everyone at some point. Sometimes it is just fatigue or an off day. But if it occurs on a regular basis and you or your partner find it is contributing to making your sex life less than satisfactory it may be time to look for ways to learn ejaculatory control.

What is the Good News?

If you are experiencing premature ejaculation you may not think there is any good news. But there is! The good news is premature ejaculation is actually the easiest sexual dysfunction to treat and overcome. That means there is hope for any man who wants to work on increasing his ejaculatory control.

Getting Started

The first thing you want to do is visit your doctor for a check-up. Sometimes premature ejaculation can be caused by nerve damage or can be a side effect of medication. Before tackling any sexual issue, you always want to start with a clean bill of health. If it is a medical problem then many times when it is resolved, the sexual dysfunction resolves on its own.

Kegel’s Are Not Just for Women

Do your kegel exercises! This will not only help you build up those muscles, it will help you learn ejaculatory control and increase the intensity of your orgasm! To do kegel exercises simply squeeze your pelvic muscles for a count of ten 5 times in a row several times a day. You can do this anytime and no one will even know. Try it sitting at your desk at work or while watching TV. It is easy and has great benefits. Next time you are urinating, clench or tighten the muscles and stop your flow of urine. Stop the flow of urine for as long as you can and then release it. Do this each time you urinate and gradually increase the amount of time you stop the flow of urine. This helps build up your pelvic floor muscles as well.

What is Learned Can be Unlearned

Except in the cases where there is a medical issue, premature ejaculation is a learned behavior. Men teach themselves to ejaculate quickly by the way they masturbate. Yes, it is true! Most men when they jerk off go right for the gold and want a quick release. While this may be sexually satisfying at the time, in the long run all that is happening is that the muscles that control ejaculation learn to respond to stimulation very quickly. The muscles that control ejaculation are just like any other muscles in the body and must be kept in shape for optimal use. When they learn to react quickly to stimulation they are not functioning at their best level. Thus begins a never ending cycle of masturbating and rapid ejaculation.

That is the bad news. The good news is this learned behavior can be unlearned. Through a series of exercises good ejaculatory control can be learned. It doesn’t happen overnight and it takes patience and persistence by the man. But if he works at it, he can achieve strong ejaculatory control and get back to a long lasting and happy sex life.

Kisses,

Gabrielle Moore

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