Breast orgasms can be deeply erotic, if you know how to make them fun and kinky. Let me show you how to bring out your sensual best.

What woman doesn’t enjoy an extended, languorous lovemaking session, with extended attention paid to the breasts? The reality is that not many women are fortunate enough to enjoy such prolonged, deeply erotic breast sex marathons in their hectic daily lives. I know that juggling excruciating office hours, managing the house, and shouldering everyday responsibilities may leave couples with little room for slow, passionate breast loveplay – most couples focus on vaginal penetration and hope that’s enough for the satisfaction of both parties involved.

So what does one do when this is not the case? Turn back the attention to the breasts, of course! To put it simply, breast play is a fun, sensual, and utterly joyful sexual activity that you should engage into more often than not. Generally, breasts are fondled for a bit during foreplay, but not nearly enough, considering their immense pleasure potential.

I can safely say that breast orgasms can be adrenaline-boosting and time-savoring erotic exercises that rival actual intercourse. Gorging on it on special occasions, every now and then is what ensures its guilty pleasure status. Likewise, giving your partner a boobgasm— a most delicious kind of passionate lovemaking—can be extremely satisfying, if you know how to navigate it properly.

In order to turn the heat up when it comes to massaging your woman’s breasts, check out this program – Orgasmic Breasts – by my friend Susan Bratton. Her erotic breast play strategy is the perfect warm up for exquisite and deeply fulfilling ecstasy. Follow her advice and you’ll definitely deepen your erotic connection. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Lube up!

You may be in the throes of breast passion, but since the girls aren’t naturally lubricated like the vagina, you have to thread carefully so that you don’t inflict pain, rather than pleasure. So, keep a lube handy. Broadly speaking, there are three types of lubes—water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based ones. Use whatever suits you well.

Getting handsy

Breast play is supposed to be carnal and spontaneous, true. But since it’s in itself a form foreplay, a bit of preparation can go a long way. Make sure your partner is turned on before you go for those sweet breast handling sessions. Use your hands on both her breasts and her vaginal area, particularly the clitoris. The combination of moves will arouse her deeply. If she fails to climax during breast play alone, you can always help her climax through clitoral stimulation.

Verbal foreplay

Experts say communication is the key to good sex, even for breast play. It helps get rid of many inhibitions as well. Engage your partner in conversations about sexual likes and dislikes. Sexting is a popular method of virtual foreplay these days. So send steamy texts to your bae before you indulge in giving her a boobgasm. For shy couples, there are apps. Take UnderCovers, for instance. The app offers couples 99 kinky ideas, including those for breast play, and all you need to do is click ‘yes’, ‘no’, or ‘maybe’. If you both click ‘yes’, then you’ll both be notified. If you click ‘maybe’ then there’s a little chat window that will let you both discuss it further.

Realistic goals

At the end of the day, any sexual activity is an opportunity to get close to each other. Breast play is as much about physical intimacy as it is about the emotional connect. So keep an open mind—your partner may or may not orgasm during the deed. Urgency can lead to disappointment, so enjoy the moment of togetherness as much as you can. Experts say that an orgasm may not always be the primary sexual reward, particularly for women. Who cares if she doesn’t come at the end of you play? It’s breast fondling, after all! So don’t sweat over it, just go with the flow.

LOCATION COUNTS

Breast play on your bed in the missionary position? Nah! Kick those mainstream habits and look for some cosy nooks in your house instead. Here are a few suggestions:

ON THE RUG

If you have a fireplace at home, your breast play could get bloody hot! Instead of a couch, hit the rug, and try new and exciting positions.

AGAINST A CUPBOARD

Stand facing each other against a cupboard and do what you gotta do!

A CHAIR

Make her sit on the chair while you straddle her and have your way with her breasts. Need I say more?

IN THE SHOWER

With warm water stimulating your bodies, who needs actual vaginal sex?

KITCHEN TABLETOP

If the height is right and she’s right on the edge, with her legs dangling and her back on the tabletop, breast play can be deeply satisfying. Plus, you have access to all sorts of yummy add-ons.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Big or small, perky or pendulous, with little pink nipples or large and dark ones, breasts are your favorite part of her body. Let Susan Bratton teach you how to skilfully play with them! Her program, Orgasmic Breast, tells you how to accelerate her turn-ons and approach her girls with finesse. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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Awkwardness on a first date can be the stuff nightmares are made of. I spell out the right things to say to fill the lulls.

First dates are hard enough without uncomfortable silences lingering in the air. After all, there’s only so much polite laughter and forced observations about the menu you can deal with. Find yourself drawing a blank? Just start simple. It’s best to try to start by asking questions that are easy to answer, like ‘how was your day?’ or ‘what did you do this weekend?’. After all, there’s a lot riding on the quality of conversation on a first date, especially if you want there to be a second.

The key to nailing it is to define what you are looking for, and what you want your date to see in you. I remember when I was dating, my checklist for a first date was to find out whether he truly was single and looking to date, he had a job in an industry he loved, he was financially independent, and he had a sense of humor. Having said that, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. While carrying cue cards isn’t recommended, definitely remember these conversational starters.

And if you want more information on picking up any woman you want, check out this program, The Rise of the Phoenix, by my friend Sebastian Harris. It will help you gain the unshakable confidence that’s needed to attract the hottest women easy and without any hassles. It really does work and you’ll be positively surprised by how uncomplicated the whole process is. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

IF YOU MET HER ONLINE

If you both have decided to meet in person, your first few conversations probably went well. You now have a chance to find out what her first impression was, so asking a question like, ‘what about my profile appealed to you?’ will give insight into her priorities and preferences.

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: You can always bring up something she said before the date. This is also a great way to show her you were listening.

ON A BLIND DATE

Since blind dates come with no expectations or prejudices, asking open-ended questions is your best bet. A conversation starter that always worked for me was ‘what is your day job?’ It helps open up the conversation about what she studied and how she reached her current position. Another wide-open question? ‘Tell me about your family.’

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: In case a mutual friend set you up, sharing a story about that friend would help build some common ground.

DATING A COLLEAGUE

Leave the shoptalk for coffee machine chatter. Take this chance to get to know who she is outside the workplace. What does she do on weekends? Who are her oldest friends? What is her favorite childhood memory? Just remember that unless things get more serious, anything you say might do the rounds in the office, so hold off on the embarrassing stories for a little while.

WHEN YOU HIT A WALL: If it comes down to it, sharing work stories can build on the familiarity you already share, and ease the nerves.

Hush now!

Knowing what not to say can be as important, if not more. I say everything is game except politics, religion, marriage, and exes. Avoid these other pitfalls as well.

• Don’t spend the whole date talking only about yourself. This shows a lack of interest and is a big turn off for women.

• Avoid complaining about workplace or family drama. You’ve just met this woman, don’t be a Negative Nancy right from the beginning or else she’ll be put off by your vibe.

• Don’t bring up sexual preferences. Too soon – she’ll think you’re a pervert.

• Avoid discussing money. If you brag about having them – it shows a superficial personality. If you complain about not having them – you’re manifesting your insecurities.

• Don’t vent, even if you’ve had a rough day. She’s not there to solve your problems or soak up your bad energy. She probably has her own problems.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Getting a woman to like you is hard work, I’m not going to lie. But it’s by no means an impossible feat, even if the woman you fancy seems to be way out of your league. Check out this program, The Rise of the Phoenix, by my friend Sebastian Harris and you’ll be definitely enlightened. As you’re about to discover, seducing drop dead gorgeous women is not that hard, not matter your age or the way you look. But don’t take my word for it, see it for yourself! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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By now, you’ve likely heard of stud energy – the viral catchphrase for the undeniable air of confidence that some guys seem to exude almost naturally, without any consistent effort whatsoever. The theory is rather simple: Alpha dudes have a little extra swagger and therefore more luck with the ladies.

You can project a similarly confident vibe – yes, even though you’re shy by nature and don’t consider yourself to be part of the Alpha clique. It’s just about the energy that comes with being happy and totally self-assured. And when you’re projecting this onto women, that can be insanely magnetic.

Like a taxi readily available for pick up, this silent signal announces to the world that you’re cool, just cruising around being happy on your own, but also available for hooking up if the right girl comes along. Having this powerful allure, this manly energy and confidence, and emitting it all the time can cause a noticeable shift in your dating life.

Suddenly, you may get more compliments and be asked out often by women who other times seemed way out of your league. Who doesn’t want that? To help you, I created a small list of ways to emanate this kind of ‘energy’.

And since where on the topic of impressing women with an Alpha male vibe and making sure they not only don’t reject you, but are eager to be taken home, check out this program – New Obsession Formula. This method is fail-proof when it comes to skipping rejection and easily spotting the women who are interested and open to positively reacting to your vibe. After going through the whole thing, you’ll never again be in the situation of never being able to find women that are into you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

‘Letting your pheromones be your fragrance’

CHANNEL IT

Go perfume-free. Your natural scent conveys key clues to your lifestyle, and according to an OKCupid survey, 81% of singles find a partner’s smell important.

‘Realizing you deserve your own happiness’

CHANNEL IT

When making everyday decisions, embrace your own know-how and go with your gut. This tells those around you that you don’t need external validation, which can be alluring.

‘Making women feel important’

CHANNEL IT

When you’re interested in someone, use physical cues to signal that you’d like to connect with them on a deeper level. Think: a light touch at the right moment or mirroring their gestures.

‘Putting yourself out there’

CHANNEL IT

Sprinkle your calendar with three social activities a week. This will keep you active and nix any downer vibes. And yes, these outings can include dates. Having an active dating life makes men less self-conscious, which can help you emit more come-hither vibes.

‘Cultivating social confidence’

CHANNEL IT

Do something that allows you to “peacock”. In other words, ID what you’re good at, then show off your talent. Studies have found that both men and women find this romantically and sexually attractive.

‘Acting as if you hold the secret to a special kind of magic’

CHANNEL IT

Use your your unique qualities and dare to take some risks as well: boldly buy a hottie a drink, sleep on silk sheets to boost sensuality, work your charm and do your best to be more mysterious when interacting with the ladies.

‘Developing a crush’

CHANNEL IT

Remember in primary school when you’d list all the *dreamy* things about your crush? I suggest resurrecting the habit, but listing all the things you love about yourself. Then note a few flaws too. Accepting these qualities will help you own them all.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. There are so many women in this whole wide world that are eager to experience something beautiful and intense with the right man. All you have to do is prove to them that you’re that man they’re looking for. The New Obsession program will help you see the hidden signals all women subconsciously give when they’re up for some fun and thus it will be easier to spot the ladies that are worth your time and attention. It’s a shockingly simple method and I advise you to give it a shot because it does work. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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Sunshine, fresh air, drooling over the nearly naked smoke-show lying next to you at the beach… It’s finally (almost) summer, and whether you’re aware of it or not, your sex drive is in full send mode.

Why? Because soaking up vitamin D gets you thinking about doing the deed. Exposure to sunlight can increase levels of the chemical serotonin, which can trigger greater arousal. It can also influence reproductive hormones and ovulation, which may boost women’s libido. Add to this the fact that the scent of sweat may play a role in sexual attraction, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling lusty.

To satisfy all your urges, use my expert-backed tips and tricks to have even more fun in the sun – or in a nicely air-conditioned bedroom, if that’s more your style. Either way, get ready to make your hook-ups so much hotter and your orgasms that much stronger!

And since we’re on the topic of orgasms, check out this program – Unstoppable Orgasms – by my friend Lloyd Lester. You’ll learn the proper technique for giving your lady multiple climaxes and making her down there area surprisingly hot, wet and slick! Plus, you’ll reap other benefits too. Since you’re pleasuring her so well, her appetite for more adventurous, raunchier and more fulfilling sex will literally explode and she’ll want you ALL THE TIME! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me!

1. During masturbation envision a session by the pool or on a boat in the middle of a dam, using your imagination and all five senses to make it feel real. Don’t ejaculate, just make your erection as strong as possible than share it with your partner.

2. Put a stainless-steel, glass or other fridge-safe toy into the fridge for 10 minutes before inserting it inside your partner for a chilly and erotic new sensation.

3. After bathing, don’t let your partner dry of. Instead, have her slip on a white top and walk into the bedroom to show you she’d win any wet T-shirt contest, hands down. This will give you an amazing boner!

4. Help boo cool off after a long, sweaty commute. As soon as she walks through the door, start stripping her down, saying, ‘You should be naked. Now.’ Then lead her to the couch and take her in your arms. She’ll be naked in one… two… three.

5. Ask your partner to wear a barely-there bikini in front of you while doing something mundane at home, such as watering the plants. I guarantee your hands will be on her and pulling strings off of her in a matter of seconds.

6. Ask your lover to give you a sexy, sensual massage with aloe-vera gel or a smooth body lotion. Once you’re totally relaxed and ready, return the favour.

7. Take a blanket outside right before sunset. Cover up, then use your hands to pleasure each other downtown as you watch the sky’s colour show.

8. Go skinny-dipping together, the exhilarating experience will be a major turn-on. The next best thing? Sex in an outdoor shower.

9. While camping in a tent (or pretending you’re in one), use only your flashlight and mouth to find new erogenous zones on your partner’s body – such as the nape of their neck or the rise of their hip.

10. Place a small dab of pineapple lube, onto your partner’s clitoris, then lick it off.

11. When it’s too hot to move, lie on your sides and enter your partner from behind. If she needs more clitoral stimulation, this angle makes it easier for her to touch herself.

12. Have sex in the kitchen with the air-con on full blast. Have your partner sit on the counter (her butt will be cool!) while you stand in front of her. She should lean back, support her weight on her arms, and rock her hips to feel your entire shaft inside of her.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Sexual pleasure is a wonderful thing, but if it fizzles, you’re not doing things right. Check out this program, Unstoppable Orgasms, by my friend Lloyd Lester and you’ll be able to give your woman the naughtiest sensual orgasmic delights she has ever experienced. And since you’ll be the bearer of faster, more intense and more often orgasms, she’ll end up wanting it more often than you, if you can imagine that. You’d better be ready, mister!

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If the term morning sex sounds like an oxymoron, then no offense, but you’re in need of a wake-up call. Don’t worry, though…it’s a fun one.

Most couples habitually have sex at night, because that tends to be when it’s most convenient. But our bodies are actually primed for stronger orgasms right after we wake up. The a.m. brings surges of testosterone to both men and women, increasing libido and heightening genital sensitivity—particularly the strength of his erection. (It’s called morning wood, not morning cork, for a reason.) Not to mention, it should be easier to reach climax in the first place, since Murphy’s Law (anything that can go wrong will go wrong) hasn’t had a chance to set in.

But there are major mental perks to early romps too: Sex is, hands down, a fabulous stress reliever, mood lifter, and relationship enhancer (courtesy of a release of feel-good hormones). So by getting frisky first thing, you set yourself up for a calmer, happier day. Plus, for most, doing the deed increases energy, a recent survey shows, surprisingly. Not to say that nighttime sex is a waste, but you definitely get more, uh, bang for your buck by mixing up your mating schedule.

Of course, we know mornings can be a bit frantic—and, well, seriously unsexy. Here’s how to flip the script for action as hot and stimulating as your trusty cup of coffee.

And for more information on how you can enjoy a boner for the ages, check out this Hard On Method by my friend and leading sex expert Jack Grave. Here, he talks in depth about one thrusting technique in particular, called the Deep Flick, which gives women wild orgasms AND help you last longer.

If you’re always rushing and cranky

The obvious answer is to wake up earlier, but without real motivation, that’s a futile ask. Consider this: If your boss requested an early meeting, you’d make time for it. We often blow off sex because it doesn’t seem like an immediate need for our partner, but making a conscious effort to be intimate is almost more important than the intimacy itself. If that doesn’t get you to rise early, pinpoint major time-sucks (say, choosing an outfit, drying your hair) and do those the night before. Or fold your partner into your routine: “I’m taking a quick shower—care to join?” Whenever time anxiety or crabbiness kills your mojo, remember that it’s almost impossible to feel grouchier after sex.

If you have way different schedules

In an ideal world, you’d compromise so that you both get up and go at each other around the median of your wake-up times (as in, your bedmate rises at five and you at seven, so six would be your magic hour). But if that’s not possible, find opportunities to catch her off guard. Playfulness and surprise are two elements that couples forget to incorporate over time, but they’re also two we secretly long for. They have a reciprocal effect as well—meaning the more you beguile your S.O., the more they’ll want to do the same for you. When she’s getting dressed, pull out her laciest thong and say, “Hey, what about wearing these today. Let me see how they look on you.” Or when they’re checking their email, send them a sexy picture from the other room, with a text like, “Waiting for you.…” Spontaneity makes excitement practically a given.

If you feel less than desirable

Particularly with newer partners, you might feel uneasy before you’ve brushed your teeth, or showered. No shame! Just know that as your biggest critic, your mindset is much more likely to kill the mood than how you look (or smell). You could also experiment with positions that aren’t face-to-face, like spooning or reverse cowgirl. (“Let’s try this new position!” is a great cover.) And maybe keep breath strips by the bed. That’s the only morning symptom worth caring about.

If you have kids

Have you tried locking the door? Probably, and you’re still interrupted—or distracted. We get it. But if your children can be left alone in their bed (not crib) at night, they can likely be left at the table for a few minutes too. So go for a quickie, and amp the excitement by turning it into a challenge. Whisper in your partner’s ear, “The kids are eating breakfast; we have 10 minutes. Meet you in the bathroom.” For younger toddlers, you sorta have to commit to waking up before them. (The good news: It’s temporary.) If parent guilt hits, ignore it. Together time will improve your connection, so you can be better co-parents for the day…and for life.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Morning wood is amazing because there’s nothing quite like the feeling of being fully hard and able to make your partner moan with pleasure. Check out this program by my friend Jack Grave – it’s called Hard On Method and it teaches you everything you need to know about deep thrusting and lasting longer so that you can give your woman an unforgettable experience… both morning and night!

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The rules of casual sex changed almost overnight, but you can still have a great time – you just have to commit to it.

The ways men and women think about hook-ups are fundamentally at odds. With all the stories that have poured out in the #MeToo era, in the news and over drinks between friends, it’s become impossible to ignore the reality that more often than not – whether or not alcohol is involved – men usually emerge from hookups feeling satisfied while women often emerge feeling scammed. It’s a generalization to say that men enjoy casual sex more than women do. Just as there are women out there who have orgasms without foreplay – witches, all! – there are women who genuinely enjoy one-night stands.

Still, I think the generalization is a fair one. While for men hooking up is a positive outcome (“We boned!”), women often talk about it as a means to an end (“I thought that if we hooked up long enough, he’d want to date me”) or as a regret (“I got drunk and hooked up”). Even the language reflects the skewed dynamic: young men have always been told to go out and hook up with as many women as possible – to “sow their wild oats.” In that analogy, women are the dirt. It’s still possible to have no-strings-attached sex without disappointing anyone. You just have to follow the rules.

And if you’re interested in learning more about how you can make it easier for you to hook up with beautiful women without the fear of being rejected, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, Rise of the Phoenix. It contains all the information you need on seducing every woman you want without any limitations. Careful! It’s a pretty powerful seduction weapon so use it wisely! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me!

DON’T LEAD HER ON

One problem with hook-ups is that they often look a lot like dates. Two people match on a dating app, then meet at a bar. If they both resemble their pictures and nobody says anything racist, they might go home together. Sometimes they go on a few more dates, or date-type adventures. He tells her that his strong working mother taught him to respect women and that he loves summers in Noosa. “Maybe we’ll go sometime,” he says coyly. The woman knows she should assume that they’re just hooking up, at least until they verbally establish that they’re trending towards a relationship. But she’s already imagining herself in a linen muumuu and a straw hat, strolling around Noosa. (He’s wearing a sharp jacket and doing Leonardo DiCaprio’s moneyed accent from The Great Gatsby.) When he tells her, one date later, that he’s “not really looking to date anyone right now”, she has no choice but to curse him and all his descendants. Here’s the thing: if you know that you don’t want to date a woman – and let’s be honest, you typically know by the end of your first conversation – don’t wait until she’s emotionally invested in you to tell her that you’re just in it for a hook-up. (I usually start to feel emotionally invested four dates in. Or two dates in, if a guy has really sexy arms or a nose that is still a little busted-looking from a fight he got in while he was defending a woman’s honor.) As a clinical people-pleaser, I understand how tempting it can be to tell someone what she wants to hear, but don’t kind of invite someone to Noosa on the third date if you only want to hook up with her. Women get angry when a man says he isn’t looking for something serious – not because we feel rejected, but because we feel like we’ve been tricked.

OKAY, YOU CAN LEAD HER ON A LITTLE BIT

There’s a happy medium between lying about what you want and flaying yourself on the altar of decency. If I interrupt a man who is flirting with me at a bar to tell him what I’m thinking, which is how cute it would be if the song that’s playing were the song we danced to at our wedding, the conversation will stop. And if I meet a man at a party and he tells me, right off the bat, “I’m not really looking to date anyone; I just want to hook up,” I will definitely appreciate his honesty, but I will definitely not go home with him. Instead, steal a line a guy said to me once: “I’m not really looking to date anyone right now, but I’m open to the possibility down the line”. I think I actually whispered “Nice” when he said it: I didn’t feel rejected, but I had no expectations.

EMBRACE SOBER SEX

Another big problem with hook-ups is that frequently both parties are drunk. Besides larger issues involving consent, drunk sex is so often… bad. Whiskey dick isn’t fun for anyone. If you’re hooking up with someone regularly, don’t fall into a pattern of texting that person to hook up at 2am when you’re drunk. Even if you’ve both said you’re cool with casual sex, it’s still insulting when you hear from someone only when they’re their sloppiest self.

MAKE IT GOOD

A while back, a guy I was dating told me he was too busy with work and just wanted to hook up. I was young and impressionable so I said, “Cool, me too”. The sex had been great until then, but as soon as we were hooking up instead of dating, the foreplay stopped and the sex itself got precipitously worse – it was like when two people are walking toward each other in a hallway and nobody can figure out who should go left and who should go right. The problem was, in part, that I wasn’t as emotionally invested in the situation. For most women, sex is as much emotional as it is physical, and if a woman doesn’t feel totally comfortable with the person sowing his oats in her dirt, there is zero chance of an orgasm. My partner was also a problem. Once he wasn’t trying to date me, he became way less considerate in bed. Our friends-with-benefits situation didn’t last very long. Hooking up isn’t an excuse to try out all the porny stuff that you’re too shy to attempt with someone you’re dating, and it isn’t an excuse to be self-serving. Women want to sow their wild oats, too. We want to sow them again and again, all night long. Ideally with multiple oatgasms.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Do you really want to be the guy that hooks up once in a blue moon or do you want to be the one that always gets the hottest girl in the room? If it’s the latter, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, Rise of the Phoenix. It will change your life because you will finally be able to attract the women you want and deserve.

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Do you lean towards quiet and socially awkward? Do you often felt like the designated bore that women at a party are keen to ditch; their eyes flickering before announcing they’re ‘just nipping to the loo’? Fret not, I’m here to help!

After all, we could all use a few tips on how to enjoy the fine art of socializing with the opposite sex. Trying to convince a woman to hook up with you is not meant to be a chore, after all. And yet, it seems to have become one. When you’re having to make so much effort to attract a woman, if you don’t connect properly when you finally meet one up, it allows a sense of dissatisfaction, even rejection, to build. It’s what you might call the New Year’s Eve paradox: the more we plan for an event, the greater the pressure to have a good time and the bigger the inevitable let-down.

Hookup anxiety boils down to the fear of The Reveal. What makes you anxious in hookup situations is that some perceived flaw – something you dislike about your appearance, lack of social skills or some bigger part of your personality – will be obvious to any woman unless you work hard to hide it. Ironically, the less you hook up and the lonelier you feel, the more pronounced this fear may become.

So how can you fall back in love with hooking up?

The first step is not to retreat. While it’s fine to step back and take time for yourself if you’re feeling frazzled, you need to remember to step back into the game. I often see men using the fact that they’re an introvert as permission to avoid trying to meet women, but you can end up in a very lonely place. You should try not to think of hooking up as an extra pressure, but as a refuge from whatever else you’ve got going on. Think of it as a time where you can relax and be yourself, rather than thinking about what you get out of it.

For more information on how to succeed at hooking up, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris – Rise of the Phoenix. His method will make WOMEN approach YOU, will make the ladies be the one begging you to give you their phone numbers, not the other way around. Sounds amazing, right? It actually is! NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Play vulnerability tennis

The point of this exercise is to prove that you won’t be rejected, even when you volunteer the things you fear most and would normally go to great lengths to hide. It’s a kind of aversion therapy, if you like. While baring your soul to someone you met 30 seconds ago is exactly as toe-curling as it sounds, it also… works. You’ll see that rather than feeling repulsed by anything you say, any woman will want to keep talking to you to find out more. It’s certainly far more interesting than if you’d chatted about the weather or the state of the traffic. We often focus on impressing people of the opposite sex, but in always trying to come across as confident and competent, we can actually shoot ourselves in the foot. It’s fine to get tongue-tied or for a joke to fall flat sometimes; people appreciate imperfection far more than perfection. It’s much more human and likeable.

Ask open questions rather than closed ones

An open question prompts a detailed answer rather than a yes, no or one-word response. This helps ensure you don’t run out of things to say. For example, when a woman tells you where she lives, rather than asking, ‘How long have you lived there?’ (closed question), ask her, ‘What made you move there?’ (open question).

Set a challenge

Research has shown that anxious people who are given specific instructions – such as ‘get to know the person next to you as well as you can in the next five minutes’ – perform as well as people who are naturally outgoing, whereas under normal circumstances they’d flounder. Give yourself an assignment. Tell yourself you’re going to talk to three new women at a party, or that you’re going to get to know more about your new colleague at a work event. Doing this provides structure and certainty, and anxiety is often driven by uncertainty.

Think universal

Think about your ‘universal’ identity rather than your ‘local’ one. When we meet new people, we tend to do the opposite: we focus on whether we know the same places, the same people or do a similar job, which all form our local identity. But if you don’t have any of these things in common, it quickly leaves you with nowhere to go in a conversation. Instead, finding ways to bring in your universal identity – that we’ve all loved, all lost, all been embarrassed, all have anxieties or problematic families – makes it easier to connect with anyone.

Focus outward

When you’re anxious, you often turn your attention inward and start to monitor yourself. So you’ll think, “Why did I say that?” or wonder if you should put your hands in your pockets to seem more casual. But this leaves very little bandwidth for you to listen and respond naturally in the moment. When you’re truly focused on the other person and listening very closely, your curiosity naturally kicks in and you pick up on things that you may have missed if you were busy rehearsing what you were about to say.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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Being confident between the sheets can be exciting, terrifying, and intimidating all at once. Let me help you break out of your shell.

Having sex with someone—long term or otherwise— exposes you in an intimate and vulnerable way. It’s not only the closest you can physically be with a person, it also opens you up to what most people today refer to as ‘catching the feels’. However, there’s one underlying factor—whether juggling the ‘what-ifs’ or ‘maybes’, most men grapple with confidence and self-esteem issues. But does taking charge of your sexual desires boil down to just your physical appearance? Let’s break it down.

Body image

Getting naked in front of your partner, whether it’s the first time or not, is about state of mind. A large number of men struggle with penis size issues. There’s also a section that is under the impression that communicating their sexual wants might have them viewed in a negative light. This, in turn, leads to ineffective communication (or a lack, thereof), resulting in an unsatisfactory experience in bed. Moreover, social media, films, the internet, and pornography, have set unrealistic standards of fitness, and sexual prowess. Thus, it is hardly a surprise that men constantly find themselves wondering if they are good enough in bed. The key here is to relax, and shut out the noise.

In fact, I believe that being able to relax during sex is a skill that many men are unable to master. Not only do most men not even know that it’s a skill, it also takes practice in order to know how to ‘quiet the noise’ so they can stay present, and enjoy the pleasure of the moment. Doing so is the first step to gaining that confidence you need. And if you have the confidence, no woman can ever resist you. And since we’re on this topic, for more information on how to become irresistible to women, check out this program by my friend Sebastian Harris, called Rise of the Phoenix. His method is top notch and will definitely help you. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

Accept yourself

Fortunately, for some men, perfect erections propagated by pornography have impacted their self-worth. Sure, pornography is a necessary evil. What is not, however, is letting those perfect erections and unrealistic sex scenes determine what you should and should not do. I’ve realized that not every sex act has to be perfect, and your penis doesn’t have to look or move a certain way because that’s what you say in a porn flick. Accept yourself the way you are.

The ‘I’ in confidence

Accepting yourself is a great first step on the road to confidence. But that begs the next question: where does the road lead? The answer is pretty straightforward—it leads to you! First, having a positive and confident state of mind leads you to being open to constructive criticism—giving and receiving. When it comes to sex, you can’t go wrong with open communication. When you understand your sexual needs, and have the confidence to voice them, you automatically control the narrative and the outcome—in this case, your pleasure and that of your partner. While there is still less pressure on men when it comes to pleasure and the big O, it’s also important for you to understand your partner’s body, find out what works, and be bold enough to communicate it.

Make the first move

Being able to ask for what you want in bed also means being able to initiate sex with your partner at all times, without the fear of being rejected. Besides, some dirty talk and healthy flirting throughout the day, makes for an intense romp in the sack when you get home. Any woman loves it when her man comes on to her. This shows her you are confident, expressive, and know what you want. Taking control is one of the sexiest things about a man. Coming out of your shell is an exercise in trust and bonding that can be good for your relationship. Having more transparency in your sexual relationship and taking risks will keep your relationship healthy, strong, and exciting. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or indulging in a casual fling, by being confident and open about your desires, you’re taking control of your sex life. But no matter what you choose to do, be sure of yourself because there’s plenty of fun to be had.

Hot embraces,

Fidan Paula

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There are more signs than one which convey that a casual fling has taken a serious turn.

A while back, a friend found her soul mate on a dating site. The couple, now happily married, has moved to London. However, she admits, she wasn’t looking for a serious relationship. How did that happen? If you are casually dating, look for these signs that indicate if your fling is taking a turn into the serious zone.

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SHE’S INTO YOU

It may have started out as a fling, but gradually, if she has begun to take a keen interest in your life, it’s an indication that she is perhaps looking for something more. When casual partners start divulging important and personal details to each other, they establish trust, and a high level of openness and clarity. This is a sign that they are leaning towards the relationship zone.

SEXTS TO TEXTS

Usually, when two people are looking at a casual relationship, their messages are limited, and of a certain kind. If the frequency of texts goes up, and their nature changes, it is evident that she is trying to get to know you as a person. When a couple grows close, the communication is fluid, and there’s an openness about what they are seeking from each other and the sex is naturally great. However, there are times in relationships, especially casual ones, when sex is good, but there isn’t compatibility. While seeking a serious relationship, people tend to consider other things as well as the sex, which is usually not the case with a fling that begins on just casual sex and graduates towards something more serious. Such relationships tend to face a lot more turmoil than others.

MEETUPS AREN’T ALWAYS HOOK-UPS

Eager to meet her for a thoughtful conversation? Or, catch a movie together? You could be heading towards the relationship zone. Couples who meet only for casual sex or relationships have made up their minds about what they do and do not want from their arrangement. However, when they begin to realize that purely having sex isn’t enough for them, and want more, it is then that the internal switch happens. When people progress from casual hook-ups towards a long-term relationship, it is more of a personal expectation. It’s not possible to hook-up with deep involvement. When people are a constant fixture in each other’s lives, we call it strings attached. A one-sided relationship is toxic and dangerous.

SEX GETS COSY

Agree or not, having sex without emotional comfort isn’t a welcoming thought for many. Casual dating challenges this notion. When you break free from the mould, and turn yourself in for a real relationship, you’d notice a sudden comfort envelop your sexual space. When you’re just hooking-up, the sex will inevitably start to become monotonous. But when it gets serious, everything in the relationship changes. Sex becomes organic and better, and you feel more connected. There’s more that you can talk and share, and you connect on an emotional level as well. You are interested in each other more than before. When you start spending time with somebody, who you’ve been meeting only for sex, you naturally get closer to them and even become vulnerable. When casual partners divulge personal details, there is a level of trust, and a high level of openness and clarity that can’t be experienced in a casual dating scenario.

What if one of the partners wants to take the fling to the next level, while the other one isn’t ready?

Couples try to sail through this Bermuda triangle of relationships, but not many emerge victorious. I advise people to discuss the issue at length before getting involved, even if it is a fling. Discuss with her about your decision to be casually involved. Tell your partner if you’re not ready for emotional strings. Ask her and tell her about any short term or long term relationship goals you have in mind. Actions truly speak louder than words; make your gestures clear, and don’t lead your partner on.

There are a number of reasons that can make one partner get emotionally attached to the other like similarities in personality traits and attitudes; physical and emotional arousal; social influences; to name a few. Make it a point to steer away from these if you know exactly what you are looking for in the equation.

It is natural for one partner to be more inclined to a serious commitment than the other. However, it is imperative that both are on the same page if heartbreaks are to be avoided. In several relationships, one partner falls for the other, and it can be tough. Hence, it is important to ensure that your emotional journey, in any relationship, graduates simultaneously. Being on the same page is important.

Hot embraces,

Fidan Paula

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Men shouldn’t be nervous about approaching women, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take steps to make the ladies feel more comfortable approaching you. It’s called peacocking. Women have been peacocking since the dawn of civilization: We put on heels and little dresses and generally try to make ourselves as shiny as possible to draw attention. For men, the goal of peacocking is to stand out by looking as interesting as possible.

I called a summit of women to help me assemble a guide to approach-ability. These are our findings. And for more information on the secret to making women chase you, check out my friend Mike Wright’s program on the matter, Elixir of Eros. After following his technique, you’ll be thrice as likely to be hit on and sleep with the lady that same night. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

STEP 1: Dress Down—But Not Casual

I’d argue that dressing for comfort and dressing for women are the same thing. So would my friends. “I’d also probably feel more confident walking up to a guy who’s dressed more casually. Fancy business men can be intimidating, and I feel like we wouldn’t have anything in common,” said Kaila. “I’ve also used an interesting piece of clothing as a means of hitting on guys. It’s an easy conversation starter.” Break out those novelty tees, gentlemen. Shannon suggested that men’s clothes should be “comfortable but also fresh”. What does that mean? You need to dress down, but upscale down: Wear white sneakers, but make sure the sneaks are very clean; and if you generally wear jeans, with a T-shirt or sweater, but everything should fit well and be in good condition—no wrinkles, stains, or holes. Your clothes should be unintimidating, but not frumpy.

STEP 2: Bring a Buddy…

Having a friend or two around also helps. (Although, Shannon pointed out, a man who is “comfortably alone,” reading or somehow occupying himself, is very approachable.) “If a guy is around a bunch of guys, it’s a good sign that he has friends and isn’t just prowling around a bar like a weirdo,” said Sophia, adding that she’ll usually wait for a guy to separate from the herd—by taking a solo trip to the bar, for example—before she approaches. “I’m not going to talk to four guys when I just want to talk to one.” The smaller your group, the more approachable you’ll be. “If it’s just him and a buddy, I’d probably be more likely to chat him up than if he’s in a large group of guys,” Eliza agreed, “especially if there are women in the group.”

STEP 3: …But Not a Lady Buddy

Rolling with female friends definitely makes other men jealous, but it also makes women less likely to approach you: We have no way of knowing whether that beautiful woman to your left is your friend or your girlfriend, and we’re not going to risk her wrath by shooting our shot.

STEP 4: Don’t Brood

Women like the brooding bad boy on screen (call me, MarlonBrando circa 1951), but nobody wants to talk to the brooding bad boy in a bar. Almost every woman polled in my grand summit of babes said she would not approach a man unless he was smiling a lot and having a good time—unless, in other words, he looked friendly and easily charmed. “I’m not approaching a guy who isn’t smiling. It just feels too dangerous to talk to a man who is serious, quiet, and trying to be cool,” Sophia said.

STEP 5: Remain Alert …

Use your friends to look less broody, but don’t get totally caught up in their chat. “One thing that has kept me from approaching a man is the feeling that I will be interrupting a conversation, or his enjoyment of whatever game he’s watching on the bar TV,” said Ashley. “When I’ve approached men, it’s usually when but not engrossed in it, or when they’re watching something but also frequently checking in with what’s happening elsewhere in the room.” Women are very skilled at half participating: we’re capable of having many long, wonderful conversations in which we all half-assedly throw in contributions every couple seconds while scoping the room.

STEP 6: …But Chill

While you’re having your half-assed but very enjoyable (smile!) conversation with your small group of wing friends, be sure not to get too loud. In middle school, being loud and boisterous was a great way to signal confidence and get girls’ attention. In adulthood, being loud and boisterous suggests immaturity. It also suggests that you’re drunk. One of the cruel contradictions of flirting is that alcohol, which makes you feel comfortable approaching someone, also makes women less likely to approach you. So order a soda with bitters and sit tight. If you create the right impression, the women will come.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

P.S. Here’s a question: would it really be so bad if men took a sabbatical from making the first move? What’s the worst that could happen? Yes, it’s a radical notion, but it’s one that you will love, because who doesn’t like being chased, right? Check out my friend Mike Wright’s program, Elixir of Eros, and let him guide your way to a world in which you’re the coveted prize women fight for. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.

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