When it comes to sex, we tend to do the same moves over and over again. They have worked well to get our partners turned on in the past, so why change what isn’t broken? Well, there is a very good reason why you should be changing things up. You need to keep things interesting and different in order to keep your sex life exciting and satisfying for both you and your partner. There are many amazing sex moves that for some reason we only use every once in awhile, when we should be incorporating them into our regular routine. If you have a lot of different moves in your sexual tool belt, it’s a lot less likely that either one of you will ever be bored.

Here are the top moves you need to incorporate in order to keep her interested:

1. Making out

This is something you probably did with your partner a lot when you first met. Most couple spend a lot of time kissing at first but then at some point they stop doing it so much. It’s a shame because kissing does a lot of wonderful things for a couple. It increases the release of the love hormone, oxytocin, which increases intimacy and loving feelings. It’s a huge turn on for most people, especially women. So, bottom line, don’t skip out on the kissing. Kiss her during foreplay. Kiss her passionately right before you both leave for work that day and leave her with something to fantasize about all day.

2. Oral Sex

The simple fact of the matter is that men don’t give enough oral sex. Oral sex can be a fantastic way to get things going during foreplay, but it feels so darn good that you should probably just finish what you started down there. Even if you’re just trying to get her warmed up for vaginal sex, remember that a big percentage of women don’t orgasms from penetrative sex. The best thing you can do is let her finish. Give her an amazing orgasm through oral sex and you’ll leave her tingling and wet for round 2.

3. Missionary sex

Missionary often gets a bad rep because there is so much emphasis on different sexual positions out there, but missionary is one of the best underrated sex moves out there. Intimacy between you and your partner is at an all time high with this position. Your bodies are pressed up against each other, you can look into each other’s eyes and kiss passionately. Not to mention the fact that this position naturally provides great clitoral stimulation. There is a reason why it is the standard position. Don’t overlook this one next time you’re having sex.

4. Use your hands

TOUCH her. Some guys get so caught up in the amazing stimulation of sex on their genitals that they forget to touch their partners a lot. Run your hands through her hair, run them over her body and let her know that you just can’t keep your hands to yourself. This feels amazing for her and it also sends a clear message that you really love touching her and that her body turns you on, which is a great ego boost for her as well.

5. Speaking of hands…

Another move that you need to do more often is make her orgasm using only your hand. This is a great way to learn about how she likes being touched down there without the distraction of other sex organs getting in the way. You will learn the speed, type of touch and pressure that your partner loves. Plus, just like oral sex, it will leave her feeling amazing and she will be all wet and warmed up for sex afterward. Or you can just satisfy her, give her a big kiss, say goodnight and roll over. She will be so floored and thrilled with your giving attitude that I’m sure she will thinking of ways to thank you the whole next day!

6. Just the tip

The entrance of the vagina is full of wonderful nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated. That’s why it feels especially great when a man penetrates a woman and then pulls out completely and then penetrates her again. This gives her that amazing sensation of having those nerve endings stimulated over and over again. Speed isn’t important here, so don’t feel the need to go at it like a jack rabbit. Slow and steady wins the race.

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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Who says sex has to be serious all the time? In fact, one of the best ways to make sex even better is to make it fun. Because sex can be such a sensitive topic, most people take it way too seriously. If anything ever goes “wrong,” a lot of people just get really embarrassed and never talk about things, instead of just laughing off an awkward situation. What if you just decided to make sex into a fun, relaxing, enjoyable activity? After all, that IS what sex is. Fun!

One way to make sex fun with you and your partner is to play a sex game. I’ve talked about these kinds of games before because I’m a big fan of them. Not only are they a great way to lighten things up in your relationship, laugh, and get really turned on in the process, but they can also be an awesome way to learn about the likes, dislikes and secret fantasies of your partner. A lot of things can be too embarrassing to talk directly about, but during a sex game all kinds of information about your partner is relieved that you might never have learned about if you hadn’t started to play.

One of my favorite sex games to play is “would you rather?” This is a fun game because it’s not necessarily a sex game, therefore, you can start playing pretty innocently with your partner and then really turn things up by starting to throw in some sexual questions. Before you know it, you’ve learned about some new hidden desire your partner has and the two of you are seriously turned on! Here are some sample questions to give you an idea of how the game works and what kinds of questions would be good to ask.

This game can be played anyway, although I recommend playing it when you know you will be alone together soon. For example, you can start the fun out at dinner on your next date night, continue the fun in the car, and then finish it off in bed together. The rules are simple: Ask your partner “would you rather” do one sexual thing or another. Here’s some ideas to get started:

1. Would you rather expose yourself while undressing to a sexy neighbor or passerby (exhibitionist) or catch a peep at that sexy neighbor undressing in his/her home (voyeur)?

2. Wowatch a pornagraphic video together or read an erotic story outloud while we touch ourselves?

3. Would you rather make a sex tape or pose for a sexy photo shoot?

4. Would you rather have sex first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day or at night before bed?

5. If I had to have sex with another person, would you rather it was someone that you know or a complete stranger?

6. If you had to have sex with another person, would you rather it was someone that you know or a complete stranger?

7. Would you rather have sex in a public (but secluded) place with a lot of people around, like a public restroom, or in the middle of the wilderness, but in the complete wide open outdoors?

8. If you HAD to have a threesome, would you rather do it with another man or a woman?

9. Would you rather have sex with me in your parent’s bed or in a one hour sex motel?

10. Would you rather go to a nude beach for the afternoon or have loud sex at home in the middle of the day with all the windows wide open?

11. Would you rather visit a swingers club or spend the weekend at a nudist colony?

12. Would you rather that we weren’t allowed to have sex for one full year or that I have to have sex with 3 other people, but we can have sex again after I have done so?

13. Would you rather be able to live as the opposite sex for a day or be invisible and be able to go wherever you wanted? What would you do for the day?

14. Would you rather an amazing oral sex orgasm or an amazing vaginal sex orgasm?

15. Would you rather get kinky or have slow, sensual and romantic sex?

16. Would you rather touch each other under the table at a restaurant or in a crowded movie theater?

17. If you were single, would you rather be with a monogamous, but casual, sex partner or several different people at once?

18. If you had an absolutely amazing first date with someone, would you rather end the night with a kiss or in bed together?

19. Would you rather get a massage from a sexy person who brush up a little too close to your private parts or get a hot lap dance in front of a club full of people?

20. Would you rather reveal a secret fantasy to me or act it out without me ever finding out about it?

Feel free to use these sexy questions to get you and your partner warmed up, and then ask some of your own questions to really make things interesting!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“I know a man who gave up smoking, drinking, sex, and rich food. He was healthy right up to the day he killed himself” – Johnny Carson

You’ve got the anatomy bit nailed, but biology can’t answer the really important sex questions – like where to start when looking for a sex toy or how to make sure your partner orgasms every time. I can: here’s practical advice on everything sex-related.

We go to classes to get fitter, watch TED Talks to get smarter, negotiate our salaries to get richer. Great sex is expected to jus… happen. By magic. Film and porn present sex as simple and effortlessly obtained, with everyone having vast quantities of orgasmic partnered sex. The rest of us wonder where we fit in if we are not experiencing it like that.

We need to become more committed to learning about our pleasure, and abolish the idea that speaking about sex – that asking too many questions about it – is shameful, dirty or taboo.

Hell yes to that! In response, I’ve rounded up a a group of the most burning questions you might have about sex and I’ve answered each and every one of them.

“How do I make my partner orgasm the normal way? That is, during intercourse.”

Let’s lose a word from that sentence: normal. I constantly get men feeling bad if their partners can’t orgasm “the normal way”, which they only see as vaginal penetration. I often hear, “My partner is having clitoral orgasms but I want you to teach me how to also have vaginal orgasms.” Or, “I gave her an orgasm but it was with my finger.” And my response is always this: since when was there a hierarchy of orgasms? When we start giving things a hierarchy that’s just too much pressure. Let’s just call them all orgasms. Plus, P in V isn’t the be-all and end-all. There are so many other ways to make your partner come. If she’s not having vaginal orgasms with your penis inside her, don’t worry. Most women – around 70 per cent – don’t. And because of where the clitoris is situated, it makes perfect sense that it’s harder to attain. Just use your hand or a vibrator during sexual intercourse and you’ll manage to give her a double route to pleasure. And stop thinking that things can only happen one way. When you do that, you’ll enjoy whatever is going on a lot more.

“How on earth to I buy a sex toy?”

It might be a little on the obvious side, but first things first – just walk in to the shop. People get consumed by the terror of being in a sex shop, but the Internet can never depict the size, shape, feel, controls or noise of a toy. I see many toys touted as waterproof, super-loud vibes labelled “whisper quiet”, straight dildos that claim to hit the G-Spot. Get your hands on things – your visceral reaction will tell you a lot. Think about what you want from it. Do you want to insert it in your partner’s vagina, stimulate her clitoris, or both? Do you want something that you can use on your body as well? Do you like pressure pinpointed on one spot or broader? After that, it’s pretty much a question of what features you require. If you’re planning on using it in the bath, you’re going to need something submersible. If you need to be quiet, don’t go for sheer power (there’s also an accompanying noise level). The key ingredients are a range of different vibration intensities, from very low to powerful, with many levels in between.

“How do I get from so-so sex to great sex?”

When it comes to sex, there is no magic number or “right” technique. Actually, when it comes to sex, we’re 50 Shades of Confused. Why? Because we romanticize sex to be multiple-orgasmic, energetic and coordinated. The reality is that sex is often pretty clumsy: inserting, and then withdrawing, sweating, slipping and sliding. People invest more effort into deciding whether to trim their pubic hair or not than in learning to talk about sex. Great sex doesn’t only mean wild chemistry or a wild sex position – it’s putting your piece of mind first, and simply just bringing it up. Yep, you heard it here first, a seriously mind-blowing orgasm is just one conversation away. Too easy. You’ve totally got this.

“It’s my first time trying anal sex with my partner! How do I do it?”

If you’re feeling quite intrigued and are keen to give it a go, the most important thing you have to know is that it doesn’t have to be painful for your partner. The important thing is to help her relax her mind and body before going at it. How to start? A finger brushing around the area will get her used to how it feels. If she enjoys that contact and is ok with trying something deeper, use plenty of lubricant as the anus doesn’t produce it’s own natural wetness (like a vagina).

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Do you have fantasies that you fear that you will never fulfill? Like having sex with a stranger in a public place? Many men in relationships realize that they might never be able to make some of their wilder fantasies a reality, but I have good news for you. There is more than one way to fulfill your fantasies. Role playing is an amazing way to act out a fantasy that you have without stepping out of the boundaries of your relationship. Want to have sex with a stranger? You can role play that. You’ll be surprised at just how hot and sexy it can be.

Many people who are new to role playing might feel embarrassed to act out a fantasy in this way, but you’d be surprised how hot and fun it can be if you just let your guard down and don’t take it too seriously. Here are some sexy role playing ideas for those who are just starting out:

1. Sexy Lingerie

If you’re really unsure about the idea of role playing and want to start out with something really mellow, this is the perfect scenario for you and your partner. First you should go and buy her some really sexy lingerie. If you want it to be a surprise, you can check out her panty drawer for her sizes. Next, invite her out on a date and tell her you’ve bought her something to wear that night. You’ll be really excited knowing that she has something so sexy under her clothes and it is also incorporating a little bit of domination when you chose what she wears. She will feel extra sexy because of what she has on and that will give her a new found confidence. You’ll feel like a new couple! And the fantasy will continue once you get home and get to see how amazing she looks in your gift.

2. The Sugar Daddy

Another fun role playing scenario to play out is the sugar daddy with the young hot woman on his arm. It doesn’t matter if this fantasy is nothing like your reality, that’s what role playing is all about, creating a different kind of fantasy so that you can become different people for a night.

3. The Shy Girl

Have your partner act like the shy, innocent and inexperienced woman and you’re the experienced, sexy man who is going to help her come out of her shell and do things she never thought she could. This is a big turn off for both people as it allows one person to really take control of the situation and the other to be passive. A fun way to alter this fantasy if for YOU to play the shy, inexperienced one and for her to play the sexy woman who is going to teach you how to be a great lover.

4. The Stranger You’ll Never See Again

Act as if you don’t know each other, but you have just met and can’t stop yourselves from jumping into bed together. Take this fantasy to the next level by “meeting” for the first time at a designated place. Pick a location like a bar or even the supermarket to “pick up” your partner and take her home with you. Play out every detail of the fantasy to make it really exciting and real

5. The Masseur and His Client

Anyone who has had a massage before has fantasized that the masseuse/masseur’s hands might travel to forbidden areas and give them a surprise happy ending. Make this fantasy a reality for your partner, but it’s really important to set the scene as if you are a real massage place and not just give her a back rub that leads to sex. Remember, it’s ROLE PLAYING!

6. The King and his Servant (or queen and her servant!)

This is a fun role play that you can do without taking it too seriously. Get silly with it, but you will find that you get seriously turned on in the process of all that giggling together!

7. The Naughty Nurse

Who doesn’t like the idea of having a sexy nurse taking care of your every need, giving you a sponge bath and whatever else you need since you’re too fragile to do it yourself? It’s also easy to find a slutty nurse costume for her to complete the fantasy.

8. The Sexy Chef

Have an extra special dinner prepared (you can either cook it yourself or cheat and order a special dinner in). Feed each other and then the dessert course you can enjoy on each other’s bodies!

The best part about role playing is that it allows you to step out of your normal roles and pretend to be someone else for a little bit. Have fun and don’t take it too seriously!

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“Break her bed, not her heart”

In order to have a healthy, balanced sex life, there’s a recommended intake of conversations to have with your partner on sex-related subjects. I know, they’re awkward and you’d rather not discuss them openly, but they’re actually non-negotiable. If you want to enjoy everything about your sexual encounters with your partner, you’ve got to first get your facts straight about each other and know exactly where you stand. Think of these as the veggies of your sexy menu. You don’t particularly like them, and yet the doctor still advises you to eat them regularly for you own good.

Convo #1 Contraception/STIs

This conversation is as traditional as it is essential for the health of your sexual relationship. Sure, it’s boring and bland and not at all spontaneous and sexy, but like a giant head of broccoli, you’ve got to have it. For first-time hook-ups, dodge the awkward factor by working your way up to the discussion in question little by little. After steaming up the place for a little while (think flirting and teasing), don’t get to the undressing completely part without bringing it up. Dish it up with a side of humor, if that’s your cup of tea. Trust me, she’s feeling just as uneasy as you are about this. As for the STIs, I can’t emphasize enough how important honesty is at this point. A huge part of sex is respecting and protecting yourself and your partner’s body. If you have an STI or are getting treatment for one, it’s essential to let them know.

Convo #2 Personal boundaries

There are always items on the menu that we don’t like to eat and the same goes for sex. Whatever your sexual Brussels sprout is, confess your aversion to it or it will get served up time and time again. Let’s be real here: this kind of chat isn’t exactly the easiest one to have. Due to its sensitive nature, I recommend breaching the subject away from the bedroom. Sexual criticism mid main course won’t do anything for your appetites. If handcuffs and blindfolds aren’t your thing, let your partner know outside of sex, so neither of you gets a nasty shock that will kill the moment. Telling your partner what you aren’t into is super important so they can not only become a better lover, but also know their boundaries.

Convo #3 Secret urges

Sex with your partner is amazing, but you could take it to the next level with an honest conversation about what you’re not getting from each other (but would like to). Arrange a time and have a couple chat so you can both be prepared with your thoughts and ideas. Besides, mixing up the mid week missionary and giving something else a go could only be a healthy thing. Even if both of you don’t like that thing you thought would be awesome but wasn’t, at least you’ve been there, and feel that your partner is supportive of your needs.

Convo #4 Sexual initiation

While it’s seemingly uncomfortable to bring up, addressing the mechanics of your sex life – who’s initiating sex? Are you happy with how often you have it? – it’s healthier than a quinoa salad. Express your feelings. You may be able to work through any differences of opinion by talking in a non-judgmental environment. Your sexual requirements may be different, yet airing out any concerns is good for everyone.

Convo #5 Past lovers

While remembering the ghosts of your love life’s past is completely normal, hold off on voicing it too much in front of your latest squeeze because it might not be something they want to hear. Instead, save the funny/steamy/awkward ex stories for beer time with mates.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Everyone in a long-term relationship knows what I’m talking about when I say “sexual rut.” Even if you are one of the few and lucky people who have a pretty good sex life after years of being with your partner, I’m willing to bet that it’s still quite different from what it once was. Keeping up a good sex life takes work and time. A lot of people think that their sex life should be good naturally or else something is wrong with them or with the relationship, but that’s not true.

People in long-term relationships who have awesome sex lives have those because they do something and work at it to make it that way. There are a lot of different things you can do, but it’s important that you pay special attention to your intimate life because that’s the only way it’s going to stay exciting. Here are 7 things you can do to improve your relationship:

1. Have morning sex

It doesn’t have to be every single time, but having sex in the morning is a great way to start your day and feel connected to your partner. Many couples wait until the end of the day to have sex, but that usually means that one or both of your are overtired and not as in the mood. Another challenge to nighttime sex is that many couples don’t go to bed at the same time, so the likelihood of one person nudging the other awake for sex is pretty low.

2. Flirt with each other

After having been together for so long, you probably rarely flirt with each other. You might even think, “what’s the point?! We’re already together. Why play games?” Why? Because it’s fun and having fun together will remind you what you love about one another.

3. Surprise each other

It’s called a sexual rut for a reason. You do the same thing, at the same time, every time. It lacks excitement and surprise. Some couples might even feel annoyed when their partners go for the same exact position and sex move as they always do. Make a point to try new things and surprise your partner. This doesn’t have to be just when it comes to sex either. Try to keep your lives together exciting and different. Try out new activities. Go to different places for your nights out together. Keeping things interesting in the bedroom and outside is very important.

4. Sext

You know what it is, sending dirty / sexy messages to your partner, but have you ever tried it? You might not think it’s for you, but sexting can actually be really fun. Plus, you can only the kind of sexting that you’re comfortable with. You can send dirty pics and nasty messages or if your style is a little more subtle, you might just send a message saying something like, “I haven’t been able to get you off of my mind all day long, can’t wait to see you tonight.” With sexting it’s also important to know your audience. If your partner isn’t into dirty talk or naked pics, make sure to send her something more suggestive than porn.

5.  Have make-up sex

When you get into a fight a lot of times residual anger or hurt feelings can linger and that can put a wedge between you and your partner. I’m not suggesting that sex solves problems, but if you have made up then why not try make-up sex? That allows you to reconnect on a physical level in a much needed way and let go of any of those negative feelings that are still hanging around.

6. Ban sex for a week (or two)

You might think this sounds crazy, but I’m not talking about not being sexual with each other, but just banning sexual intercourse for a certain amount of time. What you do is make the decision to do everything BUT sexual intercourse. You still are intimate with each other, but with that one exception. It means exploring new ways to be with each other and touch each other. Believe me, you’ll learn a lot about what she likes!

7. Pay attention

Pay attention to what your partner likes and doesn’t like.. You might be thinking “DUH! That’s some of the most obvious advice I’ve ever heard,” but there is actually research that shows that people tend to do what they like, not what their partner likes. This way of doing things does come from a good place. You might think, “I like this, so she must like it to, I will do it,” but instead try, “This isn’t my favorite, but I know she really loves it, I’ll do it.”

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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“She craved the type of passion that even brought the devil down to his knees.”

Bad boys are legendary – a woman who’s been with one practically passes out from bliss when she talks about her experience. You might be thinking, “Who, me? Be bad boy?” But any man who wants to can wake up his hibernating alpha male… and have a good time doing it. See, bed-devil status is about a fearless attitude, not how much sexual experience you have or whether you wear leather. Women dig when guys are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want. While you’re probably eager to meet the bad boy inside, you may not be exactly sure where to start. If you think you can handle the heat, try one of these no-holds-barred ways to get very dirty.

Be the boss in bed tonight

A wickedly sexy man knows how to deliciously exploit the power he has over a woman. Tell you partner to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether her hands together so she can’t touch you. If you’re not game to use real restraints, you can simply hold her hands over her head. Next, you want to torture her playfully with your teasing. Slowly kiss your way down her torso, and just as you get to her pelvis, move back to her ears and neck. As you tantalize her and she strains to touch you, ask her to tell you why she wants you so bad, explaining that you won’t let her free until she convinces you. Once she’s pleaded her case, release her hands and allow her to take over. After building up the erotic anticipation, it will be like setting a windup toy loose on your body… and hearing her describe how hot you are will turbocharge your experience too.

Learn to talk dirty

Moans and sighs are easy. It’s the dirty dialogue that really puts a triple X stamp on your sex sessions. Talking dirty heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, and turns you on even more. Plus, women actually like being told what to do in bed because it helps them get it right. First tell her how freakin’ good she feels. (Tongue-tied? Try no-fail lines like “You feel so/You make me [adjective]”; “I love it when you[verb] my [body part].”) Then you’re set to show her the way to send you soaring, with something like, “Oooh, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body part], just like this.”

Watch yourselves having sex

Body confidence and carnal curiosity are key traits of a sex god, and both are on full display when you make a sex tape. Seeing yourselves midact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, almost as though you’re peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo. You also get to see how your partner is responding and how you look when you’re getting off. If you’re partner is worried about becoming the next Kim Kardashian, skip the tape and just hook the video camera directly up to a television in your bedroom – without recording – and watch yourselves while you’re going at it. Since missionary doesn’t exactly make for good TV, get into racier positions where you’re facing the camera. Go for doggie-style so you can both see the action or girl on top so you can watch exactly how she moves. And definitely get shots exchanging oral sex so you can see the orgasmic effect you have on each other.

Give her a jolt

Breaking out of your touch-there-then-lick-there routine adds a lusty layer to the erotic experience. And fearless sexual playmates know that unexpectedly intense sexual maneuvers are even more exciting. A forceful touch snaps your partner into the moment and heightens every sensation that follows. The spontaneity also keeps her anticipating each touch, magnifying her excitement. Plus, the implied roughness invites her to tap into her primal, wild sexual self. Grip her butt hard while in missionary, scratch the sides of her torso while in girl-on-top, or yank her head toward you to give her a passionate, damn-straight kind of kiss. If those moves elicit an excited response, gently spank her butt, lightly bite her shoulder, or tug her hair in the act, you devilish thing.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Many people fantasize about having sex in the shower. You’re naked, things are slippery, she looks really hot all soaking wet and shiny. There are a lot of positive factors going on, but the truth is that shower sex often doesn’t end up being as hot as you expected. Why??!! Well, you really need to know what you’re doing, first of all. So, that’s what we’re going to talk about today. Shower sex can be AMAZING, if done right, so here’s how to do it right!

Pick your timing

Shower sex can be an amazing way to start your day, but you need to make sure that both you and your partner actually have time to do it right before you make your move. If you spring the idea on her when she has just enough time to go through her whole morning routine before leaving for work, you’re going to get a firm NO and get shoved out of the shower. That’s a guarantee. So, unless you’re both early risers with plenty of time in the morning, you might want to try this out on a weekend when you have time to enjoy yourselves.

Keep her away from the stream of water

It’s very sexy to see your woman all glistening with water, but the fact is that the stream of water will actually wash away her natural vaginal lubrication. This will make sex very uncomfortable for both of you and could even result in an infection for her. So definitely make sure you keep her away from the stream of water once you’re ready to get inside her.

Use a silicone based lube

So, even though it’s a good idea to stay away from the stream of water, your partner will still likely get some of her natural lubrication washed away. That’s when using a silicone based lubricant can be an amazing solution. Silicone based lubes won’t wash away with just water (you will need to use soap as well once you’re ready to get cleaned up), so it makes the perfect addition to shower sex. Please remember to use it sparingly. It’s very slippery, so if you squirt it all over and some goes on the floor, you could have a serious slip and fall on your hands.

Keep the position simple

It’s a good idea to keep BOTH feet on the ground and don’t try anything too crazy. The possibility of slipping and falling in the shower is much higher, so it’s a good idea to play it safe. A good position to try is standing doggy style. Also, take advantage of any handles and knobs your shower has to help you or your partner brace yourselves. Also invest in a non slip mat for the floor of the shower. This will give you added security from having a fall. A sex related shower incident is a sure way to ruin the mood and guarantee that shower sex will never happen again.

Do foreplay in the shower

Some couples find that actually having penetrative sex in the shower just doesn’t work for them, but foreplay in the shower is incredible. Use your shower time to get yourselves turned on for sex. Try washing each other’s bodies with the soap and water, make out under the stream of hot water, caress one another and touch each other all over. Then, when you can’t take it anymore, get out, dry each other off a bit and get it on!

Take a bath instead

Baths can also be an amazing way to be intimate together. First, you should definitely NOT attempt to have sex under the water (for the same reasons you shouldn’t under the shower stream). But, you can light candles around the tub, add some bubble bath, pop a bottle of champagne, and really have some fun together!

Invest in shower safe sex toys

Another way to have an amazing time in the shower with your partner is to invest in waterproof sex toys. You don’t have to use penetration for it to count as sex, remember! There are waterproof vibrators, vibrating sponges and even vibrating mesh poofs! If you pull one of these out and give your partner an amazing orgasm to start her day, she’ll likely be inviting you into the shower a lot more often.

* Final note – If you and your partner use condoms, please make sure you are careful to check to see if they can be used with water.

Kisses,
Fidan Paula

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Vow to make the new year your hottest yet with these steamy endeavors. Talk about starting your year off with a big bang!

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Have. More. Sex

Because getting it on should happen as often as you damn well please! And research shows regular sex reduces stress by releasing endorphins and oxytocin – and (get this!) it help you sleep better, fight off colds, and can even make you healthier. So here’s how to put your more-action plan into, well, action.

Make every day a foreplay day

It’s no secret among sex experts that extended foreplay leads to satisfying sex and better orgasms – score! People usually think of foreplay as what you do during the quick buildup to the main event. But it pays to view foreplay as an ongoing seduction that begins immediately after your last orgasm and continues right up until you two are in bed again. So once you catch your breath, start revving your engines for your next time, whether it’s an hour, a few days or a week. Focus on the lusty looks you give each other in passing, the sexy texts you send, and the kissing and touching that will lead to your next session.

Screw spontaneity

There are two types of desire: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous is that magical, must-have-you-now encounter that starts with a flirty glance in her direction and ends with simultaneous orgasms in an outdoor shower. But guess what? Studies indicate that only about 15 percent of women (compared with 75 percent of guys) experience desire this way. So, instead, focus on responsive desire, which you two can generate yourselves. Plan a night in, make fancy cocktails, and dance really close – and let it lead to bedroom high notes that last all, um, weekend.

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Push your boundaries

Being adventurous in bed can make you two feel like primal pioneers conquering new territories (aka each other!). Research shows that frequent sexploration enhances your connection.

Dabble in domination

Finally, a from-behind position where your partner is in control. While you lie on your back, she should straddle you, facing your feet, and get on all fours. She should back it up until you’re inside her, then move at her desired pace. Her G-spot gets some serious stimulation – and you get to enjoy the view.

Get a little freaky

Blindfold her with something you already have in the house – a scarf, your tie, her cami – and trace your fingers all along her body until she’s all warmed up. Every minute that goes by will build her anticipation for when you finally remove it and let her see your hard rock erection.

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Boost your bedroom bond

When it comes to upping your coital connection, there is one way you and your partner can go: trying a trickier than normal move. Here’s one that I like: When you’re in your usual GOT (that’s girl-on-top, not Game of Thrones) and you feel you are about to climax, guide yourself to the edge of the mattress. (extra points if you two can do this with you still inside her – it’s not easy.) Let your arms and head dangle off the side of the bed while she gets back to grinding. Not only will she feel like the queen of your personal Westeros, the extra rush of blood to your head will also give you a full-body experience. It’s a skill-requiring maneuver that will have you high-fiving at your naughty teamwork.

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Text her an emoji brainteaser

Choose a sequence of emojis and then type, “Figure out the riddle… it’s what I want to do to you tonight.” Okay, so she might not fully understand everything, but her brain will be all can’t-wait-for-this.

Send her a hot voice memo

But be sure to cut it off just as you’re about to say the sexy stuff, like this: “I was in the shower and started thinking about that hot thing you did the other day, and I swear I got so…” The anticipation will drive her completely insane.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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The hottest couples don’t have just great sex – they have wild, can’t walk the next day sex. A truly amazing sexual connection encompasses lots of different sensations – maybe even ones you wouldn’t expect. After all, your relationship isn’t one-note, so why would your sex life be? The more dimensions there are in a relationship in general, the more you will see those dimensions reflected in your sex life. See which kinds of sex you and your other half have hit so far. As for the ones you haven’t, well… you know what to do.

Pushing your boundaries sex

There’s nothing like the moment when you’re lying naked with your partner, panting and puffing, thinking, Wow, we’ve never done that before. People in long-term relationships sometimes crave excitement and stimulation, but don’t know how to get it with their partner. You can get that in your current relationship by pushing your regular comfort zone. If you’re used to missionary, that may mean trying a new position or a new room in the house; if you’re used to stimulation by body parts alone, it may be a sex toy thrown in the mix. And if you feel a little anxious about experimenting, all the better: the anxiety you feel about trying something new mimics what happens when you’re with someone new. So if you can create that feeling within the confines of a trusting relationship, you will keep reenergizing what you have. And there’s another important benefit: pushing your boundaries helps build trust between you. When you communicate a desire to your partner – and, ultimately, try it – you’re taking a risk together. Taking that risk is a bonding activity in itself.

Vacation sex

Ah, yes, the turn-on effect of the unknown. And thank goodness for it, because vacation sex is a vital part of a good sex life. On vacation, you’re at your most carefree, which means you can try new things you won’t have to be accountable for at home. In other words, you can have sex on the beach or in a car, or flirt madly in a restaurant – all of which you might not do at home, for fear someone you know would see you or find out. Taking risks like this adds to the excitement. And ideally, you can bring that burst of excitement back home with you. The point is, if like in the bedroom is feeling blah, it’s often your surroundings that are getting stale, not your partner. So if you haven’t had vacation sex lately, do it. You don’t even need a plane ticket to get started. Head to a hotel downtown and call it a vacation. You can look forward to it and build it up beforehand for even better sex.

Crazy hang from the chandelier sex

You know what I’m talking about: wild, sweaty, so good it makes you dizzy sex. No matter how long you’ve been together, you need to have earthshaking sex like this once in a while. For long term couples, having an extra-hot sexual experience is like a flashback. It can stimulate those early feelings you had toward your partner in the beginning, and it reminds you what you’re capable of as a couple. People think the steamy stuff only happens when you’re young, but passionate hot sex can be experienced all the time. This kind of sex is also important on a deeper level. It requires a lot of intimacy to let your partner see you in the throes of sexual abandon. When you display that side of yourself, you have to deal with questions like, What if my face gets purple or my eyes go back in my head? To express a higher level of sensuality like this is another way of being intimate. And let’s not forget how much a toe-curling orgasm does to keep your eyes bright and your soul smiling.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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