I couldn’t cover the broad subject of tantric sex in just one article, so here’s the second part of my tantric sensual journey so that you truly get close to your partner this holiday season. Check all these tips out and try them when mood hits.

Utilize all senses during kissing.

Kissing in tantric sex isn’t just about the act itself — it’s important to engage all of your senses.

Sight: As you are able, look at your partner’s lips, their face, their eyes. What do they look like to you? What about them makes you smile and feel loving? Keep your eyes open while kissing, at least in the beginning.

Smell: I recommend focusing on your partner’s pheromones, rather than artificial smells like perfume. The way your partner’s breath smells is just as important as the way their body and hair smells. If you really let the pheromones do their job and the chemistry between you two work, the smell of their breath will titillate you!

Taste: Since your senses of taste and smell are connected, try playing with different flavours to enhance your erotic experience. You can both share delicious palette cleansers, like strawberries, blueberries, chocolate, mint, or even chew fennel seeds to spice it up a bit.

Touch: The lips aren’t the only erogenous zone on the face. I encourages exploring your partner’s lips, cheek bones, eyelids, and eyebrows with your hands, lips, tongue, and even your eyelashes. Touching the jaw, lips, or chin while you’re tongue-kissing can also be a huge turn on. This can be done softly, firmly, or some also like this done roughly while kissing.

Sound: We know it’s important to be vocal during sex, but that extends to kissing, too. Listen to the feedback your partner gives you when you kiss them (and make sure to give feedback of your own). Focusing on the sensual sounds you make while kissing can propel you to another level of arousal entirely.

Explore kink.

By exploring kink and BDSM, you can channel an open-mindedness that allows for the connections tantra is all about. When you’re putting yourself in a vulnerable position, you’re putting yourself in a position to be cracked open, which is such a huge part of tantra. Whether that means you’re blindfolded and waiting for a whip to make contact with your bum, or you’re simply sharing your secret fetishes, you can really tap into tantric sex principles, including making eye contact and being aware of your breath. Once you learn how to make yourself vulnerable to your partner, that’s where transformation happens.

Talk during sex.

When it comes to kissing, touching, and sex, it’s all about the connection — and one of the best ways to foster this connection is to talk to your partner while you’re doing all of these things.

Rather than simply guessing that a moan during oral sex means your partner enjoys that technique, or being worried that silence means they’re bored, step up your tantric sex game and actually talk about what you enjoy while you’re enjoying it. Moaning is great, but try to use your words to verbalise exactly what you like about your partner’s technique and what’s happening in the moment. When you discuss your pleasure with your partner and give her praise and appreciation, number one it makes them want to do it more, number two it builds intimacy and trust.

Synchronize your breathing.

Stop what you’re doing and take 10 deep, long breaths. Feel better? I thought so. I recommend taking 10 deep breaths before initiating touch with your partner to ground yourself. Once things start to get sexy, you can take your tantric breathing exercises a step further by synchronizing your breaths with your partner. These breathing practices are best done when facing your partner, so try a face-to-face sex position like Lotus, and then look into each other’s eyes and follow each other’s breaths until they match. When you harmonize your breath, this allows for this juicy energetic connection to occur, specifically if you’re sitting genital to genital.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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No doubt about it: Fast, hot, rip-your-clothes-off sex can add plenty of excitement to a relationship. But when it comes to overall coupled-up bliss, slow, sweet, sensual nights in bed have the biggest impact. These sexperiences capitalize on the power of bonding hormones to make you both feel more physically and emotionally intertwined. So try the following 15 (scientifically proven!) moves to max out on lovey-dovey feelings.

Try a Tender Touch

GENTLE STROKES…

Often when we’re having sex, it’s passionate grasping, which is delightful, but switching up the intensity of our touch can create new sensations that enhance the romantic bond. During intercourse, try caressing your mate softly, running your hands and fingertips over their skin to stimulate nerve cells that respond to light touch.

…IN SURPRISING SPOTS

Roaming over unexpected areas of each other’s bodies – your faces, jawlines, collarbones, inner thighs or legs – signals that you’re enjoying every inch of one another, not just the sex. Use your hand as a magic wand of exploration. If it wants to go somewhere it typically wouldn’t, go there anyway.

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Have a Tantric Kiss

During positions in which you’re face-to-face, bring your lips in super-close so that you’re almost (but not quite) kissing, then inhale when your partner exhales. The sensation that you’re almost breathing for each other is extremely potent and quite erotic.

Use Your Words

Speaking up as the action intensifies can boost the happy chemicals serotonin and dopamine in your brain. Here are three intimate AF ways to express yourself.

WHISPER SWEET THINGS

Murmuring to bae prompts an automatic bodily response that can feel like arousing tingling down their neck. Use the word you (as in, ‘You turn me on so much’) to let your SO know you’re zoned in on them. Bonus: research suggests they’re likely to follow your steamy instructions if you whisper in their right ear.

DRAW OUT THE DETAILS

As you’re making love, go out of your way to express your reaction audibly to every good touch and sight. It doesn’t even have to be a sexual reference; try flattering phrases like ‘I love the way your skin feels’ or ‘I like how you curve right here’. When you let your partner know what you see as special about them, it builds your bond.

MAKE MOANS MEANINGFUL

People love hearing their own names. It lets us know that we matter, which may seem silly, but the subconscious thrives on recognition. Moan your lover’s name whenever the sex feels amaze. Or as you’re about to orgasm, call out their name (‘Oh, yes, X…’) to experience a powerful emotional connection as you climax.

Keep Your Eyes Up

As you’re going down on your partner, look into their eyes with a sexy, steady gaze. Eye contact with a lusty grin can communicate volumes in one look.

Be Open to Receiving

All too often, people – and especially men – enter sex with the expectation that they need to be the giver throughout the session. But allowing yourself to receive pleasure can help you feel more love and attention from your partner. By being vulnerable and letting go of what you think you should be doing, you can accept the full breadth of what your partner is offering you.

3 positions for making sweet love

The Sugar Spoon

As the big spoon, hook your partner’s upper leg back over you. Rub her clitoris with one hand.

WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. Maximum body contact signals ‘You. More, please.’

The Couch Rocker

Sit on the edge of a couch, then have your partner sit on your lap and rock gently while holding you tight.

WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. It’s basically a hug with orgasm potential. And it’s easy to make out face-to-face.

The Figure 8

While your partner lies on her back with her knees raised and bent, and a pillow under her butt, you can grind against her in slow circles.

WHY IT’S ROMANTIC. The friction gives you both time to build up to an intense climax.

Hot kisses,

Fidan Paula

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When the word “tantra” comes up in conversation, we are often moved to illusions of complex and complicated rituals with candles burning and incense alight, chanting and new-age music, deep breathing and strange words to address some sacred self and divine lover.

While all of these things can be incorporated into tantric sex, none of them are absolutely necessary. The most vital aspect to any couple’s tantric practice is the daily ritual, those habits and routines that allow us to go about our mundane lives with a sense of devotion and love that brings us back to the sacredness which is our relationship.

Your relationship with your lover is about more than just the bond between you; it is a reflection of your life as a whole. Your lover shows you a mirror of yourself, and you do the same for her. Giving each other this space to truly look into your own hearts and find what really matters not only brings you the individual happiness that comes from living a fulfilling and worthwhile life, but the bliss and ecstasy that can come from sharing this happiness with someone whom you love.

In most traditional cultures, getting a few moments to spend with your lover wasn’t nearly the ordeal we make it out to be today. Even if you spend twelve hours every day toiling away at a mind-numbing job, you can use daily tantric practices to bring you closer to your partner… and with time it may just bring you close enough to your own true heart that you suddenly find yourself doing exactly what you love instead!

Morning: Wake Up and Focus

Stretch and set an intention for the day. The morning is about getting up, awaking the body and getting together on the same page about the hours ahead. Watch the sunrise and greet the day. If you don’t wake up together, it is important to find a way to connect. You can try leaving notes for each other to check in at the next point in the day. If you can, try to spend some time actually looking each other in the eyes as you decide on the day’s intent. If not, the next best thing will do – webcams, telephones, even texting works if you must. Come up with a basic plan to achieve the day’s intention, and then head out into the world to do it!

Noon

At noon, you may still be a part for the day, but if you can stop to share a moment together before eating lunch, do it. Even an email will do. If you absolutely must, simply take some time alone in quietude around the noontime hour to remind yourself of the day’s intention and look forward to seeing your lover in the evening. Check in to see how you have progressed on the day’s intent. If you haven’t started one yet, expand your at-home action plan into a full-blown to-do list. Get it done!

Evening

When evening comes, it’s time to reunite after a long day apart. Watch the sunset and allow the day to fade away. This is a time to relax together, before turning on the TV or checking your email, before eating dinner or going out with the boys. Take a few moments with your lover to reconnect, look into each other’s eyes, breathe together, and talk about the day’s intention and how it has progressed so far. What things can you do together in the evening to bring the day’s full potential to fruition? Do them!

Night

As you head into the dark of night and prepare for bed, it is time to come together fully again for another slumber curled up together. Do you have evening prayers that you share? Do you tell your lover how much she means to you, how beautiful she is, how much you love her? Do you kiss and cuddle? I like to recount the very best part of my day, and if anything particularly difficult or challenging happened, the most troubling part of my day as well. I share comfort with my husband and let go of all the day’s stress, so we can enjoy our time together in bed, until morning comes and it’s time to set our intentions on another day ahead!

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