Are you interested in discovering an amazing way to heighten the intimacy in your relationship and making sex even more amazing for both you and your partner? I can only imagine that you answered yes, I mean who doesn’t want to have better and hotter sex?! Introducing sex toys into your relationship is actually a great way to bring you closer to your partner through more explosive sex.

Most people think that bringing sex toys into a relationship might signal that the man isn’t good enough to please his partner, or that their relationship isn’t in a good place, so they need sex toys to make it better. That’s definitely not true. Sex toys shouldn’t be viewed at competition or replacing anyone, but as a way of enhancing the sexual relationship.

A lot of men don’t know where to begin when it comes to sex toys. Where should they buy a sex toy? What kind of toy should they get? What will their partner think if they suggest it? How should they use the toy once they have it?

Don’t worry, I’m here to help answer all of your sex toy questions!

Where should I buy a sex toy?

Just like most things these days, I would suggest buying your sex toys online. Sure, some people prefer to purchase them in person so that they can see exactly what they’re buying up close and personal, but others really appreciate the anonymity of buying online. Do your research and read reviews to make sure you’re getting a quality product.

What kind of toy should I get?

The best sex toy for you and your partner is going to be a very personal and individual thing. I would suggest reading the rest of this article to get a few ideas and then doing some online research with your partner. Her input is important here since you will be using the toy together! Once you find a toy you like, look around at various websites and read reviews to make sure others who have bought the toy have been satisfied with it.

What will my partner think if I suggest it?

You’ll never know until you ask! I’ll tell you what, you can blame it on me if you’d like. Tell your partner that you just read an article about how getting a sex toy can spice things up and bring you closer and ask her if she would be interested in trying it. I can’t guarantee you that she will say yes, but there is only one way to find out. Ask!

How should I use the toy once I have it?

The answer to this question depends a bit on what kind of toy you get, but there a few important things to keep in mind. 1) This is exploration. Be creative, try new things, see what happens. 2) Communication is absolutely key. Make sure your partner tells you what she likes and doesn’t like. In turn, tell her what you like. Give each other direction. 3) Have fun with it and don’t take yourselves too seriously. Sex should be fun!

Most people think that sex toys can only be used on women, but that’s not true. Explore using the sex toys on both of you and see what kind of exciting result you get. The sex toy I would suggest starting out with is a vibrator, but don’t just stop there. Keep the exploration going into other kinds of sex toys too.

Vibrators – These are one of the most popular kinds of sex toys, and for a good reason – they’re amazing! They come in all shapes and sizes. I suggest getting one that has various different speed and intensity settings. Some people will like a very mild vibration, while others might want something more intense. Also, you might like a light, low vibration to use on her clitoris, but a stronger vibration to stimulate other areas of your/her body. It’s a good idea to have variation. When first using the vibrator, keep it on the lowest setting and then you can raise the intensity if necessary. Try using it on her/your erogenous zones. If using a vibrator on her clitoris, first use it in the surrounding areas, since the clitoris is extremely sensitive. Then you can slowly make your way close to the clit as she gets more turned on. Also try using it on her/your nipples and on your perineum. A great vibrator to try is one that has both a his and hers option, like the Zini Deux.

Have fun, sexy!
Fidan Paula

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One thing that can really add some new energy into a couple’s sexual relationship is experimenting with sex toys. Sex toys can be fun and exciting, not only because it’s something new and different, but also because it’s a little bit taboo. The taboo aspect of using sex toys can turn a couple on even more because they feel like they are being just a little bit naughty. However, the taboo nature of sex toys for a couple who isn’t used to using them, can also be the reason why they stay away from them all together. A couple might be too shy or embarrassed to go into a shop to buy toys. What if someone sees me? What will the shopkeeper think? How will I know what to buy?

There can be a lot of concerns that could keep someone away from exploring this exciting and sexy world. But I’m here to tell you… to BEG you, not to let that happen. Listen, you don’t need to take any big risks in order to start experimenting with sex toys. In fact, you’d be surprised to know that there are plenty of household items that can be used as sex toys! So without further ado, here are some of the best homemade sex toys out there:

1. Back Massager

This is a classic homemade sex toy. It’s marketed as a handheld back massager, but I would put money on the fact that a lot of people use it in other ways. What you want to look for is something that comes with a few different vibration settings. Remember that the clitoris is VERY sensitive, so having a massager that offers a low vibration setting would be very useful. Most women don’t like a really powerful vibration down there. Also, think about getting something that isn’t too big and will be comfortable to use. No one will think twice when they see you buying a back massager, but you’ll know what you’re really going to do with it!

2. Washing Machine and Dryer

You may have seen this one in the movies. The washing machine and/or dryer can be an AWESOME sex toy. The vibrations feel amazing when a woman sits on top of it. You can have her sit up there while you’re having sex or while you go down on her. Not only will she get amazing vibrations in her ass and genitals, but you will both be extra turned on by having naughty sex in the laundry room! Win – win!

3. Check Your Fridge

It’s true that certain vegetable and fruit can serve as awesome dildos for your partner. The first tip is to pick something with the right shape. A banana is often referred to for it’s shape, but if it’s too soft or bent, it might not serve the right purpose (but keep in mind that if it’s bent at just the right angle, it could be a great G spot massager). Think carrots (not pointy at the end), cucumber, zucchini, etc. Then you should ALWAYS use a condom to cover it up before using it. This will make sure your partner doesn’t get any kind of infection from your play. Also, remember to use lube as well! Use the dildo to penetrate her while you go down on her.

4. Vibrating Razor

Not long ago, Gillette came out with a vibrating razor and my first thought was, THAT’S A SEX TOY IN DISGUISE! I mean really, who need a RAZOR that vibrates? Personally, I think this was genius marketing. A woman could buy a razor that doubles as a sex toy and no one would ever think twice about it! The razor has a nice, gentle vibration and it’s small enough that it can be easily incorporated when you’re having sex with your partner. One important tip: be sure to take the razor part off before using it, JUST in case!

5. Electric toothbrush

This has the same idea as the vibrating razor. It’s small, it’s gentle, it’s amazing. Use the side that doesn’t have bristles and I would also suggest putting some plastic wrap over the head of the toothbrush for protection.

If you like using these homemade sex toys, you might be ready to start exploring some of the toys you can buy on the internet. Remember, most companies will send them to you in an unmarked box and you can shop from the privacy of your own home!

Happy vibrations,
Fidan Paula

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Recent studies have found that more and more couples are willing to try out these buzzy toys in new and exciting ways that bring pleasure for both partners. Old-school thinking was that guys ran for the nearest exit whenever a woman pulled out a vibrator during sex – the theory being that it freaked you out to have another “package” in the room. Thankfully, that’s not really accurate anymore. And if you’re one of those dudes that are open to the awesome sensations a vibe can bring, I’m spilling here the best tips for using one with your partner.

Buzz it on yourselves before you strip down

Lay in bed, turn the vibrator on, and rub it all over your bodies BEFORE you take all your clothes off. Start at your knees, run up your inner thighs and circle it around her lady parts and the bulge in your pants. This way you’ll both get comfortable with the feeling. If you’re still hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start off even slower, by using a vibrating ring – a silicone toy you can slip around your penis and which has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of your penis, and if you are on top, it will hit your partner’s clitoris as you thrust.

Start on a slow setting

Use only the tip to circle her nipples and then give it to her so that she can do the same with yours. As you circle, turn up the speed gradually. Alternate between the vibrator and sucking her nipple (she should do the same to you). The back and forth and the heat of your mouths and lips will definitely feel amazing.

Turn it up full throttle

You can use it also on the shaft of your penis – it isn’t so sensitive, so you can handle it without problems. This is actually a great move, especially if you move it up one side of your package and down the other. This way, you are stimulating your entire penis, which makes you extra-hard and able to last for longer. You can also wrap it in your partner panties to lessen the sensation and hold it against your boys while she fondles your shaft. Your testicles can’t take very much stimulation, so the muffled shaking is right.

During oral

This is perhaps my favorite move of all. Your partner should hold the side of the vibrator against her cheek as she takes you in and out. Her wet, quivering mouth will feel unexpected and arousing for you. But don’t forget to return the favor in the same hot way. When you’re busy licking and sucking on her clitoris, use the vibe on her nipples and then on her labia. Another expert trick: while you’re using your tongue to pleasure her, put the vibrator inside her angled slightly toward her belly button – that way, you will hit her G-spot (that spongy, dime-sized area about 2 inches inside a woman that is pleasure-packed with nerves). The combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm!

Take total control of the toy

And use it on her during penetration. Here’s a position that opens her up for you: Lie on your back and have her get on top (reverse cowgirl). She should also lie so that her back is against your chest. The entire front of her body is thus revealed, and you can reach around and trail the vibrator from her breasts to her clitoris.

Your perineum

This small patch of skin between your balls and anus is super sensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped vibrator (putting anything bigger near your booty might freak you out), and whip it up while she is on top. As she rides you, give it to her and ask her to reach behind and hold it against that particular area.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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One thing that can really add some new energy into a couple’s sexual relationship is experimenting with sex toys. Sex toys can be fun and exciting, not only because it’s something new and different, but also because it’s a little bit taboo. The taboo aspect of using sex toys can turn a couple on even more because they feel like they are being just a little bit naughty. However, the taboo nature of sex toys for a couple who isn’t used to using them, can also be the reason why they stay away from them all together. A couple might be too shy or embarrassed to go into a shop to buy toys. What if someone sees me? What will the shopkeeper think? How will I know what to buy?

There can be a lot of concerns that could keep someone away from exploring this exciting and sexy world. But I’m here to tell you… to BEG you, not to let that happen. Listen, you don’t need to take any big risks in order to start experimenting with sex toys. In fact, you’d be surprised to know that there are plenty of household items that can be used as sex toys! So without further ado, here are some of the best homemade sex toys out there:

1. Back Massager

This is a classic homemade sex toy. It’s marketed as a handheld back massager, but I would put money on the fact that a lot of people use it in other ways. What you want to look for is something that comes with a few different vibration settings. Remember that the clitoris is VERY sensitive, so having a massager that offers a low vibration setting would be very useful. Most women don’t like a really powerful vibration down there. Also, think about getting something that isn’t too big and will be comfortable to use. No one will think twice when they see you buying a back massager, but you’ll know what you’re really going to do with it!

2. Washing Machine and Dryer

You may have seen this one in the movies. The washing machine and/or dryer can be an AWESOME sex toy. The vibrations feel amazing when a woman sits on top of it. You can have her sit up there while you’re having sex or while you go down on her. Not only will she get amazing vibrations in her ass and genitals, but you will both be extra turned on by having naughty sex in the laundry room! Win – win!

3. Check Your Fridge

It’s true that certain vegetable and fruit can serve as awesome dildos for your partner. The first tip is to pick something with the right shape. A banana is often referred to for it’s shape, but if it’s too soft or bent, it might not serve the right purpose (but keep in mind that if it’s bent at just the right angle, it could be a great G spot massager). Think carrots (not pointy at the end), cucumber, zucchini, etc. Then you should ALWAYS use a condom to cover it up before using it. This will make sure your partner doesn’t get any kind of infection from your play. Also, remember to use lube as well! Use the dildo to penetrate her while you go down on her.

4. Vibrating Razor

Not long ago, Gillette came out with a vibrating razor and my first thought was, THAT’S A SEX TOY IN DISGUISE! I mean really, who need a RAZOR that vibrates? Personally, I think this was genius marketing. A woman could buy a razor that doubles as a sex toy and no one would ever think twice about it! The razor has a nice, gentle vibration and it’s small enough that it can be easily incorporated when you’re having sex with your partner. One important tip: be sure to take the razor part off before using it, JUST in case!

5. Electric toothbrush

This has the same idea as the vibrating razor. It’s small, it’s gentle, it’s amazing. Use the side that doesn’t have bristles and I would also suggest putting some plastic wrap over the head of the toothbrush for protection.

If you like using these homemade sex toys, you might be ready to start exploring some of the toys you can buy on the internet. Remember, most companies will send them to you in an unmarked box and you can shop from the privacy of your own home!

Happy vibrations,
Fidan Paula

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As a kid, you probably always made sure your toys had fresh batteries. Now that you’re grown, your sex toys deserve the same TLC, particularly when it comes to keeping them clean.

Regularly cleaning your sex toys will keep the material and motors in shape, so that they last longer. Not to mention, your sex toys navigate sensitive terrain. While there’s nothing “dirty” about genitals, bacteria can build up on your toys and spread, so it’s important to clean them regularly.

You really should be washing your sex toys after every single use, and possibly before, too. When you buy a sex toy, there should be cleaning instructions somewhere on it. But if you’ve tossed the packaging, or just don’t remember, ahead are some tips. Whether you’re using a vibrator, dildo, strap-on, leather handcuffs, or anything else, here’s how you should clean your sex toys.

Wash before storing

After you use a sex toy, you should always clean it before you store it. You don’t want body fluids drying on it, and then sitting in a drawer. And depending where you store your toys, you might want to also rinse them off before you use them. If your vibrator or dildo is left out or in contact with other objects, it can collect lint, pet hair, or dust, and will benefit from a quick wash before use.

Avoid perfumes

While you might be tempted to use your scented hand soap to make your sex toys smell nice, just don’t. It’s best to avoid using perfumed soaps, because they can leave a residue on the toy that can irritate your genitals when you use it again. You should also avoid using anti-bacterial soaps for the same reason, and just stick to something mild. The way that you clean your sex toy often depends on the material that it’s made out of. Non-porous materials, like silicone, hard plastic, elastomer, metal, or glass, are generally easier to clean. For those, you can wash with a mild, non-irritating soap and water, and don’t have to do any special disinfecting.

Don’t dunk

When you’re washing, be careful about submerging your toys completely in water — unless of course they’re waterproof. Waterproof toys can be dropped in a sink of soapy water, but that will damage the motor of others. If your toy isn’t waterproof, you should hold it under the faucet or just use a cloth to wipe it down.

Avoid the dishwasher

It’s best not to throw a toy in the dishwasher, unless you know it’s dishwasher-safe. Technically, pyrex toys could probably go on the top rack of a dishwasher and be fine, but other glass toys shouldn’t be exposed to high temperatures. And anything with a motor, like a vibrator, should only be hand-washed.

Try a special spray

Buying a special spray for your toys might seem like overkill, but it can be really handy to have. There are products that can be sprayed on and rinsed off and that can be safely used on latex, rubber, and silicone. Sprays are convenient to have if you need discretion, are traveling, or don’t like to get out of bed for a while after sex.

Consider a condom

Toys made from porous materials (like jelly rubber) can trap bacteria. That means that the toys can’t be completely disinfected, so I recommend using a condom over your toy for an added layer of protection. Also, jelly rubber is a somewhat outdated material that you should avoid, because it can contain potentially harmful materials, like phthalates.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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When it comes to buying a sex toy to use with your partner, it all depends on who you are in bed – the both of you. Fortunately, I’m here to do a personality match so that you can pick the one that best suits your needs and those of your partner.

Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, sex toys are one of the best ways to rev up your sex life. Sex is meant to be playful. You don’t want to end up as that couple who finds it a chore. Sex toys are the best accessories to get hold of when you want to spice things up and find more reasons to look forward to sex with your partner. The online market is flooded with pleasure-enhancers; so should you start with something small and basic or buy the biggest, splashiest device known to man? I have an idea: match the toy to the player.

Just like everyone has a TV show, artist or ice cream flavor that’s totally suited to them, there’s no one-size-fits-all sex toy. Everyone has different needs and preferences. And while there’s any number of ways to choose the perfect sex toy for your partner – her personality (at least her bedroom personality) can help you narrow down the best one for her and you.

For more saucy ideas on how to best incorporate toys in the bedroom, check out my program, Toys for Tits. Yes, you read that correctly! What, you didn’t know that women can orgasm from having their nipples stimulated with the right toys? Yes, it’s true! Nipple-gasms are a real thing, which is awesome for you, nipple lover!

She’s curious but shy

The bathtub is a great place for sex, and while shower jets have long been known for certain unofficial uses, many find them too harsh. Try a submersible, hand-held, personal pleasure jet that combines the relaxing powers of water and air to let thousands of tiny bubbles stimulate and pleasure your partner, and yourself, gently.

She’s attracted to both simple and kinky pleasures

This one’s for those who believe that pain and pleasure make the best bedfellows. In this particular case, a Nipple Suction Set won’t disappoint. Put them on and twist the screws to create suction that is sensational, to say the least. Soon to be your partner’s BFFs during foreplay, these can be used on your partner’s nipples and other sensitive spots such as her neck too.

She’s skilled but underserved

For those who like things wild, a powerful massager is perfect! These can take many forms, but I recommend you pick a devilishly intense mini vibrator with special and flexible ‘horns’ that are able to send intense vibrations to all your partner’s pleasure spots for a highly precise orgasmic experience. Go get one, now!

She’s satisfied but seeking more

The new mantra to follow in bed is: rotate and vibrate! I’m a particularly big fan of remote-controlled pleasure beads that rotate and vibrate at the same time to deliver sensations to your partner’s clitoris. The more adjustable stimulation patterns, the better. Variety is very, very welcome when it comes to sex toys.

She’s quiet but powerful

Do all things dark and mysterious turn your partner on? A vibrating panty that comes with a bullet hidden inside will get her hot and bothered in an instant. Doesn’t this remind you of one Mr Grey? It’s discrete and sexy, just like your lady.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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